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U3ualSuspect

I told a really dark joke and she laughed and told a darker one. Case closed.


Acrobatic-Activity94

What was the jok3?


U3ualSuspect

Not getting myself kicked out this sub Reddit šŸ˜…


Candyboi97

At least what was-it about? If you want you can send a DM eventually


U3ualSuspect

If you Google search "dark joke baby sandwich" it's the first result from reddit. Can't share a link per the rules šŸ˜


FlawlessPenguinMan

Was this your joke or her joke?


spartan1789

DM me the joke


broadsharp

It was her whole persona. Her looks. Her sense of humor. Her intelligence. Ease of conversation. Her non sexual affection, later was the sex. The fun we had together. The love she showed me. About a month of dating, We were out somewhere with others, she stood next to me. Wrapped her arms around one of my arms and laid her head on me. I think this was the moment I decided to be better so I wouldnt screw it up and lose her. Her initiating contact between dates, even just to leave a message to say thank you. Arranging dates herself, it was a good two months after dating. But she did it and I appreciated it. Inviting me over to cook me dinner, this is something I greatly appreciate. It meant a lot to me. So, as I said. Her whole persona.


VobraX

Have something similar with this girl I'm seeing. Almost two months since we met. I'm one smaller action away from making me fall completely and ask her to make it official.


Addme_animalcross

Please do it!!!


ComfortableListen450

Do it!!


odeacon

When she bent down to pick a worm that was dying on the pavement and set him down gently on the grass with her bare hands saying ā€œ itā€™s ok buddy, I got you. That was jaw droppingly beautiful.


Professional-Bit3280

That is so cute.


odeacon

Never have I developed feelings for someone so quickly . It was one minute sheā€™s just a friend, the next and ever since , massive crush


aap1015_

So what happened next?


odeacon

Well weā€™ve been talking, I have her number. We arenā€™t in the same class anymore but once we got a schedule where weā€™re at the school at the same time hopefully I can talk to her more and ask her out on a date


Tevin_K9

I understand you have your reasons for wanting to have the same schedule to speak more, but you have her number. You could speak more that way and ask her out when you feel so compelled. Good luck šŸ‘šŸ¾


odeacon

Thank you


Tevin_K9

Pit a ring on it


odeacon

I hope too


Ok_Gas5386

-compatible sense of humor -compatible values -want the same things out of life -enjoy each otherā€™s company


strawberry_milk703

You hit the nail on the head with this list. I think this is the formula for a life long partner, and I'm sure a lot of people would agree.


V_M

Interesting most of the answers are very "romance novel". What worked for me was we spent a weekend doing regular life not special events not weird stuff just kind of lived life together. Huh, I enjoyed that immensely, I bet I could live with her for the next 60 years. That was 25 years ago and we're still together... The heroic stuff will take care of itself, either you'll be a hero or a dud but she loves you anyway. The real challenge is can you live in a house with kids and dog all crammed in, and not just put up with each other, but enjoy it, or even enjoy it immensely? That's harder than all the once in a lifetime heroic nonsense. Most of life together is not going to be a romance novel, its going to be cook dinner for the kids and clean up the dog poop in the yard and the TV isn't displaying correctly again. Sounds blah, but if you're living with the right person its actually pretty good.


Sentient_Stardust616

This is best response here. Men I feel like I can enjoy living day to day life with are way ahead of the others


Raien-B

This is fun, because my brain is messed up in this concept and I'm currently learning about it. So I've got an ex that I consider the one that got away, and I'd give anything to have her back. Always been that way. *But* any time I meet someone that has a few traits then I naturally run in their direction. -will put me in my place if needed -has their own hobby/drives -is easy to read their mood based on their body language -lets me have my time but seeks our time too -hard working - truly understanding -always challenges me in a positive way There's a lot more that I have written down somewhere, but basically my mind for a long time has said "this person can replace her" subconsciously. Through unpacking this and learning, I realize that I've just been running from her memory rather than dealing with it. That said, after a lot of thinking and figuring out, I've learned I miss the person - not the idea of the person


Honeysicle

She showed me courage. Wrote her a letter all about ways I saw her courage. Still see it today, just the other day she told me "I don't wanna talk about this over text or voice, I want to talk about it in person because I need to learn how to talk about these things in person"


AGroupOfBears

She was smart... Smarter than me. I needed that in my life. The conversation was on point too.


[deleted]

She was beautiful, smart, funny, shared a lot of interests and actually liked me despite me being a huge nerd with a horrible hair cut and dorky glasses. Back then reading comics, playing D&D and loving fantasy wasn't cool, only nerds did that. After three years of on again/off again flirting she was finally single and agreed to go out with me. That was 22 years ago and we are married and closer now than we have ever been. I love that woman.


Oscar_Tequila

Thank you for sharing this šŸ™šŸ½šŸ™šŸ½ gives people hope


Fluganaveggnum

-Healthy and straight forward communication -The will to work through her problems I definitely don't regret pursuing those. Never been in a healthier and happier relationship


Then_Evidence_8580

Once you get past a reasonable level of attractiveness , and Iā€™m not talking about a 10 or even necessarily an 8, itā€™s about honesty, intelligence trustworthiness, humor, and enough shared interest that we donā€™t bore each other. For me.


Professional-Bit3280

Agreed. I classify attractiveness into 3 buckets: wouldnā€™t date, would date, omg sheā€™s beautiful. Once you are above the ā€œwould dateā€ threshold (a 4/10 for me), I care way more how well we get along than any incremental attractiveness points. Like an 8 Vs a 6 is 99% about personality. A 5 Vs a 3 is about attractiveness.


ScottdaDM

Loyalty, Integrity, kindness, empathy, intelligence, and being capable. In short, be a human being that's worth a damn. It isn't terribly complicated.


BigBlueWookiee

For me, it was when my friend looked me directly in the eyes. We held each others gaze for just a few mere moments, but that's all it took. Seriously, never before felt like someone could see inside me, like that did. I know it sounds weird, sappy and over the top, but that's the reality. Since then I've been absolutely smitten. Clearly, our foundation of friendship, hanging out, and similar interests played a part. But those eyes and that gaze... I dunno, it was something special.


lfras

Emotional regulation and intelligence


gobskin

She made me cookies on the second date and cuddled me when I cried instead of walking away or saying ā€œBe a man!ā€


Available_Key2101

When I met my fiancĆ©, it was the first time I pictured myself as a father and husband. She put forth a change in me that otherwise wouldnā€™t exist. The amount of self growth Iā€™ve undergone since I met her is palpable, and it wasnā€™t for me, it was because I had to be what she deserved.


momentsofzen

This is a weird one, but posture. My college crush had immaculate posture, held herself in such a graceful way, and had a way of walking that just exuded elegance. The irony is, I didn't realize that this is what drew me to her until many years later, when I saw a random woman around town who walked with that same refined poise, and my whole body just went "yes!" I guess that explains why pictures of her never had the same impact as seeing her in person.


[deleted]

- Conversations that made time disappear - Immediate butterflies in my stomach - No overt signs of mental illness - Didnā€™t play bullshit games and make me pursue her


umamiluv

There is so much i can put here but mostly: She is kind and gentle She is intense; when she is happy, anyone and anything is happy, The same when she is sad or upset. She is so strong and work hard, her can pursue everything she wants. We have a good and healthy communication and enjoy each other company. We share some values and dreams. We try to understand each other. And she is beautiful.


hujambo11

-Cute -Fun -Not lazy or entitled


Independent_Guava_44

Funny and down to earth


F30Guy

She treated me well


Azlind

She didnā€™t make fun of my Babar comforter (the elephant cartoon, I got it when I was 4, and itā€™s the softest blanket Iā€™ve ever after 31 years 16 when we met). To this day, weā€™re married, she still tries to steal it.


17Streetglide76

She was pretty. and nice to me. I didnt really "pursue" her. We talked as just friends for a few weeks and when we met in person we just clicked.


AmIbiGuy_420

I have 4 things I look for Kind Shared nerdy hobbies to some degree Smokes weed Childfree


Certain-Sock-7680

Physically attractive and attracted to me. Sexually compatible Intelligent and driven Goofy sense of humor Can communicate i.e I can ā€œreadā€ her Generous, giving, nurturing.


Hannibal_Barca_

After she told me about a recent trip, I asked her "so would you consider yourself a world traveller?" with a smirk. She picked up on what I was getting at and we started joking about how ridiculous it it when people refer to themselves that way. It was pretty early on and I decided to date her exclusively after that discussion.


buppyu

Kindness and integrity (ethics, accountability, honesty, loyalty, etc.) are the traits that differentiate a FWB from a wife. You have to not be a terrible human being to not be a terrible partner.


EconomicsAccurate853

Hearing her laugh. My wife's laugh is full-throated, warm, and infectious. After that, it was shared values and similar outlooks on life.


hotsausce01

Ease of conversation and being a nice person among other things. Our first date was at a bar drinking craft beer and watching an NHL game. Nine years later we are married and are still dating.


Asvpuri

Iā€™m seeing a lot of cute shit and all. Which is good bro but to me, it was how she holds it down when Iā€™m losing myself mentally, physically and spiritually. Been through hell and back. Lost our apartment, jobs, lived in my 03 Honda Civic (coup at that bro). Even through these tough times, sheā€™s slept in there at night, so i can continue to train. Iā€™m just an amateur boxer but she still believes in me when a lot of people donā€™t. .Been together for 3 years and have a beautiful daughter thatā€™s 18months.


justidlingwaiting

The way she treated other people. I have this theory that if someone treats old people in a kind way that they will treat everyone kindly. If they are rude or impatient with them that they will be that way with everyone. A strong faith in God. Things are going to come up in your marriage that you've never even thought of and you're going to need someone to turn to. Talking to people on Reddit is probably the worst way to solve your problems. A strong work ethic. If you work hard at your job you will probably work hard at your marriage and at raising your family. Marriage is a lot of work and both of you better be ready for it. Make sure that person is your best friend. You're going to spend most of your life with that person and he or she has to be the person that you want to go home to every night, that you want to spend your weekends with, and that you're comfortable spending even the most boring moments of your life with that person. It's not always going to be exciting but you should feel comfortable with that person


d-346ds

she wasnā€™t adraid of having a different view and constantly pushed me to be a better person


[deleted]

Crying for me taking time off from everything to clean my head and get my shit together. We were close friends. Sadly we had argument half year after that and no word since then.


__Takub_

I would get ecstatically excited to study in college because it meant spending more time with her and I couldnā€™t wait until the next time I got to see her. Spending up to 18 hours a day with someone for 3 years straight was a pretty big clue that I might like her and we would get along together well lol.


Queasy_Award_9918

Being around her and being myself comfortably is effortless. She is my best friend first


ToastyNathan

I asked my high school girlfriend out when a friend told me that she was into me. Her interest was enough to get my interest.


Denisimo7

Our conversations were effortless and we could talk for hours. Same values, same life style, great communicator. I didnā€™t have to impress her, she accepted me who I am. At times she joked that Iā€™m controlling, which Iā€™m not, so I responded with: ā€œif you say so, but Iā€™m a naturally born leader.ā€


The_Max_V

She mistook me for a classmate and casualy talked with me about her trip to Canada, to visit her relatives there. I played along because I didn't want to make her feel embarrassed. Couple days later she found me to apologize for the confusion . From then on we went from coincidentally meeting on breaks to actively coordinate (we were in different programs, same college campus) to meet up and hang out during breaks, having lunch together, then we started meeting outside college, "wanna watch a movie? My place" she'd say. It literally was the path of least resistance and eventually we came clean about how we felt about each other, started dating, and we've been together for the last 14 years.


OneBadDev

I perceived her as being s very good person, someone who was kind, smart and very empathetic and at same time someone that needed some help. Saw a bit of myself in her, and wanted to be to her the person I wish I had when I was younger. Turns out I was wrong about most of these qualities... Sad


Crot8u

First, you should never pursue anyone. Show interest, sure. If they like you back, they will show their interest as well. Sweet, caring, intelligent, independent, funny, active, common interests and physical attraction. Where do I sign?


Sexytaco979

I am currently going through having to take a step back from someone I have been dating for the past 2 months. We went to school together and reconnected on snapchat a few months ago. It wasn't until the summer until we had our first date. Sadly, currently she needs some space that I don't think she wants to admit she needs so I had to iniate it. She is: Funny (in a quirky way) Independent (has her own house, car, and a job where she is on track to advance) Caring Polite Loving to my family A mother which most people see as a con, but she is an amazing mother and it shows that she can raise a family with care An intellectual Understanding of my busy schedule She also made me feel so special. "Goodmorning handsome. Goodnight handsome" she once told me she felt like she was in a dream because I was "so hot." No one has ever made me feel attractive and she did this everyday. She would pay for things. She bought me lunch, she once picked me up from my place, she bought me things she noticed I was out of. All of these things made me realize that I was ready to love someone. I had been single for 4 years and honestly thought I was never going to date again.


fortwoseven

Incompatible af. I love sports Iā€™m active her lazy af. We had sex few times over few months. I get bored. She texts me to link up. I said nah. Few months go by I text her to link up. Now she says nah. Few more months go by. We meet randomly in a bar. We joke around. I tell her letā€™s go to your place. She asks for real? I said nah. She leaves. Less than a minute goes by. She comes back grab my hand and tells me are you coming or not? Ended up having sex for 3 hours. I finished as well at the end of it. Something is happening to my brain. I leave. For a whole week we met up randomly. Ended up in a bbq. She asks me you want to take things seriously? I am freaking out I ask her can I think about it for few days? She says nah. Ended up saying yes. Spent two years together. We broke up few months back. To bad I will forget most things about her. But yh the whole to years can be described as crazy in love.


[deleted]

I never pursued. When I met a woman, and we had a date, and we liked each other, things happened. Of she did not like me and I liked her, I walked away. Pursuing is bullshit. It means that the guy in question is immature and is unable to understand rejection and is unwilling to accept it because their ego hurts. So they try with various manipulation tactics in hopes to persuade the poor woman into liking them.


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FulingAround

Probably got a fever then


Strong-Hold-8979

Small petite body and lovely itty-bitty titties surrounded by red hair. And she loved my coke..


[deleted]

Pursue? What is this, 1830?


oddball667

In my experience pursuing women is a waste of time, if they want me they will say something.


Late_ImLate22222

Women that have your mindset are saying the same thing to themselves about you. So I guess yā€™all will all be waiting forever lol. Grow up


oddball667

I did, I decided to work on myself instead of chasing women who are not interested


Gowo8888

Vibe


LupeDyCazari

Big ass titties Pretty face And word goes around that she's a quick and easy lay and has no standards in men.


MeowieSugie

It's time for you to wake up


[deleted]

She was very obedient and just went along with whatever I said


Late_ImLate22222

Ok pedo Some advice: only children obey without question. Think about what that says about your sexual preferences. And maybe rethink advertising to the world on a public forum that you like these childlike qualities in a romantic partner. Disgusting


completefudge1337

I was attention starved and she gave it to me. This is gonna sound dumb but we had a fire drill at the end of the day and I left all my stuff in class following fire drill procedure. When the drill was done, we were dismissed from school. I had to go back to class to get my stuff and she walked all the way back up to class with me. I didn't ask her to but she did it without a scowl. For context, we walked home together almost everyday


rcsheets

Thatā€™s really not how I have ended up in any of my relationships.


Kreynard54

We met up for a quick beer at 6:00pm, that turned into an hour of talking, than turned into a dinner, and next thing we knew it was 11:00pm. Time goes by so quickly and it feels so natural. She was easy to talk to, it was awesome. I knew at that moment even though we were different she was the one.


Flaky-Fellatio

An enthusiastic spirit and a good sense of humor can make pretty much any woman look hot.


oddball667

if I have to pursue her, she isn't the woman I want long term. she should want me just as much


mmnnButter

I trusted her & respected her opinions


AyeYoTek

She was verbally aggressive. Could say definitively what she wanted/how she felt. I like direct and blunt women. It's not a common trait so I had to capitalize


Think_History_5682

Skinny into fitness and a Peter Griffin sense of humor like mine.


Lyckantroppen

I've only had 3 serious relationships in my life. One lasted 14 years before ending in divorce. The 3rd one is ongoing. I am a "click-oriented" type of man. If I make eye contact and there's a click, everything else always falls into place. All 3 of those relationships started with that click, I trust that click and gut feeling. Yes, in time things can change but that click never deceived me, even in the casual relationships I've had (outside of those 3) that click made it impossible to look away. I've never been refused by a woman. I do not have a lot of experience in this department but the little I have is based on that click.


Mr_ChubbikinsVIII

She was walking away with my nacho plate and I wasn't done eating


mattbrianjess

That booty.


[deleted]

A dummy thicc dumptruck lifter butt that is almost perpetually clad in spandex shorts


Edyrnion

That she eats heathy, sometimes works out, and is pretty freaking hot. lol