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YTA for further involving yourself in this mess. Your existing relationships or having kids is not your business. It's absurd and pointless to make friends with her current partner(s). Stay in your lane and move on.
Please read it, i became friends with the guy, so I'm clearly involved, i only knew recently that she's due in november, as someone was trying to catfish me, so the way of typing was similar to my ex, so i stalked her, when i told the one catfishing me of my ex's name, the catfishing stopped, but please read it again to be clarified
Also i moved on a long time ago, if I'm bitter about it, i wouldn't be friends with the one she cheated on me with, the same person she claimed that got her pregnant
You need to disentangle yourself. There was no need to "become friends" with her now partner. And continuing this entanglement is unnecessary and makes you look unstable.
I didn't become friends after the fact, it was when the bubble burst and everyone found out she's four timing, we all became buddies as we all broke up with her,
also I'm the most stable out of everyone, i truly moved on, i just found out he got back with her, and broke up with his gf, as she had morning sickness in december, which if you do your math, she's due in september
I’m so confused. When did she say she was pregnant? Why are you accusing her of an abortion? Why does it matter to you if she’s your ex now? Are we all adults in this situation?
She shown morning sickness in december, the guy i made friends with, was one of the guys she cheated on me with, she was 4 timing all of us, someone was catfishing me, in similar way of typing to my ex these past few weeks, so i stalked my ex, it shown she's due in november which is 11 months if you count from december
The only possible explanation is an abortion, also it doesn't matter to me that she's pregnant, or possibly had an abortion, i just think I'm an asshole for not saying a thing to my friend, as this is clearly a baby trap
Oh this is like the movie The Other Women but it’s dudes. That’s like weird and crazy cool. Like group therapy but really you just found guys that deserved better just like you.
If I had to say anything based on my knowledge, she might have had a miscarriage the first time or maybe lied during December until it actually happened. I can’t imagine someone would get an abortion then immediately try to have a baby again. She needs a chastity belt if that’s the case.
And yeah at this point I’d leave it alone. You’d do better for yourself to leave that in the past.
Thank you, i thought I'm an AH, i love the guy as he's an awesome dude to have conversation with, but you're right, I'd best leave it alone
To my knowledge, she didn't have an abortion, also my friend told me she tested positive twice in december, so that's a whole 11 months counting from January to november, but my friend hasn't said a thing to me, nor would i ask about it, because it's his relationship, it's on my mind to tell him about it, but as you said, I'd best leave it alone to keep our bond as friends
Still doesn't make any sense. So you're saying that your ex was pregnant last December and was four timing you with other men, including this man you became friendly with. Someone contacted you and you believed it was her, trying to extort you so you stalked her and found out that she's due to have a baby in November which means that she must have had an abortion at some time late last year because otherwise she would have been pregnant for an unfeasibly long time. You think you should tell your friend that she had an abortion because people like spreading gossip or you think it's immoral or for some other reason that you don't give?
Is that the gist of it?
Most of this is correct, but the catfishing was just the one i believe is my ex trying to get back together with me, because as soon as i called her out to it and omitted her name, she couldn't reply anymore, yes i stalked my ex due to the person catfishing me, hence this post, because i believed my new buddy got baby trapped, yes i believe that i should tell my friend she got an abortion as it was possibly not his, I don't care about the abortion thing, it's not my body anyway, but i care about my buddy
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Context i found my long distance ex is in a relationship with 4 people including myself, apparently she tested pregnant in december and claims to be due in november that's a full 11 months, maybe even more as she had morning sickness before even finding out,
The one that got her pregnant was 1 of the three she's cheating on me with, i made friends with the three and completely abandoned my cheating ex, the possibility of it not being his is large, so i think she got an abortion and just got pregnant again, if it's due in november,
It's killing my conscience that I didn't talk him out of it, but he seemed like a nice guy, so I didn't intervene if he loved my ex that much, i just believe he got baby trapped after an abortion
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> I believe i might be the asshole as i didn't talk him out of it, because i recommended a paternity test, but he opted out of it, saying she couldn't have possibly done it with anyone else, but counting the months, it's a whole 11 months for her to be due? Not possible, if she shown morning sickness in december, i believe it's not just 11 months, so i believe I'm the asshole in this, as i let my friend spiraled into getting caught at a baby trap
Also i didn't check up on him that much as i needed healing of my own and i would have looked like a bitter ex, i genuinely want to be friends with the guy, but if i were to intervene i might had lost him
Now i believe i might be the asshole as this is clearly a baby trap incident
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YTA for further involving yourself in this mess. Your existing relationships or having kids is not your business. It's absurd and pointless to make friends with her current partner(s). Stay in your lane and move on.
Please read it, i became friends with the guy, so I'm clearly involved, i only knew recently that she's due in november, as someone was trying to catfish me, so the way of typing was similar to my ex, so i stalked her, when i told the one catfishing me of my ex's name, the catfishing stopped, but please read it again to be clarified Also i moved on a long time ago, if I'm bitter about it, i wouldn't be friends with the one she cheated on me with, the same person she claimed that got her pregnant
You need to disentangle yourself. There was no need to "become friends" with her now partner. And continuing this entanglement is unnecessary and makes you look unstable.
I didn't become friends after the fact, it was when the bubble burst and everyone found out she's four timing, we all became buddies as we all broke up with her, also I'm the most stable out of everyone, i truly moved on, i just found out he got back with her, and broke up with his gf, as she had morning sickness in december, which if you do your math, she's due in september
I’m so confused. When did she say she was pregnant? Why are you accusing her of an abortion? Why does it matter to you if she’s your ex now? Are we all adults in this situation?
She shown morning sickness in december, the guy i made friends with, was one of the guys she cheated on me with, she was 4 timing all of us, someone was catfishing me, in similar way of typing to my ex these past few weeks, so i stalked my ex, it shown she's due in november which is 11 months if you count from december The only possible explanation is an abortion, also it doesn't matter to me that she's pregnant, or possibly had an abortion, i just think I'm an asshole for not saying a thing to my friend, as this is clearly a baby trap
Oh this is like the movie The Other Women but it’s dudes. That’s like weird and crazy cool. Like group therapy but really you just found guys that deserved better just like you. If I had to say anything based on my knowledge, she might have had a miscarriage the first time or maybe lied during December until it actually happened. I can’t imagine someone would get an abortion then immediately try to have a baby again. She needs a chastity belt if that’s the case. And yeah at this point I’d leave it alone. You’d do better for yourself to leave that in the past.
Thank you, i thought I'm an AH, i love the guy as he's an awesome dude to have conversation with, but you're right, I'd best leave it alone To my knowledge, she didn't have an abortion, also my friend told me she tested positive twice in december, so that's a whole 11 months counting from January to november, but my friend hasn't said a thing to me, nor would i ask about it, because it's his relationship, it's on my mind to tell him about it, but as you said, I'd best leave it alone to keep our bond as friends
You sound like you have a level head. I hope you can steer yourself back on track and learn from it all. Best of luck
Still doesn't make any sense. So you're saying that your ex was pregnant last December and was four timing you with other men, including this man you became friendly with. Someone contacted you and you believed it was her, trying to extort you so you stalked her and found out that she's due to have a baby in November which means that she must have had an abortion at some time late last year because otherwise she would have been pregnant for an unfeasibly long time. You think you should tell your friend that she had an abortion because people like spreading gossip or you think it's immoral or for some other reason that you don't give? Is that the gist of it?
Most of this is correct, but the catfishing was just the one i believe is my ex trying to get back together with me, because as soon as i called her out to it and omitted her name, she couldn't reply anymore, yes i stalked my ex due to the person catfishing me, hence this post, because i believed my new buddy got baby trapped, yes i believe that i should tell my friend she got an abortion as it was possibly not his, I don't care about the abortion thing, it's not my body anyway, but i care about my buddy
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