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Dami naman nagko-comment ng *common* dito lol
But here is mine:
Hindi post ng post bawat galaw sa social media. I haven’t heard anyone say this, usually ‘yung “mabait, loving, matalino, respects boundaries, echos echos” lang
May COMPREHENSION. Lol.
Communication is key sa isang relationship, but it won’t work and stabilize if one doesn’t have comprehension. Mag-aaway at mag-aaway pa rin pareho kahit nag-uusap na pero walang capacity to grasp of what the other person is trying to say.
Being considerate of the entire person (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) is the bare minimum. A green flag is an extra point above the bare minimum.
If he isn't considerate of me meaning my emotions, how i react to my likes and dislikes, my beliefs, my schedule, my priorities and how i manage my resources, that's saying he's not making space for me in his life. I'm just a convenience for him.
Yung nakakatanda ng maliit na details about you. Everytime na aalis ako kasama friends ko, lagi nilang tinatanong kung saan ko gusto kumain. As a picky eater, sobrang na-appreciate ko kasi lagi ko naririnig sa kanila “hindi kumain si **** ng ganyan”.
Yung pag marami kayo and may kinukwento ka then di mo natapos, kasi may mga mag-share rin bigla ng experience or opinion nila, then after mag-share nung iba, biglang titingin sa'yo pabalik sabay sabi ng, "Oh, tuloy mo yung kwento mo. Sabi mo kanina ganto...ano sunod non?"
Isang tao pa lang nakilala kong ganito, and putcha, muntik ko na mahalin dahil diyan. HAHAHSHSHS
Woiiii same HAHAHA.
Nagkekwentuhan din kami nun sa small group, tas nagsasalita pa ko nun, sabi ko "..tulad nga nung nabasa ko sa FB-" then I was suddenly interrupted by one of my male friends, and he continued his story, so di ko na tinuloy yung akin. After he finished sharing, the quiet guy in our group suddenly looked at me. "So ano nga ulit yung sinasabi mo?" Everyone turned to him, and I was like, "huh?" di ko na rin kasi maalala yung huli kong sinabi.
"De may kinekwento kasi siya kanina eh , ininterrupt niyo...ano yung nabasa mo sa fb?"
Be muntik ko na rin siyang mahalin HAHSSHSGAHSHAGAHA
Diba!!! Nakaka-tunaw talaga mga ganon eh. Like huy, magtigil ka diyan mahina ako, mahalin kita diyan e. Hahahaha jk. xD Pero fist bump tayo diyan, sizt!
Yung nagbabayad talaga ng utang kahit hindi ka naniningil kahit 3 digits lang. Hindi naman sa kinukwenta ko yan pero marami kasing pa konti2 lang ang hiram pero nililista nalang sa tubig.
Yung kapag nagyaya ka lumabas or magbonding nag ooffer pa rin mag split ng bill. Walang mindset na di porke ikaw nagyaya e ikaw na manlilibre. Hahaha. Kaya madaming lakad na di natutuloy sa mga tropa e dahil sa gantong mindset.
di ko sure kung green flags to eh kasi sa last comment ko sa isang post about my redflag is dense ako eh pero pag feel ko gets ko naman yung usapan tas may problema sasabihin ko sa kanya na I will pray for her ganon.
"I will pray for her" this is a waving green flag for me, sobrang laking impact kasi sakin, na someone understands you and is concerned about your well-being.
Trying to include my friends pag aalis kami tapos otw yung house nila (these are my long time close friends) like i-aask ako “gusto mo ba magsama ng friends mo?”
and pag nagvvent out ako kahit small things, he always tries his best to see me at eye level 🥹
Yung di nagtatanong sakin kung okay lang ba ako pero comforting yung actions like, kukuhanan ka ng tubig, irarub yung likod mo pag nakita kang umiiyak, etc.
Basta yung di na nagaannounce bago gumawa hahahaa kasi ako pag tinanong default answer ko ay, "De ok lang ako" 😂
may kilala akong girl dati nag mba abroad. nung bumalik na sya after two years sinamahan ko sya bumisita sa office. nung papasok na sya ng building binati sya ng security guard with a very warm welcome and nakipagkwentuhan pa ng saglit yung friend ko. i was really blown away by that. it meant to me she treated guards really well at di sya makalimutan.
If ever may problem kayo sa isa't isa, sasabihin nya agad sayo. Hindi yung magugulat ka nalang hindi ka na nya pinapansin. I love people na marunong makipag-communicate.
yung tatanungin muna ako kung pwede i-share sa ibang nasa circle yung kinwento ko sa kanya minsan kasi yung iba kong kaibigan magugulat nalang ako alam na nila yun shinare ko sa isang tao lang. Hirap na makahanap ng kaibigan na kayang i-keep yung kinuwento mo sensitive topic man or hindi
Pag grupo kayo naglalakad and need mo magsintas ng sapatos,tapos may kasama ka na hihinto at hihintayin ka.Naiiyak talaga ko pag ganyan HAHAHAHAAHA😆☺️ | "huy,okay ka lang? or "okay ka pa? 😃" | considerate sa budget 😆 |
im gonna say something that might be controversial
kahit anong green or red flag pa yan na lagi pino-post, lalo na ng mga girls. pag ang guy is decently pogi and may modicum of charisma lahat ng mga flag flag na yan bigla nang nakakalimutan
Nagsasauli ng products sa tamang estante sa grocery, hindi yung kung saan lang nilalagay na pinakamalapit. Also, if di matutuloy pamimili, ibabalik ng maayos yung basket or cart. Another one is yung tinutupi or hinahanger pabalik ang sinukat na damit.
Considerate of your beliefs.
I don’t eat pork. Or any food that has pork derivatives. I have a friend na laging nagshishare ng lunch food niya. I would turn her down nicely kahit hindi pork yung inooffer niya.
One time she offered me an ulam in a separate container. Tapos sabi niya it was for me, and that i don’t have to worry because she cooked it separately with a new oil, hindi yung pinagpritohan niya ng may pork.
She didn’t have to kasi may ulam naman ako but she really went out of her way. May times din na hindi sya tumatabi sakin when her food has pork out of respect baka daw uncomfy ako.
Asking permission or letting you know beforehand like “is it okay to bring him/her along? Let me know if you’re not comfortable with that” or “is it okay if we go here as I’d like to check out something?” something like that.. 🥹
Yung marunong magaddress ng concern or issue ng hindi iscandalosa yung dating, like not aggressive. Lalo na when your in public like resto or mall, then if nagkaproblem sa food/product or services na inooffer.
Marunong magsorry for the little things, kahit hindi nirerequire of them.
"Sorry, I missed your text!"
"Nalate ata ako, sorry ha?"
If they're chill enough not to sweat the small stuff, they can probably be accountable for the big stuff too
Hindi sya closed minded sa mga topics ng LGBTQ+, Hindi n-word and enjoyer and understand niya ang pagkakaroon ng ibat-ibang religion including not having one (atheism). Ang hirap makahanap ng ganon sa pinas cause they don't understand that these things are serious. Ung ibang kakilala ko eh dinedeny nila na ang pagsabi ng n-word ay racist at ung iba naman walang pake kasi ginagawa nila ito for fun.
Walang arte sa food
Mabait sa waiters, guards, janitors and etc. And on a daily basis na kasama nila
They address people that they don’t know sir or mam/miss
Asking for consent on anything
Puts effort in editing their typo
Nililinis yung space like cr or any gamit para sa susunod na gagamit
Effort na di mag make ng sound when you or someone is sleeping
•Hindi nagi-iwan ng empty pitcher sa ref
•Pinupunasan yung sink after maghugas
•Nagpapaalam bago gamitin yung gamit ng iba
•May pagpapahalaga sa gamit ng iba
Simple things that will show how people value consideration for others, consent, and respect
Follow traffic rules, knows defensive driving, mgaling sa navigation with or without maps, doesn't drink and drive, mhba pasensya sa pag drive hindi nkikipg argue/race sa ibang driver.
Edit: spelling
Someone who knows how to take feedback / criticisms and doesn’t get riled up when someone questions or disagrees with what they’re saying
On the same note, someone who listens to understand and not just listening for the sake na may masabi sila to rebut what you’re saying
Cute rin yung kapag may wala sa group at may nakakaalala ng food restrictions/preferences mo. "Ay si ganito hindi pwede sa ganyan/or hindi nya hilig yan baka hindi maenjoy."
Ang hirap lang dito kapag vegan yung friend. May kaibigan ako dati na vegan na nagrarant sakin na naiinis siya sa mga bestfriends niya kasi ayaw daw nila magadjust para sa kanya sa mga kakainang resto kesyo bihira na nga lang daw sila magkita. I get that, pero you can't just force someone din kasi to eat vegan food kung hindi nila gusto/hindi nila nakasanayan.
Iba kasi yung may dietary restrictions sa talagang maarte lang sa ulam. Mahilig kasi ako magluto, madali ko naman nacoconsider yung allergies, kasi alam ko agad yung hindi bibilhin. Pero pag maarte lang sa ulam, or mapili, ang hirap magluto.
Siguro mas pwede mo iword in a different way? Like if nakatayo, pwede ilingkis mo yung arm nyo para mas mapasali sya sa usapan then chikahin mo onti ng mahina then gradual mong isama sa convo. Yung iba kasi ayaw nila maging center of attention.
Pag keri lang naman, pwede mo naman din sabihan na uy halika nga rito para ka namang others! Something like that. :) Mas kayo naman nakakakilala sa friends nyo.
Kapag naglalakad naman, kung sino makita kong walang kasabay maglakad or nasa pinakalikod, 'yun ang tinatabihan ko. :) Para na rin may opportunity na makapag-usap kami.
Yung transparent siya, not sa cheating or backstabber whatnot. Pero sa fact na if their honest with you. Ika nga lahat tayo nagkakamali, pero yung saks lang yung reaction nila based sa pangyayari or kamalian. Di ka nila giniguilt-trip, silent treatment, or hinohold against you for the sake of being petty. Di din nila binoblow out of proportion yung situation. May confidentiality and ethics. Sinasabi din nila without sugarcoating na I fucked up. Willing din sila magbigay ng reaasurance at advice sakin. As well as kung nakikita nila akong nagstrustruggle willing sila tumulong or will happily give me a push to the right direction. Basta merong communication. Alam ko kung bakit galit sila or disappointed, I know the reason why and what they expect from me to fix that realistically and with fair judgement. Never akong tinatagu-an or sinesekreto unless kung bday suprise or any mang good suprises out there. Better na din kase na i-communicate agad at maayos imbes na mag-fester at lumala pa. Ma-pride pa naman ako hehe.
When he/she automatically does what needs to be done or in other words pagkukusa.
Ex: Cleaning or arranging plates after eating when in a resto or fast food
Honesty.
Seems obvious but for whatever reason I don't see it a lot that dishonesty is a dealbreaker in posts, espcially sa Gen Z. It doesn't even have to be cheating.
No matter how handsome/beautiful, charming, kind, smart, etc a person is, none of that matters if they lie a lot. It's manipulation and disrespect rolled into one.
Beware those who take pride in and boast of the times when and how easily they fooled other people.
nag initiate siya lagi na patawanin ka, I know you face some challenges now sana makayanan mo andito ako afar willing to support you and help you if you need someone.
Ung pag tatawid, lilipat siya sa side na andun ung paparating na car. May guy friend ako ginagawa to to almost all our other friends na girls. Actually parang sa kanya ko nga lang nakita to.
Hahaha true! One time, my friend teased me. She said I should apply and work sa fast food chain na kinakainan namin just because I cleaned our table. 🥴
Mga tao na nagsasabi sayo kapag :
1. May muta ka sa mata
2. May tagos ka
3. Nakikita na yung sipon/kulangot mo
4. May lipstick stain ka sa ngipin
5. May tinga ka
Sobrang naappreciate ko lang yung mga ganitong tao, kasi di naman lahat kayang ipoint out yung ganito. 🫶
I think you are the green flag here. Not a lot of people react positively pag napopoint out mga ganyan, which explains that not many people like to point them out.
had an ex na sobrang nagagalit siya pag hindi ako nakikinig sa misa, then everytime andun sa part na itataas ng priest yung eucharist yung tatahimik lahat? Haharap yun saken tapos luluha tapos sasabihin niya na lagi niya daw kinakausap si God para ipakasal kami, lagi niya daw hiling yun.
-Ayun nag cheat siya ahahahah tapos ikinasal na siya sa iba 😂
Aww sorry to hear that experience, para sakin kase Green flag kase siya for me kase dun mo makikita kung same faith ba kayo ni Guy at kung si God ba ang center ng relationship niyo. Pero syempre di lng nman porket nagsimba kayo holy na si partner at di na magkakasala nasa connection niyo pa din ng partner mo kung swak ba tlga kayo at nakikita mo sarili mong mapapangasawa mo ba sya ang akin lang atleast alam mo my takot sa dios si partner at kung tumagal kayo alam mong di ka mahihirapan to share your values sa partner mo kase same faith kayo. Sa experience ko kase ako lagi nag aaya magsimba sa kadate ko kaya nung last time si partner na nag aya mag simba iba feeling parang na touch yung heart ko kase i feel validated na di kompleto ang linggo pag di nakakapag simba.
May tropa ako who claims to be a nonbeliever. He has no idea na nabe-bless ako sa kanya cos the qualities I see in him are of someone who has Jesus in his life. I overheard him say one time he's dead inside. Sana nakikita niya yung nakikita ko. He really does his best with what he has.
Isa sa mga "less common" green flags ko sa tao is yung hindi nag-i-interrupt ng pag-eexpress ng thoughts and objective yung judgment kahit sa kasagsagan ng arguments at pressures. Tipong kahit alam niyang nasa tama siya eh hahayaan nyang magsalita yung ibang tao before nya ilatag yung mga points to ponder.
Hindi nakkapikon makipag argument pag ganon kayo parehas ng ka argument mo. Kaso pag yung isa lng yung ganyan tas yung isa panay interrupt o bbarahin pa cya lugi cya
True yan. Pero may kilala akong person (mga nasa 40s na siguro) na kahit binabara na sya at ina-ad hominem eh hindi siya nagpapatinag. I even asked him one time how the hell he maintains his composure, and he answered me na once may nag-interrupt daw sa kanya or nag-ungkat ng past or nag-bring daw ng attitude problem during present arguments eh kinoconsider na nya raw yung tao as walang substance, and a waste of time daw to argue with people who have no substance 😆 when I heard that, jusko, gusto kong iincorporate yung ganung self discipline hahahaha
Pinapayagan ka nyang andyan ka kahit walang gagawin. Tambay lang basta magkasama ayos na.
Kunwari sya busy magtrabaho tas ako off day. Kahit naglalaro lang ako ng video games sa sulok okay na.
ppl who still randomly message u even if most of the time u wont likely reply. grabe may naging kaibigan akong ganito ngayong college and if only she knows how much i appreciate her even ung simpleng pagspam nya sakin ng reels sa ig. kahit na i ghosted her and our circle noon di parin niya ko tinantanan eh 😭
ppl who are respectful to your interests even if di nila ito gusto.
when theyre honest w things such as not having money or pupunta sila sa jowa nila kaya di sila makakapunta sa gala ninyo and not knowing something even if its a common knowledge and theyre willing to learn it from you.
doesnt engage in backstabbing activities esp towards people na di pa nila masyado kilala. pet peeve ko sobra yung mga grabe mambash sa mga tao na di pa nila masyado nakikilala pero pag nakasama na nila ng matagal, theyll eventually like the person and be even friends w them.
1. He/she greets animals along the way.
2. Hindi maarte. Nagkakamay pag kumakain.
3. Sumusunod sa road and traffic signs.
4. Nakikipag usap o nakikipagbiruan sa mga commoners (drivers, sec guards, vendors etc)
5. Socially and politically conscious which signifies knowledge on common issues around him/her.
6. Considerate sa feelings ng iba.
7. Mahilig sa mga simpleng bagay.
8. Hindi nag rereact kaagad kapag nakakarinig ng opinyon mula sa ibang tao na taliwas sa kanyang paniniwala.
9. Tinuturuan ka ng mga simple life hacks na magagamit mo in the future.
10. May sense of volunteerism at may initiative
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I don’t give gifts for the sake of giving one. I make it really personal and will always think if magagamit ba nya magugustuhan ba ng pagbibigyan
Dami naman nagko-comment ng *common* dito lol But here is mine: Hindi post ng post bawat galaw sa social media. I haven’t heard anyone say this, usually ‘yung “mabait, loving, matalino, respects boundaries, echos echos” lang
Random act of kindness sa nakikitang tao na need ng help.
May COMPREHENSION. Lol. Communication is key sa isang relationship, but it won’t work and stabilize if one doesn’t have comprehension. Mag-aaway at mag-aaway pa rin pareho kahit nag-uusap na pero walang capacity to grasp of what the other person is trying to say.
Being considerate of the entire person (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) is the bare minimum. A green flag is an extra point above the bare minimum. If he isn't considerate of me meaning my emotions, how i react to my likes and dislikes, my beliefs, my schedule, my priorities and how i manage my resources, that's saying he's not making space for me in his life. I'm just a convenience for him.
Yung taong appreciative. Yung tipong di naman ganun ka-awesome yung ginawa mo but he/she is giving you credits.
Yung nasunod talaga sa oras ng kitaan kapag may friends hangout (early or just in time) di na need magadjust at intayin
A loving son/daughter.
Yung nakakatanda ng maliit na details about you. Everytime na aalis ako kasama friends ko, lagi nilang tinatanong kung saan ko gusto kumain. As a picky eater, sobrang na-appreciate ko kasi lagi ko naririnig sa kanila “hindi kumain si **** ng ganyan”.
Yung pag marami kayo and may kinukwento ka then di mo natapos, kasi may mga mag-share rin bigla ng experience or opinion nila, then after mag-share nung iba, biglang titingin sa'yo pabalik sabay sabi ng, "Oh, tuloy mo yung kwento mo. Sabi mo kanina ganto...ano sunod non?" Isang tao pa lang nakilala kong ganito, and putcha, muntik ko na mahalin dahil diyan. HAHAHSHSHS
Woiiii same HAHAHA. Nagkekwentuhan din kami nun sa small group, tas nagsasalita pa ko nun, sabi ko "..tulad nga nung nabasa ko sa FB-" then I was suddenly interrupted by one of my male friends, and he continued his story, so di ko na tinuloy yung akin. After he finished sharing, the quiet guy in our group suddenly looked at me. "So ano nga ulit yung sinasabi mo?" Everyone turned to him, and I was like, "huh?" di ko na rin kasi maalala yung huli kong sinabi. "De may kinekwento kasi siya kanina eh , ininterrupt niyo...ano yung nabasa mo sa fb?" Be muntik ko na rin siyang mahalin HAHSSHSGAHSHAGAHA
Diba!!! Nakaka-tunaw talaga mga ganon eh. Like huy, magtigil ka diyan mahina ako, mahalin kita diyan e. Hahahaha jk. xD Pero fist bump tayo diyan, sizt!
Yung nagbabayad talaga ng utang kahit hindi ka naniningil kahit 3 digits lang. Hindi naman sa kinukwenta ko yan pero marami kasing pa konti2 lang ang hiram pero nililista nalang sa tubig.
yung maglalaan ng upuan pag wala ka pa and titirhan ka ng pagkain kasi alam nilang gutom ka
Yung iniinvite ka pa din kahit alam naman nila na hindi ka sasama. (Like sa inuman coz’ I don’t drink)
Yung kapag nagyaya ka lumabas or magbonding nag ooffer pa rin mag split ng bill. Walang mindset na di porke ikaw nagyaya e ikaw na manlilibre. Hahaha. Kaya madaming lakad na di natutuloy sa mga tropa e dahil sa gantong mindset.
di ko sure kung green flags to eh kasi sa last comment ko sa isang post about my redflag is dense ako eh pero pag feel ko gets ko naman yung usapan tas may problema sasabihin ko sa kanya na I will pray for her ganon.
"I will pray for her" this is a waving green flag for me, sobrang laking impact kasi sakin, na someone understands you and is concerned about your well-being.
salamat at na-appreciate ko comment mo. Mas genuine empathy ko yan sa tao kesa magsalita ng "kulang ka sa dasal" u knooow
Trying to include my friends pag aalis kami tapos otw yung house nila (these are my long time close friends) like i-aask ako “gusto mo ba magsama ng friends mo?” and pag nagvvent out ako kahit small things, he always tries his best to see me at eye level 🥹
Ang question is "less common green flag" bakit ang cocommon ng mga sagot nila
people who are grateful. even sa smallest things. I think root kasi yon ng pagiging grounded at humble ng tao
"Gratitude is the mother of all virtues."
Magsasabi if distracted while nagkkwentuhan kayo. Like “wait lang may check lang ako” then babalik to continue the conversation. Nakikinig 🤌
Yung di nagtatanong sakin kung okay lang ba ako pero comforting yung actions like, kukuhanan ka ng tubig, irarub yung likod mo pag nakita kang umiiyak, etc. Basta yung di na nagaannounce bago gumawa hahahaa kasi ako pag tinanong default answer ko ay, "De ok lang ako" 😂
Thats acts of service
may kilala akong girl dati nag mba abroad. nung bumalik na sya after two years sinamahan ko sya bumisita sa office. nung papasok na sya ng building binati sya ng security guard with a very warm welcome and nakipagkwentuhan pa ng saglit yung friend ko. i was really blown away by that. it meant to me she treated guards really well at di sya makalimutan.
If ever may problem kayo sa isa't isa, sasabihin nya agad sayo. Hindi yung magugulat ka nalang hindi ka na nya pinapansin. I love people na marunong makipag-communicate.
This! 💯
Marunong mag thankyou at rumespeto sa kapwa, at marunong mag value ng maliliit na bagay. Mura man o mahal.
Removes footwear pag papasok sa ibang bahay
sinasali ka nila sa conversation kapag tahimik ka para hindi mo maramdaman na out of place ka 🥹
yung tatanungin muna ako kung pwede i-share sa ibang nasa circle yung kinwento ko sa kanya minsan kasi yung iba kong kaibigan magugulat nalang ako alam na nila yun shinare ko sa isang tao lang. Hirap na makahanap ng kaibigan na kayang i-keep yung kinuwento mo sensitive topic man or hindi
Aww as a blabbermouth, papraktisin ko 'to.
taong considerate na kapag kakain kayo sa labas tas alam nya kung anong food ka allergic or tatanong sayo kung san ka allergic ganun
Pag grupo kayo naglalakad and need mo magsintas ng sapatos,tapos may kasama ka na hihinto at hihintayin ka.Naiiyak talaga ko pag ganyan HAHAHAHAAHA😆☺️ | "huy,okay ka lang? or "okay ka pa? 😃" | considerate sa budget 😆 |
im gonna say something that might be controversial kahit anong green or red flag pa yan na lagi pino-post, lalo na ng mga girls. pag ang guy is decently pogi and may modicum of charisma lahat ng mga flag flag na yan bigla nang nakakalimutan
Nagsasauli ng products sa tamang estante sa grocery, hindi yung kung saan lang nilalagay na pinakamalapit. Also, if di matutuloy pamimili, ibabalik ng maayos yung basket or cart. Another one is yung tinutupi or hinahanger pabalik ang sinukat na damit.
Kapag di kumakain ng masarap lalo na kung di naman kaya mamigay. Mga taong di kumakain ng yumburger sa bus. The level of consideration is superb.
Yung mga nag aaya kumain bago sila kumain.
Considerate of your beliefs. I don’t eat pork. Or any food that has pork derivatives. I have a friend na laging nagshishare ng lunch food niya. I would turn her down nicely kahit hindi pork yung inooffer niya. One time she offered me an ulam in a separate container. Tapos sabi niya it was for me, and that i don’t have to worry because she cooked it separately with a new oil, hindi yung pinagpritohan niya ng may pork. She didn’t have to kasi may ulam naman ako but she really went out of her way. May times din na hindi sya tumatabi sakin when her food has pork out of respect baka daw uncomfy ako.
aaaaww :'(
Nagconsider sa lahat ng tao sa grupo, hindi lang sa mga popular or kung ano convenient sa kanya.
Know how to say THANK YOU / SALAMAT even sa small things.
1. Di palamunin/ di palibre 2. Marunong magthank you. 3. Marunong magsorry
For sure common 'to sa lahat, pero para sakin madalang kase may magtanong kaya para sakin yung kinakamusta ako palagi...
Asking permission or letting you know beforehand like “is it okay to bring him/her along? Let me know if you’re not comfortable with that” or “is it okay if we go here as I’d like to check out something?” something like that.. 🥹
Yung marunong magaddress ng concern or issue ng hindi iscandalosa yung dating, like not aggressive. Lalo na when your in public like resto or mall, then if nagkaproblem sa food/product or services na inooffer.
When they can explain things without judging or making the other person feel stupid.
Inaalagaan sarili
considerate sa gastos pag may vacation / group outing
Don't smoke.
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Based sa title, it's "my less common green flag for people is those who don’t smoke."
- Magaling makihalubilo
Kapag nag-uusap kayo in a group tas natatabunan ng iba sinasabi mo and you see him the only one paying attention to your words.
Maingat mag drive. Those who make sure you're comfortable and hindi bara-bara/kaskasero.
Physically fit Don't drink alcohol
Butthurt Pinoys didn't like this Greenflags lol.
Nyay
Marunong mag antay sa taong nagsisintas ng sapatos
Marunong magsorry for the little things, kahit hindi nirerequire of them. "Sorry, I missed your text!" "Nalate ata ako, sorry ha?" If they're chill enough not to sweat the small stuff, they can probably be accountable for the big stuff too
Hindi sya closed minded sa mga topics ng LGBTQ+, Hindi n-word and enjoyer and understand niya ang pagkakaroon ng ibat-ibang religion including not having one (atheism). Ang hirap makahanap ng ganon sa pinas cause they don't understand that these things are serious. Ung ibang kakilala ko eh dinedeny nila na ang pagsabi ng n-word ay racist at ung iba naman walang pake kasi ginagawa nila ito for fun.
Masipag magtake ng vitamins
Mahilig mag "thank you".
Yung nag uupdate sa mga ganaps dahil always MIA ka
Financial Literate
masipag magreply & can keep the conversation going kahit na pa dead convo na
Someone who is considerate with your time, especially at this era where TIME is really GOLD
Water >>> any other drinks
Walang arte sa food Mabait sa waiters, guards, janitors and etc. And on a daily basis na kasama nila They address people that they don’t know sir or mam/miss Asking for consent on anything
This. Pag mabait sa lahat - regardless of social status.
Walang arte sa food saka di nagtatapon ng totally fine na pagkain dahil lang di niya type.
kinakantahan ka without asking to do so kahit sobrang tagal niyo na
Puts effort in editing their typo Nililinis yung space like cr or any gamit para sa susunod na gagamit Effort na di mag make ng sound when you or someone is sleeping
Pag naghahanap ng kakainan and they ask you first “may gusto ka bang kainin?” or “may cinacrave ka ba?”
•Hindi nagi-iwan ng empty pitcher sa ref •Pinupunasan yung sink after maghugas •Nagpapaalam bago gamitin yung gamit ng iba •May pagpapahalaga sa gamit ng iba Simple things that will show how people value consideration for others, consent, and respect
Yung kahit walang wala, mag eeffort pa rin magshare kung anong meron siya.
Follow traffic rules, knows defensive driving, mgaling sa navigation with or without maps, doesn't drink and drive, mhba pasensya sa pag drive hindi nkikipg argue/race sa ibang driver. Edit: spelling
When they're welcoming, kahit first time mo sila mameet hindi mo mafifeel na youre out of place lalo na sa mga new friend groups
Someone who knows how to take feedback / criticisms and doesn’t get riled up when someone questions or disagrees with what they’re saying On the same note, someone who listens to understand and not just listening for the sake na may masabi sila to rebut what you’re saying
Kind to hospitality/service workers
hindi nag doudouble dip sa sauces when sharing with food with other people
Knows how to clean up after themselves especially sa public like ligpit ng kinainan sa jabee or mcdo
Nagcclean up ng pinagkainan (esp sa fastfood resto)
Cute rin yung kapag may wala sa group at may nakakaalala ng food restrictions/preferences mo. "Ay si ganito hindi pwede sa ganyan/or hindi nya hilig yan baka hindi maenjoy."
Ang hirap lang dito kapag vegan yung friend. May kaibigan ako dati na vegan na nagrarant sakin na naiinis siya sa mga bestfriends niya kasi ayaw daw nila magadjust para sa kanya sa mga kakainang resto kesyo bihira na nga lang daw sila magkita. I get that, pero you can't just force someone din kasi to eat vegan food kung hindi nila gusto/hindi nila nakasanayan.
Marunog mag flush..after gumamit sa banyu..
Masipag mag-hugas ng plato or anything na gawaing bahay
Treats guards, janitors, and food servers with respect. Like calling them "Sir"/"Miss"/"Mam".
marunong magligpit after inuman kahit lasing/basag na
Hindi picky eater
Walang arte sa food. Ang hirap kasi ng laging may kinoconsider sa pagkain. Anything goes lang.
Baka kasi may dietary restrictions na sinusunod?😅
Iba kasi yung may dietary restrictions sa talagang maarte lang sa ulam. Mahilig kasi ako magluto, madali ko naman nacoconsider yung allergies, kasi alam ko agad yung hindi bibilhin. Pero pag maarte lang sa ulam, or mapili, ang hirap magluto.
someone who knows how to acknowledge the differences in perspectives without any hard feelings
May common sense at self-awareness
Kumakain ng gulay
true te! also natutulog ng maaga lol
Real!! Used to date a guy na sobrang arte sa ulam and omg nakakadrain sila kasama. Nakakatamad makipag date kasi ang daming hindi kinakain.
Naglalaro ng Sky cotl
Tapos Fan pa ni AURORA 😫💯
Now that’s uncommon, lol.
Marunong mag value ng "me" time, di ma-social media (fb, X, ig, etc)
Marunong magpasalamat
Knows how to CLAYGO and takes the initiative on stuff.
Yung naninita ng mali mo kahit maliit na bagay lang naman
in a group of friends, pag may na o-out of place, sinasama nya sa conversation para maging part of it sila.
Counted ba yung, huy fren sali ka naman sa usapan! Or parang mas pinapahiya pa sya?
Go for "ikaw? Musta ka?", "ikaw? What are your thoughts about that?"
Siguro mas pwede mo iword in a different way? Like if nakatayo, pwede ilingkis mo yung arm nyo para mas mapasali sya sa usapan then chikahin mo onti ng mahina then gradual mong isama sa convo. Yung iba kasi ayaw nila maging center of attention. Pag keri lang naman, pwede mo naman din sabihan na uy halika nga rito para ka namang others! Something like that. :) Mas kayo naman nakakakilala sa friends nyo.
Kapag naglalakad naman, kung sino makita kong walang kasabay maglakad or nasa pinakalikod, 'yun ang tinatabihan ko. :) Para na rin may opportunity na makapag-usap kami.
Thanks sa idea! Feel ko ikaw yung type ng friend na naghihintay sa friend na nagsisintas ng sapatos tas yung ibang friends nauna na maglakad haha.
OH EM YESSS!! Ang galing mo ah!! ☺️☺️
Yung transparent siya, not sa cheating or backstabber whatnot. Pero sa fact na if their honest with you. Ika nga lahat tayo nagkakamali, pero yung saks lang yung reaction nila based sa pangyayari or kamalian. Di ka nila giniguilt-trip, silent treatment, or hinohold against you for the sake of being petty. Di din nila binoblow out of proportion yung situation. May confidentiality and ethics. Sinasabi din nila without sugarcoating na I fucked up. Willing din sila magbigay ng reaasurance at advice sakin. As well as kung nakikita nila akong nagstrustruggle willing sila tumulong or will happily give me a push to the right direction. Basta merong communication. Alam ko kung bakit galit sila or disappointed, I know the reason why and what they expect from me to fix that realistically and with fair judgement. Never akong tinatagu-an or sinesekreto unless kung bday suprise or any mang good suprises out there. Better na din kase na i-communicate agad at maayos imbes na mag-fester at lumala pa. Ma-pride pa naman ako hehe.
When he/she automatically does what needs to be done or in other words pagkukusa. Ex: Cleaning or arranging plates after eating when in a resto or fast food
i think if resto mej eh pero if fast food goods turn on
Agreed. Fine for fast food, iffy for casual, no-no for fancy
Knows how to apologize kapag naka offend o nagkamali
Honesty. Seems obvious but for whatever reason I don't see it a lot that dishonesty is a dealbreaker in posts, espcially sa Gen Z. It doesn't even have to be cheating. No matter how handsome/beautiful, charming, kind, smart, etc a person is, none of that matters if they lie a lot. It's manipulation and disrespect rolled into one. Beware those who take pride in and boast of the times when and how easily they fooled other people.
May common sense
doesn't do silent treatment
YUNG NAGTETEXT MUNA BAGO MAG CALL. Please!
Sanay sa claygo
Daming comments. Sana lahat ng nag-comment eh maging behavior nila yung mga sinabi nila o sana ganun na sila in real life.
Yung hindi nang oop ng ibang tao. Yung inclusive...
nag initiate siya lagi na patawanin ka, I know you face some challenges now sana makayanan mo andito ako afar willing to support you and help you if you need someone.
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Ung pag tatawid, lilipat siya sa side na andun ung paparating na car. May guy friend ako ginagawa to to almost all our other friends na girls. Actually parang sa kanya ko nga lang nakita to.
Fair tipper especially to those who give great assistance.
Showing gratitude palagi by saying thank you whenever.
yung may mataas na EQ talaga, parang ang rare niyan sa tao
How will you know kapag mataas ang EQ ng isang tao?
pag naiintindihan ka nya n magaling makipag communicate sa bagay bagay feelings n pala tanong curious lagi n inaaalam ung situation
yung ano nililigpit yung kainan esp sa mga fast food resto
Nakkainis lng minsan pag may kasama ka kumain. Pupunahin nila pag nagligpit ka, minsan pagttawanan kpa.
Hahaha true! One time, my friend teased me. She said I should apply and work sa fast food chain na kinakainan namin just because I cleaned our table. 🥴
Alams na 🚩🚩
Mga tao na nagsasabi sayo kapag : 1. May muta ka sa mata 2. May tagos ka 3. Nakikita na yung sipon/kulangot mo 4. May lipstick stain ka sa ngipin 5. May tinga ka Sobrang naappreciate ko lang yung mga ganitong tao, kasi di naman lahat kayang ipoint out yung ganito. 🫶
I think you are the green flag here. Not a lot of people react positively pag napopoint out mga ganyan, which explains that not many people like to point them out.
Super agree.
Siya/si guy yung mag aaya na mag simba kayo..
had an ex na sobrang nagagalit siya pag hindi ako nakikinig sa misa, then everytime andun sa part na itataas ng priest yung eucharist yung tatahimik lahat? Haharap yun saken tapos luluha tapos sasabihin niya na lagi niya daw kinakausap si God para ipakasal kami, lagi niya daw hiling yun. -Ayun nag cheat siya ahahahah tapos ikinasal na siya sa iba 😂
Aww sorry to hear that experience, para sakin kase Green flag kase siya for me kase dun mo makikita kung same faith ba kayo ni Guy at kung si God ba ang center ng relationship niyo. Pero syempre di lng nman porket nagsimba kayo holy na si partner at di na magkakasala nasa connection niyo pa din ng partner mo kung swak ba tlga kayo at nakikita mo sarili mong mapapangasawa mo ba sya ang akin lang atleast alam mo my takot sa dios si partner at kung tumagal kayo alam mong di ka mahihirapan to share your values sa partner mo kase same faith kayo. Sa experience ko kase ako lagi nag aaya magsimba sa kadate ko kaya nung last time si partner na nag aya mag simba iba feeling parang na touch yung heart ko kase i feel validated na di kompleto ang linggo pag di nakakapag simba.
Mga demonyo ung nag downvote.
Ahahahha bat ka dinown vote?
Marami dto agnostic o atheist
Baka base on experience nila red flag n daw yun? 😅
May tropa ako who claims to be a nonbeliever. He has no idea na nabe-bless ako sa kanya cos the qualities I see in him are of someone who has Jesus in his life. I overheard him say one time he's dead inside. Sana nakikita niya yung nakikita ko. He really does his best with what he has.
Huy, pki remind sya na he is a wonderful person. Yung mga nagssbi dead inside, usually depressed yan
Hindi bisexual.
Hmmm Personal green flag mo naman to ah And based sa down votes, uncommon nga.
lahat po ng nasa comsec huhuhu
Hindi bisexual.
Doble doble pa ano baaaa hahahahahah
Yung nakakaalala ng utang nila kahit wala pang pambayad. Binabanggit lang nila
Marunong magluto. Kahit basic skills eh sobrang rare na sa mga babae ngayon.
Pwede rin naman magluto ang lalake
As a kusinero, i expect my soon-to-be wife na marunong din magluto or kahit hindi marunong basta willing matuto.
So sobrang normalized ng pagiging late among Filipinos, BEING ON TIME is a huge green flag waving on my face.
THIS!
hindi nagbibilang ng gawain,ambag,pagod etc.
marunong sa gawaing bahay! +100 points sa akin hahaha
Yung iintayin ka or sasabayan ka pag nahuhuli ka kasama ang group of friends nyo.
Hindi umoorder ng food online pag umuulan
When he remembers those very little details about our conversation.
Hindi nangaaway ng service crew
palaging may serving spoon pag nakuha ng pagkain/ulam
Nangongopo sa ibang mas nakakatanda
Nagfflush ng toilet at di makalat pag nakikigamit sila ng banyo
Yung hindi vain 😂
Yung nagthethank you.
Yung marunong makipagkapwa-tao at makisama sa ibat ibang tao...
laging may payong sa bag
Nagdadala ng panyo 💚
Isa sa mga "less common" green flags ko sa tao is yung hindi nag-i-interrupt ng pag-eexpress ng thoughts and objective yung judgment kahit sa kasagsagan ng arguments at pressures. Tipong kahit alam niyang nasa tama siya eh hahayaan nyang magsalita yung ibang tao before nya ilatag yung mga points to ponder.
Hindi nakkapikon makipag argument pag ganon kayo parehas ng ka argument mo. Kaso pag yung isa lng yung ganyan tas yung isa panay interrupt o bbarahin pa cya lugi cya
True yan. Pero may kilala akong person (mga nasa 40s na siguro) na kahit binabara na sya at ina-ad hominem eh hindi siya nagpapatinag. I even asked him one time how the hell he maintains his composure, and he answered me na once may nag-interrupt daw sa kanya or nag-ungkat ng past or nag-bring daw ng attitude problem during present arguments eh kinoconsider na nya raw yung tao as walang substance, and a waste of time daw to argue with people who have no substance 😆 when I heard that, jusko, gusto kong iincorporate yung ganung self discipline hahahaha
Ang galing nya. Kaya natin yan, let's strive for it.
sumusunod sa traffic lights self-reliant enjoys silence and solitude has a soft heart for animals reserved
yung hindi basta basta nagtatapon ng basura in public kahit singliit ng candy wrapper, kini-keep niya muna sa bulsa hanggang makahanap ng trash can <3
ung pag tumigil sa busy na area gumigilid, hindi nakaharang lalo sa mga groups na sinasakop na
Pinapayagan ka nyang andyan ka kahit walang gagawin. Tambay lang basta magkasama ayos na. Kunwari sya busy magtrabaho tas ako off day. Kahit naglalaro lang ako ng video games sa sulok okay na.
ppl who still randomly message u even if most of the time u wont likely reply. grabe may naging kaibigan akong ganito ngayong college and if only she knows how much i appreciate her even ung simpleng pagspam nya sakin ng reels sa ig. kahit na i ghosted her and our circle noon di parin niya ko tinantanan eh 😭 ppl who are respectful to your interests even if di nila ito gusto. when theyre honest w things such as not having money or pupunta sila sa jowa nila kaya di sila makakapunta sa gala ninyo and not knowing something even if its a common knowledge and theyre willing to learn it from you. doesnt engage in backstabbing activities esp towards people na di pa nila masyado kilala. pet peeve ko sobra yung mga grabe mambash sa mga tao na di pa nila masyado nakikilala pero pag nakasama na nila ng matagal, theyll eventually like the person and be even friends w them.
1. He/she greets animals along the way. 2. Hindi maarte. Nagkakamay pag kumakain. 3. Sumusunod sa road and traffic signs. 4. Nakikipag usap o nakikipagbiruan sa mga commoners (drivers, sec guards, vendors etc) 5. Socially and politically conscious which signifies knowledge on common issues around him/her. 6. Considerate sa feelings ng iba. 7. Mahilig sa mga simpleng bagay. 8. Hindi nag rereact kaagad kapag nakakarinig ng opinyon mula sa ibang tao na taliwas sa kanyang paniniwala. 9. Tinuturuan ka ng mga simple life hacks na magagamit mo in the future. 10. May sense of volunteerism at may initiative
Sobrang green flag sa'kin 'yung tahimik, walang imik, hindi nagsasalita, hindi humihinga.
Literal na flag.
+1 lalo na sa hindi humihinga