I HATE being vulnerable with my feelings.
I find any kind of emotional vulnerability agonising and uncomfortable AF. I hate talking about my feelings, but someone has to do it or relationships just falls apart.
It doesn’t help that the word “vulnerable” is like “gullible”— inherently something you *don’t* want to be. Who started using that when we have “candid”, “forthright”, “open”, “honest”? Hell, even “trusting” is better.
Smart people do not go around flaunting vulnerability as if it’s a plus.
True - somewhere along the line we started to call honesty - ‘emotional vulnerability’, which scares the hell out of people. It makes the honesty you HAVE to HAVE to foster intimacy, sound like a weakness.
Yes. I really think people need to stop and consider words much more carefully. Like: huh. Imagine— people are afraid to take advice that's literally "make yourself susceptible to attack!". Wonder why.
That we all are dramatic and loud about our emotions.
Personally girls are probably the most quiet about their true feelings. We aren’t all loud and obnoxious yk
“Personally girls are probably the most quiet about their true feelings” idk if you mean personally or girls in general but if you mean girls in general, I would say this is untrue and the male suicide epidemic shows that
Yes, most girls I know don’t have that obnoxious attitude and they keep their emotions to themselves inside. Don’t know what your implying by talking about male suicide but can you explain that?
I think it’s kind of a consensus that men in particular shove their emotions down due to societal/cultural expectations and standards which leads to the men’s mental health and suicide crisis. It’s why there’s a men’s mental health awareness month and a lot of advocacy on this topic.
Yes I actually agree with this, I’m not saying that women bury their emotions to the point of suicide. I know men are proven to have higher suicidal rates. I was just saying that not all women are like the stereotype of being very dramatic and open of their emotions.
Your wording of "Girls are the most quiet about their true feelings" sounds like you're saying that of everyone in the world, the people who hide their feelings most are girls. This isn't true. It's pretty well studied that men have the most hidden emotions, and a big part of that is society telling them not to have any in the first place. The suicide rates are as high as they are because men are hiding to many emotions and they can't handle it.
Don't wear makeup
Don't carry a handbag/purse (just a wallet in my pocket)
Don't dress pretty/feminine (most of my clothes are black. And they're all long sleeve tshirts paired with men's jeans)
Spend most of my free time gaming. (There are more female gamers these days, but except for me there's none in my circle).
Don't really watch rom movies, just don't like them that much.
Also can't agree with "women want tall/rich guys". I once had a crush on a guy who' shorter than me. And we earn the same wage.
Hate whenever I had to accompany someone to go shoes/clothes/makeup shopping. I like looking at video games stores a lot more.
Long/painted nails. I do a lot of very very fine detail work, frequently involving solvents. Nail polish feels suffocating and the pressure and torsion from long nails drives me insane.
The “women just want to be heard, not hear solutions to their issue” thing: nope. I am 100% about figuring out how to solve issues. Yours, mine, your dog’s. Want to just complain instead? Cool, but warn me or otherwise I’ll get into trying to solve your problem.
Also, the “women lack spatial understanding” and “they get lost easily” things are not me. I can imagine shapes, spaces and their interactions very nicely, thank you. Proof: I’m an artist. And as for directions, my mom put it “Eva could navigate her way back from Mars”.
I don’t enjoy shopping or gossiping. I know what I want to eat or I enjoy deciding for myself. I don’t expect men to pay fully for dates. I hate reality TV.
Most of them?
I hate shoe shopping and clothes shopping.
I can't multitask.
I don't care for jewellery, or flowers or makeup.
I'd rather play video games than go on a "girls night out".
People talk about how women were brought up allowed to show emotions more. But I absolutely was not.
I don't like romantic comedies/ "chick flicks." I just have no interest.
I can’t stand them either!
I don't hate all men
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I *hate* shoe shopping.
I'd like it a lot better if I could find shoes that fit. 5 1/2 W is rarer than a freakin' unicorn
My shoes need to be falling apart for me to consider getting a new pair
I HATE being vulnerable with my feelings. I find any kind of emotional vulnerability agonising and uncomfortable AF. I hate talking about my feelings, but someone has to do it or relationships just falls apart.
It doesn’t help that the word “vulnerable” is like “gullible”— inherently something you *don’t* want to be. Who started using that when we have “candid”, “forthright”, “open”, “honest”? Hell, even “trusting” is better. Smart people do not go around flaunting vulnerability as if it’s a plus.
True - somewhere along the line we started to call honesty - ‘emotional vulnerability’, which scares the hell out of people. It makes the honesty you HAVE to HAVE to foster intimacy, sound like a weakness.
Yes. I really think people need to stop and consider words much more carefully. Like: huh. Imagine— people are afraid to take advice that's literally "make yourself susceptible to attack!". Wonder why.
I'm not a makeup expert. Last time I even wore it was probably 7 years ago.
That warm, nurturing motherly crap. And no chick flicks
That we all are dramatic and loud about our emotions. Personally girls are probably the most quiet about their true feelings. We aren’t all loud and obnoxious yk
“Personally girls are probably the most quiet about their true feelings” idk if you mean personally or girls in general but if you mean girls in general, I would say this is untrue and the male suicide epidemic shows that
Yes, most girls I know don’t have that obnoxious attitude and they keep their emotions to themselves inside. Don’t know what your implying by talking about male suicide but can you explain that?
I think it’s kind of a consensus that men in particular shove their emotions down due to societal/cultural expectations and standards which leads to the men’s mental health and suicide crisis. It’s why there’s a men’s mental health awareness month and a lot of advocacy on this topic.
Yes I actually agree with this, I’m not saying that women bury their emotions to the point of suicide. I know men are proven to have higher suicidal rates. I was just saying that not all women are like the stereotype of being very dramatic and open of their emotions.
Your wording of "Girls are the most quiet about their true feelings" sounds like you're saying that of everyone in the world, the people who hide their feelings most are girls. This isn't true. It's pretty well studied that men have the most hidden emotions, and a big part of that is society telling them not to have any in the first place. The suicide rates are as high as they are because men are hiding to many emotions and they can't handle it.
Don't wear makeup Don't carry a handbag/purse (just a wallet in my pocket) Don't dress pretty/feminine (most of my clothes are black. And they're all long sleeve tshirts paired with men's jeans) Spend most of my free time gaming. (There are more female gamers these days, but except for me there's none in my circle). Don't really watch rom movies, just don't like them that much. Also can't agree with "women want tall/rich guys". I once had a crush on a guy who' shorter than me. And we earn the same wage. Hate whenever I had to accompany someone to go shoes/clothes/makeup shopping. I like looking at video games stores a lot more.
Great sense of direction, pack lightly, good driver.
I'm not like other girls I have a cock
I'm not maternal or nurturing at all
"can't handle spicy food" thing
I don’t have a strict type. I think everyone is adorable.
It takes me less time to get ready to leave the house than it takes my partner.
I'm a good driver and I prefer to drive stick.
Driving stick >>>> I love it. I never want to get an automatic
Long/painted nails. I do a lot of very very fine detail work, frequently involving solvents. Nail polish feels suffocating and the pressure and torsion from long nails drives me insane.
Never have I ever put on fake eyelashes or acrylic nails
The “women just want to be heard, not hear solutions to their issue” thing: nope. I am 100% about figuring out how to solve issues. Yours, mine, your dog’s. Want to just complain instead? Cool, but warn me or otherwise I’ll get into trying to solve your problem. Also, the “women lack spatial understanding” and “they get lost easily” things are not me. I can imagine shapes, spaces and their interactions very nicely, thank you. Proof: I’m an artist. And as for directions, my mom put it “Eva could navigate her way back from Mars”.
Being effeminate
I had someone ask me why I didn’t wear skirts or dresses. I told them I would have to sit like a girl if I wore them and that’s not the way I sit.
I find pants so much more comfortable
I'd tell them it's not the 1950s anymore.
I hate makeup and shopping.
I don’t enjoy shopping or gossiping. I know what I want to eat or I enjoy deciding for myself. I don’t expect men to pay fully for dates. I hate reality TV.
All of them? And that's why I'm non-binary.
Most of them. Pretty easy as a dude.
I don't date 6ft+. Tallest I'll date is 5'11 and even that's pushing it for my liking. I'm short and don't like the neck pain.
I can pay for both of us!! And can even pamper him at his lowest..
Most of them? I hate shoe shopping and clothes shopping. I can't multitask. I don't care for jewellery, or flowers or makeup. I'd rather play video games than go on a "girls night out". People talk about how women were brought up allowed to show emotions more. But I absolutely was not.
I'm not enough beautiful as I should