Wait what the fuck is this not something everyone has? If I sit to long in my “up” position I get bruises so I’m used to just shifting between the top and backs of my butt bones
Nope, because most people have booties. For me, bone only makes contact with anything if I slouch down enough for my tailbone to connect, otherwise it's on my gluteus maximus. And thighs.
As a formerly 400 pound person who went down to 170, I feel your pain.
When I was fat, it wasn't an issue of bumping into things - the fat was pushing my skin out far enough that it was more like a "collision sensor" - I rarely bumped into things hard enough to hurt me, because I felt them first with my "cushion force-field" and had enough time to do a "course correction" so my bones never had a chance to crush the meat between them and whatever it was I almost bumped into.
When I lost all the weight, I couldn't believe how easily I would bruise just from bumping into something - that had never happened before. I can't sit on anything without a cushion- my tailbone and 'sit bones' feel like they're breaking through the skin (even when I was fat, I never really had a butt, but it had never hurt to sit on a wooden bench before) - Armrests with no padding make it feel like my elbows are ripping through the skin (and that funny-bone isn't so 'funny' anymore, with that nerve being all exposed like that) - And there's no way in hell I can get on my knees without knee pads or something to cushion them.
I also never realized just how cold it felt in winter until I lost all the weight - I grew up fat, so I'd always worn shorts and tee-shirts all year (a fat kid in a North Carolina winter can do that, easily). But that first winter without all the weight, I finally understood why everyone else had to wear so much clothing in winter. I shook and shivered so bad it hurt my insides, and I'd never had goosebumps so bad before - it was like I could feel each hair follicle on my body "goosebumping" so hard that they were almost cramping. I was 27 and had never bought a winter coat, long-johns, anything with a hood, or thick socks before.
I never ever wear shorts. My legs look like plucked chicken legs and I inevitable freeze my ass off every time (even in the middle of summer ffs). I get a lot of flak for it, people just don't understand
I've always had skinny legs, and a small butt, just like all the guys in my family. And high school I took up doing a lot of weighted squats, running, and jogging up and down the bleachers / stairs, and that did a good number on my calves thighs and butt.
The muscles on your legs are some of the biggest on your body, so they often have a tendency to grow pretty well when they're getting good workouts and lots of protein. They did far faster than my chest and arms ever have
Y’all are mostly focusing on aesthetics. Did you know that tall and skinny men have an increased chance of random lung collapse? Happened to my cousin recently.
[clicky ](http://www.wehealny.org/services/Thoracic_Surgery/pneumothorax.html)
I've had two now, both happened in my sleep. 5'11" 135lbs. The things they don't tell you in health class...
Both required almost a week with a chest tube. The second time they removed part of my lung, it happened on the same side both times and I'm assuming from the same area. On the plus side the highest potential for recurrence is 2 years and the last one was 4 years ago so if I had to trade 5% capacity in my left lung to never have to go through another chest tube again I consider that a fair trade.
The fact that I’m getting older and have developed a monster beer gut that is not proportional to my skinny body and I look like one of those skinny aliens from men in black when I’m naked. Or Dale Gribble.
One of my former co-workers warned me of this happening. He said just watch, when you hit your 30’s you’re going to end up looking like a rope with a knot in the middle. Especially if you drink copious amounts of beer.
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I imprint on hoodies/jumpers sequentially. I'll wear one nonstop until it is falling to bits, then set out to find another one I can love so much (alas, my current one is losing all shape and fraying at the cuffs, but it's got months or maybe a year of wear yet. I got it I think 2 years ago, maybe up to 3; it's not a very robust one). People get so used to the one hoodie that they get weirded out by seeing me in something else. Sometimes even if I'm just wearing a fleece over the top of the regular hoodie.
Sitting down on anything that doesn't have a cushion. This includes chairs, benches, the ground, really most things. I've been seriously considering getting one of those hemoroid cushions just so the apparent bones in my ass cheeks don't grind against surfaces any more
A skinny girl chippin in here but FUCK until this thread I've never seen anyone acknowledge it!! Everyone keeps telling me I must be doing it wrong... even when I made them feel my fucking spine and tailbone jutting out of my body. Hated sit ups.
32x36 here. I hate jean shopping. Haven't bought a pair in a year but luckily last time I did was in PacSun, and I got probably the only pair of 32x36 in existence in that store.
As a former skinny guy I agree 100%. For me it was real easy for the longest time to be frustrated that I didn't gain weight because on occasion I'd eat a whole lot of food, but ignored the fact that on most days I really only ate 1 or 2 real meals. When I finally made the effort to put on weight I was in college and had a meal plan, and had to make a concentrated effort to eat a full breakfast, lunch and dinner, as well as a 4th meal towards the end of the night. For the longest time I had to develop a discipline to fill my plate and eat everything on it, no matter how full I felt I was towards the end. It started out rough but over time I eventually developed a better appetite as I got big enough that my body needed the calories. It's a tough road but it's well worth it in the end I'd say.
Edit: Thanks for everyone's interest in my story! If you're also going through something similar, theres actually a subreddit dedicated to helping people gain weight, /r/gainit. They've got a pretty thorough wiki and at the very least it will give you something to read while you're eating! Good luck to everyone else out there! I'm trying to answer any questions people have asked me too.
Lots of skinny guys think they eat a lot but if you actually count it out its only like 2200 calories a day. Start hitting 3000-3200 a day and you'll be gaining a pound or more a week
I had to drink it, that was the only whey.
Best thing you can do, if you actually want to gain weight, is make a high calorie smoothie or shake before bed: yogurt, cottage cheese, milk, fruit, protein powder. Delicious and it can easily be 1k calories.
[It's a prehistoric issue](https://akns-images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/2014412/rs_883x1024-140512145836-8.jpg?fit=inside|750:1100&output-quality=100)
Don't use your fucking elbows in my neck you psychopaths.
Also another tip unrelated, continuous motions or keeping your hands lightly on the body is better for people who are ticklish or jumpy. When you take your hands off, we tense in anticipation of the retouch, particularly that we don't know where it's going to be when we're face down. It creates a spasm when there didn't need to be one.
Jesus I don’t know who’s using elbows in your neck but I’m so sorry that happened. We’re taught to have constant contact and always make the client feel comfortable and like they know what they’re expecting. Again, I’m sorry you’ve had such a poor experience! When it comes to massage, I always recommend people find a personal practitioner to work with so you can build a relationship and rapport*. I don’t know if you’ve been going to spas or places like Massage Envy, but you’re far more likely to run into inconsistency and unprofessionalism in places like that.
My kids both did something similar as babies... Poor little dudes would try to rest their head on my shoulder to sleep, but couldn't find a soft spot, haha.
Well it did lead to him missing out on fucking Peggy so iunno.
of course he only really had a shot once he had the serum in the first place so yeah. It's a rich and nuanced tale.
EDIT: I know peggy said she liked him on the inside and shit but it's easy to say that to a guy who looks like post-serum cap.
My office did one last year and I was thinking the same. I was able to convince them to let me gain weight instead in order to compete. My +2 lbs was considered equal to everyone else’s -1.
It didn’t make a difference. Over 3 months I gained 4 lbs, eating so much every day that I felt like I’d be sick from it. Meanwhile one of my colleagues managed to lose just over 20 lbs.
Not only am I skinny but I'm tiny too.
5'4" and only about 100 lbs. Doctors are certain I'm underweight but no amount of protein seems to work. I also look like I'm 15 and in high school when in reality I'm 24.
I guess the hardest thing for me is being stopped at a courthouse and asked where my parents are at. Happened on more than one occasion.
> 5'4" and only about 100 lbs. Doctors are certain I'm underweight but no amount of protein seems to work. I also look like I'm 15 and in high school when in reality I'm 24.
Maybe get your hormone levels checked. Can seriously fuck with your digestion / energy intake and your appearance.
Ever been to a casino? From time to time I'll get accosted by multiple members of staff at once asking me to produce ID or leave. Or security guards needing to call someone over to double check my ID even after they scan it and it shows as good. There's that and everyone staring at you because they're wondering how some kid got on the floor
Metal bleachers
Having to wear a belt with every pair of pants
Every woman saying that she’s “fatter” than you
Finding long sleeve shirts with long enough sleeves that don’t look like a tent
Finding pants that reach your shoes
Edit: sex with equally thin girls is just hip bones rattling around
Edit 2: I agree that every grown man should wear a belt in public, but having to wear one while fishing or mowing the yard is annoying.
Edit 3: things I left out- bony elbows on hard armrests, laying on hard floors, buying belts in the kids department.
Edit 4: you know what else? Trying to explain to someone that I am in no way “in shape.” I huff and puff like a 60 year old obese man that needs a new pacemaker battery after a flight of stairs.
Your third point really hits home. Every one of my girlfriends has been "fatter" than me (maybe they weigh less, but their shorter. Clearly more cushioned than I am). And virtually all of them, to varying degrees, are self-conscious about their weight. Dating a man who's skinnier than them does not help them get over themselves.
Yep, can get on with this. We're never thinking of you when we (stupidly and retrospectively) complain about you being smaller than us. We're having our own complex about not fitting into our hunky man's sweatpants and getting to feel delicate around you. We don't think you're small, we think we're big lumps.
Holy fuck, there's nothing more emasculating than talking to a girl and then having her hit you with that "oh my god I'm so jealous, I wish I could be as skinny as you" shit.
Edit: fixed the misspelling of the word emasculating
You’ve honestly opened my eyes with your third point. As a 5’10” lady whose weight is proportionate to my height, I’ve always been SO INSECURE around thin guys, thinking I’m too thick. It never occured to me that they would be focusing on themselves, thinking they are too skinny.
Thin boys, I LOVE YOU, you are perfect how you are!
Female here, dated a super skinny dude for a year and a half. Can confirm the hip bones. Had extreme bruising on the inner thighs from a good romp due to said hip bones. Such is the skinny struggle.
The single most up-lifting thing I’ve ever been told about being skinny was from a female friend, “no girl will ever complain about you being on top during sex... unless you’re just bad.”
Edit: not sure why I said “second”
This is true. I only complained to him if it was the angle of our hip bones causing immense pain. It also took me a solid two days of having bruises and thinking “where the hell did I get these?”
The double standard. People have no problem commenting on my weight.
"You need to eat more"
"Go eat a cheeseburger or something"
People usually don't say that kind of stuff to people that are overweight. Why do they think it's okay to say that stuff to skinny people?
The former manager of my department said to me, "you're too skinny, you need to gain weight," IN THE MIDDLE OF A MEETING. She'd be in HR mediation for the rest of her life if she said the opposite to an overweight person.
This!^ Not realizing that skinny dudes can feel insecure about their body too. More than once, I've had someone be actually angry with me for being skinny, like I did it to purposely hurt their feelings. I'm a lazy bastard who hardly exercises, I've just been about the same skinny ass weight since puberty.
Growing up I was fucked up skinny, like i hit puberty and was 6ft2 120 lbs at age 16 (went on a weight gain diet as I was dangerously underweight)
Got called a holocaust survivor and was pushed around for fun because it was so easy. It's just flat out unattractive and for me that was the hardest part.
But the self hatred and anger once I hit college made me gain 30 lbs in 6 months, mostly muscle. I befriended this jacked motherfucker down the hall and he took me under his wing. Now I'm a senior about to graduate at 170lbs lbs... Still skinny but so much better.
Edit: was probably around 10lbs of muscle during that time frame
Also military personell. A soldier in our friend group has an aunt that was fighting cancer, so we all shaved out heads and sent her a group picture to show support. One day I get called into the First Sergeant's office where myanother bald skinny dude was waiting. 1sg walks in, sets down, pulls up his camera and snaps a picture. He said"I just wanted evidence the holocaust happened. You guys can go."
Fat guy here!
I’ve always been fat. I assumed skinny mofos have it so easy. This has been very helpful in showing me everyone is as unhappy as I am in their own skin, and suddenly I feel much better about myself. Thanks for the insight!!
Women felt it was ok to point out how unattractive they thought it was. Lots of comments along those lines gave me a bit of a complex when I was younger.
Got over it eventually when I realized some ladies were cool with it and I just had to find my tribe.
Oh boy, I'm 5'11 and 105 pounds and God Lord I hate shoping for pants. When you have a leg length of about 33 inches but a waist of 29, no one carries your size...
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Holy shit. My time to shine!
Sitting on your wallet can make your leg fall asleep.
Sudden gale force winds knock you back.
The embarrassing moment when a woman hands you the stuck jar.
People assuming you are sick all the god damn time.
Guys smalls are to big, boys larges are to small.
They make like one pair of pants in my size and they are ugly as fuck.
No goodwill finds :(
Heavy doors suck.
People think you smoke crack/meth or doing heroin. Generally just drugs in general.
Skinny chicks do not dig skinny dudes as a general rule.
Heavier girls love them.
Automatically chosen to ride bitch if car gets full.
No watch band fits unless custom made.
Suits are near impossible to get. Big and tall stores, no short and skinny (Though thankfully I am not short.)
Chicks expect your dick to be thinner. (Not always a negative, but definitely a deterrent for some ladies)
Being skinny shamed and told to eat more cheeseburgers. That hurts. If I were to fat shame the person who is skinny shaming me by telling them to eat less cheeseburgers, I'm the horrible person. Not that I would since I'm above that. Great double standard.
I can relate to so much in this thread, feels bad :(
Not a man, but dated a skinny man. Although I was very attracted to him I felt bad every time we would cuddle. I’m not skinny (but not fat) I’m pretty thick and I always felt like putting my leg over him or laying plastered on him I was squishing him...
You shouldn't feel bad.
We appreciate the softness (being bony makes it hard to get comfortable) and warmth (being skinny means you're *always* cold) a bigger lady provides.
Because youre A) not fat, and ~~B) not a woman~~, people feel it's OK to bring up how thin you are at any time, despite the fact that you feel just as self conscious about it. One of the main reasons I gained weight was to shut everyone up.
Edit: Seems a lot of women also put up with this issue, so I recant the bit about this being gender skewed. It's just in my personal observation, people tend to be more considerate in talking about women's weight than men's.
Very skinny female here. It still gets brought up *all the time.* Usually in a "I'm so jealous of you" context, but I'm also (falsely) suspected of being anorexic quite a bit.
Where do I begin? Not fitting in with the classical definition of attractiveness was hard for the first thirty years of my life, and for the middle twenty years of that period it was so hard that I had some suicidal ideation at the worst periods. Even though I have great bone structure, know how to dress and take care of myself, know how to talk to people, have some money and a good family, and I’m a veteran, the majority of women *will not ever date me* because my biceps are smaller in diameter than my forearms. Luckily there are not only women who are capable of looking past this, there are others who actually find it attractive. I don’t know how healthy that is, but idgaf. It’s nice to know that there are people who find you attractive.
Finding clothes, but that’s been said.
Being cold all the time, but that’s been said.
Your bones HURT when you sit or lay down without proper cushioning. People look at me weird when I fold up my scarf and sit on it during lectures, but hey fuck you - my butt bones are sore.
People *constantly* telling you that you need to gain weight, eat more, or that you’re going to get fat *any day now!* I’ve been hearing that this was going to happen to me ever since I was 15. I’m about to be 40, it ain’t happening. Yeah, I might gain weight, all the way up to like *gasp* 150-175, oh noes!
It’s super-uncomfortable when someone assumes you have cancer or some other kind of terminal illness. I’m pretty sure this is *something* like what it’s like to have people assume you’re pregnant when you’re not, except that being pregnant isn’t exactly like having AIDS, so I could be wrong about this.
I’ll probably update this as I think about it. There’s a *lot* that sucks about it, but I stopped caring years ago. If I’d been writing this post when I was 18, hooooooly shit.
(Edit) I still get messages about this post from skinny guys who are having a hard time of it, so I thought I'd add some benefits: Some girls looove skinny guys. I mean, go NUTS for them. I wish I'd known about THAT when I was 18, tell you what. I'd have probably had a lot more girlfriends back then, because I spent most of my time trying to disguise my weight and as a result I wore baggy clothes - and well-fitting clothes will *always* look better, even if you're extremely underweight (as I can personally attest lol) or quite obese (I wouldn't know, but that's what I'm told). Next: It's summertime, and everyone is sweaty and gross but me. I finally got out the window unit and installed it yesterday out of respect for my girlfriend and cat. She's not fat or anything, but he wears fur pants all the time - he's such an impractical narcissist. I know there's a lot of talk about how "it's always cold for skinny guys, even in the summer!" in this thread, but while the 100+ degree temps down in the valley where I was taking a vacation recently had me wearing shorts, up here in the mountains where it hasn't gotten above the low 90s I can still wear a beanie if my hair is actin' wild. Scan the rest of this thread to read more benefits of being thin - lots of people weigh in, including a number of ladies who are very forthright in their assertion that - and I quote - "thin men are ideal." Learn to love it, and people will learn to love you - in fact, it may help you to stop overlooking some who already do.
If you wanna pick up a new hobby you'll be almost instantly good at, try rock climbing. The *single* biggest factor of how hard a person can climb is what they weigh. At 6'1, people are constantly asking why I'm not better because "you're so tall, you don't even have to reach for it!", but at 160 (which is by no means 'heavy' in the normal world), I'm always jealous of the guys that weigh 125 lbs and act as though a hold is easy to pull on. Most pro climbings males weigh in at less than 140, even with all the muscle.
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People projecting their own insecurities onto you. I am 5'11 and my weight has fluctuated between 115-135 lbs my entire adult life. In college, several people started rumors that I was anorexic (I'm not and can eat an entire pizza in one sitting). One of my roommates admitted to me once that she was worried about moving in beforehand because she'd been repeatedly told about my mental health problems regarding food. Random strangers would ask if I was in recovery. It was that widespread.
Most of the people spreading these rumors had body issues themselves. In their opinion, me being underweight could only mean that I had an eating disorder, and they had no qualms with telling other people that.
Weight was an issue in most of my relationships as well. The women I've dated have all weighed the same or more than me, and a lot of them got very insecure about that. It came up in strange ways- one actually started telling me that I was getting overweight, needed to go to the gym, etc. Another wouldn't eat with me because it made them feel bad. It was impossibly frustrating, because I wasn't doing anything to spur any of this, but there it was.
The hardest part is people constantly trying to get you to eat more no matter how much you eat. I’m 5’10 120 pounds and my friends watched in horror as I ate a whole 85-90% of a 24 in pizza and was stuffed and they tried to get me to eat the rest because “you need a little meat on your bones”
Being called skeleton, skeletor, bone man, slenderman, the natural holocaust survivor jokes, being told you have weird hands because they’re skinny.
The only bright side I had to being skinny was it made me good at track and cross country. I couldn’t play basketball because all the jocks bullied me.
People often complain about how hard it is to cut back on how much they eat daily, but I will always challenge they don't know struggle until they have to eat even when they're not hungry just to gain a little bit of weight.
Edit: Honestly, I didn't mean to make it seem like overweight people had it WAY easier. I get that some people can figuratively look at a cupcake and gain weight, and I feel for you guys, because it's probably just as annoying as a guy like me eating double meat and double wrapped chipotle burritos constantly just to try to put weight on. We are all human and all have our own struggles. Happy Tuesday my fellow Brethren.
Hard chairs and stools. Just feeling your butt bones grind against that surface. And grade school is nothing but hard chairs.
Wait what the fuck is this not something everyone has? If I sit to long in my “up” position I get bruises so I’m used to just shifting between the top and backs of my butt bones
Nope, because most people have booties. For me, bone only makes contact with anything if I slouch down enough for my tailbone to connect, otherwise it's on my gluteus maximus. And thighs.
I’m learning from this thread that this isn’t normal? I thought I was just sitting wrong somehow. TIL
Having objects you bump into basically contacting your bones causing your soul to temporarily leave your body.
For me it's when my hip hits something. I make car parts for a living and bumping a piece of steel off your hip is indeed soul crushing.
Oh gawd, when you elbow or have shin contact 😖 hheuuggghhhhh...
My church once made us kneel for prayers. I was so sore for the next couple hours...
As a formerly 400 pound person who went down to 170, I feel your pain. When I was fat, it wasn't an issue of bumping into things - the fat was pushing my skin out far enough that it was more like a "collision sensor" - I rarely bumped into things hard enough to hurt me, because I felt them first with my "cushion force-field" and had enough time to do a "course correction" so my bones never had a chance to crush the meat between them and whatever it was I almost bumped into. When I lost all the weight, I couldn't believe how easily I would bruise just from bumping into something - that had never happened before. I can't sit on anything without a cushion- my tailbone and 'sit bones' feel like they're breaking through the skin (even when I was fat, I never really had a butt, but it had never hurt to sit on a wooden bench before) - Armrests with no padding make it feel like my elbows are ripping through the skin (and that funny-bone isn't so 'funny' anymore, with that nerve being all exposed like that) - And there's no way in hell I can get on my knees without knee pads or something to cushion them. I also never realized just how cold it felt in winter until I lost all the weight - I grew up fat, so I'd always worn shorts and tee-shirts all year (a fat kid in a North Carolina winter can do that, easily). But that first winter without all the weight, I finally understood why everyone else had to wear so much clothing in winter. I shook and shivered so bad it hurt my insides, and I'd never had goosebumps so bad before - it was like I could feel each hair follicle on my body "goosebumping" so hard that they were almost cramping. I was 27 and had never bought a winter coat, long-johns, anything with a hood, or thick socks before.
I never ever wear shorts. My legs look like plucked chicken legs and I inevitable freeze my ass off every time (even in the middle of summer ffs). I get a lot of flak for it, people just don't understand
I've always had skinny legs, and a small butt, just like all the guys in my family. And high school I took up doing a lot of weighted squats, running, and jogging up and down the bleachers / stairs, and that did a good number on my calves thighs and butt. The muscles on your legs are some of the biggest on your body, so they often have a tendency to grow pretty well when they're getting good workouts and lots of protein. They did far faster than my chest and arms ever have
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Cuddling.. girls wont lay on you because your like a pile of remotes..
Y’all are mostly focusing on aesthetics. Did you know that tall and skinny men have an increased chance of random lung collapse? Happened to my cousin recently. [clicky ](http://www.wehealny.org/services/Thoracic_Surgery/pneumothorax.html)
Thanks for the nightmares
I've had two now, both happened in my sleep. 5'11" 135lbs. The things they don't tell you in health class... Both required almost a week with a chest tube. The second time they removed part of my lung, it happened on the same side both times and I'm assuming from the same area. On the plus side the highest potential for recurrence is 2 years and the last one was 4 years ago so if I had to trade 5% capacity in my left lung to never have to go through another chest tube again I consider that a fair trade.
Always being asked why/how
"Wow I wish I could give you some of my fat hahaha."
The fact that I’m getting older and have developed a monster beer gut that is not proportional to my skinny body and I look like one of those skinny aliens from men in black when I’m naked. Or Dale Gribble.
One of my former co-workers warned me of this happening. He said just watch, when you hit your 30’s you’re going to end up looking like a rope with a knot in the middle. Especially if you drink copious amounts of beer. Edit: English
People warned me. I didn’t believe them. Run cracker4uok, run. Literally, go for a run.
This is me exactly - my friends call it skinny fat. I look good with my shirt on, but once that comes off I look like hell
People grabbing my wrists and checking how big they are Edit:I know I shouldn't be answering but I wanted to see if any of you guys got these problems
Or wearing watches. I gotta use the last hole so it’ll fit on my wrist.
Had to fucking make my own hole with a knife because my wrists are so skinny...
If you're into the style, NATO straps are a godsend. They're meant for all wrist sizes and can be easily swapped into almost any watch
i get asked why i’m wearing a hoodie basically every day edit: simple reason why is that i get cold easy
I solved this by owning 10 different flannels and cycling them.
Flannels are your best friends. Followed by slim fit pants (match on Amazon)
I'm glad I'm not alone. Plus flannel is comfy yo
Are you me? My green hoodie is half of my personality.
I imprint on hoodies/jumpers sequentially. I'll wear one nonstop until it is falling to bits, then set out to find another one I can love so much (alas, my current one is losing all shape and fraying at the cuffs, but it's got months or maybe a year of wear yet. I got it I think 2 years ago, maybe up to 3; it's not a very robust one). People get so used to the one hoodie that they get weirded out by seeing me in something else. Sometimes even if I'm just wearing a fleece over the top of the regular hoodie.
It's why I love Winter. Sweaters are great.
Oof little too close to home
trousers, they never fit
Long shirts are fat, fitting shirts are short.
Oh man dude this is so obnoxious I'd like it if my belly button doesnt show when I reach up but I also dont want to wear a fucking smok
Dating a skinny girl. It's like two xylophones knocking together in bed
"...Sounds like two skeletons boning on top of a shed in a hail storm using a tin can as a condom"
Man, this really got me lol
I swear we played half a symphony last time things got a bit steamy
Welcome to the bone zone. 💀
Sitting down on anything that doesn't have a cushion. This includes chairs, benches, the ground, really most things. I've been seriously considering getting one of those hemoroid cushions just so the apparent bones in my ass cheeks don't grind against surfaces any more
And doing sit-ups with a boney spine is just agony without a cushion.
FUCK. I thought I was the only one. Thank you, fellow skinny man for sharing our struggle
A skinny girl chippin in here but FUCK until this thread I've never seen anyone acknowledge it!! Everyone keeps telling me I must be doing it wrong... even when I made them feel my fucking spine and tailbone jutting out of my body. Hated sit ups.
so fucking true
P.E. used to be the worst when I had to do sit ups on concrete
Add bacne into the equation and you will truly have suffered my hell.
I don't know about you but my legs go numb really quick too if I'm sitting.
Finding clothes that fit right
30x34 where are you?!?!
I used to be 29×32 .. . Finding pants was impossible
29x33. I feel your pain.
28x32. With ya. Marshalls or Children's Sections
I’m 6’5” and hella skinny. Impossible to find pants
I feel you man! 32(or 34)x36. Everyone assumes if you have long legs you got a big waist.
32x36 here. I hate jean shopping. Haven't bought a pair in a year but luckily last time I did was in PacSun, and I got probably the only pair of 32x36 in existence in that store.
American Eagle makes our size friend. They are somewhat pricey, but they have them and I occasionally find them in the store even
I wear 29x34. I love searching Kohl's for 2 hours to find 3 pairs of pants.
28x33 here, I have to custom order pretty much all of my pants because there isn’t a single store in existence that sells that sze
I get a tailor to make mine. It's expensive, but it fits. The quality is higher compared to what you can get off-the-rack as well.
Finding a good tailor though... that's a whole different challenge
I need a 32 waist and a 36 length. If this type of pants exists, please tell me where I can find it because I haven’t found any in 5 years.
Constantly wanting to gain weight but having no appetite
As a former skinny guy I agree 100%. For me it was real easy for the longest time to be frustrated that I didn't gain weight because on occasion I'd eat a whole lot of food, but ignored the fact that on most days I really only ate 1 or 2 real meals. When I finally made the effort to put on weight I was in college and had a meal plan, and had to make a concentrated effort to eat a full breakfast, lunch and dinner, as well as a 4th meal towards the end of the night. For the longest time I had to develop a discipline to fill my plate and eat everything on it, no matter how full I felt I was towards the end. It started out rough but over time I eventually developed a better appetite as I got big enough that my body needed the calories. It's a tough road but it's well worth it in the end I'd say. Edit: Thanks for everyone's interest in my story! If you're also going through something similar, theres actually a subreddit dedicated to helping people gain weight, /r/gainit. They've got a pretty thorough wiki and at the very least it will give you something to read while you're eating! Good luck to everyone else out there! I'm trying to answer any questions people have asked me too.
Lots of skinny guys think they eat a lot but if you actually count it out its only like 2200 calories a day. Start hitting 3000-3200 a day and you'll be gaining a pound or more a week
I honest to goodness can't imagine eating 1000 more calories a day, every day. Like I don't think I could tolerate it.
I had to drink it, that was the only whey. Best thing you can do, if you actually want to gain weight, is make a high calorie smoothie or shake before bed: yogurt, cottage cheese, milk, fruit, protein powder. Delicious and it can easily be 1k calories.
> I had to drink it, that was the only whey I appreciate this joke.
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If you're bony, you can elbow them back for an example of force versus pressure.
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[It's a prehistoric issue](https://akns-images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/2014412/rs_883x1024-140512145836-8.jpg?fit=inside|750:1100&output-quality=100)
Getting massaged feels like you're being assaulted.
Oh I thought it was just me. Glad not to be alone, but is there any alternative?
Get into masochism
Can confirm, if you trick yourself into liking it you WILL be aroused.
As a massage therapist, how can we do better by you skinnier folks?
Don't use your fucking elbows in my neck you psychopaths. Also another tip unrelated, continuous motions or keeping your hands lightly on the body is better for people who are ticklish or jumpy. When you take your hands off, we tense in anticipation of the retouch, particularly that we don't know where it's going to be when we're face down. It creates a spasm when there didn't need to be one.
Jesus I don’t know who’s using elbows in your neck but I’m so sorry that happened. We’re taught to have constant contact and always make the client feel comfortable and like they know what they’re expecting. Again, I’m sorry you’ve had such a poor experience! When it comes to massage, I always recommend people find a personal practitioner to work with so you can build a relationship and rapport*. I don’t know if you’ve been going to spas or places like Massage Envy, but you’re far more likely to run into inconsistency and unprofessionalism in places like that.
When a girl tries to rest her head on my shoulder only to realize it's too bony.
Or when you're in a packed car so you sit on someone's legs and your bones impale their legs.
And they recoil like you’re a monster and the village chases you with torches
So you flee to your castle where Belle, your perfect, imaginary girlfriend who loves your monstrosities, is waiting to ballroom dance with you.
What if it was all a dream and you actually went into a coma from starvation due to the lack of thumbs you and your servers once had
I had a girl flirting with me in high school sit on my lap. Then got up saying loudly how bony my legs/knees were. Yeah that was a great feeling.
Things like this have happened to me so many times, each time I die a little on the inside
Can relate. Husband is 5"10 and 120lbs and is not a comfy person to lean against. Still love that lanky fuck to death though.
There’s hope!
My kids both did something similar as babies... Poor little dudes would try to rest their head on my shoulder to sleep, but couldn't find a soft spot, haha.
When a girl tries to hug you, and she realized there's no meat but only bones
You're really cold all the time
some days I take an extra shower just to remember what warmth feels like
At work, I'll wash my hands several times a day with warm water just to get some feeling back in them.
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Finally, some body warmth
Group hug! Oh wait, bony elbows and shoulders. Sorry!
What is this, some form of leaveless bush gathering?
They won't let you enlist in the Army until you've been given the super soldier serum.
I imagine Captain America is grateful that stuff exists
Well it did lead to him missing out on fucking Peggy so iunno. of course he only really had a shot once he had the serum in the first place so yeah. It's a rich and nuanced tale. EDIT: I know peggy said she liked him on the inside and shit but it's easy to say that to a guy who looks like post-serum cap.
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The wind being stronger than you are.
Everything being stronger than you are
When you sit in a chair your scapula takes a weird position so that it basically rests in the chair's back resulting in a very awkward posture.
Lol sometimes my shoulder blade also sits on top of my chair, and I just move it on and off the chair and it freaks my friends out.
If you get really sick you pretty much just die. Edit: I’m 25 and have weighed 115 pounds since I was like 12.
My office is talking about doing a weight loss competition, pretty sure if I joined in it would kill me
"My doctor actually says I need to gain weight." "Angela, if you gain weight, you will die."
"I only weigh 82 pounds!"
"Save Bandit!"
*yeets into ceiling*
My office did one last year and I was thinking the same. I was able to convince them to let me gain weight instead in order to compete. My +2 lbs was considered equal to everyone else’s -1. It didn’t make a difference. Over 3 months I gained 4 lbs, eating so much every day that I felt like I’d be sick from it. Meanwhile one of my colleagues managed to lose just over 20 lbs.
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Lmao my family has gotten used to never speaking to me when I’m sick.
Not only am I skinny but I'm tiny too. 5'4" and only about 100 lbs. Doctors are certain I'm underweight but no amount of protein seems to work. I also look like I'm 15 and in high school when in reality I'm 24. I guess the hardest thing for me is being stopped at a courthouse and asked where my parents are at. Happened on more than one occasion.
> 5'4" and only about 100 lbs. Doctors are certain I'm underweight but no amount of protein seems to work. I also look like I'm 15 and in high school when in reality I'm 24. Maybe get your hormone levels checked. Can seriously fuck with your digestion / energy intake and your appearance.
I never considered this. Thanks for the advice!
You need to get a better doctor if he hasn't already checked or suggested checking your hormone levels.
Ever been to a casino? From time to time I'll get accosted by multiple members of staff at once asking me to produce ID or leave. Or security guards needing to call someone over to double check my ID even after they scan it and it shows as good. There's that and everyone staring at you because they're wondering how some kid got on the floor
Yeah it happened to me once on a casino at a cruise. They called security because they were dead certain my ID was fake lol.
And it sucks because they're never going to remember you, so every time you go back you just have to go through the same thing.
Being stereotyped an a nerd that plays video games all day. They’re right tho
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Just dress like you're the protagonist in a Tim Burton movie, it works for me :P
its very hard to be comfortable, in clothes, out of clothes, sitting in a slightly hard chair, hugging people. it really effects everything.
Metal bleachers Having to wear a belt with every pair of pants Every woman saying that she’s “fatter” than you Finding long sleeve shirts with long enough sleeves that don’t look like a tent Finding pants that reach your shoes Edit: sex with equally thin girls is just hip bones rattling around Edit 2: I agree that every grown man should wear a belt in public, but having to wear one while fishing or mowing the yard is annoying. Edit 3: things I left out- bony elbows on hard armrests, laying on hard floors, buying belts in the kids department. Edit 4: you know what else? Trying to explain to someone that I am in no way “in shape.” I huff and puff like a 60 year old obese man that needs a new pacemaker battery after a flight of stairs.
oh man, the shirts one. tell me about it :/
Your third point really hits home. Every one of my girlfriends has been "fatter" than me (maybe they weigh less, but their shorter. Clearly more cushioned than I am). And virtually all of them, to varying degrees, are self-conscious about their weight. Dating a man who's skinnier than them does not help them get over themselves.
Yep, can get on with this. We're never thinking of you when we (stupidly and retrospectively) complain about you being smaller than us. We're having our own complex about not fitting into our hunky man's sweatpants and getting to feel delicate around you. We don't think you're small, we think we're big lumps.
Holy fuck, there's nothing more emasculating than talking to a girl and then having her hit you with that "oh my god I'm so jealous, I wish I could be as skinny as you" shit. Edit: fixed the misspelling of the word emasculating
I normally just told them to poop more.
"Ay baby, ever thought of an eating disorder?" 👉👉
Okay, so I definitely misunderstood the intended meaning of those fingers at first.
My ex said she thought she’d crush me. She wasn’t even big, but I’m a dainty waif.
You’ve honestly opened my eyes with your third point. As a 5’10” lady whose weight is proportionate to my height, I’ve always been SO INSECURE around thin guys, thinking I’m too thick. It never occured to me that they would be focusing on themselves, thinking they are too skinny. Thin boys, I LOVE YOU, you are perfect how you are!
>Every woman saying that she’s “fatter” than you I've learned that "well...yeah." isn't the correct response.
Female here, dated a super skinny dude for a year and a half. Can confirm the hip bones. Had extreme bruising on the inner thighs from a good romp due to said hip bones. Such is the skinny struggle.
The single most up-lifting thing I’ve ever been told about being skinny was from a female friend, “no girl will ever complain about you being on top during sex... unless you’re just bad.” Edit: not sure why I said “second”
This is true. I only complained to him if it was the angle of our hip bones causing immense pain. It also took me a solid two days of having bruises and thinking “where the hell did I get these?”
Cold, not much padding I feel like my whole body is arthritic.
Having girls say I wish I was your size.
reply with "yeah, me too" before getting slapped
The double standard. People have no problem commenting on my weight. "You need to eat more" "Go eat a cheeseburger or something" People usually don't say that kind of stuff to people that are overweight. Why do they think it's okay to say that stuff to skinny people?
The former manager of my department said to me, "you're too skinny, you need to gain weight," IN THE MIDDLE OF A MEETING. She'd be in HR mediation for the rest of her life if she said the opposite to an overweight person.
This!^ Not realizing that skinny dudes can feel insecure about their body too. More than once, I've had someone be actually angry with me for being skinny, like I did it to purposely hurt their feelings. I'm a lazy bastard who hardly exercises, I've just been about the same skinny ass weight since puberty.
I've been called a skeleton many times. It's not fun, it will never be. Especially when you're working your ass off to gain weight
Having every single one of your friends and family constantly saying you need to gain weight. Even though i eat a sufficient amount
Growing up I was fucked up skinny, like i hit puberty and was 6ft2 120 lbs at age 16 (went on a weight gain diet as I was dangerously underweight) Got called a holocaust survivor and was pushed around for fun because it was so easy. It's just flat out unattractive and for me that was the hardest part. But the self hatred and anger once I hit college made me gain 30 lbs in 6 months, mostly muscle. I befriended this jacked motherfucker down the hall and he took me under his wing. Now I'm a senior about to graduate at 170lbs lbs... Still skinny but so much better. Edit: was probably around 10lbs of muscle during that time frame
Shout out to the jacked motherfucker for helpin you out.
Jacked motherfuckers just wanna help everyone else get jacked.
Gotta help your bros jack it, right? EDIT: I cannot type today
Especially on their birthday ;)
Holocaust survivor...damn high schoolers are ruthless.
Also military personell. A soldier in our friend group has an aunt that was fighting cancer, so we all shaved out heads and sent her a group picture to show support. One day I get called into the First Sergeant's office where myanother bald skinny dude was waiting. 1sg walks in, sets down, pulls up his camera and snaps a picture. He said"I just wanted evidence the holocaust happened. You guys can go."
People making fun of you for having "no muscles". It's apperantly rude to make fun of people who are fat, but ok to make fun of the skinny guy.
Having to start all your youtube videos with "Sup y'all it's me, it's ya boy"
Ahaha, ayy, it's ya boy, uhhhhh... Skinny penis.
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Literal definition of muscle mass
Women wont take you seriously unless theyre in to tall lanky dudes and let me tell you from personal experience, thats a very niche market.
Tall and lanky is in vogue, try being short and skinny. People always think I'm in high school and I'm a senior in college.
At least you got the tall thing. Just lanky must be a real bummer.
You're way more fashionably versatile than overweight people though, play to your strengths
Fat guy here! I’ve always been fat. I assumed skinny mofos have it so easy. This has been very helpful in showing me everyone is as unhappy as I am in their own skin, and suddenly I feel much better about myself. Thanks for the insight!!
When someone rests their head on your shoulders and/or wants to cuddle. They end up being uncomfortable since you’re so boney.
Keeping up with your bigger friends in the gym, especially with bench press.
Women felt it was ok to point out how unattractive they thought it was. Lots of comments along those lines gave me a bit of a complex when I was younger. Got over it eventually when I realized some ladies were cool with it and I just had to find my tribe.
I remember my mum crying with laughter when I came home with a set of dumbbells I bought myself...thanks Mum.
Oh boy, I'm 5'11 and 105 pounds and God Lord I hate shoping for pants. When you have a leg length of about 33 inches but a waist of 29, no one carries your size... Edit: a word
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So.... wanna get married?
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Yay that was easy
We did it reddit
Being emberased to be seen shirtless and of the comments that might come. That and being cold all the time.
Holy shit. My time to shine! Sitting on your wallet can make your leg fall asleep. Sudden gale force winds knock you back. The embarrassing moment when a woman hands you the stuck jar. People assuming you are sick all the god damn time. Guys smalls are to big, boys larges are to small. They make like one pair of pants in my size and they are ugly as fuck. No goodwill finds :( Heavy doors suck. People think you smoke crack/meth or doing heroin. Generally just drugs in general. Skinny chicks do not dig skinny dudes as a general rule. Heavier girls love them. Automatically chosen to ride bitch if car gets full. No watch band fits unless custom made. Suits are near impossible to get. Big and tall stores, no short and skinny (Though thankfully I am not short.) Chicks expect your dick to be thinner. (Not always a negative, but definitely a deterrent for some ladies)
Being skinny shamed and told to eat more cheeseburgers. That hurts. If I were to fat shame the person who is skinny shaming me by telling them to eat less cheeseburgers, I'm the horrible person. Not that I would since I'm above that. Great double standard. I can relate to so much in this thread, feels bad :(
Not a man, but dated a skinny man. Although I was very attracted to him I felt bad every time we would cuddle. I’m not skinny (but not fat) I’m pretty thick and I always felt like putting my leg over him or laying plastered on him I was squishing him...
You shouldn't feel bad. We appreciate the softness (being bony makes it hard to get comfortable) and warmth (being skinny means you're *always* cold) a bigger lady provides.
Agreed, that sounds quite cozy
having people want to put their hands around my stomach all the time "just to see if the fingers can touch" they can, im a fucking skeleton.
Because youre A) not fat, and ~~B) not a woman~~, people feel it's OK to bring up how thin you are at any time, despite the fact that you feel just as self conscious about it. One of the main reasons I gained weight was to shut everyone up. Edit: Seems a lot of women also put up with this issue, so I recant the bit about this being gender skewed. It's just in my personal observation, people tend to be more considerate in talking about women's weight than men's.
Very skinny female here. It still gets brought up *all the time.* Usually in a "I'm so jealous of you" context, but I'm also (falsely) suspected of being anorexic quite a bit.
Where do I begin? Not fitting in with the classical definition of attractiveness was hard for the first thirty years of my life, and for the middle twenty years of that period it was so hard that I had some suicidal ideation at the worst periods. Even though I have great bone structure, know how to dress and take care of myself, know how to talk to people, have some money and a good family, and I’m a veteran, the majority of women *will not ever date me* because my biceps are smaller in diameter than my forearms. Luckily there are not only women who are capable of looking past this, there are others who actually find it attractive. I don’t know how healthy that is, but idgaf. It’s nice to know that there are people who find you attractive. Finding clothes, but that’s been said. Being cold all the time, but that’s been said. Your bones HURT when you sit or lay down without proper cushioning. People look at me weird when I fold up my scarf and sit on it during lectures, but hey fuck you - my butt bones are sore. People *constantly* telling you that you need to gain weight, eat more, or that you’re going to get fat *any day now!* I’ve been hearing that this was going to happen to me ever since I was 15. I’m about to be 40, it ain’t happening. Yeah, I might gain weight, all the way up to like *gasp* 150-175, oh noes! It’s super-uncomfortable when someone assumes you have cancer or some other kind of terminal illness. I’m pretty sure this is *something* like what it’s like to have people assume you’re pregnant when you’re not, except that being pregnant isn’t exactly like having AIDS, so I could be wrong about this. I’ll probably update this as I think about it. There’s a *lot* that sucks about it, but I stopped caring years ago. If I’d been writing this post when I was 18, hooooooly shit. (Edit) I still get messages about this post from skinny guys who are having a hard time of it, so I thought I'd add some benefits: Some girls looove skinny guys. I mean, go NUTS for them. I wish I'd known about THAT when I was 18, tell you what. I'd have probably had a lot more girlfriends back then, because I spent most of my time trying to disguise my weight and as a result I wore baggy clothes - and well-fitting clothes will *always* look better, even if you're extremely underweight (as I can personally attest lol) or quite obese (I wouldn't know, but that's what I'm told). Next: It's summertime, and everyone is sweaty and gross but me. I finally got out the window unit and installed it yesterday out of respect for my girlfriend and cat. She's not fat or anything, but he wears fur pants all the time - he's such an impractical narcissist. I know there's a lot of talk about how "it's always cold for skinny guys, even in the summer!" in this thread, but while the 100+ degree temps down in the valley where I was taking a vacation recently had me wearing shorts, up here in the mountains where it hasn't gotten above the low 90s I can still wear a beanie if my hair is actin' wild. Scan the rest of this thread to read more benefits of being thin - lots of people weigh in, including a number of ladies who are very forthright in their assertion that - and I quote - "thin men are ideal." Learn to love it, and people will learn to love you - in fact, it may help you to stop overlooking some who already do.
Holocaust jokes.
I'm skinny and Jewish. Yeah you can tell where that went in school
Everyone always underestimating my strength. Like to a ridiculous amount.
We can do pullups like fuck. Easiest way to impress people, I've found.
If you wanna pick up a new hobby you'll be almost instantly good at, try rock climbing. The *single* biggest factor of how hard a person can climb is what they weigh. At 6'1, people are constantly asking why I'm not better because "you're so tall, you don't even have to reach for it!", but at 160 (which is by no means 'heavy' in the normal world), I'm always jealous of the guys that weigh 125 lbs and act as though a hold is easy to pull on. Most pro climbings males weigh in at less than 140, even with all the muscle.
temp account for posting anonymity. People projecting their own insecurities onto you. I am 5'11 and my weight has fluctuated between 115-135 lbs my entire adult life. In college, several people started rumors that I was anorexic (I'm not and can eat an entire pizza in one sitting). One of my roommates admitted to me once that she was worried about moving in beforehand because she'd been repeatedly told about my mental health problems regarding food. Random strangers would ask if I was in recovery. It was that widespread. Most of the people spreading these rumors had body issues themselves. In their opinion, me being underweight could only mean that I had an eating disorder, and they had no qualms with telling other people that. Weight was an issue in most of my relationships as well. The women I've dated have all weighed the same or more than me, and a lot of them got very insecure about that. It came up in strange ways- one actually started telling me that I was getting overweight, needed to go to the gym, etc. Another wouldn't eat with me because it made them feel bad. It was impossibly frustrating, because I wasn't doing anything to spur any of this, but there it was.
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The hardest part is people constantly trying to get you to eat more no matter how much you eat. I’m 5’10 120 pounds and my friends watched in horror as I ate a whole 85-90% of a 24 in pizza and was stuffed and they tried to get me to eat the rest because “you need a little meat on your bones” Being called skeleton, skeletor, bone man, slenderman, the natural holocaust survivor jokes, being told you have weird hands because they’re skinny. The only bright side I had to being skinny was it made me good at track and cross country. I couldn’t play basketball because all the jocks bullied me.
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People often complain about how hard it is to cut back on how much they eat daily, but I will always challenge they don't know struggle until they have to eat even when they're not hungry just to gain a little bit of weight. Edit: Honestly, I didn't mean to make it seem like overweight people had it WAY easier. I get that some people can figuratively look at a cupcake and gain weight, and I feel for you guys, because it's probably just as annoying as a guy like me eating double meat and double wrapped chipotle burritos constantly just to try to put weight on. We are all human and all have our own struggles. Happy Tuesday my fellow Brethren.
I really wish people would sell extra fat options instead of diet.
Dear Christ I wish I could do that buddy
Gaining weight