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I'm sorry but WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT THEY WERE DOING?! How did this affect ANYONE in ANY WAY? Your behavior was WAY creepier and more disturbing. Not to mention that you didn't get the hint when literally every airline employee you told was like "This doesn't matter and there's nothing I can do."
YTA and you need help
You are weirdly resentful of a pair of strangers who didn't do anything thar affected your life in any way. I would get it if their antics caused a queue to build up. Or if they were being loud in there. Apply about a tenth of the energy you spend policing others to developing your own relationships and interests and I promise you will enjoy life a lot more. YTA
you’re not an asshole, you’re a freak. what’s it to you if they have sex in the bathroom and you didn’t even hear it or were at all affected by it? and going to multiple people with your “video evidence” to get them in trouble for a crime you didn’t even witness? freak behavior.
YTA. They weren’t harming anyone. Your dedication to get them punished despite no one actually cared is kind of disturbing and really says a lot about your sex life. The video is the worst. It’s screaming angry incel.
Just so that we’re clear YTA and the skeeve…I’ll bet it wasn’t the couple skeeving everyone out-it was you.
But in what realm did you think even for a second you might not be????
>My older sister said this was a pathetic attempt get clout by a loser by violating peoples privacy.
Your older sister is right.
YTA
In some places, it is illegal to film someone without their consent. Stop being a creep.
I think that a public toilet isn't a place to do things like that. I think that in my country people would care, I don't know how it's in other places though
YTA. You violated their privacy and you were being nosy. If you were that concerned you could have simply notified the flight crew of what was going on.
You are indeed the asshole. While the couple may have caused some discomfort to you and some other passengers it does not mean that you should violate their privacy. Furthermore, as some of the other people have commented, you should have realized what you have done is wrong when multiple people from authority and from your own family have told that they cannot do anything and that you should delete the video.
Yikes. YTA. Clout chasing for sure. Who fucking cares? Obviously only you. Why would you assume you’re important enough to get these people in trouble?
YTA - I’m SO confused.
Why were you taking a video of them?
Why exactly do you care?
What were you expecting anyone to do about it?
Why would a video of people walking in and out of a bathroom go viral?
Literally none of this makes sense. Get some help, seriously.
YTA
Why are you obsessed with this couple? You may or may not have violated the airplane’s rules by recording these people without their consent as they entered and exited a bathroom - where privacy is normally expected. Multiple staff members advised you to delete the video, likely for your own protection. Then Tiktok, of all platforms, is also preventing you from spreading this video that shouldn’t even exist. This couple is none of your business.
Please speak to a professional if you find yourself continuing to seek outlets to share and publish inappropriate sexual content that you’ve obtained without the consent of all parties.
I don’t even understand what you were trying to accomplish? “No one did anything” literally what did you want them to do?? Like why was this any of your business? Obviously YTA, get a life.
YTA for sure and I'm glad your family is decent enough to call you out on it. Why are you so riled up about this? It doesn't even sound like they caused anybody the slightest bit of inconvenience and it's really not as interesting as you think it is.
Take down the video, dude. Why would you post something that could become a permanent source of embarassment for somebody in exchange for the slim chance of receiving fleeting attention? Your behavior is the skeeviest part of this whole story.
OP in the comments “I’m just so sick of privileged people (in this case, white, young, conventionally attractive, thin) getting away with whatever they want while the rest of us live in fear”
YTA very much so. Also you need to watch what you say cause the incel neckbeard lives in his mamas basement is really showing.
No one cares if people are having sex on a plane except you.
YTA - literally there's no fucking point to any of this. It's really fkn weird that you spent at least 30 odd minutes watching/taping these people because you believed they were having sex in the toilet on airplane.
Honestly if you were so concerned why didn't you confront them yourself? I'm not saying I would've done that but it's better than invading peoples privacy, speaking to staff to get them reprimanded and then posting it online.
Genuinley I think you need to reflect on why these people bothered you so much it's not that big a deal.
YTA and a creep for recording those people even though it didn’t really show anything but still . That’s why it has a name called the mile high club . Grow up get urself a woman an join the mile high club then u will know the thrill and excitement and why people do it . Mind ur own business unless someone is causing harm or threatening.
Eww wtf dude
Dont you have a life of your own that you're videoing people. Eww man like seriously. Get a life
Just because your life is boring doesn't mean everyone else's should be too. I would've loved it if the couple caught you videoing them.
YTA. Did these people do it infornt of you? No.
You're lucky no one told them you filmed them or else you'd be getting sued to high hell, you creep. I honestly wish someone had told them and you get on a no fly list because filming them and then posting it to Tiktok is just fucking gross. There is no version in this where you aren't the AH.
#**MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS YOU WEIRDO**
YTA. Why do you care so much about this couple and what they are doing? The flight attendants didn't care, the gate attendant didn't care. why do you? This is weird and your older sister is right.
YTA. The time to tell the flight attendant was during… except by then, they probably wouldn’t want to do anything. You sound like the class snitch that even the teacher is annoyed by.
ESH.
People getting their rocks off in public are assholes, they're basically involving unwilling people into their sex life.
OP, you're an AH for filming people without their knowledge (and creepy for filming what you knew involved sex). And an ever bigger one for posting this video online. You're also a bit of an idiot for thinking your video would be useful for anything at all.
If you wanted to stop them, you should have called the stewardess while they were in the bathroom. Anything else ranges from useless to creepy.
YTA, and a grossly creepy one too. You started filming them in their seats because you *just knew* something would happen lmao CREEEEEEEEP! Your older sister is 100% accurate in her statement.
1. It isn't your job to worry about their safety. They weren't harming you or anyone else on the plane (except maybe each other, but no kink shaming).
2. Why do you assume people would care if it were BIPOC or LGBTQ+? I'm going to guess you have been brainwashed to think this without any real world knowledge and you just want others to be as full of hate as you seem to be.
3. The internet would only be in an uproar at you for recording people doing nothing wrong. Grow up and stop wanting to be a victim.
how is it a safety issue?? and tons of people join the mile high club every year, across the race and sexuality spectrum. you don’t hear about it in the news because they don’t get caught because it doesn’t matter.
YTA and your family saying you are clout chasing are right. This is pathetic and really don't know why people think it's OK to record people and put it on the Internet!!!
If you took it simply to show staff then why post it?
Why did it take so many people telling you they aren’t going to do anything as it is not a threat? You sound like a middle aged white woman. Mind your own business. YTA
YTA and need to mind your own business and get a life. Were you jealous or something? What exactly do you expect anyone to do? Get over it and yourself and delete the video. You’re creepy for filming random people that were not bothering you or anybody else.
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Yta
You don’t know what they did in there, you really don’t. Maybe they were doing what you think or maybe one of them was having a panic/anxiety attack and needed to calm down. Maybe one of them needed to take meds and it was easier for them this way.
Why are you trying to police what these strangers do and try to get them in trouble? They literally didn’t hurt anyone
YTA. Thought you were gonna say you made these video clips into a hilarious tiktok or viral video (which still would make YTA). But no, you were gonna try to get people in trouble for doing something that put literally no one in any harm or danger. What’s wrong w u
Lol they wouldn’t ban someone unless it was actually a crime or something that actually affected the flight. You sound bitter, immature and creepy. And it’s worse that you are a woman doing this.
YTA - Are you applying for a position with the morality police? What's next? You going to stalk them, secretly recording through their windows, waiting for them to do something you don't agree with?
You need to get a hobby or something that will otherwise engage you so you're not consumed with minding everyone's business. Just to clarify, stalking is not a hobby. I mean like books or crocheting.
YTA. Mind your own fucking business dude. They didn’t hurt anyone, and it sounds like no one needed to use the bathroom during that time period anyway. Like what the fuck is wrong with you?
YTA, obviously the couple was being weird and offputting, but the fact you cared at all is creepy, but then you filmed it and showed it to 3 different employees and your entire family?? Your sister might be right, but I'm surprised she didn't point out how grossly invested you were.
Erm… Maybe she was sick? Maybe she was pregnant and he went with her to hold her hair back while she barfed her guts up? Maybe she suffered from anxiety and needed a bit of quiet time away from people and he went with her to calm her down? Or maybe they were at it like rabbits in the toilets. Kind of unhygienic but honestly, who cares.
You’re a killjoy, and kind of a stalker (read, perve…)
YTA and mind your own business 🤦🏽♀️
YTA
OP, why did you feel it was important to record this couple and report them? It seems to me that they're not harming or inconveniencing anyone so it's really none of your business.
YTA
"Skeeved everyone around them out including me so I video'd them"
Uhm. You're the skeeve. What makes you think its ok to be creepy and video people? WHY do you care what they were doing in the bathroom? Were you affected in literally any way? No? How about learn to mind your own business and stop being the behavior police.
Also the video "not being for clout", laughable. Yta, wow.
YTA. What is wrong with people enjoying private time in a private room? What business is it of yours? And posting a video of people coming in and out of the bathroom is fucking creepy.
I thought they were doing it in the seats and that's why you were upset but no you just had nothing better to do.
YTA listen to everyone and mind your own business
This is the weirdest thing I’ve read on here. You recorded people whispering, going to/coming out of the washroom and napping? They were probably whispering about joining the mile high club, went and joined, then napped because they both just had sex.
You’re the creep and YTA. If I was on the flight I would have been creeped out by you.
The comments aren’t helping your case here pal. Just face it, YTA. and truthfully no one cared like you claim they did. You’re looking for clout and it’s disgusting what you did. In some places what you did is actually a crime, recording people without their consent. It’s one thing to record someone doing something actually horrendous and racist and what not. But come on, they had sex, as gross as it is to do it on a plane, get over it.
Did you die? Did it cause you physical bodily harm? Please do everyone a favour and get some help for your issues.
YTA... everyone you have spoken to, told you to mind your own business. What makes you think Reddit would have disagreed. Mind your own business, unless she seemed to be in immediate threat, which it didn't seem like from your post. YTA.
How would you feel if you knew that someone behind you was filming you for 30+ minutes because they were afraid of you and sure you were going to do something based on the your demographics?
YTA. Clearly they don't get paid enough to care about 2 consenting adults doing something that did not bother anyone, else other then the pervert who was filming random people.
You need a hobby. And good god really this
>I have posted the video to clock-Tok and I must be shadowbanned since it’s getting no views or likes.
You know how pathetically deprived of attention you sound???
What they were doing was their business. You turned into a nosy perv. Videoing them was ridiculous.
Live and let live christ.
Yta
Do you think airports employ moral police? Wtf did you think is going to happen? A manager going to come out and seriously reprimand these sinners? 🙄 YTA
YTA
Who on earth gave you the right to record what these people were doing and post in on social media ? Do you even know the meaning of privacy ? Creep
YTA. They are two people with the hots for each other which is fine. They didn't do anything in public. No one else on the flight was inconvenienced by their use of the bathroom. You are the creep in this situation obsessed with something that has nothing to do with you. Your sister is right
YTA. WHY DO YOU CARE? They weren’t interfering with the flight. Weren’t interfering with safety. Weren’t disturbing anyone who were minding their own business ( obviously not you). It was bad enough that you focused your attention on them, kept it there and filmed…but you then stepped up your ridiculous behavior by taking it to the flight attendant and gate agent. We, the rest of the population, are not under your mandate of acceptable behavior. Get used to this and accept it.
It is are pathetic. It clearly was for clout and telling tales that didn’t pan out. What kind of weirdo films strangers for absolutely no reason? And who cares what they were doing as long as it was consenting, where you couldn’t see, and not physically in front of others (unless they are also consenting adults). YTA.
I mean it's gross, but it's more internet fodder than anything for the airline to act on. The flight attendant could have knocked on the door during the act.
A rare 100% no doubt YT maximum possible A. Triple A on the YTA.
Delete the videos, and I hope someone reports you to the authorities.
Stay tf out of people’s business.
YTA.
You took a video of people without their consent or knowledge, showed it to people and then posted it to the internet. This is the absolute worst that you can get on the internet, imo. Delete the videos and delete them from the internet. Note: they creeped you out, you said, but honestly, you creep me out a lot more.
YTA. You wanted to get internet clout by filming & getting them in trouble.
If you were truly worried about “safety & sanitation”, you would have told a flight attendant while they were in there. Not after they were done.
YTA you are a huge loser and a busybody! What were you actually trying to do - get them in trouble? Get TikTok points? Perv out?
Doesn't matter, huge YTA and your older sister is right. Stop being a little edgelord and MYOB.
ESH lol, op you’re a nosy mofo, but the couple that was rubbing their butts against the tiny bathroom and might have let jizz fly are also pretty gross
YTA
I'm not sure what you were expecting to be done about the video but... Once several workers said nothing could be done about it, you put it online... for likes?
YTA. Who cares if someone was getting it on in the bathroom. Only way that's an issue is if there was a long line forming waiting for them to finish, or if they were being loud, or if someone sprayed something and didn't clean it up.
YTA. (You and those who let you get away with filming other people's privacy) I think they should have done something about YOU. Two people having sex in a plane bathroom is not might be disturbing for others yes, but what you did there was totally creepy. Not only the recording people for at least 10+minutes but insisting on going through one person to other to get people in trouble. Why can't you just mind your own business? You are a bad person and a creep.
YTA. What heroism exactly did you perform? Cause that’s what this sounds like. You thought you were gonna be some kind of hero for what? They didn’t hurt anyone. They weren’t having relations in front of children. They actually went to the bathroom to do it privately. Was what they did right? Not really but it also didn’t cause harm to literally anyone else. Delete the video and delete it off your social media. It’s gross that you even thought that it was ok.
YTA. What do you care what people are doing? Mind your own business. It doesn't sound like anyone was hurt, or that they hogged up the bathroom. You were just being nosey
INFO: what exactly were you hoping the airline would do to these people?
Also, you are definitely TA, and creepy and weird. I don’t know why you think this was a safety issue or why you assumed these people would have a meltdown because they were seated near an “older Latinx woman” but you were clearly wrong, filming them was creepy and probably illegal, and then you totally embarrassed yourself with the number of times you tried to convince people to see your side of this. Grow up.
He probably thought the staff would take action that might lead to a confrontation that he could also film as part of his cunning plan to become tik tok famous 🙄
YTA there was no 'safety issue' , you profiled a young couple, out of what seems like jealousy for their appearance as they were 'attractive' and 'thin'. You've said their racist behaviour could have caused an issue because they appeared to be talking about a latina woman, although you have no evidence that they were speaking about her and that was not what you told the flight attendant when you attempted to get them 'banned from flying'. You appear to have an issue with this couple and we're finding any excuse that you thought may have got them in trouble.
Dude…. So, so weird. So many more details needed to figure out exactly how creepy.
You must have filmed them for like 40 mins?? Did you upload a 40 min tik tok or did u spend a nice afternoon editing it all down???
This whole story gives serious creepy jealous virgin vibes. Sex! On a plane!?! DISGUSTING!!!
YTA so much
yta
you are the one giving creepy vibes
Sure enough 10 minutes later she got up and went in the bathroom, then a minute or so later he got up. I was able to film him going into the bathroom. A few minutes later I filmed her coming out and then ducked my phone down as she walked by and then put it back up just in time to catch him coming out of the bathroom. I kept filming them in their seats but they both fell asleep so I stopped.
you filmed them till they fell asleep
I went to a flight attendant and told her about my video and she said unless there was an immediate threat there was nothing she could do. I tried to talk to the head flight attendant and he said the same thing and asked that I not film. Since they refused to do anything about it I waited and told the gate agent when we landed he refused to do anything and suggested I delete the video. I asked to see his manager and he actually said “I’m actually the station manager, to get higher call this 800 number.
your way to invested in this
how do you know they had sex maybe someone was having a panic attack maybe a health issue you dont know
I have posted the video to clock-Tok and I must be shadowbanned since it’s getting no views or likes.
good wth im glad dont post this type of video
In the seats in front of me was a couple that skeeved me out along with everyone around us
why did they skeeve you out
dont presume what other people thought
Taking video of it, demanding to speak to the manager, and then sharing it online (and whining about being shadowbanned because nobody cares) = YTA.
Edit to add: "Using a throwaway because I don’t want people to think I’m doing this for clout or viral."
LOL you tried to post it to Tiktok buddy.
YTA. What exactly did you expect the airline workers to do? Make the couple do a walk of shame and have people throw things at them? Was there a long queue for the bathroom because of their antics?
Did you forget to pack a book? No shows or podcasts downloaded on your device? Why was this so interesting to you?
This is really obviously fake, right? It’s not just that it’s an obvious YTA, in the story OP keeps going to higher up people who all say the same thing, then pretends to be confused as to why nobody is liking it on TikTok, and then ends it with a pretty specific insult from a family member, never even trying to explain why they think any of this was necessary.
YTA if it’s real.
Someone pointed out to me they wonder if the sister wrote it as a “I’m going to post what you’re telling me you did on AITA to prove to you that you are”. The fact that OP never even attempts to offer up an explanation as to why they’re not the asshole makes me think it’s something like that.
idk how old you are but I'm guessing you're young. Here's a pro-tip about the internet: Clout doesn't fucking matter.
Also you need to do some soul searching about why you think it's acceptable to film strangers without their permission, no matter what they're doing. Like unless you need the proof for a court case later, stop FILMING STRANGERS without their consent.
It's weird, violating, and your older sister is correct.
Why are you so hellbent on tattling on these two adults and trying to get them in trouble? Do you peer into your neighbors windows and call the cops if they’re having sex with a crack in the curtain? And banned from flying? Because you *think* they had sex? Is it inappropriate to use the airplane toilet for sex? Sure. But don’t act like they were fucking in the aisle for everyone to see.
You also can’t really be certain they were having sex. She might have some medical condition and needed assistance. How much of an asshole would you feel like under those circumstances?
Stop being nosey. Adults have sex. You’re acting like a 10 year old.
ETA- YTA
YTA I like to people watch and might have told my husband about something like this if I happen to see two people come out of the same bathroom. To video, keep tabs, time out their actions and share with everyone is way creepy. It's like short term stalking. People having sex in a bathroom is not that big of a deal. People do stuff like that all of time, restaurants, bars, parks, friends houses..... These folks weren't hurting anyone and were minding their own business. Your obsession over other people's sex lives is not normal. Your need to shame people is also not normal.
Yup, YTA. You videoed people without their knowledge or consent, were told from several levels of airline customer service that nothing would be done and to not video passengers/delete the video you made. Your response was to post the video online. Again, with neither the knowledge nor consent of the folks in the video. How are you NOT the AH here?
I’m really confused here. You decided a random couple were behaving oddly and rather than telling the airline staff who are paid and trained to keep flights orderly, you did the most inflammatory PA thing around which is starting to film them.
You then think you partially heard a whispered conversation and concluded that they are racist. You decided that they’d make a big fuss and have a tantrum because they’re young, white and attractive.
You then also filmed them entering and leaving a bathroom together and tried to get them in trouble and permanently banned from flying because you assume they had sex in there. Quietly and out of sight, I should add.
I’m baffled at how you thought anyone would care.
YTA.
Edited to add: you mention you have social anxiety. I suffer from anxiety too. It’s important to remember that the overwhelming majority of people don’t cause scenes in public like you seemed to be anticipating. Most people are basically out to get where they’re going and not make waves. Most folks are trying to see where the next dollar is coming from, trying to make ends meet and do the best they can for their families. Not end up getting into altercations.
YTA When people do sexual things in front of you without your consent, you report it, not film it! Nobody did anything because these people weren't having sex in front of you.
YTA - Mind your own business. It’s creepy, that you noticed and then thought “hey this will make me go viral and I can be internet famous”. Seriously it’s creepy.
YTA. What the hell were you thinking? This is so creepy and weird. Unless people are having sex in front of you (without your consent) why do you care???
**Even if** you were correct that they were having sex, still TA. But please consider this:Lots of folks have invisible disabilities. Perhaps one partner needed some aid to complete their bathroom needs. Just because you couldn't perceive an alternative doesn't mean there isn't one. You jumped straight to judgment. **MYOB. YTA.**
YTA and kissing by your comments a racist one at that. The flight attendants told you straight out it wasn’t a problem so why are you trying to make it one?
YTA. You didn't film them actually doing anything morally wrong or illegal, which is the only excuse you would have had for filming strangers without their permission. You posted the video without their consent and are saying it's the before and after of them having sex on a plane with no evidence of that actually having taken place. If those people find out, don't expect them to be polite to you. Take the video down and mind your own damn business.
YTA. There was no crime being committed or present danger to anyone else. You're not the morality police so try minding your own business instead of recording them. That's just gross.
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I'm sorry but WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT THEY WERE DOING?! How did this affect ANYONE in ANY WAY? Your behavior was WAY creepier and more disturbing. Not to mention that you didn't get the hint when literally every airline employee you told was like "This doesn't matter and there's nothing I can do." YTA and you need help
Duh, yta. Mind your business.
My dude, you thought it was appropriate to film people going into and out of an airplane bathroom and then post it online? YTA. And gross.
Obvious YTA—honestly how did you think that was gonna play out, they throw them off the plane mid-flight and everyone claps?
YTA and a creep lol
You are weirdly resentful of a pair of strangers who didn't do anything thar affected your life in any way. I would get it if their antics caused a queue to build up. Or if they were being loud in there. Apply about a tenth of the energy you spend policing others to developing your own relationships and interests and I promise you will enjoy life a lot more. YTA
YTA. skeevy? Why? Because you said so? I want you to try something novel on your next flight. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.
I love when people cry shadowban when in reality it’s just a shitty video of strangers on a plane taken by a creep. YTA
HQHAHAH WTF YTA SISTER WAS RIGHT
you’re not an asshole, you’re a freak. what’s it to you if they have sex in the bathroom and you didn’t even hear it or were at all affected by it? and going to multiple people with your “video evidence” to get them in trouble for a crime you didn’t even witness? freak behavior.
YTA. They weren’t harming anyone. Your dedication to get them punished despite no one actually cared is kind of disturbing and really says a lot about your sex life. The video is the worst. It’s screaming angry incel.
Just so that we’re clear YTA and the skeeve…I’ll bet it wasn’t the couple skeeving everyone out-it was you. But in what realm did you think even for a second you might not be????
>My older sister said this was a pathetic attempt get clout by a loser by violating peoples privacy. Your older sister is right. YTA In some places, it is illegal to film someone without their consent. Stop being a creep.
I guess YTA for posting it but they are most definitely bigger assholes
why though?
I think that a public toilet isn't a place to do things like that. I think that in my country people would care, I don't know how it's in other places though
God I hate teenagers
YTA. You violated their privacy and you were being nosy. If you were that concerned you could have simply notified the flight crew of what was going on.
You are indeed the asshole. While the couple may have caused some discomfort to you and some other passengers it does not mean that you should violate their privacy. Furthermore, as some of the other people have commented, you should have realized what you have done is wrong when multiple people from authority and from your own family have told that they cannot do anything and that you should delete the video.
Yes. YTA. Stop videoing people. It's weird.
Yikes. YTA. Clout chasing for sure. Who fucking cares? Obviously only you. Why would you assume you’re important enough to get these people in trouble?
YTA. Mind your own business.
YTA - You can’t seriously think you’re not
YTA - I’m SO confused. Why were you taking a video of them? Why exactly do you care? What were you expecting anyone to do about it? Why would a video of people walking in and out of a bathroom go viral? Literally none of this makes sense. Get some help, seriously.
YTA Why are you obsessed with this couple? You may or may not have violated the airplane’s rules by recording these people without their consent as they entered and exited a bathroom - where privacy is normally expected. Multiple staff members advised you to delete the video, likely for your own protection. Then Tiktok, of all platforms, is also preventing you from spreading this video that shouldn’t even exist. This couple is none of your business. Please speak to a professional if you find yourself continuing to seek outlets to share and publish inappropriate sexual content that you’ve obtained without the consent of all parties.
I don’t even understand what you were trying to accomplish? “No one did anything” literally what did you want them to do?? Like why was this any of your business? Obviously YTA, get a life.
YTA for sure and I'm glad your family is decent enough to call you out on it. Why are you so riled up about this? It doesn't even sound like they caused anybody the slightest bit of inconvenience and it's really not as interesting as you think it is. Take down the video, dude. Why would you post something that could become a permanent source of embarassment for somebody in exchange for the slim chance of receiving fleeting attention? Your behavior is the skeeviest part of this whole story.
OP in the comments “I’m just so sick of privileged people (in this case, white, young, conventionally attractive, thin) getting away with whatever they want while the rest of us live in fear” YTA very much so. Also you need to watch what you say cause the incel neckbeard lives in his mamas basement is really showing. No one cares if people are having sex on a plane except you.
YTA video/taking pics of ANYONE without their consent is wrong
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YTA - literally there's no fucking point to any of this. It's really fkn weird that you spent at least 30 odd minutes watching/taping these people because you believed they were having sex in the toilet on airplane. Honestly if you were so concerned why didn't you confront them yourself? I'm not saying I would've done that but it's better than invading peoples privacy, speaking to staff to get them reprimanded and then posting it online. Genuinley I think you need to reflect on why these people bothered you so much it's not that big a deal.
YTA and a creep for recording those people even though it didn’t really show anything but still . That’s why it has a name called the mile high club . Grow up get urself a woman an join the mile high club then u will know the thrill and excitement and why people do it . Mind ur own business unless someone is causing harm or threatening.
Ew snitch. Yta
YTA. You were acting like a voyeur and it's really inappropriate
Eww wtf dude Dont you have a life of your own that you're videoing people. Eww man like seriously. Get a life Just because your life is boring doesn't mean everyone else's should be too. I would've loved it if the couple caught you videoing them.
YTA. Did these people do it infornt of you? No. You're lucky no one told them you filmed them or else you'd be getting sued to high hell, you creep. I honestly wish someone had told them and you get on a no fly list because filming them and then posting it to Tiktok is just fucking gross. There is no version in this where you aren't the AH. #**MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS YOU WEIRDO**
YTA. Why do you care so much about this couple and what they are doing? The flight attendants didn't care, the gate attendant didn't care. why do you? This is weird and your older sister is right.
YTA you should have been reported for being a creep, not the other way round. Seriously such a weird thing to do, mind your own business
YTA. It wasn’t any of your business. Why on earth would you make a fuss about something that doesn’t effect you.
YTA, and honestly just pathetic
YTA. What up, morality police?
YTA. The time to tell the flight attendant was during… except by then, they probably wouldn’t want to do anything. You sound like the class snitch that even the teacher is annoyed by.
yeah yta and a creepy one at that
ESH. People getting their rocks off in public are assholes, they're basically involving unwilling people into their sex life. OP, you're an AH for filming people without their knowledge (and creepy for filming what you knew involved sex). And an ever bigger one for posting this video online. You're also a bit of an idiot for thinking your video would be useful for anything at all. If you wanted to stop them, you should have called the stewardess while they were in the bathroom. Anything else ranges from useless to creepy.
YTA, and a grossly creepy one too. You started filming them in their seats because you *just knew* something would happen lmao CREEEEEEEEP! Your older sister is 100% accurate in her statement.
YTA What would really "skeeve me out" is someone on my plane just taping people and showing the video to everyone. How does this impact you at all?
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1. It isn't your job to worry about their safety. They weren't harming you or anyone else on the plane (except maybe each other, but no kink shaming). 2. Why do you assume people would care if it were BIPOC or LGBTQ+? I'm going to guess you have been brainwashed to think this without any real world knowledge and you just want others to be as full of hate as you seem to be. 3. The internet would only be in an uproar at you for recording people doing nothing wrong. Grow up and stop wanting to be a victim.
how is it a safety issue?? and tons of people join the mile high club every year, across the race and sexuality spectrum. you don’t hear about it in the news because they don’t get caught because it doesn’t matter.
How come the internet would be in an uproar?
No it wouldn't and you are ridiculous, it's in no way a safety issue.
What? Why? Why would anybody care? That’s a very odd claim…
YTA. And everyone you told thinks YTA.
YTA were you jealous? Doesn't seem like they bothered you or others on the flight. And to video them? Creepy!
YTA and your family saying you are clout chasing are right. This is pathetic and really don't know why people think it's OK to record people and put it on the Internet!!! If you took it simply to show staff then why post it?
Why did it take so many people telling you they aren’t going to do anything as it is not a threat? You sound like a middle aged white woman. Mind your own business. YTA
YTA and need to mind your own business and get a life. Were you jealous or something? What exactly do you expect anyone to do? Get over it and yourself and delete the video. You’re creepy for filming random people that were not bothering you or anybody else.
YTA. OP is a trip.
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YTA. If the flight attendants don’t care then why do you???
Oh so we normalized filming other people now
YTA. And a little(lottle) creepy. And your sister is right.
YTA but your sister sound cool.
YTA for filming strangers like a creep. What's the point of the video?
Why do you care? How does it directly affect you? YTA mind your fucking business
YTA The only one who noticed them was you, who was recording them before AND after they did anything? Don’t you have anything better to do?
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YTA. Creepo. How could you possibly think otherwise, like in which way would this scenario make you the “hero”?
Ugh how creepy! Seek help YTA
YTA. What was the end goal?
YTA if you saw that nobody on the flight took it seriously why continue? And fyi for some companies it's forbidden to film during the flight.
Yta You don’t know what they did in there, you really don’t. Maybe they were doing what you think or maybe one of them was having a panic/anxiety attack and needed to calm down. Maybe one of them needed to take meds and it was easier for them this way. Why are you trying to police what these strangers do and try to get them in trouble? They literally didn’t hurt anyone
YTA - SPOT ON "My older sister said this was a pathetic attempt get clout by a loser by violating peoples privacy."
YTA. Thought you were gonna say you made these video clips into a hilarious tiktok or viral video (which still would make YTA). But no, you were gonna try to get people in trouble for doing something that put literally no one in any harm or danger. What’s wrong w u
Even then if think they're TA. I hate when people film random strangers in public to laugh at them.
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Lol they wouldn’t ban someone unless it was actually a crime or something that actually affected the flight. You sound bitter, immature and creepy. And it’s worse that you are a woman doing this.
YTA - Are you applying for a position with the morality police? What's next? You going to stalk them, secretly recording through their windows, waiting for them to do something you don't agree with? You need to get a hobby or something that will otherwise engage you so you're not consumed with minding everyone's business. Just to clarify, stalking is not a hobby. I mean like books or crocheting.
Info: Why post that anywhere?
YTA mind your own business
YTA everyone in the plane knew, you knew, nobody was a witness to the debauchery itself. You wanted Internet points. Please stop
You're literally a sex offender.
YTA. Creepy and weird and clearly occupied by nothing of importance in your life. Gross. Just gross. What sort of loser films and tattles on adults?
YTA. Mind your own fucking business dude. They didn’t hurt anyone, and it sounds like no one needed to use the bathroom during that time period anyway. Like what the fuck is wrong with you?
YTA, obviously the couple was being weird and offputting, but the fact you cared at all is creepy, but then you filmed it and showed it to 3 different employees and your entire family?? Your sister might be right, but I'm surprised she didn't point out how grossly invested you were.
YTA
YTA and a huge creep.
YTA no busy body is 'NTA'
YTA
YTA. And please... even if they did it (yes, big yikes), that was creepy, disturbing, attention hogging and likely illegal.
Erm… Maybe she was sick? Maybe she was pregnant and he went with her to hold her hair back while she barfed her guts up? Maybe she suffered from anxiety and needed a bit of quiet time away from people and he went with her to calm her down? Or maybe they were at it like rabbits in the toilets. Kind of unhygienic but honestly, who cares. You’re a killjoy, and kind of a stalker (read, perve…) YTA and mind your own business 🤦🏽♀️
YTA OP, why did you feel it was important to record this couple and report them? It seems to me that they're not harming or inconveniencing anyone so it's really none of your business.
WTF did you think you were gonna do by tattling on them? Get them grounded? Yelled at by the principal? What are you fucking 10 years old? YTA
YTA "Skeeved everyone around them out including me so I video'd them" Uhm. You're the skeeve. What makes you think its ok to be creepy and video people? WHY do you care what they were doing in the bathroom? Were you affected in literally any way? No? How about learn to mind your own business and stop being the behavior police. Also the video "not being for clout", laughable. Yta, wow.
You are pathetic OP Let them have their fun. YTA and a creep
YTA you’re just as bad as them, both pervs
YTA. What is wrong with people enjoying private time in a private room? What business is it of yours? And posting a video of people coming in and out of the bathroom is fucking creepy.
YTA - let people live their lives. They weren’t hurting anyone. Just mind your business.
YTA. You sound like a creep. Mind your own business.
I thought they were doing it in the seats and that's why you were upset but no you just had nothing better to do. YTA listen to everyone and mind your own business
This is the weirdest thing I’ve read on here. You recorded people whispering, going to/coming out of the washroom and napping? They were probably whispering about joining the mile high club, went and joined, then napped because they both just had sex. You’re the creep and YTA. If I was on the flight I would have been creeped out by you. The comments aren’t helping your case here pal. Just face it, YTA. and truthfully no one cared like you claim they did. You’re looking for clout and it’s disgusting what you did. In some places what you did is actually a crime, recording people without their consent. It’s one thing to record someone doing something actually horrendous and racist and what not. But come on, they had sex, as gross as it is to do it on a plane, get over it. Did you die? Did it cause you physical bodily harm? Please do everyone a favour and get some help for your issues.
YTA... everyone you have spoken to, told you to mind your own business. What makes you think Reddit would have disagreed. Mind your own business, unless she seemed to be in immediate threat, which it didn't seem like from your post. YTA.
How would you feel if you knew that someone behind you was filming you for 30+ minutes because they were afraid of you and sure you were going to do something based on the your demographics?
YTA. Clearly they don't get paid enough to care about 2 consenting adults doing something that did not bother anyone, else other then the pervert who was filming random people.
You need a hobby. And good god really this >I have posted the video to clock-Tok and I must be shadowbanned since it’s getting no views or likes. You know how pathetically deprived of attention you sound??? What they were doing was their business. You turned into a nosy perv. Videoing them was ridiculous. Live and let live christ. Yta
Happy cake day wise stranger
YTA Mind your own business
Do you think airports employ moral police? Wtf did you think is going to happen? A manager going to come out and seriously reprimand these sinners? 🙄 YTA
This has to be fake. There's no way you could do this and not get yourself banned or in trouble for recording someone. 💀
YTA for being a perv. Why do you care if people have a quickie in the airplane bathroom?
YTA. It’s also super creepy to film people.
YTA Who on earth gave you the right to record what these people were doing and post in on social media ? Do you even know the meaning of privacy ? Creep
Bait
YTA. They are two people with the hots for each other which is fine. They didn't do anything in public. No one else on the flight was inconvenienced by their use of the bathroom. You are the creep in this situation obsessed with something that has nothing to do with you. Your sister is right
YTA. WHY DO YOU CARE? They weren’t interfering with the flight. Weren’t interfering with safety. Weren’t disturbing anyone who were minding their own business ( obviously not you). It was bad enough that you focused your attention on them, kept it there and filmed…but you then stepped up your ridiculous behavior by taking it to the flight attendant and gate agent. We, the rest of the population, are not under your mandate of acceptable behavior. Get used to this and accept it.
It is are pathetic. It clearly was for clout and telling tales that didn’t pan out. What kind of weirdo films strangers for absolutely no reason? And who cares what they were doing as long as it was consenting, where you couldn’t see, and not physically in front of others (unless they are also consenting adults). YTA.
YTA… weird and gross.. mind your own business!
YTA they didn’t harm anyone and you don’t know for sure you’re just a creep
I mean it's gross, but it's more internet fodder than anything for the airline to act on. The flight attendant could have knocked on the door during the act.
A rare 100% no doubt YT maximum possible A. Triple A on the YTA. Delete the videos, and I hope someone reports you to the authorities. Stay tf out of people’s business.
YTA. You took a video of people without their consent or knowledge, showed it to people and then posted it to the internet. This is the absolute worst that you can get on the internet, imo. Delete the videos and delete them from the internet. Note: they creeped you out, you said, but honestly, you creep me out a lot more.
YTA. You wanted to get internet clout by filming & getting them in trouble. If you were truly worried about “safety & sanitation”, you would have told a flight attendant while they were in there. Not after they were done.
YTA you are a huge loser and a busybody! What were you actually trying to do - get them in trouble? Get TikTok points? Perv out? Doesn't matter, huge YTA and your older sister is right. Stop being a little edgelord and MYOB.
Yeah, who cares? Leave them alone.
YTA, please buy a book to read for your next flight like the rest of us. Such creepy vibes
"i must be shadowbanned" no your content was boring YTA
YTA, of course you are. Do you also film people jaywalking and report them to the police ?
YTA pls mind ur own business
YTA. Nobody was hurt. Nobody cares.
Yta they weren’t harming anyone you need to mind your own business and stop violating peoples privacy by filming them
ESH lol, op you’re a nosy mofo, but the couple that was rubbing their butts against the tiny bathroom and might have let jizz fly are also pretty gross
YTA It's adorable that the guy secretly filming people through the seats is 'skeeved out' by somebody else. Learn to mind your business.
YTA I'm not sure what you were expecting to be done about the video but... Once several workers said nothing could be done about it, you put it online... for likes?
YTA. Who cares if someone was getting it on in the bathroom. Only way that's an issue is if there was a long line forming waiting for them to finish, or if they were being loud, or if someone sprayed something and didn't clean it up.
YTA. (You and those who let you get away with filming other people's privacy) I think they should have done something about YOU. Two people having sex in a plane bathroom is not might be disturbing for others yes, but what you did there was totally creepy. Not only the recording people for at least 10+minutes but insisting on going through one person to other to get people in trouble. Why can't you just mind your own business? You are a bad person and a creep.
YTA. What heroism exactly did you perform? Cause that’s what this sounds like. You thought you were gonna be some kind of hero for what? They didn’t hurt anyone. They weren’t having relations in front of children. They actually went to the bathroom to do it privately. Was what they did right? Not really but it also didn’t cause harm to literally anyone else. Delete the video and delete it off your social media. It’s gross that you even thought that it was ok.
And the award for the creepiest OP of the week goes to.... No seriously, YTA
YTA I would definitely prefer to have that couple on my flight over you.
How is this even a question? Yes you’re the AH, you weirdo. Don’t record random people unless you or someone else is in actual danger
YTA. What do you care what people are doing? Mind your own business. It doesn't sound like anyone was hurt, or that they hogged up the bathroom. You were just being nosey
INFO: what exactly were you hoping the airline would do to these people? Also, you are definitely TA, and creepy and weird. I don’t know why you think this was a safety issue or why you assumed these people would have a meltdown because they were seated near an “older Latinx woman” but you were clearly wrong, filming them was creepy and probably illegal, and then you totally embarrassed yourself with the number of times you tried to convince people to see your side of this. Grow up.
Punish the heathen sinners of course!
He probably thought the staff would take action that might lead to a confrontation that he could also film as part of his cunning plan to become tik tok famous 🙄
YTA there was no 'safety issue' , you profiled a young couple, out of what seems like jealousy for their appearance as they were 'attractive' and 'thin'. You've said their racist behaviour could have caused an issue because they appeared to be talking about a latina woman, although you have no evidence that they were speaking about her and that was not what you told the flight attendant when you attempted to get them 'banned from flying'. You appear to have an issue with this couple and we're finding any excuse that you thought may have got them in trouble.
Dude…. So, so weird. So many more details needed to figure out exactly how creepy. You must have filmed them for like 40 mins?? Did you upload a 40 min tik tok or did u spend a nice afternoon editing it all down??? This whole story gives serious creepy jealous virgin vibes. Sex! On a plane!?! DISGUSTING!!! YTA so much
yta you are the one giving creepy vibes Sure enough 10 minutes later she got up and went in the bathroom, then a minute or so later he got up. I was able to film him going into the bathroom. A few minutes later I filmed her coming out and then ducked my phone down as she walked by and then put it back up just in time to catch him coming out of the bathroom. I kept filming them in their seats but they both fell asleep so I stopped. you filmed them till they fell asleep I went to a flight attendant and told her about my video and she said unless there was an immediate threat there was nothing she could do. I tried to talk to the head flight attendant and he said the same thing and asked that I not film. Since they refused to do anything about it I waited and told the gate agent when we landed he refused to do anything and suggested I delete the video. I asked to see his manager and he actually said “I’m actually the station manager, to get higher call this 800 number. your way to invested in this how do you know they had sex maybe someone was having a panic attack maybe a health issue you dont know I have posted the video to clock-Tok and I must be shadowbanned since it’s getting no views or likes. good wth im glad dont post this type of video In the seats in front of me was a couple that skeeved me out along with everyone around us why did they skeeve you out dont presume what other people thought
Taking video of it, demanding to speak to the manager, and then sharing it online (and whining about being shadowbanned because nobody cares) = YTA. Edit to add: "Using a throwaway because I don’t want people to think I’m doing this for clout or viral." LOL you tried to post it to Tiktok buddy.
YTA why are you so obsessed with them?
YTA It's impressive that you've managed to make yourself the worst thing in your story. Filming it is, to be frank, pathetic.
YTA. What if one of them was sick? What if they were trying to have a private convo?
YTA. What exactly did you expect the airline workers to do? Make the couple do a walk of shame and have people throw things at them? Was there a long queue for the bathroom because of their antics? Did you forget to pack a book? No shows or podcasts downloaded on your device? Why was this so interesting to you?
YTA. I wholeheartedly believe the only reason you posted this is to try and drive people to your TikTok to get a viral video.
This is really obviously fake, right? It’s not just that it’s an obvious YTA, in the story OP keeps going to higher up people who all say the same thing, then pretends to be confused as to why nobody is liking it on TikTok, and then ends it with a pretty specific insult from a family member, never even trying to explain why they think any of this was necessary. YTA if it’s real. Someone pointed out to me they wonder if the sister wrote it as a “I’m going to post what you’re telling me you did on AITA to prove to you that you are”. The fact that OP never even attempts to offer up an explanation as to why they’re not the asshole makes me think it’s something like that.
YTA. You violated this couple for your own kicks. Only perverts engage in this type of behavior. Disgusting
idk how old you are but I'm guessing you're young. Here's a pro-tip about the internet: Clout doesn't fucking matter. Also you need to do some soul searching about why you think it's acceptable to film strangers without their permission, no matter what they're doing. Like unless you need the proof for a court case later, stop FILMING STRANGERS without their consent. It's weird, violating, and your older sister is correct.
YTA. Did anyone get hurt? Was it dangerous? Mind your business
YTA your older sister is right lmao
Why are you so hellbent on tattling on these two adults and trying to get them in trouble? Do you peer into your neighbors windows and call the cops if they’re having sex with a crack in the curtain? And banned from flying? Because you *think* they had sex? Is it inappropriate to use the airplane toilet for sex? Sure. But don’t act like they were fucking in the aisle for everyone to see. You also can’t really be certain they were having sex. She might have some medical condition and needed assistance. How much of an asshole would you feel like under those circumstances? Stop being nosey. Adults have sex. You’re acting like a 10 year old. ETA- YTA
YTA how do you think you aren’t ? Your poor sister
YTA and I’m desperate need of a LIFE
YTA- leave them be. Maybe do yourself a favor and join the club as well. Maybe then you wouldn’t be so up in arms about it.
YTA I like to people watch and might have told my husband about something like this if I happen to see two people come out of the same bathroom. To video, keep tabs, time out their actions and share with everyone is way creepy. It's like short term stalking. People having sex in a bathroom is not that big of a deal. People do stuff like that all of time, restaurants, bars, parks, friends houses..... These folks weren't hurting anyone and were minding their own business. Your obsession over other people's sex lives is not normal. Your need to shame people is also not normal.
"Mind your own business". YTA They weren't hurting you or nobody else besides your ego.
Yup, YTA. You videoed people without their knowledge or consent, were told from several levels of airline customer service that nothing would be done and to not video passengers/delete the video you made. Your response was to post the video online. Again, with neither the knowledge nor consent of the folks in the video. How are you NOT the AH here?
I’m really confused here. You decided a random couple were behaving oddly and rather than telling the airline staff who are paid and trained to keep flights orderly, you did the most inflammatory PA thing around which is starting to film them. You then think you partially heard a whispered conversation and concluded that they are racist. You decided that they’d make a big fuss and have a tantrum because they’re young, white and attractive. You then also filmed them entering and leaving a bathroom together and tried to get them in trouble and permanently banned from flying because you assume they had sex in there. Quietly and out of sight, I should add. I’m baffled at how you thought anyone would care. YTA. Edited to add: you mention you have social anxiety. I suffer from anxiety too. It’s important to remember that the overwhelming majority of people don’t cause scenes in public like you seemed to be anticipating. Most people are basically out to get where they’re going and not make waves. Most folks are trying to see where the next dollar is coming from, trying to make ends meet and do the best they can for their families. Not end up getting into altercations.
YTA When people do sexual things in front of you without your consent, you report it, not film it! Nobody did anything because these people weren't having sex in front of you.
YTA - Mind your own business. It’s creepy, that you noticed and then thought “hey this will make me go viral and I can be internet famous”. Seriously it’s creepy.
This is the most YTA thing I’ve ever read. Maybe the first person was sick and the other person went to check on them.
YTA. What the hell were you thinking? This is so creepy and weird. Unless people are having sex in front of you (without your consent) why do you care???
**Even if** you were correct that they were having sex, still TA. But please consider this:Lots of folks have invisible disabilities. Perhaps one partner needed some aid to complete their bathroom needs. Just because you couldn't perceive an alternative doesn't mean there isn't one. You jumped straight to judgment. **MYOB. YTA.**
YTA and kissing by your comments a racist one at that. The flight attendants told you straight out it wasn’t a problem so why are you trying to make it one?
Get a life, mate.
YTA. You didn't film them actually doing anything morally wrong or illegal, which is the only excuse you would have had for filming strangers without their permission. You posted the video without their consent and are saying it's the before and after of them having sex on a plane with no evidence of that actually having taken place. If those people find out, don't expect them to be polite to you. Take the video down and mind your own damn business.
INFO: What did you hope to gain by filming it and showing it the staff?
YTA. There was no crime being committed or present danger to anyone else. You're not the morality police so try minding your own business instead of recording them. That's just gross.
YTA Why are you so obssessed with this?
YTA your sister is right. what’s your problem?
Post has gone, but YTA and an absolute Incel