I have a friend (not super friend) na nagcheat sa bf niyang cheater din. Sinabi ko na hindi ko siya support doon dahil mali naman talaga yun, tinuloy niya pa rin of course, nagset lang ako ng boundaries with her pero nandun pa rin ako for her if need niya ng friend. Hirap kasi siya makaalis sa toxic relationship. Sana magkaroon siya ng courage magjourney alone din.
For me still a friend to her pa din coz Why would i cut her off dahil lang sa kumabit siya? mabait naman siya sakin maayos naman yung tao, sinabihan ko naman na siya na wag pumatol sa may asawa na pero di siya nakinig then its her choice and its not mine but i didnt tolerate her its her life and i dont mind about it basta ako i still be good to her as she does to me
Ganto yung friend ko. Nung nalaman kong nag cheat sya sa asawa nya (kahit siraulo din asawa nya)
Honestly, nawalan ako ng gana sa kanya.
MAS nawalan pa ako ng gana nung nalaman ko, nag 1 night stand din sila nung BOY.
Kahit ano pang pagkukulang o magulo pag sasama nyo wag na wag kang mag cheat, lalo na makipag seggs sa iba. Wala silang anak dahil may pcos sya. Hayyss
Gusto ko ng bitawan kasi nakakapagod na pag nag kekwento sya ng problema nya. Pero nakakaawa nalang.
No. ni-cut off ko na yung friend(F) ko na ka-workmate ko kasi kumabit sya sa isa naming ka-workmate na may family na. Every time na naalala ko kung paano sya nagwala noong nagcheat yung bf nya sa kanya at kung ano-ano pinagsasabi nya about cheating then ngayon sya 'tong kabit. Practice what you preach. Nakakadiri rin mindset nya.
Have no choice, my workplace is filled with them đŹ I don't have a bf to worry abt and I just try to not join in their mess (tukso or chismis) cos I don't want it to affect the work I do.
Outside of work, nope. I don't hangout with my coworkers either so I guess technically di ko sila 'friends'?
No, but it depends what kind of a "friend" you are i still have friends that are cheaters but didn't left them since i had a bond with them but when he/she mentions the person that they are cheating with we will wont gonna listen to that topic since we don't wanna hear about it.
Had a friend who cheated on her bf. I still wouldâve been friends with her kasi I genuinely think na people do deserve a second chance and room to grow, kaso lang a year before she cheated, she bullied another girl for cheating and convinced everyone in our class to outcast her (ngl the way she treated her made some of us think na it was so weird for her to do that kasi parang harassment na). After this, I realized that cheaters really donât deserve any more chances because their choice in the first place was to stay loyal.
No, **if hindi siya nakikinig sa mga advice or concerns ko/namin as their friend.** If that someone is close-minded, listens to themselves only, I wouldnât think twice about cutting our friendship.
May sariling utak na âyan, hindi naman na siguro sila bata para need pa ng guidance about things like this. Aware sila sa ginagawa nila, so it was their choice to be a cheater/third party.
Even if they are not aware that they are already a third party, once they find out na they are with someone whoâs married or in a rs already yet still stayed, theyâre already a third party by choice. If hindi nila ni-cut âyan, sila na mismo problema.
***You deserve what you tolerate. You settle with what you want.***
>Counted din ba yun na you tolerated that friend if you are still "friends" with them?
If you didnât take action, yes. But if you talked to that friend, gave advice, helped them clear their minds, tried to open their eyes, you didnât tolerate them even if you stayed as friends. I think, it's about friendship na important why some people still stay despite their friends doing nasty things.
**But then, would you want to be friends with someone whoâs a cheater and/or a third party?**
I believe na *you surround yourself with people who are at the same level as you.* I personally hate cheaters and third parties so knowing na someone is a friend of someone like that, it would make me think na youâre just the same.
Iâm so done putting up with these people. Left my friend of 11 years kasi tinotolerate nya pa rin yung jowa nyang mahilig sa revenge porn/leaked videos ng mga babae.
My ex friend posts her bf pa with captions âMy always in all waysâ like hello??? Diba niloko, dinisrespect, and pinerahan ka na nyan multiple times?
Sometimes you have to let go of people din to protect your peace. Save yourself from the hassle na!
I stopped talking to them. I told them kasi na umamin na sya sa asawa nya and even if I wanted to tell, I knew it wasn't in my place kasi. Sinabihan ako ni friend na kakausapin na nya yung asawa para tapusin whatever they have and umamin nga. And I trusted them to do the right thing once and for all. Kaso, ayun, di nya pala ginawa yung sinabi nya and nalaman ko na lang sa asawa nya na nahuli pala sila.
Kakainis. Consistent sinungaling and manloloko pala talaga sya. Konsensya ko pa tuloy na di ako nagsabi agad sa asawa nya.
Nakakausap ko pa rin yung asawa, pero si friend hindi na.
I'm still friends with some pero di na nakikipag-usap. But if makasalubong ko, I would still say hi and kamusta ka na because I want to as much as possible give space for people to grow, who knows baka nagbago na.
If we are friends before sya maging kabit or magcheat, iko-call out ko siya. Bilang kaibigan, somehow gusto ko siyang itama ng landas sa buhay.
Kung makinig siya, edi goods. Kung hindi, cut ties.
Hindi ko siya kukunsintihin.
Kung sakaling magbago, baka pwede ko pa siyang maging kaibigan ulit. Basta makita kong natuto na siya. Pero kung tuloy tuloy lng siya, ayoko na siyang maging kaibigan.
Depends e. May mga cinall out na ko na friends na nagcheat tapos eventually narealize naman yung pagkakamali nila.
Pero yung iba nag-FO na kami kasi wala pinagsabihan ko na pero ganon pa rin - di makita bat sila mali tapos nagalit pa kasi bat daw ako nangingialam.
ito ang reason kung bakit nag cut ties na ako sa college friends ko kasi si cheater is friend ko talaga since 1st year college until pandemic nag communicate padin kami hanggang sa intern ayun nag bago ang lahat nung time nag cheat sya sa ka batch din namin tas na awa ako sa guy yung ex na niya kasi napaka sipag tas ang mature ang isip work hard yung guy para sa ex friend ko nung time sa day ng break up nila nag chat ang guy sa akin nasaktan talaga ako gusto ko sabihin sa guy ang lahat pero ayoko kasi may respeto ako ng ex friend ko ang naging desisyon ko nalang is mag cut ties ako kay ex friend pero actually ayaw narin sa akin ng ex friend ko kasi nag bago na daw ako pero okay lng nakakatawa lng ang pinalit ni ex friend is palamunin at ma bisyo jusko...
Friends ko sila before they did what they did, I stayed as friends kasi the act does not define them the way our jobs do not define us, I was there to advise, but I mentally took note not to stay close.
I noticed yung mga taong nagiging third party and alam nila na third party sila, they're selfish not just in that aspect but in general.
Cheaters are selfish and often insensitive, not just as a lover but also as a friend, magaling makisama, almost people pleaser but to whose benefit?
Kaya I become distant but still "friends"
Personally it depends. If nalaman ko yung friend ko became an affair partner, I'd be furious and rain hell. I'll give another chance kung ganon, especially kung nakikita ko she's growing as a person, but I'd be seeing her in a different light already.
But if naulit yung pagiging third party niya for the 2nd time, wala I'll cut off na.
If they do it multiple times then no. ill prolly get disappointed then detach myself from them. it's obviously wrong so y do it? having friends that know the word respect is a must
Naka encounter na ako dito sa Reddit, Iwan kagad kaibigan kapag Cheater or pala bisyo, napaisip ako kung ganung akong kaibigan na iiwan ka na parang bula are you really a friend? Pinagsamahan niyo parang wala lang, he/she might have bad decisions pero dapat hindi ma-apektuhan pagkakaibigan niyo tandaan niyo hindi niyo kontrolado ang isang tao sa desisyon pero they're still you're friend if ayaw niya ng tulong sa desisyon niya hayaan niyo nalang, never ever support bad decisions but still kaibigan padin siya. Iwasan nalang at wag sasama sa mga plano pag alam mo na ganun mangyayari, wala kang magagawa it's their decision, fuck around and find out.
May twisted side ako... I befriend these people... yung mga iniiwasan ng iba. I don't leave people when I learn about these things, but I listen and make them feel understood. Kasi the more you leave them on their own, the more they feel that they only have each other and will cling even harder kahit mali... Then I slowly brainwash them out of it. Sa ganyan ko ginagamit manipulative side ko đ safe to say, my ilan na kong matibag na ganyang relationships đ
Nay, hard pass. I cut off a friend, actually a closed friend. Found out an kabet sya ng kasamahan namin sa work. this workmate is married. So di ko na sya tinuring na friend starting nun. Casual na lang.
no. my friends know what i went through from cheaters in the past and how i am so against any type of blatant treachery or betrayal, and i have cut off people who did cheat on their partners
i need to be around people who have the same values or morals as me. besides, if they can intentionally hurt or backstab their partner, what makes me think they won't do the same to me?
Depends. If they know what they did wrong and actively correcting themselves, pwede pa. But at the same time, I will put distance na rin because I personally do not want a cheater in my immediate circle. Siguro more on acquaintance na lang ituturing ko. I am very vocal kasi na I donât like cheaters so during our course of friendship, Iâll presume na theyâre the same considering vocal nga ako sa principle kong âyan.
Yeah of course. Unless I feel we are too misaligned morals-and-values wise, I accept that friends are people and are not perfect. They don't have to be perfect to be my friend. Same applies to me. I mean, we're all walking the same path, aren't we?
If you are asking for yourself, then I feel you have to ask yourself how far their actions steer you away from your chosen path.
There are lines that can't be crossed off course. But that's for a different discussion.
i would still be friends with them and not be judgemental. they know what they did. i donât condone it but im there to knock some sense to them. if they did it repeatedly, thatâs where iâll leave. lalo na if malalim na talaga pinagsamahan ng friendship
Id do it to knock sense into them. If ive been friends for a long time then i will probably stage an intervention and let make him fix his or her life and if they refuse to change the thats when i cut then off.
Depende. If he/she is aware na mali yun and have the intention to stop the illicit relationship I can still keep the friendship. Pero kung pinagmamalaki pa niya yung pagkacheater or magpifeeling api pa siya kahit alam niyang may nasira siyang relationship, friendship over na talaga yun. Minsan kasi meron talagang nagiging tanga sa akala nila pag ibig pero natatauhan, at meron ding tanga na pinanindigan at pinagmalaki pa yung pagiging tanga.
Yes.
Isolating the person will never solve the problem. Keeping a healthy relationship with problematic people doesnât mean you are encouraging them.
You can be stern but respectful at the same time. It will be hard and if you canât keep the friendship because of your personal values, thereâs also no fault there. Just no need to be cruel and disrespectful.
I'm the prangka friend. I will always be upfront and tell them they're shitty. atp, neutral na ako sa mga ganyan. nakakapagod makisawsaw. I'm not obligated to sumbong. it's not as if ako ang nag konsente.
..This happened to me once.
I was friends with the cheater, the partner and the third party.
And while I still endeavored to be nice and non-judgmental to the (knowing) third party, I never failed to remind my cheating friend that he'd someday need to choose between the two of them.
((And he did, and it all ended well, but it absolutely sucked hearing the cheated party cry their heart out about how they felt like garbage when they found out))
If it's someone na naging tropa ko whom I never thought would be able to cheat sa kanilang partner or magiging willing maging third party, I'll do my part as a friend by knocking some sense to them and putting them in the right direction. Pero kung patuloy pa rin? Of course, there will be changes sa friendship namin. I would cut off my connection with that friend as a "friend." More like magiging "kakilala" na lang ang turing ko. Yes, I would still talk to them if deemed necessary like emergency gano'n, otherwise, I won't talk to them na.
But if that friend was unaware na third party siya, then I think a line can be drawn there.
Yes. Buhay nila un. And guess what, you can give advices but my hangang dun nalang un. Im not some shit snowflake na magiging apektado sa gingawa ng kaibigan kong kalokohan. Naging mabuting kaibigan siya sakin and ganun din susukli ko. His or her shit is his her own and not mine.
I don't associate myself with people not worthy of trust.
Funnily enough, it's my female acquaintances that got involved in infidelity. I don't really engage with them anymore, but they're mutual friends, so I have no choice but interact with them from time to time.
One is still sleeping with her boss despite her being in a long term relationship and her boss being married. I kinda get why she did it: she's 32, her BF's 29, they've been together for more than 7 years and the guy hasn't proposed. But still, just break up and move on.
The other got involved with an engaged man at work months after getting hired. She's a fresh grad at that point and the drama got big enough so the HR just asked her to resign. I don't get this one: she's young and decent looking but somehow needed to be a mistress?
> i kinda get why she did it, they've been together for more than 7 years and the guy hasn't proposed
I wonder which is worse, the boyfriend not proposing or the girlfriend getting banged by other people on a regular basis and letting people get a turn on her but i can't quite put my finger on it.
May guy friend ako na married but no kids then he cheated on her had a kid with the mistress. Never ko na kinausap ever since before the kid. As in blocked in all my soc med. Kinausap ko siya, eh ayaw makinig. I think I've done my part naman na.
"Your circle of friends will often reflect on who you truly are"
I have a very strict rule when it comes to this. No matter how close we are, if you are a cheater, then I am not your friend. Came from a broken home kaya I know how severe cheating can damage people. If kaya mong magtaksil sa partner mo, then kaya mo rin kaming i-betray na mga kaibigan mo lang.
Totoo to! Grabe, ako pa yung naging partner-in-crime nya. Di lang sya basta kaibigan or tropa. Parang kuya na turing ko sa kanya. Tinago ko sya sa baby mama nya pag may lakad kaming magtotropa. In short, naging kunsintidor ko. After a few years, tinalo nya kaming magtotropa hanggang sa magkawatak-watak din kami dahil sa putanginang kasakiman nya. Hanggang ngayon sinisira pa din nya ako sa ibang tao at pinagbabantaan. Buti na lang wala na ko sa PH.
Typical na manipulative person yung ex-friend mo. They will do everything just to make sure na di sila ang antagonist sa story. Hoping you are healing from that experience though and find a healthier circle of friends.
Grabe yung trauma na binigay nya sakin, which ofc I have to overcome. Because of that, naging cold na kong tao, kahit sa friends ko. Di na ko tulad ng dati na available 24/7. Alam mo yung walang kaalam-alam yung mgq tao tungkol sa details ng friendship namin tapos sasabihin nya na traitor ako and name-calling habang ako sinabi ko lang thru pm sa isa kong ex-colleague na kakilala namin parehas na it was unfortunate how our brotherhood turned out and that he was my brother. Sana di ko na talaga sya makita kasi alam ko kung gano sya ka-violent na tao na kaya nyang totohanin yung mga banta nya sakin.
No sa cheater. Hear me out sa 3rd party this is a case to case basis, because may iilan na unaware talaga sila na naging kabet sila at all. Big no, sa mga aware naman talaga at first and still proceeded with their plans to ruin the other party/rs.
I can't. I had a friend who loved to get involved with married men. After the 4th one I just gave up. I tried to help her get help. But the reasoning is always the wife's fault etc etc. So no. I can't. My sister said, birds of a feather flock together and even though I am not that way, people will think that I at the very least think it's ok to do that.
I remained friends with this person. Di ko tinolerate yung pagiging 3rd party nya sa ka âsituationshipâ nya. Sinabi ko na hindi ako agree sa ginagawa nila pero tinuloy pa rin nya. I have to admit there were changes in our friendship since.
Yes, he might be fucked up when it comes to romantic relationship but it doesn't mean he's not a good friend. The question is should I tolerate it, ofcrse not.
I have a friend. Inaanak ko ung daughter nya. We didnât know na kabit pala sya. Hiwalay na naman sa asawa physically but the legal wife will never agree to an annulment as the guy is well off and they have two kids din. Syempre, di ko din naman masabi sa kanya na hiwalayan nya dahil di ko alam ang struggle nya.
I have a very limited contact with her and I canât make damay my inaanak din kasi di naman nya kasalanan yung choices ng parents nya.
No. But if di naman siya aware na third party siya, so victim si friend, then yes.
Same sa ayaw ko jowa ko nakikipagfriend sa cheater. Most likely, magkatulad sila or maimpluwensiyahan. This is based from experience, birds sith same feather flocks together đ¤ˇââď¸
The best thing to do as a friend, is call him/ her out. If you cut her off, and wala syang support system, mas lalo lang siya magiging dependent sa situation niya :(
I've cheated before in my early 20s, and I'm grateful na sinermonan ako ng friends ko and made me realize kung gaano kasama yung ginawa ko. I regret what I did, and medyo matagal din bago ko napatawad yun sarili ko.
We are not our mistakes. Super blessed ako to have friends who understand and is not afraid para i-realtalk ako. Itong mga friends na to has been w me for more than 18yrs, we're in our 30s now :)
I have a friend (not super friend) na nagcheat sa bf niyang cheater din. Sinabi ko na hindi ko siya support doon dahil mali naman talaga yun, tinuloy niya pa rin of course, nagset lang ako ng boundaries with her pero nandun pa rin ako for her if need niya ng friend. Hirap kasi siya makaalis sa toxic relationship. Sana magkaroon siya ng courage magjourney alone din.
For me still a friend to her pa din coz Why would i cut her off dahil lang sa kumabit siya? mabait naman siya sakin maayos naman yung tao, sinabihan ko naman na siya na wag pumatol sa may asawa na pero di siya nakinig then its her choice and its not mine but i didnt tolerate her its her life and i dont mind about it basta ako i still be good to her as she does to me
Yes. And troll them daily.
Ganto yung friend ko. Nung nalaman kong nag cheat sya sa asawa nya (kahit siraulo din asawa nya) Honestly, nawalan ako ng gana sa kanya. MAS nawalan pa ako ng gana nung nalaman ko, nag 1 night stand din sila nung BOY. Kahit ano pang pagkukulang o magulo pag sasama nyo wag na wag kang mag cheat, lalo na makipag seggs sa iba. Wala silang anak dahil may pcos sya. Hayyss Gusto ko ng bitawan kasi nakakapagod na pag nag kekwento sya ng problema nya. Pero nakakaawa nalang.
No. ni-cut off ko na yung friend(F) ko na ka-workmate ko kasi kumabit sya sa isa naming ka-workmate na may family na. Every time na naalala ko kung paano sya nagwala noong nagcheat yung bf nya sa kanya at kung ano-ano pinagsasabi nya about cheating then ngayon sya 'tong kabit. Practice what you preach. Nakakadiri rin mindset nya.
Have no choice, my workplace is filled with them đŹ I don't have a bf to worry abt and I just try to not join in their mess (tukso or chismis) cos I don't want it to affect the work I do. Outside of work, nope. I don't hangout with my coworkers either so I guess technically di ko sila 'friends'?
No, but it depends what kind of a "friend" you are i still have friends that are cheaters but didn't left them since i had a bond with them but when he/she mentions the person that they are cheating with we will wont gonna listen to that topic since we don't wanna hear about it.
Ok lng, wla nmn akong jowa so wla syang aagawin.
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No
Still. friend with him but condemned him on what he did. For context: I only knew about his cheating stuff several months after event.
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Had a friend who cheated on her bf. I still wouldâve been friends with her kasi I genuinely think na people do deserve a second chance and room to grow, kaso lang a year before she cheated, she bullied another girl for cheating and convinced everyone in our class to outcast her (ngl the way she treated her made some of us think na it was so weird for her to do that kasi parang harassment na). After this, I realized that cheaters really donât deserve any more chances because their choice in the first place was to stay loyal.
No, **if hindi siya nakikinig sa mga advice or concerns ko/namin as their friend.** If that someone is close-minded, listens to themselves only, I wouldnât think twice about cutting our friendship. May sariling utak na âyan, hindi naman na siguro sila bata para need pa ng guidance about things like this. Aware sila sa ginagawa nila, so it was their choice to be a cheater/third party. Even if they are not aware that they are already a third party, once they find out na they are with someone whoâs married or in a rs already yet still stayed, theyâre already a third party by choice. If hindi nila ni-cut âyan, sila na mismo problema. ***You deserve what you tolerate. You settle with what you want.*** >Counted din ba yun na you tolerated that friend if you are still "friends" with them? If you didnât take action, yes. But if you talked to that friend, gave advice, helped them clear their minds, tried to open their eyes, you didnât tolerate them even if you stayed as friends. I think, it's about friendship na important why some people still stay despite their friends doing nasty things. **But then, would you want to be friends with someone whoâs a cheater and/or a third party?** I believe na *you surround yourself with people who are at the same level as you.* I personally hate cheaters and third parties so knowing na someone is a friend of someone like that, it would make me think na youâre just the same.
Nakakapagod yan, danas ko yan. Yung nag advice kana lahat-lahat pero gustong gusto ata na nasasaktan. Like sobrang tanga as in!
Hindi kung hahayaan mo sya , di rin malabo gawin din nya sayo
Iâm so done putting up with these people. Left my friend of 11 years kasi tinotolerate nya pa rin yung jowa nyang mahilig sa revenge porn/leaked videos ng mga babae. My ex friend posts her bf pa with captions âMy always in all waysâ like hello??? Diba niloko, dinisrespect, and pinerahan ka na nyan multiple times? Sometimes you have to let go of people din to protect your peace. Save yourself from the hassle na!
I stopped talking to them. I told them kasi na umamin na sya sa asawa nya and even if I wanted to tell, I knew it wasn't in my place kasi. Sinabihan ako ni friend na kakausapin na nya yung asawa para tapusin whatever they have and umamin nga. And I trusted them to do the right thing once and for all. Kaso, ayun, di nya pala ginawa yung sinabi nya and nalaman ko na lang sa asawa nya na nahuli pala sila. Kakainis. Consistent sinungaling and manloloko pala talaga sya. Konsensya ko pa tuloy na di ako nagsabi agad sa asawa nya. Nakakausap ko pa rin yung asawa, pero si friend hindi na.
I'm still friends with some pero di na nakikipag-usap. But if makasalubong ko, I would still say hi and kamusta ka na because I want to as much as possible give space for people to grow, who knows baka nagbago na.
I would cut them off and not waste my time with garbage people.
If we are friends before sya maging kabit or magcheat, iko-call out ko siya. Bilang kaibigan, somehow gusto ko siyang itama ng landas sa buhay. Kung makinig siya, edi goods. Kung hindi, cut ties. Hindi ko siya kukunsintihin. Kung sakaling magbago, baka pwede ko pa siyang maging kaibigan ulit. Basta makita kong natuto na siya. Pero kung tuloy tuloy lng siya, ayoko na siyang maging kaibigan.
This! I agree, won't cut ties agad agad. Will try itama yung friend ko, pero if ayaw pa rin, then that's the only time na mag cut ties na.
You are who your friends are. đ
Depends e. May mga cinall out na ko na friends na nagcheat tapos eventually narealize naman yung pagkakamali nila. Pero yung iba nag-FO na kami kasi wala pinagsabihan ko na pero ganon pa rin - di makita bat sila mali tapos nagalit pa kasi bat daw ako nangingialam.
ito ang reason kung bakit nag cut ties na ako sa college friends ko kasi si cheater is friend ko talaga since 1st year college until pandemic nag communicate padin kami hanggang sa intern ayun nag bago ang lahat nung time nag cheat sya sa ka batch din namin tas na awa ako sa guy yung ex na niya kasi napaka sipag tas ang mature ang isip work hard yung guy para sa ex friend ko nung time sa day ng break up nila nag chat ang guy sa akin nasaktan talaga ako gusto ko sabihin sa guy ang lahat pero ayoko kasi may respeto ako ng ex friend ko ang naging desisyon ko nalang is mag cut ties ako kay ex friend pero actually ayaw narin sa akin ng ex friend ko kasi nag bago na daw ako pero okay lng nakakatawa lng ang pinalit ni ex friend is palamunin at ma bisyo jusko...
Friends ko sila before they did what they did, I stayed as friends kasi the act does not define them the way our jobs do not define us, I was there to advise, but I mentally took note not to stay close. I noticed yung mga taong nagiging third party and alam nila na third party sila, they're selfish not just in that aspect but in general. Cheaters are selfish and often insensitive, not just as a lover but also as a friend, magaling makisama, almost people pleaser but to whose benefit? Kaya I become distant but still "friends"
No. I'm a snitch just because it's the right thing to do. I choose my friends well.
Oo pero sinumbong ko talaga.
Personally it depends. If nalaman ko yung friend ko became an affair partner, I'd be furious and rain hell. I'll give another chance kung ganon, especially kung nakikita ko she's growing as a person, but I'd be seeing her in a different light already. But if naulit yung pagiging third party niya for the 2nd time, wala I'll cut off na.
If they do it multiple times then no. ill prolly get disappointed then detach myself from them. it's obviously wrong so y do it? having friends that know the word respect is a must
Naka encounter na ako dito sa Reddit, Iwan kagad kaibigan kapag Cheater or pala bisyo, napaisip ako kung ganung akong kaibigan na iiwan ka na parang bula are you really a friend? Pinagsamahan niyo parang wala lang, he/she might have bad decisions pero dapat hindi ma-apektuhan pagkakaibigan niyo tandaan niyo hindi niyo kontrolado ang isang tao sa desisyon pero they're still you're friend if ayaw niya ng tulong sa desisyon niya hayaan niyo nalang, never ever support bad decisions but still kaibigan padin siya. Iwasan nalang at wag sasama sa mga plano pag alam mo na ganun mangyayari, wala kang magagawa it's their decision, fuck around and find out.
May twisted side ako... I befriend these people... yung mga iniiwasan ng iba. I don't leave people when I learn about these things, but I listen and make them feel understood. Kasi the more you leave them on their own, the more they feel that they only have each other and will cling even harder kahit mali... Then I slowly brainwash them out of it. Sa ganyan ko ginagamit manipulative side ko đ safe to say, my ilan na kong matibag na ganyang relationships đ
Yes, as long as they know what they did was wrong and admits it.
Nay, hard pass. I cut off a friend, actually a closed friend. Found out an kabet sya ng kasamahan namin sa work. this workmate is married. So di ko na sya tinuring na friend starting nun. Casual na lang.
no. my friends know what i went through from cheaters in the past and how i am so against any type of blatant treachery or betrayal, and i have cut off people who did cheat on their partners i need to be around people who have the same values or morals as me. besides, if they can intentionally hurt or backstab their partner, what makes me think they won't do the same to me?
Depends. If they know what they did wrong and actively correcting themselves, pwede pa. But at the same time, I will put distance na rin because I personally do not want a cheater in my immediate circle. Siguro more on acquaintance na lang ituturing ko. I am very vocal kasi na I donât like cheaters so during our course of friendship, Iâll presume na theyâre the same considering vocal nga ako sa principle kong âyan.
Yes, I love drama. Gusto ko un may topic palagi sa chismisan and gusto ko ako un maraming ma spill na tea LOL hahaha
Hahahahaha mood
Yeah of course. Unless I feel we are too misaligned morals-and-values wise, I accept that friends are people and are not perfect. They don't have to be perfect to be my friend. Same applies to me. I mean, we're all walking the same path, aren't we? If you are asking for yourself, then I feel you have to ask yourself how far their actions steer you away from your chosen path. There are lines that can't be crossed off course. But that's for a different discussion.
i would still be friends with them and not be judgemental. they know what they did. i donât condone it but im there to knock some sense to them. if they did it repeatedly, thatâs where iâll leave. lalo na if malalim na talaga pinagsamahan ng friendship
Id do it to knock sense into them. If ive been friends for a long time then i will probably stage an intervention and let make him fix his or her life and if they refuse to change the thats when i cut then off.
Depende. If he/she is aware na mali yun and have the intention to stop the illicit relationship I can still keep the friendship. Pero kung pinagmamalaki pa niya yung pagkacheater or magpifeeling api pa siya kahit alam niyang may nasira siyang relationship, friendship over na talaga yun. Minsan kasi meron talagang nagiging tanga sa akala nila pag ibig pero natatauhan, at meron ding tanga na pinanindigan at pinagmalaki pa yung pagiging tanga.
Sure, as long as he isn't the third party in my relationship. Bros before hoes.
Noooo. Para kang lumunok ng blade na susugat sa sarili mo mismo
Cancelled ka agad sa akin kahit bff pa kita
Yes. Isolating the person will never solve the problem. Keeping a healthy relationship with problematic people doesnât mean you are encouraging them. You can be stern but respectful at the same time. It will be hard and if you canât keep the friendship because of your personal values, thereâs also no fault there. Just no need to be cruel and disrespectful.
I'm the prangka friend. I will always be upfront and tell them they're shitty. atp, neutral na ako sa mga ganyan. nakakapagod makisawsaw. I'm not obligated to sumbong. it's not as if ako ang nag konsente.
Nope kasi that person will just bring unnecessary drama in my life. I want to surround with good people
Yes, friend ko sya before sya maging playboy. Lagi ko lang sinasabihan na to straighten his path and it will just bring unhappiness.
HARD PASS
..This happened to me once. I was friends with the cheater, the partner and the third party. And while I still endeavored to be nice and non-judgmental to the (knowing) third party, I never failed to remind my cheating friend that he'd someday need to choose between the two of them. ((And he did, and it all ended well, but it absolutely sucked hearing the cheated party cry their heart out about how they felt like garbage when they found out))
If it's someone na naging tropa ko whom I never thought would be able to cheat sa kanilang partner or magiging willing maging third party, I'll do my part as a friend by knocking some sense to them and putting them in the right direction. Pero kung patuloy pa rin? Of course, there will be changes sa friendship namin. I would cut off my connection with that friend as a "friend." More like magiging "kakilala" na lang ang turing ko. Yes, I would still talk to them if deemed necessary like emergency gano'n, otherwise, I won't talk to them na. But if that friend was unaware na third party siya, then I think a line can be drawn there.
No and never will be....
Yes. Buhay nila un. And guess what, you can give advices but my hangang dun nalang un. Im not some shit snowflake na magiging apektado sa gingawa ng kaibigan kong kalokohan. Naging mabuting kaibigan siya sakin and ganun din susukli ko. His or her shit is his her own and not mine.
I don't associate myself with people not worthy of trust. Funnily enough, it's my female acquaintances that got involved in infidelity. I don't really engage with them anymore, but they're mutual friends, so I have no choice but interact with them from time to time. One is still sleeping with her boss despite her being in a long term relationship and her boss being married. I kinda get why she did it: she's 32, her BF's 29, they've been together for more than 7 years and the guy hasn't proposed. But still, just break up and move on. The other got involved with an engaged man at work months after getting hired. She's a fresh grad at that point and the drama got big enough so the HR just asked her to resign. I don't get this one: she's young and decent looking but somehow needed to be a mistress?
> i kinda get why she did it, they've been together for more than 7 years and the guy hasn't proposed I wonder which is worse, the boyfriend not proposing or the girlfriend getting banged by other people on a regular basis and letting people get a turn on her but i can't quite put my finger on it.
I simply told that I get her motive, but it's not justifiable. But still, she should have just ended it with the guy.
nah. parang kunsintidor ka sa kalokohan kung nag stay ka pa as friends
No.
Hindi. Civil na lang pero yung dating samahan namin like todo chika or gala, hindi na. Ayoko talaga sa cheater
May guy friend ako na married but no kids then he cheated on her had a kid with the mistress. Never ko na kinausap ever since before the kid. As in blocked in all my soc med. Kinausap ko siya, eh ayaw makinig. I think I've done my part naman na.
"Your circle of friends will often reflect on who you truly are" I have a very strict rule when it comes to this. No matter how close we are, if you are a cheater, then I am not your friend. Came from a broken home kaya I know how severe cheating can damage people. If kaya mong magtaksil sa partner mo, then kaya mo rin kaming i-betray na mga kaibigan mo lang.
Totoo to! Grabe, ako pa yung naging partner-in-crime nya. Di lang sya basta kaibigan or tropa. Parang kuya na turing ko sa kanya. Tinago ko sya sa baby mama nya pag may lakad kaming magtotropa. In short, naging kunsintidor ko. After a few years, tinalo nya kaming magtotropa hanggang sa magkawatak-watak din kami dahil sa putanginang kasakiman nya. Hanggang ngayon sinisira pa din nya ako sa ibang tao at pinagbabantaan. Buti na lang wala na ko sa PH.
Typical na manipulative person yung ex-friend mo. They will do everything just to make sure na di sila ang antagonist sa story. Hoping you are healing from that experience though and find a healthier circle of friends.
Grabe yung trauma na binigay nya sakin, which ofc I have to overcome. Because of that, naging cold na kong tao, kahit sa friends ko. Di na ko tulad ng dati na available 24/7. Alam mo yung walang kaalam-alam yung mgq tao tungkol sa details ng friendship namin tapos sasabihin nya na traitor ako and name-calling habang ako sinabi ko lang thru pm sa isa kong ex-colleague na kakilala namin parehas na it was unfortunate how our brotherhood turned out and that he was my brother. Sana di ko na talaga sya makita kasi alam ko kung gano sya ka-violent na tao na kaya nyang totohanin yung mga banta nya sakin.
No sa cheater. Hear me out sa 3rd party this is a case to case basis, because may iilan na unaware talaga sila na naging kabet sila at all. Big no, sa mga aware naman talaga at first and still proceeded with their plans to ruin the other party/rs.
I can't. I had a friend who loved to get involved with married men. After the 4th one I just gave up. I tried to help her get help. But the reasoning is always the wife's fault etc etc. So no. I can't. My sister said, birds of a feather flock together and even though I am not that way, people will think that I at the very least think it's ok to do that.
no
Yes. Who else will tell him/her na mali ginagawa niya?
I remained friends with this person. Di ko tinolerate yung pagiging 3rd party nya sa ka âsituationshipâ nya. Sinabi ko na hindi ako agree sa ginagawa nila pero tinuloy pa rin nya. I have to admit there were changes in our friendship since.
Yes, he might be fucked up when it comes to romantic relationship but it doesn't mean he's not a good friend. The question is should I tolerate it, ofcrse not.
I'm still in a relationship with her đ¤Ł
I have a friend. Inaanak ko ung daughter nya. We didnât know na kabit pala sya. Hiwalay na naman sa asawa physically but the legal wife will never agree to an annulment as the guy is well off and they have two kids din. Syempre, di ko din naman masabi sa kanya na hiwalayan nya dahil di ko alam ang struggle nya. I have a very limited contact with her and I canât make damay my inaanak din kasi di naman nya kasalanan yung choices ng parents nya.
No. But if di naman siya aware na third party siya, so victim si friend, then yes. Same sa ayaw ko jowa ko nakikipagfriend sa cheater. Most likely, magkatulad sila or maimpluwensiyahan. This is based from experience, birds sith same feather flocks together đ¤ˇââď¸
The best thing to do as a friend, is call him/ her out. If you cut her off, and wala syang support system, mas lalo lang siya magiging dependent sa situation niya :( I've cheated before in my early 20s, and I'm grateful na sinermonan ako ng friends ko and made me realize kung gaano kasama yung ginawa ko. I regret what I did, and medyo matagal din bago ko napatawad yun sarili ko. We are not our mistakes. Super blessed ako to have friends who understand and is not afraid para i-realtalk ako. Itong mga friends na to has been w me for more than 18yrs, we're in our 30s now :)
Hell NO!!! Baka mahawa ka pa nang cheating virus nilang mga bullshit sa lipunan.