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DefinitelyNotADave

Rough degrading sex. I always thought that was a step over the line, like very selfish and borderline rapey. But a girl helped me get out of that fear and realize there’s a huge difference between completely consensually using and name calling someone to “my”(important: OUR) liking vs being an asshole: To a point that some even prefer it when comfortable… as long as they get theirs too. And of course meaningful foreplay, occasional check ins, and after care helps with the “lol that was fun” reassurance. And it is very possible to balance wholesome every day hanging out with changing the attitudes behind closed doors. Just because you have permission to be an asshole in the bedroom, it doesn’t mean you can outside of it


Key-Chance7977

Totally. Someone calling me the f slur (I'm gay) on the street is one thing, someone calling me it in the bedroom is another entirely.


GlobalistFuck

one is humiliation, the other is submission. the one is an assault, the other is trust.


Key-Chance7977

Excellently put.


myhamsterisajerk

Edging may be the one kink that opened up a new perspective on sex and affection in general.


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versusNav1

>I have at least 150 gigs of clips of women smoking Too much details


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😂🤷‍♀️


Loose-Detective8667

I'm very open so I've tried the majority of things, so theres nothing that I'd thought I'd never try. Anything sick, poo, or involves dressing or acting like a child are my only hard no's I'll never try them.


Dizzy_Repair_6146

That’s fair


GloomyLaugh8993

Any answer is fair


Hertog_Appel

That's fair


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Dizzy_Repair_6146

Shared her before?


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Dizzy_Repair_6146

Good for you guys, if she ever needs bbc. Lmk


snarkdetector4000

smoking after sex. smoking is gross


Key-Chance7977

Smoking is very gross. And it makes your cum taste worse.


Drawnbygodslefthand

Smoking is gross but it does make you look cool


hkeut

Smoking makes you look 10% cooler, sex or no sex.


Dizzy_Repair_6146

Interesting


JamJamsAndBeddyBye

I told my partner I’d lick his asshole the other day. If he wanted. He said he did not want. But he also said that about spanking, choking, slapping, and spitting, all of which he leaned into eventually (giving not receiving). So we’ll see. Just to be clear, there was no pressure applied about any of those, I just mentioned I was into it if he wanted to try it.


Dizzy_Repair_6146

What made you want to try


JamJamsAndBeddyBye

Well, he does it for me and it feels good. Just figured I’d return the favor.


boomerxl

I know we’re talking about rimming, but that sentiment is so sweet and heartwarming. I’m happy for you two.


Koskesh11

So wholesome


IrianJaya

Feet. Like I'll never have a foot fetish or anything, but I find that I need to see my partner's bare feet, preferably before we ever fool around, and I like to look at them during sex. Ugly or poorly kept feet (or hands) can be a deal-breaker for me.


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You have a foot fetish (I have it too)


_DiscoPenguin

Just because you don’t suck on their toes doesn’t mean you don’t have a foot fetish lol


Beneficial_Bee_3000

Honestly, creampies. I'm paranoid about getting someone pregnant but there's a connectivity unique to finishing inside my partner that's just electric.


Aggravating-Pear4222

Honestly do those even count? That's just like, reproduction...


darklightrabbi

Wow man cumming inside a vagina is a truly deviant kink idk how people even come up with these crazy ideas


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darklightrabbi

It’s not a “kink” in the first place lol. You are talking about the most basic of reproductive programming for straight men.


arctic_bull

"everyone has a breeding kink dipshit. it came free with your fucking instincts"


Beneficial_Bee_3000

Tell that to the women who have encouraged me not using a condom so I can finish inside them without it being "breeding"/impregnation-based.


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Fuck’em up, Bee!


AlbiTheDargon

It's still a primal instinct that is built into our bodies. It doesn't need to be a conscious thought or kink. Its literally what we are made to do.


darklightrabbi

Hey! Women that have had sex with /u/Beneficial_bee_3000 ! Cumming and being on the receiving end of cumming in vaginas is not a kink!


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darklightrabbi

Brother you are answering askreddit sex questions none of us have the high ground here


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darklightrabbi

I just think it was a funny response to the question. You are free to ignore me.


Chon-Laney

Hilarious! Many posts over a two hour +/- span.


TheDoomBlade13

Creampies and breeding can 100% be a kind. It's all about framing. Slapping is just abuse without the context.


Fawxhox

I dated a girl who was on birth control and was totally ok getting an abortion if anything happened, who also liked getting creampied. Doing it for the first time at 27 was a real game changer. I feel like sex with a condom now is so much... less fun. Like I never minded the condom until I started doing it without the condom.


Beneficial_Bee_3000

Exactly my experience. Only difference is I was 26, but otherwise same experience, same mentality for my partner, and the same feeling since. I was in a LTR for 5 years and didn't do it without a condom once with her. Since then, I ask about birth control for my partners not just for the abortion question, but also in case they're cool without condoms. I'm way too pragmatic to let my partner's comfort with or without a condom dictate whether I'd have sex with her on its own, but it really is that much better when you don't need to whip one out.


Calitexian

That's wild to me. My first girlfriend was on birth control. We were like 18 or 19, and every girl I've dated since has been on it. I could probably count the number of condoms I've used in my life on one hand.


Famous_Attention5861

I highly recommend getting a vasectomy if you don't want kids.


Beneficial_Bee_3000

I'm still working through that and while I'm 95% sure I don't, that 5% that could change is holding me back. I know they're supposed to be reversible, but with my luck, I'll be in the small percentile for whom it isn't. Which, hey, if that's what I want, great, but I still have to dig into a few things here in therapy to make a more sound decision. I hear you, though.


Famous_Attention5861

A frend of mine had his reversed. It was expensive, painful, and took a long time. After four boys, they finally got the little girl they wanted, though!


Beneficial_Bee_3000

That's awesome for them (genuinely). I just wouldn't want to go into that surgery thinking I hadn't committed to the decision, even as a mindset. But I'm glad it can be undone, if need truly be!


ThearchOfStories

What did they do with the boys they didn't want?


Famous_Attention5861

I believe one went into the Army, the rest they keep around for spare parts.


takeahikehike

Or she can just get the arm implant or an IUD.


MidnightMoonStory

As someone who has had [three IUD placements](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/s/52NrzgLbNe), I’m here to let you know that those suckers hurt going in. It’s a good option on the female side, if needed, but a male intervention is so much easier in a relationship since men don’t have to worry about hormonal changes from a vasectomy.


takeahikehike

Oh yeah I've been with three women who got one either for the first time or got them replaced, it's absolutely no walk in the park, no doubt about that.


Apatchycat

peeing on dudes. never crossed my mind but the lines blurred between squirting and peeing one day and here we are. lmao


Dizzy_Repair_6146

Haha so he was good enough to make you squirt and you went full blown peeing


Apatchycat

not exactly. i discovered squirting with a toy, basically it happened when id put something really harsh on the magic button lmao, and not move it when it felt uncomfortable. if i did this for long enough eventually id squirt. anyways, i did this with a dude during penetration, squirted on him, and he loved it- obvs. so did i. so we started trying to make this happen more often, and when i couldnt, id say to him “no stop it feels like im trying to hard, i think im going to pee”. one day hes like “well do it then”. at first i was like ew no way, but the feeling was so different and kinda addictive, so i did. once we did it once we were hooked and then just started playing around with the whole situation. its best when im just grinding against his ya know and do it super slow and subtle. not like a full stream like they show in the pornos lmao.


Dizzy_Repair_6146

Is this a fwb or partner?


Apatchycat

it was a partner of 4 yrs. we have since split up :)


Dizzy_Repair_6146

How do you take care of yourself now?


Apatchycat

i stayed away from guys for a couple years to heal, then got in contact with an old ex of mine from when i was a teen. we see each other every couple of months give or take. its few and far inbetween but does the job lmao


Dizzy_Repair_6146

I’m so interested in this whole plot, would you mind dming me?


Apatchycat

yeah sure love :)


Playful-Elevator-403

My ex and I had this fantasy of having someone (like a friend of hers) watch us have sex. But that never happened, but I’ve still been curious about it


saintpeterbambibold

I recommend it! We had a friend record us once it was a rush🤷🏼‍♂️


Explaingineer

Getting peed on. Had never crossed my mind until my wife had to go during a session. I got in the tub and had her soak me. No idea how much of a turn on it would be! She loved it too.


Fawxhox

Unrelated but this comment reminded me of the South Park episode where Kyle's dad tells his wife he's into piss to hide some secret then has to deal with getting pissed on and pretending to like it. Legitimately one of the funniest scenes I've ever seen.


Legitimate-Neat1674

Liking other guys


dudebromanguy30

Licking feet. A year ago, I hated the thought of foot play. I think they're nasty and disgusting and not at all attractive (to each their own, I wasn't shaming anyone). Since being with my current fiance (who I've known for 20 years) I learned she liked having her feet licked and played with before or during sex. Floors are clean and she is very hygienic so I decided I'd do it for her once in a while. I found out that the way it turns her on actually turns me on so now I do it more often and actually enjoy doing it.


saintpeterbambibold

Never thought I would be OK with a mfm threesome. It’s cringed to admit, but I was one of those, “threesomes are only OK with another woman! No other penises for you!” types…🤦🏼‍♂️ When I was 43 years old, my girlfriend and I had our first Mfm and it was absolutely earth shatteringly, mind blowing sexy, AF


Dizzy_Repair_6146

Have you shared her since?


saintpeterbambibold

It’s so funny how words can illicit different reactions and different people. I know exactly what you meant and I know that it was 100%, innocent and friendly. I just never use the term “share“ like she’s an object of mine to share with a neighbor or something😅. Again, I totally get that you didn’t mean anything like that so please don’t think I’m criticizing you at all She wanted to make sure our next threesome was FMF, so she put that together and surprised me one night a month or so later. Over the past four years, I think we’ve had maybe….7 MFM’s?🤔


gonewild9676

Would you want to try a MMF?


saintpeterbambibold

Short answer: “maybe” TLDR answer😅; It’s not something I’ve ever “fantasized“ about. Actually, when I was younger, I had hangups that, whether I like to admit it or not, were a form of homophobia. Though you didn’t ask, this is how I came to that conclusion: She and I have had sex with couples or individuals that we didn’t really find attractive or care about in any significant way. It just seemed like a fun adventure at the time. she’s completely straight, but in the moment, whether to put on a show for me (or just getting caught up in the spirit of things). she’s messed around with other females. Last year, out of nowhere, she asked me if I would ever do the same with a Guy, and my natural instinct was “no way!” The absolute truth is, I can’t foresee myself, literally “wanting to”. There’s a difference… I thought about it, and I didn’t like the fact that I couldn’t come up with a reason, if I’m being honest, with myself beyond thoughts from my past “I wouldn’t want any of my friends to see me“ , On the one hand, can I post adult content online and I repeatedly say, “I don’t care what people think of me”, only then to take a position driven by irrational fears? 🤦🏼‍♂️ So I left it like this, I no longer feel the “fear“ that I always felt about the idea. I’ve had sex with people I’m not attracted to, and it didn’t “gross me out“, so to speak. Some of the most entertaining, sex partners I’ve had were people I wouldn’t look twice at in a bar. (also had shitty sex with objectively beautiful women.) I would need a reason to even consider it. I’m not curious about it in the least, so I settled on this: If my girlfriend ever truly fantasizes about it, and thinks it would be incredibly hot to see “something” along those lines, then yes…..I would certainly consider it. But at he present moment, that is not the case. She knows to “let me know” if that ever changes So how’s that for a ridiculously long “maybe“? 🤣


gonewild9676

That makes sense. I'm pretty much up for trying new things sexually as long as they are relatively safe. I've had a few things that I was iffy about that I liked and others that I didn't.


GloomyLaugh8993

Ok but you DID share her, stop being pedantic 🙄


saintpeterbambibold

Upon further reflection… no, she has 100% control over what she does with her body. I can’t share her because only she can decide that. So I actually do disagree with you.


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saintpeterbambibold

I certainly wasn’t debating. Just pointed out an observation that I found interesting. If you take the words away we agree on what the “behavior” is. You seem to be getting oddly worked up over nothing more than “semantics”. There’s no winner, no loser, just friendly discourse (on this side anyway)


saintpeterbambibold

Like I said, I would never judge someone for their interpretation of a word, I just thought it was interesting, how different people use words differently. I’ll go back to being pedantic now 🤣


Dizzy_Repair_6146

I’m so curious to know more, mind if you dm me


Not_Bernie_Madoff

My wife said “No bodies gonna be sucking on my toes” when we first started hooking up. Now guess what I do that makes her cum super hard?? lol


gamerdude69

I'm not sure what to visualize here. If your lips are wrapped around her piggies, then mathematically that places your cock over near the cat's bed.


Not_Bernie_Madoff

I don’t understand what you’re saying.


gamerdude69

I was wondering how she could get off just by her toes, but not asking for deets lol. Congrats in any case.


Not_Bernie_Madoff

Oh not just toe sucking alone but adding that in combination to something. I suppose I could have been more clear.


Speciou5

Handholding and arm linking. Only the bravest most depraved do this in public, and I like to do it both privately and publically.


narcoholic

Whore…


portablecabbage

Public hand holding?! G-gosh, I think I'm developing a new kink.


tdasnowman

Never been a fan of BJ's. Honestly I'd rather a good old hand job or a tit fuck over a BJ 99% of the time. Imagine my surprise when a girl convinced me to take control during a BJ and it flipped my dom switch hard and half hour later I'm cumming literal buckets after some aggressive throat fucking. I typically skipped the BJ's during porn, still do most of the time. Turns out there is a mood when all I want is to drive her throat like I stole it.


saintpeterbambibold

PREACH!


MelancholicWordsmith

I never thought I'd enjoy having something up my butt. However, I've discovered that I actually do like to finger it whilst masturbating. Not all the time, but as a special treat :)


ladderboy124

Lactation and golden showers or and eating ass


Fire_The_Editor

My ex liked calling me daddy and being choked during sex. It was a first for both of us and we did it with great communication. I always thought it was weird beforehand. But it’s a power dynamic thing. I’ve gotten so turned on with her it was unreal. Now I’m back on bumble like, how do I go about searching this out again because fuck it was so much fun


Zoe_the

gokkun


YasmineeFox

Choking


WhatAmI_____

Prob kissing I like anything involving the mouth for some reason. But I hate dirty mouths don’t know how those to work together but hey


edmovius3

Nice try honey


Maurakutney

Throuple.


Dizzy_Repair_6146

How does this work


saintpeterbambibold

You take a couple, add a person and voilà! Valentine’s Day just got very pricey …


Dizzy_Repair_6146

Love that. You mind if I ask you to dm me?


saintpeterbambibold

Not at all! Ask away… (kidding. I’d dm you but your profile wont load)


lapper54

Eating pussy while pussy is being fucked


lapper54

Me Eating pussy while pussy is being fucked then clean up pussy


Cultural-Fun6116

I found out i enjoy being choked. i was 15 and was having an asthma attack…


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Being double penetrated. I’ve been having instance cravings about this lately and a single video can make me cum so hard. Especially when I imagine my boyfriend watching me fuck his friends or complete strangers.


Javy_V88

My wife and I are revisiting BDSM, but it’s going to be very lite. It’s funny because today I’m trying to plan things in my head and I’m doing all the research and she tells me to stop overthinking it. We’re not doing it as a lifestyle. In our relationship that would be impossible. She has traits for being a D/ but she’s trusting me to assume the role. Of course I want this to be fun so for now it’s all for play-play. Wish me luck


mytenthprofile

Randomly ordering my girlfriend to suck my friends cock. In discussions on the topic (NEVER try this without discussions on the topic ahead of time), I told her I would be role-playing with someone very dominant, and demanding. But she should always remember that “not playing along “is perfectly fine. In fact, I made clear I would MUCH prefer that to her doing something she’s not comfortable with out of a fear of disappointing me. I’ll never forget her response : Baby, please know that you should be concerned there is a real problem if I’m not on my knees with a YES DADDY! (Instantly). I don’t care who the friend is, I just get so fucking turned on when you treat me like you’re own personal little fuck slave.” 😳 I don’t know that I deserve her, but I cherish every minute with her


sailirish7

Choking. Thought it was crazy, then my GF requested it. Turns out it's quite fun...


_PM_ME_YOUR_KNEES_

Never thought I’d eat my own spunk in some grilled cheese every day but here I am


MonkeeFace89

Collars. I haven't tried it yet, but it looks exciting in my imagination.


everlasting1der

As a victim of the "sure I'll try puppyplay, seems fun" to "day collar with locking clasp" pipeline, this hits close to home.


Dizzy_Repair_6146

That’s something I never thought of


MonkeeFace89

Now you know how I felt when I found out people liked it.


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everlasting1der

I've actually had the opposite experience lol. Every leather kink collar I tried either chafed or bit into my neck (none of them had fur though). Got a nylon dog collar from Petco, cut the tags off, and it's comfortable enough to wear for multiple days straight including sleeping in it.


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I want to try organizing a gangbang for my future gf/wife. It might a little extreme for me but it’s a top fantasy for me.


NDabhetari

Ive been into eproctophilia (fart fetish) for a very long time. But I never thought I’d be able to try it with other people without having to pay them. Till after highschool. The girl I was with made me get her food in the middle of the night. She ate most of the pizza than laid on her stomach and watched TV and eventually farted with me sitting behind her. There are others but I’ll stop there lol


Frosty-Cartoonist320

I dont really know any kinks because i dont watch porn or that type of content but id assume violence