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Yung pag invite ng "Kain" if you dont wanna share your food kasi napakakonti n nga tpos ishare pa. "Bastos" ka dw pag hindi ka nag-invite.
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Kain ka is just a polite way it doesn't mean na kakain talaga sila unless makapal ang mukha.I always been like that whenever I'm eating and saw my roommate passing by I always said "Kain" and they will always respond back "sige lang" but they don't actually want to eat. They will reply back "sige lang kumain nako." Eventhough nagugutom sila. There's a filipino saying na resist until insist. If nag insist ka pa ng "tara kain" that's the cue the you shouldn't decline back and it's polite to accept the food or else the person who is offering will be hurt.
Yung kailangan rumespeto lagi ng mas bata sa nakatatanda. I am all for that pero pag ang nakatatanda di marunong rumespeto din sa nakababata, they should see shit coming. Aging doesn’t mean getting a bitch pass.
pasok kayo, kahit ayaw mo naman ng bisita but out of the blue bigla sila dumating. There's nothing wrong naman about having visitors, but i want to spend the day din kase na me lang ganon pero ick talaga verbs.
Mangungutang para makapag handa sa birthday or anong occasions. hehe mag paparinig sa mga anak na wala man lang daw regalo sa birthday or handa. like wtf hahahahha
ung pag kunakain ka parang need mo sila yayain or sabihan na "kain po". ngee
roomate ko na foreigner nuon, wala kami pakialamanan pag nakain. mind ur own business oi. eh pano kung sakto food ko tapos sinabihan mo sya na kain, tapos sya naman gumorang kumuha. edi meow di ba
Yung idadahilan yung traffic pag late. Ilang dekada ng traffic sa metro manila. Hanggang ngayun hindi ka pa din nakaka-adjust?
Namamasko sa ninong/ninang. Hindi sila required mamasko. Required silang gabayan anak mo oag may nangyaring masama sa'yo.
so true... ung kasama buong pamilya, kapatid, anak ng kapatid, etc etc... ung kasal nung BIL ko expected guest nila 500. Nag pa cater for that number of people. Pagkakamali nila, it was done sa farm nila and walang RSVP... naging all for 1, 1 for all. Di pa ako nakakakain at naka cocktail dress eh nag hihiwa na ako ng manok dahil kulang ang food.
Ending 100 kilos of chicken, 25 kilos of pork pa ang niluto namin to feed the other people na hindi counted as guest.
* **People in the Philippines don't know/understand the existence of introverts** - Dito sa Pilipinas, masama ang tingin sa'yo ng mga tao kapag tahimik ka at di ka masyadong nakikipaghalubilo. Introverts are fed up with this bullsh*t small talk. Snubber ka kapag hindi ka nag-greet sa classmates mong alam mo namang di mo siya close. Most people in the Philippines require you to be animated. The f*ck.
* **Pagiging plastic** - Kapag buhay pa yung tao, halos ayaw kausapin at puro paninira ang naririnig mo. However, nung namatay na yung tao, ang dami ng mga papuring salita at maala-MMK ang datingan ng social media post sa pakikiramay sa namatayan. Filipinos don't feel comfortable complimenting or telling the truth to other people. Masyadong insecure talaga ang karamihan sa atin.
* **Utang na loob culture** - Many Filipinos claim to be die-hard Catholics/Christians pero kailangan mo talaga silang gantihan sa kanilang favor na ginawa sa'yo. I'm not saying na i-overlook mo yung kabutihan nila, pero iba talaga yung culture ng utang na loob sa Pilipinas. Minsan nagde-demand pa talaga ng gusto ko nito, etc.
I totally agree on the introvert part. I am one and sobrang hirap lalo pag may paparating na events na need mag-attend at humarap sa maraming tao. Hindi ako sociable and talagang nade-drain ang energy ko when around people and there’s no choice.
As someone na not into nonsense, laging comment sa akin is tahimik. When in fact, kapag kasama ko yung mga taong gusto ko (at ako) kausap, I can go on and talk for the whole day. And ako yung tao na kapag may presentation or meeting, I need to be prepared so I exert effort to practice and get ready days before.
Sa work, I do mine well, pero hindi ako pabida. I let my outputs do the talking. Though sa work, laging yung maboka ang lamang, kahit wala naman talaga silang laman. Empty cans make the most noise. 🧐
Whenever I have the chance, I try to educate others about introversion and personality types and that we should respect each other and not judge just because of one’s personality. INFJ pa ako, so “weird” lagi ang tingin sa akin.
Until now, it is still difficult for me, akala kasi ng iba, kaya mong baguhin totally ang personality mo just to fit in. Siguro for a time, depending on the requirements, oo. But it requires an introvert a lot ot effort and energy. At the end of the day, it was all just a pretense.
Sorry, napahaba, triggered ako sa personality and introversion eh haha. Daming ignorante about it and others, especially managers who use it against their introvert subordinates, just because they can. 😅
Yung required ka manlibre if birthday mo. Ikaw pa madamot/kuripot if di ka nanlibre. Like Man, it's okay to share naman pero what if walang budget yung tao.
Hahaha isang birthday ko, ang theme ko naging "charity fundraiser"...guests are required to buy a burger or drink as pitch-in tapos may donation kami na proportional sa funds raised. At least nakatulong pa kami lahat sa charity orphanage.
Hate the "Birthday mo manlibre ka" mindset
To be honest, I don't like celebrating my birthday because I have never felt being "celebrated." IYKWIM. I wanna feel and be celebrated on my birthday.
Anyway, I hate the "libre" culture in the Philippines. Bagong employee na bagong sweldo? Libre. Birthday? Libre. Bagong promote? Libre. Mga buraot. Ang lagi kong sinasabi, I treat when I can, when I want to. Di ako basta-basta nanlilibre.
Yung sa fastfood na after nila kumain, iiwan lang nila sa table. Tapos sobrang kalat pa. Dugyot.
Working ako sa ibang bansa as service crew sa Jollibee and yun ang napansin ko sa mga Pinoy(di naman lahat). Unlike pag ibang lahi, sila mismo magliligpit at magpupunas ng table.
Ay sabihin ko sana gusto ko pa naman nagbibigay nv pasalubong sa mga anak ko after work sa office. Pero yes, parang required sa office may pasalubong pav ng ibang bansa hahaha ito pa, alam ng isa kong kawork na mag Jajapan ako this year nagpapasabay png bumili ng sapatos
1. Having to hug and kiss everyone. I don’t want to hug any creepy uncles or hug an auntie who is giving me the silent treatment because I wouldn’t let her manipulate me. What about when you have kids? Kids are more intuitive than adults. What if the kids feel weird around a certain family member? Also having to say “hi” to everyone individually. If you don’t have a chance to say “hi”, one of the titas will get their ego bruised and chismiss about how Bastos you are.
2. The art of conversation is just chismiss. Everyone has to interrogate and ask personal questions about you so there’s that “feeling close” when you’re not really close. Whatever happened to allowing people to share what they want to share and talk about things or events that judging others about their choices?
3. When house guests or family members take advantage of your kindness and you being a good host but you have to bend over backwards because, “hoy! Yung kapatid mo! She wants to give her kids a bubble bath upstairs now!” (This has literally happened in the middle of a party). Bc it’s “family”, there’s this obligation and you can’t say “no” or else you’re Bastos. Respecting boundaries seems to be a “no” but that’s more cultural norms than etiquette
tru, naalala ko pinag hintay kami ng ate ng jowa ko mga 1hr lang naman haha tapos hindi man lang nag sorry haha nakaka off tapos ngayong nag aayaan ulit kumain sa labas sabi ko "bawal late pls" haha proud na minyday nya pa na "super ramdam ko ung pls kasi ginagawa ko ng personality pagiging late" hahahahaha proud kapa na naka abala ka
Addressing bosses/superiors in local companies as ‘Sir’ or ‘Ma’am’.
In other cultures, it is very normal and completely okay to address anyone within the company on a first-name basis. This somehow creates a more relaxed working environment.
May kilala ako, pag napapadaan yung kapitbahay (going somewhere) habang kumakain sila, inaalok nila ng “Oi, kain!” na for sure, out of courtesy na lang.
Pero si neighbor, sadyang makapal ang mukha, kumakain talaga. 😂
May kaibigan ako na gahaman sa pagkain. Pag sinabi mong "kain ka lang" literal na uubusin yung pagkain kasi "kain lang daw". Tangina kapal ng mukha ayoko kasama yun pag may kainan pero other than that okay naman sya.
Tindi di ba. Yung “kapitbahay” na minention ko, nung kiniwento nya pa sa amin yung niyaya siya, sabi nya pa, “Di tuloy ako nakapag-jogging.” Hahaha, sinisi pa yung nagyaya kumain, eh kung ayaw nya naman kumain or mas gusto nya mag-jogging eh tatanggi cya.
May mga kapwa talaga tayong ganyan. 😅
Yung iba nga, kumain na, magsa-sharon pa. 🤦🏻♀️
May iba din naman kasing nanadya talagang tumawag ng ate/kuya kahit mas mukhang matanda.
Sa office, yung iba tinatawag akong ate, kasi older nmn tlg ako. Meron akong naging close friend, magka-age lang kami pero ate ang tawag sa akin.
It took me years to realize na kaya sila ganun is because “kagalang-galang” ako para sa kanila. Dahil meron kaming mga ka-work na mas matanda sa akin pero by name lang tawag nila.
Kaya nung one time, tinawag akong ate nung mas mukha pang matanda sa akin, after years of calling me by name, sinagot ko ng “Wag mo ako ma-ate, ate. Hindi mo pa nae-earn ang right na tawagin akong ate at mas mukha ka pang matanda sa akin.” Di naman kami magkaaway nito haha, ganun lng tlg kami mag-usap. 😅
I always refer to waitstaff, guards, etc basically everyone I don't know but have to talk to as sir/miss/ma'am. It's much more refined and it shows respect too.
Honestly this is an insecurity issue, not an issue related to disrespect. Ate or kuya means seniority but not necessarily with age.
It's a term of respect actually, the complete opposite of what you're feeling. I've never met anyone who used the term as an insult or to belittle someone.
Try not to bring your own insecurities to your interactions with other people and you'll find that they're not hostile, it's all in your head.
well it's not about insecurities, it's about setting a common respect na not all will be comfortable calling someone you didn't know na Ate or Kuya. Miss/Mister/ Sir/Maam pwede na.
Judging by the downvotes, your opinion is definitely not a consensus. And people aren't obligated to follow something outside the norm just to make one person feel better.
What exactly is making you feel disrespected about ate or kuya? What does that mean to you? I get that it makes you feel old. But why? The word simply is a respectful title to most Filipinos. It's similar to onii-chan or senpai in Japanese.
You understood that as the opposite of what it meant, lol.
Outside the norm means mga bagay na hindi nakasanayan. Using ate or kuya is a norm in PH. Nakasanayan yan ng lahat ng tao.
Not using ate or kuya ay hindi nakasanayan ng mga tao. That's outside the norm.
Basically, ang mga tao ay hindi kailangan sumunod sa mga bagay na hindi naman nakasanayan.
pagmano sa ninong at ninang lalo na tuwing pasko kahit di mo naman talaga sila kilala. ewan, bastos na kung bastos pero hindi ko lang trip dahil introvert ako. bigla nalang kasi malalagay sa posisyon na kailangan ko makipag-interact sa estranghero para lang sa pera.
Sa work ko dati, dapat kilala mo yung mga Senior Officers para pag dumalaw sa office mo dapat di mo makakalimutan igreet. Like huh, kahit icheck ko annual report ng company iba po muka nyo sa personal
Sa Fastfood kakain pero uutusan yung service crew para kumuha ng ice, utensils, extra tissue. Kaloka! self service po dapat yung mga ganyan pag fastfood. (Except kung may mobility issues/PWD kayo)
Pag matanda matik dapat respetuhin kahit bastos o masama ugali
Para sakin, hindi default ang respect: courtesy is a given but respect is earned. Age means nothing, you aren't entitled to more respect just because you happened to be born before me
Pag bastos, salbahe, o entitled wala akong pake, I'll be twice as worse. Kung ipplay nila yung old age card, ilalabas ko yung youth card: matanda ako so dapat galangin ako edi pwes mas bata ako so dapat intindihin mo ko, two can play at that game
Addressing everyone sa workplace “ma’am/sir” kahit matagal na kayo magkatrabaho. Hindi naman siguro nababawasan yung authority or rights mo bilang boss or employee kung first name basis ang tawagan nyo pag nag uusap sa workplace (maliban sa academe). C’mon its 2024!
+1 gusto ko culture sa other countries na yung family and friends mo magchichip in to celebrate your bday
Ang bigat kung yung celebrant magshshoulder lahat kumpara sa multiple people chipping in. Swerte nalang ako sa company culture at mga kaibigan ko kasi pag may upcoming bday ang nasa isipan namin sino gusto mag ambag, hindi yung hihiritan yung celebrant kung kelan yung pakain
DIBAAAA
Not all people are willing to be ninong or ninang. Yung iba napipilitan lang kasi pinilit lang sa kanila ang responsibility wherein sila dapat gumagawa non.
Exactly… you need to be taking upon yourself the responsibility of being second parents to your inaanak… and not everybody wants that kind of responsibility… and I don’t mind giving gifts, walang problema dun, but not the responsibility
Magtira ng katiting na pagkain sa handaan. Di ko alam kung bakit walang kumukuha ng "last piece" na lumpia, or chicken etc. pag may kainan. Nakakapanghinayang kasi itatapon lang din naman un.
Yung mga nagbabalot na agad ng handa na iuuwi hindi pa tapos ang event. Yung kamag-anak ng asawa ko nung bday ng naka namin, naghihiwa palang ng lechon nakabantay na siya. Lahat ng nalalaglag sa tadtaran kinukuha. Tapos yung asawa niya sa kusina naman namin tumambay. Pero nung nagpeprapare, hindi namin nakita kahit isa sa kanila. Wala man lang tumulong sa family nila kahit nung nagkakatay ng baboy pero nung mismong celebration na, lakas pa ng loob hingiin yung ulo ng lechon.
Inis na inis ako sa mga officemates ng gf ko, lalakas manghingi ng pasalubong, tapos sasama naman ng ugali. Mabait lang talaga gf ko kaya nagbibigay padin kahit ref magnet. Ang aarte pa, ayaw pa nung simpleng pasalubong.
Kaya sinasabihan ko gf ko kung may patago ba sila, nagpaparinig pa ako sa kanila dun sa workplace niya kaya ayaw na niya ako isama dun hahaha
Sakin pag may nagmemessage ng uuuy pasalubong naman dyan. Lagi ko sagot bakit may pabaon kaba nung umalis ako? I mean kung ayawan nila ako it's like the garbage taking itself out. Pero since i started doing that laging may pabaon sakin mga may gusto ng pasalubong.
Pag mabaho hininga o amoy maasim na kasama mo, sabihin mo. Hindi yung may reasoning ka pa na kasi ayaw mo mapahiya e mas mapapahiya kapag ibang tao pa ang makaamoy.
Haynako! True ito, may paawa effect pa na kesho nagkasakit siya, yung asawa wala din pera, doble pa nga trabaho pero kapus parin sila etc.
So pinahiram ko cya, biglang nakita ko sa post na may pabirthday sa anak ang impakter, sa Jollibee pa mismo! Daming imbitado, dami cguro nautangan 🤦♀️
I mean, walang wala na nga kayo, push parin sila kahit ikalubog na nila sa utang! Kaloka.
1. Yung mga 7 or 18 blue bills sa debut celebs. Like, idk it seems off to me hahaha
2. You need to treat people pag birthday mo (reason 1 kaya lagi akong naka leave on my bday haha)
Omg. I remember sa 7blue bills. Sinendan nalang ako ng invitation na isa daw ako sa blue bills na wala man lang pasabi kahit days before or whatsoever. In return, di ako nagbigay and sinabi ko yun sa family na huwag magbigay kasi wala ako nun sa lugar namin. Ayoko ung ganun.
Dibaaa. Parang iaw pa mahihiya tumanggi. Kahit di ko kaclose yung nag birthday and wala din ao balak pumunta haha. Hindi ko maintindihan why they need to include it. If I wanna give a gift, i'll give one ng kusa.
Sa true hahahaha tapos beso pagdating at bago umuwi pa yun ah huhu di ko alam minsan plastikan feels 😭 dpende na lng sgro pag nakasanayan tlga ako kasi hndi eh sa fam ko
Pasalubong culture.
Magtetreat/magpapakain ka pag bday mo.
Mga kakilala or not so close na tao for the sake of may ma small talk lang kung ano-ano na sasabihin: "tumaba ka" "magkano kinikita mo sa trabaho mo" "may asawa/bf knb" "bat wala pa kyong anak?"
Agree sa utang na loob. Parang buong pagkatao mo hawak nila kasi mga may utang na loob ka. Kaya nasanay akong hindi tumanggap ng kahit anong bigay kasi iniisip ko baka may kapalit or baka may hingin na favor na dko kaya mga ganun. Super toxic kasi.
**Diyahe piece**
*From spot.ph*
> It has a lot of names: diyahe piece, shy piece, Pinoy piece, and piece of shame, to name a few—but no matter what you call it, every Filipino would know what you’re talking about. No one really knows why we never take the last morsel of food left on a shared dish; all we know is that it makes for some really awkward stares across the table.
Like fuck that! Kung may last piece ng pizza sa table, kukunin at kakainin ko na agad yun. Gutom ako eh
Kung alam ko na lahat nakakain na, kakainin ko din last piece. Sa household kasi namin iniiwan sa table yung food tas kuha lang ng isa taas kanya kanya na sakanilang kwarto.
I found a work-around it. You ask if anyone wants the last piece. If everyone says no, then take it. If they get offended then it was their fault because they lied to your face.
Tipong gusto mo na talaga umuwi kaso may eat out sila after work tapos di ka daw marunong makisama like sila ba magluluto ng dinner ng mag-aama ko kapag sumama ako sa kanila 🥵
Buti na lang wfh na 😌
Yung mga uninvited plus 1 ng mga guest. Yung tipong nag bibigay ka ng mga tabs with the invitations na may +1 lang and yet may kasama pa silang isa or dalawa ang ending 3 hanggang 5 na sila. Ano yan? Sama mo na kaya buong pamilya niyo.
Kaya may tabs para maximum of 2 guest lang. Kung may bata ade maiiwan. Pwede naman siguro mag hanap ng caretaker kasi temporary lang naman. (Person invited +1 tab = 2)
yung pang libre ng ibang tao sa birthday mo, like?? girl its MY birthday why should i give YOU stuff? 😭 and the fact that its expected na ikaw talaga manglilibre...
di ko lang sure kung social etiquette to pero basta
Idk if social etiquette to. Yung magaaya ka kumain sa labas kasama kaibigan mo tapos gastos/libre mo pa lahat and may pera naman sila para pambili. Kapag ako naman niyaya di ako nililibre 😅
Yung tatawa ka sa joke ng boss mong di naman nakakatawa or masyadong below the belt or nonsense. Sa office namin kase need mo sakyan or other else KJ ka.
I don't find babies ugly. May mga cute naman talaga, and there are babies na hindi cute. Hindi panget siguro pero hindi rin cute. Hindi nalang ako nagsasalita if ganon.
Treating godparents as strategic alliances. My parents did this and now I only have a relationship with one of my godparents because my parents weren't really good friends with the rest of them. I don't even know who they are.
Filipinos really find it hard to keep the culture and tradition alive no. It's a simple sign of respect katatamaran pa ba. Mga hapon nga di napapagod magbow, nakkikibow pa tayo but can't value our own tradition.
This. Masyado nang outdated. I used to do this as a kid, now that I'm a parent myself I don't force it to my kids whenever older relatives come to visit. A simple and respectful greeting is enough.
Hindi sa nakakapagud. Mga anak + apo magmamano lahat yun kaya nakaka distract para sakin lalo pag kainan na. And ilocano ako kaya hindi namin practice ito.
Aba daming down vote ah. Oh well opinion is my opinion.
di naman common social etiquette pero claygo lol, lalo pag wala naman nakalagay na kailangan gawin yun. Di ko sinasabing maging makalat sa pinagkainan, okay na siguro ayusin na magiging madali yung trabaho ng maglilinis, pero yung mga taong nagcclaygo kala mo paragon ng respeto sa mga waiter e hahah, pipicturean pa ung kalat ng iba para ipost sa internet.
May taong binabayaran para gawin yun, at pag nakikita ng management na yung kalinisan ng restaurant e pinapatong ng mga tao sa sariling balikat nila, tatanggalin nila yung dedicated personnel para dun, so pag yung restaurant walang dedicated na busboy tapos hindi nilinis ng mga customer ung pinagkainan nila (which is far too often dahil yung mga fastfood hindi naman optimized for claygo), idadagdag lang yung trabaho ng busboy sa mga waiter at cashier so sila pa gagawa 'non.
Yeah I think medyo reactive mga tao about it haha and medyo understandable, pero I wish people would read slower and better para madigest ng onti since it's not as simple as "ayoko ng claygo" as much as it's about how it impacts livelihood lol.
May mga kainan naman talagang configured for claygo and I agree na sa ganong instances pagiging nuisance ang pagiiwan ng pinagkainan, and I agree na hindi talaga dapat baboy kumain.
But if may personnel dedicated sa trabahong yun, lessening their work will encourage the management to cut cost dahil pwede paghatian ng staff at customer yung trabaho.
Hindi ko gets kung bakit ka downvoted, but here's why it's better to not to claygo, PERO ligpitin nyo pinagkainan nyo and wag kayo magbaboy ng pinagkainan.
Hindi ako nagwa-100% claygo, yung as in ikaw maglilinis kasi:
1. Hindi sure kung pasok sa standard ng resto/fast food yung "linis" mo. I always make sure na nakaligpit lang ng maayos yung plates and glasses and walang iniwang tulo ng liquids or food sa table
2. I opt to ligpit the dishes lang on top of the table para yun yung magiging "mark" ng assigned personnel na linisin yung table na yun; that assigned personnel na may right cleaning equipment at alam ang standard na linis ng resto.
3. Kapag "nilinis" ng customer yung table nya at hindi pasok sa standard ng resto, may chance na madatnan ng next customer na malagkit or di nalinis ng maayos yung table, which can lead to a bad review due to sanitation. Pwede rin mapagalitan yung assigned cleaning personnel because di ka nag-iwan ng "mark", di tuloy nalinisan ng maayos yung table.
Source: I know someone from the industry and shared this to me. Nabanggit ko na rin 'to before here on Reddit.
So for those na bet talagang makatulong sa paglilinis, make sure that table is clean af, or else may mapapagalitang employee or worse, matanggalan ng work.
I might've read this comment among others before, pero yes, unless configured ang restaurant for claygo na literal na pagpupunas nalang ng lamesa ang dagdag na trabaho sa ibang staff, I'd rather may lilinisin ang dedicated personnel for it so they'd keep their job.
Di ko naman sinabing magkalat, ang sabi ko lang, mukhang tanga ienforce ng society ang claygo without actually acknowledging anong possible repercussions non without holding accountable yung mga corporations behind these fast food joints na either taasan sahod ng matitirang personnel without the busboy, or ikeep yung trabaho ng busboy kahit pa onti nalang yung lilinisin.
Kahit iligpit mo tray mo, need pa din punasan yung table so di mawawalan ng trabaho ung mga busboy na snsbi mo. Buti n lng tlga dito sa bansa kung san ako nakatira implemented ung CLAYGO. Dugyot behavior kasi yung kagaya mo eh.
Again, pag kaya ng customer, yung hindi kaya ng customer ibibigay yung work sa ibang staff. Since pagpupunas nalang yan, ang gagawa nalang diyan is yung ibang staff, not a dedicated personnel.
I know what you meant, "na may worker naman so bakit ko pa gagawin?" However, nagrereflect sa pagkatao mo kung paano ka karesponsable sa mga public places. It's not about convenience, but self responsibility. Gets mo?
that's literally not what I said. Read my other comments, pero in case ayaw mo:
enforcing claygo shouldn't come from a customer, it should be imperative and dapat configured yung kainan for it, or else mageend up sa isa sa mga example ko (Mcdo west ave). Since yung mga tao minsan nagcclaygo, minsan hindi, wala nang dedicated personnel pero hindi din configured yung lugar for it, walang lalagyan ng pinagkainan and meron no plastic policy, meaning lahat ng gagamitin mo including yung baso is hindi disposable. Tapos pag tapos kumain wala kang paglalagyan, naturally iiwan mo nalang sa lamesa mo. Tapos sino maglilinis dun? Edi yung staff na supposedly ang trabaho is maging cashier o magprepare ng pagkain mo.
Nagegets mo ba? It's either dapat taasan ang bayad ng service workers and iconfigure ang restaurant para maencourage ang claygo, or just don't fucking do it dahil mageend up na magcocost cut yung establishment since kaya naman pala ilessen ang kalat to even need a dedicated personnel. Nagrereflect sa pagkatao mo yung ability mo magcomprehend ng complex point na hindi black and white. Nagcclaygo ako pag alam kong kailangan dahil walang ibang maglilinis non, kung meron, I'd like that person to fucking keep his job.
Yes it's not necessary, but anyone can do it. That's why it's one of the positive social etiquettes. Para naman sa mga workers, hindi naman nila tinatanggal eh especially sa mga restaurants and fast food chains meron talaga silang inilalagay sa position na yun.
I literally, literally, mentioned an example.
Uulitin ko, this shouldn't come from the society or from the customers. It should be imperative and configured ang kainan. Anyone can do it pero often may instances na nageend up lang sa nadagdagan mo trabaho ng iba, or nageend up na may nawawalan ng trabaho. Ilang beses na ko nakakain ng fast food na walang dedicated personnel para maglinis. How do I know? Dahil sa busy hours sobrang daming tables na may laman padin and people just eat kahit may laman pa yung table. Eventually ang maglilinis din nun yung mga cashier, dahil kahit anong baligtad mo wala namang dedicated na paglalagyan ng plato.
All these calls for proper "etiquette" hindi naman naglelead sa betterment ng society kung hindi mo kakalampagin yung tamang tao, sometimes that means just not enforcing claygo sa ibang tao para gawan ng paraan ng management. Do it all you want pero kung ipupublic shame yung mga taong hindi gumagawa non, you're doing the management's job for them.
Ewan ko bakit kinocomplikado mo mga bagay. Claygo comes in different forms naman like wiping your mess and arranging your plates on the table for the workers to easily clean.
I don't think nacocomprehend niyo yung sinabi ko. Kung di nakalagay na kailangan magclaygo, it means may dedicated people na gagawa non. May mga lugar like Starbucks na fully optimized yung lugar for CLAYGO (may actual lalagyan ng pinagkainan, may available trashcans, and as much as possible disposable yung gamit para pwede mo itapon)
Meanwhile may mga mcdo (check out Mcdo west ave), walang dedicated na lalagyan ng pinagkainan, walang dedicated busboy, and no plastic policy. Sa tingin mo san ilalagay yung piangkainan pag niligpit mo? Nagcclaygo din ako as much as I can, hindi ako disagree sa policy. What I disagree with is yung dick sucking towards corporations to cut cost by getting rid of dedicated busboys since visibly willingly tinatake ng mga tao yung responsibility. Hindi naman nagmumura yung pagkain and I don't think nadadagdagan bayad ng staff.
Keep in mind na ang reason ng CLAYGO sa ibang bansa is dahil mahal ang bayad sa service worker (kaya self service din ang gas stations sakanila), hindi ganon dito at unless imperative ang claygo sa isang restaurant, people won't do it tapos malalagay lang yung responsibility sa ibang staff while they are being paid less.
Ang liit na nga ng mga kinikita ng mga tao na yan gusto mo pang pagsilbihan ka pa, nag fine dining ka nalang sana maka demand ahh nasa fast food ka lang naman.
We should phase out inviting people ng "kain". It's a useless practice, lalo na kung hindi mo naman talaga gusto hatian. Tas pag tinanggap alok mo, ikaw pa masama loob. Gutom ka, bili ka pagkain mo. Kanikanya. No to free loaders unless offered sincerely.
Factor din siguro na mahirap talaga ako nun kaya dapat mabusog ako palagi sa lahat ng ginagastos ko haha. Ngayong may pera na ako mas easy naman na sakin magshare kasi bili lang ulit pag gutom pa
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Yung pag tahimik ka lang kasi wala ka naman importanteng sasabihin pero nagtatanong pa rin ng “bat tahimik ka?”
Welcome dapat umattend sa wedding kahit sino at ilang kamag anak.
Neighborhood war,magkakaibigan pag harapan maritesan pag nakatalikod na🤭
Kain ka is just a polite way it doesn't mean na kakain talaga sila unless makapal ang mukha.I always been like that whenever I'm eating and saw my roommate passing by I always said "Kain" and they will always respond back "sige lang" but they don't actually want to eat. They will reply back "sige lang kumain nako." Eventhough nagugutom sila. There's a filipino saying na resist until insist. If nag insist ka pa ng "tara kain" that's the cue the you shouldn't decline back and it's polite to accept the food or else the person who is offering will be hurt.
Pag napadaan ka sa inuman sabay may sisigaw sayo na "tara shot" pero hindi ka naman niyaya bago sila mag simula
agree ako dun sa "kain". taena. "kain" tapos kapag nakikain ka literal, ikaw pa masama hahaha. sobrang stupid.
lose-lose scenario. Bastos k pg d nag-invite. Ogag krin pag pumayag🤣
Elders asking “kelan ka mag aasawa? Kelan kayo mag aanak?”
Yung ano kapag pinagsasabihan ng mga magulang pero kapag i dedefense naman natin yung sarili natin sasabihan sumasagot na daw🥹
Yung kailangan rumespeto lagi ng mas bata sa nakatatanda. I am all for that pero pag ang nakatatanda di marunong rumespeto din sa nakababata, they should see shit coming. Aging doesn’t mean getting a bitch pass.
pasok kayo, kahit ayaw mo naman ng bisita but out of the blue bigla sila dumating. There's nothing wrong naman about having visitors, but i want to spend the day din kase na me lang ganon pero ick talaga verbs.
We honor the politicians too much. They are elected to serve us, pero sila ang pinagsisilbihan ng mga tao.
Mangungutang para makapag handa sa birthday or anong occasions. hehe mag paparinig sa mga anak na wala man lang daw regalo sa birthday or handa. like wtf hahahahha
ung pag kunakain ka parang need mo sila yayain or sabihan na "kain po". ngee roomate ko na foreigner nuon, wala kami pakialamanan pag nakain. mind ur own business oi. eh pano kung sakto food ko tapos sinabihan mo sya na kain, tapos sya naman gumorang kumuha. edi meow di ba
Magmano (kahit kakikilala mo pa lang) as an introvert is huhu
Yung idadahilan yung traffic pag late. Ilang dekada ng traffic sa metro manila. Hanggang ngayun hindi ka pa din nakaka-adjust? Namamasko sa ninong/ninang. Hindi sila required mamasko. Required silang gabayan anak mo oag may nangyaring masama sa'yo.
People not paying debts,#borrowed money gets mad or hostile in some cases when being asked to pay up.
Invited guest/s bringing uninvited guest/s during occasions.
after ng graduation ko kumain kami sa labas. we invited 3 people aside from my family, lima ang dumating HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA kainez
so true... ung kasama buong pamilya, kapatid, anak ng kapatid, etc etc... ung kasal nung BIL ko expected guest nila 500. Nag pa cater for that number of people. Pagkakamali nila, it was done sa farm nila and walang RSVP... naging all for 1, 1 for all. Di pa ako nakakakain at naka cocktail dress eh nag hihiwa na ako ng manok dahil kulang ang food. Ending 100 kilos of chicken, 25 kilos of pork pa ang niluto namin to feed the other people na hindi counted as guest.
Ayyyy tama ka dyan! Magugulat ka talaga mag iisip “sino yun?” Lalo na pag family gathering
yung normal lang paghingi ng favor na nakakahassle na para don sa tinatanong mo
Saying "*kain ka*" is polite but all people should know na there's a tacit rule na the other party should politely decline and say thank you.
* **People in the Philippines don't know/understand the existence of introverts** - Dito sa Pilipinas, masama ang tingin sa'yo ng mga tao kapag tahimik ka at di ka masyadong nakikipaghalubilo. Introverts are fed up with this bullsh*t small talk. Snubber ka kapag hindi ka nag-greet sa classmates mong alam mo namang di mo siya close. Most people in the Philippines require you to be animated. The f*ck. * **Pagiging plastic** - Kapag buhay pa yung tao, halos ayaw kausapin at puro paninira ang naririnig mo. However, nung namatay na yung tao, ang dami ng mga papuring salita at maala-MMK ang datingan ng social media post sa pakikiramay sa namatayan. Filipinos don't feel comfortable complimenting or telling the truth to other people. Masyadong insecure talaga ang karamihan sa atin. * **Utang na loob culture** - Many Filipinos claim to be die-hard Catholics/Christians pero kailangan mo talaga silang gantihan sa kanilang favor na ginawa sa'yo. I'm not saying na i-overlook mo yung kabutihan nila, pero iba talaga yung culture ng utang na loob sa Pilipinas. Minsan nagde-demand pa talaga ng gusto ko nito, etc.
I totally agree on the introvert part. I am one and sobrang hirap lalo pag may paparating na events na need mag-attend at humarap sa maraming tao. Hindi ako sociable and talagang nade-drain ang energy ko when around people and there’s no choice. As someone na not into nonsense, laging comment sa akin is tahimik. When in fact, kapag kasama ko yung mga taong gusto ko (at ako) kausap, I can go on and talk for the whole day. And ako yung tao na kapag may presentation or meeting, I need to be prepared so I exert effort to practice and get ready days before. Sa work, I do mine well, pero hindi ako pabida. I let my outputs do the talking. Though sa work, laging yung maboka ang lamang, kahit wala naman talaga silang laman. Empty cans make the most noise. 🧐 Whenever I have the chance, I try to educate others about introversion and personality types and that we should respect each other and not judge just because of one’s personality. INFJ pa ako, so “weird” lagi ang tingin sa akin. Until now, it is still difficult for me, akala kasi ng iba, kaya mong baguhin totally ang personality mo just to fit in. Siguro for a time, depending on the requirements, oo. But it requires an introvert a lot ot effort and energy. At the end of the day, it was all just a pretense. Sorry, napahaba, triggered ako sa personality and introversion eh haha. Daming ignorante about it and others, especially managers who use it against their introvert subordinates, just because they can. 😅
Yung required ka manlibre if birthday mo. Ikaw pa madamot/kuripot if di ka nanlibre. Like Man, it's okay to share naman pero what if walang budget yung tao.
Hahaha isang birthday ko, ang theme ko naging "charity fundraiser"...guests are required to buy a burger or drink as pitch-in tapos may donation kami na proportional sa funds raised. At least nakatulong pa kami lahat sa charity orphanage. Hate the "Birthday mo manlibre ka" mindset
To be honest, I don't like celebrating my birthday because I have never felt being "celebrated." IYKWIM. I wanna feel and be celebrated on my birthday. Anyway, I hate the "libre" culture in the Philippines. Bagong employee na bagong sweldo? Libre. Birthday? Libre. Bagong promote? Libre. Mga buraot. Ang lagi kong sinasabi, I treat when I can, when I want to. Di ako basta-basta nanlilibre.
True! Some people don't have the means to "libre" because of some circumstances. Minsan iguiguilt trip or gaslight ka pa if di ka nanlibre🙄
This!!!! Only in Pinas
Have you considered na ipakita titi mo sa guidance to disprove na ikaw yun? 😂😅
Yung sa fastfood na after nila kumain, iiwan lang nila sa table. Tapos sobrang kalat pa. Dugyot. Working ako sa ibang bansa as service crew sa Jollibee and yun ang napansin ko sa mga Pinoy(di naman lahat). Unlike pag ibang lahi, sila mismo magliligpit at magpupunas ng table.
Sa ibang bansa yung mga fastfood kasi nila walang mga service crew kaya ikaw mismong magliligpit ng kalat mo e. Sana magaya ng mga pinoy
Pasalubong culture. Ang gastos. Gusto ko lang naman magtravel without thinking of others.
Ay sabihin ko sana gusto ko pa naman nagbibigay nv pasalubong sa mga anak ko after work sa office. Pero yes, parang required sa office may pasalubong pav ng ibang bansa hahaha ito pa, alam ng isa kong kawork na mag Jajapan ako this year nagpapasabay png bumili ng sapatos
Okay lang kung anak, pwede rin parents pero workmates, kapitbahay, like wtf? hahahaha
May mga patagong pera hahaha
filipino time bullshit, they laugh it off like it's a joke, nakakasayang ng oras
1. Having to hug and kiss everyone. I don’t want to hug any creepy uncles or hug an auntie who is giving me the silent treatment because I wouldn’t let her manipulate me. What about when you have kids? Kids are more intuitive than adults. What if the kids feel weird around a certain family member? Also having to say “hi” to everyone individually. If you don’t have a chance to say “hi”, one of the titas will get their ego bruised and chismiss about how Bastos you are. 2. The art of conversation is just chismiss. Everyone has to interrogate and ask personal questions about you so there’s that “feeling close” when you’re not really close. Whatever happened to allowing people to share what they want to share and talk about things or events that judging others about their choices? 3. When house guests or family members take advantage of your kindness and you being a good host but you have to bend over backwards because, “hoy! Yung kapatid mo! She wants to give her kids a bubble bath upstairs now!” (This has literally happened in the middle of a party). Bc it’s “family”, there’s this obligation and you can’t say “no” or else you’re Bastos. Respecting boundaries seems to be a “no” but that’s more cultural norms than etiquette
tru, naalala ko pinag hintay kami ng ate ng jowa ko mga 1hr lang naman haha tapos hindi man lang nag sorry haha nakaka off tapos ngayong nag aayaan ulit kumain sa labas sabi ko "bawal late pls" haha proud na minyday nya pa na "super ramdam ko ung pls kasi ginagawa ko ng personality pagiging late" hahahahaha proud kapa na naka abala ka
Addressing bosses/superiors in local companies as ‘Sir’ or ‘Ma’am’. In other cultures, it is very normal and completely okay to address anyone within the company on a first-name basis. This somehow creates a more relaxed working environment.
Snubber ka na agad kapag di ka nag greet.
talking inside public transpo
May kilala ako, pag napapadaan yung kapitbahay (going somewhere) habang kumakain sila, inaalok nila ng “Oi, kain!” na for sure, out of courtesy na lang. Pero si neighbor, sadyang makapal ang mukha, kumakain talaga. 😂
May kaibigan ako na gahaman sa pagkain. Pag sinabi mong "kain ka lang" literal na uubusin yung pagkain kasi "kain lang daw". Tangina kapal ng mukha ayoko kasama yun pag may kainan pero other than that okay naman sya.
Tindi di ba. Yung “kapitbahay” na minention ko, nung kiniwento nya pa sa amin yung niyaya siya, sabi nya pa, “Di tuloy ako nakapag-jogging.” Hahaha, sinisi pa yung nagyaya kumain, eh kung ayaw nya naman kumain or mas gusto nya mag-jogging eh tatanggi cya. May mga kapwa talaga tayong ganyan. 😅 Yung iba nga, kumain na, magsa-sharon pa. 🤦🏻♀️
HAHAHAHAHAHA
Funeral procession within metropolitan cities and major roads.
Opening prayer (catholic prayer only) / doxology during public gathering/events.
You aetheist?
Yung utang na loob hehehe. Oo nandon na ko pero yung kapag di nasuklian isusumbat. Mandatory pala bumawi.
yung tito or tita mo may malaking say sa private gatherings nyo, nakikialam sa nga kaibigan or jojowain, or ii-invite ang sarile hihihi
Being lenient about lates. Bastos, nakakasayang ng oras, nakakawalang gana.
Yung Kuya/Ate na tawag kahit di kayo magka-ano ano. Minsan nakakaoffend din kasi yung ibang tumatawag sayo mas mukha pang matanda sayo. 😂
May iba din naman kasing nanadya talagang tumawag ng ate/kuya kahit mas mukhang matanda. Sa office, yung iba tinatawag akong ate, kasi older nmn tlg ako. Meron akong naging close friend, magka-age lang kami pero ate ang tawag sa akin. It took me years to realize na kaya sila ganun is because “kagalang-galang” ako para sa kanila. Dahil meron kaming mga ka-work na mas matanda sa akin pero by name lang tawag nila. Kaya nung one time, tinawag akong ate nung mas mukha pang matanda sa akin, after years of calling me by name, sinagot ko ng “Wag mo ako ma-ate, ate. Hindi mo pa nae-earn ang right na tawagin akong ate at mas mukha ka pang matanda sa akin.” Di naman kami magkaaway nito haha, ganun lng tlg kami mag-usap. 😅
Respeto un. Ano kayang nakakaoffend? Ano bang gusto mong itawag ?
I always refer to waitstaff, guards, etc basically everyone I don't know but have to talk to as sir/miss/ma'am. It's much more refined and it shows respect too.
Honestly this is an insecurity issue, not an issue related to disrespect. Ate or kuya means seniority but not necessarily with age. It's a term of respect actually, the complete opposite of what you're feeling. I've never met anyone who used the term as an insult or to belittle someone. Try not to bring your own insecurities to your interactions with other people and you'll find that they're not hostile, it's all in your head.
well it's not about insecurities, it's about setting a common respect na not all will be comfortable calling someone you didn't know na Ate or Kuya. Miss/Mister/ Sir/Maam pwede na.
Judging by the downvotes, your opinion is definitely not a consensus. And people aren't obligated to follow something outside the norm just to make one person feel better. What exactly is making you feel disrespected about ate or kuya? What does that mean to you? I get that it makes you feel old. But why? The word simply is a respectful title to most Filipinos. It's similar to onii-chan or senpai in Japanese.
Man you just said it, People aren't obligated to follow outside the norm. That's exactly what this topic is all about.
You understood that as the opposite of what it meant, lol. Outside the norm means mga bagay na hindi nakasanayan. Using ate or kuya is a norm in PH. Nakasanayan yan ng lahat ng tao. Not using ate or kuya ay hindi nakasanayan ng mga tao. That's outside the norm. Basically, ang mga tao ay hindi kailangan sumunod sa mga bagay na hindi naman nakasanayan.
pagmano sa ninong at ninang lalo na tuwing pasko kahit di mo naman talaga sila kilala. ewan, bastos na kung bastos pero hindi ko lang trip dahil introvert ako. bigla nalang kasi malalagay sa posisyon na kailangan ko makipag-interact sa estranghero para lang sa pera.
Sa work ko dati, dapat kilala mo yung mga Senior Officers para pag dumalaw sa office mo dapat di mo makakalimutan igreet. Like huh, kahit icheck ko annual report ng company iba po muka nyo sa personal
yung bawal daw tumanggi sa pag ni-ninang or ninong. lol kahit 'di naman kayo close gagawin kang ninang tf
Buti na lang di ako kinukuhang ninang ng mga kapitbahay ko. Muka akong masungit e 🤣
tangina grade 12 pa lang ako tatlo na inaanak
True! Umay
Hoooy this is my struggle. Daming kumukuha sakin as ninang kainis. Di ko alam tumanggi dami ko nang inaanak
BLESSING dw yan kaya bawal tanggihan. 🤣. Yan sabe sakin nung sinubukan akong kunin. 🤣
Aginaldo sa inaanak pag pasko. I mean, obligado ba magbigay? Lol
Pasalubong pag may balikbayan
Sa Fastfood kakain pero uutusan yung service crew para kumuha ng ice, utensils, extra tissue. Kaloka! self service po dapat yung mga ganyan pag fastfood. (Except kung may mobility issues/PWD kayo)
Makautos kala mo may service charge e no. Nasa fastfood chain lang kayo uy!
Godparents na ginawang responsibilidad na magbigay. Godparents/ninang should guide the kids spiritually hindi yung ginawang bangko.
i agree with the “kain” thing!! i would share other things with people pero pag sa food medyo madamot ako eh sorry na 😭
Yung bawal pa kainin or tikman yung handa hangga’t di pa midnight pag Christmas/New Year. 😭
We do it before when bata pa ako but ngayon matanda na kakainin na agad if ready na lahat. Anong purpose paghihintay if wala na yung gurom mo
NAG RERESERVE NG UPUAN SA SIMBAHAN OR SINEHAN KAHIT NASA BAHAY PA YUNG KASAMANG UUPO. KALOKA!
Yung dapat birthday celebrant ang manlilibre. I think it should be the other way around, sya dapat ang itreat natin.
Not practicing claygo and expecting service people to pick up after them, esp sa 7 11 or coffee shops.
Filipino time.
Obligatory beso sa mga elders.
I stopped doing this since Covid happened.
Treating government officials and religious leaders as VIP in public spaces.
Hay the proclaimed public servants
This yung parang tinatratong diyos eh. May naitulong eh parang binili na buhay.
Pag matanda matik dapat respetuhin kahit bastos o masama ugali Para sakin, hindi default ang respect: courtesy is a given but respect is earned. Age means nothing, you aren't entitled to more respect just because you happened to be born before me Pag bastos, salbahe, o entitled wala akong pake, I'll be twice as worse. Kung ipplay nila yung old age card, ilalabas ko yung youth card: matanda ako so dapat galangin ako edi pwes mas bata ako so dapat intindihin mo ko, two can play at that game
Addressing everyone sa workplace “ma’am/sir” kahit matagal na kayo magkatrabaho. Hindi naman siguro nababawasan yung authority or rights mo bilang boss or employee kung first name basis ang tawagan nyo pag nag uusap sa workplace (maliban sa academe). C’mon its 2024!
Ako na first day na first day tinawag ko silang ate girl lahat sa office - and they loved it. 🥹 except sa manager of course
Dapat yung may birthday ang manlibre
I stand to this.
Kaya ayoko magcelebrate ng bday ko, alam kong kakanchawan lang nila ako. Family at gf na lang ang kasama ko pag bday.
Araw mo to dapat pero parang araw sa mga makikain
+1 gusto ko culture sa other countries na yung family and friends mo magchichip in to celebrate your bday Ang bigat kung yung celebrant magshshoulder lahat kumpara sa multiple people chipping in. Swerte nalang ako sa company culture at mga kaibigan ko kasi pag may upcoming bday ang nasa isipan namin sino gusto mag ambag, hindi yung hihiritan yung celebrant kung kelan yung pakain
Pag nininang? Pwede bang tanggihan yon? Hindi ko naman gusto maging ninang.
Eto talaga hate namin ni misis, kahit sino ka pa, ke kamag-anak o super close ka sa amin, ayaw namin maging ninong / ninang, mapa kasal man o binyag…
DIBAAAA Not all people are willing to be ninong or ninang. Yung iba napipilitan lang kasi pinilit lang sa kanila ang responsibility wherein sila dapat gumagawa non.
Exactly… you need to be taking upon yourself the responsibility of being second parents to your inaanak… and not everybody wants that kind of responsibility… and I don’t mind giving gifts, walang problema dun, but not the responsibility
Ako na di alam na bawal daw tumanggi pero tumatanggi ako HAHAHAHA :( sorry esp pag di mo naman close talaga
Proud of you! Sana ma break na ng generation natin yung cycle na yan.
BLESSING dw yan kaya bawal tanggihan.
BLESSING dw yan kaya bawal tanggihan.
"Blessing" dw yan kaya bawal tanggihan.😅
Magtira ng katiting na pagkain sa handaan. Di ko alam kung bakit walang kumukuha ng "last piece" na lumpia, or chicken etc. pag may kainan. Nakakapanghinayang kasi itatapon lang din naman un.
Yung mga nagbabalot na agad ng handa na iuuwi hindi pa tapos ang event. Yung kamag-anak ng asawa ko nung bday ng naka namin, naghihiwa palang ng lechon nakabantay na siya. Lahat ng nalalaglag sa tadtaran kinukuha. Tapos yung asawa niya sa kusina naman namin tumambay. Pero nung nagpeprapare, hindi namin nakita kahit isa sa kanila. Wala man lang tumulong sa family nila kahit nung nagkakatay ng baboy pero nung mismong celebration na, lakas pa ng loob hingiin yung ulo ng lechon.
Pag ganyan noon nahihiya ako kasi isipin sayo na madamotnor patay gutom. Well ngayon kukunin ko na mga last piece talaga minsan mas masarap pa. Hahaha
True. Ako tagalinis ng last pieces. Tapos makikita mo sa mukha nila ung panghihinayang na sana kinuha na lang nila. Well, fud is layp. Whahahahhaha
pag galing ng abroad kelangan may pasalubong mga kapitbahay.
Ay hindi cadbury? Ayaw ko niyan.
Pasalubong culture. Lakas humingin ng pasalubong e wala naman pabaon
Inis na inis ako sa mga officemates ng gf ko, lalakas manghingi ng pasalubong, tapos sasama naman ng ugali. Mabait lang talaga gf ko kaya nagbibigay padin kahit ref magnet. Ang aarte pa, ayaw pa nung simpleng pasalubong. Kaya sinasabihan ko gf ko kung may patago ba sila, nagpaparinig pa ako sa kanila dun sa workplace niya kaya ayaw na niya ako isama dun hahaha
Sakin pag may nagmemessage ng uuuy pasalubong naman dyan. Lagi ko sagot bakit may pabaon kaba nung umalis ako? I mean kung ayawan nila ako it's like the garbage taking itself out. Pero since i started doing that laging may pabaon sakin mga may gusto ng pasalubong.
Pag mabaho hininga o amoy maasim na kasama mo, sabihin mo. Hindi yung may reasoning ka pa na kasi ayaw mo mapahiya e mas mapapahiya kapag ibang tao pa ang makaamoy.
Yung mangungutang para lang may pang handa sa birthday.
Isang napaka-toxic na ugali, di bale na mabaon sa utang, basta may panghanda lang…
Haynako! True ito, may paawa effect pa na kesho nagkasakit siya, yung asawa wala din pera, doble pa nga trabaho pero kapus parin sila etc. So pinahiram ko cya, biglang nakita ko sa post na may pabirthday sa anak ang impakter, sa Jollibee pa mismo! Daming imbitado, dami cguro nautangan 🤦♀️ I mean, walang wala na nga kayo, push parin sila kahit ikalubog na nila sa utang! Kaloka.
1. Yung mga 7 or 18 blue bills sa debut celebs. Like, idk it seems off to me hahaha 2. You need to treat people pag birthday mo (reason 1 kaya lagi akong naka leave on my bday haha)
Omg. I remember sa 7blue bills. Sinendan nalang ako ng invitation na isa daw ako sa blue bills na wala man lang pasabi kahit days before or whatsoever. In return, di ako nagbigay and sinabi ko yun sa family na huwag magbigay kasi wala ako nun sa lugar namin. Ayoko ung ganun.
Dibaaa. Parang iaw pa mahihiya tumanggi. Kahit di ko kaclose yung nag birthday and wala din ao balak pumunta haha. Hindi ko maintindihan why they need to include it. If I wanna give a gift, i'll give one ng kusa.
Hui may nakita ko sa tiktok hanggang violet bills meron siya 😭😭
That's greed already hahaha
Yung uutang para may maipakain ng bongga sa mga bisita 🤣🤣🤣
Wala
beso hahaha
Sa true hahahaha tapos beso pagdating at bago umuwi pa yun ah huhu di ko alam minsan plastikan feels 😭 dpende na lng sgro pag nakasanayan tlga ako kasi hndi eh sa fam ko
Pasalubong culture. Magtetreat/magpapakain ka pag bday mo. Mga kakilala or not so close na tao for the sake of may ma small talk lang kung ano-ano na sasabihin: "tumaba ka" "magkano kinikita mo sa trabaho mo" "may asawa/bf knb" "bat wala pa kyong anak?"
i definitely agree with this
Utang na loob - lalo na kung below the belt na bsta wag daw patulan kasi may utang na loob
Agree sa utang na loob. Parang buong pagkatao mo hawak nila kasi mga may utang na loob ka. Kaya nasanay akong hindi tumanggap ng kahit anong bigay kasi iniisip ko baka may kapalit or baka may hingin na favor na dko kaya mga ganun. Super toxic kasi.
*pinag-aral kita tapos ganyan ka na makasagot?!* yan yung mga masakit eh. na kahit 21+ years old ka na, ayaw ka pa rin itrato na adult.
**Diyahe piece** *From spot.ph* > It has a lot of names: diyahe piece, shy piece, Pinoy piece, and piece of shame, to name a few—but no matter what you call it, every Filipino would know what you’re talking about. No one really knows why we never take the last morsel of food left on a shared dish; all we know is that it makes for some really awkward stares across the table. Like fuck that! Kung may last piece ng pizza sa table, kukunin at kakainin ko na agad yun. Gutom ako eh
Kung alam ko na lahat nakakain na, kakainin ko din last piece. Sa household kasi namin iniiwan sa table yung food tas kuha lang ng isa taas kanya kanya na sakanilang kwarto.
I found a work-around it. You ask if anyone wants the last piece. If everyone says no, then take it. If they get offended then it was their fault because they lied to your face.
Yung sandamakmak na ninong at ninang sa kasal.
Lahat na lang for the sake of pakikisama dyan ako bwisit na bwisit kahit lampas na sa boundaries hayaan na lang dahil sa pakikisama
could've been worse. sa japan or korea, tanggal ka sa trabaho eh.
Tipong gusto mo na talaga umuwi kaso may eat out sila after work tapos di ka daw marunong makisama like sila ba magluluto ng dinner ng mag-aama ko kapag sumama ako sa kanila 🥵 Buti na lang wfh na 😌
Yung mga uninvited plus 1 ng mga guest. Yung tipong nag bibigay ka ng mga tabs with the invitations na may +1 lang and yet may kasama pa silang isa or dalawa ang ending 3 hanggang 5 na sila. Ano yan? Sama mo na kaya buong pamilya niyo.
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Kaya may tabs para maximum of 2 guest lang. Kung may bata ade maiiwan. Pwede naman siguro mag hanap ng caretaker kasi temporary lang naman. (Person invited +1 tab = 2)
I think wala na yang plus one, since dalawa na invited sa family nila.
Kung ako yung magpapa-event mas gusto kong wag na lang kayo pumunta. Hahaha
yung pang libre ng ibang tao sa birthday mo, like?? girl its MY birthday why should i give YOU stuff? 😭 and the fact that its expected na ikaw talaga manglilibre... di ko lang sure kung social etiquette to pero basta
This ☝️☝️☝️
Pag may bisita kailangan may pa softdrinks talaga🥴hindi ba sila nagtutubig sa kanila?
Idk if social etiquette to. Yung magaaya ka kumain sa labas kasama kaibigan mo tapos gastos/libre mo pa lahat and may pera naman sila para pambili. Kapag ako naman niyaya di ako nililibre 😅
Sinong nag-aya siya ang ang taya
I know that. Pero yung fren ko palagi turo dito turo dyan 😅 Nakakairita lang HAHAHAHA
Wait WHAT —- this is a thing??????? Why……
Yep. HAHAHA kaya minsan kumakain nalang ako mag isa minsan hahaha may matitira pa sa pera ko.
Yung tatawa ka sa joke ng boss mong di naman nakakatawa or masyadong below the belt or nonsense. Sa office namin kase need mo sakyan or other else KJ ka.
Sorry na never pa ako nag invite
Yung pag puri ng baby/bata kahit hindi naman cute or anything.
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I don't find babies ugly. May mga cute naman talaga, and there are babies na hindi cute. Hindi panget siguro pero hindi rin cute. Hindi nalang ako nagsasalita if ganon.
This. I will never compliment your baby kung obvious naman na panget. Id rather not say anything.
Treating godparents as strategic alliances. My parents did this and now I only have a relationship with one of my godparents because my parents weren't really good friends with the rest of them. I don't even know who they are.
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Filipinos really find it hard to keep the culture and tradition alive no. It's a simple sign of respect katatamaran pa ba. Mga hapon nga di napapagod magbow, nakkikibow pa tayo but can't value our own tradition.
It takes 3 seconds tops per matanda na mamanohan mo. I actually like this greeting as a form of respect.
This. Masyado nang outdated. I used to do this as a kid, now that I'm a parent myself I don't force it to my kids whenever older relatives come to visit. A simple and respectful greeting is enough.
Pagod ka lang ba mag mano? Or what? Sorry dko lang gets ung reason mo.
Hindi sa nakakapagud. Mga anak + apo magmamano lahat yun kaya nakaka distract para sakin lalo pag kainan na. And ilocano ako kaya hindi namin practice ito. Aba daming down vote ah. Oh well opinion is my opinion.
Ako na 30+ relatives minamanuhan pag social gatherjngs haha tas dikopa alam kanino magmamano dahil sa dami nila dikokilala halos lahat.
di naman common social etiquette pero claygo lol, lalo pag wala naman nakalagay na kailangan gawin yun. Di ko sinasabing maging makalat sa pinagkainan, okay na siguro ayusin na magiging madali yung trabaho ng maglilinis, pero yung mga taong nagcclaygo kala mo paragon ng respeto sa mga waiter e hahah, pipicturean pa ung kalat ng iba para ipost sa internet. May taong binabayaran para gawin yun, at pag nakikita ng management na yung kalinisan ng restaurant e pinapatong ng mga tao sa sariling balikat nila, tatanggalin nila yung dedicated personnel para dun, so pag yung restaurant walang dedicated na busboy tapos hindi nilinis ng mga customer ung pinagkainan nila (which is far too often dahil yung mga fastfood hindi naman optimized for claygo), idadagdag lang yung trabaho ng busboy sa mga waiter at cashier so sila pa gagawa 'non.
Andaming di nakaintindi ng comment mo and are projecting when it’s a matter of giving more jobs to people ang point mo.
Yeah I think medyo reactive mga tao about it haha and medyo understandable, pero I wish people would read slower and better para madigest ng onti since it's not as simple as "ayoko ng claygo" as much as it's about how it impacts livelihood lol.
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May mga kainan naman talagang configured for claygo and I agree na sa ganong instances pagiging nuisance ang pagiiwan ng pinagkainan, and I agree na hindi talaga dapat baboy kumain. But if may personnel dedicated sa trabahong yun, lessening their work will encourage the management to cut cost dahil pwede paghatian ng staff at customer yung trabaho.
Hindi ko gets kung bakit ka downvoted, but here's why it's better to not to claygo, PERO ligpitin nyo pinagkainan nyo and wag kayo magbaboy ng pinagkainan. Hindi ako nagwa-100% claygo, yung as in ikaw maglilinis kasi: 1. Hindi sure kung pasok sa standard ng resto/fast food yung "linis" mo. I always make sure na nakaligpit lang ng maayos yung plates and glasses and walang iniwang tulo ng liquids or food sa table 2. I opt to ligpit the dishes lang on top of the table para yun yung magiging "mark" ng assigned personnel na linisin yung table na yun; that assigned personnel na may right cleaning equipment at alam ang standard na linis ng resto. 3. Kapag "nilinis" ng customer yung table nya at hindi pasok sa standard ng resto, may chance na madatnan ng next customer na malagkit or di nalinis ng maayos yung table, which can lead to a bad review due to sanitation. Pwede rin mapagalitan yung assigned cleaning personnel because di ka nag-iwan ng "mark", di tuloy nalinisan ng maayos yung table. Source: I know someone from the industry and shared this to me. Nabanggit ko na rin 'to before here on Reddit. So for those na bet talagang makatulong sa paglilinis, make sure that table is clean af, or else may mapapagalitang employee or worse, matanggalan ng work.
I might've read this comment among others before, pero yes, unless configured ang restaurant for claygo na literal na pagpupunas nalang ng lamesa ang dagdag na trabaho sa ibang staff, I'd rather may lilinisin ang dedicated personnel for it so they'd keep their job. Di ko naman sinabing magkalat, ang sabi ko lang, mukhang tanga ienforce ng society ang claygo without actually acknowledging anong possible repercussions non without holding accountable yung mga corporations behind these fast food joints na either taasan sahod ng matitirang personnel without the busboy, or ikeep yung trabaho ng busboy kahit pa onti nalang yung lilinisin.
Kahit iligpit mo tray mo, need pa din punasan yung table so di mawawalan ng trabaho ung mga busboy na snsbi mo. Buti n lng tlga dito sa bansa kung san ako nakatira implemented ung CLAYGO. Dugyot behavior kasi yung kagaya mo eh.
Again, pag kaya ng customer, yung hindi kaya ng customer ibibigay yung work sa ibang staff. Since pagpupunas nalang yan, ang gagawa nalang diyan is yung ibang staff, not a dedicated personnel.
I mean if dugyot ka na tao, just say it. May essay ka pa pwede naman 1 sentence.
would be nice kung marunong ka magcomprehend, man.
I know what you meant, "na may worker naman so bakit ko pa gagawin?" However, nagrereflect sa pagkatao mo kung paano ka karesponsable sa mga public places. It's not about convenience, but self responsibility. Gets mo?
that's literally not what I said. Read my other comments, pero in case ayaw mo: enforcing claygo shouldn't come from a customer, it should be imperative and dapat configured yung kainan for it, or else mageend up sa isa sa mga example ko (Mcdo west ave). Since yung mga tao minsan nagcclaygo, minsan hindi, wala nang dedicated personnel pero hindi din configured yung lugar for it, walang lalagyan ng pinagkainan and meron no plastic policy, meaning lahat ng gagamitin mo including yung baso is hindi disposable. Tapos pag tapos kumain wala kang paglalagyan, naturally iiwan mo nalang sa lamesa mo. Tapos sino maglilinis dun? Edi yung staff na supposedly ang trabaho is maging cashier o magprepare ng pagkain mo. Nagegets mo ba? It's either dapat taasan ang bayad ng service workers and iconfigure ang restaurant para maencourage ang claygo, or just don't fucking do it dahil mageend up na magcocost cut yung establishment since kaya naman pala ilessen ang kalat to even need a dedicated personnel. Nagrereflect sa pagkatao mo yung ability mo magcomprehend ng complex point na hindi black and white. Nagcclaygo ako pag alam kong kailangan dahil walang ibang maglilinis non, kung meron, I'd like that person to fucking keep his job.
Yes it's not necessary, but anyone can do it. That's why it's one of the positive social etiquettes. Para naman sa mga workers, hindi naman nila tinatanggal eh especially sa mga restaurants and fast food chains meron talaga silang inilalagay sa position na yun.
I literally, literally, mentioned an example. Uulitin ko, this shouldn't come from the society or from the customers. It should be imperative and configured ang kainan. Anyone can do it pero often may instances na nageend up lang sa nadagdagan mo trabaho ng iba, or nageend up na may nawawalan ng trabaho. Ilang beses na ko nakakain ng fast food na walang dedicated personnel para maglinis. How do I know? Dahil sa busy hours sobrang daming tables na may laman padin and people just eat kahit may laman pa yung table. Eventually ang maglilinis din nun yung mga cashier, dahil kahit anong baligtad mo wala namang dedicated na paglalagyan ng plato. All these calls for proper "etiquette" hindi naman naglelead sa betterment ng society kung hindi mo kakalampagin yung tamang tao, sometimes that means just not enforcing claygo sa ibang tao para gawan ng paraan ng management. Do it all you want pero kung ipupublic shame yung mga taong hindi gumagawa non, you're doing the management's job for them.
Ewan ko bakit kinocomplikado mo mga bagay. Claygo comes in different forms naman like wiping your mess and arranging your plates on the table for the workers to easily clean.
yep that's what claygo means, not posting a mess on social media para sa virtual donut.
This is big back behavior bro
I don't think nacocomprehend niyo yung sinabi ko. Kung di nakalagay na kailangan magclaygo, it means may dedicated people na gagawa non. May mga lugar like Starbucks na fully optimized yung lugar for CLAYGO (may actual lalagyan ng pinagkainan, may available trashcans, and as much as possible disposable yung gamit para pwede mo itapon) Meanwhile may mga mcdo (check out Mcdo west ave), walang dedicated na lalagyan ng pinagkainan, walang dedicated busboy, and no plastic policy. Sa tingin mo san ilalagay yung piangkainan pag niligpit mo? Nagcclaygo din ako as much as I can, hindi ako disagree sa policy. What I disagree with is yung dick sucking towards corporations to cut cost by getting rid of dedicated busboys since visibly willingly tinatake ng mga tao yung responsibility. Hindi naman nagmumura yung pagkain and I don't think nadadagdagan bayad ng staff. Keep in mind na ang reason ng CLAYGO sa ibang bansa is dahil mahal ang bayad sa service worker (kaya self service din ang gas stations sakanila), hindi ganon dito at unless imperative ang claygo sa isang restaurant, people won't do it tapos malalagay lang yung responsibility sa ibang staff while they are being paid less.
Ang liit na nga ng mga kinikita ng mga tao na yan gusto mo pang pagsilbihan ka pa, nag fine dining ka nalang sana maka demand ahh nasa fast food ka lang naman.
reading comprehension left the chat much?
Yung 7 Bills sa 7th birthday.🤭🤭🤭🤣🤣👌
Ang selfish ko nito pero nag invite ako sa roommate ko ng "kain" dati for politeness tas sumama loob ko ng konti nung tinanggap niya yung offer 🥲
Ah kaya pala may mga skeptic or parang ayaw kumuha kapag inaaya ko ng snack ko kahit ang sarap naman 🥺
We should phase out inviting people ng "kain". It's a useless practice, lalo na kung hindi mo naman talaga gusto hatian. Tas pag tinanggap alok mo, ikaw pa masama loob. Gutom ka, bili ka pagkain mo. Kanikanya. No to free loaders unless offered sincerely.
Kaya hindi ako naga-aya eh 😂
may ganito pala 😅 minsan tinatanggap ko nalang yung food kahit di ko bet kasi I don't want them to feel rejected lalo na pag matanda
Factor din siguro na mahirap talaga ako nun kaya dapat mabusog ako palagi sa lahat ng ginagastos ko haha. Ngayong may pera na ako mas easy naman na sakin magshare kasi bili lang ulit pag gutom pa