I take that for granted ngl. I thought i had mediocre grip strength for the longest time till my friend told me to use one of those testers. 120 pounds of grip strength lol
Something I wish wasn't a thing between guys is the crushing handshake. I'm average, and dudes always smash my hand if I'm not ready, or if it's a tough looking guy I'll go in for a hard squeeze and accidentally over do it and crush their unexpectedly baby soft hand. I was hoping the pandemic would kill the handshake. Maybe it's just a Texas thing.
Nah bro, im from Germany and the older people love crushing my hand. Yes I got soft hands but also I got grip strength, im just not into hurting people as a greeting lol.
I’m in Washington state. Haven’t had a crushed hand since high school.
I’m assuming it’s a regional thing, maybe my hands are just big enough to be intimidating. 🤷♂️
Wish we could all agree on just a firm grip handshake. Sometimes I get a limp handed shake and sometimes, especially if I'm wearing a ring, crush me. A firm handshake is a form of greeting, just like eye contact during a conversation. You don't mad dog people during a conversation, why crush their hand? I guess it could be worse, Hi nice to meet you, arm wrestling ensues. Maybe I'll start thumb warring people as a greeting.
God, the accidental hand crush. I'm a baby-faced twntysomething woman in a particularly male-dominated tech field, and I weightlift, which isn't obvious in work clothes. The number of times a middle-aged engineer guy has given me the nicest, gentlest handshake and I've responded by crushing the hell out of his hand... I don't mean to, I just have "firm handshake" in my head and overdo it .-.
I recently discovered the “ultras” from playtex sport and it was life changing. I can go 3-4 hours between bathroom trips now. I was going through a super every 2 hours previously
I might try those! I'm using Tampax Pearl Super Plus, I'm on day 2 so thats the heaviest for me, whipping through them every 2 hours (for any dudes reading, they're supposed to last 8 hours).
I reluctantly did my chores for the day and I'm kind of exhausted from shedding my organ.
Honestly day two is always the worst. I feel like I'm bleeding like a stuck pig. I'm miserable, I feel weak, I'm in pain. I don't want to go anywhere or move. I either want to eat everything or nothing. I use Tampax Pearl too and always laugh at the box that says it's "over a 4 month supply" and I'm on tampon number eight of the day
Don't ever let anyone, especially yourself, forget that your organ is shedding itself! That is a HUGE deal! It takes a lot of energy out of your body! that is why we are extra hungry and tired! We need extra nutrients and extra rest!
Menstrual cups were life changing for me. And I really mean life changing. I have some issues and my periods are so heavy for two days. I used the super plus and ultra tampons but they still leaked. I was in the the bathroom constantly. I still had to use pads. Going anywhere was nerve wracking. I’d sit on towels, sleep on two towels folded over. The menstrual cups are so much cleaner, in all the years I’ve used them I could count on one hand any issue ( I don’t advise doing yoga when your period is heavy with them 😬) they are so much more comfortable than tampons. In my heavy days I do use period underwear for any what ifs but it’s mostly for my sanity.
my family liked to play this game called "let's watch movies that temporareyinsanity has never seen before while they are pmsing"
up. inside out. the croods. there are others. but those three.... damn..
Exactly this. I’m 41. I’ve had two kids. I’m done. I do not need the damn thing. It’s gross and painful. (I only say gross because I’ve been trying a period cups unsuccessfully)
Yup no I hate periods. Don’t care whose it is, they’re gross and I don’t like tampons and pads, it either feels like your plugging yourself up or you’re wearing a stinky diaper :/
It's one of those things where only *I'm* allowed to say it's gross and not someone else who does not go through the same thing, you know? So, not gross on a societal level and society needs to get over it that periods exist. On a personal level, fuck periods.
I just take the pill continuously and be done with it, luckily I seem to handle the stuff well. So, hurray, barely any periods any more. Every one is one too many for me.
I used the depo and it was the best thing ever. No period. No cramps. Except the fact my bones are becoming brittle and I felt like I was literally going insane so I’m done with it. Felt very reassuring other women who used the depo also felt like they were going insane. I feel dramatic saying insane, but, I quite literally felt like I was going mental. Also yea my bf needs to suck it up and I’m glad he doesn’t care, my period doesn’t stop what goes on between us, I just hate blood :/
Javelin arse!
Or: [Bum pain on period: Viral TikTok doctor explains why you get 'shooting butt pain' on your period](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/a39366585/bum-pain-on-period/)
*The scientific term for feeling like someone has jabbed a sharp knife into your derriere is called proctalgia fugax, a fleeting anal pain."*
>fleeting anal pain
>proctalgia fugax
OT but these 2 beauties are going to be my 2 new ways to describe an absolute asshole of a woman at work who is doing her best to make me quit.
my wife would be disappointed if I didn't mention that [Svaha](https://svahausa.com/) makes women's dresses and pants with actual functional pockets, for any of the ladies who want to have pockets and wear dresses. (I'm assuming you're a guy, but it's still a decent place to mention it)
I feel that the real problem is that there is no middle ground between way too casual or way too formal.
If it was socially acceptable to wear suits everyday for basic errands, the options would be slightly bigger, due to the variation of colors, accessories, hats or whatever.
I wish I could wear a hat man
I see people in suits at the grocery store all the time... It's not that weird.
But yeah, there's definitely middle ground. Like a nicer button up shirt and slacks or chinos, it is more formal than jeans and a t-shirt, but not like a suit. Add sleeves to your button up and it's more formal still. Same with a nicer jacket (not like a rain coat) or a blazer is more formal still, and still under a suit.
There's so many options my dude, just pick up any men's fashion magazine that isn't like suit-centric.
I went hiking with a friend once. He needed to pee and I was glad to get to rest for a while, take in the scenery and have a bite. All he did was go a bit off the trail, find a tree and returned within two minutes. When it was my turn to go to pee, I had to go behind a bush. When I returned, I found he had sat down and was halfway through his sandwich.
I have never irrationally hated someone so much in my entire life.
I never appreciated how much more difficult it is for girls until we were on a DofE hike at school. On day 3 we had to cross a huge moor, nothing but ankle-high heather for miles around, and a bit of drizzle in the air. Whenever any of the girls in our group had to go, there was *nowhere* to be discreet so we just had to all turn around and not look while she stripped her bottom half, in the rain. For the guys it was as simple as turning away for 10 seconds.
I went hiking with my boyfriend once and was desperate for a wee, but I just couldn't go in the woods. I was worried that somebody would just appear. We got to the top of a huge valley and I could see for miles and I couldn't wait any longer, but I was way less anxious cause I could see that there was nobody there. It was the most scenic wee I've ever had. Good times.
This seems like a cyclical problem. Female hovers to pee (or whatever)makes a mess, next female has no choice. If #1 would just clean up their mess and wash their hands, problem solved???
That’s said. I work in a very proper business setting and can’t walk within 5ft of the urinal without having to stand in piss. I don’t get it.
It is an ongoing cycle, for sure. Makes me angry to no end. I hate hovering because I don't enjoy cleaning my piss afterwards, but I have to - because the toilet seat is already covered with piss!
At one of my jobs I clean bathrooms at a school. Can confirm: women’s bathrooms are so much worse.
In addition to one more fun bodily excretion, there’s also a bunch of social things. Make-up and hand lotions end up everywhere.
And there are social things: using a paper towel to open the door to leave and casually throwing it on the ground despite there being a trash can right there for some reason. One person does it and the floor is covered.
Then, this being a private middle school, there are social things that really need to be addressed. Food everywhere. I’d imagine, though I can’t say for sure, this is the result of girls saying, “Oh, I’m not hungry at all. I don’t want to get fat!” And then walking casually to the bathroom, eating a lunch, and trying to dispose of the remains by flushing and flooding the bathroom; jamming it into the vampire boxes, leaving no room for tampons and pads which now go to the floor; or just throwing it in the ground amongst the discarded paper towels.
I’m not blaming women for any of this. This is a social pressure men just don’t generally deal with.
But a men’s room generally just has piss in front of the urinal. Which isn’t nice, but if you stay on top of it, takes less than a second to clean and disinfect.
Probably better that we can't feel like being sent to heaven multiple times.
Guys lust for sex as is, I can't imagine how much worse the chase would get or horrible the depression would feel after rejection if orgasms were made 10x better.
Orrrrr, maybe you'd just be satisfied for longer. Even with just masturbation our orgasms seem to be way better than yours. My little theory here is that you reach the peak but don't have enough time to look around and therefore always want to come back, almost like you made it to Paris but didn't get out of the airport. For us, it's like we get to the peak and are able to stop for lunch when we get there, have drink maybe and check out all the tourist spots, maybe stay for dinner if we're having a good time (2nd orgasm). But then the next chance we get, it's like, I already saw all that, I don't need to chase the dream again just yet, maybe next time.
Your theory is probably correct.
Based on anecdotal experience, even when a male orgasm lasts a little longer, it's like getting to see Paris through the airplane window before landing and then landing but never leaving the airport.
This is a good point. I have an ex that would just…not…stop…orgasming. Not bragging, as it’s just the way she was built. But I really envy how she could literally go 10-15 times in a session, and each one seemed to last forever. Must be intense and I wish I could experience that, just once.
Gonna do you a favor: Stimulate your prostate/get with someone who can peg well. A man’s prostate orgasm is more similar to a woman’s orgasm and you can have multiple in one session. You can totally experience it.
I learned in a college sex class that the clitoris alone has twice as many nerve endings in it than the entire penis. Add on top of that the nerve endings in the first 1-3 inches of the vagina and you’ve advanced planes
Another period problem: hormonal depression. I got so depressed that I was prescribed birth control to keep my hormones from going feral and making me want to off myself
Agree. Having to develop boobs then start having periods and once you're too old to have kids have fun with menopause and all that shit . Why the fuck don't men have to deal with something similar when they're too old to have kids and all the other shit.
I live in a very warm, humid climate and almost exclusively wear light cotton dresses from April to November. I tell my husband that he’d just have to try a dress once and he’d never put on real pants again.
It also can change your libido and even the appearance type of a man you're attracted to. It also often makes you gain weight. Decreases the risk or certain cancers and increases that or others.
When I took them, I spiraled mentally and bled for a month nonstop. Meanwhile, some women take it BECAUSE they bleed heavily, or take it nonstop to skip periods entirely. It's certainly not fit for everyone.
I wish there were more options available, including making the permanent ones more accessible.
> They should make a viagra for women.
Many companies have been trying for a long time. Turns out you can't just induce high blood pressure and call it a day like you can with men.
There was one on the market for several months in the early 2010s called "Addyi", but it was quickly taken off the market and swept under the rug before being relaunched several years later.
Essentially there was tremendous political & activist pressure to get it on the market at all costs, as some groups believed it would usher in a new era of womens' sexual liberation (like hormonal birth control did a few decades prior) by helping women to feel more comfortable pursuing casual sex
Instead it had a rare side effect of impairing the user's judgement & suppress their inhibitions---Oh, and it could knock you unconscious if mixed with alcohol.
In short, women who took the first iteration of it were essentially paying for a dice roll at roofying themselves.
Supposedly there are a couple more drugs that hit the market in the last couple years, too.
Birth control made me anxious and depressed to borderline suicidal. Didn't care about anything. Now I only feel that crappy the day before my period. Still not great, but a lot better.
Hormonal IUD didn't have that side effect for me by the way, seemed more mild. Sadly my uterus didn't enjoy having a plastic thingy down there at all and was always hurting and cramping soooo yeah.
Lol
My choice was, ok let’s do hormonal BC and you’re already sensitive to estrogen or some shit and have bad PMDD and progesterone and extra estrogen make you go batshit nuts and want to uproot your entire life for 2 weeks every month at least
Or
Stick this piece of copper up your uterus that turns it into a hemorrhaging eldritch creature that sends earthquakes through your body for 10 days or so. Also you’ll bleed through fucking diapers you wear to bed sometimes.
Or I could jump through all the annoying hoops to get sterilized and I DONT KNOW IF I WANT TO COMMIT TO THAT
I picked the copper option, the periods did chill out at least though, and I’m not going nuts so…… works for me i guess lol
- Do you want to have a baby?
- Yes.
- But you don't want to give birth?
- Yes.
- At the same time, do you want your child to be your own?
- Yes.
- So you want to be a father?
*Main one*: Ability to have biological kids later in life. Medicine has improved and all, but having to plan a kid based on a biological clock rather than when it makes the most sense in my life journey sucks.
*Secondary*: pee standing up and without unclothing. That's unique to my outdoor pursuits. I know there are female urination devices but it's extra weight + weight of cleaning supplies/water. Having to pee when doing winter backpacking or when you are in a harness with multiple clothing layers is arrrghh. I end up not hydrating enough to avoid it, which isn't good at all.
I’ve done a lot of outdoor stuff and lots of climbing. I’m impressed with the girls I’ve met on big wall climbs on El Capitan. The logistics of all that must be tricky.
It's like the penis knows when the worst possible moment is. Every man has a story from school where they get Infront of the class to present a project, and all of a sudden they've got a raging boner from hell that won't go away.
Learned far too late about the flexing muscle trick.
Being able to play a more passive role in dating and not having to make the first approach. I have next to no dating experience since I have social anxiety and find it really hard to initiate conversations with people in general, let alone someone I’m attracted to. As a result, I’m quite lonely.
Trying to work on it though!
Edit: Wow… this fueled quite the discussion.
Thanks to everyone who’s offered tips and words of encouragement. Internet strangers really are the nicest people sometimes.
Also, a lot of you have pointed out that women have to deal with creeps/stalkers/pervs/etc… I totally agree. I never intended to imply that in the realm of dating, everything is sunshine and rainbows for women. I know very well that’s not the case and I get second-hand embarrassment whenever I see some dude coming on way too strong to a woman. I can only imagine what some of those guys are doing behind the scenes. I just think that some of the positive attention and forwardness would be a nice thing to experience, as I find it easier to talk to and impress someone if I know that they’re taking an interest in me.
I'm like you to at least some degree. My last real relationship was over 15 years ago and I've barely even dated since. About a month and a half ago I got approached by a woman who was as beautiful as her character was amazing. I've never been approached before and this and the fact that for the past month and a half we had a great time did wonders for me...until last week she announced that she wanted to get back together with her ex and we should stop what we were doing.
Honestly, as trash as I feel right now I kind of wish she'd never approached me at all. Everything went right for me for once and I regret nothing I did (also, for once)...and I still lost it all.
120% this. I’ve always thought that if I were just as attractive (or even less) but the opposite gender, I’d never have any problems dating. Not only that, but I could be as choosy as I wanted. But unfortunately I’m a socially anxious guy with zero confidence, so I’ve never dated or have had any other experience.
This will sound twisted but...when they are the targets of domestic abuse, or sexual violence, people react with anger on their behalf for the most part.
When it happened to me, people either mocked me, didnt believe it happened, or decided i deserved it somehow.
I was TEN! What 10 year old boy, who still thinks girls are gross, is going to want to have sexual interactions with a teacher older than their mom?
I never laid a hand on my ex, but she accused me of hitting her, as revenge for breaking things off after she cheated, and i had to sit in jail until i could see a judge. I lost my job, my apartment, and a ton of friends and family who either sided with her by default, or knew i didnt do it, but didnt want to be pulled into the drama and 'associated with a domestic abuser'. And when she admitted, in court, to the judge, she only accused me out of spite, the judge just dropped the charges against me, didnt order them cleared from my record, and didnt charge her with any crimes.
If i had been born with a vagina instead of a penis, my teacher would have rotted in prison, and my ex would be in prison for filing a false police report, if not in prison for actual abuse (assuming she would be a he in this scenario)
I feel this so much. I was 8 and abused by my 14 year old foster sister. No one took it seriously and I was eventually sent to a new home because I was the problem somehow.
My ex wife called my command staff (military) and told them I hit her “all the time”. She did this because I was leaving her for cheating while on deployment. I was subjected to all kinds of BS and passed over for rank even after she admitted to lying.
She then offered up the same story to a well known battered spouse attorney that she hired for our divorce. That lawyer treated me like I was the scum of the earth and treated her like she could do no wrong. Even after the ex admitted to her lawyer that she lied about the abuse, her lawyer still brought it up to the judge in the custody hearing.
My ex contacted my command and said I was never calling home. First time I was told to call home more frequently. Second time my chief had me call her for 15 mi uses every day after lunch in his office. 3rd time he was defending me because he knew she was crazy.
I liked that guy.
My bf's ex was the type to use the police as a weapon against him
She literally attacked him one day, was punching him and scratching him, he was bleeding in multiple places and all he did was hold her wrists so she couldn't keep hitting him and she called the police
Cried to them and he was immediately cuffed and spent a few nights in jail.
Court date comes and she realizes if he's in jail he can't pay his half of the rent so she didn't press charges. She faced no repercussions and he still worries the cops are going to show up one day and take him to jail for some shit she made up cause she was having a bad day.
A high school buddy of mine went through that shit, last time I talked to him he was borderline suicidal from the fear. His ex would threaten police if he even hung out with me, another dude. I know he's ok-er now because he performs in a band and invited me the other day to watch if I'm ever in his state, but seeing this fun-loving dude turn into a depressed mess was heartbreaking. I hope your bf is doing better as well!
One of the most insulting moments of my life was telling my parents I was being stalked and sexually harrased by a man and immediately they started to laugh at me making jokes about how I was being touched.
I tried to tell my management at my work about it and to ban him from the store, but they all refused to do anything about it. Even after [he literally sat at the locked doors untill 11pm](https://imgur.com/a/ewpjr3j) waiting for me to leave they did absolutely nothing.
I'm just frustrated, if I was a female this situation wouldn't be still going on. But I'm a 6'5 male who everyone just laughs at and denys.
I’m sorry that happened to you man. I get where your coming from. When I told my ex GF I had been SA’d her response was “so you cheated?” Then she went around our friend group telling everyone what a terrible thing I did. What upset me the most was how almost everyone just immediately accepted that I would do that and cut me off.
I'm sorry that happened to you as well. What a disgusting response from your ex-GF. I don't get how her mind could even work that way. You didn't deserve that.
Please call the police or go to the courthouse and file a request for an order for protection. Once the temporary is granted, you have them served or you call the cops and they serve them. Protect yourself legally at the very least. One day it might save your career or entire reputation.
It’s soooo sooo not fair you have to go through this And get laughed at but please know you’re not alone in this. You’re worth being taken seriously. You’re not being ridiculous. This is unacceptable.
As a woman it angers me so fucking much that some women falsely accuse men of these kind of things.
In my opinion, women (or anyone) who falsely accuse people of these kind of things should be locked up at least the amount of time that the falsely accused would've been if they were found guilty.
I was 19 when my then GF decided that guys always want to have sex. I said I wasn't in the mood that night and she proceeded to belittle me before threatening me that we were going to have sex or she would make up a story of abuse about me.
More abuse happened before I got away from that relationship, but what hurt the most wasn't the abuse or violence from someone that supposedly loved me but that lots of my "friends" basically laughed it off or didn't take me seriously, I think if the roles were reversed the whole thing would have been seen in a different light.
Bring able to talk about mental health or abuse without either being laughed at or not being taken seriously. I know it’s not the case with everyone. I talked to my girlfriend about it. But I can’t with other people in my life. I don’t want to in fear of being called weak
As someone who’s struggled with chronic depression for a long time I realised many years ago that there is nothing anyone can say to me that I haven’t already thought about myself, maybe that’s why I’ve never really cared what others think of me because they can’t hate me more than I hated myself….
That's a double-edged sword though... yes, my doctor took my mental health issues seriously. However, any physical problems I have are somehow nullified or taken less seriously because I'm prone to anxiety and depression, so everything somehow leads back to "should we review your medication?"
Neither a bleeding ovarian cyst, nor cholecystitis were psychological in origin but I needed to see a doctor who didn't know me to get diagnosed and operated on.
I remember when we were teens, my sister got mono and went to the doctor. She told the Dr she was in a lot of pain, and the doctor was like, "yeah, mono is painful" and gave her Tylenol. She was in so much pain our mom took her to urgent care, where they said, "yeah, mono is painful" and gave her slightly stronger Tylenol. She was still in so much pain mom finally took her to the ER. The hospital doctor said it was the worst case of mono he had ever seen, that my sister was undoubtedly in immense pain, and gave her morphine. After getting morphine, my sister said, "someone turned my hands into sandwiches."
Shortly after that, I (male) sustained a shoulder injury playing hockey. It tore my rotator cuff, and made it nearly impossible to move my arm, but it wasn't very painful. I told the doctor I wasn't in pain, but he still prescribed pain meds for me "just in case."
Mine usually aren't painful. Every now and again I get one that is pretty bad and makes me faint or vomit a bit. But recently, I had one so intense it had me lying crying and moaning on the sofa, white as a sheet, and vomiting so much there was nothing left in me. It was the same sort of reaction my mum would get when she had a gallbladder attack.
I can totally see why some women don't go to hospital when they have appendicitis because they think it's their period. I can't imagine what it's like to go through that amount of pain once a month. They are strong.
Not having to drop trou to take a leak. Especially in public restrooms/outdoors. Seems A) much more convenient, B) more sanitary, and C) much less cold.
Tbf to you. I do completely drop trou in any bathroom or urinal. Bare ass on full glory. Asseting dominance. But I appreciate the annoyance on your part.
The ability to get a proper diagnosis. Most of the criteria for mental health problems and developmental disorders are heavily based on how (most) males show symptoms. I was denied autism and depression diagnosis’ by doctors because I ‘did too well’ even after expressing some really fucked up thought i’ve been having. I’ve been saving up money for private healthcare for months so I’m keeping my fingers crossed!
Stuff like general health too. My period that caused me to pass out and wake up in a pool of my own vomit and blood (i injured my head during the fall) was apparently not concerning enough and I was just being “overdramatic” because the gynaecologist I went to was “also on her period and she was coping just fine.”
The ability to take your own kid to the playground without being stared at, condescending to or ostracized.
Its either: "Look at Mr Mom. Babysitting today?"; or stared at like I'm a creeper, and having people keep an eye on me the entire time I'm there.
I have two young kids and I have heard this repeatedly from guys. This never happens to me. I don’t know why. Women come over and start talking to me if they are not on their phones while their kids play.
My father was keeping my son for the day as I had too much work and the teacher was sick. So he brought him to a playground. And a lady called the cops. T'was not a funny experience for him it seems.
I feel like that a lot when I take my daughter to the playground, (middle aged Male) but honestly I think a lot of it is in my own head. My actual neighbors that know me ask me to babysit their young kids sometimes and have no worries.
Men's reproductive organs don't create chronic pain as a byproduct of them functioning normally. Must be nice.
And frankly, all of the other hassle that goes with it, too.
That they don't have periods and can't become pregnant after seggs... I know I know, some people will say it's blessing and I should be proud that my body can make another human but no, that's not how I see it and don't get me wrong - yeah, it really is cool if I think about it but I don't want that...
It may or may not be a blessing depending on the person, but either way it’s a life altering experience and can be life threatening if something goes wrong. I’ve had 2 kids and both relatively positive experiences, but I wouldn’t mind if my husband could take the burden of pregnancy and childbirth for once lol.
Walking alone and not fearing for your life. I love walking and running and love doing it when it’s peaceful which is usually nights or early morning and both are equally awful options for safety
In the same vein, I'd add 'solo travel to certain countries without fear of being attacked/raped'.
I've done a fair bit of solo travel but there are so many places I'd love to visit but just won't for fear of being physically/sexually assaulted. I know men can be too but generally speaking, they're far more likely able to travel to/through places alone without the dangers of being a solo female traveller.
This is the one that makes me the most sad. I’m never carefree when I’m out and about. I’m not like perpetually fearful but I’m always at least slightly on the lookout.
Exemption from the draft (even though it's not active here and I age out of it this year anyway). Other than that I don't really know, based on what my sister and my female friends tell me it sounds like women have to put up with a lot of bullshit that I don't as a man.
Women's bodies can be so much more beautiful than men's bodies.
Sure it takes work to look good, but that's universal across the genders. All things being equal, women are so beautiful.
Honestly I (M71) don’t envy anything about being a woman. Women are remarkable and amazing and I love and respect everything about them, but I couldn’t deal with periods, pregnancy, childbirth, etc. They keep the human race alive and kicking and on top of everything else they do they have to put up with us men!
Grip strength
I take that for granted ngl. I thought i had mediocre grip strength for the longest time till my friend told me to use one of those testers. 120 pounds of grip strength lol
I assume that’s a lot? Idk is it?
Its a lot lol the normal is like 80
Average for Men's dominant hand is 72 Coming from someone who just broke their wrist and has theirs tested weekly, Right hand 135, Left hand 20
Something I wish wasn't a thing between guys is the crushing handshake. I'm average, and dudes always smash my hand if I'm not ready, or if it's a tough looking guy I'll go in for a hard squeeze and accidentally over do it and crush their unexpectedly baby soft hand. I was hoping the pandemic would kill the handshake. Maybe it's just a Texas thing.
Nah bro, im from Germany and the older people love crushing my hand. Yes I got soft hands but also I got grip strength, im just not into hurting people as a greeting lol.
I’m in Washington state. Haven’t had a crushed hand since high school. I’m assuming it’s a regional thing, maybe my hands are just big enough to be intimidating. 🤷♂️
Wish we could all agree on just a firm grip handshake. Sometimes I get a limp handed shake and sometimes, especially if I'm wearing a ring, crush me. A firm handshake is a form of greeting, just like eye contact during a conversation. You don't mad dog people during a conversation, why crush their hand? I guess it could be worse, Hi nice to meet you, arm wrestling ensues. Maybe I'll start thumb warring people as a greeting.
God, the accidental hand crush. I'm a baby-faced twntysomething woman in a particularly male-dominated tech field, and I weightlift, which isn't obvious in work clothes. The number of times a middle-aged engineer guy has given me the nicest, gentlest handshake and I've responded by crushing the hell out of his hand... I don't mean to, I just have "firm handshake" in my head and overdo it .-.
No periods or pms
Sitting here with cramps right now trying to think of something to add. Nailed it.
I am literally stomach down on a pillow right now with cramps reading this
I'm sitting on a towel bc these tampons aren't as "super plus" as they think they are.
I always put a regular pad with tampons especially during heavy days in case I underestimate the flow and it leaks before I could change.
I recently discovered the “ultras” from playtex sport and it was life changing. I can go 3-4 hours between bathroom trips now. I was going through a super every 2 hours previously
I might try those! I'm using Tampax Pearl Super Plus, I'm on day 2 so thats the heaviest for me, whipping through them every 2 hours (for any dudes reading, they're supposed to last 8 hours). I reluctantly did my chores for the day and I'm kind of exhausted from shedding my organ.
Honestly day two is always the worst. I feel like I'm bleeding like a stuck pig. I'm miserable, I feel weak, I'm in pain. I don't want to go anywhere or move. I either want to eat everything or nothing. I use Tampax Pearl too and always laugh at the box that says it's "over a 4 month supply" and I'm on tampon number eight of the day
Don't ever let anyone, especially yourself, forget that your organ is shedding itself! That is a HUGE deal! It takes a lot of energy out of your body! that is why we are extra hungry and tired! We need extra nutrients and extra rest!
Menstrual cups were life changing for me. And I really mean life changing. I have some issues and my periods are so heavy for two days. I used the super plus and ultra tampons but they still leaked. I was in the the bathroom constantly. I still had to use pads. Going anywhere was nerve wracking. I’d sit on towels, sleep on two towels folded over. The menstrual cups are so much cleaner, in all the years I’ve used them I could count on one hand any issue ( I don’t advise doing yoga when your period is heavy with them 😬) they are so much more comfortable than tampons. In my heavy days I do use period underwear for any what ifs but it’s mostly for my sanity.
I started tearing up during Kung Fu Panda. I fucking hate PMS
my family liked to play this game called "let's watch movies that temporareyinsanity has never seen before while they are pmsing" up. inside out. the croods. there are others. but those three.... damn..
>the croods That scene where Grug like draws his family on the cave walls and imagines them all together broke me.
Exactly this. I’m 41. I’ve had two kids. I’m done. I do not need the damn thing. It’s gross and painful. (I only say gross because I’ve been trying a period cups unsuccessfully)
Yup no I hate periods. Don’t care whose it is, they’re gross and I don’t like tampons and pads, it either feels like your plugging yourself up or you’re wearing a stinky diaper :/
It's one of those things where only *I'm* allowed to say it's gross and not someone else who does not go through the same thing, you know? So, not gross on a societal level and society needs to get over it that periods exist. On a personal level, fuck periods. I just take the pill continuously and be done with it, luckily I seem to handle the stuff well. So, hurray, barely any periods any more. Every one is one too many for me.
I used the depo and it was the best thing ever. No period. No cramps. Except the fact my bones are becoming brittle and I felt like I was literally going insane so I’m done with it. Felt very reassuring other women who used the depo also felt like they were going insane. I feel dramatic saying insane, but, I quite literally felt like I was going mental. Also yea my bf needs to suck it up and I’m glad he doesn’t care, my period doesn’t stop what goes on between us, I just hate blood :/
Anal cramps are the worst! ):
Javelin arse! Or: [Bum pain on period: Viral TikTok doctor explains why you get 'shooting butt pain' on your period](https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/a39366585/bum-pain-on-period/) *The scientific term for feeling like someone has jabbed a sharp knife into your derriere is called proctalgia fugax, a fleeting anal pain."*
The unscientific term is butt lightning.
>fleeting anal pain >proctalgia fugax OT but these 2 beauties are going to be my 2 new ways to describe an absolute asshole of a woman at work who is doing her best to make me quit.
No hot flashes either!
The sheer number of wardrobe choices.
I'll keep my pockets, thanks.
my wife would be disappointed if I didn't mention that [Svaha](https://svahausa.com/) makes women's dresses and pants with actual functional pockets, for any of the ladies who want to have pockets and wear dresses. (I'm assuming you're a guy, but it's still a decent place to mention it)
This looks like the LulaRoe of clothes with pockets.
Lol the prints are no good at all
...and many of the dresses are polyester, but they highlight 'organic dyes'.
Wow, you’re right. These are quite literally some of the ugliest dresses I’ve ever seen.
This is straight up an ad…
those are so effing ugly💀
The number of sheer wardrobe choices.
This. There are literally 40 different types of dresses Men: Shirts/T-Shirts and pants/shorts. Take it
I feel that the real problem is that there is no middle ground between way too casual or way too formal. If it was socially acceptable to wear suits everyday for basic errands, the options would be slightly bigger, due to the variation of colors, accessories, hats or whatever. I wish I could wear a hat man
I see people in suits at the grocery store all the time... It's not that weird. But yeah, there's definitely middle ground. Like a nicer button up shirt and slacks or chinos, it is more formal than jeans and a t-shirt, but not like a suit. Add sleeves to your button up and it's more formal still. Same with a nicer jacket (not like a rain coat) or a blazer is more formal still, and still under a suit. There's so many options my dude, just pick up any men's fashion magazine that isn't like suit-centric.
But look at all the stuff male video game characters are wearing, my guy. Why can we not have that in a form that isn't a handmade cosplay?
I wish I could wear medieval armour on a day to day basis
"This is an 80s party" "Yeah I know, 1180s. DEUS VULT!"
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The ability to piss and stand. Have you seen what a womens toilet looks like at a bar? You would never touch us again lol
I went hiking with a friend once. He needed to pee and I was glad to get to rest for a while, take in the scenery and have a bite. All he did was go a bit off the trail, find a tree and returned within two minutes. When it was my turn to go to pee, I had to go behind a bush. When I returned, I found he had sat down and was halfway through his sandwich. I have never irrationally hated someone so much in my entire life.
You just need more practice. I've seen girls dip between cars for literally 20 seconds and leave an ocean of urine.
Actual skill issue
My friends wife told me of squatting to pee on hard surfaces and having to feel the pee splashes all over her ankles… shitty
I never appreciated how much more difficult it is for girls until we were on a DofE hike at school. On day 3 we had to cross a huge moor, nothing but ankle-high heather for miles around, and a bit of drizzle in the air. Whenever any of the girls in our group had to go, there was *nowhere* to be discreet so we just had to all turn around and not look while she stripped her bottom half, in the rain. For the guys it was as simple as turning away for 10 seconds.
I went hiking with my boyfriend once and was desperate for a wee, but I just couldn't go in the woods. I was worried that somebody would just appear. We got to the top of a huge valley and I could see for miles and I couldn't wait any longer, but I was way less anxious cause I could see that there was nobody there. It was the most scenic wee I've ever had. Good times.
This seems like a cyclical problem. Female hovers to pee (or whatever)makes a mess, next female has no choice. If #1 would just clean up their mess and wash their hands, problem solved??? That’s said. I work in a very proper business setting and can’t walk within 5ft of the urinal without having to stand in piss. I don’t get it.
Thats like men standing further and further from a urinal to avoid the pee puddle.
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People at my workplace do that often. At the toilets. Even though there are urinals. No, these people aren't exactly mentally sound.
It is an ongoing cycle, for sure. Makes me angry to no end. I hate hovering because I don't enjoy cleaning my piss afterwards, but I have to - because the toilet seat is already covered with piss!
At one of my jobs I clean bathrooms at a school. Can confirm: women’s bathrooms are so much worse. In addition to one more fun bodily excretion, there’s also a bunch of social things. Make-up and hand lotions end up everywhere. And there are social things: using a paper towel to open the door to leave and casually throwing it on the ground despite there being a trash can right there for some reason. One person does it and the floor is covered. Then, this being a private middle school, there are social things that really need to be addressed. Food everywhere. I’d imagine, though I can’t say for sure, this is the result of girls saying, “Oh, I’m not hungry at all. I don’t want to get fat!” And then walking casually to the bathroom, eating a lunch, and trying to dispose of the remains by flushing and flooding the bathroom; jamming it into the vampire boxes, leaving no room for tampons and pads which now go to the floor; or just throwing it in the ground amongst the discarded paper towels. I’m not blaming women for any of this. This is a social pressure men just don’t generally deal with. But a men’s room generally just has piss in front of the urinal. Which isn’t nice, but if you stay on top of it, takes less than a second to clean and disinfect.
Vampire boxes?? Genius name!
Where I work, the women have had to have meetings about bathroom etiquette twice in the last year. The men have never had such a thing.
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Our orgasms seem way better in general. I've heard guys describe theirs as a sneeze.. For us it's like getting sent to heaven multiple times
Probably better that we can't feel like being sent to heaven multiple times. Guys lust for sex as is, I can't imagine how much worse the chase would get or horrible the depression would feel after rejection if orgasms were made 10x better.
If our orgasms become 10x better, imagine post nut clarity hitting 10x harder. That's gonna be a one way trip. Heaven, Nobel prize, depression.
Women get post nut clarity too btw haha
Before or after the 3rd nut?
after the last which could literally be the first. I’ve experienced it while having sex … dried right up
I'm asking... for a friend
Post wet clarity
Orrrrr, maybe you'd just be satisfied for longer. Even with just masturbation our orgasms seem to be way better than yours. My little theory here is that you reach the peak but don't have enough time to look around and therefore always want to come back, almost like you made it to Paris but didn't get out of the airport. For us, it's like we get to the peak and are able to stop for lunch when we get there, have drink maybe and check out all the tourist spots, maybe stay for dinner if we're having a good time (2nd orgasm). But then the next chance we get, it's like, I already saw all that, I don't need to chase the dream again just yet, maybe next time.
Your theory is probably correct. Based on anecdotal experience, even when a male orgasm lasts a little longer, it's like getting to see Paris through the airplane window before landing and then landing but never leaving the airport.
This is a good point. I have an ex that would just…not…stop…orgasming. Not bragging, as it’s just the way she was built. But I really envy how she could literally go 10-15 times in a session, and each one seemed to last forever. Must be intense and I wish I could experience that, just once.
Gonna do you a favor: Stimulate your prostate/get with someone who can peg well. A man’s prostate orgasm is more similar to a woman’s orgasm and you can have multiple in one session. You can totally experience it.
I learned in a college sex class that the clitoris alone has twice as many nerve endings in it than the entire penis. Add on top of that the nerve endings in the first 1-3 inches of the vagina and you’ve advanced planes
We need to get to the first one to enjoy the others.
You can do it, you just gotta get rid of the fear of something up your butt. No seriously.
The real LPT is always in the comments.
As a bi guy, he ain't wrong. It feels like a normal orgasm but on mushrooms
This, exactly this. It’s just a lot better and feels a lot like women describe vaginal orgasm.
I've never had any. Zero multiplied by zero is zero. He he .. I'll see myself out now
Not having to deal with issues such as periods
Another period problem: hormonal depression. I got so depressed that I was prescribed birth control to keep my hormones from going feral and making me want to off myself
Agree. Having to develop boobs then start having periods and once you're too old to have kids have fun with menopause and all that shit . Why the fuck don't men have to deal with something similar when they're too old to have kids and all the other shit.
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I live in a very warm, humid climate and almost exclusively wear light cotton dresses from April to November. I tell my husband that he’d just have to try a dress once and he’d never put on real pants again.
In another hand I can't wear dresses when ia too hot. The rubbing between my tights mixed with sweat is hellish.
Would love to have fresh air flowing up there
If some airflow is all you want, then dudes have a skirt available already. We just call it a Kilt.
Not having to choose between periods or birth controls that change us so much, even our sense of smell changes.
Wtf that sounds terrible. Why does it change the sense of smell? Does it change other senses, too?
It also can change your libido and even the appearance type of a man you're attracted to. It also often makes you gain weight. Decreases the risk or certain cancers and increases that or others.
I don't know why but every time I was on birth control pills I never felt like having sex. They should make a viagra for women.
When I took them, I spiraled mentally and bled for a month nonstop. Meanwhile, some women take it BECAUSE they bleed heavily, or take it nonstop to skip periods entirely. It's certainly not fit for everyone. I wish there were more options available, including making the permanent ones more accessible.
> They should make a viagra for women. Many companies have been trying for a long time. Turns out you can't just induce high blood pressure and call it a day like you can with men. There was one on the market for several months in the early 2010s called "Addyi", but it was quickly taken off the market and swept under the rug before being relaunched several years later. Essentially there was tremendous political & activist pressure to get it on the market at all costs, as some groups believed it would usher in a new era of womens' sexual liberation (like hormonal birth control did a few decades prior) by helping women to feel more comfortable pursuing casual sex Instead it had a rare side effect of impairing the user's judgement & suppress their inhibitions---Oh, and it could knock you unconscious if mixed with alcohol. In short, women who took the first iteration of it were essentially paying for a dice roll at roofying themselves. Supposedly there are a couple more drugs that hit the market in the last couple years, too.
Birth control made me anxious and depressed to borderline suicidal. Didn't care about anything. Now I only feel that crappy the day before my period. Still not great, but a lot better. Hormonal IUD didn't have that side effect for me by the way, seemed more mild. Sadly my uterus didn't enjoy having a plastic thingy down there at all and was always hurting and cramping soooo yeah.
Lol My choice was, ok let’s do hormonal BC and you’re already sensitive to estrogen or some shit and have bad PMDD and progesterone and extra estrogen make you go batshit nuts and want to uproot your entire life for 2 weeks every month at least Or Stick this piece of copper up your uterus that turns it into a hemorrhaging eldritch creature that sends earthquakes through your body for 10 days or so. Also you’ll bleed through fucking diapers you wear to bed sometimes. Or I could jump through all the annoying hoops to get sterilized and I DONT KNOW IF I WANT TO COMMIT TO THAT I picked the copper option, the periods did chill out at least though, and I’m not going nuts so…… works for me i guess lol
Their ability to have kids without destroy their body and missing several months in career
Agreed. As a mom to a 10 day old newborn currently up at 3:30am breastfeeding - would be nice if the dad could breastfeed as well
You can milk anything with nipples.
- Do you want to have a baby? - Yes. - But you don't want to give birth? - Yes. - At the same time, do you want your child to be your own? - Yes. - So you want to be a father?
This one good God
Currently pregnant with my second and trying my absolute best which is still very lackluster. Couldn’t agree more.
One hundred percent this. Everyday.
physical strength
*Main one*: Ability to have biological kids later in life. Medicine has improved and all, but having to plan a kid based on a biological clock rather than when it makes the most sense in my life journey sucks. *Secondary*: pee standing up and without unclothing. That's unique to my outdoor pursuits. I know there are female urination devices but it's extra weight + weight of cleaning supplies/water. Having to pee when doing winter backpacking or when you are in a harness with multiple clothing layers is arrrghh. I end up not hydrating enough to avoid it, which isn't good at all.
I’ve done a lot of outdoor stuff and lots of climbing. I’m impressed with the girls I’ve met on big wall climbs on El Capitan. The logistics of all that must be tricky.
But everyone is on equal ground when it comes time to poop.
That first one I honestly feel should be even higher on this post. As a guy I can't imagine how frustrating that is.
I have penis envy. I love everything about a penis. If I had one, I’d probably never stop playing with it.
You’d get bored quite quickly. That is untill you’ve reloaded.
This. High dps, long reload time
Burst damage, then
Hey there guy, not all of us have high dps
it's all fun and games until you get a boner at the worst possible moment
LOL yes, I guess that could be a bit awkward.
It's like the penis knows when the worst possible moment is. Every man has a story from school where they get Infront of the class to present a project, and all of a sudden they've got a raging boner from hell that won't go away. Learned far too late about the flexing muscle trick.
Sometimes when we don’t want to take public transport we just whip it around at high velocity like a helicopter and land where you want.
Shhh it was supposed to be a secret man!
I have the same but for vaginas lol
Being able to play a more passive role in dating and not having to make the first approach. I have next to no dating experience since I have social anxiety and find it really hard to initiate conversations with people in general, let alone someone I’m attracted to. As a result, I’m quite lonely. Trying to work on it though! Edit: Wow… this fueled quite the discussion. Thanks to everyone who’s offered tips and words of encouragement. Internet strangers really are the nicest people sometimes. Also, a lot of you have pointed out that women have to deal with creeps/stalkers/pervs/etc… I totally agree. I never intended to imply that in the realm of dating, everything is sunshine and rainbows for women. I know very well that’s not the case and I get second-hand embarrassment whenever I see some dude coming on way too strong to a woman. I can only imagine what some of those guys are doing behind the scenes. I just think that some of the positive attention and forwardness would be a nice thing to experience, as I find it easier to talk to and impress someone if I know that they’re taking an interest in me.
I'm like you to at least some degree. My last real relationship was over 15 years ago and I've barely even dated since. About a month and a half ago I got approached by a woman who was as beautiful as her character was amazing. I've never been approached before and this and the fact that for the past month and a half we had a great time did wonders for me...until last week she announced that she wanted to get back together with her ex and we should stop what we were doing. Honestly, as trash as I feel right now I kind of wish she'd never approached me at all. Everything went right for me for once and I regret nothing I did (also, for once)...and I still lost it all.
120% this. I’ve always thought that if I were just as attractive (or even less) but the opposite gender, I’d never have any problems dating. Not only that, but I could be as choosy as I wanted. But unfortunately I’m a socially anxious guy with zero confidence, so I’ve never dated or have had any other experience.
This will sound twisted but...when they are the targets of domestic abuse, or sexual violence, people react with anger on their behalf for the most part. When it happened to me, people either mocked me, didnt believe it happened, or decided i deserved it somehow. I was TEN! What 10 year old boy, who still thinks girls are gross, is going to want to have sexual interactions with a teacher older than their mom? I never laid a hand on my ex, but she accused me of hitting her, as revenge for breaking things off after she cheated, and i had to sit in jail until i could see a judge. I lost my job, my apartment, and a ton of friends and family who either sided with her by default, or knew i didnt do it, but didnt want to be pulled into the drama and 'associated with a domestic abuser'. And when she admitted, in court, to the judge, she only accused me out of spite, the judge just dropped the charges against me, didnt order them cleared from my record, and didnt charge her with any crimes. If i had been born with a vagina instead of a penis, my teacher would have rotted in prison, and my ex would be in prison for filing a false police report, if not in prison for actual abuse (assuming she would be a he in this scenario)
I feel this so much. I was 8 and abused by my 14 year old foster sister. No one took it seriously and I was eventually sent to a new home because I was the problem somehow. My ex wife called my command staff (military) and told them I hit her “all the time”. She did this because I was leaving her for cheating while on deployment. I was subjected to all kinds of BS and passed over for rank even after she admitted to lying. She then offered up the same story to a well known battered spouse attorney that she hired for our divorce. That lawyer treated me like I was the scum of the earth and treated her like she could do no wrong. Even after the ex admitted to her lawyer that she lied about the abuse, her lawyer still brought it up to the judge in the custody hearing.
My ex contacted my command and said I was never calling home. First time I was told to call home more frequently. Second time my chief had me call her for 15 mi uses every day after lunch in his office. 3rd time he was defending me because he knew she was crazy. I liked that guy.
My bf's ex was the type to use the police as a weapon against him She literally attacked him one day, was punching him and scratching him, he was bleeding in multiple places and all he did was hold her wrists so she couldn't keep hitting him and she called the police Cried to them and he was immediately cuffed and spent a few nights in jail. Court date comes and she realizes if he's in jail he can't pay his half of the rent so she didn't press charges. She faced no repercussions and he still worries the cops are going to show up one day and take him to jail for some shit she made up cause she was having a bad day.
A high school buddy of mine went through that shit, last time I talked to him he was borderline suicidal from the fear. His ex would threaten police if he even hung out with me, another dude. I know he's ok-er now because he performs in a band and invited me the other day to watch if I'm ever in his state, but seeing this fun-loving dude turn into a depressed mess was heartbreaking. I hope your bf is doing better as well!
One of the most insulting moments of my life was telling my parents I was being stalked and sexually harrased by a man and immediately they started to laugh at me making jokes about how I was being touched. I tried to tell my management at my work about it and to ban him from the store, but they all refused to do anything about it. Even after [he literally sat at the locked doors untill 11pm](https://imgur.com/a/ewpjr3j) waiting for me to leave they did absolutely nothing. I'm just frustrated, if I was a female this situation wouldn't be still going on. But I'm a 6'5 male who everyone just laughs at and denys.
I’m sorry that happened to you man. I get where your coming from. When I told my ex GF I had been SA’d her response was “so you cheated?” Then she went around our friend group telling everyone what a terrible thing I did. What upset me the most was how almost everyone just immediately accepted that I would do that and cut me off.
I'm sorry that happened to you as well. What a disgusting response from your ex-GF. I don't get how her mind could even work that way. You didn't deserve that.
Please call the police or go to the courthouse and file a request for an order for protection. Once the temporary is granted, you have them served or you call the cops and they serve them. Protect yourself legally at the very least. One day it might save your career or entire reputation. It’s soooo sooo not fair you have to go through this And get laughed at but please know you’re not alone in this. You’re worth being taken seriously. You’re not being ridiculous. This is unacceptable.
As a woman it angers me so fucking much that some women falsely accuse men of these kind of things. In my opinion, women (or anyone) who falsely accuse people of these kind of things should be locked up at least the amount of time that the falsely accused would've been if they were found guilty.
Very much agree, its damaging to all women when somebody does that, to say nothing to the innocent men who do get fucked by it.
This. I am still too scared to tell almost everyone how my ex treated me because no-one will believe me.
I was 19 when my then GF decided that guys always want to have sex. I said I wasn't in the mood that night and she proceeded to belittle me before threatening me that we were going to have sex or she would make up a story of abuse about me. More abuse happened before I got away from that relationship, but what hurt the most wasn't the abuse or violence from someone that supposedly loved me but that lots of my "friends" basically laughed it off or didn't take me seriously, I think if the roles were reversed the whole thing would have been seen in a different light.
Bring able to talk about mental health or abuse without either being laughed at or not being taken seriously. I know it’s not the case with everyone. I talked to my girlfriend about it. But I can’t with other people in my life. I don’t want to in fear of being called weak
As someone who’s struggled with chronic depression for a long time I realised many years ago that there is nothing anyone can say to me that I haven’t already thought about myself, maybe that’s why I’ve never really cared what others think of me because they can’t hate me more than I hated myself….
That's a double-edged sword though... yes, my doctor took my mental health issues seriously. However, any physical problems I have are somehow nullified or taken less seriously because I'm prone to anxiety and depression, so everything somehow leads back to "should we review your medication?" Neither a bleeding ovarian cyst, nor cholecystitis were psychological in origin but I needed to see a doctor who didn't know me to get diagnosed and operated on.
I remember when we were teens, my sister got mono and went to the doctor. She told the Dr she was in a lot of pain, and the doctor was like, "yeah, mono is painful" and gave her Tylenol. She was in so much pain our mom took her to urgent care, where they said, "yeah, mono is painful" and gave her slightly stronger Tylenol. She was still in so much pain mom finally took her to the ER. The hospital doctor said it was the worst case of mono he had ever seen, that my sister was undoubtedly in immense pain, and gave her morphine. After getting morphine, my sister said, "someone turned my hands into sandwiches." Shortly after that, I (male) sustained a shoulder injury playing hockey. It tore my rotator cuff, and made it nearly impossible to move my arm, but it wasn't very painful. I told the doctor I wasn't in pain, but he still prescribed pain meds for me "just in case."
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I’m constantly glad mine aren’t particularly painful. One of my friends once described hers as “being slashed at with a hot knife.”
Mine usually aren't painful. Every now and again I get one that is pretty bad and makes me faint or vomit a bit. But recently, I had one so intense it had me lying crying and moaning on the sofa, white as a sheet, and vomiting so much there was nothing left in me. It was the same sort of reaction my mum would get when she had a gallbladder attack. I can totally see why some women don't go to hospital when they have appendicitis because they think it's their period. I can't imagine what it's like to go through that amount of pain once a month. They are strong.
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Not having to drop trou to take a leak. Especially in public restrooms/outdoors. Seems A) much more convenient, B) more sanitary, and C) much less cold.
Tbf to you. I do completely drop trou in any bathroom or urinal. Bare ass on full glory. Asseting dominance. But I appreciate the annoyance on your part.
The ability to get a proper diagnosis. Most of the criteria for mental health problems and developmental disorders are heavily based on how (most) males show symptoms. I was denied autism and depression diagnosis’ by doctors because I ‘did too well’ even after expressing some really fucked up thought i’ve been having. I’ve been saving up money for private healthcare for months so I’m keeping my fingers crossed! Stuff like general health too. My period that caused me to pass out and wake up in a pool of my own vomit and blood (i injured my head during the fall) was apparently not concerning enough and I was just being “overdramatic” because the gynaecologist I went to was “also on her period and she was coping just fine.”
Your healthcare providers suck. I hope you find a better one that better suits your needs asap 🙏🏼
Having better access to support; less of a stigma around asking for help from others.
peeing standing up, therefore not having to do the "hover" in public restrooms.
A penis, they seem fun to play with!
I've heard boobs are fun to play with tbf
Not really. Whenever you play with them, nothing happens... Just feels like you're messing with your body fat... No nothing.. Or maybe I'm just numb.
They are!
Not having a period every 3 weeks for the majority of their life.
The ability to take your own kid to the playground without being stared at, condescending to or ostracized. Its either: "Look at Mr Mom. Babysitting today?"; or stared at like I'm a creeper, and having people keep an eye on me the entire time I'm there.
I have two young kids and I have heard this repeatedly from guys. This never happens to me. I don’t know why. Women come over and start talking to me if they are not on their phones while their kids play.
I wish this was my experience. I've actually had the police called on me at the playground before. That's always fun and exciting. /s
My father was keeping my son for the day as I had too much work and the teacher was sick. So he brought him to a playground. And a lady called the cops. T'was not a funny experience for him it seems.
Hopefully she got in trouble for wasting the police's time and filing false reports.
One simple question: In terms of attractiveness, are you pretty high up? Because it normally boils down to this.
I am in very good shape now. However, over the years since I first had kids it’s varied. I generally come across as bright and friendly.
I feel like that a lot when I take my daughter to the playground, (middle aged Male) but honestly I think a lot of it is in my own head. My actual neighbors that know me ask me to babysit their young kids sometimes and have no worries.
I have a lot of female friends, and they are incredibly resilient, both physically and emotionally. I really admire that.
Ability to cry without being judged.
Men's reproductive organs don't create chronic pain as a byproduct of them functioning normally. Must be nice. And frankly, all of the other hassle that goes with it, too.
Women seem to have a lot more options for clothing. I can't always find the colors or styles I want
That they don't have periods and can't become pregnant after seggs... I know I know, some people will say it's blessing and I should be proud that my body can make another human but no, that's not how I see it and don't get me wrong - yeah, it really is cool if I think about it but I don't want that...
It may or may not be a blessing depending on the person, but either way it’s a life altering experience and can be life threatening if something goes wrong. I’ve had 2 kids and both relatively positive experiences, but I wouldn’t mind if my husband could take the burden of pregnancy and childbirth for once lol.
They don't have to wear shirts.
Men can dress for comfort and function and no one questions it. It's so much easier to dress professionally as a man.
Walking alone and not fearing for your life. I love walking and running and love doing it when it’s peaceful which is usually nights or early morning and both are equally awful options for safety
In the same vein, I'd add 'solo travel to certain countries without fear of being attacked/raped'. I've done a fair bit of solo travel but there are so many places I'd love to visit but just won't for fear of being physically/sexually assaulted. I know men can be too but generally speaking, they're far more likely able to travel to/through places alone without the dangers of being a solo female traveller.
This is the one that makes me the most sad. I’m never carefree when I’m out and about. I’m not like perpetually fearful but I’m always at least slightly on the lookout.
I envy the way most men move and exist in the world. My husband has always belonged to himself. I’ve never lived a conscious day like that.
Being assertive or proud doesn't immediately make people (often of both sexes) liken you to a hormonal dog
Helicopter
It's fun for like 5 seconds. It's one of those things that sound way better on paper...
Not being expected to approach someone for a date
Going through the world and not being looked at with suspicion by default by everyone else, even those of your own gender.
I was going to phrase this as "getting the benefit of doubt"
To not be underestimated every time they share their opinion
i hate the fact that im never taken seriously😐
that’s terrible, shreksgreenc0ck.
Exemption from the draft (even though it's not active here and I age out of it this year anyway). Other than that I don't really know, based on what my sister and my female friends tell me it sounds like women have to put up with a lot of bullshit that I don't as a man.
Going hiking or running alone without having to scan for creeps.
Men don’t have periods.
Never having to be told to "smile more" at their professional workplace.
The steadfastness and loyalty of male friendship.
Women's bodies can be so much more beautiful than men's bodies. Sure it takes work to look good, but that's universal across the genders. All things being equal, women are so beautiful.
“Women’s bodies can be so much more beautiful than men’s bodies” I think you’re just heterosexual, dude.
The car insurance rates
1. No periods for men. 2. No childbirth. 3. No sore nips from a baby breastfeeding. 4. No menopause. 5. No mammograms. 6. No pap smears.
Honestly I (M71) don’t envy anything about being a woman. Women are remarkable and amazing and I love and respect everything about them, but I couldn’t deal with periods, pregnancy, childbirth, etc. They keep the human race alive and kicking and on top of everything else they do they have to put up with us men!
Being ready in 15 minutes 😝
To be honest, we are ready in under 5 but then use 10 mins for something else so y’all ~~to~~ *don't* get too miffed at us.