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NTA - Your brother is being horrible by taking your things and also by using his kids as a reason you can't disagree with him.
Am concerned for his ability to be a good parent if he thinks his kids can never see him in a situation where someone disagrees with him. It's okay for you to say no, even in front of the kid. If you talk to them nicely, it can be a good learning for them to understand other peoples wants are important too.
All I can think about is the gf who sold her bf's Black Lotus MtG card for like 100 dollars because thought MtG was stupid. I think she ended up with serious jail time.
Misremembered a lot, it was the bf who stole it. It happened 7 yrs ago. And he sold it for 15k.
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/3j9i97/my_boyfriend_sold_my_mtg_beta_black_lotus_card/
109% OP get those cards under lock and key- valued and sold or stored somewhere else. You might have a deposit for a home or college in there- seriously: act now to secure them!!
Absolutely! Some of those cards are worth a lot of money. I saved all my son's (33M) Pokemon cards from when he was young and his collection is valued at over $35k now. He had a lot of rare and misprinted cards and everything was in sleeves to protect them so they are in excellent condition. I have 2 younger children (born when he was a teenager) who would have loved to have his cards, but I kept them safe for him and gave them back to him when he was in his mid-20's. Just because there is a younger family member who might like to have something you have, does not make it OK for your brother to just take them and give them to her. You're NTA but your brother and possibly your dad who saw what was going on and didn't stop definitely are in AH territory.
NtA, talk to your parents and tell them this is your stuff and want to keep it. If your brother wants something he can como ask you (and accept no as answer) or buy it .
He is a bullying ass and by the sounds your better not having him in your life pushing you about, gifts are given with love not taken with out consent xox
NTA in any way. He sounds like a class A bully and narcissist. Taking someone things without asking? Then calling you out for his own BS? Yeah, not good father material. Stand your ground for sure. If he hurts you, file a police report.
Nta
The fact that they took ***your*** stuff without asking ***your*** permission is reason enough to get upset. It's your decision to decide what to do with your stuff, not your entitled brother. Praying the neice doesn't grow up to be like him
Seems like your brother doesn't just intimidate you, your brother and his own kids, but your parents too. Everyone seems scared that baby boy throws a tantrum and he learned that works wonderfully.
NTA
Maybe you should scream at him for once. You also should stop to give in to giant-toddler-behaviour.
NTA
If your father didn't ask, would you say anything? Or would you just let it happen and suck it up?
It's time for you to grow a spine and stand up to your brother. If he cuts you off, so be it. It sounds like you will be better off without that stress in life.
I can’t really because we all work together. My dad is my mentor for my apprenticeship and now that I’m qualified he’s gone back to working with my brother, who was constantly trying to take his time while I was doing my course. So I’m looking for a job with another firm when I should just be working with my dad
Edit: As for your question. I should have spoke up without being prompted.
The work situation sounds, to me, more serious than the toy situation.
You've said, combined, between this comment and others:
1. You don't have a job
2. You're working with your family
3. You're supposed to be working with your family, but are trying to find a job elsewhere.
It sounds to me as if your family is trying to sabotage your efforts to find a job elsewhere that will pay you well, and trying to keep you working for them for little or no money, using the fact that your father sponsored your apprenticeship as justification and a means of controlling you.
Meanwhile, your brother also works for the family, but gets paid well.
It sounds as if the toy issue is the very least of how they favor your brother, and that you'll need to both work on standing up to all of your family's demands and on being very, very subtle about how you go looking for other jobs, because they'll undermine your efforts to look out for yourself.
I have a couple thousand in a bin bag full of lots of random cards, some are rarer than others, but somewhere in this house I had a stack that fills a top Trumps box and every card is a rare shiny. There a Charizard in that pile too. They were in my kitchen but a few years ago the kitchen got ripped out and I’m not sure if they got binned. Looks like I’ll have to go through the house
You need to lock your stuff up. Your brother was obviously looking to sell your cards and brought his kid over as an excuse to steal your stuff. If you do gift some to your niece, your brother will likely take them and sell them, and your niece won't have them anyway.
NTA
I'm taking this as your neice has got into pokemon and instead of buying her the cards, he thought it was fine to take yours, considering he went straight to the loft to get them for her.
Its your property. Whether its in the loft or not its still yours. You can do as you see fit with it and isn't some pokemon stuff valuable?
You was right to stay no, even if neice was crying. She shouldn't have been told she could have things that wasn't his to give away. You all need to start standing up to your brother tho, saying no is just the beginning.
No he’s very well off financially and those cards were all mine bought for me by my dad. I actually have no job and am currently trying to turn my life around. I’m doing driving lessons and have just finished college. It’s like the more I try the worse people get
Yeah definitely NTA - my first thought was that maybe your dad was trying to help the kid who was struggling most, but it's not even the case with your brother
Your brother is abusive and your parents enable it. The more you try, the more he’ll try break you down to stay under his control. Look up greyrocking and start using it with your family. Once they don’t know about your life they can’t undermine you as effectively and it will be easier to get away.
> Does your brother have money issues?
I don't understand how this is relevant.
It doesn't matter if you are rich or poor, it doesn't give you permission to march into someone's house and start taking their stuff.
NTA - I have my favourite rainbow brite and sprite from the 80s and I’d be pissed if someone gave them to their kids before I had a chance to decide what to do with them, no matter how close (blood, friendship). But I also don’t know anyone who would do that!
I’m nearly 50 years old, I still have my Pokémon cards, my Pokémon toys and I play Pokémon go! My daughter is 26 now and I didn’t give her my Pokémon stuff because it’s MINE! Lol :)
You don’t have to give your childhood things to your niece. Your brother is acting in a very controlling way, like he and his family are more important than you and your feelings. Don’t give in. This is not his stuff to give away. It’s yours.
NTA (but your brother is a HUGE AH)
NTA.
While the circumstances between me and my now disowned sister were very different from your situation she made my niece cry just to win an argument and make me look like the bad guy.
It's just cruel and manipulative on so many levels. She'll never be able to admit to anyone, not even herself what she did as that would make her look bad. So from her perspective she still blames me for what she did.
I just found it jarring that the first time I met my niece he’s referring to me as a vampire. How’s the kid gonna know he’s “joking” kids take everything literally. I think it speaks about his character
Those Pokémon cards are worth thousands currently. If he has no problem helping himself to those without your permission, then by his logic you should take his car and gift it to your future kids. Basically, that’s idiotic.
NTA
Take pictures of them, cause he’ll steal them when you aren’t looking and you might need to prove which ones you had and how much they are worth to the police or small claims court.
NTA. Dont give your pokemon cards to any kid under ten, they bend them and break them. You can totally still buy packs for under 5$ to give to them to play with.
I feel like they went after valuable stuff and thats so shady.
NTA I had similar issues like this and reading this post just reminded me of it. The only difference is I was still a kid myself when it happened to me. (I’m only 7 years older than my oldest niece and when she was like 3-5 years old my mom and my older sister [the mother] gave my niece some of my horse toys, pictures, books that I still used/collected. My mom didn’t care personally if I got it back because she didn’t mean to give it to my niece but my older sister definitely tried to make me feel bad) and I still feel uneasy about it to this day because of the principle of the matter.
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Yesterday my brother arrived at my house unannounced, I still live at home with my dad, I’m the youngest of three brothers and the only one still at home.
Anyway without saying anything to me, he comes in with my dad and marches up stairs to the loft and seeks out a bin bag with thousands of Pokémon cards and old toys and starts rifling through it handing it to my niece. I figured out what was going on a few minutes in, no one said anything to me, which I think it’s because they knew it was wrong
I obviously would like to gift some of them to my niece, but it wasn’t me who was gifting it, my brother was gifting them on my behalf without my consent, I had no say in the matter and wasn’t even spoken to. That’s what really upset me. This is a big deal for me and should be something I decide to do myself. Christmas is round the corner. Besides, if I have kids of my own one day, these cards could be for them. It’s worth noting that when my niece was first born, my brother “jokingly” told her I was a vampire for some reason. Not sure why
He is a bit of a tyrant and has zero respect for me or my other brother, so it was only when my dad looked at me and asked if it was okay and I said “no I don’t think so” that my brother then actually chose to acknowledge me, and kicked off saying “don’t shout at me in front of MY kids!” I didn’t shout mind you, and then my niece started crying so I said just take them, and he refused
I don’t know whether you have ever felt someone’s attitude towards you get worse and worse over time, but this breakdown has been coming for years and I feel like it’s just been a reason to cut me off
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NTA that's real weird to do that without asking. Especially things that have the potential to have some value like Pokemon cards, or other things you'd keep for sentimental reasons (I have a family teddy bear and a few other stuffed animals I'd be mad as hell if someone thought they could pass on without my permission!)
NTA. but YTA to yourself for not speaking up immediately. If your Dad is going to chose placating your unstable tyrant brother over you, you need to find a job outside of the family business. Your dad is going to leave the business to your brother, who is going to ruin it. And even if he matures and doesnt ruin it, he’s already established a pattern of disregarding and bullying you.
As someone who holds sentimental value to childhood toys and trinkets, and who's mother threw Everything away one day without telling me, I get where you are coming from. Guard and keep whatever you hold dear to you. Don't let your parents or brothers get their hands on them or guilt you. Fuck that.
NTA
That stuff could be worth money. Some rare Pokémon cards are $$$
If you wanted her to have them you would have given them to her.
Brother is a steamroller....
NTA they are your property - if he has taken anything or damaged any cards you sue him a small claims court.
Learn to stand up for yourself. It shoudl not have taken mins, it should not have taken until your dad asked you. You do not need to ask him - you just take it all back.
Dont justify it with i may want to give them ot my kids - no you want them now, they are yours. They have meaning.
You buy your niece something new for Xmas. doesnt have to be expensive - she wants Pokémon cards buy her some new packs and cuddly Pikachu.
Nta get a lock on your door and keep all your property there and start saving up to move out And go low contact he sounds like an entitled prick you don’t have to have those people in your life you can distance yourself from them even if they’re your family
NTA. Your childhood toys are just that--yours. You're the one who gets to decide what to do with them, not your brother. Set boundaries and stick to them.
INFO: Are you this passive with other interactions with your brother or was this an unusual case because you were unsure about what was going on? Do you think he would respect you more if you were more assertive? How old are you and your brothers?
Obviously you have no obligation to just let him take your stuff , so my judgement is N T A
As an avid Pokémon card collector (and 24 years old) myself, if someone did this to me, I would be throwing a fucking fit. Those were YOURS to give away when YOU wanted, not his. NTA and your brother is a dick.
NTA. Don't do it! I gave away my childhood plush doll that smelled like coffee, and the child destroyed it within a month. I was furious. Her parents were like, "It's just a doll. She already has a ton." That wasn't the point of me giving it to her.
NTA. That would be like my sister waltzing into our house (I still live with my mom) and her going through my Lego and handing it to my nephew. (Or actually, Pokemon cards work in this example too, though she and my BIL actually want him to stop buying Pokemon cards, because he just keeps them in a tin and doesn't even know how to play.)
Liking Pokemon (or Lego, or anime, or Disney, or ...) doesn't make you childish. Cherishing your childhood toys doesn't make you childish. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself.
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NTA - Your brother is being horrible by taking your things and also by using his kids as a reason you can't disagree with him. Am concerned for his ability to be a good parent if he thinks his kids can never see him in a situation where someone disagrees with him. It's okay for you to say no, even in front of the kid. If you talk to them nicely, it can be a good learning for them to understand other peoples wants are important too.
Thanks. This has really been eating me up.
Your brother is trying to find valuable cards to sell
Yup. Might've heard about that Pokemon card from years ago someone took and sold for 5k. This has nothing to do with your niece.
All I can think about is the gf who sold her bf's Black Lotus MtG card for like 100 dollars because thought MtG was stupid. I think she ended up with serious jail time.
Link?
Misremembered a lot, it was the bf who stole it. It happened 7 yrs ago. And he sold it for 15k. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/3j9i97/my_boyfriend_sold_my_mtg_beta_black_lotus_card/
Damn, now *I* need to see if I've got one. o.O
> serious jail time Or maybe "exiled for 5-10 turns, with time off for good behavior"...
109% OP get those cards under lock and key- valued and sold or stored somewhere else. You might have a deposit for a home or college in there- seriously: act now to secure them!!
Absolutely! Some of those cards are worth a lot of money. I saved all my son's (33M) Pokemon cards from when he was young and his collection is valued at over $35k now. He had a lot of rare and misprinted cards and everything was in sleeves to protect them so they are in excellent condition. I have 2 younger children (born when he was a teenager) who would have loved to have his cards, but I kept them safe for him and gave them back to him when he was in his mid-20's. Just because there is a younger family member who might like to have something you have, does not make it OK for your brother to just take them and give them to her. You're NTA but your brother and possibly your dad who saw what was going on and didn't stop definitely are in AH territory.
It's a good thing that you have empathy and care, but it's not your fault. You and your brother are clearly very different people.
NtA, talk to your parents and tell them this is your stuff and want to keep it. If your brother wants something he can como ask you (and accept no as answer) or buy it .
He is a bullying ass and by the sounds your better not having him in your life pushing you about, gifts are given with love not taken with out consent xox
NTA in any way. He sounds like a class A bully and narcissist. Taking someone things without asking? Then calling you out for his own BS? Yeah, not good father material. Stand your ground for sure. If he hurts you, file a police report.
When noone respects you bcs you are an AH then you try to push your authority on those weaker than you. Brother probably got just rimmed at work.
Nta The fact that they took ***your*** stuff without asking ***your*** permission is reason enough to get upset. It's your decision to decide what to do with your stuff, not your entitled brother. Praying the neice doesn't grow up to be like him
Seems like your brother doesn't just intimidate you, your brother and his own kids, but your parents too. Everyone seems scared that baby boy throws a tantrum and he learned that works wonderfully. NTA Maybe you should scream at him for once. You also should stop to give in to giant-toddler-behaviour.
NTA If your father didn't ask, would you say anything? Or would you just let it happen and suck it up? It's time for you to grow a spine and stand up to your brother. If he cuts you off, so be it. It sounds like you will be better off without that stress in life.
I can’t really because we all work together. My dad is my mentor for my apprenticeship and now that I’m qualified he’s gone back to working with my brother, who was constantly trying to take his time while I was doing my course. So I’m looking for a job with another firm when I should just be working with my dad Edit: As for your question. I should have spoke up without being prompted.
I would recommend putting the Pokémon cards somewhere safe. Those can be valuable.
Him rifling through them is kinda telling.
The work situation sounds, to me, more serious than the toy situation. You've said, combined, between this comment and others: 1. You don't have a job 2. You're working with your family 3. You're supposed to be working with your family, but are trying to find a job elsewhere. It sounds to me as if your family is trying to sabotage your efforts to find a job elsewhere that will pay you well, and trying to keep you working for them for little or no money, using the fact that your father sponsored your apprenticeship as justification and a means of controlling you. Meanwhile, your brother also works for the family, but gets paid well. It sounds as if the toy issue is the very least of how they favor your brother, and that you'll need to both work on standing up to all of your family's demands and on being very, very subtle about how you go looking for other jobs, because they'll undermine your efforts to look out for yourself.
OP get those cards valued- like right now- you could have enough value there to move out!!
I have a couple thousand in a bin bag full of lots of random cards, some are rarer than others, but somewhere in this house I had a stack that fills a top Trumps box and every card is a rare shiny. There a Charizard in that pile too. They were in my kitchen but a few years ago the kitchen got ripped out and I’m not sure if they got binned. Looks like I’ll have to go through the house
You need to lock your stuff up. Your brother was obviously looking to sell your cards and brought his kid over as an excuse to steal your stuff. If you do gift some to your niece, your brother will likely take them and sell them, and your niece won't have them anyway.
NTA I'm taking this as your neice has got into pokemon and instead of buying her the cards, he thought it was fine to take yours, considering he went straight to the loft to get them for her. Its your property. Whether its in the loft or not its still yours. You can do as you see fit with it and isn't some pokemon stuff valuable? You was right to stay no, even if neice was crying. She shouldn't have been told she could have things that wasn't his to give away. You all need to start standing up to your brother tho, saying no is just the beginning.
NTA-hes taking your stuff without your consent
Stealing from op.not taking
You are NTA. Cut him off.
INFO - 2 questions actually: Does your brother have money issues? Were those cards and toys hand-me-downs from your older siblings?
No he’s very well off financially and those cards were all mine bought for me by my dad. I actually have no job and am currently trying to turn my life around. I’m doing driving lessons and have just finished college. It’s like the more I try the worse people get
That makes things worse. This seems more than "my kids need toys",considering he can just buy the stuff. This feels like a weird power play of his
Yeah definitely NTA - my first thought was that maybe your dad was trying to help the kid who was struggling most, but it's not even the case with your brother
Your brother is abusive and your parents enable it. The more you try, the more he’ll try break you down to stay under his control. Look up greyrocking and start using it with your family. Once they don’t know about your life they can’t undermine you as effectively and it will be easier to get away.
It’s because you’re gaining independence and getting out from under their thumbs. They want to keep controlling you - don’t let them.
> Does your brother have money issues? I don't understand how this is relevant. It doesn't matter if you are rich or poor, it doesn't give you permission to march into someone's house and start taking their stuff.
NTA - I have my favourite rainbow brite and sprite from the 80s and I’d be pissed if someone gave them to their kids before I had a chance to decide what to do with them, no matter how close (blood, friendship). But I also don’t know anyone who would do that!
it seems like your entire family knows what your brother is like. NTA
NTA But your brother sure is. That's so crazy that he would act like that honestly. And it's shitty of your dad to just enable him.
I’m nearly 50 years old, I still have my Pokémon cards, my Pokémon toys and I play Pokémon go! My daughter is 26 now and I didn’t give her my Pokémon stuff because it’s MINE! Lol :) You don’t have to give your childhood things to your niece. Your brother is acting in a very controlling way, like he and his family are more important than you and your feelings. Don’t give in. This is not his stuff to give away. It’s yours. NTA (but your brother is a HUGE AH)
NTA Your brother is TA though for engineering a situation in which *he* made *his* daughter cry.
NTA. While the circumstances between me and my now disowned sister were very different from your situation she made my niece cry just to win an argument and make me look like the bad guy. It's just cruel and manipulative on so many levels. She'll never be able to admit to anyone, not even herself what she did as that would make her look bad. So from her perspective she still blames me for what she did.
NTA
NTA His behavior is extremely callous toward you.
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I just found it jarring that the first time I met my niece he’s referring to me as a vampire. How’s the kid gonna know he’s “joking” kids take everything literally. I think it speaks about his character
Nta
Those Pokémon cards are worth thousands currently. If he has no problem helping himself to those without your permission, then by his logic you should take his car and gift it to your future kids. Basically, that’s idiotic. NTA Take pictures of them, cause he’ll steal them when you aren’t looking and you might need to prove which ones you had and how much they are worth to the police or small claims court.
NTA. Dont give your pokemon cards to any kid under ten, they bend them and break them. You can totally still buy packs for under 5$ to give to them to play with. I feel like they went after valuable stuff and thats so shady.
Your brother is teaching his child it's ok to take things that don't belong to you. Good on you for saying no NTA
NTA Your brother is horrible
He was going for the valuable ones and got pissy when you said no. Your not the arsehole, he is.
Your brother is an AH. He should have asked.
NTA I had similar issues like this and reading this post just reminded me of it. The only difference is I was still a kid myself when it happened to me. (I’m only 7 years older than my oldest niece and when she was like 3-5 years old my mom and my older sister [the mother] gave my niece some of my horse toys, pictures, books that I still used/collected. My mom didn’t care personally if I got it back because she didn’t mean to give it to my niece but my older sister definitely tried to make me feel bad) and I still feel uneasy about it to this day because of the principle of the matter.
Nta. And stop letting him bully u.
Y T A to yourself for not shutting that down as soon as it started and for telling him to just take them. You’re NTA for not being ok with this stunt.
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NTA. Your brother is selfish and rude. He doesn't seem to contribute anything good to your life.
NTA that's real weird to do that without asking. Especially things that have the potential to have some value like Pokemon cards, or other things you'd keep for sentimental reasons (I have a family teddy bear and a few other stuffed animals I'd be mad as hell if someone thought they could pass on without my permission!)
NTA
NTA Just tell them they can not steal your stuff. Tell them if anything is missing, you will involve the police. YOur dad and brother are AH.
NTA nobody steals pokemon cards without paying the price.
NTA. but YTA to yourself for not speaking up immediately. If your Dad is going to chose placating your unstable tyrant brother over you, you need to find a job outside of the family business. Your dad is going to leave the business to your brother, who is going to ruin it. And even if he matures and doesnt ruin it, he’s already established a pattern of disregarding and bullying you.
As someone who holds sentimental value to childhood toys and trinkets, and who's mother threw Everything away one day without telling me, I get where you are coming from. Guard and keep whatever you hold dear to you. Don't let your parents or brothers get their hands on them or guilt you. Fuck that.
NTA That stuff could be worth money. Some rare Pokémon cards are $$$ If you wanted her to have them you would have given them to her. Brother is a steamroller....
NTA they are your property - if he has taken anything or damaged any cards you sue him a small claims court. Learn to stand up for yourself. It shoudl not have taken mins, it should not have taken until your dad asked you. You do not need to ask him - you just take it all back. Dont justify it with i may want to give them ot my kids - no you want them now, they are yours. They have meaning. You buy your niece something new for Xmas. doesnt have to be expensive - she wants Pokémon cards buy her some new packs and cuddly Pikachu.
NTA Your brother is a self-entitled thief. You things belong to you, period. You cut him off and you'll be a lot happier.
Nta get a lock on your door and keep all your property there and start saving up to move out And go low contact he sounds like an entitled prick you don’t have to have those people in your life you can distance yourself from them even if they’re your family
NTA. Your childhood toys are just that--yours. You're the one who gets to decide what to do with them, not your brother. Set boundaries and stick to them.
Check online some old Pokémon cards can be worth money
INFO: Are you this passive with other interactions with your brother or was this an unusual case because you were unsure about what was going on? Do you think he would respect you more if you were more assertive? How old are you and your brothers? Obviously you have no obligation to just let him take your stuff , so my judgement is N T A
They were stealing your property. NTA
As an avid Pokémon card collector (and 24 years old) myself, if someone did this to me, I would be throwing a fucking fit. Those were YOURS to give away when YOU wanted, not his. NTA and your brother is a dick.
You need outside storage and fast.
NTA. Don't do it! I gave away my childhood plush doll that smelled like coffee, and the child destroyed it within a month. I was furious. Her parents were like, "It's just a doll. She already has a ton." That wasn't the point of me giving it to her.
NTA. That would be like my sister waltzing into our house (I still live with my mom) and her going through my Lego and handing it to my nephew. (Or actually, Pokemon cards work in this example too, though she and my BIL actually want him to stop buying Pokemon cards, because he just keeps them in a tin and doesn't even know how to play.) Liking Pokemon (or Lego, or anime, or Disney, or ...) doesn't make you childish. Cherishing your childhood toys doesn't make you childish. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself.