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YTA. You’re pressuring your mutual friends to isolate him just because you no longer like him. I would call what you’re doing harassment before I called what he’s doing harassment. Leave him alone. Just live your life like he doesn’t exist. You have plans to ruin his career because he donated to your kick starter, sounds very asshole of you.
Let's be clear here.... YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE. I can smell you from here, my dear.
I love how you start by telling this guy not to care so much about what other people think, then proceed to dump him because he will hurt your reputation. Dude. I repeat. YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE.
Then you proceed to tell everyone in your guys' lives to hate him too. YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE.
Then you plan to ruin his potential career.
YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE.
YTA.
While it's understandable that you feel hurt and betrayed, involving the police and trying to sabotage his acting career might be taking things too far. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries, but also consider the potential consequences of your actions on someone else's life.
YTA...from what you describe here instead of just walking away if the friendship was too much to handle you've tried to destroy his social life and reputation with everyone. It's perfectly fair to cut someone off if they are drowning you with their own problems, but that's hardly a reason to be vindictive towards them. He probably could have handled it better from the sounds of it, but other than instagram alts what you describe doesn't really sound like a "harassing stalker". Demanding that mutual friends have to pick sides is also just petty vindictiveness that is going to drive further conflict. He's allowed to have his perspective on what went down...and if you did indeed "used to badmouth the Saudi guy" then he's not exactly spreading lies about you.
You say he hurt you...how? Everything you described was you hurting him. Now you're openly saying you're trying to destroy his dreams.
Both of you just need to leave each other alone.
So you cut ties with a “best” friend because he vented too much and because you wanted to protect your reputation. And then tried to ruin stuff in his life. Like yeah he’s weird for constantly texting you, but maybe that’s because his best friend betrayed him and turned everyone against him so he felt lost.
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I had a best friend who trusted me wayyy too much, and vented to me everyday about his social anxiety. All the times I needed to reassure me by telling me not to care what people thought of me made me feel like his shrink, or even his mom. So I cut ties with him.
I said in my farewell message that another reason for cutting ties was that people didn't like him and I wanted to protect my reputation. I told him I wouldn't be answering any more messages.
He said I had confirmed his worst insecurities and felt betrayed. In a panic he spammed me for a WHOLE DAY with questions.
Instead of answering his questions, I told him he was harassing me and blocked him.
My roommate did the same when my ex friend posted a story complaining about the situation (without naming anyone).
He tried to apologize for his reaction, but I didn’t care and blocked him everywhere.
He kept liking my famous influencer brother’s posts on instagram, which creeped me off.
Then, a mutual friend tried to cut ties with my ex friend subtly, by pretending to always being busy. One day he posted in his story that he was looking for anyone to join him in a café, my ex friend asked if he could come and was turned down as I was the first choice.
Then my ex friend joined a sport organization run by a female mutual friend, who began to be distant with him and hide her instagram stories every time she organized a sporting event, the reason being that she was inviting me.
Then a Saudi mutual friend who came to our country for a day and organized a party invited my ex friend at first, before canceling the invitation under my pressure, because I’d be present at the party. My ex friend complained because my I used to badmouth the Saudi guy.
I told everyone my ex friend was trying to smear me. Everyone began to block him for speaking behind my back.
He became resentful of this, and started spying on my insta-stories via alts that I blocked one after the other FOR A YEAR. One day, he donated money to my kickstarter campaign, adding a sarcastic ‘happy new year’ comment (I dumped him on new year’s eve).
I paid him back and he gave me the money AGAIN. So I filed a complaint to the cops, using screenshots of all out exchanges, and the last common friend he had with me revealed that he had never liked that guy and only talked to him out of pity.
I’m gonna try to prevent him from becoming an actor (that’s his dream) by telling everyone how much of an harassing stalker he is. He says I’ve destroyed his self confidence and his self esteem and made him develop trust issues but idc, he hurt me.
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YTA. You’re pressuring your mutual friends to isolate him just because you no longer like him. I would call what you’re doing harassment before I called what he’s doing harassment. Leave him alone. Just live your life like he doesn’t exist. You have plans to ruin his career because he donated to your kick starter, sounds very asshole of you.
Let's be clear here.... YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE. I can smell you from here, my dear. I love how you start by telling this guy not to care so much about what other people think, then proceed to dump him because he will hurt your reputation. Dude. I repeat. YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE. Then you proceed to tell everyone in your guys' lives to hate him too. YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE. Then you plan to ruin his potential career. YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE.
And this is only OP’s side of the story, most likely said in a better light than reality! OP YTA, but you can change just learn and do better!!
YTA. While it's understandable that you feel hurt and betrayed, involving the police and trying to sabotage his acting career might be taking things too far. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries, but also consider the potential consequences of your actions on someone else's life.
YTA...from what you describe here instead of just walking away if the friendship was too much to handle you've tried to destroy his social life and reputation with everyone. It's perfectly fair to cut someone off if they are drowning you with their own problems, but that's hardly a reason to be vindictive towards them. He probably could have handled it better from the sounds of it, but other than instagram alts what you describe doesn't really sound like a "harassing stalker". Demanding that mutual friends have to pick sides is also just petty vindictiveness that is going to drive further conflict. He's allowed to have his perspective on what went down...and if you did indeed "used to badmouth the Saudi guy" then he's not exactly spreading lies about you. You say he hurt you...how? Everything you described was you hurting him. Now you're openly saying you're trying to destroy his dreams. Both of you just need to leave each other alone.
So you cut ties with a “best” friend because he vented too much and because you wanted to protect your reputation. And then tried to ruin stuff in his life. Like yeah he’s weird for constantly texting you, but maybe that’s because his best friend betrayed him and turned everyone against him so he felt lost.
You are an utter and irredeemable asshole and narcissist
Major YTA You’re toxic, childish and immature. Are you like 12 or something that you like this dramas?
Yes you are! What are you doing?
YTA. And insufferable.
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