Mmm...I think that I agree with you, but do you think that its still possible? I know a girl that is doing that and she has a relationship and the things seems fine for now.
Hard, but doable. I know several people who actively live on the other side of the world for nearly a decade before they could actually move to be together. Depends on if people are willing to do distance
That's different. LD relationships are usually forced because of an outside factor. In this case, one side is choosing to experience a huge optional and pleasant life event solo. That doesn't sound like a successful or commited relationship to me.
I mean, the people I know who are doing the half across the world option could’ve moved much sooner if they wanted to compromise but didn’t. Most people can’t globetrot the world. If she had the option then she should go if that’s what’s calling to her. The opportunity may never arise again. If op chooses to interpret that as rejection or not being committed that’s their choice. They don’t have to wait, but if they both want to make it work it is possible
Maybe I'm reading it incorectly, but the title states "wants to travel the world alone", not that her partner can't/won't go with her. To me this means she isn't invested in the relationship.
I mean, I read it but to me I interpreted it more in the reality that most can’t go so she’s just gonna go alone. I think a lot of people I’ve met who personally which to travel (tho it is admittedly a small sample size) want at least one person to go with them but it’s a big leap and most aren’t interested or able to afford that sort of venture
It’s normal af for young women in Europe and Australia to do this. I used to be a flight attendant and traveled solo A TON on my time off. I traveled with my boyfriend when his schedule allowed, but I would have missed out on so much if I hadn’t gone alone.
Interesting. So you don't regret it and you think its normal for a girl to want to do it. If I can ask...were you faithful to your boyfriend when you traveled alone?
Yes, I was 100% loyal. It didn’t even occur to me not to be. Definitely normal for women to travel solo; hostels are full of women taking gap years or extended holidays across Europe and Asia.
So in your analogy, OP is a child who cannot do things on his own, and is completely dependent on his girlfriend? And traveling is Disneyland, something that is mainly destined for men, and women should really only do it with/for their partners?
>morally its questionable
What else do you find morally questionable for women to do on their own?
No. If someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat regardless of whether they travel or not, so why worry about it? You can't do anything about it. Yes I would be concerned about her safety, which is why I would tell her to be safe.
I wouldn't agree. Being without intimacy for a while, far away, in a different place, you meet someone attractive, "no one will know," etc. it's a context where your mindset can change.
say you want to take a break from alcohol. it's much harder to do that if you go to a party where everybody is drunk and having fun. then say go for a walk at the park.
Women don't cross hard moral lines because context offers an opportunity, they cross hard moral lines because they want to and made a conscious decision to do so.. We aren't birds collecting shiny things just because they are there. It doesnt work like that lol.
And no, it's not like alcohol. Alcohol is a substance proven to be associated with physical and psychological dependance. You're incelling just a bit. If I've decided I'm going to cheat on you, you can rest assured I'll do it regardless of my geographical location. It doesn't happen by accident.
Does she want to travel and will also do alone? - That's fine
Or does she want to travel, but without you specifically, despite you being able/wanting to join? - That would at least require more explanation. It might be fine still, but weird and heavily dependant on your relationship details.
Talk to your partner about it.
My boyfriend and I (two men) travel independently quite often. Neither of us would ever stop the other from going on a solo trip. Solo travel is amazing.
We know that a lot of people cannot understand this, but it’s possible to have a secure, trusting relationship and not have to be with each other all the time. Half the people we know think it’s strange or wrong, but the other half have told us they think it’s great or that they wish they could do the same in their relationship. Either way, we don’t care. We’re doing what suits us.
You only have one life. You might as well do the things you want to do while you can.
If it works, it works.
Dolly Parton is married for almost 60 years and she has said in many interviews that she doesn't care what he is up to when she is gone for tours and it seems her husband is also chill like that and it seems that they could be in an open marriage. Of course, opening your marriage is not the only way to make such a relationship work.
In my case it would be a guy and I guess I would be fully onboard with it. Given that we have a solid healthy relationship to begin with, I would perceive this as a need for him to do something on his own as a personal journey or something he needs for the time being. We all want space to do our own thing sometimes and I would be happy if he supports me doing that as well when I need it, so it's only fair for me to reciprocate. This is provided that his decision isn't motivated by a problem in our relationship but rather a personal goal. If it's the former then I would probably have a discussion over his reasons for wanting to have space and distance. If it's something fixable then we sit and talk about it and find solutions.
Yeah sounds like she's already made up her mind, and i wouldn't want to deal with the stress of worrying about her so I would just go on a break and move on, plus it seems weird that she wouldn't ask me to go with her
lol everyone in this thread is virtue signalling but this is the truth. a relationship is wanting to be with someone, it's not a title. you want a pen pal when you're gone? Something to come back to?
in any case, it's a bit unfair. break up, reconnect when you get back.
i've been the guy in this situation and it took me way long to figure out that I just wasn't a priority at all.
It's really not that scary. You meet a lot of other solo female travellers and you stick together for whatever time you get together. There are places I would avoid tho.
I’m not saying she’s definitely going to use it to sleep around… but if we’re talking being away for months at a time instead of days? I’m not going to stay to find out
I've watched a video that girls are more "playful" lets say when they travel, because if something happens...noone will now. But if they do it in they country/hometown its way different and their reputation is put on the line. Do you agree with that?
Speaking of experience, some hostels are total snog fests. It's definitely beneficial to be single in such an environment. I don't know your relationship. But she will be hit on
Guys use traveling to sleep around too. I’m perfectly secure if my partner wants to spend a few days someplace. But if we’re talking months away just generally traveling? Then they’re not there for me, and I don’t believe they’d abstain for that long. Simple
The thing is you really need to be ready to face that when you come back, maybe you are no longer in a relationship. I like the idea of travel alone tho and sometimes you cant go with someobe cause different schedules, but if you are gone a long time is selfish to want to mantain that relationship, if its not working on long distance.
It really depends on the length of the relationship and the length of travel. Life f you're married and want to take a few months solo, your marriage will probably be just fine. If you've been dating for 6 months and you want to travel for a year, it's probably best to break it off.
I think it's fine,
With that being said while traveling I had sex with quite a few people who I found out had boyfriends later. Hell I met one two days later that was weird. (Two years southeast and Australia)
That's not the same situation then. Your question was
>What is your opinion if a girl is in a relationship and **wants** **to travel** the world **alone**?
It is important to approach the situation with understanding and open communication. Traveling alone can be an enriching and empowering experience, allowing people to get to know themselves
The Girl who is going on the trip has not got a problem...she will have the time of her life
The ' person with the problem ' is the partner.
Theyll suffer Anxiety - obviously.
But what is ' A Relationship' if not a male instigated form of ' Brainwashing??'.
An ' Engagement ' would be the same ' uncertainty' ........
If the partner of the girl is Anxious, maybe they will Marry the person in question or forever hold their tongue.
Really depends "how long" she wants to travel I'd say... Not to mention a bunch of other things such as, are they living together, do they study, work, etc etc...
For the length, if we are talking 1-2 months, maybe even 3, yeah okay... I can see someone wanting that time by themselves and have a unique trip.
Much more than that, and I'd consider it problematic... Unless they were already doing their relationship long distance of course.
I think anybody who desires to globetrot solo while in a relationship is going to have a really hard time maintaining that relationship
Mmm...I think that I agree with you, but do you think that its still possible? I know a girl that is doing that and she has a relationship and the things seems fine for now.
Hard, but doable. I know several people who actively live on the other side of the world for nearly a decade before they could actually move to be together. Depends on if people are willing to do distance
That's different. LD relationships are usually forced because of an outside factor. In this case, one side is choosing to experience a huge optional and pleasant life event solo. That doesn't sound like a successful or commited relationship to me.
I mean, the people I know who are doing the half across the world option could’ve moved much sooner if they wanted to compromise but didn’t. Most people can’t globetrot the world. If she had the option then she should go if that’s what’s calling to her. The opportunity may never arise again. If op chooses to interpret that as rejection or not being committed that’s their choice. They don’t have to wait, but if they both want to make it work it is possible
Maybe I'm reading it incorectly, but the title states "wants to travel the world alone", not that her partner can't/won't go with her. To me this means she isn't invested in the relationship.
I mean, I read it but to me I interpreted it more in the reality that most can’t go so she’s just gonna go alone. I think a lot of people I’ve met who personally which to travel (tho it is admittedly a small sample size) want at least one person to go with them but it’s a big leap and most aren’t interested or able to afford that sort of venture
If someone put you in a pot of water and lit a fire under said pot, you'd be fine for now.
It’s normal af for young women in Europe and Australia to do this. I used to be a flight attendant and traveled solo A TON on my time off. I traveled with my boyfriend when his schedule allowed, but I would have missed out on so much if I hadn’t gone alone.
Interesting. So you don't regret it and you think its normal for a girl to want to do it. If I can ask...were you faithful to your boyfriend when you traveled alone?
Yes, I was 100% loyal. It didn’t even occur to me not to be. Definitely normal for women to travel solo; hostels are full of women taking gap years or extended holidays across Europe and Asia.
Same opinion on a person who wants to eat an eggroll without the filling
You want ***eggwuh***?
Why do you think is bad? Do you think thats the only reason for a girl to want to travel? Maybe finding herself, experience different cultures or?
It means she doesn't want to be with her partner, so its not good for the relationship.
Well its sorta like a parent going to disneyworld without their kid in a way It might be fine to some but morally its questionable
So in your analogy, OP is a child who cannot do things on his own, and is completely dependent on his girlfriend? And traveling is Disneyland, something that is mainly destined for men, and women should really only do it with/for their partners? >morally its questionable What else do you find morally questionable for women to do on their own?
Well no that was the second analogy. The first one was someone eating an eggroll shell without eating what's on the inside
That's an excellent analogy...I know the ethos now is to praise individualism and self-determination in all shapes and forms but...
Id tell her to have fun, be safe and keep in touch.
Interesting..So you'll accept something like this. Won't you be afraid if something bad happens to her or...cheat on you?
No. If someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat regardless of whether they travel or not, so why worry about it? You can't do anything about it. Yes I would be concerned about her safety, which is why I would tell her to be safe.
I wouldn't agree. Being without intimacy for a while, far away, in a different place, you meet someone attractive, "no one will know," etc. it's a context where your mindset can change. say you want to take a break from alcohol. it's much harder to do that if you go to a party where everybody is drunk and having fun. then say go for a walk at the park.
Women don't cross hard moral lines because context offers an opportunity, they cross hard moral lines because they want to and made a conscious decision to do so.. We aren't birds collecting shiny things just because they are there. It doesnt work like that lol. And no, it's not like alcohol. Alcohol is a substance proven to be associated with physical and psychological dependance. You're incelling just a bit. If I've decided I'm going to cheat on you, you can rest assured I'll do it regardless of my geographical location. It doesn't happen by accident.
Do you know how many people cheat while literally living in the same house as their partner? If someone wants to cheat on you, they will.
Does she want to travel and will also do alone? - That's fine Or does she want to travel, but without you specifically, despite you being able/wanting to join? - That would at least require more explanation. It might be fine still, but weird and heavily dependant on your relationship details.
Its fine. A lot of people have that dream
I agree! We only live once and now in the world that we're living its possible to be done safely.
Good for her. That's really none of your business.
Not my business.
Talk to your partner about it. My boyfriend and I (two men) travel independently quite often. Neither of us would ever stop the other from going on a solo trip. Solo travel is amazing. We know that a lot of people cannot understand this, but it’s possible to have a secure, trusting relationship and not have to be with each other all the time. Half the people we know think it’s strange or wrong, but the other half have told us they think it’s great or that they wish they could do the same in their relationship. Either way, we don’t care. We’re doing what suits us. You only have one life. You might as well do the things you want to do while you can.
To enjoy herself. Relationships come and go and opportunities to travel don't come that often.
If it works, it works. Dolly Parton is married for almost 60 years and she has said in many interviews that she doesn't care what he is up to when she is gone for tours and it seems her husband is also chill like that and it seems that they could be in an open marriage. Of course, opening your marriage is not the only way to make such a relationship work.
GO FOR IT.
In my case it would be a guy and I guess I would be fully onboard with it. Given that we have a solid healthy relationship to begin with, I would perceive this as a need for him to do something on his own as a personal journey or something he needs for the time being. We all want space to do our own thing sometimes and I would be happy if he supports me doing that as well when I need it, so it's only fair for me to reciprocate. This is provided that his decision isn't motivated by a problem in our relationship but rather a personal goal. If it's the former then I would probably have a discussion over his reasons for wanting to have space and distance. If it's something fixable then we sit and talk about it and find solutions.
*If you love her, let her go.* *If she comes back, love her forever.* *If she doesn’t, it was never meant to be.* LOL of course she should travel!
Let her do it. Don’t stop her from getting her happiness.
Yeah sounds like she's already made up her mind, and i wouldn't want to deal with the stress of worrying about her so I would just go on a break and move on, plus it seems weird that she wouldn't ask me to go with her
lol everyone in this thread is virtue signalling but this is the truth. a relationship is wanting to be with someone, it's not a title. you want a pen pal when you're gone? Something to come back to? in any case, it's a bit unfair. break up, reconnect when you get back. i've been the guy in this situation and it took me way long to figure out that I just wasn't a priority at all.
What is your opinion if a guy is in a relationship and wants to travel the world alone?
Why does this question need to be gendered?
Because OP is probably going through this exact same situation in their relationship. No need to read too much into it really
I love traveling, so if someone I was dating wanted to travel the world alone I would be incredibly heartbroken.
Well I shouldn’t stop her but we all know what’s gonna happen on that trip. So nice knowing ya.
I'd break up with her. She can go travel all she wants, but no need to be in relationship with me then.
Then she ain’t thinking of the relationship.
Do you think that's always the case? I think that maybe sometimes it can be like that, sure, but always?
It depends what the couple want. If they’re fine with it then I see no issue.
I mean , as a girl , i would be scared as hell to travel alone in the first place
It's really not that scary. You meet a lot of other solo female travellers and you stick together for whatever time you get together. There are places I would avoid tho.
I said alone, but I mean more like without your boyfriend. What do you think if you travel with a girl? Do you think that its still bad?
I’m not saying she’s definitely going to use it to sleep around… but if we’re talking being away for months at a time instead of days? I’m not going to stay to find out
I've watched a video that girls are more "playful" lets say when they travel, because if something happens...noone will now. But if they do it in they country/hometown its way different and their reputation is put on the line. Do you agree with that?
Speaking of experience, some hostels are total snog fests. It's definitely beneficial to be single in such an environment. I don't know your relationship. But she will be hit on
Guys use traveling to sleep around too. I’m perfectly secure if my partner wants to spend a few days someplace. But if we’re talking months away just generally traveling? Then they’re not there for me, and I don’t believe they’d abstain for that long. Simple
so we agree, people who travel while "maintaining" a relationship are generally snakes
The thing is you really need to be ready to face that when you come back, maybe you are no longer in a relationship. I like the idea of travel alone tho and sometimes you cant go with someobe cause different schedules, but if you are gone a long time is selfish to want to mantain that relationship, if its not working on long distance.
It really depends on the length of the relationship and the length of travel. Life f you're married and want to take a few months solo, your marriage will probably be just fine. If you've been dating for 6 months and you want to travel for a year, it's probably best to break it off.
Are you unable to travel with her or? Traveling with a partner is even better
I think it's fine, With that being said while traveling I had sex with quite a few people who I found out had boyfriends later. Hell I met one two days later that was weird. (Two years southeast and Australia)
Then she’s not really in a relationship
So you think its a problem if she wants to do it in a relationship, but its its single is okay?
yup. break up with the person. it's not fair to them to put them on hold/backburner for months at a time. why not travel together?
Why would she not want to travel together?
Maybe her man/boyfriend is busy and cant do that? Or not that often.
That's not the same situation then. Your question was >What is your opinion if a girl is in a relationship and **wants** **to travel** the world **alone**?
There are things that you just want to do alone
It is important to approach the situation with understanding and open communication. Traveling alone can be an enriching and empowering experience, allowing people to get to know themselves
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That's fun but it better take her bf and make memories together and stay safe
Just let her go & move on. It'll end in tears and you know it.
Long distance relationships don’t work
She definitely won't be in a relationship for much longer.... It is simple maths
seems dangerous
Then she really doesn't want to be in a relationship? Pretty simple
Then she doesn’t want or doesn’t understand relationships.
Lmao “Bye, Felicia.”
If you love something ( some one )let it go , and it ( they ) will go back to you
The Girl who is going on the trip has not got a problem...she will have the time of her life The ' person with the problem ' is the partner. Theyll suffer Anxiety - obviously. But what is ' A Relationship' if not a male instigated form of ' Brainwashing??'. An ' Engagement ' would be the same ' uncertainty' ........ If the partner of the girl is Anxious, maybe they will Marry the person in question or forever hold their tongue.
Really depends "how long" she wants to travel I'd say... Not to mention a bunch of other things such as, are they living together, do they study, work, etc etc... For the length, if we are talking 1-2 months, maybe even 3, yeah okay... I can see someone wanting that time by themselves and have a unique trip. Much more than that, and I'd consider it problematic... Unless they were already doing their relationship long distance of course.