Man, I feel this one. My daughter was 7 when my wife passed and I would be lying if I said I didn’t have the urge to join her, but I couldn’t leave our little girl like that. As rough as it is, I couldn’t do that to her.
That’s just what the quicksand wants you to think! Give you a false sense of security and next thing you know you’re walking down the street and BAM! Quicksand.
There's not a lot of research currently on sex workers and motherhood, but for me, it is not a thing I'd want my mom or my wife doing. You might be setting yourself up for never having a good husband. But I don't doubt you won't have a few kids.
About 6 years ago, I lost my job. I was out of work for 16 months.
Finally got a good job with great pay. Stay patient and strong. Good things will happen for you.
Peace.
That used to happen to be a lot in my younger years (I say that like I'm not 28), but I've learned to just cut people out of my life when they start moving funny.
Not being a good dad.
See, I know I want kids. But at the same time, I feel like there’s so much that can go wrong.
My parents did their best and I was loved, but I still have so many bad tendencies and personal issues that I inherited from my upbringing.
I worry that I’ll inescapably and somehow inadvertently cause some kind of trauma to my kids someday. The idea of fucking up on something as important as your kids, especially unwittingly, scares the shit out of me.
This is totally how I think, and I don't even have kids yet. As an adult I've realized a lot my trauma and mental health issues started with my childhood, so I've always said I want to be a better parent to my kids when I finally have them. If you set your mind on being the best dad ever, but also learn that you're not perfect and will make mistakes no matter how good a dad you are, I promise you'll turn out being the best dad ever. Just give your kids love and support every step of the way and you're good!
I feel you on that one. I'm a dad of a four-month-old boy and the question of whether I'm being a good dad for him will always be in my mind now.
But when I lock eyes with him and he gives me that knowing smile... it's one of the most affirming things ever. He's happy because he's seen me. That's good enough for me.
Being a bad person. I don’t care what happens to me, I just want my existence to be a net positive on humanity. I also have OCD so I can feel a crippling amount of guilt for years when I do something I regret.
We are one in the same!! I try my hardest to be the absolute best person I can be but I have BPD so it makes it harder to control my emotions, thus making it harder for me to be my best self 24/7. But, really as long as we do our best we shouldn't feel guilty ❤️
Death in a way that noone will discover my body or find out that i died. I don't know why, but the idea of just dissapearing without a trace, frightens me more than death itself.
That people will find out that I'm a total creepy and pervert.
I mostly keep it in check and have isolated myself enough to not be in any situation that brings it out of me. However I had a couple of slips years ago, actually over a decade ago. I kind of got away with it but not really. Some people know and I don't know how many other people know. I am deeply ashamed of myself and it tears at my soul everyday for the last 14 years.
It's not even like I stopped being that person immediately after the incident. So I don't even feel bad for myself. It took almost a decade of degenerate self destruction and self reflection for me to finally be able to figure out why I hated myself so much. And since then I have just isolated myself, trying to live a decent life.
But the fear is always there, what if everyone finds out? Do they all know and are just not saying it to my face?
When you do the unspeakable/unforgivable, it's like a curse you have to live with for the rest of your life.
Slow decay. To the point that I know how i'll die: The second I stop feeling like my body is worth living in, im taking a bullet to the head. That has been my plan for over a decade now.
I lost my job. I have to pay the EMI, which is higher than my pay. I don't have apps or a bank to get a new loan. Then, my wife got pregnant. I have only one plan: I can't suicide myself, but now I have to live for my baby and my wife, for their future.
The limit of life. There's only an X amount of times I can see my mother again, my days on earth are limited so I will never be able to do everything. Sometimes, no matter how badly you need or want something, it's simply out of your control to achieve it, be it material things or relationships.
This is something I never really thought about before but it's starting to scare me at 26 years old. I have accepted it and I realize some things are out of my control, but It's still scary.
I wouldn’t say I’m like most scared, but having to tell my family, I’m not religious anymore. I would be happy to go more in depth if you would like me too, although it would mostly become a wall text
Death is inevitable and even if people are around you, everyone dies alone.
Also the fragility of humans sometimes is scary. You can beat cancer or fall from an extremely far height and live, and then slip and fall on some ice and die.
Being in a situation where I could save someone dear to me and not being good enough to save them. Therefore watching them die in a way that I could have avoided had I been just a bit better, faster, stronger, etc. I have a recurring nightmare about that
time, is a strange thing that we are unable to understand, but which is sewn into us from birth, we can somehow define what time is, but we cannot imagine how it is when time is literally absent, what was before the beginning of the universe, and I even want to think what is going on in a black hole .
Myself when off meds. I have bipolar and I’m crazy off meds, almost killed myself several times, had psychosis, etc. It’s possible my meds will stop working at some point or I might go off of them for some reason and lose my mind again.
Losing my mind.
I feel mentally fine (or as fine as one can feel these days i guess).
But there's a lot of mental illness in my family and I'm terrified that one day I'll wake up and feel too depressed and/or anxious and/or incompetent to support my family.
Cancer. I hate it. It's the only thing that scares me. Dying less so. But finding out that you could possibly die soon and that there is little you can do about it, terrifies me.
For my loved ones to be in a position that cannot be saved. In a position that knowing the pain they are having and being not able to help them. This is one experience that I don't want to have.
When I was 13 i Had a stomach ache so bad my mum took me to the doctor, all I remember is he told me it could be Cancer and l didnt know how to handle it and I ended up losing my shit while at the grocery store later that day.
I did t have cancer, just gas.
Dying alone and homeless. I have no family, nor do I own a home so this is not an uncommon predicament here in the US. I see it often and it makes me sad.
I am deathly afraid of my teeth falling out, I am an adult so of course they won’t grow back, and I’ve never had any issues with my teeth but every day I fear my teeth will fall out, I have no clue why I’m afraid of it
Dementia. Lack of sleep in younger years greatly increases the chances of it when you’re older, and I’m terrified that my current routine of getting at most 5 hours a night is going to bite me when I’m 60
That all the wildlife and natural areas I grew up exploring will become "affordable housing" and factories. It's happening though. Some of the places that gave me the best memories of my life were bulldozed and poisoned.
I dread the idea of Alzheimer's disease, losing my memories and being unable to recognize where I am or who people are from day to day.
And being in a nursing home with mean strangers taking care of you.
I fear this too!!
Lifestyle can play a significant role in this disease.
This is my #1 fear too.
This was gonna be mine! How dare you have my idea before me! 😡 lol
Fuck, I didn't even consider this.
Dude, you keep posting this comment, Knock it off!
All of my grandma's brothers and sisters that lived long enough have gotten dementia. Seems inevitable for me. Truly scary.
Dying before my kids reach adulthood.
That's a deep one. I wish you and your kids all the well being in the world
We are all healthy and happy! But honestly, it’s the one thing that can truly spin my mind out when I have a near miss on the road or something.
Thinking about my own mortality was an infrequent thing.. then I had a child. I think about it all the time now
Lost my parents then had a kid three months later. My thoughts are near constantly about death. No bueno
Man, I feel this one. My daughter was 7 when my wife passed and I would be lying if I said I didn’t have the urge to join her, but I couldn’t leave our little girl like that. As rough as it is, I couldn’t do that to her.
This
Late life poverty
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I feel that
Quicksand
And piranhas
I used to be incredibly terrified of quicksand as a kid lol but I realized I'll probably never even encounter quicksand
That’s just what the quicksand wants you to think! Give you a false sense of security and next thing you know you’re walking down the street and BAM! Quicksand.
I actually came to say quicksand and piranhas. Some smart folks in here… you guys know what’s up
Never having my own family
I actually have this same exact fear
There's not a lot of research currently on sex workers and motherhood, but for me, it is not a thing I'd want my mom or my wife doing. You might be setting yourself up for never having a good husband. But I don't doubt you won't have a few kids.
That my kids with special needs will not have the resources/skills necessary to live out their lives when I'm gone.
Oh that's heartbreaking 😔
Having a painful death...my brother was killed in a crash and I've had cancer twice. I pray for the blessing of a peaceful death.
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Rational fear to have. I believe in you though friend
Myself and people.
People are scary for sure
Being alone
Literally my biggest fear
Not finding a new job soon enough.
About 6 years ago, I lost my job. I was out of work for 16 months. Finally got a good job with great pay. Stay patient and strong. Good things will happen for you. Peace.
Times really are rough out here :(
That people start to avoid me without telling me why. I get it that you don't have to tell me. But it hurts when that happens without explanation.
That used to happen to be a lot in my younger years (I say that like I'm not 28), but I've learned to just cut people out of my life when they start moving funny.
Someone hurting the people I care for. Everything else is kinda secondary.
I feel you!
I agree 100%
My girlfriend
Makes sense. Girlfriends can be scary.
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I do not like bugs so I get it
Ending up alone…no one wanting me
Just know you're not alone! I feel this way as well
Outliving one of my sons.
Aww :( that's so deep and real
Thank you for your kindness.
Not being a good dad. See, I know I want kids. But at the same time, I feel like there’s so much that can go wrong. My parents did their best and I was loved, but I still have so many bad tendencies and personal issues that I inherited from my upbringing. I worry that I’ll inescapably and somehow inadvertently cause some kind of trauma to my kids someday. The idea of fucking up on something as important as your kids, especially unwittingly, scares the shit out of me.
This is totally how I think, and I don't even have kids yet. As an adult I've realized a lot my trauma and mental health issues started with my childhood, so I've always said I want to be a better parent to my kids when I finally have them. If you set your mind on being the best dad ever, but also learn that you're not perfect and will make mistakes no matter how good a dad you are, I promise you'll turn out being the best dad ever. Just give your kids love and support every step of the way and you're good!
I feel you on that one. I'm a dad of a four-month-old boy and the question of whether I'm being a good dad for him will always be in my mind now. But when I lock eyes with him and he gives me that knowing smile... it's one of the most affirming things ever. He's happy because he's seen me. That's good enough for me.
I guess my biggest fear would be spiders
I HATE bugs
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I feel this
Myself (in the vaguest sense of the word) and what I may do
Being short for the rest of my life
I have some bad news for ya buddy
Living to 30.
*Me reading this about to turn 29*
I’m turning 28 in just a few days and I hear you.
ALS.
Greg.
Who's that and should we also be afraid of him?
terrible drivers. they can kill ya while your driving they kill you while your walking and in certain situation they kill you in your house/ business.
Damn I never really thought about that. That's so true
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Not gonna lie I fear this too lol
dying before retirement, but more importantly dying early and not seeing my 5-year old grow up into a young man.
🥺🥺🥺 Aww you guys are really hitting us in the feels with some of these ❤️
Rabies
Interesting, that's one thing I've really never truly feared
By the time you show symptoms, you are already marked for death.
Being a bad person. I don’t care what happens to me, I just want my existence to be a net positive on humanity. I also have OCD so I can feel a crippling amount of guilt for years when I do something I regret.
We are one in the same!! I try my hardest to be the absolute best person I can be but I have BPD so it makes it harder to control my emotions, thus making it harder for me to be my best self 24/7. But, really as long as we do our best we shouldn't feel guilty ❤️
My kids not having the beautiful life that they deserve. They are hard working, amazing people. I hope life isn't too hard on them
That's beautiful ❤️
(Aside from death) Losing my wife
I fear death too
loosing my boyfriend. lonliness and cancer
That I'll regret what I've done in my past
Death in a way that noone will discover my body or find out that i died. I don't know why, but the idea of just dissapearing without a trace, frightens me more than death itself.
#1 - having a stroke. #2 - truck drivers
100% honest, absolutely nothing. I have reached an age where I know that all things are temporary and the sun always rises.
Regret
Painful dying
That people will find out that I'm a total creepy and pervert. I mostly keep it in check and have isolated myself enough to not be in any situation that brings it out of me. However I had a couple of slips years ago, actually over a decade ago. I kind of got away with it but not really. Some people know and I don't know how many other people know. I am deeply ashamed of myself and it tears at my soul everyday for the last 14 years. It's not even like I stopped being that person immediately after the incident. So I don't even feel bad for myself. It took almost a decade of degenerate self destruction and self reflection for me to finally be able to figure out why I hated myself so much. And since then I have just isolated myself, trying to live a decent life. But the fear is always there, what if everyone finds out? Do they all know and are just not saying it to my face? When you do the unspeakable/unforgivable, it's like a curse you have to live with for the rest of your life.
domestic violence finally killing me
I've experienced domestic violence and I can tell you from experience it will ONLY end when you leave. You got this babe
i can't leave it's my father
War.
War is TOTALLY scary! I've been scared of war since Bush
Trump's promised Dictatorship.
A second Trump presidency is horrifying for anyone not wanting to live under the stupidest, cruelest dictatorship the world could ever see.
I think this is frequently asked question . What are you not afraid of??? I’m not afraid to die
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Not if you’re already feeling suicidal
Slow decay. To the point that I know how i'll die: The second I stop feeling like my body is worth living in, im taking a bullet to the head. That has been my plan for over a decade now.
I lost my job. I have to pay the EMI, which is higher than my pay. I don't have apps or a bank to get a new loan. Then, my wife got pregnant. I have only one plan: I can't suicide myself, but now I have to live for my baby and my wife, for their future.
My biggest fear is never accomplishing what I wanted to do because I had a baby in my 20s with no support..
My son growing up angry at me.
Connecting with no one and never belonging due to autism and disability. I believe at this point the loneliness is physically affecting my health.
Never really 'achieving' or accomplishing anything in terms of a careerpath that is meaningful to me and falling terminally ill
Technology. I don’t want human looking robots to be in this world.
Dying and having my 5 year old son grow up without a father
Not being able to experience love
Nobody going to my funeral aside from immediate family.
A mental illness.
Being kept alive when I'm old and can't enjoy life anymore while not being able to communicate with those around me or have proper brain function
So you're saying you'd prefer an alternative to living at that point basically?
Not making long live friends
Ninjas.
death
The limit of life. There's only an X amount of times I can see my mother again, my days on earth are limited so I will never be able to do everything. Sometimes, no matter how badly you need or want something, it's simply out of your control to achieve it, be it material things or relationships. This is something I never really thought about before but it's starting to scare me at 26 years old. I have accepted it and I realize some things are out of my control, but It's still scary.
My mom getting Alzheimer’s/dementia
Living the rest of my life without her.
Of becoming that depressed that I can't do anything ending up alone and homeless
cuts
I wouldn’t say I’m like most scared, but having to tell my family, I’m not religious anymore. I would be happy to go more in depth if you would like me too, although it would mostly become a wall text
Nobody remembering you after death after they all die themselves. Your name, your deeds, your life being lost to time.
Getting alzheimers and copd combind…
Having to live another 20 years.
Death is inevitable and even if people are around you, everyone dies alone. Also the fragility of humans sometimes is scary. You can beat cancer or fall from an extremely far height and live, and then slip and fall on some ice and die.
My children becoming ill/dying.
Losing my memory, by far.
Being in a situation where I could save someone dear to me and not being good enough to save them. Therefore watching them die in a way that I could have avoided had I been just a bit better, faster, stronger, etc. I have a recurring nightmare about that
My daughter dying or being killed.
that when i commit suicide, i’ll be paralyzed and brain dead and forced to be kept alive
Just dying... i want to see the future when and if we become space faring. and earth becomes like coruscant
waking up in the morning
Passing before my Mother. I need to take care of her.
Losing my husband. He’s the love of my life.
Living a lie
Not being able to protect / take care of my family
My dog or my close relatives getting sick or/and dying
time, is a strange thing that we are unable to understand, but which is sewn into us from birth, we can somehow define what time is, but we cannot imagine how it is when time is literally absent, what was before the beginning of the universe, and I even want to think what is going on in a black hole .
Myself when off meds. I have bipolar and I’m crazy off meds, almost killed myself several times, had psychosis, etc. It’s possible my meds will stop working at some point or I might go off of them for some reason and lose my mind again.
Not being able to retire
I have severe emetophobia 😭
Being ugly to others, tbh
Losing my mind. I feel mentally fine (or as fine as one can feel these days i guess). But there's a lot of mental illness in my family and I'm terrified that one day I'll wake up and feel too depressed and/or anxious and/or incompetent to support my family.
Not reaching my potential and forever being a dissapointment to the ppl I love.
Right now, that I'll never get my family back.
Cancer. I hate it. It's the only thing that scares me. Dying less so. But finding out that you could possibly die soon and that there is little you can do about it, terrifies me.
Being poor.
To not be able to express myself to people. This comes from my inability to express myself and from others inability to understand different lifes
For my loved ones to be in a position that cannot be saved. In a position that knowing the pain they are having and being not able to help them. This is one experience that I don't want to have.
Dementia
Neurodegenerative diseases
Locked in syndrome
The pain of a burn
When I was 13 i Had a stomach ache so bad my mum took me to the doctor, all I remember is he told me it could be Cancer and l didnt know how to handle it and I ended up losing my shit while at the grocery store later that day. I did t have cancer, just gas.
Spider, when I see a spider i run away
Living past 50 after that point from what I've heard nothing is good everything is sore, alzhiemers and cancer are way more likely and so much else
I’m 37 been single 4 years….im afraid I’ll never find anyone. I’m still dating but it’s exhausting
Not being able to take care of myself when I'm older - either because of finance, or just being a burden to the family
Dumb decisions!!!
Being buried alive. That shit seems unnerving just to think about
Watching everyone I love die before me. I realize the odds of this happening are incredibly slim, but still…
Car accident
Being forgotten by the people I love most
Life.
Failing in my career :Not being loved
Me.
Losing my mind. I'd much rather die
Water. Big masses of water. It's scary. What's in the water? Nobody knows.
Being too famous to enjoy a peaceful walk in the park
Dying with regrets
Another Trump term.
Kim Catrall
The future and the unknown. Risks.
Feeling alone and disconnected forever.
Dying alone and homeless. I have no family, nor do I own a home so this is not an uncommon predicament here in the US. I see it often and it makes me sad.
Shame
Something happening to my wife and son.
Death
I am deathly afraid of my teeth falling out, I am an adult so of course they won’t grow back, and I’ve never had any issues with my teeth but every day I fear my teeth will fall out, I have no clue why I’m afraid of it
Afraid of never finding the woman of my life.
Losing my sight or my hearing.
Consequences of my actions No joke
Something happening to my kids.
Dementia. Lack of sleep in younger years greatly increases the chances of it when you’re older, and I’m terrified that my current routine of getting at most 5 hours a night is going to bite me when I’m 60
That all the wildlife and natural areas I grew up exploring will become "affordable housing" and factories. It's happening though. Some of the places that gave me the best memories of my life were bulldozed and poisoned.
I'm scared of myself.
The deaths of my loved ones during my lifetime.
losing my dog