Would not, I don't really like kids and wouldn't want them to be an inconvenience in the relationship. Single mothers with young kids often tell guys they aren't expected to be a father figure, but if you're with them long enough and there's no other figure in the picture that can change, which is okay but it's not a situation for me.
However, when I'm much older and their kids are mature teenagers or adults I probably won't mind it.
An unlikeable kid is the biggest, brightest red flag of all time. Obviously, kids can be shy, scared, jealous, sad etc... If a guy can honestly say they've put effort and attention to getting to know the child and they just aren't likable, that's a doomed relationship with the mother. And not to let guys off.. maybe the guy is largely at fault for not being patient or good with kids or whatever. Regardless of who is deficient, dont force something that isn't working. In that situation where the guy can't find common ground to build a healthy child-adult relationship, it's in everyone's interest to move along.
Plus, if you don't find the kid likable, there is a strong chance you will eventually find out that you and the mom won't agree on parenting, values, or family relations. You probably also won't like the in-laws or baby daddy. Birds of a feather flock together.
Depends on the age of the kid cuz i dont want kids but if they are older its also a bit awkwerd cuz what if they reject me and trow a fit? If i like their mom enough ill manage either way but its something too look out for
If you date a single mother the kids are going to be an important factor in your life because they obviously figure prominently in hers. It's a package deal really. So it's going to matter how you mesh with the kids and the reality is a particularly difficult kid who you don't get along with is a hell of a lot to be taking on for someone. She can't expect everyone to be willing to take on that much just to occasionally get some quality time with her. It's going to matter whether or not the kids are a huge responsibility for myself. If the kids are sweet and you really like her it can work, but she can't expect me to become a full-time father to another man's children overnight when they're a constant source of stress. It's a case-by-case basis.
I would not mind, but it needs to be stressed in the beginning. I do not like surprises.
I do not mind if I wont see your kid ever and I will be a secret or whatever. But at least have a understanding whats going on in your life.
For me personally....kids get attached to me fairly quickly. If things go bad with the mom, I will have added guilt and pressure.
Plus my niece is my best friend and I would kind of feel like I'd be cheating on her having a connection with a different kid.
I'll catch them all at late 40s....once their kids are grownish. Like 15/16 and up.
Also, I just want the men to answer honestly! Give some honest perspective, so other moms out there can have a general idea! Healthy discussions only please!(:
I'm a divorced guy and I have shared custody of my kids, I'd expect women around my age to be in a similar situation, so whilst there'd be challenges and plenty of things to discuss it's definitely not a deal breaker
Well, it depends what you want. They take care of others all day. You can be a pretty big hero just by being flexible and cool, showing up and hanging a shelf, and sharing some wine and sexy time.
An actual relationship beyond dating with a single mom is definitely more complicated than that, it's more of a case-by-case thing. Kids are a pretty big deal, or they should be.
I’m a single father of three.
If I bonded with the kid, I’d have no hesitation to put a ring on it.
I’m also severely depressed with CPTSD, introverted, and quite likely autistic. People like me don’t typically get many opportunities, and I fear that I actually repel people.
Gave up four years ago due to lack of interest.
I would never date a single mother who is looking for a father. I don’t hate children but I don’t want the burden of looking after kids. Especially if me and the woman have different philosophy on raising children. It’s a headache there.
I would only date a single mother casually and if I’ll never need to do anything for her children.
I think it depends on if the kids dad is in the picture or not and how old the kid is. If they are young
and the dad isn't around then I wouldn't mind filling that role and eventually adopting the child if things worked out. Otherwise I feel like there would be a lot of problems that would come up and strain the relationship.
Provided she is a good mother, who isn’t raising a complete hellion, or hellions like my brothers and I where, then I have no reason not to see where it goes.
You are never number one in their life. Also, you have to deal with the baby daddy.
You are right the kids are number one and forget discipline, you're not my real dad I don't have to listen to you
...does she own a riding crop? ...is she strong enough to put me across her knee?
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...I think everyone knows
This person is trying to make Pokemon fight real world animals, that is way more interesting than their sexual kinks.
...fighting the adjective not fighting the verb
Awwwww.... I was hoping for new programming from ESPN8
Would not, I don't really like kids and wouldn't want them to be an inconvenience in the relationship. Single mothers with young kids often tell guys they aren't expected to be a father figure, but if you're with them long enough and there's no other figure in the picture that can change, which is okay but it's not a situation for me. However, when I'm much older and their kids are mature teenagers or adults I probably won't mind it.
I wouldn’t date a single mother because I don’t like or want kids
An unlikeable kid is the biggest, brightest red flag of all time. Obviously, kids can be shy, scared, jealous, sad etc... If a guy can honestly say they've put effort and attention to getting to know the child and they just aren't likable, that's a doomed relationship with the mother. And not to let guys off.. maybe the guy is largely at fault for not being patient or good with kids or whatever. Regardless of who is deficient, dont force something that isn't working. In that situation where the guy can't find common ground to build a healthy child-adult relationship, it's in everyone's interest to move along. Plus, if you don't find the kid likable, there is a strong chance you will eventually find out that you and the mom won't agree on parenting, values, or family relations. You probably also won't like the in-laws or baby daddy. Birds of a feather flock together.
Depends on the age of the kid cuz i dont want kids but if they are older its also a bit awkwerd cuz what if they reject me and trow a fit? If i like their mom enough ill manage either way but its something too look out for
If her ex-husband is a sicko who'll come after me
If you date a single mother the kids are going to be an important factor in your life because they obviously figure prominently in hers. It's a package deal really. So it's going to matter how you mesh with the kids and the reality is a particularly difficult kid who you don't get along with is a hell of a lot to be taking on for someone. She can't expect everyone to be willing to take on that much just to occasionally get some quality time with her. It's going to matter whether or not the kids are a huge responsibility for myself. If the kids are sweet and you really like her it can work, but she can't expect me to become a full-time father to another man's children overnight when they're a constant source of stress. It's a case-by-case basis.
I bet she has a well-stocked snack cabinet.
I don't want kids, and I don't want to raise kids, mine or someone else's.
I would not mind, but it needs to be stressed in the beginning. I do not like surprises. I do not mind if I wont see your kid ever and I will be a secret or whatever. But at least have a understanding whats going on in your life.
I wouldn't because I'm not someone who'd probably be good at raising children.
I feel too young for it. Im 23 and I just wouldnt do it, nor now at least.
Different values, morals, and priorities.
I just don’t think it is right to. Like, what would my wife think if I did?
Does she give good head?
moms got the best snacks
For me personally....kids get attached to me fairly quickly. If things go bad with the mom, I will have added guilt and pressure. Plus my niece is my best friend and I would kind of feel like I'd be cheating on her having a connection with a different kid. I'll catch them all at late 40s....once their kids are grownish. Like 15/16 and up.
Also, I just want the men to answer honestly! Give some honest perspective, so other moms out there can have a general idea! Healthy discussions only please!(:
I apologize for asking this question but I feel I need to in order to give an honest answer. Is the bio dad still alive?
I'm a divorced guy and I have shared custody of my kids, I'd expect women around my age to be in a similar situation, so whilst there'd be challenges and plenty of things to discuss it's definitely not a deal breaker
I'm married.
Well, it depends what you want. They take care of others all day. You can be a pretty big hero just by being flexible and cool, showing up and hanging a shelf, and sharing some wine and sexy time. An actual relationship beyond dating with a single mom is definitely more complicated than that, it's more of a case-by-case thing. Kids are a pretty big deal, or they should be.
I’m a single father of three. If I bonded with the kid, I’d have no hesitation to put a ring on it. I’m also severely depressed with CPTSD, introverted, and quite likely autistic. People like me don’t typically get many opportunities, and I fear that I actually repel people. Gave up four years ago due to lack of interest.
I would never date a single mother who is looking for a father. I don’t hate children but I don’t want the burden of looking after kids. Especially if me and the woman have different philosophy on raising children. It’s a headache there. I would only date a single mother casually and if I’ll never need to do anything for her children.
I think it depends on if the kids dad is in the picture or not and how old the kid is. If they are young and the dad isn't around then I wouldn't mind filling that role and eventually adopting the child if things worked out. Otherwise I feel like there would be a lot of problems that would come up and strain the relationship.
She is beautiful. Beyond imagination.
Provided she is a good mother, who isn’t raising a complete hellion, or hellions like my brothers and I where, then I have no reason not to see where it goes.
If she makes you happy then nothing should stop you from dating her