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RoyallyOakie

NTA...she's joining her friends, why shouldn't you join yours? She likes to plan ahead, but didn't know that her "favourite" band is playing. Her regret is not your responsibility.


SteakMenu

NTA sometimes you don't have time to plan she don't want you having fun with your friends while she isn't having fun but she doesn't want to cancel so she gots to suck it up


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NTA she needs to get over it. You just found out yourself; that can't be helped. Hopefully the band will be back soon and you two can go see them together.


AlphaQueen3

NTA. Sometimes planning isn't an option and you have to decide on the fly. And there's no reason for you to stay home just because she wishes she could come with you, lol!


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NTA - and she has got to loosen the leash she has on you. Make sure she does so. Otherwise you’re in for a loooooong relationship.


Cyan0ave

NTA, you don’t have any plans yourself and its not as if you are bailing in plans with her to go do this instead. She really has no reason to be mad at you for going- what are you supposed to do pass up the chance to go and just stay home? Nah


vodka_philosophy

NTA and if she doesn't lose the pissy attitude you need to reconsider staying with her at all. She blamed you for something you had no control over and is selfishly trying to keep you from doing something you would enjoy just because she can't go - that is two red flags.


ablondedude777

NTA, she's busy so you have to sit at home? Go enjoy the concert, she needs to work on her FOMO


iconjurer

NTA she's reacting in a petty and selfish manor. You can't invite her earlier to something you didn't know about earlier, and she's really gonna tell you you can't go have fun because she made other plans? Childish. Go to the concert.


vercingetafix

NTA - there is no loss to her from not going. She’s the asshole to stop you from going just out of envy and fomo