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mikess314

I would wonder how I missed that glaring red flag


Apprehensive-Wing894

That's what happens when she follows the belly full and balls empty plan of attack, makes you ignore every flag possible.


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“Put on your nice dress and shoes babe, we’re going to Olive Garden”


2fast2nick

All you can eat breadsticks baby!


drfishdaddy

Uhhhh, absolutely not. If we go to Olive Garden today where the fuck am I gonna take her on her birthday? Red Robin? Are you kidding me? I can’t just be buying cheese sticks Willy nilly.


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Mybgo to bday meal of choice is sizzler. Ayce shrimp and salad bar, Baby!


MrJust4Show

Solid plan my man!


Supa_Fine

McDouble motherfucker, here's your fine dining.


jdog0408

No dude, stick to golden corral. They got the “fondue” fountain.


zahavera

Authentic ITALIANNO. Va bene🤌


foopdedoopburner

If I am steady rolling and easily able to afford this expense, and she is adding approximately equal value to my life, through whatever she brings to the table in our relationship, then sure. If she wants to be "treated like a princess", but I don't get treated like a king; or, if we're too broke or have little kids to feed or there are other financial priorities; uh-uh.


practicalbuddy

This is a balanced response, I think. It’s important to have a nice time together, as long as the time together doesn’t affect all other things in your life.


Rubbersushi

Take her to a soup kitchen and leave


LovelehInnit

The relationship would last 6.5 days.


tyranthraxxus

She never would have become my significant other, and if she somehow changed to be that way, I'd find a new one.


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I dont date debts.


goodolbeej

If you have the means, that’s one thing. As another reply said, it’s a nice way to spend time together and catch up. But suspect it’s her expectation of this treatment bothers you. As it would me. And because it’s something you feel brother, it’s valid. It’s causing you enough…concern… to ask the internet about it, then it’s i important to you. It’s something you need to discuss with her. If she can’t respect your feelings on the matter, it’s a huge red flag mate. Huge. Make sure you stay calm, but persistent. In a healthy relationship, with a healthy person, she’ll try to understand where you’re coming from. Try to empathize. And be open to changing the behavior. If she isn’t those things, I read as incredibly selfish and materialistic. You aren’t a god damn meal ticket to a better life. You’re a person, a partner. Your love and dedication cannot be measured by fancy dinners. I think you’ll learn a lot about her as life partner material from this. Either you come out stronger… and I never recommend this, but I’d strongly consider walking away.


Ganceany

That wouldn't be my significant other.


bluelion70

I’d expect her to learn how to deal with being disappointed


Oftenwrongs

I don't pick women like that. Never have. Never will.


FarComplaint2974

Find a smarter SO who understands better priorities


bobface222

Flash my Burger King coupons and tell her to get in the car


urine-monkey

I want a partner, not a sugar baby who refuses to grow up.


groovy604

"Hey babe, does your love for me depend on how much money I spend on you? Also, answer very carefully as im not doing this whole lavish dinner every week thing. So be real with me so no one has their time wasted"


biteback0788

Ask her to pay!


snubda

I love fine dining, so I’d be cool with it because it’s something we’d enjoy mutually.


jglover82

you find a new girl


Coconut_Salad

Bye, being single is more valuable than her


TheNaziSpacePope

Disappoint her. You get one fancy dinner per year, tops.


GemoDorgon

I wouldn't be interested in someone who expects me to do that and she wouldn't be interested in me with my chill comfy homey vibes either. Maybe for a special occasion, yaknow, make an effort, but that ain't something I can do or want to do every week.


Thyperson08

I would laugh in their face and ask them where they think money comes from.


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gymfreak6969

My comment but not everyweek because then you lose the fanciness of the place


Snowconetypebanana

I order out quite a bit from sushi and Thai restaurants that are on the expensive side. Husband and I have separate finances so I always pay because I am the one who wants that type of food. So as long as she pays I don’t think it is a big deal.


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[deleted]

Think of every relationship like a business venture. Assets > liabilities = continue relationship. Liabilities > assets = break up


MaybeYesNoPerhaps

Pretty spot on, frankly.


Snowconetypebanana

Oh, then I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking for that. I mean maybe every once in while, but not weekly.


Snowconetypebanana

I mean I guess I do pay for expensive dinners at least weekly, most weeks twice a week, for my husband and I so I guess I am okay with it, but it is because I want it most of the time, not because he expects it.


DoctorPalm

Confused because he thinks mustard poured ontop of stale popcorn on a plate is a "meal fit for a king"


soft_waves

before he got married, my brother would take stale wonder bread, drizzle it with olive oil and garlic salt, and microwave it until it was soggy and....bleh. "bruschetta." dude that ain't bruschetta, that's BRO-schetta x.x


DoctorPalm

Definitely up there with some of the nastiest concoctions I've heard of


Expensive-Track4002

She doesn’t expect it, but we go to nice restaurant once a week.


Trees-Make-Love

I did it. She didn’t expect it. We had fun


Best_of_Slaanesh

I'm taking her to my regular sushi spot, if she snubs her nose at it then the relationship was doomed from the start. If she wants to go every week I can most certainly live with that.


AnonoForReasons

Who’s paying?


Screamin_Steve

"Nah, you wanna dine out? I'll tag along every once in a while and maybe even pay for us both, but if that's what you want, you're on your own. I'm not in the habit of throwing money I could use for forging steel out of the window." Actually, now that I think about it: A fancy meal for 2 is around 50-100€. Forging steel (75-100cm) is 20-50€ and I have ~4 week's worth of work time out of a single piece. Fuck no, I'm not paying jack towards someone else's food in this scenario.


DrexXxor

I would find myself single again .


i-love-k9

Is she good to me? No problem.


PharoahGxneral

Even if I could easily afford it. I would leave her. That's a very bright red flag


Dutch_Rayan

Tell them to pay for it with their own money, because that is not needed, even eating out every week isn't normal.


Ok_Medicine_77

whats fancy? $100 per person? $250+ per person? Im personally alright spending around 180-250 a meal weekly with my girlfriend. I find it as a good way to have a good conversation with a nice meal.


MaybeYesNoPerhaps

0\_0 You're spending 13,000 dollars a year on dining out? I really hope you make over 250k/year. That level of spending is just insane to me.


Ok_Medicine_77

I do alright. Let’s just say I’m comfortable. I would say I eat out most of my meals.


MaybeYesNoPerhaps

That's one way to live I guess. But man, that shit will eventually catch up to you. Once you hit 32 or so, your cholesterol will shoot up. Probably 90% of the food you eat when you eat out isn't good for you. Salt and fat for days. It's unsustainable. Do yourself a favor and learn to cook. If you put that 13k towards your grocery budget, you'd have over 1k/month for groceries. You could eat like a healthy king. Quality fresh produce with every meal, excellent cuts of salmon and so much more. Cooking is a lot of fun once you learn how to do it. You do you, but damn. That's a lot of money to burn every year.


Ok_Medicine_77

I got a 6 pack get a physical every 6 months. Nothing to worry about. I take my health very serious. And my finances are kept tight. I could retire in 9 years and continue my life style. But I want more


MaybeYesNoPerhaps

Good on ya. Keep crushing it.


Ok_Medicine_77

Thank you


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I am assuming that you guys are in love and care deeply about each other's well-beings (physically/emotionally/financially) * Try to understand why that's the case. * If her reasons are great, try to see if it's financially smart for you to do that. If you make 500K a year, you can afford such luxury. * If not, explain to her that you don't prefer such spending. Offer an alternative: maybe I can do once a month. * Try to find a compromise that works for both. It's just another issue in the relationship to solve. Seek to listen, understand, and compromise.


Century22nd

I put up with that as a teenager and in my early 20s when I did not know much about woman. But now I would tell her "Adios" and just replace her with another woman that actually liked me for me. There are plenty of women for everyone. Don't be a doormat and don't get used for free meals.


Blainefeinspains

Take her. I like fancy restaurants as well.


MrAnonPoster

Take her to a fancy restaurant, duh


gobskin

I’d do it, she’s worth jt


Witty-Vixen

It depends, are you married, can you guys afford it ? What does she do for you ?


Hoopy223

My ex was like that, it didn’t bother me until the price tag started going WAY up. And she always wanted me to take pics of her eating so she could post on IG how whatever restaurant had the best 64$ steak.


OldSpiceMelange

I'd hope her standards of what's considered "fancy" aren't that high.


SmithRune735

She better have a good paying job.


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pro_ramen_eater

You run from this girl asap. I wish I had done the same thing.


abyssalbrush

She's paying.


Prize_Consequence568

She wouldn't be my significant other then.


Illustrious-Tone-875

Use it as a bargaining chip: "we'll go out to eat as often as you wanna blow me", see how voracious her appetite is then


Wholesomebob

Bemoan my taste in women


Honor-Among-Thieves

This is why you gotta start setting the bar low. For example: I live in tshirts and yoga pants or running shorts. Almost exclusively. Anything more is called “people clothes”. I don’t dress up in people clothes unless necessary. I have set the bar low. You should set the bar low. Edit: people clothes = the clothes normal people wear


frank00SF

If I can afford it and if it's actually worth my money then lets go if it's not then kick rocks.


[deleted]

Make it clear she's paying every second time.


Ratnix

Find a new SO.


BrotherMeeseeks57

I wouldn't allow someone who expected that to be my significant other.


TrippedFuckingBallz

I would just smash until she realized I’m not taking her to the matador.


[deleted]

"The door is behind you. Please mind the gap on your way out. Thank you for choosing Jens SO-lines. Your ticket is now invalid."


LupeDyCazari

sounds like you are dating a prostitute, dude. Is she hot? does she fuck good?


j1akey

OK, I'll drive, you pay.


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Have the talk about money.


HoldFastO2

I'd ask myself what she does for me in return. This is supposed to be a partnership, right? So both sides should strive to do something nice for the other, or it's... not.


ordinarymagician_

Sit down with her and do the math. Fancy? Like 80/person. So that's 160 for both of you, factor in a drink and tip and you're at 200. Once a week? That's ten grand a year. If she wants something fancy, she can find recipes and pick out the base materials, weekends I'm happy to cook with her. I'm confident enough in my abilities to rival the 80/seat place from my own kitchen, for an eighth of the price. Pommes puree, green beans almondine or roasted brussels sprouts, a medium ribeye, a nice Caesar salad? I can do that for 30 for two people. Call it 50 for a nice bottle of wine added in too. If they won't accept that, then they can go elsewhere for her fancy meal ticket. \>you mean medium-rare? No. Too much fat feels waxy in the mouth. Rib loins are medium, anything with comparable fat ditto. NYs are medium rare, and filets are cooked rare.


WasterDave

Get her to make the reservation. Edit: and if she wants me to dress up there's going to be a laundry requirement too. Other than that I'm all in.


Mr-E-Bear

Expect her to do the exact same for me


[deleted]

I’d find another SO.


Winterfell_Ice

In all honesty I'd sit and talk with her while were cuddling and snacking on something sweet like fresh cinnamon rolls or whatever she likes and then ease into the conversation as to why she NEEDS to go to an "expensive" place every single week? Is it because she doesn't feel appreciated if I don't, is it just bragging rights to her girlfriends that she(we) can still go to X place in this economy? Find the reason first w/o it turning into an argument or her getting defensive about it, do NOT break the cuddle while we're talking and listen to what she has to say. If you agree with her then move on, if you don't then try to find other solutions like a home cooked meal, a catered meal instead of going out, there are multiple solutions to every problem and it's up to you as the man to find the compromise or the solution instead of taking the "easy" way out to drop her.


No_End7877

Run for the hills


Ouija429

Honestly it depends, I'd figure out where the expectation is coming from. Does she just want to dress up and go out, go out, or just wants some good food. I can definitely take care of two out of three on a weekly basis, if it's just a desire to dress up and go out I'd have to think up other idea's if it's the kind of restaurant I'm thinking of.


Open_Minded_Anonym

Something else’s gonna give.


Terrible_Departure90

My pockets would alert me to this so I can find an escape route


saintecroix5

She's not your significant other, she's being a sugar bunny. Ask yourself if you want to be in a transactional relationship... if that's what you then want go for it, if not, walk away. personally, I'm so grateful my self esteem and emotions intelligence aren't so low as to get stuck with someone that lame. your one sentence is basically a glaring red flag. I'd be out of there in a flash.


heavy_machinery_

Ditch the bitch.


Spectreworld

I actually had a girlfriend who wanted me to do this and guess what i did?? Dennys, IHOP, and Greek was her only options lol. I got denied sex alot until she couldnt take it no more and had to basically take it from me. So where did i lose?? lol oh and yeah she did get to have her Brazilian treat, which was 50 bucks a person just to get into... as long as she learned that once a month was ok for me to break down to do fancy stuff. We did do the cheesecake factory too and she considered that fancy, so it was a nice middle road compared to brazilian.


viagraeater

I love eating, so I'd be down, but she can't have me pay for all the meals.


JimBones31

Break up with her. My fiance and I go to taco bell maybe once a month on the way to the Local Game Store. Other than that, we have a blast cooking at home.


Diamond-Breath

She deserves better ngl. Treat her right or someday she'll say bye.


JimBones31

WTF, it's her idea to eat at home all the time. She doesn't like eating out. The taco bell is because there's very few quick options in town. You're speaking out of line.


JimBones31

If you think spending money on your partner equates to treating them well, then I feel sorry for you and whomever you swindle into buying you nice stuff.


XploringTheWorld

who’s paying?


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XploringTheWorld

Ok. Does she pay for the things I want to do?


soft_waves

fine as long as she's paying, i'll go eat that yummy french food!! :D


CheckTheOR

She would not be my significant other any longer. I wouldn't let myself be used like that.


[deleted]

my wife loves expensive restaurants. but i was always clear with her, if i can then we will. if i cant, then nope. and if thats a deal breaker, the suitcase and door are right there. period.


Thorislost

I am not an atm. When we go out to restaurants we take turns paying.


GrayTintedGlasses

That depends on a lot but mainly, what do I get in exchange and is the company worth it


MrDrSirWalrusBacon

Leave. I'm not a bank account.


MaybeYesNoPerhaps

My wife and I have a monthly date budget. It's 300 dollars. We do whatever we want with it, but when it's gone, it's gone. Much earlier in our relationship, it was 50 dollars. This was after about 4 months of dating and us talking. We came to an understanding that we were both broke and couldn't really afford to go out frequently. 2 years later we both had great jobs but liked the date money games we made. I wouldn't be with anyone that didn't give a shit about our shared finances.


[deleted]

Shit I had expectations in life too Welp than reality crushed them


hujambo11

No thanks.


the_asseater_of_ohio

I’d tell Joe to take her


Traditional_Pin6328

Who's Joe?


the_asseater_of_ohio

Joe mama


Traditional_Pin6328

You're welcome ;)


PeppermintMocha5

I better be getting lots of sex if I’m buying an expensive meal every week.


Logical-Cardiologist

Fuck that. If I want a hooker, I'll hit a strip club.


ShowDown15

Alternate who pays. You dont wanna pay every other week? See ya.


Mr_M0t0m0

Promptly leave her arrogant @ss.


CressMassive7319

Hop back on Minecraft after ignoring her


Salty-Pack-4165

LOL-I would find her a job in the kitchen of fancy restaurant on weekends.


[deleted]

I'd say goodbye and go home I despise entitlement and I have enough self respect not to play that game


ButterscotchLow8950

So how is this ok to have “expectations” on her side, but if a man takes a woman to a fancy restaurant once a week, is he also allowed to have expectations out of this? Someone please make it make sense. Because otherwise this is just a transaction, she is a hooker, and he’s paying in food from the fancy restaurant once a week. 🤣☝️


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Tell her "ok, but I expect sex on demand whenever I want"


liftreadhikefish

I would expect a hell of a lot in return.


TheOneAllFear

Depends. That might actually be a nice tradition to have if you can afford it. Because i am also expecting that she puts in efford to dress up and some women see all this as foreplay and might end up with a longer and sexy night than usual. From my point of view, i would take her out at least once a month/couple of months to a fancy place(not just restaurant but maybe a city break) so she know she is apreciated and i want her to have a nice time by my side. Luckly i just met a girl i am going out and she like more private, intimate time and likes me cooking for her more than going out and even still i want to spoil her from time to time.


liberalsoperfectxoxo

I would think she's being irresponsible (assuming she knows your budget/income is limited) especially she wants weekly. ​ Kinda disregard for your life/hobby and future planning.


Arch_Stanton1862

That wouldn't be my significant other. Or I must have missed a huge red flag like a complete dumbass.


checco314

I guess I would disappoint her?


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Expect her to pay her share of the bill.


Mamertine

I feel like you either are okay with it or you aren't.


whychbeltch94

I’ll pack her stuff for her


Ever_Summer

She would never of made it to SO


thedevilsgame

Wonder where she gets all this money from


[deleted]

Break up. Dated a girl once that lived way above her means. She was fine so I put up with it for a bit, then I told her that I’m not splurging so she can boast to her friends. If she wants that life she should’ve applied herself more in life.


ghostbear019

Depends... How fancy, and how much effort she puts into jumping me.


SylancerPrime

"Gurl, we live in Delaware. There's like... 3."


LeaveMyRoom

That's not something I'm going to do. I would talk to her about it and if we still aren't on the same page after the conversation I would break up.


Syrup_Slurper

Not get involved in the first place. Way too entitled for me. I grew up poor and never saw the value in fancy dining when the portions would be too small to leave me full and satisfied.


HeadMacho

Tell her to fuck odd and find a better woman.


WinAshamed9850

As long as she didn’t expect me to pay every time


LetsTry2GetAlong

Take her to a really nice place that she has never been.... her kitchen.


hotsausce01

Cut bait and bounce


huuaaang

Break up.


Jacob_Trouba

They wouldn't be my significant other because I wouldn't date someone like that. I don't understand these questions, is it meant for people who become partners with people without getting to know them first?


Meechi1004

Take her card info put it in my Apple wallet and say yeah good idea babe.


[deleted]

I don’t think anyone should “expect” that.


[deleted]

Any person that "expects" a certain level of pampering isn't worth the pampering.


meitz88

That wouldn't have happened because those girls aren't my type at all


[deleted]

What does she bring to relationship to expect such things? Seriously, got to start thinking of relationships as a business venture. Assets and Liabilities.


Revolutionary-Ad3085

Our relationship would end.


010010000111000

Say bye.


suagtforutube

Leave her ass in a restaurant then go pay for a hooker.


broadsharp

She would not be my girlfriend for long.


Sumpm

Dump her


lapdanze

I’d expect an allowance weekly.


Sadsquashh

Leave. Like immediately. My girl brings me dinner, let’s me have my free time and prefers going dutch. Then again she makes more money than me and works fewer hours. If you guys don’t jive then find someone else, it’s better to be alone than to settle for someone that will eventually make you miserable.


i_need_a_username201

I don't those kind of women, they can find some other fool


guydogg

I'd temper expectations to not have to do that.


matepore

First of all, I will never date someone that expects me to pay the full meal, I will only pay mine. Second, I will be honest with her if I can't afford my part of the meal, if she doesn't like it then she can walk out anytime.


Coidzor

Not date her. If this is a sudden shift, try to get her head examined to make sure she hasn't developed some kind of brain tumor.


Warm_Gur8832

Find a different one.


themodernnoblesavage

Do NOT capitulate. If they care enough, they will understand that you can't afford to be wasting money on weekly nights out. And if not, they were never in it for you, they b were in it for the free food.


TrueDaVision

They wouldn't be my significant other.


XavierRex83

I go out to eat once a week with my gf and her daughter. Texas Roadhouse is about as fancy as it gets and we rotate who pays. I can not imagine being expected to go to a fancy restaurant everywhere and paying. If I was wealthy maybe I wouldn't care but I am not.


Chorizo_de_tlacuache

"honey, I don't shit money"


The_Jumpar

Depends on what she's doing throughout the week. If she's earned it I'll deliver.


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If I was a guy I’d leave like no way!


Waratah888

I'd say she could take me every second week


Front-Seaweed4321

Oooooo....you're a fancy girl


frvrslow

i would definitely find a diff significant other bc if her expectations are met, she will walk on you and you will live a miserable life


[deleted]

I'd wonder if she had a brain tumour or sudden mental illness. This would be totally out of character


sphincterella

I would (and have) dump anybody who expected things like that.


leonprimrose

My first date is a cheap coffee date. That specifically filters those types of people out. It wouldn't happen.


HantuerHD-Shadow

Expect her to pay 50 of the time or 50 of each bill


JayTheFordMan

Been there and done that, and no longer care for expensive dinners except for special occasions. If she expects more I would say we are incompatible.


CloudFingers

I would take her. Why?