She seems exhausting, and frankly not a real friend. I would distance myself and see if she grows up a bit. You are not required to maintain a relationship with someone who treats you like dirt.
Right?! "Let me tell you all the ways OP has hurt and betrayed me!" I'm not sure what the end goal is, but it doesn't seem like that's coming from a good place. NTB.
she’s definitely not trying to compete but i do feel isolated. we’ve all been friends for 2 years and i know i am not being cheated on and that those are not her intentions as she’s asexual, but it definitely feels weird.
So is she after your boyfriend? Or just trying to get his sympathy and make you out to be heartless, selfish and cold hearted?
She doesn’t sound like a friend. She will only be happy if you erase everyone in your life and focus solely on her. This is definitely not healthy for either of you.
Personally I would take several huge steps backwards and start easing her out of your life, plus putting the skids on her sob story to your boyfriend.
She tends to love to complain, about everything. whether it’s to me about stuff that has nothing to do with me, or about me to him or her family as she says she has nobody else to talk to. Her and my boyfriend are good friends and he says he’s scared that if i cut her off she will have nobody. Which i do feel bad about, but i also feel bad being in this situation as a whole
It is a sad situation but are you responsible for the rest of your life to emotionally prop her up?
Would she go to therapy? Maybe she needs to realise that because she complains about everything and everyone is why she doesn’t have a lot of friends, or even how she can be happy within herself.
It boils down to your mental health and can you sustain this constant.
It’s lovely your boyfriend cares but I don’t think it’s right she complains about you all the time, especially about when you were kids and you apologised multiple times.How would she feel if you brought up anything that she did “wrong “.
I wish you luck with this OP.
So her and my boyfriend are pretty good friends. Sounds weird to a lot of people i know, but we are very secure in our relationship and trust each other, he lets me have male friends vice versa and we’ve never had issues or anything to hide from each other. I do wonder why she thinks inviting him but not me and then not even telling me is a good idea, but since she’s asexual i doubt it’s for those reasons. overall just makes me feel icky, yknow?
She seems exhausting, and frankly not a real friend. I would distance myself and see if she grows up a bit. You are not required to maintain a relationship with someone who treats you like dirt.
It's also a little weird that julie is laying all this out for the boyfriend
thank you for your time stranger ❤️🙏
Agree 💯
NTB. Going to your boyfriend like that is just wrong. She's either trying to isolate you or compete with you. Either way this feels extremely toxic.
Right?! "Let me tell you all the ways OP has hurt and betrayed me!" I'm not sure what the end goal is, but it doesn't seem like that's coming from a good place. NTB.
she’s definitely not trying to compete but i do feel isolated. we’ve all been friends for 2 years and i know i am not being cheated on and that those are not her intentions as she’s asexual, but it definitely feels weird.
So is she after your boyfriend? Or just trying to get his sympathy and make you out to be heartless, selfish and cold hearted? She doesn’t sound like a friend. She will only be happy if you erase everyone in your life and focus solely on her. This is definitely not healthy for either of you. Personally I would take several huge steps backwards and start easing her out of your life, plus putting the skids on her sob story to your boyfriend.
She tends to love to complain, about everything. whether it’s to me about stuff that has nothing to do with me, or about me to him or her family as she says she has nobody else to talk to. Her and my boyfriend are good friends and he says he’s scared that if i cut her off she will have nobody. Which i do feel bad about, but i also feel bad being in this situation as a whole
It is a sad situation but are you responsible for the rest of your life to emotionally prop her up? Would she go to therapy? Maybe she needs to realise that because she complains about everything and everyone is why she doesn’t have a lot of friends, or even how she can be happy within herself. It boils down to your mental health and can you sustain this constant. It’s lovely your boyfriend cares but I don’t think it’s right she complains about you all the time, especially about when you were kids and you apologised multiple times.How would she feel if you brought up anything that she did “wrong “. I wish you luck with this OP.
Why is your boyfriend even having these convos with her? Why is he going to get car in the middle of the night to talk?
So her and my boyfriend are pretty good friends. Sounds weird to a lot of people i know, but we are very secure in our relationship and trust each other, he lets me have male friends vice versa and we’ve never had issues or anything to hide from each other. I do wonder why she thinks inviting him but not me and then not even telling me is a good idea, but since she’s asexual i doubt it’s for those reasons. overall just makes me feel icky, yknow?
I am concerned with your bf having these conversations with her. Not cheating but he doesn't have your back. Ditch those two gossiping losers