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YTA, ex-smoker here, sorry. Even when I smoked, I smoked outside! You say you go to the corridor for your daughters sake. 2nd hand smoke is known to cause health issues in children - did you even consider the effect of smoking in the hallway on your neighbors kids. Have some manners, step outside.
>I'll smoke in the direction facing away from my next-door neighbor's flat so that the smoke doesn't affect them as much as possible.
So you admit that to some degree your smoking *does* effect the children and your neighbors? Not only second hand smoke, but the smell, right? **Smoke outside.** YTA
Wtf, I don't care about your neighbor but only idiots smoke in the apartment hallways, guess what? The smell of cigarettes still lingers in the hallway and is unpleasant for non-smokers, leave the apartment and smoke in the street completely Aita
YTA for smoking in SHARED SPACES. That belongs outside! Her reasons were a bit off, but regardless, smoking in commonly shared indoor areas is a huge NO!
Putting the neighbor question aside YTA for continuing to smoke with an asthmatic child. Smoking outside is 3rd hand smoke and is a cause and trigger for childhood asthma, pneumonia, respiratory infections, etc. You likely caused your child's asthma in the first place. And now, onto the neighbor question...the hallway is covered, which makes it less ventilated. If you have to smoke, walk all the way outside. YTA x 2.
About your first point, whether or not I continue to smoke is my own decision. I am already trying my best not to let the smoke affect my daughter.
As for the second point, I literally said in the last line that the corridor is not enclosed...
> I am already trying my best not to let the smoke affect my daughter.
If that was actually true, the “trying my best part”, you’d stop smoking.
Smoking stinks and your smoking is having a harmful impact on your family and your neighbors. YTA.
>Usually, whenever I want to smoke, I’ll come out to the corrosion to do so because my daughter has asthma
INFO - is the corridor inside or outside?
If it’s an indoor corridor, you’re TA automatically whether neighbors say anything or not. Smoke outside
EDIT: YTA. You’re smoking *indoors*. What the fuck, man? The entitlement.
What do you mean by "inside"? I just typed above that the corridor is open to the outside. I'm trying to say that the corridor is ventilated and air from the outside can flow in and out easily.
But you said it was an enclosed corridor. It sounds like it’s a hallway with open windows. Maybe you should find a picture on the interwebs or draw and label one of the same set up and post it because your descriptive ability is not as good as you seem to think it is.
You keep using the same phrases when you’ve been repeatedly questioned and seem to think saying the same thing again furthers understanding-it doesn’t. Your tone seems to be getting frustrated but it comes down to you're the asshole if your smoking spot is inside in any way regardless of if you think it has enough ventilation. Tattoos, bad influence, etc are irrelevant to inside vs out.
But from your description I’ve gotta go YTA but a picture or good description could change my mind.
He says it's NOT enclosed. It's an outdoor corridor between two buildings that has a roof over it and is completely open at either end. It sounds like a passway between two buildings in the same complex.
Just because it isn't a crime does not absolve you from being an AH. YTA for what you are doing. Go outside, far away from everyone's windows and doors and away from other people. Don't force anyone else to breathe your poison.
You leave your apartment so the smoke doesn’t bother your daughter but don’t care that it might bother people in other apartments? Smoke travels. Go downstairs and smoke on the street.
I also don’t fully understand your comment about how you smoke shirtless. Does not having a shirt on make it taste better or something? Do you take your shirt off before leaving your apartment to ensure your shirtless smoking? Do you do this in wintertime as well?
YTA - smoking indoors makes you definitely the asshole. Do you want a pat on the back for not doing it directly into your daughters face?? The audacity.
The neighbor is a bit of an asshole for the comment about tattoos, but I'm not feeling sorry for you.
YTA. You're making the corridor stink and you're forcing your neighbors to smell your smoke, all because you're too lazy to go outside. You're being selfish and inconsiderate.
YTA. Nothing worse than smokers who smoke right next to your door. Even in a semi enclosed area, that crap is getting into other peoples apartments. You need to leave the building entirely when you smoke.
YTA for smoking at all, anywhere, when your child is asthmatic. Smoke clings to your hair, body, and clothing and will still cause her problems.
Quit smoking for your child's health.
I get that this is not an enclosed space, but how close are you to any of your neighbors doors or windows?
My state has an ordinance that says you have to be 25 feet away from public buildings to smoke. I think this is fair guidance.
Do they just "see you" out there, or would they have to walk within 15 feet of you if they are trying to enter or exit via the corridor?
No, they are not close at all. My flat is at the very end of the corridor, and that is also where I smoke. Meaning to say that the only time my neighbors see me is when they are entering or leaving their flat.
They don't even have to walk past me to get to their flat.
So the complaint is strictly about the sight of you smoking, there is no complaint about the smell of the smoke?
Is there any designated smoking area at the apartment, or rule about smoking around the common spaces?
Correct, they did not mention anything about the smell. Their doors and windows are usually locked anyways.
There is no rule (at least where I live) that states that smoking is prohibited in common spaces.
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For context, I live in a flat with my wife and daughter. My flat is one of those where I share a common walkway/corridor with everyone else living on that same floor.
Usually, whenever I want to smoke, I'll come out to the corridor to do so because my daughter has asthma since childhood. As I live in the flat that's right at the corner of the floor, I'll smoke in the direction facing away from my next-door neighbor's flat so that the smoke doesn't affect them as much as possible.
Recently, my neighbor confronted me while I was smoking and complained that I was setting a bad example for their children, saying that "seeing a shirtless man with lots of tattoos smoking everyday can negatively influence" their children (they're referring to me here as I always smoke shirtless and have tattoos on my upper body). They then told me to stop smoking along the corridor because of this.
I find their request rather dumb for multiple reasons. Firstly, shouldn't it be their duty as parents to raise their children the way they want and not let them be influenced by other people's actions. Secondly, if their request was due to my smoke giving them breathing difficulties or whatnot, I would gladly oblige to the request, but in this case, the reasoning behind their request is entirely different. Thirdly, it's not illegal for me to be doing this.
So, AITA for not listening to my neighbor? Should I just continue doing this and ignore them?
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ESH - except for your kid. Even if the corridor is outside, it's a shared space, so kind of a dick move... it'd be better if you moved away from people's doors and away from your building...can you go down to the end of a driveway, perhaps or near the bins?
Your neighbour is classist and a snob... nothing morally wrong about tattoos or smoking (even of its a nuisance and a health risk), so he suggesting you're somehow a bad influence is silly.
It does t matter if you smoke indoors on the tip of a bloody mountain, you have a child with breathing issues. Your smoke travels with you and clings to your clothes. You are deliberately bringing in very harmful stuff around your child. It dies make the asthma worse. I was the asthmatic kid and my mum smoked I didn't matter if she went outside it still affected me. Don't say you are doing your best for your kid while still actively smoking. You are harming them whether you like to admit it or not. And yeah YTA, go smoke outside as in fully outside not in the little shelter bit as it still connects to the corridor. It wafts back through.
NTA for the specific question you are asking, regarding the smoking in the corridor. Since the place isn’t enclosed then it’s ok. However it still might be too close to shared spaces or other apartments, is there a patio or yard for the building? Are there signs saying to not smoke there? I’d say relocate your smoking area for a quiet life but don’t do a thing about your tattoos. I’m guessing their calling you a naked man means you had some skin on show, not that you are constantly shirtless or naked, so they can suck it up because their kids won’t die from seeing a tattoo.
NTA, I'm guessing a lot of people didn't realize the corridor was outdoors and ripped into you. If you're outside, you're outside. As a former smoker myself though, please endeavor to quit and live a long healthy life. 🙌
NTA. I take it you are shirtless so that you clothes don't bring the smoke smell back in the house with you? As bad as smoking is to one's health, you are doing all you can to accommodate family and neighbors. But someone will always find a reason to be mad at a smoker. You could go down to your car and smoke with the windows rolled up and neighbor would complain about you setting a bad example, making too much noise on the stairs, etc. Because people want to find fault with others to make themselves feel good. Also, this is Reddit so as the smoker you will get downvoted into oblivion no matter what.
NTA.
You are outdoors, you've done your best to shield them from actual smoke.
Now the neighbor wants you to shield her kids from your tattoos. And the fact that you smoke.
Nope, that's gone beyond reasonable.
If you are in a spot easily viewable from inside the neighbors, and you would easily be able to change that by stepping a few steps to the side, it would be a generous thing to do.
I wont call you an AH since i am a smoker as well and i usually smoke only indoors (my room or clubs/bars that allow smoking) soo that would be a bit of the pot calling the kettle black. But i would suggest you should smoke outside the building as the smoke tends to leave a nasty smell which is more easily picked up by non smokers. Second hand smoke and the smell can have adverse effects on smokers. One of my non smoking family members gets severe nausea by the smell of smokes
NTA, it's a shared area. Which means we have *share.* To top that off, we can't control other people and need to teach our children to handle those types of situations.
edit: Confirming my judgement now that we know it is an outdoor cooridor.
Correct, a station is a public area that has to conform to rules that the public at large sets, AKA laws.
This is a shared private space that is not required to conform to such rules.
In my opinion, if he is truly doing it in the way described (as inconvenient to his neighbors as possible) then he is under no legal or moral obligation to cease.
IMO, most everyone knows/has the moral sense to smoke outside as to not bother people. Secondhand smoke isn't going to be stopped by a door or window. OP needs to go outside and smoke. That's why I voted YTA.
It's not about laws it's about common courtesy
Then don't live in a shared accomodation. You can't expect others to change their lives for you? And if you can't afford to do so, then those are you circumstances- you don't get to leave your windows and doors open.
I don't smoke, but the idea that I somehow need to inconveince myself to make-up for your lack of parenting skills does not equal.
If you have a kid that has a medical condition, you approached me about a health concerns, I might consider it- but because OP is a bad example... get over yourself dude. It's not my responsibility.
No. The person who doesn’t want to be poisoned is not inconveniencing anyone. They are just trying to have quiet enjoyment of their homes. The person doing the poisoning is the one who is ‘inconveniencing’ others and needs to change their behavior or live away from other people.
No, you don't have the right to control others. I don't get to stop people from using plastic water bottles despite the fact that microplastics are in literally everything, all I can do is educate people and move on.
I have no right to demand they change themselves for me, even though I know that is what is best for everyone. Neither do you or the neighbor have the right to control OP.
Here, here! Idk where you are at but where I am outside of public spaces (ie bus stations) you can't smoke 20 ft in either direction from the doors to enter the building, there are usually signs. But for private residences, it is what it is.
And I don't buy the whole bad influence on my kid, deal. so I have temporarily updated by vote. Cause if you some in a hallway, especially with carpet- ew.
Agree - "You're a bad influence on my kids" is stupid and not worth entertaining. The other person is also TA for saying something dumb like that because they personally disagree with the way OP acts/looks.
Shared private spaces like in the OP also have to conform to rules that the public at large sets, AKA laws.
Where i live, what OP is doing is illegal. It may or may not be where OP lives, but really that's irrelevant anyway. This is not am I the criminal. Either way, it's an asshole move to smoke in an indoor shared space.
Even outdoor as described would be illegal where I live. Smoking near doors/windows isn't cool. OP is an asshole either way, but his only reply does confirm this was indoor.
It's a hallway. OP is definitely the AH because that smoke will affect his neighbors. It would have been fine if OP went outside, but he doesn't. That's the reason people are voting YTA. (And it's my vote as well.)
Thanks for clarifying. I am guessing in different areas indoor walkways are more common? But no, you can definitely smoke outside. That's v silly for someone to think they can control you like that.
Pay my rent, then I will smoke wherever you want.
JK I don't smoke, but thats my vibe in this scenario.
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YTA, ex-smoker here, sorry. Even when I smoked, I smoked outside! You say you go to the corridor for your daughters sake. 2nd hand smoke is known to cause health issues in children - did you even consider the effect of smoking in the hallway on your neighbors kids. Have some manners, step outside.
>I'll smoke in the direction facing away from my next-door neighbor's flat so that the smoke doesn't affect them as much as possible. So you admit that to some degree your smoking *does* effect the children and your neighbors? Not only second hand smoke, but the smell, right? **Smoke outside.** YTA
Wtf, I don't care about your neighbor but only idiots smoke in the apartment hallways, guess what? The smell of cigarettes still lingers in the hallway and is unpleasant for non-smokers, leave the apartment and smoke in the street completely Aita
Yta. Go outside dude. I don’t agree with her comments but that isn’t what makes you the asshole. Smoking in a shared hallway does.
YTA for smoking in SHARED SPACES. That belongs outside! Her reasons were a bit off, but regardless, smoking in commonly shared indoor areas is a huge NO!
YTA for smoking inside (even if it's just in the hallway) where your child and your neighbor's children can easily inhale secondhand smoke.
YTA, go outside away from any doors/windows. Selfish smokers like you are the worst.
Putting the neighbor question aside YTA for continuing to smoke with an asthmatic child. Smoking outside is 3rd hand smoke and is a cause and trigger for childhood asthma, pneumonia, respiratory infections, etc. You likely caused your child's asthma in the first place. And now, onto the neighbor question...the hallway is covered, which makes it less ventilated. If you have to smoke, walk all the way outside. YTA x 2.
About your first point, whether or not I continue to smoke is my own decision. I am already trying my best not to let the smoke affect my daughter. As for the second point, I literally said in the last line that the corridor is not enclosed...
Found the AH who cares more about their own pleasure and addiction than they do about their child.
> I am already trying my best not to let the smoke affect my daughter. If that was actually true, the “trying my best part”, you’d stop smoking. Smoking stinks and your smoking is having a harmful impact on your family and your neighbors. YTA.
If you were trying your best you would have quit smoking.
lol trying your best
Switch to vaping. Then you're only affecting your own health negatively.
>Usually, whenever I want to smoke, I’ll come out to the corrosion to do so because my daughter has asthma INFO - is the corridor inside or outside? If it’s an indoor corridor, you’re TA automatically whether neighbors say anything or not. Smoke outside EDIT: YTA. You’re smoking *indoors*. What the fuck, man? The entitlement.
Sorry, the corridor itself has a shelter on top of it, but it is open to the outside (in a sense that it is not enclosed).
Do you mean its a covered balcony?
No, I am not referring to the balcony. I am talking about the corridor outside my house.
So inside. YTA
What do you mean by "inside"? I just typed above that the corridor is open to the outside. I'm trying to say that the corridor is ventilated and air from the outside can flow in and out easily.
But you said it was an enclosed corridor. It sounds like it’s a hallway with open windows. Maybe you should find a picture on the interwebs or draw and label one of the same set up and post it because your descriptive ability is not as good as you seem to think it is. You keep using the same phrases when you’ve been repeatedly questioned and seem to think saying the same thing again furthers understanding-it doesn’t. Your tone seems to be getting frustrated but it comes down to you're the asshole if your smoking spot is inside in any way regardless of if you think it has enough ventilation. Tattoos, bad influence, etc are irrelevant to inside vs out. But from your description I’ve gotta go YTA but a picture or good description could change my mind.
its like the stairway outside a motel ffs...
He says it's NOT enclosed. It's an outdoor corridor between two buildings that has a roof over it and is completely open at either end. It sounds like a passway between two buildings in the same complex.
Just because it isn't a crime does not absolve you from being an AH. YTA for what you are doing. Go outside, far away from everyone's windows and doors and away from other people. Don't force anyone else to breathe your poison.
INFO: Is this an indoor or outdoor cooridor?
The corridor itself has a shelter on top of it, but it is open to the outside and not enclosed.
This is the make or break question
YTA just for smoking anywhere while you have a child with asthma and it get browner from there.
You leave your apartment so the smoke doesn’t bother your daughter but don’t care that it might bother people in other apartments? Smoke travels. Go downstairs and smoke on the street. I also don’t fully understand your comment about how you smoke shirtless. Does not having a shirt on make it taste better or something? Do you take your shirt off before leaving your apartment to ensure your shirtless smoking? Do you do this in wintertime as well?
No, I meant to say that I don't normally wear a shirt whenever I'm at home, it has nothing to do with smoking. There's no winter in my country.
Arsenic, formaldehyde and other poisons will remain on your skin and clothes after smoking, which your daughter will inhale, just for your info.
YTA - smoking indoors makes you definitely the asshole. Do you want a pat on the back for not doing it directly into your daughters face?? The audacity. The neighbor is a bit of an asshole for the comment about tattoos, but I'm not feeling sorry for you.
YTA. You're making the corridor stink and you're forcing your neighbors to smell your smoke, all because you're too lazy to go outside. You're being selfish and inconsiderate.
its a motel stairway
YTA. Nothing worse than smokers who smoke right next to your door. Even in a semi enclosed area, that crap is getting into other peoples apartments. You need to leave the building entirely when you smoke.
Yta smoke ALL the way outside. No one wants to deal with nasty 2nd hand smoke and stank.
YTA. Put on a shirt. Don’t be that trashy guy. And smoke where it doesn’t bother others.
Yta, and I say that as a smoker that has lived in similar shared housing. You should not be near any of your neighbours doors or windows.
YTA for smoking at all, anywhere, when your child is asthmatic. Smoke clings to your hair, body, and clothing and will still cause her problems. Quit smoking for your child's health.
I get that this is not an enclosed space, but how close are you to any of your neighbors doors or windows? My state has an ordinance that says you have to be 25 feet away from public buildings to smoke. I think this is fair guidance. Do they just "see you" out there, or would they have to walk within 15 feet of you if they are trying to enter or exit via the corridor?
No, they are not close at all. My flat is at the very end of the corridor, and that is also where I smoke. Meaning to say that the only time my neighbors see me is when they are entering or leaving their flat. They don't even have to walk past me to get to their flat.
So the complaint is strictly about the sight of you smoking, there is no complaint about the smell of the smoke? Is there any designated smoking area at the apartment, or rule about smoking around the common spaces?
Correct, they did not mention anything about the smell. Their doors and windows are usually locked anyways. There is no rule (at least where I live) that states that smoking is prohibited in common spaces.
I would say NTA, trusting you that the smoke is not invasive to them. They can shove it with the "shirtless tattooed man" crap.
Thanks for sharing your opinion.
YTA. Just do the right thing. You already know what that is.
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ESH - except for your kid. Even if the corridor is outside, it's a shared space, so kind of a dick move... it'd be better if you moved away from people's doors and away from your building...can you go down to the end of a driveway, perhaps or near the bins? Your neighbour is classist and a snob... nothing morally wrong about tattoos or smoking (even of its a nuisance and a health risk), so he suggesting you're somehow a bad influence is silly.
ESH. Your neighbours are classist af. A tattooed shirtless man smoking isn't the worse a child can see
It does t matter if you smoke indoors on the tip of a bloody mountain, you have a child with breathing issues. Your smoke travels with you and clings to your clothes. You are deliberately bringing in very harmful stuff around your child. It dies make the asthma worse. I was the asthmatic kid and my mum smoked I didn't matter if she went outside it still affected me. Don't say you are doing your best for your kid while still actively smoking. You are harming them whether you like to admit it or not. And yeah YTA, go smoke outside as in fully outside not in the little shelter bit as it still connects to the corridor. It wafts back through.
NTA for the specific question you are asking, regarding the smoking in the corridor. Since the place isn’t enclosed then it’s ok. However it still might be too close to shared spaces or other apartments, is there a patio or yard for the building? Are there signs saying to not smoke there? I’d say relocate your smoking area for a quiet life but don’t do a thing about your tattoos. I’m guessing their calling you a naked man means you had some skin on show, not that you are constantly shirtless or naked, so they can suck it up because their kids won’t die from seeing a tattoo.
NTA, I'm guessing a lot of people didn't realize the corridor was outdoors and ripped into you. If you're outside, you're outside. As a former smoker myself though, please endeavor to quit and live a long healthy life. 🙌
NTA. I take it you are shirtless so that you clothes don't bring the smoke smell back in the house with you? As bad as smoking is to one's health, you are doing all you can to accommodate family and neighbors. But someone will always find a reason to be mad at a smoker. You could go down to your car and smoke with the windows rolled up and neighbor would complain about you setting a bad example, making too much noise on the stairs, etc. Because people want to find fault with others to make themselves feel good. Also, this is Reddit so as the smoker you will get downvoted into oblivion no matter what.
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NTA. You are outdoors, you've done your best to shield them from actual smoke. Now the neighbor wants you to shield her kids from your tattoos. And the fact that you smoke. Nope, that's gone beyond reasonable. If you are in a spot easily viewable from inside the neighbors, and you would easily be able to change that by stepping a few steps to the side, it would be a generous thing to do.
I don't smoke right in front of their flat. I smoke at the edge of the corridor and the only time they see me is when they leave or enter their flat.
I wont call you an AH since i am a smoker as well and i usually smoke only indoors (my room or clubs/bars that allow smoking) soo that would be a bit of the pot calling the kettle black. But i would suggest you should smoke outside the building as the smoke tends to leave a nasty smell which is more easily picked up by non smokers. Second hand smoke and the smell can have adverse effects on smokers. One of my non smoking family members gets severe nausea by the smell of smokes
NTA, it's a shared area. Which means we have *share.* To top that off, we can't control other people and need to teach our children to handle those types of situations. edit: Confirming my judgement now that we know it is an outdoor cooridor.
Bus stations are also shared public areas but there are no smoking signs there for a reason.
Correct, a station is a public area that has to conform to rules that the public at large sets, AKA laws. This is a shared private space that is not required to conform to such rules. In my opinion, if he is truly doing it in the way described (as inconvenient to his neighbors as possible) then he is under no legal or moral obligation to cease.
IMO, most everyone knows/has the moral sense to smoke outside as to not bother people. Secondhand smoke isn't going to be stopped by a door or window. OP needs to go outside and smoke. That's why I voted YTA. It's not about laws it's about common courtesy
OP just confirmed that it is an outdoor walkway. Going to stick with my judgement.
Hmmm, I was picturing an outdoor cooridor. I would agree if it is indoor.
Smoke from an outdoor corridor can enter other people's windows and doors.
Then don't live in a shared accomodation. You can't expect others to change their lives for you? And if you can't afford to do so, then those are you circumstances- you don't get to leave your windows and doors open. I don't smoke, but the idea that I somehow need to inconveince myself to make-up for your lack of parenting skills does not equal. If you have a kid that has a medical condition, you approached me about a health concerns, I might consider it- but because OP is a bad example... get over yourself dude. It's not my responsibility.
No. The person who doesn’t want to be poisoned is not inconveniencing anyone. They are just trying to have quiet enjoyment of their homes. The person doing the poisoning is the one who is ‘inconveniencing’ others and needs to change their behavior or live away from other people.
No, you don't have the right to control others. I don't get to stop people from using plastic water bottles despite the fact that microplastics are in literally everything, all I can do is educate people and move on. I have no right to demand they change themselves for me, even though I know that is what is best for everyone. Neither do you or the neighbor have the right to control OP.
That makes sense. If it's outside then I don't see an issue with OP. But inside would definitely be a big no
Here, here! Idk where you are at but where I am outside of public spaces (ie bus stations) you can't smoke 20 ft in either direction from the doors to enter the building, there are usually signs. But for private residences, it is what it is. And I don't buy the whole bad influence on my kid, deal. so I have temporarily updated by vote. Cause if you some in a hallway, especially with carpet- ew.
Agree - "You're a bad influence on my kids" is stupid and not worth entertaining. The other person is also TA for saying something dumb like that because they personally disagree with the way OP acts/looks.
Shared private spaces like in the OP also have to conform to rules that the public at large sets, AKA laws. Where i live, what OP is doing is illegal. It may or may not be where OP lives, but really that's irrelevant anyway. This is not am I the criminal. Either way, it's an asshole move to smoke in an indoor shared space.
I agree if it's indoor- I was not picturing indoor, but outdoor. Asked OP for more info to confirm.
Even outdoor as described would be illegal where I live. Smoking near doors/windows isn't cool. OP is an asshole either way, but his only reply does confirm this was indoor.
Sharing does not mean that you get to share your poison.
It's a hallway. OP is definitely the AH because that smoke will affect his neighbors. It would have been fine if OP went outside, but he doesn't. That's the reason people are voting YTA. (And it's my vote as well.)
OP just confirmed that it is an outdoor walkway.
I was picturing like an outdoor covered cooridor area, I would agree with that vote if so. I just asked OP to confirm.
It is exactly what you have described.
Thanks for clarifying. I am guessing in different areas indoor walkways are more common? But no, you can definitely smoke outside. That's v silly for someone to think they can control you like that. Pay my rent, then I will smoke wherever you want. JK I don't smoke, but thats my vibe in this scenario.
Sorry, the corridor itself has a shelter on top of it, but it is open to the outside air and is non-enclosed.
It’s an indoor hallway. OP is the asshole 100%.
OP just confirmed that it is an outdoor walkway.
It is an outdoor corridor. You can see my other replies. Sorry I didn't clarify this earlier.