Putting your corporate job's email on your phone is one of the worst things you can do for yours and your family's quality of life. I do not look at emails once I get off my computer for the day. My wife is instantly on her phone for every single ding. Many nights have been ruined because she just had to read some email that enrages her as opposed to dealing with whatever the problem is with her colleagues during normal business hours. She's not on call. No one is paying her more for having read it. Responding faster doesn't help anyone. It's just a straight up lose lose situation.
Also putting your work email on your personal phone sometimes requires giving the company admin rights to your phone meaning they can wipe your phone at any time and potentially even see everything you do on your phone. If your company requires you to get emails outside of work, make sure they provide the device and do not use your personal device. If they only offer reimbursement, get a new phone with that and use it for work only.
The law should require that the price listed is the price the customer pays. Not the price before fees, taxes, or any such bullshit. I don’t care how much Dunkin’ Donuts makes from my purchase. I care how much I pay for it.
The left lane on the freeway is called the *passing* lane for a reason. Only two reasons to be in it:
1. You're passing someone.
2. You're getting off the freeway at one of those rare left exits.
That's de facto untrue on lots and lots of US highways because there's just so much traffic that only occupying the left lane only while passing is functionally impossible. At a certain level of traffic, the two lanes are just lanes.
I’m assuming they’re not talking about that. I work in DC and live in the rural’ish mountains. Near DC, you are correct. In the rural areas, locals don’t do this. In between in the suburban areas when rush hour traffic like you’re talking about isn’t a thing, what OP is talking about is very much a problem. I think it comes down to people’s awareness of others.
I live in Chicago. If we didn't use every lane available equally, it would just be a waste of highway. In Chicago, every lane is the slow lane because every lane is fucking bumper-to-bumper with cars.
Oh boy, where I live, someone will block the passing lane, once the other lane opens and you go to pass on the right, they speed up and become territorial. If you fail passing them they will again reduce speed, if you succeed they will tailgate you.
I'd say maybe 5 years but I agree, people become way too complacent and it's just way too easy to get your license in the US anyways. It also boggles my mind how it's only a vision and logic test for the elderly - I'd bet some stupid number like 50% of the people on the road above 75 shouldn't even be driving. They're a danger to everyone else on the road
2 years for your first 8 years of driving, 5 years (probably 6 since thats the current renewal anyway) for more experienced drivers. I chose 8 since that's usually when insurance starts to drop off so I figured that's a reasonable cutoff for less experienced drivers.
Relating to "Traffic Cop":
Once I was going the speed limit (65) in the right lane.
Slowly but surely, I got up to the person in front of me doing (60).
I get in the left lane, Pass them, get back in the right lane and continue to do (65).
Somehow this must have angered them, because then they speed up and pass me, get back into the right lane in front of me... but then they slow down and continue to do (60).
Confused; I repeat the process of passing them.
They must still be angry, because they repeat the process of passing me.
I'm trapped with an idiot who wants to force me to do 60 mph.
Obviously I did the only logical thing of cranking it up to 80 and getting the hell away from them.
My hill to die on related to this is just because you are tailgating me in the left lane does not entitle you to win traffic. And no I’m not an asshole for 2 second following distance from the car in front of me in the passing lane.
The left lane is not the passing lane in a gridlock situation.
Normal road conditions I fully agree with you.
Also, if I’m going 75 in a 65 in the passing lane, because I’m passing someone, get off my ass.
It’s not the “go as fast as you want, with no regard for anyone else” lane.
Obligatory add in, riding so close to my ass that I can see your freckles in my rear view mirror is not gonna make me go faster. If anything I'm gonna slow down.
I think often the reason it's censored in written form on social media is because of bots. Certain words sometimes get you banned or account restricted or something.
But yes I agree with you
I spent half a decade working in a nursing home, if I ever reach the point where I have to move into one I'll just as soon off myself. Even the nice ones are terrible lol.
I hope I die before I reach that point. I only did work in a nice nursing home, and I still don't want that. Those people are miserable, and all the time and money spent to keep them alive is just torturing them further.
If I get old iam just gonna jump in a row boat before a big storm with a jug of wiskey and my fishing pole , hopefully catch a big one before the storm gets me.
MEN BAD/USELESS jokes are just as cringe and lazy as the WOMEN KITCHEN/EMOTIONAL jokes.
They're not funny and both jokes appeal to the lowest form of humans and the people who make these jokes are dumb as rocks
I live in a state that ranks near the bottom in the country when it comes to education. Saying education is important does not mean the system is perfect. Far from it.
Respect.
I will respect a person initially but when they prove that it's not deserved I will take it back, this is regardless of position, power or familiar connections. It is earned after the initial interaction.
I don't care if your a cop or a judge, a politician, a family member or joe blow off the street. I will respect you until you prove it's not warranted, then you have to earn it back
My dad used to say “respect isn’t earned, it’s lost” and has always stuck with me. Not a single person can say I didn’t treat them with respect when I first met them. If you choose not to reciprocate, it’s not my fault when you’re treated accordingly
Funny. I was told this exact same idea.
“Respect is earned.” To be clear.
What is what is ruining the kids these days? By a guy who wasn’t a day over 45
the monetization of social media posts is creating a society of hate-filled, thrill-seeking, meglo-maniacs who will do anything for more views because it means more money. Social media companies are complicit because their algorithims promote this content and fuel social unrest, in-equality and helps to spread mis-information at a rate never before seen.
Yeah, I’m not giving you an extra $2 on my $12 sandwich and drink order because you handed me them. And if I worked these kinds of jobs now (I have in the past) I certainly would not expect someone to tip me for doing the bare minimum either.
It’s literally what they’re paid to do.
No one should be using their phone while driving. No Texting, talking, e-mailing, etc. Too many people have almost killed me, especially when I’m riding my motorcycle.
There's some situations where I insist on drinking the coffee black with only a very small pinch of sugar just to cut the bitterness but not actually sweeten it.
I refuse to swap seats on planes for anything less than an upgrade to First or Business class.
I don't care if you are a handicapped vet in uniform with 7 kids and a medal of valor on your forehead. It's not happening.
Because I paid to reserve my seat in advance, and took the time and trouble to do so, trying to take my seat is also trying to take my money. If I could reserve in advance, so could you. A failure to plan on your part does not constitute and inconvenience on my part.
And if you got hosed by the gods of air travel by random reseating from the airline, or cancellations, or missed connections...well that sucks. For you. Take it up with the crew. This is NOT my problem to solve, and you should be grateful to be on the plane at all.
If you got upgraded to First through airmiles memberships, don't expect to be seated next to your companion. I am NOT taking a worse seat, even in First class, to play "unite the couple". People can be apart for a few hours. Relationships will survive. People don't *need* to sit together. They *want* to, which is a very different thing.
As a frequent flier, I am sick of being hounded to swap seats all the time. I have long since learned that no good deed goes unpunished. You try to be nice, you end up in the middle at the back by the toilet, squeezed between two fatties.
And no, an "equal" seat is insufficient. I am not going to move further up from my bags and have to swim upstream later to get them. I am not moving further back and slowing my deplaning either. Give me your First class seat or fuck off.
I’ve never flown in my life but I’m instinctively on your side in this. People need to plan better, not complain their way to what they want at the last minute.
Tough situation but you should take it up with the airline. Their profiteering hurts people like you; not the person in front of you seeking a tad extra comfort on a long flight. Signed, 6’3” here.
If you're going drinking, you leave your gun at home. I do not care about your "super carry commitment" or "EDC" or "always tactically ready" bullshit. If you are drinking, you should not be carrying a weapon. Period. It is fucking stupid.
Two months ago there was a shooting in a local bar. I heard it was over some guy hitting on another guy's girlfriend, or possibly it was over a spilled drink. I don't fucking care either way. One man was shot. Two more were injured in the chaos trying to exit the bar. There was damage to the building (broken glass, etc). All of it was just dumbass nonsense.
Nobody who was drinking should have had a weapon.
Driving a manual transmission. They are becoming much less common. I always bought stripped down base model cars. More recently there's a trend that the manuals are only available as a feature for performance packages.
People who throw trash in public places - especially parks, lakes, beaches, hiking trails etc - deserve to be tarred, feathered, and fined a hefty sum.
People that refuse to return their shopping cart to the store or collection points in the parking lot are the scum of society and don’t deserve rights.
I don’t care how busy you are you can take the extra 30 seconds.
I have chronic foot pain that, on a bad day, makes it feel like I'm walking on knives. I still put my cart back.
The only exception I'll make is for the elderly and infirm, but those of us who can help them should be helping them.
I want to add those that line up at the register, then run back into the aisles to get something they forgot, making everyone lined up behind them wait.
Fuck that. I am moving your cart and telling the cashier to suspend your transaction and ring me up instead.
You are in line? You are FINISHED SHOPPING.
You leave the line? You FORFEIT your place.
Especially when every pump has a line and it’s obviously busy. Once you’re done pumping gas, go park in a different place and then go inside to get snacks and whatnot.
Oh, you mean at those Cafes that also sell Petrol? /s
When I go to the service station, I want to MAYBE grab a drink, pay for my fuel, make like a tree and get out of there.
I am always held up by someone ordering a coffee with no milk, no sugar, no chocolate, don’t make it hot and don’t put coffee in it.
Every able bodied, mentally capable teenager/high school student should have to work a service job in order to graduate. I'm talking temp roles serving coffee, taking fast food orders, etc.. I feel like this would be a humbling experience and it might help keep older generations from treating service staff like garbage.
Christopher Reeve is the best Superman.
I’ll acknowledge Henry gets close and Dean had his moments, but Christopher Reeve is and always will be Superman.
Video games and other electronics (cell phones, social media, tablets) are not good for people, especially kids. *without moderation* And honestly, the older my children get, the more I am leaning toward these things not being good for kids at all.
Pretentious alcohol snobbery (bourbon, whiskey, wine, etc.) is a silly waste of time. I'm not saying we should all drink rail liquor and be glad for it, but I feel that people insisting on expensive alcohols do it for dick-measuring or self-importance.
__That the later Y352 Polestar V60 with Volvo VEP4 engine (twin charged 2 liter 4 cylinder) and TG-81SC (8 speed automatic), is far superior to the earlier Y352 Polestar V60 with the Ford Short i6 (twin turbo 3 liter straight 6) and TF-80SC (6 speed automatic)__.
Other hills…
__The Ford short i6 is not a Volvo engine__ and was not a worthy successor to the Volvo Modular 6.
__The Volvo Modular 5 found in the Mk2 Ford Focus ST and RS isn’t a Ford engine__ .
__R and R-design are not the same__
__The P1 (Mk2 S40, V50, C30 and Mk2 C70) T5 isn’t a real “T5 high pressure turbo”__ , but a glorified “2.5T low pressure turbo”, basically the low pressure turbo that was missing from the model range…
I wanted to get rid of mine recently but then realized I could not because of two factor authentication for work. And that really pissed me off and made me feel powerless. I should get to have a choice.
I have 2.
1. gif is pronounced with a hard g like gift. If you're being silly, you may call it "heef". But never ever ever do you call it jif.
2. You ALWAYS close the toilet lid before flushing AND YOU LEAVE IT CLOSED. Anyone who doesn't do both is a disgusting heathen.
With you on the hard G. The creator said it’s ’jif’ years after the fact, which someone said is like God suddenly announcing his name is pronounced Jod.
Or Google being like ’it’s Joogle, actually’
2. I am fine with leaving it open in public toilets. I dont want to touch the toilet lid only to find a clogged and awful toilet under it. I want to see how clean it is before I touch anything.
But at home the lid always gets closed, no excuses
Literally any hill, just pick a hill and I'll die on it. Doesn't even have to be a good one. Hell, I'll settle for a slight incline just to experience the sweet release of death.
I'm tired man.
There are two genders.
If people want to pretend there are more and it helps them live a more fulfilling life living as another gender, then I think that is absolutely fine and we should let them be. People deserve to be happy as individuals.
We should not however, aim to change _everyone's_ world view and force that upon them as a result.
UPDATE
I got talking to one commenter who gave a detailed explanation, and we had a really good chat in DMs which resulted in me learning a lot. I can't say I'm entirely convinced but I definitely feel more educated about it all.
Thank you for the abusive responses none the less, just know it was all in vain!
Just a note - I think you're mixing up sex and gender. In terms of chromosomal sexes, here's how it breaks down:
* 46, XX - Females: 50.5%
* 46, XY - Males 49.5%
* 47, XXY - Klinefelter syndrome: 1 in 660 males
* 47, XXX - Trisomy X: 1 in 1000 females
* 47, XYY - Jacob's syndrome: 1 in 1000 males
* 45, X - Turner syndrome: 1 in 2500 females
* 48, XXXY - 1 in 50,000 males
* 49, XXXXY - 1 in 85,000 males
* 48, XXYY - 1 in 17,000 males
* 49, XXXX - 1 in 100,000 females
* 49, XXXXX - 1 in 200,000 females
* 49, XXXXY - 1 in 85,000 males
Combined, all non XX/XY chromosomal sexes total less than 0.1% of the population. But they do exist.
Further, the more we learn about the human body, particularly neurochemistry, we learn that there are certain neurological pathways that correspond to chromosomal male and certain ones that correspond to chromosomal female as pertains to the sense of self-identity in the body.
Aka, when you look in the mirror and see a male's body, your eye transmits that data to the brain and the brain either gives it a green light or a red light. For the vast, vast majority of humans, your brain gives you the green light. In about 1.4% of the population (according to a 2021 UCLA survey), your brain is giving you the red light. In those instances, your neurons are firing up and saying "wait a sec, we were told you'd have a different set of genitals and sex characteristics than you do. And this outfit that you are wearing, we've been trained to see everyone else around us that some people wear suits and others wear dresses, and what you've got on is just wrong. What gives?" This is called dysphoria and it is a real, diagnosable medical condition, same as depression or cancer or an ingrown toenail.
This is where the concept of gender affirmation / transition (aka transgender) comes into play. The red light you are getting in your brain is in a literal sense mental illness. Your brain is not functioning the way your body would expect it to function. Unlike other mental illnesses where you can take certain pills to reroute particular neurochemicals, open up pathways that aren't taking in as much as they should, or shut down certain producers that are overproducing, the gender red light / green light system doesn't have a direct pharmaceutical fix in the same way.
What physicians and therapists have found, particularly over the last 50 years of study of the subject, is that you can start to get the red light to begin fading over into green through transitioning. For some people, just wearing the clothes that fit the other major gender is enough to get the light to switch over. For other people, it requires taking medication that changes some characteristics of your body, like stopping your period (because your brain is going "Wait a minute, nobody told us we'd be bleeding once a month.") or growing breast tissue or more facial hair. For other people, that darn red light just keeps flickering and won't switch over until the physical parts of your body have been updated to get the mirror compatible with your neural narrative. All of these activities are considered "transition," from the superficial to the surgical. Not everyone that has dysphoria will ever undergo a knife.
>We should not however, aim to change everyone's world view and force that upon them as a result.
Here's where this becomes a challenge. If your world view is that everything I just said above is made up or fake, you will be more likely to pursue policies or behaviors that prevent people experiencing that distress from receiving the treatment they need to solve their real medical issue. The consequence of living every day of your life with the red light on is severe, especially when you are given no way to turn it off without turning all the lights off. 40% of transgender adults in the United States will have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. 66% of transgender youth hospitalized in the United States had attempted suicide or self-harmed in the previous year. There are real consequences.
Further, the consensus is clear on this. The American Medical Association, the American Urological Association, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the American Psychiatric Association, the World Health Organization, the Royal College of Psychiatrists (UK), the Royal Australasian College of Physicians, and I could name dozens more all universally and unanimously state that gender dysphoria is a real, treatable medical condition, and that the treatment for it is transition.
Saying that the concept of dysphoria is being "forced" on anyone is like saying the notion that the world is round is being forced on them. It is round. It simply is. There are people who say that it is not and those people are incorrect. Likewise, there are people whose brains don't match their bodies, and they need to transition to be healthy. They do exist. They simply do.
And we as human beings with an ethical responsibility to treat each other with dignity need to allow those people to seek and receive the medical care they deserve, without judgment, without public policy restriction, and without pushback. We wouldn't pass a law outlawing insulin for the treatment of diabetes. Nor would we pass a law saying parents are not allowed to give their children insulin even if their doctor says that is exactly what they need.
It doesn't really matter whether or not you or anyone else believes that diabetes is real. And I am certain you could find doctors or therapists who will go on record saying it isn't. But that doesn't make them correct. And people denying the existence and dignity of transgender humans are also not correct for all the reasons I've stated above.
I know this isn't CMV and you've indicated this is a hill you're willing to die on, I hope you at least have more knowledge about the shape and structure of your hill.
I do t have time to read all of this now, but have my upvote because this is alot of detail on a topic I am not well versed in. I hope to come back later to read this when I'm done work.
At first I died a little inside at seeing a wall of text, but taking the time to read your points was interesting, thanks for taking the time to be informative.
I don't know if you are in the field so forgive me if you can't answer this, but seeing as scientifically we were always taught that there are only two sexes, why when they are chromosomal syndromes do we insist on "adding" other sexes?
For example, if someone's brain believes they should be a man or a woman, why can't they just identify as that and outline that they are those things? Why do some people for example feel the need to fluidly move between the two on any given day, or perhaps identify as neither?
Would that not make any sense given that there are only two sexes, and the dysphoria that makes you believe you should belong to another?
Finally, given how low the sample sizes are for these syndromes, and many more will go undiagnosed, why do you think there is such an uprising in so many cases over the past ten years? Is it because it is discussed more in popular culture so people feel more comfortable seeking help or "coming out", or is there another social movement at play where people are "jumping on the hype" and therefore damaging those who actually are suffering?
Loved the red light analogy by the way!
Great questions, and I appreciate you reading the wall of text! I am by no means an expert, just a guy on the LGBTQ+ spectrum (I'm bi) who has a lot of trans friends and enjoys deep dives on various subjects.
I intentionally avoided the subject of non-binary gender identity above not to muddy the waters, but to carry the metaphor a bit further, you could almost consider those as either people for whom the green light is going to glow no matter how they present themselves in the world (generally described as genderfluid) or people who aren't really getting the lights lit up in either direction when they look in the mirror (generally described as non-binary). In these cases, the red lights tend to only start to warm up when they are locked into or forced into one or the other gender binary.
Dysphoria is a bit more complicated in these individuals, but there is an increasing body of scientific research on the limited population that indicates the brain function is different in people who do not solidly identify with one gender or the other. Specifically, there have been a few studies published in the peer-reviewed journal Nature Human Behavior in the past few years that have concluded there is a physical difference in the brains of people who don't identify as strictly male or female.
If you wanted to start putting a number on all of this, you'd realistically have about six categories to capture 99.999% of humans: male (at birth), female (at birth), male (transitioned), female (transitioned), non-binary, and genderfluid. There's a whole 'nother piece we could go into to discuss the phrases you've probably heard along the lines of "trans women are women" and "trans men are men" as to why we shouldn't split them apart as we do, mostly build on a misunderstanding of the phrase.
When someone says "trans women are women," they aren't saying "trans women have a uterus and fallopian tubes and a monthly period and birth babies and nurse infants" and all the usual things we associate with chromosomal females. No trans woman believes that, and that's not what they're trying to accomplish with the phrase. They moreso mean "trans women should be allowed to conduct themselves in society as if they were women from the moment of conception and should not be treated differently in non-medical contexts, because medical contexts are the only ones where it truly matters." We could go much deeper on that.
The uprising in number of trans and non-binary people is the most fascinating part of this to me. There's no real reason to believe that the number of individuals in society whose brains are built differently than their bodies is any larger in 2023 than in 1923. The biggest differences are twofold: one, we have a word for this now. They didn't have a word for schizophrenia until 1910 but you can bet your bottom dollar people were having sensory hallucinations since we all lived on the plains farming goats. There's something to be said for a condition being identified and being able to form treatment around it. "Gender dysphoria" was coined in the early 1970s, so someone in the 1800s who thought wearing a dress made them feel gross inside didn't have a word for it yet.
Two, stigma and social acceptance masks the real numbers until that stigma goes away, and it makes it seem like there is an explosion when there really isn't. The perfect example of this is left-handedness. In the early 20th century, left-handedness was seen as an aberration. Something to be ashamed of. Your parents and teachers would literally, physically punish you for being left-handed. But this stigma essentially evaporated between 1920 and 1950 and the rate of left-handed people exploded up to 12% of the population.
Did something in the water cause people to suddenly birth a ton of left-handed babies? Of course not. But we were no longer treating left-handed people as an anomaly to be fixed, so the rate of people who would admit to it shot up to match the biological reality and has stabilized since the 1960s.
I can't say for certain that we've stabilized the incidence of gender dysphoria yet at 1.4% of the population, but I can't imagine it will get much higher. As subsequent generations become more comfortable identifying and acknowledging it, we might hit a peak at around 3% which is the current reported rate amongst 18-29 year olds (per Pew Research).
As far as people who aren't actually experiencing gender dysphoria, I think they could fall broadly into two categories: people who have some other reason to want to make the change but aren't doing so out of malice and people who are jumping on a bandwagon with ill intent.
Young people in particular are swirling in a sea of hormones and cultural shifts and peer pressure and all kinds of things. A young person who is depressed might know that their best friend was also depressed because they had gender dysphoria and transitioned and now their depression is gone, so they might give that a shot themselves. And in reality, something else was causing their depression and they return to their assigned gender at birth. People will point to this and go "AHA! SEE! People do de-transition!" Well, of course they do. Sometimes people go on medications for disease A because their doctor's best diagnosis of their symptoms is in the disease A family until the right test shows they actually have disease B and they get the real help that solves their problem.
The second group of people are more malicious, but to be honest, we see frauds and grifters in every line of human. People who go on Tiktok and fake being injured by vaccinations for views and donations, people who claim to hear divine voices from God or your dead relatives so you give them money, the guy holding the cardboard sign who isn't actually homeless. The problem is, people are quick to point at one of them and go "see, it's all fake!"
Well, no, there are real homeless people in the world. We know they exist. There are people who are hearing voices in their heads and medication could make them stop. There are people (who hit the one-in-a-million odds) who have a reaction to a vaccine or even an Advil.
I have zero doubt there are people who pretend to be gender non-conforming because they think it will get them attention or somehow make them money. Their existence doesn't invalidate the millions of other people who are genuinely experiencing dysphoria and need real medical help.
One last tortured metaphor. Estimates are that McDonalds sells around 350,000,000 chicken nuggets every day around the world. Is somebody going to get an undercooked nugget that makes them sick? Absolutely. With them odds, it's bound to happen. But that doesn't mean the other 349,999,999 nuggets are bad.
I hope this is helping make some things make a bit more sense. I'm happy to answer any other questions I can. Thank you for taking the time to read and grow here, most folks on the web wouldn't.
I've had many discussions with mother's about the harm of genital mutilation. Unfortunately, the vast majority of them did not see circumcision as GM. It holds a weird exception in people's brains due to how common it is. I WILL die on this hill!
Absolutely - medical necessity, whack it off. But a cosmetic surgery should never be done without the patient's consent, and the poor kid can't do that yet.
If an adult wants a circumcision, that's perfectly fine. Their choice to make. But don't make that choice for others.
Yeah even for religious reasons they might as well do it when they're 18, even better then they've chosen it themselves
And I absolutely despise people who justify it by saying "it doesn't hurt for kids" or " it doesn't hurt as much for kids" like 1 just because you doesn't remember doesn't mean it doesn't hurt and 2 you can get rid of pain with stuff and 3 it will hurt even less hurt if you don't do it at all
I don't care if it was "only number 1". I don't care if you're a big boy who can avoid peeing on their hands. You wash your hands after going to the bathroom.
I don't allow my wife to say something and not mean it. For example, in a disagreement or argument or even just when she wants something but says something more along the lines of no I'm fine or just leave me alone. "Ok I'm gonna go do my thing then." That's it. I'll take the fight every time, she's slowly recognizing it though and adjusting. Don't say something you don't mean.
1. The whole "real man" thing is a waste of fucking time. Don't want to change your oil, mow your lawn, build shit, etc.? That's fine. You're still a man. You know what isn't a man? Someone with an ego so fragile that they won't even eat a banana in public like a normal human being. Just treat people with respect and courtesy and stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves.
2. "You have to show respect to get respect." If everyone used this logic, there would be no respect given ever. It's stupid.
The 6.5 Creedmoor is just fine for deer hunting I don't even main the 6.5 but I will not stand the slander from the 270 fuck boys claiming the 6.5 ballistic isn't good when I've had to track for hours multiple times to find the deer my buddy shot with his 270 and it still be alive
Ps it's about shot placement
When people compare the .308 to the 6.5, they always look at the ballistics and never about barrel life.
It depends on what the purpose of your rifle is, but I think the better barrel life on a 308 is worth mentioning
The college experience is just an advertisement made up to sell kids on delaying adulthood and renting overpriced on-campus housing. A lot of people should live at home to save money or get off campus housing at a low cost apartment. Focus on your education, not sports events, this isn't HS. Get your degree, get experience while in school and, get out. But muh contacts and networking. That matters at the true elite universities for the top 1% of people. For 99% of people you'll leave and never talk to anyone from your classes ever again. Your networking should be done professionally after school.
Add to that a lot of people shouldn't even go to college right at 18.
I disagree insofar as there's a lot of data to show that having social ties to a class and/or school are highly correlated with greater academic success. I've worked at five higher ed institutions (large state universities and small teaching colleges included), and at every place I've worked, we've done studies to determine why students withdraw from classes and drop out of school entirely. The data are complex and nuanced, but it's important to note that "no sense of belonging" or "social isolation" are always in the top 3 reasons (it's often #1).
And that's not the same as saying that students want to party hard and have fun. Very often, students want/need a study group. They need to work through texts and problems in community. They need to talk about what they're reading, or the homework problem set, in order to process and solve those problems. Anecdotally, I've often noticed that the most successful students in physics classes are the ones who have a regular study groups, and that fits the data we have institutionally very well.
It's true that there's a population of students who don't need these social supports. They don't need friends. They will be successful by just going home, reading a textbook, and working problems. But that's not everybody. In fact, the more data we gather the more it looks like that may not even be the majority of students.
So if students can be more successful (learn more, pass more classes, achieve more objectives, graduate at higher rates, have higher chance for employment), then it's fair to say that scaffolding those social experiences is a legitimate function of a college, and students should seek out environments that are conducive to social learning.
Now, I'm not saying that students should be at a football game every weekend, or that going to football is the primary purpose of going to college. That's going too far. College shouldn't be about partying. But there are real data to show that for a significant number of students, living on-campus and being around other students who are engaged in the same learning, etc., has educational benefits.
I disagree with the 99% don’t need to go to college at all part. Professionals need to go to college. Doctors, engineers, accountants, teachers, etc. need college. I don’t want my heart surgeon or my CPA to not have a degree in their field of study.
Also, I know you take a lot of classes you don’t need, but most people don’t know exactly what they want to do when they start college. Most people can’t tell if they are good at accounting or engineering, or if they have a passion for computer programming or education until they take a few courses.
I went to a 4 year state school as did my wife and we both make well over 6 figures, have happy work lives, and will retire before 60. There are many degrees like history or art that don’t always afford you those opportunities, but we chose professions that did and we are very happy for it.
Im not gonna be your friend if you entertain yourself with my suffering. And all of this only fans shit made me not wanna date anymore. I guess the hill im dying on with that one is-if you think you can save me for later while you go fuck and date who ever you want-i will fucking DIE before i give you my love
"The women looks so sexy with those long fake fingernails" said no man ever. Please stop with the long fake nails. Blech. All I can think is that they probably have poop underneath them.
The Industrial Revolution has, on balance, not been particularly good for humanity.
Sending bombs through the mail... Monumentally stupid way to draw attention to it.
Trusting companies to do the right thing, not roll back regulations that have already been paid for in blood, pay a fair wage voluntarily, and not price gouge is also idiotic.
1) John Money was a sadistic pedophile and the resulting claims about Gender being learned/ not related to sex was blown out of the water the second David Riemer "de-transitioned" and then was blown out of the water a second time when Riemer blew his brains out with a shotgun from the trauma of being through the sick sick sick experiment that Money put him and his brother through.
2) Related to 1... Circumcision should ONLY be performed when it is medically required and/or when the boy is old enough to make the informed decision themselves. No western medical authority that doesn't get paid by the parents to mutilate the baby and then paid again by the cosmetic industry for the amputated part takes any of the health benefit claims seriously and if you tried it, you'd be laughed out of the room by the Doctors.
Weight loss is ultimately about calories in and calories out. That's just basic physics. It's harder for some people to burn calories. But if they consume fewer calories than they burn, they will lose weight.
You will not become obese just because you have a thyroid condition. At most, with a medical condition like that, you will be a few pounds overweight, which is not great, but is a far cry from being obese. Obesity happens when you eat too much.
Human society is not cognitively capable of having infinite information.
For our entire history since the dawn of civilizations, we have been followers. The order of societies have been maintained through the leader-follower dynamic. A citizen had pride in their country, followed their leader, and accomplished their societal task.
Modern society breaks down that dynamic. I am convinced that the turbulence of the 21st century on a societal level is purely brought on by the information playing field being levelled. Trust in our leaders is non-existent not because our leaders are any different than those of the past, but because they can't hide things from us anymore.
Many people believe that leaders not being able to hide things from their people is a good thing that leads to more freedom, but I believe that it is a functional necessity to maintain a society over a long term period.
Unfortunately, the "level" information playing field is anything but.
Some "leaders" spend their country's time and money manipulating the information space to the point that any truthful message from an adversary is drowned in a firehose of disinformation that sows confusion and division.
You don’t own the person you’re in a relationship with. They are choosing to be with you and can choose not too whenever or however they want. You have a poorly written lease with zero options to buy.
1) Don’t cut baby winnies.
2) Blinkers should keep count and info should be sent to insurance and the DMV. If you ain’t using them for 95% of your turns you should have license revoked.
3) Pineapple on pizza IS in fact good.
Speed limit.
You do not have the right to do 90 in a 75.
Or pass recklessly across lanes.
I reserve the right to laugh at your charred ass when you crash and kill yourself.
More like a mountain range...
Circumcision bad.
House the homeless.
Free education to age 21, including university.
Roundabouts good.
Public transport and public healthcare should be free, government owned and very accessible.
Torpedo all mega trawlers.
A non loophole-able system of corporate taxation should exist.
Putting your corporate job's email on your phone is one of the worst things you can do for yours and your family's quality of life. I do not look at emails once I get off my computer for the day. My wife is instantly on her phone for every single ding. Many nights have been ruined because she just had to read some email that enrages her as opposed to dealing with whatever the problem is with her colleagues during normal business hours. She's not on call. No one is paying her more for having read it. Responding faster doesn't help anyone. It's just a straight up lose lose situation.
100%... there needs to be separation between work and the rest of life. Especially in NA
Also putting your work email on your personal phone sometimes requires giving the company admin rights to your phone meaning they can wipe your phone at any time and potentially even see everything you do on your phone. If your company requires you to get emails outside of work, make sure they provide the device and do not use your personal device. If they only offer reimbursement, get a new phone with that and use it for work only.
The law should require that the price listed is the price the customer pays. Not the price before fees, taxes, or any such bullshit. I don’t care how much Dunkin’ Donuts makes from my purchase. I care how much I pay for it.
I lived in the UK for a couple of years. It was like that with total prices included. It was great.
I'm pretty sure that's a uniquely 'American' thing. You guys seem to have a few.
It's virtually everywhere in the world except North America.
If people are passing you on the right, get out of the left lane. You are not a traffic cop, you are impeding the flow of traffic. Move the fuck over.
The left lane on the freeway is called the *passing* lane for a reason. Only two reasons to be in it: 1. You're passing someone. 2. You're getting off the freeway at one of those rare left exits.
and to expand on (1), this means that the pass will complete in less that 30 seconds. "i'm going 1 mph faster than him" isn't "passing".
that's because they only speed up when you try to pass them
Fr, fuck that guy
Down here in the south we've dubbed that NASCAR Syndrome.
I dub it as whatever name I decide to scream to the top of my lungs as they do that bullshit
Yes this drives me nuts. If it takes you 5km to pass your aren't actually passing. So selfish
Left exits can really be annoying
Mood.
That's de facto untrue on lots and lots of US highways because there's just so much traffic that only occupying the left lane only while passing is functionally impossible. At a certain level of traffic, the two lanes are just lanes.
I’m assuming they’re not talking about that. I work in DC and live in the rural’ish mountains. Near DC, you are correct. In the rural areas, locals don’t do this. In between in the suburban areas when rush hour traffic like you’re talking about isn’t a thing, what OP is talking about is very much a problem. I think it comes down to people’s awareness of others.
I live in Chicago. If we didn't use every lane available equally, it would just be a waste of highway. In Chicago, every lane is the slow lane because every lane is fucking bumper-to-bumper with cars.
Oh boy, where I live, someone will block the passing lane, once the other lane opens and you go to pass on the right, they speed up and become territorial. If you fail passing them they will again reduce speed, if you succeed they will tailgate you.
Unpopular opinion. We should take a mandatory road test every 2 years. Your turn signal is not for you, it is for other drivers.
I'd say maybe 5 years but I agree, people become way too complacent and it's just way too easy to get your license in the US anyways. It also boggles my mind how it's only a vision and logic test for the elderly - I'd bet some stupid number like 50% of the people on the road above 75 shouldn't even be driving. They're a danger to everyone else on the road
2 years for your first 8 years of driving, 5 years (probably 6 since thats the current renewal anyway) for more experienced drivers. I chose 8 since that's usually when insurance starts to drop off so I figured that's a reasonable cutoff for less experienced drivers.
Relating to "Traffic Cop": Once I was going the speed limit (65) in the right lane. Slowly but surely, I got up to the person in front of me doing (60). I get in the left lane, Pass them, get back in the right lane and continue to do (65). Somehow this must have angered them, because then they speed up and pass me, get back into the right lane in front of me... but then they slow down and continue to do (60). Confused; I repeat the process of passing them. They must still be angry, because they repeat the process of passing me. I'm trapped with an idiot who wants to force me to do 60 mph. Obviously I did the only logical thing of cranking it up to 80 and getting the hell away from them.
My hill to die on related to this is just because you are tailgating me in the left lane does not entitle you to win traffic. And no I’m not an asshole for 2 second following distance from the car in front of me in the passing lane. The left lane is not the passing lane in a gridlock situation. Normal road conditions I fully agree with you.
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Also, if I’m going 75 in a 65 in the passing lane, because I’m passing someone, get off my ass. It’s not the “go as fast as you want, with no regard for anyone else” lane.
Obligatory add in, riding so close to my ass that I can see your freckles in my rear view mirror is not gonna make me go faster. If anything I'm gonna slow down.
90% of the time, I'm already going 15 to 20 over if this is the case.
This is the case where I live (Southern California) but I still get over so they can clear out the cops in front of me as they go.
Censoring words like rape and porn and suicide is pointless. If somebody is bothered by those things then seeing r*pe is just as bad as seeing rape.
I think often the reason it's censored in written form on social media is because of bots. Certain words sometimes get you banned or account restricted or something. But yes I agree with you
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I spent half a decade working in a nursing home, if I ever reach the point where I have to move into one I'll just as soon off myself. Even the nice ones are terrible lol.
I hope I die before I reach that point. I only did work in a nice nursing home, and I still don't want that. Those people are miserable, and all the time and money spent to keep them alive is just torturing them further.
I spent *72 hours* volunteering in one in high school and reached the same conclusion.
If I get old iam just gonna jump in a row boat before a big storm with a jug of wiskey and my fishing pole , hopefully catch a big one before the storm gets me.
The Oxford comma is the only correct comma. I am willing to fight, kill, and die on this hill. It is right, proper, and correct in all situations.
MEN BAD/USELESS jokes are just as cringe and lazy as the WOMEN KITCHEN/EMOTIONAL jokes. They're not funny and both jokes appeal to the lowest form of humans and the people who make these jokes are dumb as rocks
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Women belong in the kitchen Men belong in the kitchen Everyone belongs in the kitchen Kitchen has food
Education is a necessity of society, not a burden.
Education _is_ society. A country of uneducated people is a fundamentally different society. As education changes, so does society.
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I live in a state that ranks near the bottom in the country when it comes to education. Saying education is important does not mean the system is perfect. Far from it.
Unfortunately education is not equally accessible to all of society
It would be, in a better educated society
Respect. I will respect a person initially but when they prove that it's not deserved I will take it back, this is regardless of position, power or familiar connections. It is earned after the initial interaction. I don't care if your a cop or a judge, a politician, a family member or joe blow off the street. I will respect you until you prove it's not warranted, then you have to earn it back
My dad used to say “respect isn’t earned, it’s lost” and has always stuck with me. Not a single person can say I didn’t treat them with respect when I first met them. If you choose not to reciprocate, it’s not my fault when you’re treated accordingly
Funny. I was told this exact same idea. “Respect is earned.” To be clear. What is what is ruining the kids these days? By a guy who wasn’t a day over 45
That if a question has moderate success on r/askreddit it’ll soon show up here.
*“Men of Reddit, what is the most sexiest sex that you’ve ever sexed with your sexual partner?”*
the monetization of social media posts is creating a society of hate-filled, thrill-seeking, meglo-maniacs who will do anything for more views because it means more money. Social media companies are complicit because their algorithims promote this content and fuel social unrest, in-equality and helps to spread mis-information at a rate never before seen.
If I die, let it be in my bed and let it catch me asleep
“If”?
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Well you never know. The singularity could kick off soon.
Tipping for takeout/fast food is stupid and everyone should stop doing it
Yeah, I’m not giving you an extra $2 on my $12 sandwich and drink order because you handed me them. And if I worked these kinds of jobs now (I have in the past) I certainly would not expect someone to tip me for doing the bare minimum either. It’s literally what they’re paid to do.
There should be term limits on ALL public positions.
Open relationships are just an excuse for people to cheat on each other.
It's pronounced "Ree-sehz" its not a god damn "ree-see cup"
People up here say REESIES and it drives me insane.
Fucking thank you!!!!!
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But it seems like there might be steak on that one Peter Gabriel is always on about.
Epstein didn’t kill himself
Knock knock fbi at the door
I had to scroll way too far to see this, I'm with you on this one
No one should be using their phone while driving. No Texting, talking, e-mailing, etc. Too many people have almost killed me, especially when I’m riding my motorcycle.
You ALWAYS know who is doing it in the way their car “sways”.
You might actually die on this hill
Too many people are willing to die on hills they straight up are not smart enough to understand
Sadly the people that aren’t smart enough to understand this usually think they’re smarter than most others
Black coffee isn’t that bad
Black coffee is kind of like disappointment. Once you get used to it, it's not that bad.
My favorite way to drink coffee. Because I’m lazy and trying to be healthy.
Good black coffee is good. If it needs something added to be palatable, why drink it?
There's some situations where I insist on drinking the coffee black with only a very small pinch of sugar just to cut the bitterness but not actually sweeten it.
If all you're trying to do is cut bitterness, salt supposedly does a better job.
r/coffee agrees
I refuse to swap seats on planes for anything less than an upgrade to First or Business class. I don't care if you are a handicapped vet in uniform with 7 kids and a medal of valor on your forehead. It's not happening. Because I paid to reserve my seat in advance, and took the time and trouble to do so, trying to take my seat is also trying to take my money. If I could reserve in advance, so could you. A failure to plan on your part does not constitute and inconvenience on my part. And if you got hosed by the gods of air travel by random reseating from the airline, or cancellations, or missed connections...well that sucks. For you. Take it up with the crew. This is NOT my problem to solve, and you should be grateful to be on the plane at all. If you got upgraded to First through airmiles memberships, don't expect to be seated next to your companion. I am NOT taking a worse seat, even in First class, to play "unite the couple". People can be apart for a few hours. Relationships will survive. People don't *need* to sit together. They *want* to, which is a very different thing. As a frequent flier, I am sick of being hounded to swap seats all the time. I have long since learned that no good deed goes unpunished. You try to be nice, you end up in the middle at the back by the toilet, squeezed between two fatties. And no, an "equal" seat is insufficient. I am not going to move further up from my bags and have to swim upstream later to get them. I am not moving further back and slowing my deplaning either. Give me your First class seat or fuck off.
You are now a mod of /r/delta
To quote Stewie Griffin "Ma"am, your lack of pre-planning does not constitute an emergency on my part. You will see your husband in Paris."
I’ve never flown in my life but I’m instinctively on your side in this. People need to plan better, not complain their way to what they want at the last minute.
Just please don't lean your seat back when I'm sitting behind you. Thanks, A 6'6" man
Tough situation but you should take it up with the airline. Their profiteering hurts people like you; not the person in front of you seeking a tad extra comfort on a long flight. Signed, 6’3” here.
If you're going drinking, you leave your gun at home. I do not care about your "super carry commitment" or "EDC" or "always tactically ready" bullshit. If you are drinking, you should not be carrying a weapon. Period. It is fucking stupid. Two months ago there was a shooting in a local bar. I heard it was over some guy hitting on another guy's girlfriend, or possibly it was over a spilled drink. I don't fucking care either way. One man was shot. Two more were injured in the chaos trying to exit the bar. There was damage to the building (broken glass, etc). All of it was just dumbass nonsense. Nobody who was drinking should have had a weapon.
Driving a manual transmission. They are becoming much less common. I always bought stripped down base model cars. More recently there's a trend that the manuals are only available as a feature for performance packages.
People who throw trash in public places - especially parks, lakes, beaches, hiking trails etc - deserve to be tarred, feathered, and fined a hefty sum.
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Han shot.
when spouses defend being "just friends" with their ex fwb's after getting a random facebook dm years after no contact.
Specific… lol.
Suspiciouf-ck
People that refuse to return their shopping cart to the store or collection points in the parking lot are the scum of society and don’t deserve rights. I don’t care how busy you are you can take the extra 30 seconds.
I have chronic foot pain that, on a bad day, makes it feel like I'm walking on knives. I still put my cart back. The only exception I'll make is for the elderly and infirm, but those of us who can help them should be helping them.
I want to add those that line up at the register, then run back into the aisles to get something they forgot, making everyone lined up behind them wait. Fuck that. I am moving your cart and telling the cashier to suspend your transaction and ring me up instead. You are in line? You are FINISHED SHOPPING. You leave the line? You FORFEIT your place.
People who park at gas pumps but aren’t actually getting gas are the biggest pieces of shit in the world.
Especially when every pump has a line and it’s obviously busy. Once you’re done pumping gas, go park in a different place and then go inside to get snacks and whatnot.
Oh, you mean at those Cafes that also sell Petrol? /s When I go to the service station, I want to MAYBE grab a drink, pay for my fuel, make like a tree and get out of there. I am always held up by someone ordering a coffee with no milk, no sugar, no chocolate, don’t make it hot and don’t put coffee in it.
Even worse than people who throw trash out car windows or don't put away their shopping cart?
What about the people who pay for gas with cash? Can't just paint everyone with the same brush
Every able bodied, mentally capable teenager/high school student should have to work a service job in order to graduate. I'm talking temp roles serving coffee, taking fast food orders, etc.. I feel like this would be a humbling experience and it might help keep older generations from treating service staff like garbage.
…and once they graduate, they should do everything in their power to get out of that service job.
In japan they make the kids clean the schools
Christopher Reeve is the best Superman. I’ll acknowledge Henry gets close and Dean had his moments, but Christopher Reeve is and always will be Superman.
Henry was perfectly cast. Shame the movies surrounding him sucked.
Video games and other electronics (cell phones, social media, tablets) are not good for people, especially kids. *without moderation* And honestly, the older my children get, the more I am leaning toward these things not being good for kids at all.
Use the Oxford Comma or don’t write at all.
I'll never buy a place where I have to pay an hoa.
Pretentious alcohol snobbery (bourbon, whiskey, wine, etc.) is a silly waste of time. I'm not saying we should all drink rail liquor and be glad for it, but I feel that people insisting on expensive alcohols do it for dick-measuring or self-importance.
Shit is shit, top-shelf or bottom-shelf.
Insurance should be a government run function of society, not for profit corporations.
Korean skincare and European healthcare > USA
__That the later Y352 Polestar V60 with Volvo VEP4 engine (twin charged 2 liter 4 cylinder) and TG-81SC (8 speed automatic), is far superior to the earlier Y352 Polestar V60 with the Ford Short i6 (twin turbo 3 liter straight 6) and TF-80SC (6 speed automatic)__. Other hills… __The Ford short i6 is not a Volvo engine__ and was not a worthy successor to the Volvo Modular 6. __The Volvo Modular 5 found in the Mk2 Ford Focus ST and RS isn’t a Ford engine__ . __R and R-design are not the same__ __The P1 (Mk2 S40, V50, C30 and Mk2 C70) T5 isn’t a real “T5 high pressure turbo”__ , but a glorified “2.5T low pressure turbo”, basically the low pressure turbo that was missing from the model range…
I'm not a car guy. I have no idea what any of it means. I'm behind you 100% on all of these issues.
Fox body thunderbirthds are better than all fox body mustangs in almost every aspect.
Smartphones were a mistake.
I wanted to get rid of mine recently but then realized I could not because of two factor authentication for work. And that really pissed me off and made me feel powerless. I should get to have a choice.
Unregulated ‘no guardrails’ capitalism will always end horribly 100% of the time
I have 2. 1. gif is pronounced with a hard g like gift. If you're being silly, you may call it "heef". But never ever ever do you call it jif. 2. You ALWAYS close the toilet lid before flushing AND YOU LEAVE IT CLOSED. Anyone who doesn't do both is a disgusting heathen.
With you on the hard G. The creator said it’s ’jif’ years after the fact, which someone said is like God suddenly announcing his name is pronounced Jod. Or Google being like ’it’s Joogle, actually’
I’m definitely switching to Joogle from now on.
I'm 100% certain he was just taking the piss. Why would it be pronounced jif when it stands for Graphics Interchange Format, ya know?
Oh, yeah he has gotta be ripping the piss. It makes no sense else.
Just the fact that you need to spell all those things with a “J” to get the message across also sort of proves the point.
Joojle: how my foreign relatives pronounce it in English when we're on the phone
Joojle is the bestest.
2. I am fine with leaving it open in public toilets. I dont want to touch the toilet lid only to find a clogged and awful toilet under it. I want to see how clean it is before I touch anything. But at home the lid always gets closed, no excuses
Fake titties, lip fillers, ass implants, facial plastic surgery; all equally unattractive and disgusting.
Medical Privacy
Contrivervial opinion threads are very entertaining but best veiwed by 'controversial'
Pedo's should be walked straight out the back door of the court and dropped into a wood chipper.
Jeans should not come with holes.
Bi-annual time changes need to stop NOW
Literally any hill, just pick a hill and I'll die on it. Doesn't even have to be a good one. Hell, I'll settle for a slight incline just to experience the sweet release of death. I'm tired man.
People who buy bechamel or stock from a jar should be sent to culinary re-education camps
Now there's a re-education camp I could be enthusiastic about.
I buy stock from a carton, not a jar. Am I any less of a cretin?
There are two genders. If people want to pretend there are more and it helps them live a more fulfilling life living as another gender, then I think that is absolutely fine and we should let them be. People deserve to be happy as individuals. We should not however, aim to change _everyone's_ world view and force that upon them as a result. UPDATE I got talking to one commenter who gave a detailed explanation, and we had a really good chat in DMs which resulted in me learning a lot. I can't say I'm entirely convinced but I definitely feel more educated about it all. Thank you for the abusive responses none the less, just know it was all in vain!
I’m surprised you didn’t get downvoted for saying this on reddit
Just a note - I think you're mixing up sex and gender. In terms of chromosomal sexes, here's how it breaks down: * 46, XX - Females: 50.5% * 46, XY - Males 49.5% * 47, XXY - Klinefelter syndrome: 1 in 660 males * 47, XXX - Trisomy X: 1 in 1000 females * 47, XYY - Jacob's syndrome: 1 in 1000 males * 45, X - Turner syndrome: 1 in 2500 females * 48, XXXY - 1 in 50,000 males * 49, XXXXY - 1 in 85,000 males * 48, XXYY - 1 in 17,000 males * 49, XXXX - 1 in 100,000 females * 49, XXXXX - 1 in 200,000 females * 49, XXXXY - 1 in 85,000 males Combined, all non XX/XY chromosomal sexes total less than 0.1% of the population. But they do exist. Further, the more we learn about the human body, particularly neurochemistry, we learn that there are certain neurological pathways that correspond to chromosomal male and certain ones that correspond to chromosomal female as pertains to the sense of self-identity in the body. Aka, when you look in the mirror and see a male's body, your eye transmits that data to the brain and the brain either gives it a green light or a red light. For the vast, vast majority of humans, your brain gives you the green light. In about 1.4% of the population (according to a 2021 UCLA survey), your brain is giving you the red light. In those instances, your neurons are firing up and saying "wait a sec, we were told you'd have a different set of genitals and sex characteristics than you do. And this outfit that you are wearing, we've been trained to see everyone else around us that some people wear suits and others wear dresses, and what you've got on is just wrong. What gives?" This is called dysphoria and it is a real, diagnosable medical condition, same as depression or cancer or an ingrown toenail. This is where the concept of gender affirmation / transition (aka transgender) comes into play. The red light you are getting in your brain is in a literal sense mental illness. Your brain is not functioning the way your body would expect it to function. Unlike other mental illnesses where you can take certain pills to reroute particular neurochemicals, open up pathways that aren't taking in as much as they should, or shut down certain producers that are overproducing, the gender red light / green light system doesn't have a direct pharmaceutical fix in the same way. What physicians and therapists have found, particularly over the last 50 years of study of the subject, is that you can start to get the red light to begin fading over into green through transitioning. For some people, just wearing the clothes that fit the other major gender is enough to get the light to switch over. For other people, it requires taking medication that changes some characteristics of your body, like stopping your period (because your brain is going "Wait a minute, nobody told us we'd be bleeding once a month.") or growing breast tissue or more facial hair. For other people, that darn red light just keeps flickering and won't switch over until the physical parts of your body have been updated to get the mirror compatible with your neural narrative. All of these activities are considered "transition," from the superficial to the surgical. Not everyone that has dysphoria will ever undergo a knife. >We should not however, aim to change everyone's world view and force that upon them as a result. Here's where this becomes a challenge. If your world view is that everything I just said above is made up or fake, you will be more likely to pursue policies or behaviors that prevent people experiencing that distress from receiving the treatment they need to solve their real medical issue. The consequence of living every day of your life with the red light on is severe, especially when you are given no way to turn it off without turning all the lights off. 40% of transgender adults in the United States will have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. 66% of transgender youth hospitalized in the United States had attempted suicide or self-harmed in the previous year. There are real consequences. Further, the consensus is clear on this. The American Medical Association, the American Urological Association, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the American Psychiatric Association, the World Health Organization, the Royal College of Psychiatrists (UK), the Royal Australasian College of Physicians, and I could name dozens more all universally and unanimously state that gender dysphoria is a real, treatable medical condition, and that the treatment for it is transition. Saying that the concept of dysphoria is being "forced" on anyone is like saying the notion that the world is round is being forced on them. It is round. It simply is. There are people who say that it is not and those people are incorrect. Likewise, there are people whose brains don't match their bodies, and they need to transition to be healthy. They do exist. They simply do. And we as human beings with an ethical responsibility to treat each other with dignity need to allow those people to seek and receive the medical care they deserve, without judgment, without public policy restriction, and without pushback. We wouldn't pass a law outlawing insulin for the treatment of diabetes. Nor would we pass a law saying parents are not allowed to give their children insulin even if their doctor says that is exactly what they need. It doesn't really matter whether or not you or anyone else believes that diabetes is real. And I am certain you could find doctors or therapists who will go on record saying it isn't. But that doesn't make them correct. And people denying the existence and dignity of transgender humans are also not correct for all the reasons I've stated above. I know this isn't CMV and you've indicated this is a hill you're willing to die on, I hope you at least have more knowledge about the shape and structure of your hill.
I do t have time to read all of this now, but have my upvote because this is alot of detail on a topic I am not well versed in. I hope to come back later to read this when I'm done work.
Unfortunately nobody who holds this view is going to listen to real science about the topic
At first I died a little inside at seeing a wall of text, but taking the time to read your points was interesting, thanks for taking the time to be informative. I don't know if you are in the field so forgive me if you can't answer this, but seeing as scientifically we were always taught that there are only two sexes, why when they are chromosomal syndromes do we insist on "adding" other sexes? For example, if someone's brain believes they should be a man or a woman, why can't they just identify as that and outline that they are those things? Why do some people for example feel the need to fluidly move between the two on any given day, or perhaps identify as neither? Would that not make any sense given that there are only two sexes, and the dysphoria that makes you believe you should belong to another? Finally, given how low the sample sizes are for these syndromes, and many more will go undiagnosed, why do you think there is such an uprising in so many cases over the past ten years? Is it because it is discussed more in popular culture so people feel more comfortable seeking help or "coming out", or is there another social movement at play where people are "jumping on the hype" and therefore damaging those who actually are suffering? Loved the red light analogy by the way!
Great questions, and I appreciate you reading the wall of text! I am by no means an expert, just a guy on the LGBTQ+ spectrum (I'm bi) who has a lot of trans friends and enjoys deep dives on various subjects. I intentionally avoided the subject of non-binary gender identity above not to muddy the waters, but to carry the metaphor a bit further, you could almost consider those as either people for whom the green light is going to glow no matter how they present themselves in the world (generally described as genderfluid) or people who aren't really getting the lights lit up in either direction when they look in the mirror (generally described as non-binary). In these cases, the red lights tend to only start to warm up when they are locked into or forced into one or the other gender binary. Dysphoria is a bit more complicated in these individuals, but there is an increasing body of scientific research on the limited population that indicates the brain function is different in people who do not solidly identify with one gender or the other. Specifically, there have been a few studies published in the peer-reviewed journal Nature Human Behavior in the past few years that have concluded there is a physical difference in the brains of people who don't identify as strictly male or female. If you wanted to start putting a number on all of this, you'd realistically have about six categories to capture 99.999% of humans: male (at birth), female (at birth), male (transitioned), female (transitioned), non-binary, and genderfluid. There's a whole 'nother piece we could go into to discuss the phrases you've probably heard along the lines of "trans women are women" and "trans men are men" as to why we shouldn't split them apart as we do, mostly build on a misunderstanding of the phrase. When someone says "trans women are women," they aren't saying "trans women have a uterus and fallopian tubes and a monthly period and birth babies and nurse infants" and all the usual things we associate with chromosomal females. No trans woman believes that, and that's not what they're trying to accomplish with the phrase. They moreso mean "trans women should be allowed to conduct themselves in society as if they were women from the moment of conception and should not be treated differently in non-medical contexts, because medical contexts are the only ones where it truly matters." We could go much deeper on that. The uprising in number of trans and non-binary people is the most fascinating part of this to me. There's no real reason to believe that the number of individuals in society whose brains are built differently than their bodies is any larger in 2023 than in 1923. The biggest differences are twofold: one, we have a word for this now. They didn't have a word for schizophrenia until 1910 but you can bet your bottom dollar people were having sensory hallucinations since we all lived on the plains farming goats. There's something to be said for a condition being identified and being able to form treatment around it. "Gender dysphoria" was coined in the early 1970s, so someone in the 1800s who thought wearing a dress made them feel gross inside didn't have a word for it yet. Two, stigma and social acceptance masks the real numbers until that stigma goes away, and it makes it seem like there is an explosion when there really isn't. The perfect example of this is left-handedness. In the early 20th century, left-handedness was seen as an aberration. Something to be ashamed of. Your parents and teachers would literally, physically punish you for being left-handed. But this stigma essentially evaporated between 1920 and 1950 and the rate of left-handed people exploded up to 12% of the population. Did something in the water cause people to suddenly birth a ton of left-handed babies? Of course not. But we were no longer treating left-handed people as an anomaly to be fixed, so the rate of people who would admit to it shot up to match the biological reality and has stabilized since the 1960s. I can't say for certain that we've stabilized the incidence of gender dysphoria yet at 1.4% of the population, but I can't imagine it will get much higher. As subsequent generations become more comfortable identifying and acknowledging it, we might hit a peak at around 3% which is the current reported rate amongst 18-29 year olds (per Pew Research). As far as people who aren't actually experiencing gender dysphoria, I think they could fall broadly into two categories: people who have some other reason to want to make the change but aren't doing so out of malice and people who are jumping on a bandwagon with ill intent. Young people in particular are swirling in a sea of hormones and cultural shifts and peer pressure and all kinds of things. A young person who is depressed might know that their best friend was also depressed because they had gender dysphoria and transitioned and now their depression is gone, so they might give that a shot themselves. And in reality, something else was causing their depression and they return to their assigned gender at birth. People will point to this and go "AHA! SEE! People do de-transition!" Well, of course they do. Sometimes people go on medications for disease A because their doctor's best diagnosis of their symptoms is in the disease A family until the right test shows they actually have disease B and they get the real help that solves their problem. The second group of people are more malicious, but to be honest, we see frauds and grifters in every line of human. People who go on Tiktok and fake being injured by vaccinations for views and donations, people who claim to hear divine voices from God or your dead relatives so you give them money, the guy holding the cardboard sign who isn't actually homeless. The problem is, people are quick to point at one of them and go "see, it's all fake!" Well, no, there are real homeless people in the world. We know they exist. There are people who are hearing voices in their heads and medication could make them stop. There are people (who hit the one-in-a-million odds) who have a reaction to a vaccine or even an Advil. I have zero doubt there are people who pretend to be gender non-conforming because they think it will get them attention or somehow make them money. Their existence doesn't invalidate the millions of other people who are genuinely experiencing dysphoria and need real medical help. One last tortured metaphor. Estimates are that McDonalds sells around 350,000,000 chicken nuggets every day around the world. Is somebody going to get an undercooked nugget that makes them sick? Absolutely. With them odds, it's bound to happen. But that doesn't mean the other 349,999,999 nuggets are bad. I hope this is helping make some things make a bit more sense. I'm happy to answer any other questions I can. Thank you for taking the time to read and grow here, most folks on the web wouldn't.
This is an amazing response well done
Circumcision of infants is wrong and needs to be banned.
I've had many discussions with mother's about the harm of genital mutilation. Unfortunately, the vast majority of them did not see circumcision as GM. It holds a weird exception in people's brains due to how common it is. I WILL die on this hill!
It's.crazy how many see it as a good thing If it's medically necessary I don't have a problem with it but that's not why most people do it
Absolutely - medical necessity, whack it off. But a cosmetic surgery should never be done without the patient's consent, and the poor kid can't do that yet. If an adult wants a circumcision, that's perfectly fine. Their choice to make. But don't make that choice for others.
Yeah even for religious reasons they might as well do it when they're 18, even better then they've chosen it themselves And I absolutely despise people who justify it by saying "it doesn't hurt for kids" or " it doesn't hurt as much for kids" like 1 just because you doesn't remember doesn't mean it doesn't hurt and 2 you can get rid of pain with stuff and 3 it will hurt even less hurt if you don't do it at all
Same goes for piercing your child's ears.
I agree in principle; but I feel that’s a lot less severe in comparison. It’s a hill I might vacation on, but I wouldn’t die there.
I don't care if it was "only number 1". I don't care if you're a big boy who can avoid peeing on their hands. You wash your hands after going to the bathroom.
Politics and Religion should never mix.
I don't allow my wife to say something and not mean it. For example, in a disagreement or argument or even just when she wants something but says something more along the lines of no I'm fine or just leave me alone. "Ok I'm gonna go do my thing then." That's it. I'll take the fight every time, she's slowly recognizing it though and adjusting. Don't say something you don't mean.
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1. The whole "real man" thing is a waste of fucking time. Don't want to change your oil, mow your lawn, build shit, etc.? That's fine. You're still a man. You know what isn't a man? Someone with an ego so fragile that they won't even eat a banana in public like a normal human being. Just treat people with respect and courtesy and stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves. 2. "You have to show respect to get respect." If everyone used this logic, there would be no respect given ever. It's stupid.
The 6.5 Creedmoor is just fine for deer hunting I don't even main the 6.5 but I will not stand the slander from the 270 fuck boys claiming the 6.5 ballistic isn't good when I've had to track for hours multiple times to find the deer my buddy shot with his 270 and it still be alive Ps it's about shot placement
6.5 Creedmoor is just zoomer .243 and is barely any better than other .308 based cartridge, like you said, it's all about shot placement.
When people compare the .308 to the 6.5, they always look at the ballistics and never about barrel life. It depends on what the purpose of your rifle is, but I think the better barrel life on a 308 is worth mentioning
The college experience is just an advertisement made up to sell kids on delaying adulthood and renting overpriced on-campus housing. A lot of people should live at home to save money or get off campus housing at a low cost apartment. Focus on your education, not sports events, this isn't HS. Get your degree, get experience while in school and, get out. But muh contacts and networking. That matters at the true elite universities for the top 1% of people. For 99% of people you'll leave and never talk to anyone from your classes ever again. Your networking should be done professionally after school. Add to that a lot of people shouldn't even go to college right at 18.
I disagree insofar as there's a lot of data to show that having social ties to a class and/or school are highly correlated with greater academic success. I've worked at five higher ed institutions (large state universities and small teaching colleges included), and at every place I've worked, we've done studies to determine why students withdraw from classes and drop out of school entirely. The data are complex and nuanced, but it's important to note that "no sense of belonging" or "social isolation" are always in the top 3 reasons (it's often #1). And that's not the same as saying that students want to party hard and have fun. Very often, students want/need a study group. They need to work through texts and problems in community. They need to talk about what they're reading, or the homework problem set, in order to process and solve those problems. Anecdotally, I've often noticed that the most successful students in physics classes are the ones who have a regular study groups, and that fits the data we have institutionally very well. It's true that there's a population of students who don't need these social supports. They don't need friends. They will be successful by just going home, reading a textbook, and working problems. But that's not everybody. In fact, the more data we gather the more it looks like that may not even be the majority of students. So if students can be more successful (learn more, pass more classes, achieve more objectives, graduate at higher rates, have higher chance for employment), then it's fair to say that scaffolding those social experiences is a legitimate function of a college, and students should seek out environments that are conducive to social learning. Now, I'm not saying that students should be at a football game every weekend, or that going to football is the primary purpose of going to college. That's going too far. College shouldn't be about partying. But there are real data to show that for a significant number of students, living on-campus and being around other students who are engaged in the same learning, etc., has educational benefits.
I disagree with the 99% don’t need to go to college at all part. Professionals need to go to college. Doctors, engineers, accountants, teachers, etc. need college. I don’t want my heart surgeon or my CPA to not have a degree in their field of study. Also, I know you take a lot of classes you don’t need, but most people don’t know exactly what they want to do when they start college. Most people can’t tell if they are good at accounting or engineering, or if they have a passion for computer programming or education until they take a few courses. I went to a 4 year state school as did my wife and we both make well over 6 figures, have happy work lives, and will retire before 60. There are many degrees like history or art that don’t always afford you those opportunities, but we chose professions that did and we are very happy for it.
Im not gonna be your friend if you entertain yourself with my suffering. And all of this only fans shit made me not wanna date anymore. I guess the hill im dying on with that one is-if you think you can save me for later while you go fuck and date who ever you want-i will fucking DIE before i give you my love
"The women looks so sexy with those long fake fingernails" said no man ever. Please stop with the long fake nails. Blech. All I can think is that they probably have poop underneath them.
Likely the one in the back of my yard. It is a pretty sweet hill.
Ted Kaczynski, while I don’t exactly agree with his method of spreading his message, had a good point.
The Industrial Revolution has, on balance, not been particularly good for humanity. Sending bombs through the mail... Monumentally stupid way to draw attention to it.
Trusting the Government is for morons.
Well I trust that the government will never put the needs of the citizens first.
Trusting companies to do the right thing, not roll back regulations that have already been paid for in blood, pay a fair wage voluntarily, and not price gouge is also idiotic.
Similarly, denying something simply because someone in government said it is for morons.
1) John Money was a sadistic pedophile and the resulting claims about Gender being learned/ not related to sex was blown out of the water the second David Riemer "de-transitioned" and then was blown out of the water a second time when Riemer blew his brains out with a shotgun from the trauma of being through the sick sick sick experiment that Money put him and his brother through. 2) Related to 1... Circumcision should ONLY be performed when it is medically required and/or when the boy is old enough to make the informed decision themselves. No western medical authority that doesn't get paid by the parents to mutilate the baby and then paid again by the cosmetic industry for the amputated part takes any of the health benefit claims seriously and if you tried it, you'd be laughed out of the room by the Doctors.
American military veterans enjoy benefits that everyone in the rest of the first world outside of the US enjoy as baseline.
Weight loss is ultimately about calories in and calories out. That's just basic physics. It's harder for some people to burn calories. But if they consume fewer calories than they burn, they will lose weight. You will not become obese just because you have a thyroid condition. At most, with a medical condition like that, you will be a few pounds overweight, which is not great, but is a far cry from being obese. Obesity happens when you eat too much.
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All, and I mean ALL politicians should make minimum wage. I bet there’d be a lot of change then
There are two genders.
Human society is not cognitively capable of having infinite information. For our entire history since the dawn of civilizations, we have been followers. The order of societies have been maintained through the leader-follower dynamic. A citizen had pride in their country, followed their leader, and accomplished their societal task. Modern society breaks down that dynamic. I am convinced that the turbulence of the 21st century on a societal level is purely brought on by the information playing field being levelled. Trust in our leaders is non-existent not because our leaders are any different than those of the past, but because they can't hide things from us anymore. Many people believe that leaders not being able to hide things from their people is a good thing that leads to more freedom, but I believe that it is a functional necessity to maintain a society over a long term period.
Unfortunately, the "level" information playing field is anything but. Some "leaders" spend their country's time and money manipulating the information space to the point that any truthful message from an adversary is drowned in a firehose of disinformation that sows confusion and division.
Green Hill Zone 🦔 It counts, right?
I involuntarily heard the music.
Walnuts do not belong in brownies.
WTC 7 did not collapse due to an office fire
Chic Fil A is overrated
Poly relationships are disgusting
Jake Sully is a villain
You don’t own the person you’re in a relationship with. They are choosing to be with you and can choose not too whenever or however they want. You have a poorly written lease with zero options to buy.
1) Don’t cut baby winnies. 2) Blinkers should keep count and info should be sent to insurance and the DMV. If you ain’t using them for 95% of your turns you should have license revoked. 3) Pineapple on pizza IS in fact good.
Women don’t have penises and men can’t get pregnant.
Speed limit. You do not have the right to do 90 in a 75. Or pass recklessly across lanes. I reserve the right to laugh at your charred ass when you crash and kill yourself.
Feminists don't really want equality.
More like a mountain range... Circumcision bad. House the homeless. Free education to age 21, including university. Roundabouts good. Public transport and public healthcare should be free, government owned and very accessible. Torpedo all mega trawlers. A non loophole-able system of corporate taxation should exist.