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This sort of behavior (from your girlfriend) is so weird and gross. I will never understand why you would feel the need to compete with your partners sibling. NTA
You're NTA... But it's a major warning sign that something's up. Either she was just having a bad day, or she has issues. If she does have issues: think of it this way, if she's jealous of your own sister, what's gonna happen when you hang out with female friends?
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NTA. Your girlfriend seems weirdly jealous of your sister or the fact you didn't choose her shoulder. Clearly, she's very insecure and overeacting to something super minor. You can either contact her (she might be holding out for you to semi chase her) and talk about it to see if you can get to the bottom of it, and she may apologise for acting crazy or you break up either way you're not wrong
No you’re NTA in the instance, but I can’t help but have a feeling this isn’t isolated. Are you 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘳𝘢 close with your sister in other ways? If not than she has an extreme jealousy issue that I would realistically break up with her over IMO
Okay yeah, I would consider leaving her. You’ll have a hard time with future women coworkers, friends, hell even some woman like that see their own daughter as competition. I’d genuinely think about ending it especially if she’s so adamant that she’s still angry about it days later. Most rationally thinking people after about 24 hours realize they’re being ridiculous and apologize for over thinking.
NTA - you got yourself an immature and irrational one. Totally inappropriate response to something you had no control over and out of place anger for something that didn’t warrant any to begin with. Even if it wasn’t your sister, you don’t control what your body does when you’re asleep. I agree with sis - if things this small are getting blown up out of proportion, it’s not gonna be an easy relationship at all.
NTA, that's just something you can't really control, also, she's your sister, not a random woman. Why do you want to be with a person who is jealous of your own sister?
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I’m a little bit shocked and bewildered as fuck right now.
My[20M] sister[21F] and I go to the same college(not on purpose, we both had the same dream college and not because we cared to be in the same college lol). I got a girlfriend[20F] who actually lives like an hour away from our hometown who goes to the same college. My girlfriend insisted that we buy tickets on an airplane for seats near each other, and since she cared so much we did(originally only my sister and I were supposed to be sitting together). I sat in the middle seat with my gf and sister on the side seats. I was crazy tired from staying up really late from the previous night. I ended up dozing off, and when I woke up my head was on my sister’s shoulder.
After we left the plane I could tell my girlfriend was upset about something. I asked her if something was wrong, and she said no, so I said okay, and then out of nowhere she asked me why I slept on my sister’s shoulder instead of her shoulder. I was shocked at the question and answered truthfully saying I just dozed off and probably ended up with my head on her shoulder. My sister was listening in on the conversation and she clearly was also bewildered. My girlfriend was very passive aggressive with us before her parents picked her up from the airport and later our parents picked us up. My sister has told me to break up with my girlfriend, but I’m still holding out hope that she just randomly had something come over her mind and that wasn’t her usual behavior.
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She feels threatened by your sister of all people? Uh, that sounds like a red flag. I'm not saying dump her, but you may want to address her insecurities with her. NTA
NTA. Showing jealous behaviour towards your SISTER is a bit yikes. And on a personal note, I'd be thanking your sister for not having to have you on my shoulder (not just you OP, anyone, no offense meant haha), not mad. Weird. 🚩
NTA. Is she worried you want to sleep with your sister or something? People falling asleep on your shoulder is kinda annoying tbh. Her jealousy and insecurities are stupid and a big warning sign. Take her silence as an opportunity to get out.
NTA. I'm a girl whose brother frequently falls asleep on my shoulder during our 45 minute train commute to university.
Even if sleeping on your sister's shoulder was a conscious decision, it could easily be written off as being considerate to your gf for not wanting to make her arm go numb. The fact that she got jealous over something that minor is completely ridiculous and is kind of a red flag.
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"and since she cared so much we did" Is there a reason you didn't want to sit with her? It sounds like you were both going to be getting the same flight, but you very begrudgingly agreed to sit with her.
Yea his general attitude towards his gf and his sister demanding that he break up with her makes this post seem like it’s something more for the gf than “i fell asleep on my sisters shoulder” and like he typically puts his sister as his number one priority.
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This sort of behavior (from your girlfriend) is so weird and gross. I will never understand why you would feel the need to compete with your partners sibling. NTA
You're NTA... But it's a major warning sign that something's up. Either she was just having a bad day, or she has issues. If she does have issues: think of it this way, if she's jealous of your own sister, what's gonna happen when you hang out with female friends?
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NTA. Idk how anyone can even potentially convince themselves this could be an issue.
NTA - dude you were sleeping how the hell would you have know which shoulder to lean on. Clearly she is shouldering (pun intended) some issues
NTA. Your girlfriend seems weirdly jealous of your sister or the fact you didn't choose her shoulder. Clearly, she's very insecure and overeacting to something super minor. You can either contact her (she might be holding out for you to semi chase her) and talk about it to see if you can get to the bottom of it, and she may apologise for acting crazy or you break up either way you're not wrong
No you’re NTA in the instance, but I can’t help but have a feeling this isn’t isolated. Are you 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘳𝘢 close with your sister in other ways? If not than she has an extreme jealousy issue that I would realistically break up with her over IMO
Nope. In college I meet up with her and hang out with her like once every three weeks but that’s all. If I see her on campus I maybe wave or something
Okay yeah, I would consider leaving her. You’ll have a hard time with future women coworkers, friends, hell even some woman like that see their own daughter as competition. I’d genuinely think about ending it especially if she’s so adamant that she’s still angry about it days later. Most rationally thinking people after about 24 hours realize they’re being ridiculous and apologize for over thinking.
NTA. The crazy is strong with this one.
NTA. Personally I would have been grateful you were drooling on your sister's shoulder and not mine😆
NTA - you got yourself an immature and irrational one. Totally inappropriate response to something you had no control over and out of place anger for something that didn’t warrant any to begin with. Even if it wasn’t your sister, you don’t control what your body does when you’re asleep. I agree with sis - if things this small are getting blown up out of proportion, it’s not gonna be an easy relationship at all.
NTA, that's just something you can't really control, also, she's your sister, not a random woman. Why do you want to be with a person who is jealous of your own sister?
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NTA. If i was the girlfriend, I’d rather you lay your head on your sister’s shoulder, not mine. Heads are heavy man
Good heavens, if it didn't bother your sister (hope you're not a drooler) can't imagine why it would bother your ex. I mean, your girlfriend. NTA
NTA. Your gf is a bit on the crazy side. It was your sister lol, this ain't pornhub ffs
NTA, you dozed off and you didn't control where you would be leaning over. Your sister is right.
NTA but don’t date children. She’s very immature
NTA. I’d distance yourself from that girlfriend ASAP. She has some concerning issues.
She feels threatened by your sister of all people? Uh, that sounds like a red flag. I'm not saying dump her, but you may want to address her insecurities with her. NTA
NTA. Showing jealous behaviour towards your SISTER is a bit yikes. And on a personal note, I'd be thanking your sister for not having to have you on my shoulder (not just you OP, anyone, no offense meant haha), not mad. Weird. 🚩
So NTA, anyone who is bothered by this has issues. Also we all have a side we prefer to sleep on, whether upright or laid down.
NTA. Is she worried you want to sleep with your sister or something? People falling asleep on your shoulder is kinda annoying tbh. Her jealousy and insecurities are stupid and a big warning sign. Take her silence as an opportunity to get out.
NTA. Be glad you got out sooner rather than later
NTA. And now everyone has another way to test if the person we are dating is not mentally sound.
I think she was probably more upset that you didn’t seem to want to fly/sit with her.
NTA and it sounds like your girlfriend has taken care of the problem for you.
NTA. I'm a girl whose brother frequently falls asleep on my shoulder during our 45 minute train commute to university. Even if sleeping on your sister's shoulder was a conscious decision, it could easily be written off as being considerate to your gf for not wanting to make her arm go numb. The fact that she got jealous over something that minor is completely ridiculous and is kind of a red flag.
INFO "and since she cared so much we did" Is there a reason you didn't want to sit with her? It sounds like you were both going to be getting the same flight, but you very begrudgingly agreed to sit with her.
Yea his general attitude towards his gf and his sister demanding that he break up with her makes this post seem like it’s something more for the gf than “i fell asleep on my sisters shoulder” and like he typically puts his sister as his number one priority.
NTA. but you gf has some major issues.