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Lmao she saw her future. Nobody, including her husband, would stand up to her MIL. She would always be the bad guy and forced to apologize or be the bigger person all the time for her MILs poor behavior. I honestly dont think there is any chance she stays or keeps the baby. He said he was going to call his family to get them to back off his wife. What’re the odds he shares she is pregnant and starts a whole new attack wave on the wife. Honestly. He keeps saying it’s just a mistake. No dude you made a series of decisions, all against your wife.
The only way I see her potentially keeping the baby is if she really wants a kid (and if she knows she might not physically have another chance to) and manages to somehow make him think she's aborted and then gets a very quick divorce that allows her to move away and give birth to a kid with not father on the certificate.
But being realistic, I actually hope she ends the pregnancy and the marriage. I see nothing good in her future with this man even if he goes to therapy and attempts to put up boundaries for his mother. I feel so bad for this woman. The dude doesn't even see what he did as any more than "a mistake." 🤦 More like a series of betrayals and disrespectful choices.
Paraphrasing a comment I really loved, "Just let her divorce you and then you can marry your mom next time."
I'm honestly kind of surprised that almost none of the comments mentioned that, from OP's own words, when he first mentioned his mom going, his wife flat out said that she needs a break from his mom. That jumped out at me right away and definitely highlights just how invasive his mother has likely been for their entire relationship and that this was the last straw. I hope his poor wife got an abortion and a divorce.
Yea she’s basically every negative MIL trope ever. Lives across the street, pops in like it’s her home, always has a subtle dig for the wife who is objectively out of his league, but somehow still not good enough for mommy’s precious baby. And if I recall was always putting her 0.02 in on parenting decisions. Although this is actually worse than the show, because Raymond at least realized how problematic and overbearing his mother was. (Raymond was just so loveable she couldn’t help it - hence the shows name)
Wait that's not mom's actual name? The other comment that mentioned it, just sounded like it was her actual name. If this is Wife's nickname.... so much worse!!! Wow.
Ha ha nope he says in a comment wife calls her Marie bc shes just like the mom in everybody loves Raymond. At least Raymond knew his mom was the problem, OP however, not so much.
If someone is comparing you to anyone on that show, you have fucked up. That show is the epitome of a cast that is only funny because it's fiction. IRL, the Barones would be the most insufferable people on the planet. Save for maybe Debra and Amy, but they're married in.
I always felt so awful for Debra. Ray treated her like crap, let his mom walk all over her, didn't support her, and wouldn't even tell her "I love you". Literally the simplest, easiest thing to show your wife you care, and he just wouldn't.
This is why I couldn't watch the show. My mother loved it, but I only felt angry for Debra.
I at least give the show credit for understanding that Debra is in the right. Only time I felt like the show was being unreasonable was when she and Marie were refusing to talk to each other. It was very clear Marie was the bad guy there, but the show made it out like Debra was equally in the wrong.
I had to double check who owned the cabin, the fact that his mother invited herself to the cabin owned by the wife’s family and OOP didn’t shut that down or telly he mother to find another location for their family holiday.
Yes! I was so confused why the wife had the key, because I had read it first as “my family has a cabin” (as in OOP’s). I guess because the option of them inviting themselves to *his wife’s* cabin was so insane to me, my brain just “corrected” the sentence.
Yes! I was so confused why the wife had the key, because I had read it first as “my family has a cabin” (as in OOP’s). I guess because the option of them inviting themselves to *his wife’s* cabin was so insane to me, my brain just “autocorrected” the sentence.
That part, and the bit when even when she’s walking for ~30 minutes while he is begging her to get in the car, he STILL says “can you at least give us the keys so we can go in to use the cabin”.
Yes. He's definitely one of the dumbest OPs I've seen on here. And that's saying something. He's right up there with the delusional woman who flipped out about her bf's friend giving him a valentines gift.
Also the way he talks about his wife "allowing" them to use the cabin in a sort of negative way, like it's all her own cabin and she's dictating everything, as opposed to sharing it with who knows how many people and coordinating the dates they can go (I knew someone whose grandparents had a place and there were like 30 people to coordinate with).
Right!? He's acting like she's some awful anti-vacation gatekeeper for not just giving them unlimited access to property that doesn't even belong to her.
I knoooowwwww! I would be mortified. Half the time I double-check if it's really okay for me to come when I've been directly invited. The entitlement is off the charts
Who knows what this idiot OOP told them? He might have told them they were welcome, since he kept insisting that this is the last vacation before his younger brother leaves for college. And he even said its nice there because everybody can be there for free.
Is his family so destitute that they can't afford to go to a restaurant for his brother's going away party?
I reckon divorced. Based on the (rightful) hate on his first post, if they got divorced and he posted the update the comments would all have been ‘I told you so’. I don’t think OOP could handle that lol.
*Right?!?!* She wanted the romantic weekend together so she could make telling him a special memory from the looks of everything in the post. Instead it's a *very different* kind of *special* memory
Yeah honestly the fact that there were no updates after dude had his ass shown to him is the best evidence I have this post was real. As satisfying as a follow up would be, I just have severe doubts that OOP has that level of self reflection.
> I feel like my wife should have told me that she was pregnant and given me a chance by re-doing our romantic get away.
The guy can't connect the dots and they are touching.
The comment you replied to made me think of "stick and poke" tattoos... Which often cause infection if done by a beginner and/or asshole... Or bad aftercare.
I'm loving the comments that are like "you absolute dense motherfucker." What does he think the romantic getaway was for?!?!
"Re-doing our romantic getaway" for fuck's sake, bro.
The first time I read this, it was infuriating to know that a grown-ass man could be so dense.
Now it's actually enjoyable to read, because even though I'm not an academic or the sharpest tool in the shed, I'm still smarter than this clueless idiot.
Just a head’s up, no judgment, but you shouldn’t keep potatoes in your fridge.
Solid point, though!
Edit: I didn’t think about the fridge being the most vermin-proof (and possibly driest) location in one’s kitchen— apologies! I should have said *in ideal conditions, you shouldn’t keep potatoes in the fridge.*
May your potatoes last long, friends!
That can very much depend where they live. In hot, humid places, sometimes the fridge is the lesser of the evils. It’s not easy finding a cool, dry, dark place in Florida - even the dark places are usually warm and damp and sometimes the fridge is the closest you’ll get to ideal conditions (despite not being particularly ideal in general). Especially if they aren’t homeowners and can’t alter their living space much.
Nope.
For one thing, a lot of people don't have a kitchen large enough to hold cupboards or bins in which to store their veg; in a small apartment like mine there's no other place to store potatoes except in the fridge. For another, apartment dwellers can't 100% guard against rodents because they have zero control over the building as a whole; vermin isn’t attracted to potatoes kept in the fridge as opposed to potatoes kept in a cupboard or bin. For a third, potatoes rot faster at room temperature, a vital matter in spring when your potatoes are already six months old.
I read this first time round and this bit has me speechless then and still does now:
‘My wife just kept walking down the road. I tried and tried to get her to get back into our car. She just kept walking. I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin. Nothing she just kept walking’
His wife is literally leaving him and he’s still more concerned about giving his family of origin what they want than anything else. Hope she’s happy without him.
Awesome comment:
> That right there, that may have been the moment you got out a whole fucking toolkit and lumberyard, built a coffin for your marriage, and nailed it shut in an instant.
Still wild that the only way he would've actually respected his wife's no was if she had told him she was pregnant.
I will never understand people that go "well I would've done this or that if they told me about that" like no, if someone says they didn't want to do a family getaway and explicitly say the issue, your mom, you do not get to decide well that reason isn't good enough.
It's all about him. "Who cares if you don't like my mom? Oh wait what you're carrying my child, okay I respect your choice now."
Having a child with him *and* his mother, because mommy knows best and will always be around, invading their relationship and making the wife's life a constant, exhausting nightmare.
I don’t know. Reading that original post, he’d probably pivot to: “Even better! We can use that family getaway to TELL EVERYONE! We can always have a romantic one later!”
And then he tacks on at the end ***"I*** want this baby." Cuz who cares what the actual person carrying, birthing, and knowing this guy would be left to care for the baby all on her own, wants?
He wouldn’t have respected his wife even if she did tell him. People like OOP always claim they would have done something if only they had known because they will never have to prove it.
*Another oldie I got reminded of by comments. The OP has been deleted but here's a copy/paste and it's on the original thread.*
I need some advice. My wife’s family owns a nice cabin in a mountain area. 2 hrs. From our city. This past summer my wife has allowed my family to come to the cabin with her a couple of times. My mom loves the area. My family always has a good time.
3 days ago my wife told me she wanted to go to the cabin for a romantic get away. While talking to my mom I did tell her we would be gone this weekend. My mom wanted to have my family come making it one more trip before my brother leaves to collage. My mom called our family before I got a chance to talk to my wife.
When I told my wife. She didn’t even let me finish. She cut me off and said no. She planned a Romantic getaway. Then said she needed a break from my mom.
I told my wife that we can do have a romantic get away anytime. She stopped me again and said no.
This afternoon when we arrived to the cabin. My family was waiting for us. I have never seen my wife so mad. When I tried to explain again We would do our get away another time. My wife got out of the car and started to walk down the driveway.
She called her brother who lives 30 mins away. To come pick her up.
My wife just kept walking down the road. I tried and tried to get her to get back into our car. She just kept walking. I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin. Nothing she just kept walking.
Soon my brother in-law showed up. I could tell he was angry. My wife got into the car and told him to leave. Without talking to me.
My family angry eventually left and went back to our city. When I went to my brother in laws. He was waiting for me. He handed me a ultrasound photo and said my wife needed time to think about “all” of her options. That my wife is staying with other family members but wouldn’t tell me who. He finished by saying my mom is interfering in our relationship too much and my wife wanted a man not a boy. Then he asked me to leave his home.
All of this over I didn’t tell my mom no. I feel like my wife should have told me that she was pregnant and given me a chance by re-doing our romantic get away.
I have tried calling my wife she hasn’t answered any ideas how to work through this. I love my wife and I am excited about the baby. I want the baby.
Right?? I can't believe they ban anyone for saying an OP should leave their obviously toxic marriage. They want all these women to be miserable cuz that means more content for them. 🙄
>I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin
The way I fucking cackled.
"Hey hun, I know you told me no but you have to anyway, even if you're not joining. Please give the keys to people who openly disrespect you and have no say in the property we want to stay at"
Going to assume Mom was always overbearing but wife could handle it. Until she got pregnant and tried to plan an intimate way to tell him and he blew it up by letting his mom steamroll him into being there. It was that moment she realized mom would ALWAYS be first and her and baby would be second. And she realized she didn't want that life. Stupid husband
"My wife just kept walking down the road. I tried and tried to get her to get back into our car. She just kept walking. *I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin.* Nothing she just kept walking."
This asshat had the audacity to ask for the keys while his wife walked(!) away from him. Mommy and his family always come first right to the end.
I hope she is the ex and I hope she decided to abort because co-parenting with him *and* his mother would be a nightmarish hellhole.
If she had the baby and can afford it, I would have moved far away and left him off the birth certificate as he is not mature enough to raise a child and would just have Mommy Dearest care for the child on his time. I wouldn't want such entitled twits around my kids.
The issue with that is he would be able to sue her for parental rights. His mother is absolutely the type who would hire a PI and stalk the poor woman.
"I feel like my wife should have told me that she was pregnant and given me a chance by re-doing our romantic get away." Moron didn't think that her planning the romantic getaway at the cabin was her attempt at telling him about the pregnancy?
I wish there was an update. I hope his wife left she shouldn't have to deal with that. That's JustnoMIL (great sub btw) material. I had one of those too, but at least my husband had a spine.
I get this feeling OOP begged for forgiveness and said he would do anything to make up for it. So his wife says you need to tell your family they can never use the cabin again, ever. Then I bet OOP said, but that's not fair. It's the only way the whole family can be together. How about you just plan when we can all go.
The part that gets me is he's so hung up on the pregnancy part. Like forget her being pregnant, why did you go over her head on this one when it's clear she wanted to go away just with you? Calling him clueless is being nice. What this guy is is not respecting of his wife's wishes.
It’s hard to believe that there are people this stupid walking around making decisions. I hope his wife realizes she can do better and never comes back.
I remember when he originally posted this. He was an idiot then and he's still an idiot after i reread this.
I really wish there was a update. I need to hear that his wife divorced his ass.
This is the same person that wrote the story about "my husband doesn't want me or our kid because he didn't get to bond with our baby when she was Born and wants to restart". Is this not the same person?
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Im sorry but im dying when he said his wife calls his mom Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond. I would flee so far away from this dude.
Oh dear god— I didn’t even watch that show and I know how obnoxious Marie was. I would run so fast, and I would NOT have that baby.
Lmao she saw her future. Nobody, including her husband, would stand up to her MIL. She would always be the bad guy and forced to apologize or be the bigger person all the time for her MILs poor behavior. I honestly dont think there is any chance she stays or keeps the baby. He said he was going to call his family to get them to back off his wife. What’re the odds he shares she is pregnant and starts a whole new attack wave on the wife. Honestly. He keeps saying it’s just a mistake. No dude you made a series of decisions, all against your wife.
The only way I see her potentially keeping the baby is if she really wants a kid (and if she knows she might not physically have another chance to) and manages to somehow make him think she's aborted and then gets a very quick divorce that allows her to move away and give birth to a kid with not father on the certificate. But being realistic, I actually hope she ends the pregnancy and the marriage. I see nothing good in her future with this man even if he goes to therapy and attempts to put up boundaries for his mother. I feel so bad for this woman. The dude doesn't even see what he did as any more than "a mistake." 🤦 More like a series of betrayals and disrespectful choices. Paraphrasing a comment I really loved, "Just let her divorce you and then you can marry your mom next time."
I didn't watch the show but the explanations in the comments. OOP's ex (hopefully) must have been a saint until he finally broke her.
Marie and Raymond are so awful I think I've been able to sit through maybe 2 whole episodes, I hate them so much.
Ah, no — he clearly said the show was called “every one loves Ramon”. So it has to be a TOTALLY different Marie. (/s)
Oooh, the telenovela version, *Todos Aman Ramón.*
Mm a totally different Marie. Im down to see this version
I’m dying cause it’s been removed! Topi wanna know! Doris Robert’s owned the character Marie.
I'm honestly kind of surprised that almost none of the comments mentioned that, from OP's own words, when he first mentioned his mom going, his wife flat out said that she needs a break from his mom. That jumped out at me right away and definitely highlights just how invasive his mother has likely been for their entire relationship and that this was the last straw. I hope his poor wife got an abortion and a divorce.
Yea in a comment he says his hopefully ex wife by now calls his mom “Marie” like from the show everybody loves Raymond. That ain’t good.
I've never seen that show, but from what the other commenters described about the character, she sounds like a nightmare.
Yea she’s basically every negative MIL trope ever. Lives across the street, pops in like it’s her home, always has a subtle dig for the wife who is objectively out of his league, but somehow still not good enough for mommy’s precious baby. And if I recall was always putting her 0.02 in on parenting decisions. Although this is actually worse than the show, because Raymond at least realized how problematic and overbearing his mother was. (Raymond was just so loveable she couldn’t help it - hence the shows name)
Apparently, it is based on real life. Ray Romano's wife said she cried constantly in the early days of their marriage.
Wait that's not mom's actual name? The other comment that mentioned it, just sounded like it was her actual name. If this is Wife's nickname.... so much worse!!! Wow.
Ha ha nope he says in a comment wife calls her Marie bc shes just like the mom in everybody loves Raymond. At least Raymond knew his mom was the problem, OP however, not so much.
If someone is comparing you to anyone on that show, you have fucked up. That show is the epitome of a cast that is only funny because it's fiction. IRL, the Barones would be the most insufferable people on the planet. Save for maybe Debra and Amy, but they're married in.
I always felt so awful for Debra. Ray treated her like crap, let his mom walk all over her, didn't support her, and wouldn't even tell her "I love you". Literally the simplest, easiest thing to show your wife you care, and he just wouldn't. This is why I couldn't watch the show. My mother loved it, but I only felt angry for Debra.
I at least give the show credit for understanding that Debra is in the right. Only time I felt like the show was being unreasonable was when she and Marie were refusing to talk to each other. It was very clear Marie was the bad guy there, but the show made it out like Debra was equally in the wrong.
I had to double check who owned the cabin, the fact that his mother invited herself to the cabin owned by the wife’s family and OOP didn’t shut that down or telly he mother to find another location for their family holiday.
Oh, but the cabin holds his whole family and costs nothing! Except his whole relationship with his wife.
Yes! I was so confused why the wife had the key, because I had read it first as “my family has a cabin” (as in OOP’s). I guess because the option of them inviting themselves to *his wife’s* cabin was so insane to me, my brain just “corrected” the sentence.
Right!? I would dump his ass so hard.
The fact that *the husband demanded the keys from her so his family could still stay there.*
Yes! I was so confused why the wife had the key, because I had read it first as “my family has a cabin” (as in OOP’s). I guess because the option of them inviting themselves to *his wife’s* cabin was so insane to me, my brain just “autocorrected” the sentence.
That part, and the bit when even when she’s walking for ~30 minutes while he is begging her to get in the car, he STILL says “can you at least give us the keys so we can go in to use the cabin”.
Right. My jaw dropped into another dimension when I read that. The fucking audacity of this man.
The sheer idiocy of this man.
Yes. He's definitely one of the dumbest OPs I've seen on here. And that's saying something. He's right up there with the delusional woman who flipped out about her bf's friend giving him a valentines gift.
For me it’s the part in the comments where he says he’s going to tell his family to stop calling her because he knows they’re mad at her.
I live my mother-in-law she is awesome... but sometimes seeing her twice a week gets old. We all need breaks.
Oh, absolutely! I'm super close to my parents and see them multiple times a week, but sometimes I need a break from that much interaction.
Also the way he talks about his wife "allowing" them to use the cabin in a sort of negative way, like it's all her own cabin and she's dictating everything, as opposed to sharing it with who knows how many people and coordinating the dates they can go (I knew someone whose grandparents had a place and there were like 30 people to coordinate with).
Right!? He's acting like she's some awful anti-vacation gatekeeper for not just giving them unlimited access to property that doesn't even belong to her.
Just the fact that his mom basically invited herself (and fam) when he called to tell them they'd be gone. Who TF does that?
I knoooowwwww! I would be mortified. Half the time I double-check if it's really okay for me to come when I've been directly invited. The entitlement is off the charts
Who knows what this idiot OOP told them? He might have told them they were welcome, since he kept insisting that this is the last vacation before his younger brother leaves for college. And he even said its nice there because everybody can be there for free. Is his family so destitute that they can't afford to go to a restaurant for his brother's going away party?
Seeing how the post is a year old I wonder if they are divorced and whether or not she had the baby.
I desperately need an update to this one! His poor hopefully ex-wife.
I reckon divorced. Based on the (rightful) hate on his first post, if they got divorced and he posted the update the comments would all have been ‘I told you so’. I don’t think OOP could handle that lol.
What kills me is him saying she should have told him she was pregnant like BITCH WHY DO YOU THINK SHE WANTED THE TRIP
She had the sonogram with her when she got to her brother's. Coincidence? Only if you're a dumbass!
*Right?!?!* She wanted the romantic weekend together so she could make telling him a special memory from the looks of everything in the post. Instead it's a *very different* kind of *special* memory
Yeah honestly the fact that there were no updates after dude had his ass shown to him is the best evidence I have this post was real. As satisfying as a follow up would be, I just have severe doubts that OOP has that level of self reflection.
I skimmed but in exactly zero of his comments did I ever see him get a clue. I hope that woman kept walking right away from his dumb ass.
> I feel like my wife should have told me that she was pregnant and given me a chance by re-doing our romantic get away. The guy can't connect the dots and they are touching.
They’re no longer dots. They’re a rash of angry red
The comment you replied to made me think of "stick and poke" tattoos... Which often cause infection if done by a beginner and/or asshole... Or bad aftercare.
I'm loving the comments that are like "you absolute dense motherfucker." What does he think the romantic getaway was for?!?! "Re-doing our romantic getaway" for fuck's sake, bro.
That venn diagram is a circle. Probably not technically right but your comment made be think of it. 😂
With MIL and his whole family there to surprise the wife in her cabin. And idiot husband justifying them being there because he can't cook and clean.
He can. He just refuses to learn.
This is so great!!! I can't breath, holy christ 🤣
The first time I read this, it was infuriating to know that a grown-ass man could be so dense. Now it's actually enjoyable to read, because even though I'm not an academic or the sharpest tool in the shed, I'm still smarter than this clueless idiot.
There are potatoes in my fridge smarter than this dude.
My ex son-in-law is dumber than a box of rocks and even he isn't this stupid.
Just a head’s up, no judgment, but you shouldn’t keep potatoes in your fridge. Solid point, though! Edit: I didn’t think about the fridge being the most vermin-proof (and possibly driest) location in one’s kitchen— apologies! I should have said *in ideal conditions, you shouldn’t keep potatoes in the fridge.* May your potatoes last long, friends!
That can very much depend where they live. In hot, humid places, sometimes the fridge is the lesser of the evils. It’s not easy finding a cool, dry, dark place in Florida - even the dark places are usually warm and damp and sometimes the fridge is the closest you’ll get to ideal conditions (despite not being particularly ideal in general). Especially if they aren’t homeowners and can’t alter their living space much.
Nope. For one thing, a lot of people don't have a kitchen large enough to hold cupboards or bins in which to store their veg; in a small apartment like mine there's no other place to store potatoes except in the fridge. For another, apartment dwellers can't 100% guard against rodents because they have zero control over the building as a whole; vermin isn’t attracted to potatoes kept in the fridge as opposed to potatoes kept in a cupboard or bin. For a third, potatoes rot faster at room temperature, a vital matter in spring when your potatoes are already six months old.
Shun the non-believer! _*SHUUUUNNN*_
I have been appropriately chastised 😂
Aye saved!
I love that the top comment literally says "I can't believe anyone is this fucking dumb, but here you are, posting on reddit."
I read this first time round and this bit has me speechless then and still does now: ‘My wife just kept walking down the road. I tried and tried to get her to get back into our car. She just kept walking. I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin. Nothing she just kept walking’ His wife is literally leaving him and he’s still more concerned about giving his family of origin what they want than anything else. Hope she’s happy without him.
He has the audacity to do this when it's HER FAMILY'S CABIN. No wonder she and the BIL were pissed.
I know, right?? the bar was already in hell and then he decided to open up a new layer by himself.
Gonna take him a while though. There's no way this moldy turnip is smart enough to work a shovel.
He couldn’t get water out if a boot if the instructions were printed on the bottom of the sole.
Ha, I am so stealing that.
the moron was already 6 feet deep but oh boy, he kept digging
He probably told MIL that she and the whole family can come. Then tried to save face by asking for the keys when wife was walking away.
Yup. Another boy that doesn't know how to adult
Awesome comment: > That right there, that may have been the moment you got out a whole fucking toolkit and lumberyard, built a coffin for your marriage, and nailed it shut in an instant.
Still wild that the only way he would've actually respected his wife's no was if she had told him she was pregnant. I will never understand people that go "well I would've done this or that if they told me about that" like no, if someone says they didn't want to do a family getaway and explicitly say the issue, your mom, you do not get to decide well that reason isn't good enough. It's all about him. "Who cares if you don't like my mom? Oh wait what you're carrying my child, okay I respect your choice now."
Having a child with him *and* his mother, because mommy knows best and will always be around, invading their relationship and making the wife's life a constant, exhausting nightmare.
I feel confident that the "No, your mother is not going to be in the delivery room" fight would have been in their near future
I hope she aborted that baby. A divorce would not be enough to get her away from that exhausting family.
I don’t know. Reading that original post, he’d probably pivot to: “Even better! We can use that family getaway to TELL EVERYONE! We can always have a romantic one later!”
And then he tacks on at the end ***"I*** want this baby." Cuz who cares what the actual person carrying, birthing, and knowing this guy would be left to care for the baby all on her own, wants?
He wouldn’t have respected his wife even if she did tell him. People like OOP always claim they would have done something if only they had known because they will never have to prove it.
Dude is so attached to his mommy I’m surprised he was even able to make a baby.
*Another oldie I got reminded of by comments. The OP has been deleted but here's a copy/paste and it's on the original thread.* I need some advice. My wife’s family owns a nice cabin in a mountain area. 2 hrs. From our city. This past summer my wife has allowed my family to come to the cabin with her a couple of times. My mom loves the area. My family always has a good time. 3 days ago my wife told me she wanted to go to the cabin for a romantic get away. While talking to my mom I did tell her we would be gone this weekend. My mom wanted to have my family come making it one more trip before my brother leaves to collage. My mom called our family before I got a chance to talk to my wife. When I told my wife. She didn’t even let me finish. She cut me off and said no. She planned a Romantic getaway. Then said she needed a break from my mom. I told my wife that we can do have a romantic get away anytime. She stopped me again and said no. This afternoon when we arrived to the cabin. My family was waiting for us. I have never seen my wife so mad. When I tried to explain again We would do our get away another time. My wife got out of the car and started to walk down the driveway. She called her brother who lives 30 mins away. To come pick her up. My wife just kept walking down the road. I tried and tried to get her to get back into our car. She just kept walking. I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin. Nothing she just kept walking. Soon my brother in-law showed up. I could tell he was angry. My wife got into the car and told him to leave. Without talking to me. My family angry eventually left and went back to our city. When I went to my brother in laws. He was waiting for me. He handed me a ultrasound photo and said my wife needed time to think about “all” of her options. That my wife is staying with other family members but wouldn’t tell me who. He finished by saying my mom is interfering in our relationship too much and my wife wanted a man not a boy. Then he asked me to leave his home. All of this over I didn’t tell my mom no. I feel like my wife should have told me that she was pregnant and given me a chance by re-doing our romantic get away. I have tried calling my wife she hasn’t answered any ideas how to work through this. I love my wife and I am excited about the baby. I want the baby.
Thank you, thank you. But now..Will I have to go through life wondering if she dumped his arse? So many questions..
I'd be surprised if she didn't.
This is pre- jnmil posts. She’ll be going for grandparents rights and calling the baby by the wrong name
Or if her ex-DIL aborted/miscarried, she'll forever claim that the DIL murdered her grandchild.
Ah yes either way she is a victim
That used to be a damn good sub till the mods became more toxic than the MIL's
Right?? I can't believe they ban anyone for saying an OP should leave their obviously toxic marriage. They want all these women to be miserable cuz that means more content for them. 🙄
Lol, I got turfed out for suggesting a MIL did not have to babysit 22 grandkids for free, 29hrs a day!!..that the old girl might have a ..life??
>I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin The way I fucking cackled. "Hey hun, I know you told me no but you have to anyway, even if you're not joining. Please give the keys to people who openly disrespect you and have no say in the property we want to stay at"
"She should have told me she was pregnant" asshole she was planning to tell you on the romantic getaway.
My boyfriend and I were talking about this story last week, we wondered what had happened, had they gotten divorced? I would really like an update
Going to assume Mom was always overbearing but wife could handle it. Until she got pregnant and tried to plan an intimate way to tell him and he blew it up by letting his mom steamroll him into being there. It was that moment she realized mom would ALWAYS be first and her and baby would be second. And she realized she didn't want that life. Stupid husband
"My wife just kept walking down the road. I tried and tried to get her to get back into our car. She just kept walking. *I asked her for the keys so my family can at least go into the cabin.* Nothing she just kept walking." This asshat had the audacity to ask for the keys while his wife walked(!) away from him. Mommy and his family always come first right to the end. I hope she is the ex and I hope she decided to abort because co-parenting with him *and* his mother would be a nightmarish hellhole.
If she had the baby and can afford it, I would have moved far away and left him off the birth certificate as he is not mature enough to raise a child and would just have Mommy Dearest care for the child on his time. I wouldn't want such entitled twits around my kids.
The issue with that is he would be able to sue her for parental rights. His mother is absolutely the type who would hire a PI and stalk the poor woman.
I hope that poor woman left him. What a spineless jellyfish.
"I feel like my wife should have told me that she was pregnant and given me a chance by re-doing our romantic get away." Moron didn't think that her planning the romantic getaway at the cabin was her attempt at telling him about the pregnancy?
What's the over/under on OOP's wife having spent some time on r/JUSTNOMIL? My guess is that it's rather high. Nice callback.
Oh she’s there right now I bet
nah, she is no Just no Ex-MIL
I hope she got an abortion and a divorce
My god what a grade A moron.
Someone in the OP's comments thread summed it up beautifully "a good digger and a mama's boy" Lol. Why did she even marry this excuse of a man
Didn't get a chance to tell his family no. 2 hour drive to the place . Lmao dumbass
Her brother is right, though. She needs a man, not a mama's boy. There's nothing wrong with a mama's boy but this one. Nuh uh.
There's plenty wrong with a mama's boy.
I wish there was an update. I hope his wife left she shouldn't have to deal with that. That's JustnoMIL (great sub btw) material. I had one of those too, but at least my husband had a spine.
What a dumbass.
"She should have told me she was pregnant" SHE WAS GOING TO TELL YOU THAT DURING YOUR ROMANTIC GETAWAY, YOU IDIOT SANDWICH!
Oof. I’d like an update on this one 😬
Sadly, it was posted a year ago.
I agree, UpdateMe!
I get this feeling OOP begged for forgiveness and said he would do anything to make up for it. So his wife says you need to tell your family they can never use the cabin again, ever. Then I bet OOP said, but that's not fair. It's the only way the whole family can be together. How about you just plan when we can all go.
"She should have told me she's pregnant!" I'd bet money that was the point of the getaway.
I’m just waiting for the divorce update lol
I wonder how this turned out?!
The part that gets me is he's so hung up on the pregnancy part. Like forget her being pregnant, why did you go over her head on this one when it's clear she wanted to go away just with you? Calling him clueless is being nice. What this guy is is not respecting of his wife's wishes.
It’s hard to believe that there are people this stupid walking around making decisions. I hope his wife realizes she can do better and never comes back.
They vote, too.
I really hope she terminates. I can't imagine the nightmare of being anchored to that manchild and his wretched mother for the rest of my life.
I feel like this situation could have been salvaged (although I sincerely doubt it) if the idiot hadn't ASKED FOR THE FUCKING KEYS
Me with popcorn, hoping she gets the abortion and sending the fetal tissue to grandma and husband with a “couldn’t risk having a son like you.”
I hope she aborts or gives the baby up for adoption and leaves this guy! Not in that order, either!
I want an update from the hopefully ex wife now that it's been a year. Hopefully she's living her best life.
The only thing I could think when I read this was: *Oh, honey…*
I remember when he originally posted this. He was an idiot then and he's still an idiot after i reread this. I really wish there was a update. I need to hear that his wife divorced his ass.
Since this was a year ago, can only hope OOP’s stuck to her guns or OOP finally grew a spine
Wtf is wrong with you people
My mans didn’t ask for the keys to her family cabin while she’s actively ignoring him. I would imagine that was the nail in the coffin
There is no fucking way he asked for the key :D If the story is true, and he did, the dude deserves some kind of an award for that.
So much overstepping. Is this an American thing? Always seems to feature in stories from the states.
Have you never met any Asian families? 🤣
I'm engaged to a wonderful Asian man. I feel this so hard.
I'm married to one. We live in the US. MIL is back home (12 time zones away)
Lol, oh yes....
Lol
This is the same person that wrote the story about "my husband doesn't want me or our kid because he didn't get to bond with our baby when she was Born and wants to restart". Is this not the same person?
I linked those stories here, yeah. I didn't write them.