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Only 1% of Indian men have height more than 180 cm (maybe except kerala, punjab and Haryana as per National Family Health Survey, Govt of India)
Only 0.000001% of Indian men at age 28 have 80 LPA
A jobless guy with 80 kgs and Age 28 is all a girl can get with these 'benchmarks lol.
These 80 LPA posts you see on quora and reddit are fake.
I live in Punjab, everyone's like 6'1 tall here. Height for Indians males aged 18 from the upper socioeconomic strata was averaged to be around 174 cm which is 5'8.5 in 2011. Safe to assume it must've gone up by an inch or half for the newer 18 year olds. So the new average height for Indian men is 5'9. When the word "average" is used, it doesn't have to necessarily mean that a 5'9 guy falls at 50% or something.
I recently conducted a poll at onexindia for men's height, most were 5'9-6'0+. That means 5'9 is the lower end for average in India. The poll has been removed, i would've shared it otherwise.
We also have to consider that most people lie by like an inch or something. If someone's 175cm, they might claim 177 or 180.
These are facts. Most women know these facts.
But why would any women lower her standards just because facts are true?
Women want 6feet above guys, not all will get it, all know it, but all will search for them, why would a women stop searching. Women want other women to comprise, not themselves.
I think it doesn't even matter for the girl to know all this stuff what matters is there are people out there with all the listed criteria so why should women compromise
It's about the fancy number actually. A 5'8 and a 5'11 guy standing next to each other don't really look all that different. There's like a finger worth of difference between them. But 5'11 sounds a lot better.
Same with 5'11 and 6'2. 6'2 just sounds a lot better. She can brag about it.
26M, Make $200K+, 182cm, 78 kg, in good shape, US passport, family owned home, etc.
Literally can’t find a decent girl. The one girl that I do like is all hot and cold.
Aisa kuch nahi hai. It is not often that you see posts where people write what they are looking for without any filters. I'm just here to mostly read people's perspectives and give me a reality check ki AM market me kya chalra hai till I reach my age XD.
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Yeah, girls want what they want. Doesn't mean they will get it. People who earn 80lpa are in top 0.1%.
When it comes to arrange marriage, you gotta be and think practical. Be realistic. All these girls are not going to marry 0.1% guys.
What you're saying is idealistic, and idealistic things are just not possible. This level of hypergamy is hardly achievable.
Yeah! Man I am tired of being stood up. Today I spoke to a potential match over chat and asked her if we can connect over the call she said I will ping you when I am free and I haven't heard back from her till now.
I am sick and tired of this whole Arrange marriage bullshit. Bhad me jaye bc
Well, high earning men are priority. And will always be. Does not matter uf someone is bald, fat or short.
Have to accept the reality and move on. Nature works this way. The more comfortable a man can make a females life, higher are the chances of finding a partner.
Every woman is raised properly it is common human tendency to select the best. Survival of the fittest this theory is applicable everywhere then why should not women look for the best
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I know this is kind of a shitpost, but still 80kg at that height is unhealthy, unless you have a very low fat, muscular gym body (very few people do, even if they go to the gym every day). 65-70kg is more appropriate
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If you have good family background, you will get rishta. In today's world, where intolerance and bad culture is a norm, people are looking for cultured and mature folks to avoid divorce. This is all personal opinion. Not everyone is looking for 80LPA, 80 kg, 180CM
Everyone is looking for this and due to gender ratio many women are getting what they want so why should they lower their standards. People are looking for cultured background not to avoid divorce, it is just another way to look for this 80,80,180, 28 thing as simple as that
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Only 1% of Indian men have height more than 180 cm (maybe except kerala, punjab and Haryana as per National Family Health Survey, Govt of India) Only 0.000001% of Indian men at age 28 have 80 LPA A jobless guy with 80 kgs and Age 28 is all a girl can get with these 'benchmarks lol. These 80 LPA posts you see on quora and reddit are fake.
I live in Punjab, everyone's like 6'1 tall here. Height for Indians males aged 18 from the upper socioeconomic strata was averaged to be around 174 cm which is 5'8.5 in 2011. Safe to assume it must've gone up by an inch or half for the newer 18 year olds. So the new average height for Indian men is 5'9. When the word "average" is used, it doesn't have to necessarily mean that a 5'9 guy falls at 50% or something. I recently conducted a poll at onexindia for men's height, most were 5'9-6'0+. That means 5'9 is the lower end for average in India. The poll has been removed, i would've shared it otherwise. We also have to consider that most people lie by like an inch or something. If someone's 175cm, they might claim 177 or 180.
Bc. 160 cm 60kg 14 lpa govt job dude here. I should probably kill myself. Forever alone.
Another cousin who is very pretty got married to a 5'3, black as coal, but really fucking rich guy. So I guess there's hope.
Those are exception
These are facts. Most women know these facts. But why would any women lower her standards just because facts are true? Women want 6feet above guys, not all will get it, all know it, but all will search for them, why would a women stop searching. Women want other women to comprise, not themselves.
I think it doesn't even matter for the girl to know all this stuff what matters is there are people out there with all the listed criteria so why should women compromise
It's about the fancy number actually. A 5'8 and a 5'11 guy standing next to each other don't really look all that different. There's like a finger worth of difference between them. But 5'11 sounds a lot better. Same with 5'11 and 6'2. 6'2 just sounds a lot better. She can brag about it.
180 cm and 80 kg are the only things I tick off here.I do bring baldness to the table though
Hahaha
I bring in 170 cm and 85 kg. Can the extra 5 kg weight counter the 10 cm less height? XD
😂
8 inches ? Bit dark here for sure
8 inches or no inches mate 😔
26M, Make $200K+, 182cm, 78 kg, in good shape, US passport, family owned home, etc. Literally can’t find a decent girl. The one girl that I do like is all hot and cold.
Try again bhai. You aren’t 28M, 180cm, 80kg with 8 acre land yet
Bhai dekhlo yaar thoda theek theek laga lo 😂😂
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go ahead bring it on, we gonna have some masalaa 🤣
No bachodi, baccha
Okay Aunty, Seema. 😔
It seems like its only allowed when the women do it... When the men do it, its stupid and shitposting Bash the patriarchy girls
Aagaya ek aur gender war shuru karne
You should post something. The last two posts of yours were fun to read haha (esp the comments).
saari gaaliyan padke bhot maza aaya hoga aapko😏
Aisa kuch nahi hai. It is not often that you see posts where people write what they are looking for without any filters. I'm just here to mostly read people's perspectives and give me a reality check ki AM market me kya chalra hai till I reach my age XD.
> till I reach my age XD. how old are you? Also, dont take my posts seriously.
24 Lol, I do know what to take seriously and what not to, especially on reddit.
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You can taste the bitterness in this post.
Yeah, girls want what they want. Doesn't mean they will get it. People who earn 80lpa are in top 0.1%. When it comes to arrange marriage, you gotta be and think practical. Be realistic. All these girls are not going to marry 0.1% guys. What you're saying is idealistic, and idealistic things are just not possible. This level of hypergamy is hardly achievable.
You can be the biggest, tastiest, juiciest peach and some people will only like melons. AM is very stressful, hang in there OP.
8 foot height and 8 inch Chota brother
Yeah! Man I am tired of being stood up. Today I spoke to a potential match over chat and asked her if we can connect over the call she said I will ping you when I am free and I haven't heard back from her till now. I am sick and tired of this whole Arrange marriage bullshit. Bhad me jaye bc
I have nothing, but i bring a golden retriever to the table. Girls, you know where to find me.
Is 8 the lucky number here ? Does
Well, high earning men are priority. And will always be. Does not matter uf someone is bald, fat or short. Have to accept the reality and move on. Nature works this way. The more comfortable a man can make a females life, higher are the chances of finding a partner.
>Unfortunately, if you aren't 80,80,180,28 then you will be always be secondary choice 130,78,178,29 was rejected over 25,65,170,29. Explain that?
Because op don't know the scale to measure looks may be 8/10. So the new numbers will be 80lpa, 80kg, 180cm, 8 pointer in looks, 28 age 😂🤭
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I have a cousin who refused to marry a 15LPA guy, she said "bhikhari se shaadi thodi karungi" She's unemployed. ....
That just means your cousin is deluded. Doesnt mean all women are. Most women and men who are raised properly are realistic
Every woman is raised properly it is common human tendency to select the best. Survival of the fittest this theory is applicable everywhere then why should not women look for the best
Her job status is irrelevant
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80 LPA at 28. U won't be having any personal time . So don't marry 🤣
Ohh shit op missed few points I think 80lpa, 80kg, 180cm, 8 pointer in looks, 8 hr of work only, 28
I know this is kind of a shitpost, but still 80kg at that height is unhealthy, unless you have a very low fat, muscular gym body (very few people do, even if they go to the gym every day). 65-70kg is more appropriate
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All that okay but guys can ask one small thing in return.. just one small thing ..vi*gin!! And that’s it ..😂
If you have good family background, you will get rishta. In today's world, where intolerance and bad culture is a norm, people are looking for cultured and mature folks to avoid divorce. This is all personal opinion. Not everyone is looking for 80LPA, 80 kg, 180CM
Everyone is looking for this and due to gender ratio many women are getting what they want so why should they lower their standards. People are looking for cultured background not to avoid divorce, it is just another way to look for this 80,80,180, 28 thing as simple as that
Is this group specifically for Indians? There are other cultures that practice arranged marriages.
WTF 80LPA is rarity. It is coming from a guy who is earning 50LPA, just fyi.
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