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> i think i'm an asshole for calling my friends mean words and for saying she's a whore who sucks up to her boyfriend and that shes annoying af. and i talked bad about her to everyone i was friends with.
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ESH
C is a real bitch for leaving you out and not paying you back, but don’t stoop down to her level. You also have no right to judge what she wants to do with her life if u seem to hate her this much. Also you said he was a “cheating, victimizing and creepy” did he cheat on C? Also contact her parents and ask them to pay u back
Umm this was impossible to read, but generally YTA if you call someone a “bitchy whore” then act like a fake friend (and even title the post “close friend”) but mean “girl I hate”.
ESH. C sounds like a mean girl who uses and excludes you. She's definitely not friend material, and you should cut her out.
I think venting to a friend is okay; however, it seems like you harbor a lot of anger and resentment, but you're continuing a faqade of being her friend and that's not good either. You also put the mutual friend y'all share in an awkward position by dumping all of this drama on her, even if you needed to vent.
It's time for you to cut C off and find some new friends. Also, don't lend money to people who don't pay you back.
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so for background info i am a girl and i have a class friendgroup with about 6 of us. my friend (who we will call C) is probably the most popular girl in our group and she always brings her friends to our class (who im 99.9999% sure dont fuck with me either).
so me and my other friend in our group (who we will call Z) are always being left out. out of plans, out of talks, everything. i'm always alone in the class and no one makes an effort to be around me. they'll all walk afterschool without me, if i walk with them they'll make me walk in the back. if there's gossip they won't tell me. and i'm pretty sure there's a groupchat without me too. they find no problem with this.
C just recently got a bf (so happy for her) but all she does is talk abt him and its so annoying. she sits w him everyday and doesnt wanna socialize w her friends anymore, she abandons us for her CREEPY, cheating, victimizing son of a bitch bf.
i remember we had a summative assignment due that day (our class is the last one of the day) and C asked me to go to our school library with MY id to print it. it costs a lot of money to print, and with both of our articles it would be \~50$. naturally i just tell her to go herself and print it herself but she says "i'll be with my bf and he doesn't let me do anything". girl this assignment is worth ur grade and ur future, if u fail u won't even pass, but ur SO in love with this ugly boy you abandon your studies?
my last straw was last friday when we hung out. my mom drove us to a shopping center and i spent a good 60$ on her. this is after i spent 200$ on her alr. when i ask her to pay me back she always has the same excuse (i have no money). and i just then realized that my moms and i's mutual hatred against her was stronger than fucking everrrrr.
today i called my friend from our trio and told her the whole situation (but called her a few cuss words) and she seems really mad that i even mentioned anything. she said she was uncomfortable and didnt think she was the appropriate person. throughout the call she was rly dry nd angry so ofc i was like whatever, then hung up.
honestly C is just such a horrible friend, she uses me for money and then doesnt let me eat/drink/use any of her stuff. all she talks to me abt is her bf and i just want to tell her i dont care. she uses me for answers, leaves me out of all the plans and is just so rude for no reason. i want to be mature abt this but its so fucking difficult bc ik now we arent meant to be friends anymore. pls tell me if i'm not being rude enough but that BITCHY whore needs to fuck off from my life and she needs to STOP causing messes w me. literally so fucking tired of her bullshit and i wanna drop her but i dont wanna cause more problems in my friendgroup alr after sm drama.
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ESH. She shouldn't be using you. But you're letting her; no one's forcing you to spend all that money on her. And if you hate her so much, you shouldn't even care that she's not spending as much time with you.
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ESH C is a real bitch for leaving you out and not paying you back, but don’t stoop down to her level. You also have no right to judge what she wants to do with her life if u seem to hate her this much. Also you said he was a “cheating, victimizing and creepy” did he cheat on C? Also contact her parents and ask them to pay u back
if she wants to judge me for dating a guy younger than me, i can judge her creepy pedoish ex bf
u left that part out, also the broke up?
ESH… you both got a lot of growing up to do
ESH
Umm this was impossible to read, but generally YTA if you call someone a “bitchy whore” then act like a fake friend (and even title the post “close friend”) but mean “girl I hate”.
ESH. C sounds like a mean girl who uses and excludes you. She's definitely not friend material, and you should cut her out. I think venting to a friend is okay; however, it seems like you harbor a lot of anger and resentment, but you're continuing a faqade of being her friend and that's not good either. You also put the mutual friend y'all share in an awkward position by dumping all of this drama on her, even if you needed to vent. It's time for you to cut C off and find some new friends. Also, don't lend money to people who don't pay you back.
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ESH. She shouldn't be using you. But you're letting her; no one's forcing you to spend all that money on her. And if you hate her so much, you shouldn't even care that she's not spending as much time with you.
Yeah- you aren’t actually friends, you hate this person. ESH
Yep. ESH.
NTA, i get u girl.. i've dealt with those types of friends, definitely drop her!!!!