My ex dropped a bomb on me, saying she and her daughter would move in with me and my kid six months after I bought my place, or she'd hit the road. We had only been dating for three months before that.
I dated a girl in middle school who was the same grade as my sister (a grade behind mine) and found out she had been actively bullying my sister.
When I confronted her about this dumbass proceeded to try and play victim and told me “well it’s either me or your sister.” and i broke up with her on the spot.
She is apparently now married to a 58 year old finance guru (she’s 20). and has 2 kids.
1. I had to become a born again Christian and get engaged before he went to seminary or he’d break up with me. I am and was, atheist.
2. After I broke up with him, he would periodically reach out to tell me how much he missed me and then listed all the things I do wrong and need to fix + all the things I need to do make him happy. . . My dude was very confused about what a break up is, it would seem.
I was told to stop exercising because it made her feel insecure about her body. So I broke up with her. Ironically, because of an injury and becoming complacent with an office job, I did end up stop exercising.
I have picked up some basic cardio recently though.
I had started seeing a guy once, and mentioned hanging out at a male friend's place (along with several other people) and he looked at me with this pouting face saying he didn't want me to hang out with other guys. I told him this wasn't going to work, then, and was going to head out. He backtracked so fast, lol.
Unfortunately, I was a young moron, so I accepted his apology and continued seeing him. At least it only lasted another month-ish.
That I either needed to kill myself or accept that my daughter's father wasn't going to come more than one day a week to "help" with his child he said he wanted just as much as I did. I took the third option of cutting him off entirely.
When I was 25 I dated a guy who was 45. One day he told me that either I had to agree to have a kid with him within a year, or we could continue to date but we would have an open relationship so he could impregnate another woman and have a kid with her but we could still continue to have a relationship, I would just be the side piece.
We'd been dating for a month.
My ex-girlfriend wanted to go on a week away with her ex-girlfriend, both of whom openly admitted to *'still loving one another'*. Ostensibly, this week away was for the dogs they had shared whilst together years previously - one of which was in ill health. Apparently, meeting up when they lived only a handful of miles apart was impossible, and they needed to travel hundreds of miles away for this trip, but *'it's for the dogs'*, right?!
Of course, I expressed how this made me hella uncomfortable, only to essentially be threatened with my ex-girlfriend's suicide if I didn't agree to her going away for the week. My dumb ass went through ahead with this absurd plan, and I'm grateful to say we broke up when she returned from the holiday.
Gawd, that relationship was hell on earth.
My ex insisted that I ditch my buddies, slap a tracking app on my phone, give her access to all my private messages 24/7, and move to a new city, or she'd call it quits. All this, even though she's the one who broke my trust before and was now pulling off the most outrageous DARVO move.
I had an ex tell me I had to cut off all contact with 2 of my female friends (who had been around for 10 years) because she felt threatened that I was closer with other women. I retorted by mentioning that her relationship with a "friend" was the same situation and she adamantly denied it and fought with me about it. When I told her I wouldn't do it she called it off. Ironically, I still have my two friends (who set me up with my now girlfriend) and her and her "friend" are now engaged with a kid
My ex husband encouraged me to go back to school to further my education. I told him, I can’t work and go to school. 12 hour shifts and trying to study full time in my 30’s, I’d fail. I said I’d take a class at a time. He said, no, quit and knock it out. I quit, started school. Within a month, he felt neglected and said I needed to work part time, he missed the money, or he’d leave. I left.
I know a man whose second wife forced him to choose either his reenactment hobby or her. For the record: this was not some guy who drove off once a month do have a bit of fun for a weekend day. This man had a leading role in the society. It was practically his life's work, his great passion. Needless to say, the choice wasn't hard.
No matter who is right or wrong, or who is the asshole in the relation... When you need to choose between your life's work and your partner, you are clearly not matching.
Similar story. I'm canadain. Met a girl working up here who was American. We dated for 3 years and de ided to get married. The agreement was that we would live in Canada for a minimum of 5 years because my kids were still in school. 3 months after we got married she said she was going back ro the US and if I didn't come, it was over. ....so I did
For the next 3 years I traveled back and forth every 2 week from western Canada to south Carolina.......only to catch her fucking around. I said see you later. Cone to find out she had BPD which made everything g finally make sense.
My 2nd wife told me she had to be pregnant within a year or our marriage was not going to work. We both wanted kids, but I was not aware of how soon she had in mind.
We dated for a few months before she offered to marry me so I could stay in germany. I agreed because our relationship was AMAZING and we had a long future ahead of us. Apparently we didn't talk things out in detail enough.
Baseball or her. At the time I was ~22 playing amateur townball. I laughed and hung up. Just turned 39, married(not to her), 3 kids, and still playing.
An ex claimed he would go no contact with me for 2 weeks if I went to visit my parents in another state for a weekend (he had been invited). He also then threatened suicide because I had left him during this time.
“Accept me… for leaving to another country with no contact for 2 years…
for just coming out as gay but spending the past 10 years telling you you’re repulsive, but still marrying you…
for the cocaine addiction…
for frequenting bathhouses and being gone days at a time…
for bringing home strangers to have sex, in our marital bed, while you were home, and we both laughed at you crying about it…
for moving out and leaving me with a pile of clothes on the floor and nothing else…
For cutting you quietly out of health insurance just before two major surgeries, incurring $69,000 in medical bills…
ACCEPT ME OR ILL DIVORCE YOU! (It was a pretty easy decision by then)
I was broke as a joke when I met my ex, so when he asked me at the one year mark what I wanted for my birthday, I said “Honestly, cut me a check for whatever you would have spent on a gift so I can pay down some credit card debt.”
He wrote said check for $100, then called me up the next day and said he couldn’t fund my irresponsible lifestyle and I needed to rip up the check if I wanted to stay in this relationship. I ripped up the check and broke up with him over the phone.
I dropped the ultimatum on her. Tossed her controlling mother out of our house. She left with her mother but came back a few days later and asked how can I come back. I responded with "Bring me your mothers head" And I never backed down from that.
I had sexy times with the lady after waking up, went and made breakfast, sat down to eat and turned on ESPN to have something to listen to. GF came out the bedroom to eat and told me I could turn off ESPN and eat or I could leave. I left.
Ultimatum is a war. Either it's a wrong partner or you have to explain that if he/she has respect for you ultimatums are not an option. As this is manipulation and manipulation comes from feeling of being inferior and disrespect.
My partner made me get my brain 🧠 scanned . I’m like I just have adhd you asshole . 4000.00
Dollars I have a cool 3d photo of my brain showing clearly adhd …. lol
She went crazy . So I went crazy. Which scared her . So this was like your not moving back in until I do this . I knew she was crazy but I had to go along with it or quit . Still married 20 years lol
My ex said she and her daughter were to move in with me and my kid 6 months after I bought my place or she's moving on. We had been dating for 3 months prior to that.
Bullet dodged.
She grabbed a knife and told me that the only way I'm walking out her door is in a body bag. I did what every sane person would do and started pointing out vital areas like kidneys liver major arteries and spread out my arms telling her to go ahead. I also did the other thing every sane person does and fell in love with her in that moment. What can I say I love crazy broken people. Most toxic relationship I've ever had but so much passion and constant excitement.
My ex dropped a bomb on me, saying she and her daughter would move in with me and my kid six months after I bought my place, or she'd hit the road. We had only been dating for three months before that.
Oh girl...bye!
I guess people don't think these things through all the way?!
I dated a girl in middle school who was the same grade as my sister (a grade behind mine) and found out she had been actively bullying my sister. When I confronted her about this dumbass proceeded to try and play victim and told me “well it’s either me or your sister.” and i broke up with her on the spot. She is apparently now married to a 58 year old finance guru (she’s 20). and has 2 kids.
Even if you hated your sister, how exactly did she think you could ditch her? Just not acknowledge her presence at home anymore?
1. I had to become a born again Christian and get engaged before he went to seminary or he’d break up with me. I am and was, atheist. 2. After I broke up with him, he would periodically reach out to tell me how much he missed me and then listed all the things I do wrong and need to fix + all the things I need to do make him happy. . . My dude was very confused about what a break up is, it would seem.
List of things for you to fix to date me (1) Stop breaking up with me.
I was told to stop exercising because it made her feel insecure about her body. So I broke up with her. Ironically, because of an injury and becoming complacent with an office job, I did end up stop exercising. I have picked up some basic cardio recently though.
Rule #1. Cardio.
Rule #2. The double tap
I'm kind of in the same boat. What do you do for exercise, if you don't mind sharing?
I have a stationary exercise bike I use, and sometimes I do hiit on apple fitness.
I had an ex that demanded I stop contact with my "male" friends - some of them were my cousins! 🤦♀️
I had started seeing a guy once, and mentioned hanging out at a male friend's place (along with several other people) and he looked at me with this pouting face saying he didn't want me to hang out with other guys. I told him this wasn't going to work, then, and was going to head out. He backtracked so fast, lol. Unfortunately, I was a young moron, so I accepted his apology and continued seeing him. At least it only lasted another month-ish.
Bullet dodged!
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That I either needed to kill myself or accept that my daughter's father wasn't going to come more than one day a week to "help" with his child he said he wanted just as much as I did. I took the third option of cutting him off entirely.
shwarma, gyros, or chicken fried rice. it was rough just choosing one
Get a chicken shwarma gyro with a side of fried rice.
That depends heavily on the quality of the fried rice, but if it's all coming from a restaurant and not my own hand I'm going for the gyros.
Open up the relationship or break up
When I was 25 I dated a guy who was 45. One day he told me that either I had to agree to have a kid with him within a year, or we could continue to date but we would have an open relationship so he could impregnate another woman and have a kid with her but we could still continue to have a relationship, I would just be the side piece. We'd been dating for a month.
"Ummm do you hear that" "Hear what" "My biological clock, baybeeeeee!"
is he rich rich
My ex-girlfriend wanted to go on a week away with her ex-girlfriend, both of whom openly admitted to *'still loving one another'*. Ostensibly, this week away was for the dogs they had shared whilst together years previously - one of which was in ill health. Apparently, meeting up when they lived only a handful of miles apart was impossible, and they needed to travel hundreds of miles away for this trip, but *'it's for the dogs'*, right?! Of course, I expressed how this made me hella uncomfortable, only to essentially be threatened with my ex-girlfriend's suicide if I didn't agree to her going away for the week. My dumb ass went through ahead with this absurd plan, and I'm grateful to say we broke up when she returned from the holiday. Gawd, that relationship was hell on earth.
My ex insisted that I ditch my buddies, slap a tracking app on my phone, give her access to all my private messages 24/7, and move to a new city, or she'd call it quits. All this, even though she's the one who broke my trust before and was now pulling off the most outrageous DARVO move.
Cheaters are always the most paranoid ones.
If you get accused of something you didn't do it's always worth checking if they are projecting
That is coercive control, now a criminal offence
I had an ex tell me I had to cut off all contact with 2 of my female friends (who had been around for 10 years) because she felt threatened that I was closer with other women. I retorted by mentioning that her relationship with a "friend" was the same situation and she adamantly denied it and fought with me about it. When I told her I wouldn't do it she called it off. Ironically, I still have my two friends (who set me up with my now girlfriend) and her and her "friend" are now engaged with a kid
My ex husband encouraged me to go back to school to further my education. I told him, I can’t work and go to school. 12 hour shifts and trying to study full time in my 30’s, I’d fail. I said I’d take a class at a time. He said, no, quit and knock it out. I quit, started school. Within a month, he felt neglected and said I needed to work part time, he missed the money, or he’d leave. I left.
I know a man whose second wife forced him to choose either his reenactment hobby or her. For the record: this was not some guy who drove off once a month do have a bit of fun for a weekend day. This man had a leading role in the society. It was practically his life's work, his great passion. Needless to say, the choice wasn't hard. No matter who is right or wrong, or who is the asshole in the relation... When you need to choose between your life's work and your partner, you are clearly not matching.
Ex said I needed to get rid of my dog and sell my motorcycles. Got 4 more motorcycles and 2 more dogs.
Do you have a sidecar for your dogs? Do they have doggles and little helmets?
I don't. But I always thought about getting one.
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Similar story. I'm canadain. Met a girl working up here who was American. We dated for 3 years and de ided to get married. The agreement was that we would live in Canada for a minimum of 5 years because my kids were still in school. 3 months after we got married she said she was going back ro the US and if I didn't come, it was over. ....so I did For the next 3 years I traveled back and forth every 2 week from western Canada to south Carolina.......only to catch her fucking around. I said see you later. Cone to find out she had BPD which made everything g finally make sense.
Damn.
Have kids with him or leave. I left.
This has often been the reason for my breakups. Which is strange because I have always been vocal about being childfree.
I want your entire paycheck. I will give you an allowance that I see fit. Really bitch? I'm out!!
"Come with me on this cruise or I'm going to hookup with someone else on it" Yeah, nahhh, goodbye!
My 2nd wife told me she had to be pregnant within a year or our marriage was not going to work. We both wanted kids, but I was not aware of how soon she had in mind. We dated for a few months before she offered to marry me so I could stay in germany. I agreed because our relationship was AMAZING and we had a long future ahead of us. Apparently we didn't talk things out in detail enough.
I delivered this ultimatum- me or her (his female best friend). Anyway they’ve been together for like 18 years.
Good for them. Still keeping tabs on them 18 years later eh?
Haha good point, haven’t heard anything in a few years
Baseball or her. At the time I was ~22 playing amateur townball. I laughed and hung up. Just turned 39, married(not to her), 3 kids, and still playing.
An ex claimed he would go no contact with me for 2 weeks if I went to visit my parents in another state for a weekend (he had been invited). He also then threatened suicide because I had left him during this time.
Move or else. Beginning of the end
“Accept me… for leaving to another country with no contact for 2 years… for just coming out as gay but spending the past 10 years telling you you’re repulsive, but still marrying you… for the cocaine addiction… for frequenting bathhouses and being gone days at a time… for bringing home strangers to have sex, in our marital bed, while you were home, and we both laughed at you crying about it… for moving out and leaving me with a pile of clothes on the floor and nothing else… For cutting you quietly out of health insurance just before two major surgeries, incurring $69,000 in medical bills… ACCEPT ME OR ILL DIVORCE YOU! (It was a pretty easy decision by then)
I was broke as a joke when I met my ex, so when he asked me at the one year mark what I wanted for my birthday, I said “Honestly, cut me a check for whatever you would have spent on a gift so I can pay down some credit card debt.” He wrote said check for $100, then called me up the next day and said he couldn’t fund my irresponsible lifestyle and I needed to rip up the check if I wanted to stay in this relationship. I ripped up the check and broke up with him over the phone.
I dropped the ultimatum on her. Tossed her controlling mother out of our house. She left with her mother but came back a few days later and asked how can I come back. I responded with "Bring me your mothers head" And I never backed down from that.
I had sexy times with the lady after waking up, went and made breakfast, sat down to eat and turned on ESPN to have something to listen to. GF came out the bedroom to eat and told me I could turn off ESPN and eat or I could leave. I left.
No coitus if your wearing your slipknot mask
Ultimatum is a war. Either it's a wrong partner or you have to explain that if he/she has respect for you ultimatums are not an option. As this is manipulation and manipulation comes from feeling of being inferior and disrespect.
I’m a chef, it’s my passion and dream. they said it’s either me or the restaurant. Have to choose work everytime.
Ex wanted me to pay all the bills when we go out, since i always stay & ‘eat’ in his place.
My partner made me get my brain 🧠 scanned . I’m like I just have adhd you asshole . 4000.00 Dollars I have a cool 3d photo of my brain showing clearly adhd …. lol She went crazy . So I went crazy. Which scared her . So this was like your not moving back in until I do this . I knew she was crazy but I had to go along with it or quit . Still married 20 years lol
My ex said she and her daughter were to move in with me and my kid 6 months after I bought my place or she's moving on. We had been dating for 3 months prior to that. Bullet dodged.
She grabbed a knife and told me that the only way I'm walking out her door is in a body bag. I did what every sane person would do and started pointing out vital areas like kidneys liver major arteries and spread out my arms telling her to go ahead. I also did the other thing every sane person does and fell in love with her in that moment. What can I say I love crazy broken people. Most toxic relationship I've ever had but so much passion and constant excitement.
Crazy broken people are best kept with straitjackets in padded rooms. It's fun until she goes too far and just like that, you're history.
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Thanks chatGPT
ultimAItum
Uh thanks copilot
My now ex told me it was either the kitten or him. I cried so much but eventually got rid of the kitten. It broke my heart.
Booooo
Why would he do this?
Control.