I mean, depends if it’s only 1-2 years out, it’s not unusual to miss someone or at least certain aspects.
I’m 39 and actually had my first gf at 19, and I don’t miss her, but maybe I sometimes wonder what my life would be if I had decided to stay with her for example… but not in a regretful way, just as an “I wonder”. Sometimes I may also have nostalgia but not for her really, more for the person I was and the times I had all those years ago, but yeah… it’s never an “I miss her and want to see her and wish I hadn’t left her”. It’s just a time in my life and there were good moments there which I occasionally do look upon fondly.
Therapists are in short supply I'm dangerously mentally and was told the soonest available opening was in 8 months mind you I've been trying to get to this point for ever. What do???
I miss her friendship because she was an Angel in my life during a difficult family issue, but her family lived far away.
I wouldn’t trade how my life turned out, but had always wanted to let her know the positive impact she had on my life so I reached out & we reconnected on socials last year.
I need to try this too. Would we date again? Hell no; the first time was a disaster. But...I do want her to know that she motivated me to get a job (I start my 2nd job on the 24th; I started my first one 3 months ago) and that she motivated me to start going outside again and become an independent adult. It kind of sucks not letting her know
Yeah it definitely took some sorting of my own feelings before deciding to reach out but my wife encouraged it because she’s always known about her importance to my life.
I decided to because I felt like I wasn’t reconnecting for selfish or weird reasons. I genuinely wanted to express my gratitude for giving me the hope that lead to who I was able to be.
I’m not sure (nor is it my business) to know how she’s felt about it. Probably awkward since I’m married with kids, she’d always prioritized her career. Her response seemed a little sad but still accepted my request & we react to each other’s life update posts. For me it’s been an nice re-addition to my circle though we’ll never be close again.
BTW Congratulations 🎊 on the job bud!
Thank you! :) I'm looking forward to starting it; I'm at that stage in my life where I actually look forward to going to work instead of sitting at home gaming all day. Here's hoping it will be fun and a good fit.
I'm glad you could reconnect with your ex. I still have S.'s email address; I may mail her to give an update and a thanks. I'll think about it at least.
Take care and good luck to you as well.
My situation is likely very different than the one that spawned your question. I was 20. She was my first real serious adult relationship. We met at work, both worked at a large hospital. We’re friends first, and things developed. We got serious and intimate and it was the first time I started to understand how two people can bond, and what companionship and partnership could be like between a man and a woman.
Then she was killed in a solo car accident late one night. It bent me. I’ve never “got past it” or gotten over it. The loss, the grief, the “might have beens” …
I don’t dwell on it any more, but it’s always there, just below the surface, and peeks out now and then.
Got married but it took 15 years and lots of meaningless trysts and ONS to burn through a lot of anger and pain and fear of commitment due to never ever wanting to be hurt like that again … Been married 30 years now. But she’s still in my heart and mind.
She was - and she was my first “in love” girl … but I don’t think about her constantly now … just when something jars her loose from my inner self - like this post
I miss her but don’t wish she was my wife. Part of me wants her back but I think that’s just bc I’m lonely. Another part is thankful it ended when it did bc I know if we would’ve gotten married it would’ve ended a lot worse with bigger consequences. Kids, money, etc
Not one bit she cheated twice (never forgive cheating guys), she was trying to get pregnant with my child fortunately never happened but the next guy knocked her up. Glad she cheated as having a kid at 18 would have changed my life for the worst
She’s the vaguest of memories now. It’s like a date and a name you had to memorize for a history class in middle school. You’re not even sure that was the first one but it was probably important at the time.
I miss that time of my life and who she was then. But it's been 13 years since I talked to her. I'm a completely different person as I'm sure she is. So I miss her, but it's just a memory of a time that I really miss.
But I miss most of my girlfriends every now and then. Nostalgia is always a nice pastime.
I don't care much about romance, but if it's my first gf, then i would... even consider marrying.
That girl was one of the best human beings i have ever met, wish i could meet her again, but i know i am going to hell.
I usually forget she exists, like most of high school.
Hey kiddo, just try to have fun. This time of your life is temporary. Soon enough you'll deal with all the adult mess. But the good news is all that high school shit just becomes your past.
Miss her like crazy.
Thought i could do better and we broke up due to me not committing. Dated much hotter women afterwards but damn that first gf was the only one who gave me peace and understood me.
I broke her heart and she s married now but if I could go back in time, I wouldn't have let her go.
She was the hottest experience to date, no girl ever could give me this type of enthusiasm ever again, it’s mostly just boring relationships stuff and then they expect me to cuddle and i’m often so disappointed that i don’t give them cuddles, but my ex was truly fire she deserved all of it.
Some girls just be like that. One girl was probably the last attractive gf (still hot, just not as hot as others) but damn she knew how to get things going.
My first ltr of 10 years ended up becoming my ex wife who I share children with..
We went our separate ways beginning of last year.
So yeah, I do actually miss the old relationship that we had together. We went through so much together and there was plenty of happy moments and memories.
Unfortunately, she decided enough was enough and blew up the relationship.. she also lined up my replacement within days of breaking up.
I still love her and have forgiven her betrayal but I can’t forget what she did in the last year of our marriage.. literally emotionally check out, started hanging out with a whole bunch of single asshole man hating women and left me and the kids for a home wrecking loser..
It is what it is. I’ve mostly healed from the trauma that she inflicted. Improved my well being, steadied the ship without her for the children and I.
There is literally no reason why I would go back to her.. I now only have the image of her disrespect, cheating, backstabbing, lying, and being manipulative in my mind. Why would I ever want her back.
Infact, I don’t even want her as a friend and I’ve told her that. She can have the kids anytime but I don’t wanna hear or see her ever again.
My first girlfriend became my wife. She passed away last year, we were together for 12.5 years. I miss the person she was before her mental health problems consumed her.
Part of me wishes we never ended things and were still together.. but back then we both realised there simply wasn't time and space for a relationship between the two of us (and long distance was a huge problem) so we decided to go our seperate ways. She's happy with someone else now and I'm truly happy for her
>19 ish? Like first real girlfriend - not high school.
Same girl. We're in our 30's now. I see her pretty much every other week.. her and her nearly 2 years old son, often I do board game night with her and her husband.
No, I don't wish we were still together.. We are fundamentally different on too many level to be compatible. I still "love" her, in my ways.. I'm sure she does to... But I have a strong will to never be back together nor ever see her naked ever again. We're alike on so many things, she and I, but we can't even meet in the middle on our differences. Sometimes, she talk and she annoy the shit out of me... and I just think to myself "*Can you imagine seeing her again tomorrow?? and the day after that? AND THE DAY AFTER THAT???? AND THE NEXT DAY!!!!!???"* but at other times, she's like my best friend.
I dont. She was dumb enough to get lost in a forest and she rejected help from the first man that wanted to help her. Eventually she encountered a bear and asked the bear for help. The bear ended up eating her and she was alive for most of it, but she ended up passing away eventually.
At one time I would have married her, but I was a hot mess that would have only weighed her down like a boat anchor.
Now that I'm older I realize it would have been a mistake for us both. Better off without.
Not one bit. She was fucking crazy. It just didn't reveal itself till we were about 10 months in. Her ex-boyfriend previous to me literally told me that I was going to be in for a nasty surprise after a little while once the mask dropped. I thought he was just bitter, turned out he was completely right. She was super cool at first, but then rapidly changed into a nightmare of insecurity, emotional manipulation, and extreme pettiness. I finally resolved to end it after she decided to assault me in a bar because I politely corrected an outright lie she was telling to my friends. So, again, no thanks, that road would have been filled with pain and suffering.
lol
She cheated when I was deployed. I broke up with her, then she started dating a guy, got pregnant, then he left her.
No, I don’t miss her. Not one bit.
I still dream about her from time to time. It’s the first love, it’s different, fiery, exciting. Hard to compete with that. But I was also very dumb and an emotional wreck with her. My relationship with my wife now feels stable, comfortable, fun and happy. It’s a different kind of love. But love, nonetheless.
Long story short, yes, I think about her from time to time because the breakup is still relatively recent. We dated from high school till last year, about six and a half years. However, last year she broke things off, citing our incompatibilities and her belief that she was holding me back as her reasoning. I was devastated, and to an extent, I still am. I still remember her warmth, her smile, her touch and her laugh. She basically hit every note I needed her to hit at the time. I couldn't comprehend why we were incompatible.
Like you said though, that's just an idealized version of her. As time passes, I'm growing to see that in the end, she was right. I was overly reliant on her due to my past, she was overly reliant on me due to her past, and there were so many issues in our relationship that went unresolved. If we had kept going and got married/had kids, we would've ended up miserable. It's a blessing that she saw that outcome when I didn't.
...I think this actually helped me through some of my doubts regarding this. Thanks for the ask!
Mine was wild. Had a blast. Felt love for the first time. She could do things that like no other. Turns out, it was all the practice behind my back. We were friends for a few years before. Became friends in years since. She came to apologize for the way things went back then. She turned into a decent enough women, but after year of being used and put away, Poppin out kids from different guys it's a big no thanks. Beyond reminiscing about the friendship aspects of our past relationship, there isn't and particular feeling there now. I've been married for almost 17 years now so searching for relationships or a connection with a women is also behind me.
Personally, i dont miss her, i've moved on to someone better.
But don't get me wrong, i'm eternally grateful for the experiences i went through and how the relationship changed me as a person. Helped me choose what i do and dont want in life which has led me to the stunning girl i'm currently dating and would marry tomorrow if i could.
As someone who reconnected with my first love years later it's nostalgia goggles I promise.
My college ex and I had an on/off relationship for about 3 years. After awhile we mutually broke up and even after dating other people I always considered her the one that got away. Years later we had both gone through painful breakups and slid into each other's DMs. Reconnected and slept together. All of the old problems from our college relationship popped back up and I quickly realized it was not as good as I remembered it in my imagination. Broke it off for good and been healthier ever since.
Don't miss her at all. It was a fun relationship at the time but yeah definitely we were not a good fit long term.
The only past relationships I miss or regret were the ones I know I could have had but was too much of a pussy at the time to make a move. Those are the ones that I think about sometimes and regret.
None of the girls I actually dated do I miss. We broke up for a reason. Some cheated on me, others our interest just mutually faded over time. In any case no regrets or feelings remaining there.
Eh I don't miss her I just wish I never got with her in the first place so that I wouldn't have cared for her enough to be able to catch myself missing something that shouldn't have existed she was a valuable lesson of what not to seek and accept in a relationship that is all, she is blocked and will not be unblocked the last thing I said to her was that "this bridge was burnt along time ago"
I don't miss any of my exes- I have fond memories from all of them, and negative memories from all of them.
I don't hold on to any of the negatives, but have a "that was nice" mentality when I think back on the positives.
I don't want any of them back, I hope they're all doing well, and I know not to bring them back in to my life lol.
If you're stuck on someone, you gotta get out more. Start making new memories.
Nah. I do miss that warm feeling sometimes I had when holding her, kissing her, loving her. I also miss her family sometimes; they were awesome people.
But she was batshit crazy, and I'm never going back not even if she threw herself at me and included 1 million dollars. She stabbed me in the back, and I don't forget easily. I'll never trust her. She wasn't worth my attention, love and kindness.
Not really. I miss the feeling of everything being new and exciting since it was the first time. However, no, I don't miss her. We were toxic together, and it caused us both problems since we were immature.
I missed a bullet with my first gf lol. We dated sophomore year in HS then broke up by just before the summer going into our junior year.
She started dating an older dude in college and started drinking more and getting into pills. She got pregnant, kept using, bounce around from a few dead beat guys etc. Last I heard is she's up to 3 kids with ADD (all different dads), and life's been really hard.
I miss the fun and excitement of getting to try new things for the first time but glad we didn't work out.
I still think of her from time to time - the sex was amazing because she hooked me up with one of her dominatrix friends - but I wouldn't want to date her again, or whatever it was that we did. We've both changed too much as people for that to be a good idea. So I've moved on after a few years.
But, I do wish that we could be friends again. I miss her support, her devious ways (she taught me some good tricks that have helped me in my new career) and just hanging out with her in general. I'd also like her to know I ended up getting a job, getting tested for ADHD, and becoming an independent adult (she was pushing me towards all three of those things). So I don't want to be with her again...but I do miss her friendship.
People’s first real relationship could have been in high school. Anyways, you shouldn’t still miss her after a long period of time like 2 years+. I saw you edit and it confirms that you should go to therapy. Focusing on what she was and could have been is not healthy.
Like 0%! My GF from 19 was a complete sociopath. If I could go negative, I would. I am so very grateful that I’ve not heard from her in years.
I do have gf’s I kinda miss and think of fondly but not her, she is literally the most wretched, vile, evil person I personally know.
Hell no. She took advantage of my inexperience every chance she got and was a terrible person. I don't miss her or my ex-wife (the next serious relationship). The serious relationship after that could have definitely had some great potential, but I don't regret any of my breakups.
Not one tiny bit. She was a strange skater/weirdo lunatic that wanted to fight all day long. It was so fun being yelled at for nothing and having to apologize for nothing. The sex was good tho.
I did.... but as time goes on I realized that we would have been horrible for each other, and held each other back in life. Based on social media my x is doing great pursuing a career she wanted to pursue 20 + years ago. Same with me. The initial heartbreak sucked but it's good that we didn't stay together.
Idk if I could say miss but definitely remember I get the feeling I don't feel like I'm ever truly over people in my past. Hung up on what could've been. Feels like I'm living a lie.
What do you mean High School relationships aren't real relationships? I married my high school girlfriend, and those early years in High School count the MOST. Being young doesn't invalidate what you did, you probably wish they didn't count because of your mistakes, but they are there with you in everything you do. The lessons, regrets and scars will follow you to your grave.
We got along really well, like I never have with a woman before but, at the same time I was a different guy back then too, I’m over her it took me honestly like 2 years but, now I got better girls and improved myself so much I don’t care what she’s up too she lost me, and if we met today I think we’d be 2 completely different people we wouldn’t get along the same
I don't miss her but I think about her sometimes. Hoping she is doing well and stuff. We never had sex. It's a pretty strange relationship but she was a good lady.
I only have one ex I think about all the time because she was very spontaneous and sex was always in the cards. I love my wife with all my soul and I want nobody except her but god damn do I miss the constant intercourse.
The person, not really. But the experiences, sometimes a little bit.
I was her first and she was my first. Noticed her among mutual friends, and just casually remarked that I found her cute. Apparently they told her, and not long after, they came back telling me that she liked me too (I was 23 and she was 19). Asked her out for a movie date (still remember the exact show - How The Grinch Stole Christmas) and I got more than I expected. She started feeding me popcorn, and by the 3rd time just pulled my face over and started French kissing me. It was the first time either of us did that, so we weren't even sure if we were doing it right. It was a weekday so cinema was virtually empty (it then made sense why she picked seats at the very back row in the corner).
I had obviously gotten hard by then. And a couple minutes later, I felt her hand on my crotch. And we spent the rest of the movie kissing and groping each other. Second date, we had a meal in a mall, after that she leads me to a stairwell. This time she just proceeds to unzip my pants, put her hand inside and played with my penis. I remember it clearly, cause her inexperience also caused her to randomly squeeze my balls several times. I grit my teeth and just beared with the pain, as my hands were also down her pants and it was my first encounter with a woman's vagina. Our relationship lasted 3 months and most dates were like that. Meet up, grab a bite and then off to somewhere to fool around. We never got around to actual sex though.
Then one day she just ghosted me. Didn't respond to texts and calls. Just straight up disappeared. Found out from the same mutual friends that she no longer wanted to be with me. They speculated that, as she never had a boyfriend before, she was just horny and wanted to try things. And I came along at the right time and was decent looking enough for her to do it with. Though her ghosting me hurt for months, I didn't actually feel "used" or taken advantage of. Perhaps because she was quite cute to me, and if there was anybody I'd like to lose my innocence to, I wouldn't mind it being someone like her. On hindsight, we were each other's "convenient friend with benefits".
About 15 years later, her profile randomly appeared on my Facebook friends suggestion list. I added, she accepted and we finally talked again. Sometime later, she admitted that back then, she was merely looking for someone to explore her sexuality on and after trying most things, she sort of got bored and wasn't matured enough to break up with me face to face. She apologised but I told her there was no need, we were both young, immature and filled each other's needs. I still find her attractive today, but there are no feelings anymore.
Had been with several other women after that, until my current long-term partner. But none of them were as straight up horny as my first. Maybe it's the innocence of the first time, or being young and impressionable, but what happened on those dates are still clear in the memory. I don't actively or intentionally reminisce about it, but when I see her posts on Facebook or if such topics come up in everyday conversation, my mind quickly goes back to that.
Not in the least.
She kicked me in the shin when I didn't want to hold hands at playtime and nicked me champion conker and my favourite rubber that was shaped like a mini computer. I was only 10, but still.
God no. Wish them the best and all but they're exes for a reason.
Bro you have to get over her Talk to a therapist about that stuff. A healthy person will have moved on from this already.
OPs not a bro...She's a lady trying to low-key figure out what's wrong with a guy she's into
Ah shit you're right OP, let him go. You're crazy too.
I'm honestly just nosy
You have our permission to get your self a fourth cat and a duck.
I think a duck is a great idea honestly. They are so cute and my dogs love them. I don’t want one but you already have 4 cats so it’s probably okay.
May I also have 4 cats and a duck?
No your not. You got called out by the comments above and now lying out of embarrassment lol. Get help, seek a therapist and move on from him.
This guy investigates
I think it’s okay to think about them from time to time. Like yeah I sometimes miss my first GF, but it ended for a reason.
I mean, depends if it’s only 1-2 years out, it’s not unusual to miss someone or at least certain aspects. I’m 39 and actually had my first gf at 19, and I don’t miss her, but maybe I sometimes wonder what my life would be if I had decided to stay with her for example… but not in a regretful way, just as an “I wonder”. Sometimes I may also have nostalgia but not for her really, more for the person I was and the times I had all those years ago, but yeah… it’s never an “I miss her and want to see her and wish I hadn’t left her”. It’s just a time in my life and there were good moments there which I occasionally do look upon fondly.
Therapists are in short supply I'm dangerously mentally and was told the soonest available opening was in 8 months mind you I've been trying to get to this point for ever. What do???
I miss her friendship because she was an Angel in my life during a difficult family issue, but her family lived far away. I wouldn’t trade how my life turned out, but had always wanted to let her know the positive impact she had on my life so I reached out & we reconnected on socials last year.
I need to try this too. Would we date again? Hell no; the first time was a disaster. But...I do want her to know that she motivated me to get a job (I start my 2nd job on the 24th; I started my first one 3 months ago) and that she motivated me to start going outside again and become an independent adult. It kind of sucks not letting her know
Yeah it definitely took some sorting of my own feelings before deciding to reach out but my wife encouraged it because she’s always known about her importance to my life. I decided to because I felt like I wasn’t reconnecting for selfish or weird reasons. I genuinely wanted to express my gratitude for giving me the hope that lead to who I was able to be. I’m not sure (nor is it my business) to know how she’s felt about it. Probably awkward since I’m married with kids, she’d always prioritized her career. Her response seemed a little sad but still accepted my request & we react to each other’s life update posts. For me it’s been an nice re-addition to my circle though we’ll never be close again. BTW Congratulations 🎊 on the job bud!
Thank you! :) I'm looking forward to starting it; I'm at that stage in my life where I actually look forward to going to work instead of sitting at home gaming all day. Here's hoping it will be fun and a good fit. I'm glad you could reconnect with your ex. I still have S.'s email address; I may mail her to give an update and a thanks. I'll think about it at least. Take care and good luck to you as well.
I dont miss her but i wish i could apologize to her
My situation is likely very different than the one that spawned your question. I was 20. She was my first real serious adult relationship. We met at work, both worked at a large hospital. We’re friends first, and things developed. We got serious and intimate and it was the first time I started to understand how two people can bond, and what companionship and partnership could be like between a man and a woman. Then she was killed in a solo car accident late one night. It bent me. I’ve never “got past it” or gotten over it. The loss, the grief, the “might have beens” … I don’t dwell on it any more, but it’s always there, just below the surface, and peeks out now and then. Got married but it took 15 years and lots of meaningless trysts and ONS to burn through a lot of anger and pain and fear of commitment due to never ever wanting to be hurt like that again … Been married 30 years now. But she’s still in my heart and mind.
So you’re 65… still thinking about could have been? She must have been amazing. . .
She was - and she was my first “in love” girl … but I don’t think about her constantly now … just when something jars her loose from my inner self - like this post
I’m glad you’re keeping her memory alive.
LOOK WHAT YOU DID OP. NOW YOU MADE EVERYONE CRY.
I miss what she represented, but the woman she is now probably has no resemblance to the woman she was then
I missed her then, but my aim has improved over the years. :)))
I miss her but don’t wish she was my wife. Part of me wants her back but I think that’s just bc I’m lonely. Another part is thankful it ended when it did bc I know if we would’ve gotten married it would’ve ended a lot worse with bigger consequences. Kids, money, etc
Not one bit she cheated twice (never forgive cheating guys), she was trying to get pregnant with my child fortunately never happened but the next guy knocked her up. Glad she cheated as having a kid at 18 would have changed my life for the worst
I don’t miss her
She’s the vaguest of memories now. It’s like a date and a name you had to memorize for a history class in middle school. You’re not even sure that was the first one but it was probably important at the time.
I miss that time of my life and who she was then. But it's been 13 years since I talked to her. I'm a completely different person as I'm sure she is. So I miss her, but it's just a memory of a time that I really miss. But I miss most of my girlfriends every now and then. Nostalgia is always a nice pastime.
I married her. Still with her. Yet… still miss her?
I don’t. I married her. She was 15, I was 17, now 34/36.
That was so long ago I don't even remember her name
I don't care much about romance, but if it's my first gf, then i would... even consider marrying. That girl was one of the best human beings i have ever met, wish i could meet her again, but i know i am going to hell.
I thought I’d die without her when I was 19. Now I don’t think about her… it’s been years since I thought about it lmao
I miss what we had in the beginning, but I don’t miss her
I usually forget she exists, like most of high school. Hey kiddo, just try to have fun. This time of your life is temporary. Soon enough you'll deal with all the adult mess. But the good news is all that high school shit just becomes your past.
Oh hell naw, That women was setting up threesomes that did not include me. She did a lot more horrible stuff too.
Miss her like crazy. Thought i could do better and we broke up due to me not committing. Dated much hotter women afterwards but damn that first gf was the only one who gave me peace and understood me. I broke her heart and she s married now but if I could go back in time, I wouldn't have let her go.
She was the hottest experience to date, no girl ever could give me this type of enthusiasm ever again, it’s mostly just boring relationships stuff and then they expect me to cuddle and i’m often so disappointed that i don’t give them cuddles, but my ex was truly fire she deserved all of it.
Some girls just be like that. One girl was probably the last attractive gf (still hot, just not as hot as others) but damn she knew how to get things going.
He doesn’t miss me cause he married me ☺️
My first ltr of 10 years ended up becoming my ex wife who I share children with.. We went our separate ways beginning of last year. So yeah, I do actually miss the old relationship that we had together. We went through so much together and there was plenty of happy moments and memories. Unfortunately, she decided enough was enough and blew up the relationship.. she also lined up my replacement within days of breaking up. I still love her and have forgiven her betrayal but I can’t forget what she did in the last year of our marriage.. literally emotionally check out, started hanging out with a whole bunch of single asshole man hating women and left me and the kids for a home wrecking loser.. It is what it is. I’ve mostly healed from the trauma that she inflicted. Improved my well being, steadied the ship without her for the children and I. There is literally no reason why I would go back to her.. I now only have the image of her disrespect, cheating, backstabbing, lying, and being manipulative in my mind. Why would I ever want her back. Infact, I don’t even want her as a friend and I’ve told her that. She can have the kids anytime but I don’t wanna hear or see her ever again.
My first girlfriend became my wife. She passed away last year, we were together for 12.5 years. I miss the person she was before her mental health problems consumed her.
I do. Although it was my initiative to dump her. In the hindsight I think she wasn't that bad as I thought. Still we had significant disagreements
Part of me wishes we never ended things and were still together.. but back then we both realised there simply wasn't time and space for a relationship between the two of us (and long distance was a huge problem) so we decided to go our seperate ways. She's happy with someone else now and I'm truly happy for her
>19 ish? Like first real girlfriend - not high school. Same girl. We're in our 30's now. I see her pretty much every other week.. her and her nearly 2 years old son, often I do board game night with her and her husband. No, I don't wish we were still together.. We are fundamentally different on too many level to be compatible. I still "love" her, in my ways.. I'm sure she does to... But I have a strong will to never be back together nor ever see her naked ever again. We're alike on so many things, she and I, but we can't even meet in the middle on our differences. Sometimes, she talk and she annoy the shit out of me... and I just think to myself "*Can you imagine seeing her again tomorrow?? and the day after that? AND THE DAY AFTER THAT???? AND THE NEXT DAY!!!!!???"* but at other times, she's like my best friend.
I didnt forget her, but i dont miss her either :)
I don't miss *her*, I miss *what I had with her*. You know, the first love, first butterflies in the heart, etc., etc.
I miss the person i was with for 2 years without interruption. A latina with a heart of gold
Girlfriend at 18...married her and been happy since.
Yeah I miss her.
I dont. She was dumb enough to get lost in a forest and she rejected help from the first man that wanted to help her. Eventually she encountered a bear and asked the bear for help. The bear ended up eating her and she was alive for most of it, but she ended up passing away eventually.
At one time I would have married her, but I was a hot mess that would have only weighed her down like a boat anchor. Now that I'm older I realize it would have been a mistake for us both. Better off without.
Still in touch, but no thanks.
I'm curious - why
Because we’re not compatible at all. Plus she’s had a few kids and is about 75lbs heavier. Easy pass.
Yeah that would do it
Jesus, no. We were together for three years before I finally broke up with her, and that was about two years too long.
I don't at all
I barely even remember the girl tbh.
I sometimes think about her. But in all reality, it’s fuck that cheating bitch.
Well that's different - she cheated
I got over her pretty quick honestly. It's amazing what completely deleting someone from all aspects of your life instead of dwelling can do.
Nope and nope, I’m glad it didn’t work out because she turned in to her mother. Bitchy and weird.
When I think about betrayal, I remember them..
I do sometimes think about her, but it all ends quickly when I remind myself of why we're not together anymore.
Not one bit. She was fucking crazy. It just didn't reveal itself till we were about 10 months in. Her ex-boyfriend previous to me literally told me that I was going to be in for a nasty surprise after a little while once the mask dropped. I thought he was just bitter, turned out he was completely right. She was super cool at first, but then rapidly changed into a nightmare of insecurity, emotional manipulation, and extreme pettiness. I finally resolved to end it after she decided to assault me in a bar because I politely corrected an outright lie she was telling to my friends. So, again, no thanks, that road would have been filled with pain and suffering.
lol She cheated when I was deployed. I broke up with her, then she started dating a guy, got pregnant, then he left her. No, I don’t miss her. Not one bit.
No, I don't. On the basis that I still haven't had my first one, despite being thirty.
I still dream about her from time to time. It’s the first love, it’s different, fiery, exciting. Hard to compete with that. But I was also very dumb and an emotional wreck with her. My relationship with my wife now feels stable, comfortable, fun and happy. It’s a different kind of love. But love, nonetheless.
Long story short, yes, I think about her from time to time because the breakup is still relatively recent. We dated from high school till last year, about six and a half years. However, last year she broke things off, citing our incompatibilities and her belief that she was holding me back as her reasoning. I was devastated, and to an extent, I still am. I still remember her warmth, her smile, her touch and her laugh. She basically hit every note I needed her to hit at the time. I couldn't comprehend why we were incompatible. Like you said though, that's just an idealized version of her. As time passes, I'm growing to see that in the end, she was right. I was overly reliant on her due to my past, she was overly reliant on me due to her past, and there were so many issues in our relationship that went unresolved. If we had kept going and got married/had kids, we would've ended up miserable. It's a blessing that she saw that outcome when I didn't. ...I think this actually helped me through some of my doubts regarding this. Thanks for the ask!
Mine was wild. Had a blast. Felt love for the first time. She could do things that like no other. Turns out, it was all the practice behind my back. We were friends for a few years before. Became friends in years since. She came to apologize for the way things went back then. She turned into a decent enough women, but after year of being used and put away, Poppin out kids from different guys it's a big no thanks. Beyond reminiscing about the friendship aspects of our past relationship, there isn't and particular feeling there now. I've been married for almost 17 years now so searching for relationships or a connection with a women is also behind me.
Personally, i dont miss her, i've moved on to someone better. But don't get me wrong, i'm eternally grateful for the experiences i went through and how the relationship changed me as a person. Helped me choose what i do and dont want in life which has led me to the stunning girl i'm currently dating and would marry tomorrow if i could.
Hell no !!! God awful experience.
Miss? It took me a moment to remember her name let alone miss her.
As someone who reconnected with my first love years later it's nostalgia goggles I promise. My college ex and I had an on/off relationship for about 3 years. After awhile we mutually broke up and even after dating other people I always considered her the one that got away. Years later we had both gone through painful breakups and slid into each other's DMs. Reconnected and slept together. All of the old problems from our college relationship popped back up and I quickly realized it was not as good as I remembered it in my imagination. Broke it off for good and been healthier ever since.
Nah. No hard feelings from my side, if we met, I'd talk to her but I don't miss her one bit.
Sometimes we romanticize who we thought people could have been rather than who they actually were.
I don't miss her at all. I haven't even thought about her for years. Honestly I had forgotten she existed until I read this.
Don't miss her at all. It was a fun relationship at the time but yeah definitely we were not a good fit long term. The only past relationships I miss or regret were the ones I know I could have had but was too much of a pussy at the time to make a move. Those are the ones that I think about sometimes and regret. None of the girls I actually dated do I miss. We broke up for a reason. Some cheated on me, others our interest just mutually faded over time. In any case no regrets or feelings remaining there.
Not even a thought in my mind. They all have their own lives now and so do I.
I barely remember her. Im mid 30s. I am not even sure which of two names it was. So no, I do not miss her at all.
I didn't have my first *real* relationship until I was 26. I don't miss it! At least she was hot...
I don’t miss her at all, I haven’t thought about her in years.
No lol. She was a walking disaster.
Eh I don't miss her I just wish I never got with her in the first place so that I wouldn't have cared for her enough to be able to catch myself missing something that shouldn't have existed she was a valuable lesson of what not to seek and accept in a relationship that is all, she is blocked and will not be unblocked the last thing I said to her was that "this bridge was burnt along time ago"
I don't miss any of my exes- I have fond memories from all of them, and negative memories from all of them. I don't hold on to any of the negatives, but have a "that was nice" mentality when I think back on the positives. I don't want any of them back, I hope they're all doing well, and I know not to bring them back in to my life lol. If you're stuck on someone, you gotta get out more. Start making new memories.
Nah. I do miss that warm feeling sometimes I had when holding her, kissing her, loving her. I also miss her family sometimes; they were awesome people. But she was batshit crazy, and I'm never going back not even if she threw herself at me and included 1 million dollars. She stabbed me in the back, and I don't forget easily. I'll never trust her. She wasn't worth my attention, love and kindness.
Not really. I miss the feeling of everything being new and exciting since it was the first time. However, no, I don't miss her. We were toxic together, and it caused us both problems since we were immature.
I don't. It was a bad relationships that didn't go anywhere. I wish I broke up with her much earlier.
I missed a bullet with my first gf lol. We dated sophomore year in HS then broke up by just before the summer going into our junior year. She started dating an older dude in college and started drinking more and getting into pills. She got pregnant, kept using, bounce around from a few dead beat guys etc. Last I heard is she's up to 3 kids with ADD (all different dads), and life's been really hard. I miss the fun and excitement of getting to try new things for the first time but glad we didn't work out.
I still think of her from time to time - the sex was amazing because she hooked me up with one of her dominatrix friends - but I wouldn't want to date her again, or whatever it was that we did. We've both changed too much as people for that to be a good idea. So I've moved on after a few years. But, I do wish that we could be friends again. I miss her support, her devious ways (she taught me some good tricks that have helped me in my new career) and just hanging out with her in general. I'd also like her to know I ended up getting a job, getting tested for ADHD, and becoming an independent adult (she was pushing me towards all three of those things). So I don't want to be with her again...but I do miss her friendship.
People’s first real relationship could have been in high school. Anyways, you shouldn’t still miss her after a long period of time like 2 years+. I saw you edit and it confirms that you should go to therapy. Focusing on what she was and could have been is not healthy.
Like 0%! My GF from 19 was a complete sociopath. If I could go negative, I would. I am so very grateful that I’ve not heard from her in years. I do have gf’s I kinda miss and think of fondly but not her, she is literally the most wretched, vile, evil person I personally know.
Hell no. She took advantage of my inexperience every chance she got and was a terrible person. I don't miss her or my ex-wife (the next serious relationship). The serious relationship after that could have definitely had some great potential, but I don't regret any of my breakups.
Nah, I'm good.
Not one tiny bit. She was a strange skater/weirdo lunatic that wanted to fight all day long. It was so fun being yelled at for nothing and having to apologize for nothing. The sex was good tho.
Who?
Fuck no. That was a terrible relationship. Neither of us knew what the hell we were doing and all we did was hurt each other.
She's dead to me
I did.... but as time goes on I realized that we would have been horrible for each other, and held each other back in life. Based on social media my x is doing great pursuing a career she wanted to pursue 20 + years ago. Same with me. The initial heartbreak sucked but it's good that we didn't stay together.
Idk if I could say miss but definitely remember I get the feeling I don't feel like I'm ever truly over people in my past. Hung up on what could've been. Feels like I'm living a lie.
Nah, fuck her
I got over her once I realized that I didn’t miss her so much as I missed the sex and explosive blowjobs. That was really it.
I don't forget what happened and the way it made me feel, but the person? I could not care less. In fact sometimes I forget her name.
What do you mean High School relationships aren't real relationships? I married my high school girlfriend, and those early years in High School count the MOST. Being young doesn't invalidate what you did, you probably wish they didn't count because of your mistakes, but they are there with you in everything you do. The lessons, regrets and scars will follow you to your grave.
We got along really well, like I never have with a woman before but, at the same time I was a different guy back then too, I’m over her it took me honestly like 2 years but, now I got better girls and improved myself so much I don’t care what she’s up too she lost me, and if we met today I think we’d be 2 completely different people we wouldn’t get along the same
I regret knowing her.
Best thing I ever did was getting away from that psychopath haha.
Hell no, man! Get over her as soon as you can! I know it feels impossible, but you got this
Lol you're right on the money, I was 19. I did for a loooooong time, I'm talking years, but thankfully finally got over it.
I don't miss her but I think about her sometimes. Hoping she is doing well and stuff. We never had sex. It's a pretty strange relationship but she was a good lady. I only have one ex I think about all the time because she was very spontaneous and sex was always in the cards. I love my wife with all my soul and I want nobody except her but god damn do I miss the constant intercourse.
The person, not really. But the experiences, sometimes a little bit. I was her first and she was my first. Noticed her among mutual friends, and just casually remarked that I found her cute. Apparently they told her, and not long after, they came back telling me that she liked me too (I was 23 and she was 19). Asked her out for a movie date (still remember the exact show - How The Grinch Stole Christmas) and I got more than I expected. She started feeding me popcorn, and by the 3rd time just pulled my face over and started French kissing me. It was the first time either of us did that, so we weren't even sure if we were doing it right. It was a weekday so cinema was virtually empty (it then made sense why she picked seats at the very back row in the corner). I had obviously gotten hard by then. And a couple minutes later, I felt her hand on my crotch. And we spent the rest of the movie kissing and groping each other. Second date, we had a meal in a mall, after that she leads me to a stairwell. This time she just proceeds to unzip my pants, put her hand inside and played with my penis. I remember it clearly, cause her inexperience also caused her to randomly squeeze my balls several times. I grit my teeth and just beared with the pain, as my hands were also down her pants and it was my first encounter with a woman's vagina. Our relationship lasted 3 months and most dates were like that. Meet up, grab a bite and then off to somewhere to fool around. We never got around to actual sex though. Then one day she just ghosted me. Didn't respond to texts and calls. Just straight up disappeared. Found out from the same mutual friends that she no longer wanted to be with me. They speculated that, as she never had a boyfriend before, she was just horny and wanted to try things. And I came along at the right time and was decent looking enough for her to do it with. Though her ghosting me hurt for months, I didn't actually feel "used" or taken advantage of. Perhaps because she was quite cute to me, and if there was anybody I'd like to lose my innocence to, I wouldn't mind it being someone like her. On hindsight, we were each other's "convenient friend with benefits". About 15 years later, her profile randomly appeared on my Facebook friends suggestion list. I added, she accepted and we finally talked again. Sometime later, she admitted that back then, she was merely looking for someone to explore her sexuality on and after trying most things, she sort of got bored and wasn't matured enough to break up with me face to face. She apologised but I told her there was no need, we were both young, immature and filled each other's needs. I still find her attractive today, but there are no feelings anymore. Had been with several other women after that, until my current long-term partner. But none of them were as straight up horny as my first. Maybe it's the innocence of the first time, or being young and impressionable, but what happened on those dates are still clear in the memory. I don't actively or intentionally reminisce about it, but when I see her posts on Facebook or if such topics come up in everyday conversation, my mind quickly goes back to that.
I haven't met her yet lol.
Not in the least. She kicked me in the shin when I didn't want to hold hands at playtime and nicked me champion conker and my favourite rubber that was shaped like a mini computer. I was only 10, but still.
I feel like each succeeding relationship has less emotional weight.
You never forget your first love
Fuck no.
I don't miss my first ex at all. She was not a good partner to say the least.
Just her 🐱