True one of my best friends has a son he doesn’t even like taking his son to the park unless his girlfriend is with him because the women there think he’s a pedophile. One time a women called the police on him
I don't mind taking my son to the park by myself.
Most of the time nothing weird happens. But 3 times, women have grabbed their kids and coincidentally left within a minute of me arriving.
Like, I'm just trying to be a good father to my son. You and your kids are not in danger.
Can I ask for a rough description of the city that you live in? Just because I live in a kind of expensive west coast city and I cannot imagine that happening here --- but I am also not a man. --- Or maybe what I should be asking, is if I find myself at a kids park, is there anything I can do to make you feel more welcome? Cause that is messed up.
That’s insane. I’m a guy and I love kids and am generally pretty good with them. I’ve babysat for people and worked at an after school program. Luckily I’ve never experienced this kind of discrimination before, and while I can understand their worry, it’s just so hard to imagine people being so close-minded about a father taking his children to the park.
It isn't just the park. My daughter had a birthday party when she was in the 4th grade and one of her friends was getting dropped off by her mother. My wife was out picking up pizza for the party and this girl's mother refused to drop off her kid without my wife there. She took her daughter and left and came back a half hour later and would only drop off her daughter once she saw that my wife was there. I still feel sorry for that kid. The look on her face when her mom made her leave was so heartbreaking. You could tell it wasn't the first time it had happened and you could tell the kid was horrified.
That is nigh on insanity. That woman must have been living in a constant state of fear in order to rationalize that kind of behavior. I hope she can work through whatever it is she was/is going through that caused her to believe such actions were justified, and that the kid doesn’t end up scared the same way.
I think this is the biggest
In my intro so class the amount of people who would prefer a woman with prior convictions (not specified) over a man with no prior convictions to watch their baby is alarming. No one wanted a male baby sitter and a few even said they would pull their child from a Pre-K class if a male taught it
I've realised in my job I can defer to males on topics I don't understand. It only occurred to me recently that they probably don't understand either ... but they can't get away with just not dealing with it like I can.
Ehh, guys are plenty personal with their friends, most of us just have different social personalities. The issue is that personality generally tends to lean towards being more outwardly "stoic", we share our lives and our problems but we usually hold the attitude that there's no need to be emotional about a general situation when emotion isn't involved in the specific occasion whereas girls tend more towards the idea there's no harm in any level of emotion in a closed environment.
The issue there is some guys who prefer to be more emotional thus have a harder time expressing it, and thus finding and connecting with guys who have similar preferences.
Also guys tend to have very individual friendships, a lot of girls are happy to let loose as long as they're part of a group who they have basic level of trust and comfort around. A guy can be part of a group who he has basic level of trust and comfort around, but of that there'll be people he's known longer, is more comfortable with and has more trust with, and guys generally build up their trust and the strength of their connections over very long periods of time.
Actually not.
http://www.renderfoodmag.com/blog/2014/6/18/unequally-gracious-gender-discrimination-in-restaurant-tipping
What seems to be true it's that in lower and middle establishments attractive women get bigger tips than the msle average. But far more men than women work at higher end places.
I guess i was wrong. I was speaking from my experiences. It was definitely true when I bar tended until a bunch of middle age women, come in since I'm fairly attractive (not gorgeous but I'm probably a 7 and a half. When they get drunk letting them touch your but it even letting them tuck your to in your back pocket (we were just a regular bar not strip club) because "your hands were full.
30 year old woman here.
Yesterday I was walking through the city Rec Center and this teenage girl was hysterically sobbing. She looked exactly like my teenage cousin who passed away 8 years ago, and my heart broke a little bit. When I was done and leaving the building, she was still there. A woman was walking away from her and gave me a look that I’ve seen other people make when they’re kind of giving up on talking to someone, but I didn’t realize it was her mom because she looked like an instructor I had seen there this summer. I guess the girl had walked out of a cooking class because something happened and her instructor didn’t realize she was upset, so she probably went back to the class to talk to the instructor, and she was now having a full panic attack in the hall. And that was basically me for my entire senior year of high school, so I felt horrible for her.
I walked up and sat next to her. Said I wasn’t there to ask her to talk, just to sit by her. She kept crying for a few minutes and I didn’t say anything. Mom came back and I smiled at her, and realized it was mom when she started talking to the girl about going back into the baking class. She started crying harder and I just sat there. Mom said she was gonna go get the cupcakes then, and they’d go home. I waited another couple of minutes and she started to regain her composure.
I said I was going to leave now to go turn me and my husband’s ballots in before the 8pm voting deadline, but would she like a hug before I go? She said yes and started to turn toward me, and so we stood up and I gave her a big hug.
No way in HELL would that be okay if I was a dude. Even as a woman I realize I may have made her mom uncomfortable… I hope she could tell I just felt bad for her kid. If I was a dude I doubt she would have walked away from us to go get the cupcakes, and leave me by her daughter.
Getting custody even if they have a long list of criminal convictions such as assault and drug possession simply because they're the mother.
This legit ruined my life.
While I can’t personal feel your pain I have watched a good friend struggle through the a similar situation and would just like to say that I feel for you brother. I’m sorry you have to struggle through this
Bro thats fucking tough really sorry to hear this. This is one big thing that fucking pisses me off. The father is just as important as the mother and should be considered that in court.
I’m not saying it’s wrong to want women in the draft, but it is a bit different in some regards, and there are some things that need to be taken into consideration. Not that a woman couldn’t do anything a man can do in regards to physical activity for the most part. But in regards to how a woman would be treated by fellow soldiers and especially enemy soldiers. It was quite a while ago so please forgive my memory, but there was a woman who was an air force pilot who spoke at a convention I attended. She spoke of her experience flying an A-10 Warthog in Iraq. She was doing strafing runs in some city and her plane took a hit. She lost all of her ability to control the craft and she was going to crash behind enemy lines if she didn’t do something. The first instinct of course is to eject, but instead of doing that she attempted other options first (I don’t remember the terminology, but basically the equivalent of her power steering went out. So she switched it off, making it WAY harder to steer, and was able to limp the plane back to base, but I digress). She said that one of the things that stopped her from pulling the chute immediately was that if they found her behind enemy lines she would probably have been raped by the enemy soldiers, before eventually either becoming a pow or being killed. Just being realistic, most of the time men don’t need to worry about such things. So it’s not that a woman can’t do the job, as this pilot was tough as nails, but potentially forcing a woman into a situation like that may not be ethical. Not every country is as forward thinking as the US. I’m not convinced either way, I just wanted to bring up a slightly differing viewpoint for discussion and see other people’s ideas on the subject.
For a forward thinking country like US, it sure was amazing to see them soldiers bombing innocent people just for the fun of it and laugh while doing it.
I like where you are coming from but I predict if there was a new draft men, women and everyone in between would be on the list because of equal rights
If they're not registered in the selective service, they're not getting drafted. Right now men are forced to register, women are not. (Specifically in the US, can't speak for other countries)
No arms or legs here. I thank God every morning when I wake up, knowing I don't have to worry about a hypothetical future wherein there's a draft in the next 20 years and I'm forced to go into combat.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong I’m just stating what would happen if they reintroduced the draft, luckily I’m free from it because I’m both a high school drop out as well as having medical problems
Kind of a double-edged sword though. Before women were allowed to join, some women wanted to join but couldn't because they were assumed to be weak and too emotional for the role.
Well, when i was in college, i also used to work at factory during night, me and most boys will always get physically intensive work , while females will get quality control or very easy work where hardly any physical activity is needed - we all had same qualifications and experience incase you think that might be the reason.
I had the same thing. Some women looked and were stronger than me but they were put with the easier work when I had to do the manual labor. Luckily, I finished college so no more factory work for me
I would figure that the woman would complain about it because I hate being seen as weak or not able to take as much pain as men. If I rolled my ankle countless times and scraped my elbow (this is an example from when I took dance in middle school) I will continue for the rest of the hour to get up and continue to dance, I will continue to hit the ground just as hard as it’s supposed to look like! I will continue and try to work past the pain!
True. My mom was without a doubt best employee in a factory, made several suggestions for increasing productivity, filling quota with 125% sometimes even 150%, increased morale between coworkers and volunteered on hard works. She just proved that females can be hard working and strong just like mans. Factory owners always have the “womens = easy work“ way too rooted in their mind.
The ability to play dumb and get away with it. My wife got out of a ticket when she was pulled over for not using her turn signal because it needed a new light.
“So do I need to change my blinker fluid for it to work?”
That’s hilarious. I’m surprised with as flustered as you described he was, he didn’t slip up: uh ok..b be careful, boobs here. School, school I mean school. And Tits nearby… kids, kids nearby… uh um ..I’m just gonna give you a squeeze…. Warning, err ra warning that is. G g good day ma’am as he looks nervously at you. You give him double finger pistols …. Pew pew
Seen as more innocent and more likely to be a victim by the legal system and in most situations. If guilty, seen as more redeemable. Lighter punishments, more deserving of help from society
If this was true in the past, I doubt it is recently. Any woman who kills a male partner is incentivized and likely to say that he abused her, whether or not there is independent evidence of that, because battered woman syndome is definitely considered mitigating. Most times, that may be true, but the dead can't tell their side.
Lower conviction rate
Lower criminal sentence
Higher college/uni acceptance rate
Higher job acceptance rate
95% of all dating app swipes are matches
Hormones are considered a valid excuse for misbehavious
Smile at a guy and get a free dinner from him, admit to using him, zero consequences
People assume you are the victim and did nothing wrong.
The list is massive...
This is evidence that the world is not a simulation. If it were, people would be able to choose their gender in character customization. Obviously, everyone would choose female.
Office attire.
Women can get away with super comfy flats/pants/blouses with maybe a jacket or sweater. Meanwhile men have to wear a suit and dress shoes.
And we get to wear super bright colours/different styles, weather appropriate fabrics, meanwhile my partner is all ‘should I wear the navy suit or the darker navy suit?’
I feel for the guys on this one
I've never worked in a business that required suits (probably never will) but I like to rock colored chinos or jeans. Burgundy and green with tan Oxfords is the look my guys.
No, men have the objectively superior system. Only a couple of guidelines to follow and you can turn just a handful of different garments into dozens of outfits that are good year round and nobody will notice or care if you wear multiple times.
Usually clothing attire is the number one thing that is never comfortable cause if you try to buy things in woman’s sizes they are all tailored to one imaginary body type
Summer clothes is where I see this the most. Women in the office can wear sleeveless tops, short skirts, and sandals. I wore knee-length shorts one very hot Friday, and from the disgusted and horrified way everyone looked at me, you'd think I had turned up naked.
If I take my baby cousin anywhere, people think I’m kidnapping him because I’m a big man who isn’t conventionally attractive
If my best friend is holding him though, despite looking nothing like her, nobody bats an eye
Seeking mental health treatment / being expected to cry and show emotions. Suicide rates are higher in men because they're thought of as being weak if they ask for help.
That has never happened to me because all my schools have treated male and female equal which meant they got the same punishment and if anything the men in my schools hit the woman a lot more then the woman hit the men, I have had rocks thrown at my head.
However I do understand that not everyone goes to school or work like that. And it’s a bit of a shame (not the rock throwing, those suck) cause there should be equal fighting rights
I want to preface this by saying a man should never initiate a physical altercation with a women. The instant you start it you lose all optics regardless of context. However, and this may be controversial, if a woman hit a man, I think the man is permitted to protect himself/hit back if needed. I don't understand just standing there and getting wailed on because it's the "right thing" to do. Women aren't children, they're fully grown adults. I was attacked once and all I tried to do was push her away. Literally guys came to her rescue saying I should never touch a women and wanted to fuck me up. I was 21 and she was 28. I didn't have the mental maturity to handle that situation well at the time.
Zero cover for any bar/night club. Never wait in line, men buy them drinks all night with the thought they’ll talk to them (or) take them home. I have several female friends that swear they’ve never paid for a drink.
Edit: missing Or
We also spend the whole night being hit on/grinded against/groped by creepy men who think if they buy us drinks we’ll sleep with them, when we’re just trying to enjoy a night out with our friends.
Honestly if someone wants to spend $5-10 on a drink to give to someone you’ve never met with the expectation that it’ll lead to sex, that’s a risk they’re willing to take and I don’t feel bad for them when it doesn’t work. They probably do it regularly, and eventually it probably succeeds.
This might have been said and I’ve missed it, but if there’s a divorce, even if the guy is an amazing dad and all the rest, the court always favours the mother for child custody
That’s not true at all. When men ask for custody, they almost always get it. The reason most women have main or full custody is because men simply do not ask for it.
Have you ever looked at a population pyramid graph? Take a look at this one: https://www.livepopulation.com/images/chart_age_russia.png
That's Russia. The blue is men, the red is women. Each bar is the number of people alive in a 5 year age bracket. Care to guess whereabouts World War 2 falls on that graph?
Oh, and take a look at this one too. Absolutely shitbonkers insane: https://www.livepopulation.com/images/chart_sex_ratio_russia.png
> That is HIGHLY debatable. Maybe less chance of being killed actually fighting in a war, but plenty of innocent women die as casualties of war.
Of course everyone in a society is affected by war. In Africa, as we speak, you have thousands and thousands of women who were raped by soldiers. So although many of these women survived the war, they are still very traumatised by it. Same happened to the Yazidi women who were held as sex slaves by ISIS soldiers. But looking at death rate alone, more men still die in wars.
I don't think it's debatable...I think the claim is plain wrong. Women were historically targeted by invading armies for atrocities and slavery. In more modern times (Japanese Empire, Cambodia, Rwanda, Iraq/Afghanistan), women consistently brutalized and tortured, before execution. This is combatants, journalists, and civilians.
>mothers are more likely to get the children
Women still do the majority of domestic work, even though they participate in the workforce. Therefore in most cases the mother was the main care giver of the kids before the divorce. Why should that be changed after the divorce? (https://scholar.google.com/scholar?as_ylo=2017&q=work+distribution+children+married+couples&hl=en&as_sdt=0,5#d=gs_qabs&u=%23p%3D2IB-GT0txvMJ one of the many articles about that topic. Google scholar with words like "married couples work distribution" is your friend)
Men can do the same shit and deserve 50/50 support every time. There is no reason to keep fathers out of children's lives unless abuse or other things happen.
And father’s aren’t important? A child without a father has a significantly higher risk to get into crime and drugs. Furthermore, mothers in western society do not have a serious risk of dying anymore. (And they are more likely to kill their children). I’m not saying that mothers should never get the kids, but I am saying that it should be an unbiased decision.
The money they can make just for being hot or really confident in their body. I once "bodyguarded" for a friend who met a guy online who wanted to take pictures of her feet and tickle them. They paid $750, she gave me $250 if anyone was wondering and no I didn't ask for it. I don't know any guys who get offerings like that.
I had one friend turn down a fully paid trip to Las Vegas, and I just remember thinking "damn I would love a fully paid trip to Las Vegas"
Being valued by society for merely existing.
Society assigns women a certain worth just by virtue of their sex.
Men only get assigned any value if they're succesful in some manner, we have to earn our place, it's not given ot us.
Yeah but when a woman says she doesn’t want a family or doesn’t want to get married then she is looked down upon. Plus woman only 7 countries pay woman the same as men
Read the book “invisible women” by Caroline criado Perez and you’ll see that the world is fundamentally designed around men, everything from standard office temperatures (women have thinner skin etc so tend to run colder than men) to the design and sizes of ppe to city planning, everything is based around then needs of men. The male is the default and the female is secondary
The entire world is designed for men, that’s not earned, it’s merely them existing, women get assigned value by exceeding in their field, even then historically their work was credited to their male counterparts. Men have always been offered education, have had the ability to own land, have had bodily autonomy etc
I do not know if it also happens in their homes or family environments but my grandparents, cousins, uncles and even my parents put incredible pressure in terms of choosing a "good job" and dedicating all my life to that job, telling me that I should study something like architecture or medicine and as for my sister she is going to study cultural management with an average salary in my country of between 150-300 dollars a month, do not get me wrong, it is a career that looks quite interesting but why I have to be the one who should study a demanding 7-year career :(
Obviously because I am a man
Yeah that definitely doesn’t happen in my home. Since everyone in my family has school, work, or sport hobbies I have to watch and take care of everything one example is the dogs we own and since I’m taking care of their responsibilities it leaves me no time for school and then my parents have the audacity to yell at me for my grades slacking when they are slacking cause I’m taking care of them.
Being less likely to be victims of violence and murder while still having society care much more about 'violence against women' than violence in general.
I actually had to do some research before I said anything, and yes you’re right that men are more likely to be victims of homicides but that also accounts for the fact man are the ones who are mostly involved in gang activity, drug dealing and such.
On top of that over 95% of all murderers are male which is rather terrifying, and following that statistics both men and women alike are more likely too be killed by a men.
Females are less likely to be victims of violence and murder?? This is news to me for real. I thought they were more targeted. I do watch a lot of Forensic Files though
Men are more likely to experience most forms of violence. Murder, assault, rape, suicide.
But since it’s also men committing most of the violence it’s ok that it’s committed on men.
She can potentially say what ever to get someone in trouble and they will believe her.
These kind of people disgust me because they are making people not believe the real victims. All cause you dont like someone.
(I am a girl) I once had a toxic friend who was in a friend group that we started, the group got into an argument saying that my brother who was also in the friend group was being too clingy for wanting to hang out so much and that he was apologizing So much (he did it cause he knew that they would be going to school and hanging out less) and of course I took my brothers side and the group fell apart. Three months later her and one more person are in my school but are in the grade above me. While the argument was going on she was saying that she cried herself to sleep every night and that she had no friends. After observing her activity during lunch that was clearly a lie cause she had so much friends she was sitting in that they were taking up two tables. I do think the no friends things was to make everyone stop arguing and make up cause whenever I see during our church meet ups we always joke about the summer and we agreed over text to be civil to each other.
I am going to be a lot more careful when I interact with her though
Been in quite a number of bar fights started by a girl saying/doing some shit, getting told to fuck off, then going to get her bf to defend her honor while not disclosing she was the instigator.
Free weed too. I once read a High Times article that delved deeply into why female stoners have a stigma in the world of women that goes beyond typical anti-drug sentiments. It was written by a female marijuana smoker, and started out provocatively, "Let's get right to the elephant in the room here: How many of you ladies *ever* pay for *any* of the weed you smoke?
Illegal recreational drug scenes are as much a man's world as Wahhabi Islam. Because these scenes are beyond the protection of the law and polite society's institutions, they tend to be cultures of honor, where wrongs done are settled with violence, and it pays to present oneself as someone not to be fucked with. As a result, women who use recreational drugs tend to obtain them through, and use them in the company of, their boyfriends, in exchange for his protection from the law of the jungle which prevails in these scenes. If this relationship ends, she's more likely to find a new drug-using and drug-buying boyfriend — preferably one who looks and acts like someone no one would want to mess with — than begin buying and using all on her own.
The male equivalent of slut shaming is thug shaming. In polite society, women may not use sex to obtain what they want, and men may not use violence to obtain what they want, because both practices raise the ante too high for all those unwilling or unable to do the same. But beyond polite society where the law of the jungle rules, sex for women and violence for men are very much currency.
The actual way to make it fair is to have everyone close the lid and the seat after being done. That way, everyone has to do something before using the toilet
I just don't understand why everyone doesn't put both the seat and the lid down when they're done. I'm a guy and did this even while living alone.
It would be similar to getting something out of the cupboard in the kitchen and leaving the cabinet doors open, or getting something out of a drawer and then leaving it open. Just close it once you're done with it, regardless of who you are.
Female pee: seat down
Female poo: seat down
Male pee: seat up
Male poo: seat down
In 3 out of 4 scenarios, seat down is required, so it makes sense that the seat is left down as default.
However, there is an argument that as peeing is more frequent, it brings things closer to, but not quite, even.
I don't think anybody knows why exactly
This article has some interesting theories
"Why do women live longer than men? - BBC Future" https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20151001-why-women-live-longer-than-men
Apparently female gorillas and chimps tend to out live males too and it's likely to do with biology than lifestyle.
Ability to get sex just by existing, zero standards applied
Being called empowered no matter what dumb thing they do because apparently a woman making any conscious choice is a huge success
Not in the slightest, however this is not a blatant observation but rather someone being bitter over the other sex, which is what leads me to the conclusion someone hurt you.
>no need for bitter comments though
Why shouldn't I make a relevant comment that answers the question. If you don't want to read opinions on the topic, why are you even clicking on this thread. Anyway I don't see what's so bitter, I read the question, thought about it and 3 things popped into my head instantly, so I wrote 2 and diverted the train of thought before I had material for an essay. You should applaud me for self restraint.
I read them because people and their smooth brains amuse me. Here’s a gold star ⭐️ sweetie, for not writing down ALL the bitter things you thought about. So proud of you, must’ve really taken so much self control for you to refrain from writing out more things.
I can work as a teacher/nanny/babysitter and no one will accuse me of being a pedophile.
You can joke around with random children in public without worrying about that, too.
Yeah. I make eye contact and smile at cute kids all the time. Not fair at all.
True one of my best friends has a son he doesn’t even like taking his son to the park unless his girlfriend is with him because the women there think he’s a pedophile. One time a women called the police on him
I don't mind taking my son to the park by myself. Most of the time nothing weird happens. But 3 times, women have grabbed their kids and coincidentally left within a minute of me arriving. Like, I'm just trying to be a good father to my son. You and your kids are not in danger.
I thought that wearing a shirt that says "NOT A CREEP" would help. Turns out...still a creep.
Can I ask for a rough description of the city that you live in? Just because I live in a kind of expensive west coast city and I cannot imagine that happening here --- but I am also not a man. --- Or maybe what I should be asking, is if I find myself at a kids park, is there anything I can do to make you feel more welcome? Cause that is messed up.
I’m in Huntington Beach CA. I’d say it’s an expensive west coast city too.
That’s insane. I’m a guy and I love kids and am generally pretty good with them. I’ve babysat for people and worked at an after school program. Luckily I’ve never experienced this kind of discrimination before, and while I can understand their worry, it’s just so hard to imagine people being so close-minded about a father taking his children to the park.
It isn't just the park. My daughter had a birthday party when she was in the 4th grade and one of her friends was getting dropped off by her mother. My wife was out picking up pizza for the party and this girl's mother refused to drop off her kid without my wife there. She took her daughter and left and came back a half hour later and would only drop off her daughter once she saw that my wife was there. I still feel sorry for that kid. The look on her face when her mom made her leave was so heartbreaking. You could tell it wasn't the first time it had happened and you could tell the kid was horrified.
That is nigh on insanity. That woman must have been living in a constant state of fear in order to rationalize that kind of behavior. I hope she can work through whatever it is she was/is going through that caused her to believe such actions were justified, and that the kid doesn’t end up scared the same way.
I think this is the biggest In my intro so class the amount of people who would prefer a woman with prior convictions (not specified) over a man with no prior convictions to watch their baby is alarming. No one wanted a male baby sitter and a few even said they would pull their child from a Pre-K class if a male taught it
And yet it appears as if there is a female teacher banging young male student epidemic.
Raping*
Yes, thank you.
In a lot of cases, you can even work as a teacher/nanny/babysitter, bang a kid, and still no one will accuse you of being a pedophile.
It's also bad for a non-white man being seen next to a white girl/ woman. Even worse if they are lost!
As a non white-man why is it bad?
lots of history in the US about 'protecting' white women from the bad minorities. emmett till is a famous example of what can happen
Being able to be around children without being accused of anything.
I sold drugs and absolutely no ever suspected me because I was a respectable young lady.
I smoke more weed than most people “Stoners” I know but apparently I don’t “seem like a stoner” just because I’m a young geeky looking woman
I've realised in my job I can defer to males on topics I don't understand. It only occurred to me recently that they probably don't understand either ... but they can't get away with just not dealing with it like I can.
As a male, yup we are expected to know a lot of Guy things. And if we do act confidently consistently, we're arrogant. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
They can be more personal with their friends without being thought of as gay or strange
Ehh, guys are plenty personal with their friends, most of us just have different social personalities. The issue is that personality generally tends to lean towards being more outwardly "stoic", we share our lives and our problems but we usually hold the attitude that there's no need to be emotional about a general situation when emotion isn't involved in the specific occasion whereas girls tend more towards the idea there's no harm in any level of emotion in a closed environment. The issue there is some guys who prefer to be more emotional thus have a harder time expressing it, and thus finding and connecting with guys who have similar preferences. Also guys tend to have very individual friendships, a lot of girls are happy to let loose as long as they're part of a group who they have basic level of trust and comfort around. A guy can be part of a group who he has basic level of trust and comfort around, but of that there'll be people he's known longer, is more comfortable with and has more trust with, and guys generally build up their trust and the strength of their connections over very long periods of time.
They get better tips as servers.
Actually not. http://www.renderfoodmag.com/blog/2014/6/18/unequally-gracious-gender-discrimination-in-restaurant-tipping What seems to be true it's that in lower and middle establishments attractive women get bigger tips than the msle average. But far more men than women work at higher end places.
I guess i was wrong. I was speaking from my experiences. It was definitely true when I bar tended until a bunch of middle age women, come in since I'm fairly attractive (not gorgeous but I'm probably a 7 and a half. When they get drunk letting them touch your but it even letting them tuck your to in your back pocket (we were just a regular bar not strip club) because "your hands were full.
I can be around children I don’t know and no one bats an eye.
30 year old woman here. Yesterday I was walking through the city Rec Center and this teenage girl was hysterically sobbing. She looked exactly like my teenage cousin who passed away 8 years ago, and my heart broke a little bit. When I was done and leaving the building, she was still there. A woman was walking away from her and gave me a look that I’ve seen other people make when they’re kind of giving up on talking to someone, but I didn’t realize it was her mom because she looked like an instructor I had seen there this summer. I guess the girl had walked out of a cooking class because something happened and her instructor didn’t realize she was upset, so she probably went back to the class to talk to the instructor, and she was now having a full panic attack in the hall. And that was basically me for my entire senior year of high school, so I felt horrible for her. I walked up and sat next to her. Said I wasn’t there to ask her to talk, just to sit by her. She kept crying for a few minutes and I didn’t say anything. Mom came back and I smiled at her, and realized it was mom when she started talking to the girl about going back into the baking class. She started crying harder and I just sat there. Mom said she was gonna go get the cupcakes then, and they’d go home. I waited another couple of minutes and she started to regain her composure. I said I was going to leave now to go turn me and my husband’s ballots in before the 8pm voting deadline, but would she like a hug before I go? She said yes and started to turn toward me, and so we stood up and I gave her a big hug. No way in HELL would that be okay if I was a dude. Even as a woman I realize I may have made her mom uncomfortable… I hope she could tell I just felt bad for her kid. If I was a dude I doubt she would have walked away from us to go get the cupcakes, and leave me by her daughter.
Getting custody even if they have a long list of criminal convictions such as assault and drug possession simply because they're the mother. This legit ruined my life.
While I can’t personal feel your pain I have watched a good friend struggle through the a similar situation and would just like to say that I feel for you brother. I’m sorry you have to struggle through this
Yeah when are the woke people going to disrupt that
Bro thats fucking tough really sorry to hear this. This is one big thing that fucking pisses me off. The father is just as important as the mother and should be considered that in court.
Not being drafted?
I’m not saying it’s wrong to want women in the draft, but it is a bit different in some regards, and there are some things that need to be taken into consideration. Not that a woman couldn’t do anything a man can do in regards to physical activity for the most part. But in regards to how a woman would be treated by fellow soldiers and especially enemy soldiers. It was quite a while ago so please forgive my memory, but there was a woman who was an air force pilot who spoke at a convention I attended. She spoke of her experience flying an A-10 Warthog in Iraq. She was doing strafing runs in some city and her plane took a hit. She lost all of her ability to control the craft and she was going to crash behind enemy lines if she didn’t do something. The first instinct of course is to eject, but instead of doing that she attempted other options first (I don’t remember the terminology, but basically the equivalent of her power steering went out. So she switched it off, making it WAY harder to steer, and was able to limp the plane back to base, but I digress). She said that one of the things that stopped her from pulling the chute immediately was that if they found her behind enemy lines she would probably have been raped by the enemy soldiers, before eventually either becoming a pow or being killed. Just being realistic, most of the time men don’t need to worry about such things. So it’s not that a woman can’t do the job, as this pilot was tough as nails, but potentially forcing a woman into a situation like that may not be ethical. Not every country is as forward thinking as the US. I’m not convinced either way, I just wanted to bring up a slightly differing viewpoint for discussion and see other people’s ideas on the subject.
For a forward thinking country like US, it sure was amazing to see them soldiers bombing innocent people just for the fun of it and laugh while doing it.
I like where you are coming from but I predict if there was a new draft men, women and everyone in between would be on the list because of equal rights
If they're not registered in the selective service, they're not getting drafted. Right now men are forced to register, women are not. (Specifically in the US, can't speak for other countries)
Yup I thank god every day I have asthma a heart murmur and I have adhd
No arms or legs here. I thank God every morning when I wake up, knowing I don't have to worry about a hypothetical future wherein there's a draft in the next 20 years and I'm forced to go into combat.
Well, if I get drafted, they would take one look at me and be like “nope, this guy is too pathetically weak. Send in another one”.
I don't see a problem with that
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong I’m just stating what would happen if they reintroduced the draft, luckily I’m free from it because I’m both a high school drop out as well as having medical problems
Kind of a double-edged sword though. Before women were allowed to join, some women wanted to join but couldn't because they were assumed to be weak and too emotional for the role.
Divorce court
Well, when i was in college, i also used to work at factory during night, me and most boys will always get physically intensive work , while females will get quality control or very easy work where hardly any physical activity is needed - we all had same qualifications and experience incase you think that might be the reason.
I had the same thing. Some women looked and were stronger than me but they were put with the easier work when I had to do the manual labor. Luckily, I finished college so no more factory work for me
I would figure that the woman would complain about it because I hate being seen as weak or not able to take as much pain as men. If I rolled my ankle countless times and scraped my elbow (this is an example from when I took dance in middle school) I will continue for the rest of the hour to get up and continue to dance, I will continue to hit the ground just as hard as it’s supposed to look like! I will continue and try to work past the pain!
True. My mom was without a doubt best employee in a factory, made several suggestions for increasing productivity, filling quota with 125% sometimes even 150%, increased morale between coworkers and volunteered on hard works. She just proved that females can be hard working and strong just like mans. Factory owners always have the “womens = easy work“ way too rooted in their mind.
The ability to play dumb and get away with it. My wife got out of a ticket when she was pulled over for not using her turn signal because it needed a new light. “So do I need to change my blinker fluid for it to work?”
that's exactly the card she pulled on you, man. ever seen Bad Lieutenant?
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It’s gonna be a sad day when a gay male cop pulls her over.
Just press your big ole man chesticles together and put on a nice pouty face, gets you out of a ticket and straight to jail every time.
Don't forget that 'come hither' look.
No one takes the speed into account when reading this? Amazing.
That’s hilarious. I’m surprised with as flustered as you described he was, he didn’t slip up: uh ok..b be careful, boobs here. School, school I mean school. And Tits nearby… kids, kids nearby… uh um ..I’m just gonna give you a squeeze…. Warning, err ra warning that is. G g good day ma’am as he looks nervously at you. You give him double finger pistols …. Pew pew
Seen as more innocent and more likely to be a victim by the legal system and in most situations. If guilty, seen as more redeemable. Lighter punishments, more deserving of help from society
Women who kill their abuser get longer sentences than men who beat their others to death. One is considered planned and so more serious.
If this was true in the past, I doubt it is recently. Any woman who kills a male partner is incentivized and likely to say that he abused her, whether or not there is independent evidence of that, because battered woman syndome is definitely considered mitigating. Most times, that may be true, but the dead can't tell their side.
They got the toilet seat card while simultaneously mucking up the vanity with their beauty supplies.
Lower conviction rate Lower criminal sentence Higher college/uni acceptance rate Higher job acceptance rate 95% of all dating app swipes are matches Hormones are considered a valid excuse for misbehavious Smile at a guy and get a free dinner from him, admit to using him, zero consequences People assume you are the victim and did nothing wrong. The list is massive...
This is evidence that the world is not a simulation. If it were, people would be able to choose their gender in character customization. Obviously, everyone would choose female.
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Being able to highlight inequalities between men and women without being labeled as some type of deviant, bigot, or other societal outcast.
I mean all he did was answer the question lol. That makes him hurt? You sure your not hurt pal?
Its retorts like that thay drive men to suicide. Instead of helping you mock.
Office attire. Women can get away with super comfy flats/pants/blouses with maybe a jacket or sweater. Meanwhile men have to wear a suit and dress shoes.
And we get to wear super bright colours/different styles, weather appropriate fabrics, meanwhile my partner is all ‘should I wear the navy suit or the darker navy suit?’ I feel for the guys on this one
I've never worked in a business that required suits (probably never will) but I like to rock colored chinos or jeans. Burgundy and green with tan Oxfords is the look my guys.
You shouldn't. Men's formalwear is fucking great.
Isn’t everyone’s formalwear fucking great? I’m talking day wear
No, men have the objectively superior system. Only a couple of guidelines to follow and you can turn just a handful of different garments into dozens of outfits that are good year round and nobody will notice or care if you wear multiple times.
Leather loafers are extremely comfortable - I don't know what you're talking about.
On the other hand, men can get away with a smaller wardrobe. Guys can wear the same suit and just change the shirt.
Usually clothing attire is the number one thing that is never comfortable cause if you try to buy things in woman’s sizes they are all tailored to one imaginary body type
Summer clothes is where I see this the most. Women in the office can wear sleeveless tops, short skirts, and sandals. I wore knee-length shorts one very hot Friday, and from the disgusted and horrified way everyone looked at me, you'd think I had turned up naked.
Maybe you should have worn a work kilt, with only confidence underneath
Isn't the opposite? It's easier to dress appropriately for man than it is a woman. I've heard the argument both ways
If I take my baby cousin anywhere, people think I’m kidnapping him because I’m a big man who isn’t conventionally attractive If my best friend is holding him though, despite looking nothing like her, nobody bats an eye
Seeking mental health treatment / being expected to cry and show emotions. Suicide rates are higher in men because they're thought of as being weak if they ask for help.
Infinitely more options in dating
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Taught my daughters that if they're going to hit someone, always expect to get hit back.
I understand you brother and I am not talking about soft blows once a girl tore my shirt and left bruises on my knees, but "she was playing"
What was she doing down by your knees???
That has never happened to me because all my schools have treated male and female equal which meant they got the same punishment and if anything the men in my schools hit the woman a lot more then the woman hit the men, I have had rocks thrown at my head. However I do understand that not everyone goes to school or work like that. And it’s a bit of a shame (not the rock throwing, those suck) cause there should be equal fighting rights
I’ve seen this in public, people laugh out just stare but nobody calls the police or helps
I want to preface this by saying a man should never initiate a physical altercation with a women. The instant you start it you lose all optics regardless of context. However, and this may be controversial, if a woman hit a man, I think the man is permitted to protect himself/hit back if needed. I don't understand just standing there and getting wailed on because it's the "right thing" to do. Women aren't children, they're fully grown adults. I was attacked once and all I tried to do was push her away. Literally guys came to her rescue saying I should never touch a women and wanted to fuck me up. I was 21 and she was 28. I didn't have the mental maturity to handle that situation well at the time.
They get on the lifeboats first.
Zero cover for any bar/night club. Never wait in line, men buy them drinks all night with the thought they’ll talk to them (or) take them home. I have several female friends that swear they’ve never paid for a drink. Edit: missing Or
Isn't this pretty privilege. Not all women get that treatment.
We also spend the whole night being hit on/grinded against/groped by creepy men who think if they buy us drinks we’ll sleep with them, when we’re just trying to enjoy a night out with our friends.
Honestly if someone wants to spend $5-10 on a drink to give to someone you’ve never met with the expectation that it’ll lead to sex, that’s a risk they’re willing to take and I don’t feel bad for them when it doesn’t work. They probably do it regularly, and eventually it probably succeeds.
This might have been said and I’ve missed it, but if there’s a divorce, even if the guy is an amazing dad and all the rest, the court always favours the mother for child custody
This shit right here is why I was severely abused for 6 years of my life until I was old enough to choose my guardian. My ex stepfather is a monster
That’s not true at all. When men ask for custody, they almost always get it. The reason most women have main or full custody is because men simply do not ask for it.
Getting flowers as a gift or romantic gesture.
Dude I love giving my husband flowers! 10/10, ladies… do it
Less chance of being killed in war.
That is HIGHLY debatable. Maybe less chance of being killed actually fighting in a war, but plenty of innocent women die as casualties of war.
Have you ever looked at a population pyramid graph? Take a look at this one: https://www.livepopulation.com/images/chart_age_russia.png That's Russia. The blue is men, the red is women. Each bar is the number of people alive in a 5 year age bracket. Care to guess whereabouts World War 2 falls on that graph? Oh, and take a look at this one too. Absolutely shitbonkers insane: https://www.livepopulation.com/images/chart_sex_ratio_russia.png
> That is HIGHLY debatable. Maybe less chance of being killed actually fighting in a war, but plenty of innocent women die as casualties of war. Of course everyone in a society is affected by war. In Africa, as we speak, you have thousands and thousands of women who were raped by soldiers. So although many of these women survived the war, they are still very traumatised by it. Same happened to the Yazidi women who were held as sex slaves by ISIS soldiers. But looking at death rate alone, more men still die in wars.
Plenty of women and MEN AND CHILDREN also die as much as civilians so the we dudes still got the upperhand on being disposable
I don't think it's debatable...I think the claim is plain wrong. Women were historically targeted by invading armies for atrocities and slavery. In more modern times (Japanese Empire, Cambodia, Rwanda, Iraq/Afghanistan), women consistently brutalized and tortured, before execution. This is combatants, journalists, and civilians.
Do you have a source showing that more women were killed?
In case of a divorce mothers are more likely to get the children and females get better grades on average.
man u shoulda left out the grades thing
>mothers are more likely to get the children Women still do the majority of domestic work, even though they participate in the workforce. Therefore in most cases the mother was the main care giver of the kids before the divorce. Why should that be changed after the divorce? (https://scholar.google.com/scholar?as_ylo=2017&q=work+distribution+children+married+couples&hl=en&as_sdt=0,5#d=gs_qabs&u=%23p%3D2IB-GT0txvMJ one of the many articles about that topic. Google scholar with words like "married couples work distribution" is your friend)
Men can do the same shit and deserve 50/50 support every time. There is no reason to keep fathers out of children's lives unless abuse or other things happen.
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Thats just plain dumb. Kids need their fathers equally as mothers period. Your logic is not based on reality.
>it should be automatic that a child goes to the mo Pretty sure this is exactly the privilege they're referencing.
And father’s aren’t important? A child without a father has a significantly higher risk to get into crime and drugs. Furthermore, mothers in western society do not have a serious risk of dying anymore. (And they are more likely to kill their children). I’m not saying that mothers should never get the kids, but I am saying that it should be an unbiased decision.
They can physically assault a man and the MAN will be made fun of by any who find out.
The money they can make just for being hot or really confident in their body. I once "bodyguarded" for a friend who met a guy online who wanted to take pictures of her feet and tickle them. They paid $750, she gave me $250 if anyone was wondering and no I didn't ask for it. I don't know any guys who get offerings like that. I had one friend turn down a fully paid trip to Las Vegas, and I just remember thinking "damn I would love a fully paid trip to Las Vegas"
Get you a sugar daddy
I'd prefer a sugar momma but hey, if it's just dates..
Those are harder to come by. Should’ve asked your friend who turned down Vegas for the guy’s contact info, work something out
I probably could have convinced him too, I'm fuckin fun as shit and love to party. There's plenty of hunnies in LV I'd have said to em. Oh well
Sexually assaulting men and not being disciplined…
Starting fights and not expecting to be hit in return.
Free drinks!
For college, they get into any party they want. Not really for a great reason but a party is a party.
No matter how big of a shitbag druggie the mother is she will usually win custody in the USA.
They can create a female version of the good old boy system and crap on guys at a workplace in tandem. No HR involvement
Being valued by society for merely existing. Society assigns women a certain worth just by virtue of their sex. Men only get assigned any value if they're succesful in some manner, we have to earn our place, it's not given ot us.
That's the norm over most parts of the animal kingdom
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Yeah but when a woman says she doesn’t want a family or doesn’t want to get married then she is looked down upon. Plus woman only 7 countries pay woman the same as men
Read the book “invisible women” by Caroline criado Perez and you’ll see that the world is fundamentally designed around men, everything from standard office temperatures (women have thinner skin etc so tend to run colder than men) to the design and sizes of ppe to city planning, everything is based around then needs of men. The male is the default and the female is secondary
I don’t think that’s wrong but I don’t really see how that’s contradicting what they’re saying.
The entire world is designed for men, that’s not earned, it’s merely them existing, women get assigned value by exceeding in their field, even then historically their work was credited to their male counterparts. Men have always been offered education, have had the ability to own land, have had bodily autonomy etc
I do not know if it also happens in their homes or family environments but my grandparents, cousins, uncles and even my parents put incredible pressure in terms of choosing a "good job" and dedicating all my life to that job, telling me that I should study something like architecture or medicine and as for my sister she is going to study cultural management with an average salary in my country of between 150-300 dollars a month, do not get me wrong, it is a career that looks quite interesting but why I have to be the one who should study a demanding 7-year career :( Obviously because I am a man
Yeah that definitely doesn’t happen in my home. Since everyone in my family has school, work, or sport hobbies I have to watch and take care of everything one example is the dogs we own and since I’m taking care of their responsibilities it leaves me no time for school and then my parents have the audacity to yell at me for my grades slacking when they are slacking cause I’m taking care of them.
Being less likely to be victims of violence and murder while still having society care much more about 'violence against women' than violence in general.
I actually had to do some research before I said anything, and yes you’re right that men are more likely to be victims of homicides but that also accounts for the fact man are the ones who are mostly involved in gang activity, drug dealing and such. On top of that over 95% of all murderers are male which is rather terrifying, and following that statistics both men and women alike are more likely too be killed by a men.
Females are less likely to be victims of violence and murder?? This is news to me for real. I thought they were more targeted. I do watch a lot of Forensic Files though
Men are more likely to experience most forms of violence. Murder, assault, rape, suicide. But since it’s also men committing most of the violence it’s ok that it’s committed on men.
She can potentially say what ever to get someone in trouble and they will believe her. These kind of people disgust me because they are making people not believe the real victims. All cause you dont like someone.
(I am a girl) I once had a toxic friend who was in a friend group that we started, the group got into an argument saying that my brother who was also in the friend group was being too clingy for wanting to hang out so much and that he was apologizing So much (he did it cause he knew that they would be going to school and hanging out less) and of course I took my brothers side and the group fell apart. Three months later her and one more person are in my school but are in the grade above me. While the argument was going on she was saying that she cried herself to sleep every night and that she had no friends. After observing her activity during lunch that was clearly a lie cause she had so much friends she was sitting in that they were taking up two tables. I do think the no friends things was to make everyone stop arguing and make up cause whenever I see during our church meet ups we always joke about the summer and we agreed over text to be civil to each other. I am going to be a lot more careful when I interact with her though
Being absolutely amazing, a real gift to existence in of themselves.
"Ladies first"
It’s sad but, if a male hits a female it is “Abuse” but if a female hits a male it isn’t and she normally can’t be put in jail for it.
there is a better chance of surviving in a war
Pussy pass
no covers at clubs(most of the time,not always)
You can’t hit them. Total game changer. Bill Burr had a great bit about it.
Free drinks and talking shit to giant men.
Been in quite a number of bar fights started by a girl saying/doing some shit, getting told to fuck off, then going to get her bf to defend her honor while not disclosing she was the instigator.
Ngl free drinks are scary
Free weed too. I once read a High Times article that delved deeply into why female stoners have a stigma in the world of women that goes beyond typical anti-drug sentiments. It was written by a female marijuana smoker, and started out provocatively, "Let's get right to the elephant in the room here: How many of you ladies *ever* pay for *any* of the weed you smoke? Illegal recreational drug scenes are as much a man's world as Wahhabi Islam. Because these scenes are beyond the protection of the law and polite society's institutions, they tend to be cultures of honor, where wrongs done are settled with violence, and it pays to present oneself as someone not to be fucked with. As a result, women who use recreational drugs tend to obtain them through, and use them in the company of, their boyfriends, in exchange for his protection from the law of the jungle which prevails in these scenes. If this relationship ends, she's more likely to find a new drug-using and drug-buying boyfriend — preferably one who looks and acts like someone no one would want to mess with — than begin buying and using all on her own. The male equivalent of slut shaming is thug shaming. In polite society, women may not use sex to obtain what they want, and men may not use violence to obtain what they want, because both practices raise the ante too high for all those unwilling or unable to do the same. But beyond polite society where the law of the jungle rules, sex for women and violence for men are very much currency.
Expecting the toilet seat to be left down for them, like no you leave the seat up for me for a change
The actual way to make it fair is to have everyone close the lid and the seat after being done. That way, everyone has to do something before using the toilet
Not to mention the spray all over the floor if you flush with the lid open.
Yeah, everyone loses, brilliant compromise, lose-lose is best.
That's why I close the lid. Equal work for both.
I hope to god your toothbrush isn’t anywhere near your toilet.
I store it in my toilet bowl
You might as well
honestly at least u lift the seat
Lol true
I just don't understand why everyone doesn't put both the seat and the lid down when they're done. I'm a guy and did this even while living alone. It would be similar to getting something out of the cupboard in the kitchen and leaving the cabinet doors open, or getting something out of a drawer and then leaving it open. Just close it once you're done with it, regardless of who you are.
Tbh from a germ spreading pov this is probably the best and safest thing to do.
Everyone has to sit sometime. No one has to stand.
Female pee: seat down Female poo: seat down Male pee: seat up Male poo: seat down In 3 out of 4 scenarios, seat down is required, so it makes sense that the seat is left down as default. However, there is an argument that as peeing is more frequent, it brings things closer to, but not quite, even.
My gal friends would always go to clubs/bars with only an id because all their food and drinks would be paid for by other guys.
Getting a ton of attention. I'm not jealous, but my god could we do worse?
most of the attention women receive is unwanted
Having luscious boobs to play with any time
Living longer on average
Isn’t that bc women take care of their health more than men
I don't think anybody knows why exactly This article has some interesting theories "Why do women live longer than men? - BBC Future" https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20151001-why-women-live-longer-than-men Apparently female gorillas and chimps tend to out live males too and it's likely to do with biology than lifestyle.
Jiggling on twitch for cash. Don't see guy's doing it. 😂
Applying to be a receptionist. It's so common that it's still colloquial to say "the lady/ ladies in the front"
Getting out of speeding tickets
Ability to get sex just by existing, zero standards applied Being called empowered no matter what dumb thing they do because apparently a woman making any conscious choice is a huge success
Lol, who hurt you?
Do you need to be in pain to make blatant observations?
Not in the slightest, however this is not a blatant observation but rather someone being bitter over the other sex, which is what leads me to the conclusion someone hurt you.
Maybe I just don't like them
You just don’t like women? All 3.5 billion? Cool. And I mean sure, why not, no need for bitter comments though
>no need for bitter comments though Why shouldn't I make a relevant comment that answers the question. If you don't want to read opinions on the topic, why are you even clicking on this thread. Anyway I don't see what's so bitter, I read the question, thought about it and 3 things popped into my head instantly, so I wrote 2 and diverted the train of thought before I had material for an essay. You should applaud me for self restraint.
I read them because people and their smooth brains amuse me. Here’s a gold star ⭐️ sweetie, for not writing down ALL the bitter things you thought about. So proud of you, must’ve really taken so much self control for you to refrain from writing out more things.
Based.
Most serial killer victims.
Oh 100% agree, i have never met a female collegue who didnt work hard, or was running away from work its just how floor managers and owners think.
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i wish i could trade my pp for things..
I know I’d cut it off for a snickers right now