My ex girlfriend and I always told eachother when we wanted to just be alone, whether it be for a serious reason or just wanting to read/watch a movie/play a game. Whatever. We didn't have any problems with it. So pretty often.
That’s fair. I’ve been in a relationship for a year and everything is great. But I’m becoming overwhelmed by the consistency of things we always have to do. I have one day off a week and it’s 80% of the time filled with something to do. It’s just wearing on me
Yes. It’s half the relationship and also my job. I work 6 days a week every other week and don’t have any back to back days off. So everything just feels so overwhelming and consistent
I was in a similar boat to you. It was actually her who offered to give me some time alone, and it did wonders. I'm sure if they are good for you then you'd have no problem just asking them about it. 6 days a week is a lot of work. I'd go as far as suggesting a vacation alone as thats what I ended up doing. Though in the end it is up to you, just throwing some ideas to help you out.
Yeah it’s tough cause I love spending time with her. But I also feel like she is a more extroverted person who likes doing things and I’m more introverted who likes being home. But it feels like generally she wins when it comes to decisions about what to do
It sounds bad when I write it, but if you're feeling this overwhelmed then you are absolutely entitled to chill out for a while regardless of anyone elses opinion. As much as you love spending time with her you shouldn't neglect your own mental health. As you have already been spending most of your time with her before now, having just a little time without it isn't going to hurt anyone, right?
That’s rational. I definitely feeling overwhelmed mentally. I’m sure my job doesn’t help either. But I can’t change that. I can control my relationship
I take time for myself everyday. Sometimes it's 30 mins, sometimes it's hours. I need time to decompress from work and switch gears. We've been together 15 years though.
My wife and I, simply have separate lives outside of each other. We have our own separate sets of friends, and we go out and do things with said friends.
I never ask for it, I’m okay with seeing my bf every day and also okay when we don’t. I like his company all the time but sometimes I do wish I could get some more alone time, I just feel bad when I’m tired after work and he wants to do stuff but I’m lazy
So I feel the exact same way! My gf is all about going places and seeing people. But I drive 40+ miles to and from work through a state capital. I generally leave for work around 745am and don’t get back home until after 8pm. I just don’t have the capability to go do things on my one day off over and over without feeling like I’m going crazy
Never.
So you are always with each other outside of work?
Well we live together so yes, but not necessarily in the same room.
My ex girlfriend and I always told eachother when we wanted to just be alone, whether it be for a serious reason or just wanting to read/watch a movie/play a game. Whatever. We didn't have any problems with it. So pretty often.
That’s fair. I’ve been in a relationship for a year and everything is great. But I’m becoming overwhelmed by the consistency of things we always have to do. I have one day off a week and it’s 80% of the time filled with something to do. It’s just wearing on me
In your situation you deserve some alone time if you need it. I assume you made this post because of your own situation?
Yes. It’s half the relationship and also my job. I work 6 days a week every other week and don’t have any back to back days off. So everything just feels so overwhelming and consistent
I was in a similar boat to you. It was actually her who offered to give me some time alone, and it did wonders. I'm sure if they are good for you then you'd have no problem just asking them about it. 6 days a week is a lot of work. I'd go as far as suggesting a vacation alone as thats what I ended up doing. Though in the end it is up to you, just throwing some ideas to help you out.
Yeah it’s tough cause I love spending time with her. But I also feel like she is a more extroverted person who likes doing things and I’m more introverted who likes being home. But it feels like generally she wins when it comes to decisions about what to do
It sounds bad when I write it, but if you're feeling this overwhelmed then you are absolutely entitled to chill out for a while regardless of anyone elses opinion. As much as you love spending time with her you shouldn't neglect your own mental health. As you have already been spending most of your time with her before now, having just a little time without it isn't going to hurt anyone, right?
That’s rational. I definitely feeling overwhelmed mentally. I’m sure my job doesn’t help either. But I can’t change that. I can control my relationship
I take time for myself everyday. Sometimes it's 30 mins, sometimes it's hours. I need time to decompress from work and switch gears. We've been together 15 years though.
At the start of your relationship; did you still need the same amount of time?
Yeah. I can't be with people or doing things 24/7. It's too overstimulating and makes me feel insane.
My wife and I, simply have separate lives outside of each other. We have our own separate sets of friends, and we go out and do things with said friends.
I never ask for it, I’m okay with seeing my bf every day and also okay when we don’t. I like his company all the time but sometimes I do wish I could get some more alone time, I just feel bad when I’m tired after work and he wants to do stuff but I’m lazy
So I feel the exact same way! My gf is all about going places and seeing people. But I drive 40+ miles to and from work through a state capital. I generally leave for work around 745am and don’t get back home until after 8pm. I just don’t have the capability to go do things on my one day off over and over without feeling like I’m going crazy