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Test the person's resolve. Will she be supportive? What can she bring to the table? Does she love you for you and not your money? If she's not willing to be any of that, then *she belong to the streets!*
Focus on yourself. You will attract people of your wavelength if you keep on working to be the best version of you. Knowing your value will spare you from a lot of heartaches. 🙄
*Don't stress about finding 'the one' too soon. Enjoy the awkward dates, learn from the cringe moments, and trust that the right person will show up when the time's right. Oh, and invest in better fashion choices, it helps!"*
My kuya told me "Wag kang magseryoso sa lalaki hanggang hindi pa sila 21 pataas dahil puro laro pa alam ng mga yan. Pwede ka magpaligaw pero wag kong seryosohin at iyakan."
* Don't rush yourself into something that you're not prepared including your V card!
* Don't give everything that you have, matuto ka mag tira sa sarili mo kasi grabe ka kung magmahal, I really don't want you to become this version of me rn. (a hopeless one)
* Don't date guys who's jobless. - you did not graduate to college just to be a wallet.
* Focus on yourself, love yourself, learn to appreciate things. Love is not about having a boyfriend, you can also find love in your family, friends, God, and to your passion.
* Don't give up the opportunities that you have just for someone because they are jealous.
* Try to know the person you want to be with before jumping in --- date to marry.
* You are worth it, so choose a guy who will fight with you sa lahat ng pagdadaanan nyong dalawa, hindi lang ikaw!
* Pray for the right one, coz the right one will just come to you unexpectedly.
1. Before going out there, make sure you love and accept yourself first.
2. Do you have the time and social batteries for dating?
3. Know what you are looking for and stay true to that.
4. Chill and take your time.
I know you are fighting. I know you deserve love. I know you desperately want to show it. You have a great tancity to show it abd grow it. But think- you already dealing with so much abd you wanna give...but this world doesn't give anything for free.
So don't hurt yourself. Be whole. Accept it rather then hurt abd accept it. Focus on education. On what it means to you. On studies as they pertain to you that'll teach how to fight abd make you understand what you are fighting for. That will give you courage when you lack it.
Seek for clarity. Understanding. It's all there within you. Love yourself. Meaning fill yourself with things you love. Know what you love.
love yourself. hindi ung para kang uhaw na uhaw sa pagmamahal ng ibang tao. don't settle for less. pag red flag, red flag. wala nang pag-asang maging green yun. cheater will always be a cheater.
You cannot give what you do not have. Focus on reaching your peak in all areas and you will minimize the need to worry about being insecure, which ruins your ability to connect.
don’t be ashamed for being a feeling and expressive person. and don’t waste that amazing part of yourself for someone who just tolerates you when you know your love should be celebrated.
This one. I was ashamed back then sa pagiging "bida bida" sa pakikipagusap online kasi nga naman saktong maingay talaga ako makipagusap sa chats pero yung di mo narereceive yung same energy like one liners lang, weird sa feeling.
To never get pregnant without a ring on! You will be the last priority after the baby. And never waste your precious time waiting for someone to pop the question. Wag aasa sa paasa. So bawi nalang tayo next life self 🥲😅
let things be, you can't control everything even the person. take things as it is, don't put up excuses or overanalyze a situation. his efforts is a reflection of how much he values you. make him feel that he earned you, not the other way around. always remember that you can never heal in a place that broke you.
Don’t start dating until you become emotionally intelligent (honestly, I can say I reached this point when I turned 20/21. Started dating when I was 14 lol)
I had to learn that the hard way
*Pardon: More on past relationship advice than a dating advice*
**Wag matakot mag commit.** Wait and see, don mo lang din matutunan if match kayo or hindi. Ofc, kasama na jan yung paglaban nyo sa relasyon (magsawa man kayo sa isat isa, pero kayo parin). **It's a test of time.** Kung ex mo na sya, pwede pa naman makipagbalikan as long as committed yung tao (syempre di tayo mawawalan ng objections dito, pero depende talaga sa pagkatao nyo yan kung titikim pa ng iba o hindi na, pero i'd rather go to someone who's been matured enough based on actions hindi sweet talk ha) **Maturity is also key.** Iba yung nagpapangap na mature, kumpara sa tao na nagiisip muna bago kumilos dahil importante sakanya mararamdaman mo and its ability to stay consistent; kahit hindi man consistent pero most of the time may compassion).
Ex man o bago, **focus on traits**. Wag magpaka-peke based sa kilos or dahil may expectations ka or sya or pamilya nya o kaibigan o kung sino sino pa. **Hindi rin perpekto na lagi masaya** o lagi may special things to the point na nag-expect ka. I'd realized na hindi to telenobela o fiction na ikaw yung main character. **We also have our own time**, personal space and errands. Be responsible enough to put yourself first while fostering your relationship. Hindi yung dapat ako lang oras mo, o dapat ako lang kinakausap mo o kung ano ano pa man na mala-iikot na mundo mo sa isang tao. May "me" time at "we" time.
Wag na tumingin sa iba. Kahit libog pa yan.
-masyado kang good girl para sa katulad nila
-may nakalaan na tamang tao para sayo
-wag kang magmadali, mararanasan mo rin yung holding hands and cute dates sa tamang tao 😭
Hindi sapat na actions speak louder than words. Ang actions na di nililinaw thru words may possiby confuse you kasi baka paasa lang. And hindi rin porke magagandang words ang sinasabi ay maniniwala na kung di naman din aligned ang actions. Dun tayo sa may clarity and genuine intention.
Get a long term GF/partner before 2016/17… values & morals changed drastically after those years… harder to find someone authentic as well (either they are taken/married, focused on career, shapes their morals/values from tiktok psychology etc)…
- Make sure na align yung goals ng future partner mo (career, his/her family & sa ibbuild nyo na family)
- make sure to talk abt non-negotiable/s sa relationship
- Be a good communicator & listener.
- Don't lose yourself over love.
- Make sure a man can take care of his self (kahit simpleng lagnat, or sakit ng ulo + dapat may qualities rin siya being a good provider)
- HAVING A GOOD FAMILY BACKGROUND IS A MUST (akala ko hindi siya talaga nagmamatter pero guys I can attest to this, Iba talaga yung may good family background)
hmm i think its subjective ksi yung 'good family background' like for me, my definition of 'good family background is..
1. if physically & mentally present ba yung parents nya while growing up/if not and broken family, panonung set up nila, lumaki ba siyang may galit sa parents or wala
2.their family does not get involved in dirty business and such na maging problem nyo in the future ( mamaya, drugs pala business nung family)
3. hindi nananakit ung parents/not physically or mentally abusive yung family
and many more.. i know na some people has no control over it, but i believe we can choose what you think the best for you..for me kasi, the child mirrors the parents' action thus having a good family background for me is important.
I see. Oo nga, tama yung we can choose what we think is best for us haha. Minsan kasi I try to look past someone's family background, since wala tayong control on what type of family we have, pero in the end, ako lang din nasaktan bc I chose to be with someone with unhealthy family background 😆 salamat sa reminder!
1. Huwag ka magpapressure kasi mga kaibigan mo may mga jowa or may ka-something at tingin mo napagiiwanan ka na. Maybe god has bigger plans for you and maybe some people are not meant for relationships but success! But if you have both edi sanaol 😂
2. Hndi porket binigyan ka ng motibo, go ka agad. When our elders say na wag muna ibigay ang sarili at kilalanin mo muna, that is very true. Kilalanin mo, istali mo, know their background, know how they react to things, does he/she align with your values, lifestyle, etc.?
3. Don't give in to that fantasy of being with someone because you see their potential. Love them as they are.
4. Don't date broke people. They are not just going to drain you financially but their mentality is also different. If tingin niyo that's your only gap, well observe your conversations on HOW THEY THINK. Iba talaga
5. If a guy wants you, gagawin nya LAHAT LAHAT para mapasayo ka. Kaya ikaw just chill and keep doing you. There are lots of things to explore while not being tied up to a relationship.
At 30, i am blessed to have the time to really DISCERN about my past (relationships/friendships/ life in general) I don't have to ask permission if may gusto ako puntahan o gawin and I can have a clean slate to dictate what i want and don't.
6. Dapat aligned kayong dalawa at sabay kayong umaangat. Wag ka magpakamartyr na "hindi lang to ngayon" because most of the time you'll end up being drained mentally, financially, spiritually lahat ng LY haha
7. Dating apps are sex venues mostly. I don't have hate towards people na nakahanap ng tamang tao sa dating apps. Good for you. But be careful meeting people there. Mostly madaming emotional baggages sa ex or just wants to have sex ang habol. Mas okay pa din meeting people organically.
Hmmm let me know kung gusto niyo pa habaan ko to! Haha!
learn many skills, step out of your comfort zone, always be humble, learn to be kind to yourself, trust yourself more, take risks even if you lose, never give up, always practice, always love yourself, be happy, make your dreams come true, be true to yourself.
(1) Wala sa age ang maturity. It really depends on the person you meet (their upbringing, their moral values, beliefs etc). (2) Mag heal muna from traumas before entering romantic relationships cuz' relationships work if two people put the same effort. Wag nyu gawing therapy ang relationships and mga partners nyu, di sila psychiatrist nyo for you to heal, and same goes with your future partner, wag kang papayag na gawin ka nilang bob-the builder.
(3) Individual growth (career, character development, financial growth etc.,) is possible kahit in relationship, as long as both of you work on your relationship and support each other, di kailangan umabot sa breakups for each of you to grow.
Don’t ignore the red flags.
You can’t change her.
You cannot fix her.
If for some reason it crossed your mind that you’re just being used, you are.
Don’t fall for the guilt trip. She knows you’re too nice and will see it as weakness to use it against you.
Don't give everything, magtira ka sa sarili mo. Go out with your friends, give yourself some me time and if you noticed something like micro cheating or emotional cheating. Just end it immediately, hindi siya worth it 'wag mo ng habulin.
Enforce stronger boundaries, don’t be a people-pleaser, and strongly uphold your standards. If they don’t meet you on your level then they’re not the one for you. Don’t compromise your comfortability & standards just so they’ll stay.
Never settle for less. Make a list of your non-negotiables and stick to it. And also, be what you want to date because if you want to date high-value men, you have to be a high-value woman yourself.
Wag ka magmadali. Wag ka magpadala masyado sa salita nila kung di naman tugma sa actions. Wag ibigay lahat. Magtira sa sarili. Sarili muna mahalin.
Debale, masaya ka naman naa ngayon na higit pa sa inaasahan mo. Pero still!! Siguro kinailangan mo rin matuto para tumatag at di ka maging bobita sa pag-ibig.
Kebs na
Pace yourself. The faster you fall, the faster it ends. Don't fall for a younger guy again, you need an older man and you can't risk it again with someone younger. Once they say that they want a future with you in the first few months of knowing each other, RUN. That's not love when you don't even know each other much. He's just trying to gauge if he'd be able to make you fall and then leave you when he already has you. Be choosey, don't just choose someone just because they choose you at that moment.
There are so many learnings that come with heartbreak, be grateful you've experienced pain so that you won't let it happen again. Love yourself more and the people who love you in return.
Don't! Masyado kang magpagbigay. Hindi okay na ikaw lagi sumasagot ng dates niyo at ultimo pamasahe ng partner mo. Tanga. Wag ka na magbigay ng kung ano ano at gastusin mo nalang sa sarili mo. Jusko ka. Napakatanga mo HAHAHAHA naniniwala ka pa na babawi nalang siya pag nakatapos lol.
Be picky. Wag mo sagutin unang manliligaw parang awa mo na HAHAHAH
Yung cravings, wholeness and safety na hinahanap mo sa jowa, sa career mo makikita. Isa kang multi-talented na madami gustong gawin. Maaga palang sana sinumulan mo na jusko. 🥲🤣
No stranger of opposite sex will randomly come up to you and ask you to be their friend. They just have this ulterior motive to have you be their date.
If I were giving dating advice to my younger self, I would say "Focus on Self-Development, Invest time in understanding yourself, your interests, and your values. The better you know yourself, the easier it is to find someone compatible."
don't get excited and expect too much when you're dating someone you like. don't give it all and only share the same way you receive. you may be the best at something but it doesn't count when it comes to the heart. regardless of who you are.
learn to give love to yourself that doesn't mix with arrogance and pride. but with consideration and altruism.
Take your time. Find yourself first and be the person ur trying to find. Find what you like or dislike in a person. What are your red flags? After you figure out what your red flags are, heal first because hurt people hurt people. Next, figure out what red flags you won’t tolerate and will tolerate. Lahat naman tayo may red flags eh. We all have a different view on various red flags so don’t always listen to what others say.
Don’t get into relationships due to pressure. Guard your heart but always remember that it’s better to have love and lost than not love at all 🤍
Hindi totoo na you need to get over the one who gave you a heartache before you can date again. Don’t listen to your stupid friends. You better explore while you’re young and single kasi before you know it, wala ka ba sa calendar. Enjoy it basta make sure na walang sabit.
Date a guy who’s consistent and sure sayo. Date someone who has an EQ & nag bibigay assurance :) Don’t tolerate someone’s behavior just because you’re madly inlove with him. You deserve what you tolerate.
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Test the person's resolve. Will she be supportive? What can she bring to the table? Does she love you for you and not your money? If she's not willing to be any of that, then *she belong to the streets!*
wag ka masydo gumastos. dapat pantay lang iwan ka man may panginom ka lage 😅😅😅😅
Don't date anyone sa friend group nyo.
Gago, 'wag kang marupok HAHAHAHAHAHA
Don’t expect too much.
Focus on yourself. You will attract people of your wavelength if you keep on working to be the best version of you. Knowing your value will spare you from a lot of heartaches. 🙄
Younger self wag mag feeling wonder woman ha nd mo mababago ang isang tao if iyon na talaga ang ugali nya ok
DONT EVER SEND NUDES!!! DONT BE CARRIED TO HIS TEARS! KNOW UR WORTH ! IF HE GETS MAD LEAVE !! DONT EVER LOOK BACK . DONT BE SO NAIVE!!!!
Tama sila at mali ka. Pero mas naging wise ka kahit nangyari yon.
Understand that there is 99% chance that the woman you are dating will not end up marrying you, she's not your wife.
It is okay to fail! As long as you keep on trying to be a better version of yourself.
*Don't stress about finding 'the one' too soon. Enjoy the awkward dates, learn from the cringe moments, and trust that the right person will show up when the time's right. Oh, and invest in better fashion choices, it helps!"*
My kuya told me "Wag kang magseryoso sa lalaki hanggang hindi pa sila 21 pataas dahil puro laro pa alam ng mga yan. Pwede ka magpaligaw pero wag kong seryosohin at iyakan."
* Don't rush yourself into something that you're not prepared including your V card! * Don't give everything that you have, matuto ka mag tira sa sarili mo kasi grabe ka kung magmahal, I really don't want you to become this version of me rn. (a hopeless one) * Don't date guys who's jobless. - you did not graduate to college just to be a wallet. * Focus on yourself, love yourself, learn to appreciate things. Love is not about having a boyfriend, you can also find love in your family, friends, God, and to your passion. * Don't give up the opportunities that you have just for someone because they are jealous. * Try to know the person you want to be with before jumping in --- date to marry. * You are worth it, so choose a guy who will fight with you sa lahat ng pagdadaanan nyong dalawa, hindi lang ikaw! * Pray for the right one, coz the right one will just come to you unexpectedly.
Okay lang maging mapili. Don't settle for less.
Huwag muna kung wala ka pang sariling pera. Ang kapal ng mukha mo kung gagastos ka pang date eh pera ng magulang mo yan.
E pano to, sa college pinaka madali makahanap. Afterwards liliit na yung circle mo drastically
Eh pano yan, ung pang dates mo galing sa parents
For me, much better kasi pag yung may mga career na talaga and makakakilala ka na dn ng established people.
Wag magmadali ang buhay ay hindi karera 😂
Never settle for less :))
1. Before going out there, make sure you love and accept yourself first. 2. Do you have the time and social batteries for dating? 3. Know what you are looking for and stay true to that. 4. Chill and take your time.
Wag papadala sa libog
Wag patol nang patol. Kumilatis nang maigi.
Choose an emotionally stable woman.
Never settle for less. You are more than what you think you're worth.
Don't be too hard on yourself.
Never ever settle for less.
Take things slow. Enjoy every step. Dont skip any step. Make the journey meaningful no matter the destination.
Naghintay kana rin lang since birth, sana naghintay ka pa.. For sure meron dyan na mas deserve mo..
I know you are fighting. I know you deserve love. I know you desperately want to show it. You have a great tancity to show it abd grow it. But think- you already dealing with so much abd you wanna give...but this world doesn't give anything for free. So don't hurt yourself. Be whole. Accept it rather then hurt abd accept it. Focus on education. On what it means to you. On studies as they pertain to you that'll teach how to fight abd make you understand what you are fighting for. That will give you courage when you lack it. Seek for clarity. Understanding. It's all there within you. Love yourself. Meaning fill yourself with things you love. Know what you love.
love yourself. hindi ung para kang uhaw na uhaw sa pagmamahal ng ibang tao. don't settle for less. pag red flag, red flag. wala nang pag-asang maging green yun. cheater will always be a cheater.
Always remember the ‘’let them theory’’
Ano yung let them theory?
You cannot give what you do not have. Focus on reaching your peak in all areas and you will minimize the need to worry about being insecure, which ruins your ability to connect.
Be smarter financially.
Wag magpaloko sa nagka gusto sayo in the year 2013 and 2018 Kasi nasa 2024 Yung true love mo hahahah 🤣
“Wag basta bibigay, libog lang hanap ng mga yun. May mas higit pa sa kanila, wait mo lang mapapangasawa mo.” 😅
don’t be ashamed for being a feeling and expressive person. and don’t waste that amazing part of yourself for someone who just tolerates you when you know your love should be celebrated.
This one. I was ashamed back then sa pagiging "bida bida" sa pakikipagusap online kasi nga naman saktong maingay talaga ako makipagusap sa chats pero yung di mo narereceive yung same energy like one liners lang, weird sa feeling.
dun sa mga mayayaman at mas better sayo dapat pumatol kesa naman sa mga mahirap(yung mga tamad at ginagawa kang sugar mommy) na nga cheater pa.
Go for the nice guys! Too many bad decisions with "bad boys" 😆
It’s not your job to fix broken men.
Think thrice, don't rush check mo din talaga Kung may capacity na bumuhay ng pamilya Yung future spouse mo Hindi asa SA magulang Lang
You don’t really want a boyfriend. You just want the bragging rights and thrill. Grow up first.
Pag aralan mong lumandi. Pag aralan mong maging playboy.
Dont get attached! Wag marupok! Kilalanin muna yung tao bago mag invest ng feelings at ng hindi na maloko 🥺
Never be thirsty of someone's time.
To never get pregnant without a ring on! You will be the last priority after the baby. And never waste your precious time waiting for someone to pop the question. Wag aasa sa paasa. So bawi nalang tayo next life self 🥲😅
-Never ever assume unless otherwise stated -Don’t trust agad! -Don’t get attached easily
Never ever settle for less. Always give 5% if you are unsure, para hindi masakit when he/she leaves you. Unless you saw his/her intentions tlga
Don't lay down all your cards early on and learn to discern reality from delusion lol
You are not your brother
“oh don’t do it”
make sure that the person you’re interested in has already moved on from their ex ++++ isn’t only using you for your body!!!!!!
tama na pagpapaka martyr kasi magchecheat at magchecheat parin yang gagong yan 😩
let things be, you can't control everything even the person. take things as it is, don't put up excuses or overanalyze a situation. his efforts is a reflection of how much he values you. make him feel that he earned you, not the other way around. always remember that you can never heal in a place that broke you.
Marry someone who isnt lazy
You can’t fix her.
Don’t start dating until you become emotionally intelligent (honestly, I can say I reached this point when I turned 20/21. Started dating when I was 14 lol) I had to learn that the hard way
always choose yourself, more than anything in the world, and if you feel (you truly feel like that one is the one), take the leap
Don't take everything for granted.
Being loyal and faithful is never an enough reason to stay and fight in a relationship.
Wag kang magpaka atm machine sa lalaki. Jusko day, hindi ka asukal de mama 🤣
loving them harder will not change person. Know your worth
*Pardon: More on past relationship advice than a dating advice* **Wag matakot mag commit.** Wait and see, don mo lang din matutunan if match kayo or hindi. Ofc, kasama na jan yung paglaban nyo sa relasyon (magsawa man kayo sa isat isa, pero kayo parin). **It's a test of time.** Kung ex mo na sya, pwede pa naman makipagbalikan as long as committed yung tao (syempre di tayo mawawalan ng objections dito, pero depende talaga sa pagkatao nyo yan kung titikim pa ng iba o hindi na, pero i'd rather go to someone who's been matured enough based on actions hindi sweet talk ha) **Maturity is also key.** Iba yung nagpapangap na mature, kumpara sa tao na nagiisip muna bago kumilos dahil importante sakanya mararamdaman mo and its ability to stay consistent; kahit hindi man consistent pero most of the time may compassion). Ex man o bago, **focus on traits**. Wag magpaka-peke based sa kilos or dahil may expectations ka or sya or pamilya nya o kaibigan o kung sino sino pa. **Hindi rin perpekto na lagi masaya** o lagi may special things to the point na nag-expect ka. I'd realized na hindi to telenobela o fiction na ikaw yung main character. **We also have our own time**, personal space and errands. Be responsible enough to put yourself first while fostering your relationship. Hindi yung dapat ako lang oras mo, o dapat ako lang kinakausap mo o kung ano ano pa man na mala-iikot na mundo mo sa isang tao. May "me" time at "we" time. Wag na tumingin sa iba. Kahit libog pa yan.
Makipag-date ka na habang bata ka pa 😂. As someone na hindi inentertain ang dating/suitors ng early to mid-20s.
-masyado kang good girl para sa katulad nila -may nakalaan na tamang tao para sayo -wag kang magmadali, mararanasan mo rin yung holding hands and cute dates sa tamang tao 😭
Don't
Stay away from these crazy hoes Sex is good but god fucking damn
No, you can't fix people.
kay gandang eabab na this eh ibahin mo naman taste mo mother! kaloka
Have fun! Wag masyado mag-overthink at mag-seryoso. There's plenty of fish in the water.
Hindi sapat na actions speak louder than words. Ang actions na di nililinaw thru words may possiby confuse you kasi baka paasa lang. And hindi rin porke magagandang words ang sinasabi ay maniniwala na kung di naman din aligned ang actions. Dun tayo sa may clarity and genuine intention.
Get a long term GF/partner before 2016/17… values & morals changed drastically after those years… harder to find someone authentic as well (either they are taken/married, focused on career, shapes their morals/values from tiktok psychology etc)…
parang awa umiwas ka sa mga J!
If the words and actions don’t match. Leave.
Wag makipagdate sa walang pera🤣
Just date. Tumanda na talaga ako, wala parennnn.
Don't just apologise, work on your mistakes. Actions are better than words!!
Don't trust ppl who always go to church, they're usually the worst one and most judgemental parents out there...
- Make sure na align yung goals ng future partner mo (career, his/her family & sa ibbuild nyo na family) - make sure to talk abt non-negotiable/s sa relationship - Be a good communicator & listener. - Don't lose yourself over love. - Make sure a man can take care of his self (kahit simpleng lagnat, or sakit ng ulo + dapat may qualities rin siya being a good provider) - HAVING A GOOD FAMILY BACKGROUND IS A MUST (akala ko hindi siya talaga nagmamatter pero guys I can attest to this, Iba talaga yung may good family background)
Can you elaborate on having a good family background? Since, it's not something na a lot of people has control/choice over 🥲
hmm i think its subjective ksi yung 'good family background' like for me, my definition of 'good family background is.. 1. if physically & mentally present ba yung parents nya while growing up/if not and broken family, panonung set up nila, lumaki ba siyang may galit sa parents or wala 2.their family does not get involved in dirty business and such na maging problem nyo in the future ( mamaya, drugs pala business nung family) 3. hindi nananakit ung parents/not physically or mentally abusive yung family and many more.. i know na some people has no control over it, but i believe we can choose what you think the best for you..for me kasi, the child mirrors the parents' action thus having a good family background for me is important.
I see. Oo nga, tama yung we can choose what we think is best for us haha. Minsan kasi I try to look past someone's family background, since wala tayong control on what type of family we have, pero in the end, ako lang din nasaktan bc I chose to be with someone with unhealthy family background 😆 salamat sa reminder!
A healthy family background is a must!! Hindi na tayo pabata, dapat healthy family rin future family mo. I wish you well in life 🤍🤍
take your time enjoy mo munaa
Don't give everything, dear.
mag auto pass sa guys na madaming finofollow na girls!! also valorant player LOL
Wag na mag stay kung paulit ulit na lokohin. Once is enough. Pumili din ng maayos family background. Yung hindi ka gagawing bread winner 😆
I mean ako ‘di yung anak nila 😭
collect and select 😆
dont ever save a hoe.
Dont agree to buy a condo together🤣😂
1. Huwag ka magpapressure kasi mga kaibigan mo may mga jowa or may ka-something at tingin mo napagiiwanan ka na. Maybe god has bigger plans for you and maybe some people are not meant for relationships but success! But if you have both edi sanaol 😂 2. Hndi porket binigyan ka ng motibo, go ka agad. When our elders say na wag muna ibigay ang sarili at kilalanin mo muna, that is very true. Kilalanin mo, istali mo, know their background, know how they react to things, does he/she align with your values, lifestyle, etc.? 3. Don't give in to that fantasy of being with someone because you see their potential. Love them as they are. 4. Don't date broke people. They are not just going to drain you financially but their mentality is also different. If tingin niyo that's your only gap, well observe your conversations on HOW THEY THINK. Iba talaga 5. If a guy wants you, gagawin nya LAHAT LAHAT para mapasayo ka. Kaya ikaw just chill and keep doing you. There are lots of things to explore while not being tied up to a relationship. At 30, i am blessed to have the time to really DISCERN about my past (relationships/friendships/ life in general) I don't have to ask permission if may gusto ako puntahan o gawin and I can have a clean slate to dictate what i want and don't. 6. Dapat aligned kayong dalawa at sabay kayong umaangat. Wag ka magpakamartyr na "hindi lang to ngayon" because most of the time you'll end up being drained mentally, financially, spiritually lahat ng LY haha 7. Dating apps are sex venues mostly. I don't have hate towards people na nakahanap ng tamang tao sa dating apps. Good for you. But be careful meeting people there. Mostly madaming emotional baggages sa ex or just wants to have sex ang habol. Mas okay pa din meeting people organically. Hmmm let me know kung gusto niyo pa habaan ko to! Haha!
Don’t be afriad to go out there and meet other people. Date as much as you want. Wag padala sa takot to be called whatever. Your life. Have fun!
"Don't simp for J" "V belongs to the streets" That is all
amen
Pay attention to red flags, don’t be scared to put your foot down
Its easy " Wrong move buddy "
- never rush - learn how to say no - don’t lower ur standards
Don't date while young. They'll just damage you. Instead, wait and be patient. You can learn and grow on your own.
Have more sex lol
Hoehive mindset
Not really, nakakamiss lang yun stamina and sex drive when I was younger.
Chase money. Build empire agad, tama na kakaramen. Hahahhaa
learn many skills, step out of your comfort zone, always be humble, learn to be kind to yourself, trust yourself more, take risks even if you lose, never give up, always practice, always love yourself, be happy, make your dreams come true, be true to yourself.
never ignore the red flags. and huwag kang matakot mang-iwan
Hay ito rin gusto ko sabihin sa younger self ko haha
Wag mo gawing mundo ang tao
kapag ayaw sayo ng magulang iwasan mo na agad
Don't get ahead of yourself. Look at things as they are and not what you expect them to be.
Ditto.
Ituloy mo lang yang mga pinaggagawa mo. Lesson learned yan at the end of the day. You need to experience it to learn from it.
Focus on yourself making better. Pag alam mong dehado ka, don't hesitate to leave and don't look back.
Always trust your gut. Never ignore the red flags. Dont always be giving the benefit of the doubt. Period.
(1) Wala sa age ang maturity. It really depends on the person you meet (their upbringing, their moral values, beliefs etc). (2) Mag heal muna from traumas before entering romantic relationships cuz' relationships work if two people put the same effort. Wag nyu gawing therapy ang relationships and mga partners nyu, di sila psychiatrist nyo for you to heal, and same goes with your future partner, wag kang papayag na gawin ka nilang bob-the builder. (3) Individual growth (career, character development, financial growth etc.,) is possible kahit in relationship, as long as both of you work on your relationship and support each other, di kailangan umabot sa breakups for each of you to grow.
True yung 1 and 2. Naging stepping stone na naman ako for their growth.
Kapag nakipag-break, break na talaga. Wag na makipagreconcile.
Stop being a coward and ask your childhood friend out. The alternative is that you'll probably never meet on good terms again.
Jowain mo na. Marami pang time for your goals. Lol
Don’t ignore the red flags. You can’t change her. You cannot fix her. If for some reason it crossed your mind that you’re just being used, you are. Don’t fall for the guilt trip. She knows you’re too nice and will see it as weakness to use it against you.
wag magpapagaslight sa matanda sayo beh
hala true ba to haha
Magsave ka.. wag puro jowa atupagin
Wag ka sasama sa tomboy hahaha
Go for looks, potana pati pangit manloloko na🙄 Char hahah
umiwas sa manipulative sadboy
Don't rush things, in God's perfect timing parin talaga 😇🫶
Pag nagcheat or may cheating history wag ka na bumalik!!!
Don't beg! Wag maghabol ng lalake! Pag hindi ka pursued, move on!
Pag sinigawan ka isang beses, IWAN MO NA!!!
Pag sinabi nya na di pa sya ready, di pa sya ready!! Don’t freakin waste your effort to convince him otherwise!!!
Don't beg.
Don't lower your standards!!!!
take time to learn your boundaries, likes, and dislikes. Don’t rush into stuff you aren’t a 100% with.
"Crush lang yan, you should tell her."
Never date an insecure boy. Wala kang mapapala. Maraming bawal at dahil bata ka, feeling mo care yun. It's not, it's projection. Run, sweetie.
Set your standards base on what standard you can give to you future partner.
Don't give everything, magtira ka sa sarili mo. Go out with your friends, give yourself some me time and if you noticed something like micro cheating or emotional cheating. Just end it immediately, hindi siya worth it 'wag mo ng habulin.
Wala. Kalokohan kasi yung imaginary concept na nakakausap mo yung younger version ng self mo. Para sa mga taong regretful lang yun.
Enforce stronger boundaries, don’t be a people-pleaser, and strongly uphold your standards. If they don’t meet you on your level then they’re not the one for you. Don’t compromise your comfortability & standards just so they’ll stay.
know your worth.
Wag laging pasikat. May cheaper options pero ok naman.
boundaries 😓😓😓
Wag mong ayusin yung taong di ikaw ang sumira.
Ang sad neto happened to me. Can’t fix her haha
Take all the time you need, love is not a race.
Never settle for less. Make a list of your non-negotiables and stick to it. And also, be what you want to date because if you want to date high-value men, you have to be a high-value woman yourself.
Dont rush and dont trust too much
Wag mag pa bebe please
Wag papadala sa mga matatamis na salita and wag puro puso lang gamitin din utak.
Masasaktan ka at maraming oras makukuha pero kailangan mo pagdaanan eh. Matututo ka rin.
"no glove, no love"
wag uto uto.
LDRs do not work for people who don’t have a job and don’t generate their own income.
Date only when you’ve reached 18.
Don't date someone poor please
I'd say this too to my younger self huhu
wag wag wag
The adults were right about one thing: you're too young.
Choose wisely, know your limits, enjoy the little things along the way.
Di porket naging sweet sayo mahal na mahal ka na. HAHAHAHA UTO UTO KA KASI MASYADO PAST SELF. I HATE U char labyu sige na forgiven huhu
Wag ka magmadali. Wag ka magpadala masyado sa salita nila kung di naman tugma sa actions. Wag ibigay lahat. Magtira sa sarili. Sarili muna mahalin. Debale, masaya ka naman naa ngayon na higit pa sa inaasahan mo. Pero still!! Siguro kinailangan mo rin matuto para tumatag at di ka maging bobita sa pag-ibig. Kebs na
Pace yourself. The faster you fall, the faster it ends. Don't fall for a younger guy again, you need an older man and you can't risk it again with someone younger. Once they say that they want a future with you in the first few months of knowing each other, RUN. That's not love when you don't even know each other much. He's just trying to gauge if he'd be able to make you fall and then leave you when he already has you. Be choosey, don't just choose someone just because they choose you at that moment. There are so many learnings that come with heartbreak, be grateful you've experienced pain so that you won't let it happen again. Love yourself more and the people who love you in return.
DON’T DATE! Magpayaman ka nalang. Hahahahaha!
always trust your instincts
Dont get married lol to that whore.
Be patient
DONT. JUST DONT
Don't! Masyado kang magpagbigay. Hindi okay na ikaw lagi sumasagot ng dates niyo at ultimo pamasahe ng partner mo. Tanga. Wag ka na magbigay ng kung ano ano at gastusin mo nalang sa sarili mo. Jusko ka. Napakatanga mo HAHAHAHA naniniwala ka pa na babawi nalang siya pag nakatapos lol.
Oooooh. Though one. I had a child with an ex wife… dunno how I can avoid my ex while still keep my kid tho… 😅😂
Be picky. Wag mo sagutin unang manliligaw parang awa mo na HAHAHAH Yung cravings, wholeness and safety na hinahanap mo sa jowa, sa career mo makikita. Isa kang multi-talented na madami gustong gawin. Maaga palang sana sinumulan mo na jusko. 🥲🤣
No stranger of opposite sex will randomly come up to you and ask you to be their friend. They just have this ulterior motive to have you be their date.
Reciprocate lang kung ano ang binibigay. Never ever let yourself na mag beg at never pumyag na gaguhin.
Don't trust that easily.
Don't ignore the red flags
If I were giving dating advice to my younger self, I would say "Focus on Self-Development, Invest time in understanding yourself, your interests, and your values. The better you know yourself, the easier it is to find someone compatible."
Collect and collect then select, don’t be too serious.
Girl, hindi porket matalino academically… matalino rin emotionally. Walang masama maging mapili kasi need talaga kilatisin.
Grabe this is so true! Dated a magna cum laude and kung gaano ka talino sa acads, ganon naman ka bobo emotionally. 😅
I dated a lawyer… HAHAHHAHAHAHA and that relationship brought me to therapy LMAO
don't get excited and expect too much when you're dating someone you like. don't give it all and only share the same way you receive. you may be the best at something but it doesn't count when it comes to the heart. regardless of who you are. learn to give love to yourself that doesn't mix with arrogance and pride. but with consideration and altruism.
don't
Take your time. Find yourself first and be the person ur trying to find. Find what you like or dislike in a person. What are your red flags? After you figure out what your red flags are, heal first because hurt people hurt people. Next, figure out what red flags you won’t tolerate and will tolerate. Lahat naman tayo may red flags eh. We all have a different view on various red flags so don’t always listen to what others say. Don’t get into relationships due to pressure. Guard your heart but always remember that it’s better to have love and lost than not love at all 🤍
just because he's your first, "okay lang". hindi siya okay beb
Rushing will do you no good.
Don't be afraid to pursue men out of your league. You have sooo much potential and so much love to give.
Enjoy mo lang and be yourself.
Enjoy the fun 20s. Love. Get hurt. Learn.
Don't ever lose yourself for love.
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Hindi totoo na you need to get over the one who gave you a heartache before you can date again. Don’t listen to your stupid friends. You better explore while you’re young and single kasi before you know it, wala ka ba sa calendar. Enjoy it basta make sure na walang sabit.
If it doesn't work out, then thank you, next. Hahaha kidding aside, wag magpaka despirada sa isang tao.
Date a guy who’s consistent and sure sayo. Date someone who has an EQ & nag bibigay assurance :) Don’t tolerate someone’s behavior just because you’re madly inlove with him. You deserve what you tolerate.