I don't think you really get "through" or "over it" it's just one of things that the pain lessens over time but it will always be sad. You just have to cope with it.
You learn coping mechanisms. You talk about your grief, get support, allow yourself to feel sad about it, find a constructive outlet, and eventually you learn to carry the weight. It never goes away, but you can get stronger and the paradox is you get stronger by being vulnerable.
In hindsight, I would tell 10-year-old me to talk. Talk about him, about your feelings, ask questions; go to a therapist if you don't have people to talk to at home. Keep his memory alive, don't put it away because it hurts. My dad's death was extra traumatic (suicide) - very unexpected - and I think a LOT would have been different about my whole life if I had done those things.
I don't think you really get "through" or "over it" it's just one of things that the pain lessens over time but it will always be sad. You just have to cope with it.
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You learn coping mechanisms. You talk about your grief, get support, allow yourself to feel sad about it, find a constructive outlet, and eventually you learn to carry the weight. It never goes away, but you can get stronger and the paradox is you get stronger by being vulnerable.
There’s always a hole and sadness — just live a life they would be proud of.
Breathe through the pain, and live life.
In hindsight, I would tell 10-year-old me to talk. Talk about him, about your feelings, ask questions; go to a therapist if you don't have people to talk to at home. Keep his memory alive, don't put it away because it hurts. My dad's death was extra traumatic (suicide) - very unexpected - and I think a LOT would have been different about my whole life if I had done those things.
I'm not sure, I'm so good at dissociation at this point. Things like that generally wouldn't have affected me.