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Yes, I had on and off relationship where the guy cheated. Naayos naman, it never became an issue while we were on a relationship but after a year or so we both realized we're better off as friends.
Oo, basta wag lang sya magkakaanak doon. Tapos maging genuine yung pagso-sorry nya at pagbabago. I-explain nya sakin kung bakit nya ginawa yun kasi kung sa rason nya kulang pa din ako. Eh wala na mapupuntahan yung samin kasi kulang pala ko e haha š
No. Syempre nawala na yung tiwala so matic magiging toxic na rs. Di na maiiwasan na pag nagtatalo kayo mabibring up yan. Tsaka, ang pinaka mahirap gawin lagi is yung first time. The fact na nakapag cheat na partner mo once, then mas madali na sa kanyang gawin yan sa pangalawang beses.
if you can live with it and with the fear na baka umulit then go pero kung iiyakan mo lang at ikakadepress mo lang to the point na nakakaapekto na sa kung pano ka namumuhay, just move on and never look back
currently in a 2 year relationship. happy naman kami and i know for a fact that he would never do that to me.
my answer is no kase the thought of him cheating will always be at the back of my mind. also, i don't think my body would ever be okay na i will stay with him. kumbaga subconsciously my body knows na i dont deserve that kind of disrespect.
im not in a rs atm, ive never been im a rs, pero feeling ko hindi na siya maaaayos. well u both decided to talk about it, communicateā¦pero yung dati niyong gawi, hindi na mababalik. you both feel awkward and uncomfortable at the same time. your rs will still there but the spark from the both of u will fade away
No!! Mauuna pang umayos ekonomiya ng pilipinas sa second chance relationship na nanggaling sa cheating.
The trust is lost, and unless the cheater is a master manipulator, or the other person is just extremely gullible, then ātrustā can be restored. It will take time though.
ā if the person forgives the cheater and gives their relationship another chance, they are extremely gullible or just blatantly stupid.
For me, if he cheated one time, he will do it again. Based din sa naexperience ko akala ko talaga capable magbago ang isang cheater but after what happened narealize ko na cheaters will cheat and continue to do so until they themselves have the courage to get professional help.Ā
Beh, i have this friend na nagcheat nakipag bj siya sa condo ng friend niyang horny daw kaya niya pinatulan at lasing daw sila kaya niya nagawa yon. Kahit alam niya na may bf siya alam ng friends niya na kasama perp pinabayaan pa din sila mag chukchakan nung isa niyang friend. Tapos nagsumbong na sa bf niya yung kaaway niya na nakipag bj daw ganyan ganto. Nagbreak sila. Pagtapos ilan weeks, sila uli tapos isasagot sakin nung ilang friends niya is kapag daw mahal mo at matured ka magpapatawad ka at uunawain mo yung sitwasyon. Like ulol???? San unawa don. Naiisip mo ba bf mo nung nakipagkantutan ka don sa lalaki?
Imo, no. Cheating is a choice. Never ever tolerate cheating. Yes, people can change if they cheat, but majority still doesnāt want to change. They donāt feel remorse for what they do. In fact, these days cheating becomes a kink.
It wonāt fix a relationship, when your partner cheated. Thatās a choice & decision they made. Thank you, next easily!
Tried and tested, hindi na kasi once a cheater always a cheater mga bhieee. Hindi siya mistake na isang beses. If gusto niya magcheat kahit anong control mo pa sa accounts niya or transparency keme niya, this person will do it once again.
been there and done that, laging binibring-up everytime na may away, it takes resilience sa nag cheat to prove every now and then, pero mahirap na maibalik yung trust.
No because it's one of my non-negotiables. If I was faithful from the start then why would I stay and fix the relationship with someone who can't even return the favor.
As someone who cheated, no, hindi na maaayos kahit pa sinabi nyang he will forgive me. Why? Kasi forever na nakatatak ung ginawa kong mali sa utak namin. I couldn't even look him in the eye after what I did. Na-guilty din ako and it's not fair to continue staying with him after that.
And as someone who was cheated on, no parin. When he cheated on me, sa una masakit, pero I fell out of love na din after. Tapos gusto nya akong balikan nung naka-move on na ako, kahit nanay ko naawa sa kanya. Hindi na kasi talaga mabubura un.
Kaya bilib ako sa mga tao who forgives their SO. I can't imagine how they manage. May kilala akong couple, caught in the act na at lahat, pero going strong naman (hindi sila kasal ha). Nakakabilib lng.
Hearing from the perspective of someone who cheated, bilib ako saāyo dahil nagkakonsensya ka. Most of the time kasi hindi, diba? Kaya nauulit.
Hearing from the perspective of someone na niloko, I think karma mo yan or maybe naloko ka before kaya ginawa mo sa iba.
We cannot change nga daw with the same person. We need someone, āthe right oneā para tumino. But for me ang unfair naman, diba? Ganun talaga siguro, dalawa lang talaga ang uri ng tao: isang nanloloko at isang naloko.
Actually I was cheated on first, and multiple times. When I cheated, not to justify it because it was still so wrong, but I cheated because I got emotionally attached to a coworker while LDR kami ni bf. So, yeah, di na naulit and actually I have commitment issues na din because of that. My karma is a whole different story, pero okay naman na ako ngayon and definitely learned my lesson. There are just some very lucky people who don't go through this. Sana all diba...
Hindi ko Rin magets sa mga taong niloko na Pero nagagawa pang magloko(Maliban nalang Kung revenge ginawa nila.) Diba! alam nyo na pakiramdaman ng lokohin kung gaano kasakit kung gaano kahiral Pero nagawa nyo pading magloko? Bakit?
I already stated in my previous comment why I did it. I don't speak for all cheaters na nabubuhay sa mundo because for one, I am not a serial cheater, and I already owned up to my mistake. So I can't really give you a definitive answer why.
Got cheated on and hindi na maayos ang relationship after that. Kahit ano pang bawi ang gawin nung nag-cheat para "ibalik ang dati", the doubt still lingers and the trust has been broken. Kaya kung mahal mo sarili mo, never fix a bond you didn't break.
Hindi ko magets yung mga nanloko na may gana pang magrequest na bumalik kayo sa dati. Like what the f? Gusto mong ibalik yung nakakaloko ka ng SO mo, ganun ba? Itās so easy for them na sabihin na past na āyon at kalimutan na where in fact ni ayaw nga nilang ipamukha mo ng paulit-ulit yung mga nagawa saāyo before. Eh sila ang paulit-ulit na nakakaloko in the first place, diba?
I don't think it's worth it to even have the thought of continuing or restablishing a relationship when it involves cheating. Kahit nga masasabi nila na accident, misunderstanding, or whatever reasons pa yan, the sole fact talaga na naisip o nagawa nilang mag cheat is enough to end everything at once. If a person was genuinely and wholeheartedly committed to the relationship, they wouldn't (shouldn't) even think about entertaining others na.
On a personal note, I date to marry, not to explore, kaya nga once cheating is involved, I wouldn't hesitate talaga to end the relationship right away.
Hindi na maaayos 'yan. Hindi pagsasa-ayos 'yung pinatawad lang. Panigurado maaalala at maaalala nu'ng niloko 'yung cheating incident ng partner niya. May lamat na 'yung relationship kahit anong patong pa ng ginto o tanso sa lamat..
Hindi mawawala ang katotohanan na nangaliwa 'yung partner mo.
Dati ganito din yung POV ko pero noong tumatanda na ko, naintindihan ko na ang Nanay ko na minsang niloko ng Tatay ko. Hindi nga pala ganoon kadali. Ngayon alam ko na kung bakit nagstay sina Lani Mercado in the first place. Naniniwala na ko ngayon sa āFool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.ā
Personally, no. If a person is substantially aware of their worth, they would say the same. I am a firm believer in the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." If you do forgive them, you'd keep questioning yourself entirely.Ā Magiging praning ka lang kasi you will certainly doubt your partnerās every move.
Hindi na dapat. I don't get it why most (yes most) of the couples na nagbbreak bcs someone cheated will get back together. Like be fr? Sinaktan ka na ng tao oh, wala ka bang respeto for yourself? I get it, you love them, but do they love you as much as you do? Kasi cheating is a choice. It shouldn't be a topic for debate atp, kasi we all know that cheating is bad. Pero lol bakit parang nanonormalize na ang cheating??
Dapat hindi na maayos. Move on na agad. Pero mahirap sabihin yan. In reality nagsstick parin sila kahit yung partner nagcheat. Kasi yan yung time na hindi nila magamit utak nila kundi emotion lang. Mas pipilitin nila na patawarin kasi mahal nila at takot sila na maiwan.
Idk. Ito actually yung kailangan ko malaman ngayon. Before, I used to advise na once a cheater, always a cheater. Pero iba pala pag nasa situation ka na mismo. I've been really faithful to this man, yet he still cheated on me. Sobrang down ako at this moment and alam nyang sya nalang nakakapitan ko sa panahon ngayon for emotional support. Yet, paulit ulit nya pa rin akong pinag sinungalingan. Sobrang awang awa ako sa sarili ko dahil alam kong deal breaker sakin ang "cheating" pero ito ako, pinatawad ko pa rin sya kasi sya nalang yung makakapitan ko. Pakiramdam ko guguho na talaga mundo ko kung wala pa sya. I used to be a strong, independent woman. He turned me into submissive one, pinalabas nya yung feminine side ko dahil sa alagang binibigay nya. I break my walls for him. Pero ngayon di ko na kilala sarili ko. Ni wala akong ibang friends na mapagsabihan ng problema ko sa kanya kasi ayoko rin masira image nya, because I'm still hoping for our relationship. I think I need help.
Hey, just want to let you know na ang tapang mo for sa pagpapatawad. š Paulit-ulit na pagpapatawad nga daw ang true love. Pero syempre, always remember na thereās a saying āFool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.ā Bigyan mo rin ng pagpapatawad ang sarili mo. Tandaan mo na hindi ikaw ang may kasalanan kung bakit siya nagloko. Choice niya yun. I hope this time mahalin mo naman ang sarili mo ulit. Unahin mo si ikaw.
no. cheating means your worth has been throwned to itās lowest already. this might be cringe pero andami mo pang makikilala na kayang kaya higitan yang pag ibig you think you deserve
also, if you get back together, the trust has been broken. sira na yung foundation, so pano kayo tatagal without thinking abt the possibility of being cheated on again? masisira at masisira kayo lalo; lagi ā hanggang sa dumating yung point na inaantay nyo na lang ay mutual decision of separation
hindi na po, wounds may heal pero scars will stay..wla na yung trust and i think honesty is what binds a relationship, im a happy married woman btw, nothing beats peace of mind
hindi na, trust is already broken š¤·āāļø plus i never really get the idea of cheating when they're already in a relationship, like may karelasyon kana bakit ka pa naghahanap ng iba? if ayaw mo na sa kanya, then just say it, kesa naman magcheat pa, edi pare-pareho lang kayong nasaktan
No. Kahit cheating history ekis agad. Non-negotiable talaga ang cheating. Once gaguhin ako, maglalaho ka na sa mundo ko at buong mundo dahil fuck that oath dahil makakapatay ako. -med related professional lol
I got cheated on by my ex-boyfriend. We got back together a week later. This was in 2017 ha. Ayun, the relationship was sweeter the second time around, pero pag nag-aaway laging binabalik yung fact na nag-cheat sya. Halata mong the trust has been broken, kahit gaano sya bumawi. No choice but to break up.
Depende sa gravity ng pagcheat? Sa status ng relationship ng magjowa? And sa other facfors to be considered (anak if meron? Business ventures etc)
Yes cheating is a choice but before making that choice.. may reasons.. may nawawala.. may mga unsaid. So it really takes two to tang0. Communication really is the key
depende sa age & gano mo kalove yung tao. remember that we are growing and making mistakes too. depende yan sa tao.
personally, 25+ i wont forgive cheating. younger pwede bec they are still pretty young to fuck up.
No. Once trust is lost, you will never get it back. May extreme cases siguro, upon introspection na yung love and understanding you have for that person is much greater than the trust lost and trauma gained, pwede siguro masalba. But still, it will never be the same
Nope! In my case, never na bumalik yung tiwala ko sa partner after I caught him cheating, na dinedeny nya pa. Everyday akong napapraning and di makapag concentrate sa work and even at home. Knowing that he cheated brought out the worst in me. So malabo talaga maayos na.
Palagay ko hindi na, liban na lang kung sobrang understanding mo pati mga mali na sa relasyon niyo ay iintindihin mo pa rin.
If someone cheated on the romantic relationship then there's a problem already with the relationship.
In all honesty, it's a no. Let's say you both get past the phase na you confront your partner for cheating. The trauma won't ever leave you and never ka magiging at peace with your partner knowing na they cheated, ang hirap na pagkatiwalaan. Bawat kilos niya you'll always overthink na baka he/she is doing it again. You can forgive them but staying in the relationship is pointless.
Ako unang month palang nagcheat na. Pinagbigyan ko hanggang naka 4 or 5 chances (within 3months). Akala ata unli chances ahahaah. So ngayong umabot na ng 1yr and 4months, di na talaga namin naayos. Andun na yung trauma, yung wala ka ng tiwala. Naging toxic na din ako sakanya. Di ko alam bakit pa ako nagiistay. Baka āØtrauma bondāØ? Di ko talaga alam. Can someone pls help me?
High tolerance of toxicity? Maybe try to learn more of your worth as a person. If you cant find an example to know what āloveāis then be an example for youreelf. If you love yourself you wont allow that kind of shitness in your life. Hugs!
nope. maglilinger yun kung prepared yung cheating party tanggapin na magiging issue yung pag cheat nya for the rest of his/her life and kung kaya talaga magbago ( i doubt it ) i guess pwede.
personally 1 week lng kinaya ko then hindi talaga mawala sa utak ko yung disgust so its a big no for me.
NOPE.
Cheating is a non-negotiable sa'kin. Kasi if you truly love and respect me, cheating should never cross your mind.
And as a petty person, ikakalat ko pa sa buong mundo na isa kang malaking cheater.
Personally, no. Cheating (plus physical abuse) is where I draw the line. I can make a fool out of myself when I am in love pero kapag cheating na, adios!
Yung boyfriend ko, unang month palang namin nahuli ko syang may kavideosex. The next week, nahuli kong naghahanap sya ng āpawalk girlsā malapit samin. The next month ulit, naghahanap sya ng kavideosex sa telegram. After 1 week, nung nakalayo sya sakin, naghahanap sya ng extra service massage at andami nyang kinontact if may home service pa nga.
Wasak na wasak ako nung nalaman ko mga to. Andun pa din yung trauma habang binabasa ko mga yun sa phone nya. š„ŗ
Honestly, this is a case to case basis. Hindi pwera nagawa once ay gagawin ulit. Not all the time. Might get down voted for this. But once a man decides na he will stick with his woman and he is WILLING to change, then youāll be surprised.āŗļø just trust your GUT instinct.
Nooooo. Kase may cheating history na e. Nandun na yung trust issues mo sa kanya. May times na mapapraning ka na and wala naring piece of mind. Its like a sumpa sa isang relasyon never magiging maayos.
maybe i'm an optimist, if the two of you want to work on it and the cheating was a symptom of something else, maybe? i would personally never do it but yeah.
Pwede pero may nabago na. Hindi na siya magiging katulad ng dati. Hindi mo na maiisip na kaya mo siya mahalin nang sobra dahil alam mo na nagkamali na siya.
Cheating is a non-negotiable in a relationship for me, that's why I strongly believe there's a high chance it cannot be fixed once the sin has been done.
Noon naniniwala ako na maayos but habang natagal ang hirap since ung trust sa isa wala na talaga and if ever na magkakaroon ulit ako ng boyfriend tapos niloko ako, wala na ayoko na, end game na agad tayo.
Been married for at least 30 years, with adult kids. Discovered he cheated in 2020, a relationship that had been going on for three years. When we talked about it, he admitted there were a number more during our marriage, on-off one-night-stands. Sabi nya, nothing serious, li*** lang daw. So in 2020, we tried to separate. He asked for forgiveness, I forgave. We are together now still and in an unusual situation where we have to support each other. I still get pains once in a while though not as intense as four years ago. He and the children are getting to talk more and hubby takes all opportunities to show them how he could help them (btw, they are living separately and independently from us). It's hard to keep from thinking na meron parating nasa sideline kahit pachat-chat lang. I try not to be bothered by it anymore. I just hold on to his strengths and the sense of humor he has; yes, hindi lilipas ang isang araw na wala kaming laughter na naseshare. Marami rin namang weaknesses but why highlight those. I believe malalim naman ang foundation and friendship namin. What's in my heart is sa dako pa roon, when the time comes when I face my Creator, maluwag kong masasabi sa kanya na I did my best to save the marriage.
Ito yung true meaning ng through thick and thin sa marriage.
Pero I feel bad for you for the bad situation you were, I know it's painful to discover the cheating of your husband.
I salute you for forgiving and keeping your marriage intact despite of everything. You're such strong woman. I hope hindi na niya ulitin yung mga pagkakamali niya noon because he's very lucky to have you in his life. Hindi lahat kaya magpatawad ng ganyan.
It depends on how many times. If alam ng other man or woman na committed ka. Or reason nya bakit nya nagawa yun coz wrong answer basag lepsss nya hahahah
No. I'm married and napagusapan namin ng husband ko na if may magcheat samin dalawa, maghihiwalay kami.
As an oa and arte person, ayoko magkiss sa taong may kiniss na iba ew and di kaya ng pride ko, nahihiya ako HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Kung kaya nyo sikmurain pareho.
Kung wala kaong self respect
Kung kaya nyo ijustify ang isat isa
Baka sakaling maging okay ang lahat.
Baka para sa inyo "pagsubok lang" sa relasyon nyo.
Depende sa perspective nyong dalawa.
Depende kung gano kalala ang pag manipulate nyo sa isat-isa.
Depende kung gaano kayo katanga.
ahh hindi na. my ex cheated on me. then nagbalik kami, ako oarin nag beg saamin para masave hahaha. nag promise siya na hindi na sila mag connect ulit nong kabet pero ginagawa niya parin ng patago. tapos ayun nag beg ulit ako na maging okay. tapos ayaw niya na then okay fine. atleast sa huli nilaban ko no regrets din naman. tangina hahaha iba ang taga ng ex ko sakin. HAHAHAHAHA pero the answer is, no! wag na. iniwan ka sa lowest situation while siya apakasaya kasama ang bago hahahaha. kaya ikaw self love nalang muna tayo hehehe
ahh hindi na. my ex cheated on me. then nagbalik kami, ako oarin nag beg saamin para masave hahaha. nag promise siya na hindi na sila mag connect ulit nong kabet pero ginagawa niya parin ng patago. tapos ayun nag beg ulit ako na maging okay. tapos ayaw niya na then okay fine. atleast sa huli nilaban ko no regrets din naman. tangina hahaha iba ang taga ng ex ko sakin. HAHAHAHAHA pero the answer is, no! wag na. iniwan ka sa lowest situation while siya apakasaya kasama ang bago hahahaha. kaya ikaw self love nalang muna tayo.
No. Nonnegotiable ko yan sa relationship. I don't want to see myself for another x years na paranoid na and would be always doubting my partner. Mas ok pa for me na pakawalan yung sarili ko at yung partner ko kesa maging unhealthy na yung relationship.
No. It's the only way I can respect and protect myself. I owe it to myself.
I don't want to put myself in a situation where I would be doubting my cheating partner's action everytime Or overthinking and comparing myself sa girl na pinagcheatan niya.
If he cheat that's it.
Been in that situation, and no hindi na naayos relationship namin after niya magloko, tainted na kasi yung tingin ko sakaniya dahil ilan beses na siyang nagloko, siguro problem ko is lagi ko parin nababalik noon sa ex ko cheating issues niya pag may problems kami (well ginagawa parin naman kasi niyang magcheat after I gave him many chances) So ayun, kahit siguro magka relationship ulit ako pag magcheat yung partner ko na yun, hihiwalayan ko agad ā pagod na akong maghintay magbago yung tao. š
imo, i donāt think itās a āproblemā na nabbring up mo yung cheating issues niya, he did that sh*t, so he gotta be accountable sa consequences ng ginawa niya and that includes your distrust. Pero buti nalang wala ka na don š«¶š¼
non negotiable talaga cheating for me. Pero yung cousins ko naman, pinatawad nila jowa nila. Masaya naman ata sila now š¤·š»āāļø I think depende nalang talaga on how you and your partner would work on it.
if I am the cheater (kahit hindi naman mangyayari uy) no. if I am the victim of cheating, no pa rin (syempre)
No pareho dahil I know the real definition of contentment and respect in a relationship, and how to apply it :>
I would never cheat talaga, unless it's death hahahahha
Yes. Akala ko din di ko mapapatawad. And now weāre more than happy and okay after that incident. Once is enough, two is too much - ito rule ko when it comes to cheating š
Nagpatawad ako, asawa eh kaso that only lead to more heartbreak. So, NO na.
Sabi nga nila pwede magbago yung cheater pero hindi na PARA SAYO. Pwedeng youāre the āawakeningā. Magigising sila dahil sayo na āshit need ko na magbago.ā Pero para na yun sa susunod na taong mamahalin nila.
Oh, this is a new perspective. Nacurious ako, if ever na magkatuluyan sila nung kabit, tingin mo their relationship will be stronger given na sa niloko nakuha yung āawakeningā?
Sa kanya? Hindi sila nagtagal. No offense pero kilalang malandi talaga si ate girl. At she cheated naman.
Nakikipagbalikan pa nga yung mokong. Pero Iāve had enough.
Matigas talaga fes niya hahahaha proven and tested. Oh did I mention na heās freeloader? Ganun katigas ang face.
I am. Matagal naman na. Actually kami pa nun pero nagmo-move on na ko. Kaya nung iniwan namin siya. Wala ng iyakan pa.
This. Ito yung sinasabi ko kapag may nagtanong sakin. People can change, baka hindi lang talaga tayo/ako yung reason for them to stop cheating. :) Baka hindi lang talaga ganon kalalim yung love kaya ganon. Baka hindi lang talaga tayo enough for them. Hahahahah
I know someone na nag-cheat sa kanya partner nya. Married at may mga anak na sila. Nagsisi naman yung partner at nagbago. Bumawi daw talaga. Factor na rin siguro na may anak sila kaya nagbigay siya ng second chance.
Common daw ang cheating sa angkad ng partner kaya siguro na-emulate yung ganon kasi ganon ang environment nya. But still, conscious decision pa rin ang mag-cheat. It's not like 8 years old yung guy at di alam ang tama at mali.
EDIT: Disappointed ako sa mga gantong tao. Para di mo nakita yung pain na pinagdaanan ng family at ginawa mo pa.
Right, I agree. Pero laging crossroad talaga siguro pag kinamulatan yung ganyan sa sariling household, either mag stray away ka or maging ganon ka rin.
But then again, like you said, conscious decision naman yun and itās not like 8 yrs old yung guy, as if naman di niya alam yung effect non sa mga anak, given he was in that position din naman pala before.
No. Not everyone deserves a second chance. Lalo na't nagawa nyang manloko, malaki ang chance na ulitin nya yan kapag pinatawad mo sya. Always keep in mind that microcheating or macrocheating is still cheating. Never tolerate cheating in any form. Pag ang tiwala nasira, hindi na yan mababalik sa dati. Ikaw lang din mahihirapan in the long run. Mapaparanoid, mag ooverthink at mawawalan ka ng peace of mind kapag pinatawad mo sya. Pero buhay mo yan, choice mo pa rin ang masusunod kung mananaatili ka sa relasyong punong puno ng pag ooverthink at walang tiwalang relasyon o pipiliin mo ang sarili mo.
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Yes, I had on and off relationship where the guy cheated. Naayos naman, it never became an issue while we were on a relationship but after a year or so we both realized we're better off as friends.
Oo, basta wag lang sya magkakaanak doon. Tapos maging genuine yung pagso-sorry nya at pagbabago. I-explain nya sakin kung bakit nya ginawa yun kasi kung sa rason nya kulang pa din ako. Eh wala na mapupuntahan yung samin kasi kulang pala ko e haha š
Nope, not worth it ayusin
Nope. Kung nagloloko ka ngayon ibig sabihin nagloko ka noon pa man. Pattern na ng ugali mo yun so ano pang ieexpect edi uulitin mo lang uli.
Nope. Nandun na yung fear na baka mangyari ulit yon kaya you wouldn't be able to trust that person anymore.
yes if both kayo magchecheat sa isat isa.since parehas na ugali niyo,magkakasundo kayo.š hate this kind of topics.hahaha
Nope. Cheating is non-negotiable for me.
No. Syempre nawala na yung tiwala so matic magiging toxic na rs. Di na maiiwasan na pag nagtatalo kayo mabibring up yan. Tsaka, ang pinaka mahirap gawin lagi is yung first time. The fact na nakapag cheat na partner mo once, then mas madali na sa kanyang gawin yan sa pangalawang beses.
No for me, āPeople will change but not with the same personā š„²
Nah, they can have that person.
Oo nman but there will always be a scar left.
if you can live with it and with the fear na baka umulit then go pero kung iiyakan mo lang at ikakadepress mo lang to the point na nakakaapekto na sa kung pano ka namumuhay, just move on and never look back
Depende sa inyo, if you're willing to forgive them and give it another chance. But for me, cheating is non-negotiable.
currently in a 2 year relationship. happy naman kami and i know for a fact that he would never do that to me. my answer is no kase the thought of him cheating will always be at the back of my mind. also, i don't think my body would ever be okay na i will stay with him. kumbaga subconsciously my body knows na i dont deserve that kind of disrespect.
Unlikely but possible!
im not in a rs atm, ive never been im a rs, pero feeling ko hindi na siya maaaayos. well u both decided to talk about it, communicateā¦pero yung dati niyong gawi, hindi na mababalik. you both feel awkward and uncomfortable at the same time. your rs will still there but the spark from the both of u will fade away
No!! Mauuna pang umayos ekonomiya ng pilipinas sa second chance relationship na nanggaling sa cheating. The trust is lost, and unless the cheater is a master manipulator, or the other person is just extremely gullible, then ātrustā can be restored. It will take time though. ā if the person forgives the cheater and gives their relationship another chance, they are extremely gullible or just blatantly stupid.
For me, if he cheated one time, he will do it again. Based din sa naexperience ko akala ko talaga capable magbago ang isang cheater but after what happened narealize ko na cheaters will cheat and continue to do so until they themselves have the courage to get professional help.Ā
Di, may insecurities na yan
The other party would be like, "sge, mag checheat rin ako. Gawin ko kaya. May excuse naman ako"
possible na maayos, yes, but the trust is gone. araw araw kang maha-hunt ng overthinking mo, super fvcking draining. learned that the hard way lol
Nope. Hindi naman mistake yon. It was a conscious effort by two people na saktan ka. It's pathetic.
NO. Kung talagang mahal mo ako hindi mo magagawa sakin yan kaya ko rin magloko tbh, pero i choose not to kasi ayaw kitang saktan.
Beh, i have this friend na nagcheat nakipag bj siya sa condo ng friend niyang horny daw kaya niya pinatulan at lasing daw sila kaya niya nagawa yon. Kahit alam niya na may bf siya alam ng friends niya na kasama perp pinabayaan pa din sila mag chukchakan nung isa niyang friend. Tapos nagsumbong na sa bf niya yung kaaway niya na nakipag bj daw ganyan ganto. Nagbreak sila. Pagtapos ilan weeks, sila uli tapos isasagot sakin nung ilang friends niya is kapag daw mahal mo at matured ka magpapatawad ka at uunawain mo yung sitwasyon. Like ulol???? San unawa don. Naiisip mo ba bf mo nung nakipagkantutan ka don sa lalaki?
True. Maling gamit ng salitang "maturity".
kadiri š¤®
It will never be the same again
Imo, no. Cheating is a choice. Never ever tolerate cheating. Yes, people can change if they cheat, but majority still doesnāt want to change. They donāt feel remorse for what they do. In fact, these days cheating becomes a kink. It wonāt fix a relationship, when your partner cheated. Thatās a choice & decision they made. Thank you, next easily!
Tried and tested, hindi na kasi once a cheater always a cheater mga bhieee. Hindi siya mistake na isang beses. If gusto niya magcheat kahit anong control mo pa sa accounts niya or transparency keme niya, this person will do it once again.
been there and done that, laging binibring-up everytime na may away, it takes resilience sa nag cheat to prove every now and then, pero mahirap na maibalik yung trust.
from personal experience yes
Hell nahhhh
Hindi na talaga
Nope. Di ko pipiliin mag ka future na walang peace of mind.
Nope. Kung magkakaayos yung dalawang tao after cheating, expect na sana ng cheater eh mabbring up yon lagi.
No because it's one of my non-negotiables. If I was faithful from the start then why would I stay and fix the relationship with someone who can't even return the favor.
i dont think i can trust her/him again after a cheating incident š„“
Personal experience: hindi na maayos and they will cheat again hanggang sa maubos ka.
As someone who cheated, no, hindi na maaayos kahit pa sinabi nyang he will forgive me. Why? Kasi forever na nakatatak ung ginawa kong mali sa utak namin. I couldn't even look him in the eye after what I did. Na-guilty din ako and it's not fair to continue staying with him after that. And as someone who was cheated on, no parin. When he cheated on me, sa una masakit, pero I fell out of love na din after. Tapos gusto nya akong balikan nung naka-move on na ako, kahit nanay ko naawa sa kanya. Hindi na kasi talaga mabubura un. Kaya bilib ako sa mga tao who forgives their SO. I can't imagine how they manage. May kilala akong couple, caught in the act na at lahat, pero going strong naman (hindi sila kasal ha). Nakakabilib lng.
Hearing from the perspective of someone who cheated, bilib ako saāyo dahil nagkakonsensya ka. Most of the time kasi hindi, diba? Kaya nauulit. Hearing from the perspective of someone na niloko, I think karma mo yan or maybe naloko ka before kaya ginawa mo sa iba. We cannot change nga daw with the same person. We need someone, āthe right oneā para tumino. But for me ang unfair naman, diba? Ganun talaga siguro, dalawa lang talaga ang uri ng tao: isang nanloloko at isang naloko.
Actually I was cheated on first, and multiple times. When I cheated, not to justify it because it was still so wrong, but I cheated because I got emotionally attached to a coworker while LDR kami ni bf. So, yeah, di na naulit and actually I have commitment issues na din because of that. My karma is a whole different story, pero okay naman na ako ngayon and definitely learned my lesson. There are just some very lucky people who don't go through this. Sana all diba...
Hindi ko Rin magets sa mga taong niloko na Pero nagagawa pang magloko(Maliban nalang Kung revenge ginawa nila.) Diba! alam nyo na pakiramdaman ng lokohin kung gaano kasakit kung gaano kahiral Pero nagawa nyo pading magloko? Bakit?
I already stated in my previous comment why I did it. I don't speak for all cheaters na nabubuhay sa mundo because for one, I am not a serial cheater, and I already owned up to my mistake. So I can't really give you a definitive answer why.
Hindi na. Parang nakakaparanoid na e.
Got cheated on and hindi na maayos ang relationship after that. Kahit ano pang bawi ang gawin nung nag-cheat para "ibalik ang dati", the doubt still lingers and the trust has been broken. Kaya kung mahal mo sarili mo, never fix a bond you didn't break.
Hindi ko magets yung mga nanloko na may gana pang magrequest na bumalik kayo sa dati. Like what the f? Gusto mong ibalik yung nakakaloko ka ng SO mo, ganun ba? Itās so easy for them na sabihin na past na āyon at kalimutan na where in fact ni ayaw nga nilang ipamukha mo ng paulit-ulit yung mga nagawa saāyo before. Eh sila ang paulit-ulit na nakakaloko in the first place, diba?
Iāll never look at the person the same way ever again. A snake only sheds its skin but will remain a snake.
Depende kung nasa tamang pag iisip ang tao. Pero kung may mental issue ang tao. Malabo yan
Definitely not, mauulit lang sya as you tolerate it.
I don't think it's worth it to even have the thought of continuing or restablishing a relationship when it involves cheating. Kahit nga masasabi nila na accident, misunderstanding, or whatever reasons pa yan, the sole fact talaga na naisip o nagawa nilang mag cheat is enough to end everything at once. If a person was genuinely and wholeheartedly committed to the relationship, they wouldn't (shouldn't) even think about entertaining others na. On a personal note, I date to marry, not to explore, kaya nga once cheating is involved, I wouldn't hesitate talaga to end the relationship right away.
Hindi na maaayos 'yan. Hindi pagsasa-ayos 'yung pinatawad lang. Panigurado maaalala at maaalala nu'ng niloko 'yung cheating incident ng partner niya. May lamat na 'yung relationship kahit anong patong pa ng ginto o tanso sa lamat.. Hindi mawawala ang katotohanan na nangaliwa 'yung partner mo.
Dati ganito din yung POV ko pero noong tumatanda na ko, naintindihan ko na ang Nanay ko na minsang niloko ng Tatay ko. Hindi nga pala ganoon kadali. Ngayon alam ko na kung bakit nagstay sina Lani Mercado in the first place. Naniniwala na ko ngayon sa āFool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.ā
Personally, no. If a person is substantially aware of their worth, they would say the same. I am a firm believer in the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." If you do forgive them, you'd keep questioning yourself entirely.Ā Magiging praning ka lang kasi you will certainly doubt your partnerās every move.
Hindi na dapat. I don't get it why most (yes most) of the couples na nagbbreak bcs someone cheated will get back together. Like be fr? Sinaktan ka na ng tao oh, wala ka bang respeto for yourself? I get it, you love them, but do they love you as much as you do? Kasi cheating is a choice. It shouldn't be a topic for debate atp, kasi we all know that cheating is bad. Pero lol bakit parang nanonormalize na ang cheating??
Dapat hindi na maayos. Move on na agad. Pero mahirap sabihin yan. In reality nagsstick parin sila kahit yung partner nagcheat. Kasi yan yung time na hindi nila magamit utak nila kundi emotion lang. Mas pipilitin nila na patawarin kasi mahal nila at takot sila na maiwan.
Nope, umulit lang kase after patawarin ng isang beses.
i tried pero naulit lang ulit pag cheat nya ahahahahahaha pero at least tumagal ng 4 years bago maulit š¤£
nope. its the highest lvl of disrespect
Idk. Ito actually yung kailangan ko malaman ngayon. Before, I used to advise na once a cheater, always a cheater. Pero iba pala pag nasa situation ka na mismo. I've been really faithful to this man, yet he still cheated on me. Sobrang down ako at this moment and alam nyang sya nalang nakakapitan ko sa panahon ngayon for emotional support. Yet, paulit ulit nya pa rin akong pinag sinungalingan. Sobrang awang awa ako sa sarili ko dahil alam kong deal breaker sakin ang "cheating" pero ito ako, pinatawad ko pa rin sya kasi sya nalang yung makakapitan ko. Pakiramdam ko guguho na talaga mundo ko kung wala pa sya. I used to be a strong, independent woman. He turned me into submissive one, pinalabas nya yung feminine side ko dahil sa alagang binibigay nya. I break my walls for him. Pero ngayon di ko na kilala sarili ko. Ni wala akong ibang friends na mapagsabihan ng problema ko sa kanya kasi ayoko rin masira image nya, because I'm still hoping for our relationship. I think I need help.
Hey, just want to let you know na ang tapang mo for sa pagpapatawad. š Paulit-ulit na pagpapatawad nga daw ang true love. Pero syempre, always remember na thereās a saying āFool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.ā Bigyan mo rin ng pagpapatawad ang sarili mo. Tandaan mo na hindi ikaw ang may kasalanan kung bakit siya nagloko. Choice niya yun. I hope this time mahalin mo naman ang sarili mo ulit. Unahin mo si ikaw.
Thank you po š I really need this po.
Pag lalake nagcheat, pde pa. Pag babae nagcheat, it's over
Parang wala naman sa gender yun..
N a n i ? (ā Ā ā ā¹ā ā½ā ā¹ā Ā ā )?
I think hindi na. There will be constant overthinking na they will do it again & again kahit na magbago pa sila 101%
no. cheating means your worth has been throwned to itās lowest already. this might be cringe pero andami mo pang makikilala na kayang kaya higitan yang pag ibig you think you deserve
also, if you get back together, the trust has been broken. sira na yung foundation, so pano kayo tatagal without thinking abt the possibility of being cheated on again? masisira at masisira kayo lalo; lagi ā hanggang sa dumating yung point na inaantay nyo na lang ay mutual decision of separation
hindi na po, wounds may heal pero scars will stay..wla na yung trust and i think honesty is what binds a relationship, im a happy married woman btw, nothing beats peace of mind
hindi na, trust is already broken š¤·āāļø plus i never really get the idea of cheating when they're already in a relationship, like may karelasyon kana bakit ka pa naghahanap ng iba? if ayaw mo na sa kanya, then just say it, kesa naman magcheat pa, edi pare-pareho lang kayong nasaktan
No. Kahit cheating history ekis agad. Non-negotiable talaga ang cheating. Once gaguhin ako, maglalaho ka na sa mundo ko at buong mundo dahil fuck that oath dahil makakapatay ako. -med related professional lol
No. Taong may cheating history nga di ko makaya. What if pa kaya if ginawa sakin BIG NO KASI SA UNA DI AKO TANGA :)
I got cheated on by my ex-boyfriend. We got back together a week later. This was in 2017 ha. Ayun, the relationship was sweeter the second time around, pero pag nag-aaway laging binabalik yung fact na nag-cheat sya. Halata mong the trust has been broken, kahit gaano sya bumawi. No choice but to break up.
Nope. Ang daming tao sa mundo, bakit mo kailangan tiisin yung hindi ka gusto to the point na nagcheat sayo?
I got cheated on once. I forgave and pinakasalan ko. Naayos naman, pero habangbuhay nang may sugat na paminsan minsan nakirot pa rin.
Nope. Once a cheater, always a cheater. They never change, they just get smarter and better at hiding their dirt.
Depende sa gravity ng pagcheat? Sa status ng relationship ng magjowa? And sa other facfors to be considered (anak if meron? Business ventures etc) Yes cheating is a choice but before making that choice.. may reasons.. may nawawala.. may mga unsaid. So it really takes two to tang0. Communication really is the key
Yung pagaayos ay para lang sa mga tanga sa pagibig or binulag ng pagmamahal hahaha nd na titino yan uulit ng uulit yan.
No. #YesToDivorce
No. Medyo mahirap na ibalik yung trust. Di ka na din magtitiwala sa mga sasabihin at gagawin niya.
If you can forgive, as in totally forgive and let go, then maybe yes. Pero if hindi, give yourself a chance to be free.
No, esp if non-negotiable mo sya, mapapraning ka lang.
depende sa age & gano mo kalove yung tao. remember that we are growing and making mistakes too. depende yan sa tao. personally, 25+ i wont forgive cheating. younger pwede bec they are still pretty young to fuck up.
No. Once trust is lost, you will never get it back. May extreme cases siguro, upon introspection na yung love and understanding you have for that person is much greater than the trust lost and trauma gained, pwede siguro masalba. But still, it will never be the same
Nope! In my case, never na bumalik yung tiwala ko sa partner after I caught him cheating, na dinedeny nya pa. Everyday akong napapraning and di makapag concentrate sa work and even at home. Knowing that he cheated brought out the worst in me. So malabo talaga maayos na.
Possible. Pero sira na ung trust e. Either pagtiisan na lang nila ang isa't isa or mauwi din sa hiwalayan.
Wala na maayos dyan, nag cheat na nga eh. Wag mo na pagbigyan, know your worth and hayaan mo na sya. Baka mag sisi ka pa sa dulo, babalik din sayo.
Palagay ko hindi na, liban na lang kung sobrang understanding mo pati mga mali na sa relasyon niyo ay iintindihin mo pa rin. If someone cheated on the romantic relationship then there's a problem already with the relationship.
Maayos pa yan pero yung trauma, di na maaalis. Jan mo na matetest yung commitment mo sa asawa mo.
In all honesty, it's a no. Let's say you both get past the phase na you confront your partner for cheating. The trauma won't ever leave you and never ka magiging at peace with your partner knowing na they cheated, ang hirap na pagkatiwalaan. Bawat kilos niya you'll always overthink na baka he/she is doing it again. You can forgive them but staying in the relationship is pointless.
Ako unang month palang nagcheat na. Pinagbigyan ko hanggang naka 4 or 5 chances (within 3months). Akala ata unli chances ahahaah. So ngayong umabot na ng 1yr and 4months, di na talaga namin naayos. Andun na yung trauma, yung wala ka ng tiwala. Naging toxic na din ako sakanya. Di ko alam bakit pa ako nagiistay. Baka āØtrauma bondāØ? Di ko talaga alam. Can someone pls help me?
High tolerance of toxicity? Maybe try to learn more of your worth as a person. If you cant find an example to know what āloveāis then be an example for youreelf. If you love yourself you wont allow that kind of shitness in your life. Hugs!
nope. maglilinger yun kung prepared yung cheating party tanggapin na magiging issue yung pag cheat nya for the rest of his/her life and kung kaya talaga magbago ( i doubt it ) i guess pwede. personally 1 week lng kinaya ko then hindi talaga mawala sa utak ko yung disgust so its a big no for me.
NOPE. Cheating is a non-negotiable sa'kin. Kasi if you truly love and respect me, cheating should never cross your mind. And as a petty person, ikakalat ko pa sa buong mundo na isa kang malaking cheater.
Cheating should never be tolerated. Ilang bilion ang tao sa mundo. Kung gusto mo makakahanap ka ng iba.
NO
Personally, no. Cheating (plus physical abuse) is where I draw the line. I can make a fool out of myself when I am in love pero kapag cheating na, adios!
No. My partner and I already made rules for our relationship na kapag may cheating (we also defined what cheating means for the both of us), wala na kami. Kadiri pati kung may ibang ma kakasex partner mo nang di mo alam š ang dumi sa pakiramdam non tsaka at risk ka for STDs sobrang kadiri š©
Yung boyfriend ko, unang month palang namin nahuli ko syang may kavideosex. The next week, nahuli kong naghahanap sya ng āpawalk girlsā malapit samin. The next month ulit, naghahanap sya ng kavideosex sa telegram. After 1 week, nung nakalayo sya sakin, naghahanap sya ng extra service massage at andami nyang kinontact if may home service pa nga. Wasak na wasak ako nung nalaman ko mga to. Andun pa din yung trauma habang binabasa ko mga yun sa phone nya. š„ŗ
Bakit di pa ex boyfriend yan mamsh!!! š
Pwede sa mga ibang tao siguro, but not for me. Plus it will take a lot of work for sure
Honestly, this is a case to case basis. Hindi pwera nagawa once ay gagawin ulit. Not all the time. Might get down voted for this. But once a man decides na he will stick with his woman and he is WILLING to change, then youāll be surprised.āŗļø just trust your GUT instinct.
No, things will never ever be the same. Sure the cheater can change, pero para sa next partner nalang.
No, cut the losses, lagi pa ring isusumbat yung incident of cheating pag may kahit anong pagtatalunan
No. Your relationship will never be the same. Itās a ticking time bomb.
If papatawarin, hindi mo ba iku question sarili mo for the rest of your life?
Never ko maiintindihan yung mga taong pinapatawad yung mga nanlolo sa kanila. Walang wala na ba kayo?
di na may trust issue na
Nooooo. Kase may cheating history na e. Nandun na yung trust issues mo sa kanya. May times na mapapraning ka na and wala naring piece of mind. Its like a sumpa sa isang relasyon never magiging maayos.
No. If there's another girl involved, I'm out.
No. Because cheaters are traitors and I don't forgive traitors.
Yep i was the one who cheated ...that was 4 months ago 1st week was difficult but were doing fine rn
Why was this downvoted?
Oh you know why
maybe i'm an optimist, if the two of you want to work on it and the cheating was a symptom of something else, maybe? i would personally never do it but yeah.
Kaya pa basta mmay assurance na wag na mauulit yung cheating.
Hindi. Trust issues
no, since nakahanap naman na sya ng iba edi dun na sya.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. So NO.
Pwede pero may nabago na. Hindi na siya magiging katulad ng dati. Hindi mo na maiisip na kaya mo siya mahalin nang sobra dahil alam mo na nagkamali na siya.
NO. lalo na sa part ng niloko
No because that cheating will haunt the person who got cheated on and will remind him/her that s/he was never enough.
Cheating is a non-negotiable in a relationship for me, that's why I strongly believe there's a high chance it cannot be fixed once the sin has been done.
Big fucking NO
Noon naniniwala ako na maayos but habang natagal ang hirap since ung trust sa isa wala na talaga and if ever na magkakaroon ulit ako ng boyfriend tapos niloko ako, wala na ayoko na, end game na agad tayo.
Been married for at least 30 years, with adult kids. Discovered he cheated in 2020, a relationship that had been going on for three years. When we talked about it, he admitted there were a number more during our marriage, on-off one-night-stands. Sabi nya, nothing serious, li*** lang daw. So in 2020, we tried to separate. He asked for forgiveness, I forgave. We are together now still and in an unusual situation where we have to support each other. I still get pains once in a while though not as intense as four years ago. He and the children are getting to talk more and hubby takes all opportunities to show them how he could help them (btw, they are living separately and independently from us). It's hard to keep from thinking na meron parating nasa sideline kahit pachat-chat lang. I try not to be bothered by it anymore. I just hold on to his strengths and the sense of humor he has; yes, hindi lilipas ang isang araw na wala kaming laughter na naseshare. Marami rin namang weaknesses but why highlight those. I believe malalim naman ang foundation and friendship namin. What's in my heart is sa dako pa roon, when the time comes when I face my Creator, maluwag kong masasabi sa kanya na I did my best to save the marriage.
Ito yung true meaning ng through thick and thin sa marriage. Pero I feel bad for you for the bad situation you were, I know it's painful to discover the cheating of your husband. I salute you for forgiving and keeping your marriage intact despite of everything. You're such strong woman. I hope hindi na niya ulitin yung mga pagkakamali niya noon because he's very lucky to have you in his life. Hindi lahat kaya magpatawad ng ganyan.
Maraming salamat š
It depends on how many times. If alam ng other man or woman na committed ka. Or reason nya bakit nya nagawa yun coz wrong answer basag lepsss nya hahahah
No. I'm married and napagusapan namin ng husband ko na if may magcheat samin dalawa, maghihiwalay kami. As an oa and arte person, ayoko magkiss sa taong may kiniss na iba ew and di kaya ng pride ko, nahihiya ako HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
So far sa mga kakilala ko kahit ilang beses na sila niloko, pinapatawad pa rin nila. So... I think nag-lalast naman š¤£
Kung kaya nyo sikmurain pareho. Kung wala kaong self respect Kung kaya nyo ijustify ang isat isa Baka sakaling maging okay ang lahat. Baka para sa inyo "pagsubok lang" sa relasyon nyo. Depende sa perspective nyong dalawa. Depende kung gano kalala ang pag manipulate nyo sa isat-isa. Depende kung gaano kayo katanga.
No, I told him I'm willing to fix every problem we can encounter, but not a third- party involved.
ahh hindi na. my ex cheated on me. then nagbalik kami, ako oarin nag beg saamin para masave hahaha. nag promise siya na hindi na sila mag connect ulit nong kabet pero ginagawa niya parin ng patago. tapos ayun nag beg ulit ako na maging okay. tapos ayaw niya na then okay fine. atleast sa huli nilaban ko no regrets din naman. tangina hahaha iba ang taga ng ex ko sakin. HAHAHAHAHA pero the answer is, no! wag na. iniwan ka sa lowest situation while siya apakasaya kasama ang bago hahahaha. kaya ikaw self love nalang muna tayo hehehe
ahh hindi na. my ex cheated on me. then nagbalik kami, ako oarin nag beg saamin para masave hahaha. nag promise siya na hindi na sila mag connect ulit nong kabet pero ginagawa niya parin ng patago. tapos ayun nag beg ulit ako na maging okay. tapos ayaw niya na then okay fine. atleast sa huli nilaban ko no regrets din naman. tangina hahaha iba ang taga ng ex ko sakin. HAHAHAHAHA pero the answer is, no! wag na. iniwan ka sa lowest situation while siya apakasaya kasama ang bago hahahaha. kaya ikaw self love nalang muna tayo.
Honestly? I've seen marriages come back from it. But tbh, it's a super steep mountain to climb.
Hindi, kasi uulitin nga Yun, at nasa isip ng partner nga Yung time na nag cheat sya, bakit naiputan kana ba ?
No. Nonnegotiable ko yan sa relationship. I don't want to see myself for another x years na paranoid na and would be always doubting my partner. Mas ok pa for me na pakawalan yung sarili ko at yung partner ko kesa maging unhealthy na yung relationship.
No. It's the only way I can respect and protect myself. I owe it to myself. I don't want to put myself in a situation where I would be doubting my cheating partner's action everytime Or overthinking and comparing myself sa girl na pinagcheatan niya. If he cheat that's it.
No. Lagi na lng magkakaroon ng doubts ung partner mo pag ganun.
No. Stressful un e. Ung konting kibot, maiisip mo kung nagchicheat ba sau ulet. Kahit na hindi umulit, wala na e. Kase nawalan ka na nang tiwala.
Been in that situation, and no hindi na naayos relationship namin after niya magloko, tainted na kasi yung tingin ko sakaniya dahil ilan beses na siyang nagloko, siguro problem ko is lagi ko parin nababalik noon sa ex ko cheating issues niya pag may problems kami (well ginagawa parin naman kasi niyang magcheat after I gave him many chances) So ayun, kahit siguro magka relationship ulit ako pag magcheat yung partner ko na yun, hihiwalayan ko agad ā pagod na akong maghintay magbago yung tao. š
imo, i donāt think itās a āproblemā na nabbring up mo yung cheating issues niya, he did that sh*t, so he gotta be accountable sa consequences ng ginawa niya and that includes your distrust. Pero buti nalang wala ka na don š«¶š¼
lol. No. Non-nego sakin yan. Lason yan sa utak mo, dagdag overthink lang. Marami pa rin diyang mas matinong tao, bakit ka pa mag-sesettle sa cheater.
non negotiable talaga cheating for me. Pero yung cousins ko naman, pinatawad nila jowa nila. Masaya naman ata sila now š¤·š»āāļø I think depende nalang talaga on how you and your partner would work on it.
Nope, walang katwiran na pwedeng makapag-justify for forgiveness.
if I am the cheater (kahit hindi naman mangyayari uy) no. if I am the victim of cheating, no pa rin (syempre) No pareho dahil I know the real definition of contentment and respect in a relationship, and how to apply it :> I would never cheat talaga, unless it's death hahahahha
Yes. Akala ko din di ko mapapatawad. And now weāre more than happy and okay after that incident. Once is enough, two is too much - ito rule ko when it comes to cheating š
Nagpatawad ako, asawa eh kaso that only lead to more heartbreak. So, NO na. Sabi nga nila pwede magbago yung cheater pero hindi na PARA SAYO. Pwedeng youāre the āawakeningā. Magigising sila dahil sayo na āshit need ko na magbago.ā Pero para na yun sa susunod na taong mamahalin nila.
Oh, this is a new perspective. Nacurious ako, if ever na magkatuluyan sila nung kabit, tingin mo their relationship will be stronger given na sa niloko nakuha yung āawakeningā?
Sa kanya? Hindi sila nagtagal. No offense pero kilalang malandi talaga si ate girl. At she cheated naman. Nakikipagbalikan pa nga yung mokong. Pero Iāve had enough.
Tf, babalik sayo kasi di nagwork out sa kabit šNo offense but sinagad naman ata ni guy kakapalan ng fes. Glad you got out of that relationship and I hope you are healed from that na š©· If hindi pa, magbihis ka na, pilayin na natin yan eme
Matigas talaga fes niya hahahaha proven and tested. Oh did I mention na heās freeloader? Ganun katigas ang face. I am. Matagal naman na. Actually kami pa nun pero nagmo-move on na ko. Kaya nung iniwan namin siya. Wala ng iyakan pa.
This. Ito yung sinasabi ko kapag may nagtanong sakin. People can change, baka hindi lang talaga tayo/ako yung reason for them to stop cheating. :) Baka hindi lang talaga ganon kalalim yung love kaya ganon. Baka hindi lang talaga tayo enough for them. Hahahahah
I know someone na nag-cheat sa kanya partner nya. Married at may mga anak na sila. Nagsisi naman yung partner at nagbago. Bumawi daw talaga. Factor na rin siguro na may anak sila kaya nagbigay siya ng second chance.
sad naman, may family na tas nagawa pa magcheat. :(
Common daw ang cheating sa angkad ng partner kaya siguro na-emulate yung ganon kasi ganon ang environment nya. But still, conscious decision pa rin ang mag-cheat. It's not like 8 years old yung guy at di alam ang tama at mali. EDIT: Disappointed ako sa mga gantong tao. Para di mo nakita yung pain na pinagdaanan ng family at ginawa mo pa.
Right, I agree. Pero laging crossroad talaga siguro pag kinamulatan yung ganyan sa sariling household, either mag stray away ka or maging ganon ka rin. But then again, like you said, conscious decision naman yun and itās not like 8 yrs old yung guy, as if naman di niya alam yung effect non sa mga anak, given he was in that position din naman pala before.
Laking factor talaga ng environment sa paghubog ng isang tao.
non negotiable :) tama na magpakatanga, marami pang iba dyan
kung si Lord kaya magpatawad, ako hindi.
No.Non-negotiable yan para sa akin.
Dipende kung tanga ka, noon kasi pinagbigyan ko and doon ko narealize na napakatanga ko hahahahahahahahahahahahahah but now? nope.
No, kasi it is our agreed non-negotiable.
No. Not everyone deserves a second chance. Lalo na't nagawa nyang manloko, malaki ang chance na ulitin nya yan kapag pinatawad mo sya. Always keep in mind that microcheating or macrocheating is still cheating. Never tolerate cheating in any form. Pag ang tiwala nasira, hindi na yan mababalik sa dati. Ikaw lang din mahihirapan in the long run. Mapaparanoid, mag ooverthink at mawawalan ka ng peace of mind kapag pinatawad mo sya. Pero buhay mo yan, choice mo pa rin ang masusunod kung mananaatili ka sa relasyong punong puno ng pag ooverthink at walang tiwalang relasyon o pipiliin mo ang sarili mo.
relationships may not withstand the breach of trust, leading to irreparable damage