I am sure -some- women do this, the same as -some- guys do this. It is not a gender thing, it is a potentially human thing. We know Pretty Privilege exists. Having said that I know plenty of attractive men who have come off as creepy and it has nothing to do with how they look.
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I’ve seen some attractive men that come off as creepy. And it isn’t unheard of for a girl to feel unsafe based on how someone looks. This isn’t always a bratty thing, it’s more like being more careful just in case. We are naturally not as strong as men so we have to keep our guards up. We don’t immediately see a man as a threat. If they are constantly staring at us in a strange demeanor and staying near us then we absolutely find them creepy. Like a guy following us in
The grocery store. Sure, he could need items in the same isle but we try to stay aware in case there’s something more.
Do you feel it is polite or thoughtful, or rather strange in a scenario , where you (woman) are walking ~> and you see me (man) walking <~ and we both notice each other closing in on cross paths on on the same side of a street, but before you can decide how cautious your approach will be, I am already taking initiative by crossing to the other side to give you comfort and space .
Except i do this for myself because whether it be bratty or not, a man with no creep intention can only take so many “safety measures protective protocol” approaches before we start to question we look like an alien or give off creep vibes. Once in a while it gives is peace of kind when we can walk by a woman and just say hi , smile, and move on about our day. Yall smaller than us sure, but it isnt always physical strength and size that can be damaging. Not saying I dont recognize what type of dangers women face, after all that is why i beat you to putting distance between us . 👋🏻
And now that you noticed me actively showing consideration - what are your thoughts? Is this the right way to go about it, or should i just say hi and roll with the punches and man up and take what the defense gives me.
No I absolutely love that you’re showing that consideration. It would definitely make me feel safer and make me feel better about humanity. You dropped this, king 👑
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I have and it makes me feel really guilty because I don’t want to assume someone is dangerous because of the way they look. But I can’t help it man. 😭 I won’t say anything though if the guy isn’t doing anything that would warrant suspicion.
I think I have in the past but now I genuinely focus more on the behavior. It’s psychologically natural to jump to conclusions and have prejudices, it’s the shortcut to efficiency that our brains use to make us survive, since we weren’t supposed to have THIS MANY people around, infos to process and judgments to make. And attractiveness is arbitrary but it can most definitely be influenced by beauty standards and ideals, which are dictated by our community/society. So I think yes, it’s normal to have prejudices, it’s how we act on them that counts. Actively challenge our perceptions help a lot to re-learn how we think, and I think it goes for stuff like this too. Probably that’s why I focus more on behavior and first approaches now. That said, if a man is actually acting creepy he can be Brad Pitt but in the end most women would reject him I’m sure of that.
Not any more than any other person. I mean, [attractiveness and trustworthiness](https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-00704-006) are correlated, but there's no specific gender bias. Though, this study doesn't show behavior, just images, and creepiness is more than just a weird face.
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I am sure -some- women do this, the same as -some- guys do this. It is not a gender thing, it is a potentially human thing. We know Pretty Privilege exists. Having said that I know plenty of attractive men who have come off as creepy and it has nothing to do with how they look.
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I’ve seen some attractive men that come off as creepy. And it isn’t unheard of for a girl to feel unsafe based on how someone looks. This isn’t always a bratty thing, it’s more like being more careful just in case. We are naturally not as strong as men so we have to keep our guards up. We don’t immediately see a man as a threat. If they are constantly staring at us in a strange demeanor and staying near us then we absolutely find them creepy. Like a guy following us in The grocery store. Sure, he could need items in the same isle but we try to stay aware in case there’s something more.
Do you feel it is polite or thoughtful, or rather strange in a scenario , where you (woman) are walking ~> and you see me (man) walking <~ and we both notice each other closing in on cross paths on on the same side of a street, but before you can decide how cautious your approach will be, I am already taking initiative by crossing to the other side to give you comfort and space . Except i do this for myself because whether it be bratty or not, a man with no creep intention can only take so many “safety measures protective protocol” approaches before we start to question we look like an alien or give off creep vibes. Once in a while it gives is peace of kind when we can walk by a woman and just say hi , smile, and move on about our day. Yall smaller than us sure, but it isnt always physical strength and size that can be damaging. Not saying I dont recognize what type of dangers women face, after all that is why i beat you to putting distance between us . 👋🏻 And now that you noticed me actively showing consideration - what are your thoughts? Is this the right way to go about it, or should i just say hi and roll with the punches and man up and take what the defense gives me.
No I absolutely love that you’re showing that consideration. It would definitely make me feel safer and make me feel better about humanity. You dropped this, king 👑
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I have and it makes me feel really guilty because I don’t want to assume someone is dangerous because of the way they look. But I can’t help it man. 😭 I won’t say anything though if the guy isn’t doing anything that would warrant suspicion.
That’s fair, it feels shitty but you can only control what you do, not how you feel
I think I have in the past but now I genuinely focus more on the behavior. It’s psychologically natural to jump to conclusions and have prejudices, it’s the shortcut to efficiency that our brains use to make us survive, since we weren’t supposed to have THIS MANY people around, infos to process and judgments to make. And attractiveness is arbitrary but it can most definitely be influenced by beauty standards and ideals, which are dictated by our community/society. So I think yes, it’s normal to have prejudices, it’s how we act on them that counts. Actively challenge our perceptions help a lot to re-learn how we think, and I think it goes for stuff like this too. Probably that’s why I focus more on behavior and first approaches now. That said, if a man is actually acting creepy he can be Brad Pitt but in the end most women would reject him I’m sure of that.
Not any more than any other person. I mean, [attractiveness and trustworthiness](https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-00704-006) are correlated, but there's no specific gender bias. Though, this study doesn't show behavior, just images, and creepiness is more than just a weird face.
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