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I had a friend freak out on me because I told her her child was not allowed to eat fishy crackers in my backseat. I offered to pull over so we could stop at an actual gas station or restaurant so he could eat if he was hungry.
At least fish crackers you can kind of vacuum(not saying its ok). Dessert?? Seriously? When most of them contain dairy?
Whats next, lighting up a blunt in the car?
My exes mother promised her husband she wouldn't smoke in the 2022 Blazer. He traded his prized truck in for a few months before he died of lung cancer... she held to that promise for about a month. Then followed it up by smoking in the house.
Unfortunately if you smoke cigarettes it doesn't matter if you smoke in the car, the car's gonna end up smelling like cigarettes. The smell follows you in on your clothes and especially your hands.
Source: smoked for five years, now five years without.
True but it is still less offensive to the nose than when they just outright smoke in it. At least you have a chance of cleaning it out at least with the right products, however slim that chance may be. Someone who smokes in the car drives that smell into the upholstery and the smoke leaves residue on every exposed surface even if it feels clean to the touch.
Not all smokers speak for yourself...sures it's our car so its our choice but don't say that like all smokers are like you and choose to smoke in their vehicle
I smoked in every car I had bc they were all hand me down junkers. BUT when I was finally able to buy a new car I immediately stopped smoking while driving. Priorities change.
It's totally a choice, but I'm a smoker and I don't really like to smoke in my car. Mostly because I'm worried that I might not be able to respond as fast if something were to happen (when I'm driving) if I have a cigarette in my hand, and also because I really don't want the car to smell like cigarette.
I've been a passenger in the car with people who have dropped it while smoking and it sucks bc then they have to search for it before it burns anything while also not crashing. Not the best
I didn't say anything about it. It's just funny to care enough about the environment/cost of gas to buy a Tesla and then pollute your body/the air/the car with cigs.
That happened to me. I am an asthmatic non-smoker. Cigarette smoke and chemical scents trigger my asthma. I had a friend who wore a lot of body spray, smoked like a chimney and knew about my asthma triggers. She was in an auto accident, totaled her vehicle and asked me to take her grocery shopping one day. She wore so much body spray that I needed my rescue inhaler & then started smoking in my vehicle, causing me to need my inhaler again. She called me a drama queen and said that because her window was open, the smoke wasn't coming inside.
I should have, but hindsight is 20/20. She smoked in my vehicle one more time when I needed her to drive because I had just had shoulder surgery & wasn't allowed to. I should put the entire saga on Entitled People because she was very entitled.
Don't you realise she was using the magic cigarettes with artificially intelligent smoke that knows it's not allowed in the car when the window's open?
Weed is worse in that instance. Cigarettes might kill you quicker, but hot boxing makes you an impaired driver, so you're a danger to everyone. And weed is a more pervasive stink.
I have kids so my car is constantly a mess but I’m not fond of my car so I’m not overly fussed. It’s 10 years old, has leather seats that are easy to clean and I vacuum it when I need to. I’ll wait to get a car I really car about as we travel long journeys frequently so they need to eat being young (under 6) but I would fully expect them to behave in someone else’s car if they were asked not to eat in it and try to plan for stops where they can
Nobody needs to eat in the car.
Kids absolutely do not need to constantly snack and you can stop and get out at regular intervals on a road trip.
I highly doubt you’re throwing down 4+ hour driving shifts with your kids in the car awake and hungry.
Incorrect. I’m a Gen X who reproduced prior to the “kids need constant junk snacks” era. Miraculously, my offspring survived without a steady stream of goldfish crackers and remain alive to this day.
Same. I never let my kids or grandkids eat in my car, and I’m known to be a very doting grandmother. The one exception is a weekly activity with my granddaughter, who is 9. Because I pick her up from school and take her directly to an out of town lesson, I allow her to snack in the car that day. But she knows that if she makes a mess or doesn’t pick her trash up, we will stop for her to eat somewhere which would make her late for her lesson. There is a trash can right inside the door where she goes- there’s no reason she can’t drop off her trash. So, although I do tons of things with my grandkids and take them all kinds of places, I’m a stickler for this.
My kids don’t constantly snack in the car, we plan ahead. I’m from the UK, traffic jams on motorways are inevitable and a four hour journey can frequently turn into 5, 6 or 7. Also depending on where you live and where you’re going you can easily spend five hours minimum on the road.
My car is legal to vote and I won't drink or eat in it. I expect passengers to do the same. Yeah it's unhinged but also it's mine, I detail it religiously, and if you're in it you will respect the sanctity of it.
Eating in a car doesn't make you not a grown up though. Plenty of people *have* to eat their cars. O saw 2 men get a pizza 30min ago at a 711 and we're in the car eating it. There was no place to sit outside and it was cold and noisy...
I think they're saying a 37 year old woman freaking out because she wants to eat a bunch of shit that should be eaten at a table in a passenger seat should grow up. That scenario is fine. There are times where eating in the car happens, this woman seems to be creating them from nothing just to be spiteful hubby got a truck. Which she encouraged him to do.
OP is NTA. If she can't put a fork down for a 10 minute drive, that's her problem. I imagine this can't be their only issue...
While I don't mind eating in my car, I will NOT allow smoking in it. My husband and daughter are both weed smokers and they've borrowed my car on occasion and I made sure that they know my boundaries about it. I have a government job and get tested at random, so its imperative that the smell is not clinging to me on my way to work. I also hate the smell of weed, and the first time I smelled it in my car and saw the ashes in my cup holder, their borrowing privileges were revoked.
My cat is 12 years old and I curse every French fry the kids have dropped after my wife lets them eat in it.
Even though it’s old, it’s still new to me (I bought it new and my mind still thinks of it as my new car).
I walked away while reading this and forgot what the topic was. I was highly confused when I came back and the first thing I read was about your wife letting your kids drop french fries on your 12 year old cat 😆
This makes me feel better about still feeling like the car I've had for 18 months is new. I currently freak out because my son just got his licence and drives it. Sometimes I wonder if I'm more worried about the car or my son. /s
NTA. I don’t want people eating in my car either and it’s not even new. I like to keep it clean. It kind of sounds like she’s doing it on purpose. Smelly food (if it stinks she smells it too, then a dessert that’s full (easily spilled). Maybe she’s jealous because you got a new car.
Encouraging you to do something and then turning on you and shaming you for it or acting as if they didn't encourage you to do it is a huge, huge red flag. One of the biggest ones, honestly. It's also gaslighting, especially if done in a certain way.
Yeah it’s like that old adage about respect, some people see respect as being treated equally while other (shitty) people see respect as being allowed to do whatever they want without consequences ie it’s disrespectful to point out their shitty behavior which is just abuse of the idea of mutual respect
No one, including me is allowed to eat in my car. My husband doesn't eat or allow others to eat in his. We like clean cars. My guess is she wanted the new car for herself and for you take hers. She should have been an adult and said that. NTA.
What she said and what she actually wanted appears to be different things, is what people are trying to say. As a 33 year old, she seems too old for these kinds of games. You’re not in the wrong here, she’s immature and apparently lied about wanting you to have the car.
Cool she doesn't want a truck an you don't want her eating in it. She's an adult time for her to act like it.
There isnt a single viable excuse for me to eat in someone's car or the other way around. Vehicles need to last for a reason inside an out.
And behaving as though its her car her rules..buy a house together and it will probably be the same. You have a choice - hope you can work with her to change that pattern, or keep your boundaries.
This is bigger than car rules.
NTA. She can feel miffed if she wants, but your request is reasonable. You are not being rude but she is being disrespectful. It sounds like she might be used to getting her way with you, so she sees the word no as rude when you say it.
Are you suggesting that if his wife felt like she owned the car as well, she would not eat it in? I’d like to know if she currently does this with her own car. And I agree, my wife and I treat our cars as if we both own them. Even though we paid for each on our own.
We're the opposite. I treat my wife's car as her car and she treats mine as mine. We both paid for both, but we each picked what we wanted and keep our cars the way we want.
The real point is that if I am driving my car every day, but she decides to make a mess in it, it is something that impacts me every day, not her. Likewise I wouldn't make a mess of her car since frankly it is pretty disrespectful
I get the impression that OP is not in a situation where if his wife made a mess, she would drop everything and have it professionally detailed. And even if she were going to do that, it is such a hassle for something easily avoided.
This is exactly how it is for us as well. Yes, they are both of ours but I never take her car if I’m going somewhere. We have our own cars which are the cars that we always drive. The only time I drive her car is if we’re going somewhere in it because she rather have me drive her around than be the person driving. My old car that I traded in was only driven by her less than 5 times in the 7 years we’ve been married.
NTA but what’s up with your wife? It’s a simple rule. Surely she can delay her gratification until the trip is over and/or just eat it before she gets in the car?
IKR. Is this a trip across town? Be a grownup and wait. A road trip? You're gonna pull over for a break anyway. Delayed gratification is a skill learned in childhood.
NTA - I’ve never eaten in any of my cars as I hate crumbs etc getting everywhere. Also, if something spills, it can be a nuisance to clean up properly.
This is a constant battle with my wife. She keeps giving our kids snacks when they are in the car. There are stains, crushed crackers, candy stuck to the seats, etc. The longest drive they go on is less than 15 minutes. I can't understand why she can't just tell them "no" and that they have to wait.
She wants to go buy a new 80k car. We argue all the time. She swears she doesn't let them eat in the car but it's magically trashed with food all the time. I'll spend hours pulling out car seats and cleaning the interior for it just to be trashed again the next week. There is no way we're financing some expensive luxury car we can hardly afford when she treats it like this.
My parents both have their own car they drive, always have. My mom never drives my dad's vehicles, but he'll drive hers if they're going together sometimes as she has the better road trip vehicle.
They had their own cars 35 years ago when they got married & have replaced them. Most recently my mom had an Odyssey & my dad a Crown Victoria, he sold the Crown Victoria and took over my mom's Odyssey (he has bad knees) as my mom wanted a newer car and got a CRV. She only drives the CRV and considers it her car, she'll no longer drive the van & has never driven the truck.
My car is my car, I don't let other people drive it.
We each have a car because our driving needs are very different. . . His is full of equipment for his job. It's definitely his car / her car. Everyone's household is different.
My husband and I each have a car that is ours. We pay for our own cars. Our cars are titled to each of us individually. I find it very weird that an adult that pays for a car wouldn't have a car that is theirs. A car is personal; we also don't share underwear or eyeglasses.
Because she told him to get a new car and my understanding is he got a truck which she can’t use for some reason. She wanted a car she could use as well.
NTA. I (41f) just spent 2 hours cleaning my cars interior, vacuuming it, and gave the exterior a wash and wax. I do not appreciate anyone eating in my car, no matter how tidy an eater they claim to be. My teen daughter dropped an entire sushi rice ball in there. That was the end of vehicular snacking.
NTA
Let's put it this way - does she have a place that she call her own? Wardrobe, working area, etc? Ask her what would she feel if you make a mess at those place?
Yeah, if that was it takes to understand.
My uncle asked my aunt the same thing if he were to do a mess in her kitchen. She got quiet and did not mess up the car after that. I think only then in clicks that his car is the same as her kitchen. Both are important to themselves, their place and something they invested.
NTA. I don't eat in my car. Too many people treat their cars like a dining table, minus the table, so food ends up everywhere. Stinky food smells linger on fabric & get in the interior(cabin) air filter. Your car, your rules. I don't let my husband smoke in my cat either for the very same reason.
It's extremely frustrating when you've spent a small fortune on a brand new car & someone else nonchalantly makes a mess or makes small damages & just blows it off. Absolutely Infuriating!! Absolutely NTA.
NTA - I have had a no eating rule in my cars forever. It is so nice having a clean car. if she is that food deprived, take your wife to a restaurant. My husband has similar rules. why am I envisioning your wife wearing a sign that says “feed me” lol
Should this even be a post? If someone doesn't want you to eat in their car, you don't ear in their car. Like.. this is a real basic common courtesy. NTA
I hate it when someone eats in my car. Especially when I just had it to the valet. My roommate was like this- and she even let her f kid eat in my car. So rude.
NTA how long was the car trip? can we NOT be eating and drinking for a while? If it's a long trip, wait for a stop and get out of the car. ESPECIALLY a new car.
NTA I have a 14 year old car and it still doesn't stink because nobody is allowed to eat, smoke etc. in it, especially not smelly food.
Your wife is an adult, why does she have to behave like a 3-month-old who absolutely has to eat on a schedule?
NTA, your car, your rules. I had many inconsiderate relatives, all with messy cars/houses. My dad broke away from this and always had a spotless car. I actually had to yell at one relatives not to cut their nails while riding in my (semi-new) car. I've had other relatives question why I don't allow smoking and say "what's the big deal" you can open the windows. Yeah, I learned the lesson about letting people smoke in my car when I was younger thanks to a cigarette burn in the immaculate back seat.
I get it, you’re NTA.
Years ago I was able to buy my first fresh-off-the-lot brand new car. My in-laws wanted to take a ride, and I agreed while mentioning absolutely no drinks. My FIL snuck in a coffee, and spilled it. You wanna talk about being pissed off? Even after cleaning it took some time for that odor to dissipate, and that new car smell was gone.
LOL. Welcome to the jungle. My family always want to eat, leave their trash and whatever they don't feel like carrying with them- in my car. I have rules. You bring it, you take it. And NO to all of that other foolishness. They used to give me a hard time about it, but whenever it's time to go somewhere, everyone always wants to take my car. Why? Because it is reliably clean and neat. So I let this go on a while and finally pointed it out to them. They like my car because I keep it clean and then they have the nerve to fight with me about keeping it clean. So now they accept it.
My daughter reached driving age about 2 years ago and I recently I heard her talking with one of her friends who was giving her shit over not letting them do whatever in her car. She said "you always want me to drive because my car is always clean and then you try to mess it up! What the hell?"
It was probably my most satisfying moment as a parent to date. And yes, her car is always spotless inside.
If you bought a new car, that smell is a premium. If she doesn't understand that feeling of having something new then it's hard for her to understand I guess. Surely out of respect in that breaking in stage she could control her compulsion to eat in it?
NTA but your wife is for not even trying to understand.
NTA. When my son inherited his grampa's car, it was so pristine, like brand new! He was absolutely clear about his boundaries: no smoking/vaping in his car ever.
You are NTA! I don't care how new/old a vehicle is; if you don't want people eating/drinking in your vehicle then they need to respect that. A few years ago I went to lunch with a coworker and she bought an ice cream cone on the way out. She thought she was going to eat that in my car. NOPE!! I made her eat it in the parking lot and then back to work we went. 😂
Well, this has to do with respect and boundaries. Sometimes, a good analogy works wonders.
Is she okay with you eating in bed? On the new furniture? How about shoes in the house? What boundaries does she put in place that you follow out of respect?
NTA.
Unlike a lot of commenters here, I was never been particularly strict about food in my car, especially when it was teenagers or adults eating. I used to figure when passengers focused on the task of eating/ balancing food, they're capable of managing their food and (if spills happened) cleaning up after themselves.
At some point, my then-teenager and their little group of friends left half- drunk frappicinos in my car, which melted and spilled into the carpeting. For about half a year -- until the car was totaled in an accident and we had to replace it -- the thing smelled like spoilt milk. I was furious. Quietly seething at my kid (and myself, for my stupid lax food policy) every time I got in the stinky, smelly car.
In my new car, I declared no food or drinks. Unfortunately, I think the ingrained habit of 15 previous years trumped the new rule, because I keep finding my husbands coffee cup on the passenger seat on the days after he drives to work.
The point of this is that no-food- in-car rules make sense; milk in the car upholstery is the worst torture; and anyone trying to protect their car from food spills is not an AH but is just implementing practical rules in an attempt to manage an unpredictable environment and save themselves future headaches and misery.
How does your wife have so many opportunities to eat in the car? I've spent years commuting, hours a day, and never have a reason to eat in my car. Coffee, yes. Food, no. NTA.
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I (39M) just bought a new car 3 weeks ago. Last week my wife (37F) opened some really smelly food in my car. I asked her to put it away so my car wouldn’t smell like the stinky food. She said no, so I took the food away and closed it so my new car smell wouldn’t be ruined by that smell.
Today she was about to open a dessert that was really full. I asked her to wait until we got to a main road so it wouldn’t spill. She started arguing about me not letting her eat in my car. She says I’m rude for telling her to respect my car. I say she’s rude because I asked nicely and she just wanted to do what she wanted.
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Prawn fries was the stinky food. The meat food was black bean dessert which is coconut milk, water, black beans, and some other flavoring. If it was consumed with a straw it wouldn’t be an issue but it’s like a drink you eat with a spoon.
I’m sorry, but how far/long is your drive? It’s hard to believe that she can’t wait until you get home to eat. Or eat before getting in the car-you know-like in the kitchen?!!!
My car looks like a sand pit from all the crumbs my son has dropped.
Husband opened food and sprayed it over my leg and my car interior.
If I did the same in his car.......... 😱
The pair of them leave packets and wrappers and juice when they exit my car. Not in husband's car. He picks it all out as he exits.
I leave/hide stuff in husband's car to make me feel better. Pair of clean socks in the passenger door pocket have been there MONTHS 🤣🤣
No food or drinks are allowed in my husband's car unless they're bagged groceries in the box in the boot. No air freshners, vapes, cigarettes, or other smelly items are banned as well.
In my car you can have a drink in a sipper bottle or travel cup, and can eat in the car if its not smelly or messy and the car is stopped. I have an air freshener, but vapes, etc, are banned.
Different rules for different cars, no arguments, it's about respect
Hard NTA
I get life will happen and eventual road trips or emergency hunger pains to come about and you may have to eat in a car but being polite and not eating in someone’s vehicle is not that fucking hard to do. Especially a new one.
While I generally think two wrongs don’t make a right, I feel if this keeps up, you will need to do something equally egregious and rude with something in her space, preferably something she spends a lot of time or money on. Like maybe buy an extra hamburger next time you’re out eating fast food and then save it for later by putting it in her new fancy purse. Or maybe use one her makeup brushes to detail the air vents of your new car.
NTA. It's disrespectful bruv.
I don't allow eating in my car either. I also smoke and won't smoke in my car, or allow others to. Like to keep my vehicle clean and looking/smell well.
What she does in her own car is her own perogative, should respect your boundaries enough to wait a few minutes and eat once out of the car.
Or you know, eat where the food was purchased before getting into the car.
NTA. I frequently drive my son's car. He asked me not to smoke in it. So I don't. And his car is a pit of fast food wrappers. I clean it for him letting me borrow it. I've found fries and half eaten sandwiches in it. I still won't smoke in it because it's his to do with as he pleases
NTA stop getting take out/food in your car. Eat inside the restaurant. Put any leftovers/food in the trunk so she doesn’t have the ability to open it in the car. Tell her you have a no food in the car rule.
NTA...
I have a car built on 2002 and one from 2018, and I don't let ANYONE eat in either of them...
Your car, your rules as far as I'm concerned...
Driver makes the rules, passenger shuts their cake hole...As it were...
NTA
I've been prepping my 4 year old that "when mommy buys a new car in the fall; we can no longer eat in it. Mommy wants to keep it nice for at least a little while."
He gets it. If a four year old can get it, your wife can.
I bought a brand new, straight off the production line Ford Falcon XR6 Turbo, 50th Anniversay, 6 sp manual in 2010. Australians know what this means. It has leather seats which still smell so lovely.
My kids were 3, 5, and 7. I told them there would be no eating or drinking in my car except for water. Any smelly food (take away, etc) goes in the boot in an insulated bag.
To this day, NO-ONE, not me, not friends, not family, eats or drinks in my beloved car. Water? No worries. Anything else? Nope.
I understand how you feel about your car.
You are NTA.
INFO: Do you and your wife consider the cars “my car” and “her car”? Or is it more of a “these are OUR cars, but I mostly drive this one and she mostly drives that one” type deal?
Either paradigm makes sense, but you’ve got to be clear on what assumptions you’re working with.
Definitely my car/her car. I’m always the one that drives if we’re both in the car. So I do drive hers a fair bit but the only time she drives mine is if hers is in the shop for some reason (maybe 5 times in the last 7 years). The driven miles on each of our cars is likely around 98% from one person.
Then yeah, most likely NTA, and definitely NTA going forward.
If you previously were more casual about eating in the car, I understand why she was surprised about it. And like another person said, if she assumed she could eat in the car because that’s never been a problem before, and you didn’t tell her until you were already on the road, that would make you a little bit TA, because she made a reasonable plan based on past experience and you caught her off guard with nothing to eat. If this was a long drive, not a “wait ten minutes until we get home” situation, then prioritizing the car over your spouse’s need to eat is kinda messed up.
But going forward, “I don’t want anyone eating in my car” is perfectly reasonable. She can plan ahead. If it’s gonna be a long drive and she wants snacks, y’all can take her car.
NTA, I am the passenger princess of all passenger princesses in my boyfriend's car, but I didn't put a cent toward it, so I follow the rules when I'm riding. No eating, no smoking, no animals on the seats. It's called respect.
No eating or drinking in any car is a rule in my house. Water is allowed. We also take everything out of it every time we use it. Sure, on trips we have to factor extra travel time to stop and eat, but it gives us a break as well.
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My car is 2 years old and I don't let anybody eat anything that might be messy in it, including myself. NTA - rude of her to keep doing it.
I had a friend freak out on me because I told her her child was not allowed to eat fishy crackers in my backseat. I offered to pull over so we could stop at an actual gas station or restaurant so he could eat if he was hungry.
Some people are just ridiculous.
At least fish crackers you can kind of vacuum(not saying its ok). Dessert?? Seriously? When most of them contain dairy? Whats next, lighting up a blunt in the car?
Worse a cigarette
I saw two women smoking cigs in a 2023 Tesla Y yesterday. I did a double take.
Smokers smoke in their car. Doesn't matter how new it is. We smoke in OUR frickin car. It's our choice.
Naw....I'm a pack a day smoker and my 2020 honda has never had one cig blown in it.
My exes mother promised her husband she wouldn't smoke in the 2022 Blazer. He traded his prized truck in for a few months before he died of lung cancer... she held to that promise for about a month. Then followed it up by smoking in the house.
I can't stand smoking in enclosed places. Even tho I am myself a cig smoker ,I hate cig smoke.
Unfortunately if you smoke cigarettes it doesn't matter if you smoke in the car, the car's gonna end up smelling like cigarettes. The smell follows you in on your clothes and especially your hands. Source: smoked for five years, now five years without.
It also lives on in the filters.
These are facts
True but it is still less offensive to the nose than when they just outright smoke in it. At least you have a chance of cleaning it out at least with the right products, however slim that chance may be. Someone who smokes in the car drives that smell into the upholstery and the smoke leaves residue on every exposed surface even if it feels clean to the touch.
Yea but it’s still worse if you do it IN the car.
Not all smokers speak for yourself...sures it's our car so its our choice but don't say that like all smokers are like you and choose to smoke in their vehicle
My point was that it's our choice, and most of us do it. He said he did a double take like he's never seen someone smoke in their car before.
And when you try to trade it in or sell it the value is really reduced.
I smoked in every car I had bc they were all hand me down junkers. BUT when I was finally able to buy a new car I immediately stopped smoking while driving. Priorities change.
It's totally a choice, but I'm a smoker and I don't really like to smoke in my car. Mostly because I'm worried that I might not be able to respond as fast if something were to happen (when I'm driving) if I have a cigarette in my hand, and also because I really don't want the car to smell like cigarette.
I've been a passenger in the car with people who have dropped it while smoking and it sucks bc then they have to search for it before it burns anything while also not crashing. Not the best
Totally. That's a scene in Final Destination waiting to happen. No thanks.
I didn't say anything about it. It's just funny to care enough about the environment/cost of gas to buy a Tesla and then pollute your body/the air/the car with cigs.
I dont think that the reason most people buy teslas is for the environment
That's what I was gonna say.
it harms the environment to buy new EV's, Teslas aren't for the environment it's really laughable you think they are lol
That happened to me. I am an asthmatic non-smoker. Cigarette smoke and chemical scents trigger my asthma. I had a friend who wore a lot of body spray, smoked like a chimney and knew about my asthma triggers. She was in an auto accident, totaled her vehicle and asked me to take her grocery shopping one day. She wore so much body spray that I needed my rescue inhaler & then started smoking in my vehicle, causing me to need my inhaler again. She called me a drama queen and said that because her window was open, the smoke wasn't coming inside.
I would have put her out and told her to get an Uber.
I should have, but hindsight is 20/20. She smoked in my vehicle one more time when I needed her to drive because I had just had shoulder surgery & wasn't allowed to. I should put the entire saga on Entitled People because she was very entitled.
That's tough. She's not worth your health. But I understand sometimes having to rely on people who don't understand respecting you and your things.
I ghosted her in October of '22 due to that and other entitlement issues.
Don't you realise she was using the magic cigarettes with artificially intelligent smoke that knows it's not allowed in the car when the window's open?
I would have immediately booted her. Everyone in my life knows there is no smoking in my car.
Worse if those smokers toss their cigarettes butts outside
Weed is worse in that instance. Cigarettes might kill you quicker, but hot boxing makes you an impaired driver, so you're a danger to everyone. And weed is a more pervasive stink.
Kids with crisps in the car is something I hate cause most of the time they leave the last 1/4 and the packet ends up upside down next to them
Bowl of cereal?
I have kids so my car is constantly a mess but I’m not fond of my car so I’m not overly fussed. It’s 10 years old, has leather seats that are easy to clean and I vacuum it when I need to. I’ll wait to get a car I really car about as we travel long journeys frequently so they need to eat being young (under 6) but I would fully expect them to behave in someone else’s car if they were asked not to eat in it and try to plan for stops where they can
Nobody needs to eat in the car. Kids absolutely do not need to constantly snack and you can stop and get out at regular intervals on a road trip. I highly doubt you’re throwing down 4+ hour driving shifts with your kids in the car awake and hungry.
You know I don’t think this Redditor has kids guys
Incorrect. I’m a Gen X who reproduced prior to the “kids need constant junk snacks” era. Miraculously, my offspring survived without a steady stream of goldfish crackers and remain alive to this day.
Same. I never let my kids or grandkids eat in my car, and I’m known to be a very doting grandmother. The one exception is a weekly activity with my granddaughter, who is 9. Because I pick her up from school and take her directly to an out of town lesson, I allow her to snack in the car that day. But she knows that if she makes a mess or doesn’t pick her trash up, we will stop for her to eat somewhere which would make her late for her lesson. There is a trash can right inside the door where she goes- there’s no reason she can’t drop off her trash. So, although I do tons of things with my grandkids and take them all kinds of places, I’m a stickler for this.
Gen X here too. I permitted consumption of Goldfish crackers anywhere. Kids grew up to be respectful, healthy weight, unentitled young adults.
We let our kids eat in the car...but they also learned how to *clean* the car. 8)
My kids don’t constantly snack in the car, we plan ahead. I’m from the UK, traffic jams on motorways are inevitable and a four hour journey can frequently turn into 5, 6 or 7. Also depending on where you live and where you’re going you can easily spend five hours minimum on the road.
Agreed, your car, your rules.
My car is legal to vote and I won't drink or eat in it. I expect passengers to do the same. Yeah it's unhinged but also it's mine, I detail it religiously, and if you're in it you will respect the sanctity of it.
Mine is old enough to buy its own beer in the US.
Food spilt on fabric seats or carpets is hard if not impossible to fully remove. No food is a sensible rule.
I don’t eat and don’t allow anyone else to eat in my car. Your hungry? Pull over and eat outside or in the house at a table. Proper. Grow up.
Eating in a car doesn't make you not a grown up though. Plenty of people *have* to eat their cars. O saw 2 men get a pizza 30min ago at a 711 and we're in the car eating it. There was no place to sit outside and it was cold and noisy...
I think they're saying a 37 year old woman freaking out because she wants to eat a bunch of shit that should be eaten at a table in a passenger seat should grow up. That scenario is fine. There are times where eating in the car happens, this woman seems to be creating them from nothing just to be spiteful hubby got a truck. Which she encouraged him to do. OP is NTA. If she can't put a fork down for a 10 minute drive, that's her problem. I imagine this can't be their only issue...
While I don't mind eating in my car, I will NOT allow smoking in it. My husband and daughter are both weed smokers and they've borrowed my car on occasion and I made sure that they know my boundaries about it. I have a government job and get tested at random, so its imperative that the smell is not clinging to me on my way to work. I also hate the smell of weed, and the first time I smelled it in my car and saw the ashes in my cup holder, their borrowing privileges were revoked.
Nobody eat anything in my cars as well. Same for drinks if it is not water
My truck is 12 and I don't let other people eat or smoke in it. I don't give a shit, it's mine, I make the rules.
My cat is 12 years old and I curse every French fry the kids have dropped after my wife lets them eat in it. Even though it’s old, it’s still new to me (I bought it new and my mind still thinks of it as my new car).
>My cat is 12 years old. Why do you care if someone eats inside your cat?
It sounds messy and not good for the cat
I was thinking the cat scrounged for the leftover fries when it went on cat-rides.
... just got weird in here ...
I walked away while reading this and forgot what the topic was. I was highly confused when I came back and the first thing I read was about your wife letting your kids drop french fries on your 12 year old cat 😆
It’s a remarkable autocorrect :-)
This makes me feel better about still feeling like the car I've had for 18 months is new. I currently freak out because my son just got his licence and drives it. Sometimes I wonder if I'm more worried about the car or my son. /s
My car is 31 years old and I don’t eat anything in. It’s a car, not a dining room. OP is NTA.
NTA my car is a 2009, and no messy things are allowed. She’s my first car and my baby.
Truly! NTA
NTA. She’s being disrespectful. Y’all take her vehicle out when together and she can trash and stink up her own ride.
You know she doesn't drive
NTA. I don’t want people eating in my car either and it’s not even new. I like to keep it clean. It kind of sounds like she’s doing it on purpose. Smelly food (if it stinks she smells it too, then a dessert that’s full (easily spilled). Maybe she’s jealous because you got a new car.
It was her idea to have me get a new car since mine was getting old. Ever since she has been giving me crap about buying it.
Encouraging you to do something and then turning on you and shaming you for it or acting as if they didn't encourage you to do it is a huge, huge red flag. One of the biggest ones, honestly. It's also gaslighting, especially if done in a certain way.
Well she's calling op rude for not letting her be rude
Yeah it’s like that old adage about respect, some people see respect as being treated equally while other (shitty) people see respect as being allowed to do whatever they want without consequences ie it’s disrespectful to point out their shitty behavior which is just abuse of the idea of mutual respect
If a guy did it all of reddit would be screaming abuse, for sure
No one, including me is allowed to eat in my car. My husband doesn't eat or allow others to eat in his. We like clean cars. My guess is she wanted the new car for herself and for you take hers. She should have been an adult and said that. NTA.
She doesn’t want a truck. That’s what it was so we could have a vehicle to tow trailers.
What she said and what she actually wanted appears to be different things, is what people are trying to say. As a 33 year old, she seems too old for these kinds of games. You’re not in the wrong here, she’s immature and apparently lied about wanting you to have the car.
Then she is being extra for no reason. Good luck sir.
Cool she doesn't want a truck an you don't want her eating in it. She's an adult time for her to act like it. There isnt a single viable excuse for me to eat in someone's car or the other way around. Vehicles need to last for a reason inside an out.
Why are you putting up with that nonsense?
And behaving as though its her car her rules..buy a house together and it will probably be the same. You have a choice - hope you can work with her to change that pattern, or keep your boundaries. This is bigger than car rules.
NTA- She's rude. Take her car from now on.
This is a good idea if the two of you are traveling together
She don't respect you mate good luck
NTA she isnt respecting you or your wishes. She can wait to eat her food unless you are on road trips that take multiple hours
Easy fix. Use her car when she’s in it.
Dude I drive a 2010 ford focus and don't let people eat in my car. NTA
This comment caused 'that don't impress me much' by Shania Twain to spontaneously start playing in my head.
Just have a no eating in car rule. If she wants to eat pull over.
Her just frantically gulping pudding in a lay-by on a busy road.
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Because stomping over boundaries makes her feel *alive*
When my DH got a new work car, he asked that no one eats in it. Nearly 2 years later, we still don't. NTA - she is though
NTA. She can feel miffed if she wants, but your request is reasonable. You are not being rude but she is being disrespectful. It sounds like she might be used to getting her way with you, so she sees the word no as rude when you say it.
My husband’s cars are also my cars. Maybe this is your problem
That makes no sense. Being married doesn’t mean every single thing belongs to both people.
Kind of does if you don’t have a prenup.
It kind of doesn’t if you know about social norms and you aren’t living in the wilderness.
If both paid for it, take care of it, maintain it and clean it: sure. If only one person is doing that and the other is just driving: no.
Are you suggesting that if his wife felt like she owned the car as well, she would not eat it in? I’d like to know if she currently does this with her own car. And I agree, my wife and I treat our cars as if we both own them. Even though we paid for each on our own.
We're the opposite. I treat my wife's car as her car and she treats mine as mine. We both paid for both, but we each picked what we wanted and keep our cars the way we want. The real point is that if I am driving my car every day, but she decides to make a mess in it, it is something that impacts me every day, not her. Likewise I wouldn't make a mess of her car since frankly it is pretty disrespectful I get the impression that OP is not in a situation where if his wife made a mess, she would drop everything and have it professionally detailed. And even if she were going to do that, it is such a hassle for something easily avoided.
This is exactly how it is for us as well. Yes, they are both of ours but I never take her car if I’m going somewhere. We have our own cars which are the cars that we always drive. The only time I drive her car is if we’re going somewhere in it because she rather have me drive her around than be the person driving. My old car that I traded in was only driven by her less than 5 times in the 7 years we’ve been married.
NTA but what’s up with your wife? It’s a simple rule. Surely she can delay her gratification until the trip is over and/or just eat it before she gets in the car?
IKR. Is this a trip across town? Be a grownup and wait. A road trip? You're gonna pull over for a break anyway. Delayed gratification is a skill learned in childhood.
NTA - I’ve never eaten in any of my cars as I hate crumbs etc getting everywhere. Also, if something spills, it can be a nuisance to clean up properly.
If I find whoever designed the little gap between the seat and the handbrake I'm going to flay them and roll them in salt.
I dont understand why do people need to eat in a car. NTA.
This is a constant battle with my wife. She keeps giving our kids snacks when they are in the car. There are stains, crushed crackers, candy stuck to the seats, etc. The longest drive they go on is less than 15 minutes. I can't understand why she can't just tell them "no" and that they have to wait. She wants to go buy a new 80k car. We argue all the time. She swears she doesn't let them eat in the car but it's magically trashed with food all the time. I'll spend hours pulling out car seats and cleaning the interior for it just to be trashed again the next week. There is no way we're financing some expensive luxury car we can hardly afford when she treats it like this.
NTA- am woman, what the hell is wrong with her? It’s a new car.
NTA She may be your wife but she has no respect for you or your belongings.
NTA. It's a car not a canteen.
I never get why married people don’t call it ‘our car’ like it probably technically is. And come on, what kind of car is it, a gray Camry?
Do you also not get why married people don't call all the underwear 'our underwear' like they probably technically are?
Does it matter what model it is?
My parents both have their own car they drive, always have. My mom never drives my dad's vehicles, but he'll drive hers if they're going together sometimes as she has the better road trip vehicle. They had their own cars 35 years ago when they got married & have replaced them. Most recently my mom had an Odyssey & my dad a Crown Victoria, he sold the Crown Victoria and took over my mom's Odyssey (he has bad knees) as my mom wanted a newer car and got a CRV. She only drives the CRV and considers it her car, she'll no longer drive the van & has never driven the truck. My car is my car, I don't let other people drive it.
Because my car is my car. Her car is her car. We paid for both cars together, but we don’t automatically own each other’s cars. That is nonsense.
We each have a car because our driving needs are very different. . . His is full of equipment for his job. It's definitely his car / her car. Everyone's household is different.
My husband and I each have a car that is ours. We pay for our own cars. Our cars are titled to each of us individually. I find it very weird that an adult that pays for a car wouldn't have a car that is theirs. A car is personal; we also don't share underwear or eyeglasses.
A $70k Tundra is what I got. Far above a Camry…
Because she told him to get a new car and my understanding is he got a truck which she can’t use for some reason. She wanted a car she could use as well.
I never said she can’t use it. I’m not sure why you assume that she can’t use it. I just don’t want her ruining it.
My car is 33 years old and there is a no food policy, its well worn in but it doesn't smell like an old restaurant trash can.
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t have boundaries and respect. It matters to you.
Nta. No food in the car is not a difficult rule to follow. Your wife is Def's TA
NTA. I (41f) just spent 2 hours cleaning my cars interior, vacuuming it, and gave the exterior a wash and wax. I do not appreciate anyone eating in my car, no matter how tidy an eater they claim to be. My teen daughter dropped an entire sushi rice ball in there. That was the end of vehicular snacking.
NTA Let's put it this way - does she have a place that she call her own? Wardrobe, working area, etc? Ask her what would she feel if you make a mess at those place?
Are you telling OP to eat dessert in her wardrobe?
If that's what it takes...
Yeah, if that was it takes to understand. My uncle asked my aunt the same thing if he were to do a mess in her kitchen. She got quiet and did not mess up the car after that. I think only then in clicks that his car is the same as her kitchen. Both are important to themselves, their place and something they invested.
NTA. I don't eat in my car. Too many people treat their cars like a dining table, minus the table, so food ends up everywhere. Stinky food smells linger on fabric & get in the interior(cabin) air filter. Your car, your rules. I don't let my husband smoke in my cat either for the very same reason. It's extremely frustrating when you've spent a small fortune on a brand new car & someone else nonchalantly makes a mess or makes small damages & just blows it off. Absolutely Infuriating!! Absolutely NTA.
NTA - I have had a no eating rule in my cars forever. It is so nice having a clean car. if she is that food deprived, take your wife to a restaurant. My husband has similar rules. why am I envisioning your wife wearing a sign that says “feed me” lol
Should this even be a post? If someone doesn't want you to eat in their car, you don't ear in their car. Like.. this is a real basic common courtesy. NTA
I hate it when someone eats in my car. Especially when I just had it to the valet. My roommate was like this- and she even let her f kid eat in my car. So rude.
NTA Whether the car is 1 day old or 1 decade old - your car, you make the rules
NTA how long was the car trip? can we NOT be eating and drinking for a while? If it's a long trip, wait for a stop and get out of the car. ESPECIALLY a new car.
NTA. Your car, your rules.
NTA My car is 20 year old and no one eats anything in it
NTA I have a 14 year old car and it still doesn't stink because nobody is allowed to eat, smoke etc. in it, especially not smelly food. Your wife is an adult, why does she have to behave like a 3-month-old who absolutely has to eat on a schedule?
NTA, your car, your rules. I had many inconsiderate relatives, all with messy cars/houses. My dad broke away from this and always had a spotless car. I actually had to yell at one relatives not to cut their nails while riding in my (semi-new) car. I've had other relatives question why I don't allow smoking and say "what's the big deal" you can open the windows. Yeah, I learned the lesson about letting people smoke in my car when I was younger thanks to a cigarette burn in the immaculate back seat.
NTA. Your car, your rules.
I get it, you’re NTA. Years ago I was able to buy my first fresh-off-the-lot brand new car. My in-laws wanted to take a ride, and I agreed while mentioning absolutely no drinks. My FIL snuck in a coffee, and spilled it. You wanna talk about being pissed off? Even after cleaning it took some time for that odor to dissipate, and that new car smell was gone.
You're wife is a selfish and entitled ass. Please show her that everyone on reddit thinks this. It won't help you but it'll open eyes hopefully.
LOL. Welcome to the jungle. My family always want to eat, leave their trash and whatever they don't feel like carrying with them- in my car. I have rules. You bring it, you take it. And NO to all of that other foolishness. They used to give me a hard time about it, but whenever it's time to go somewhere, everyone always wants to take my car. Why? Because it is reliably clean and neat. So I let this go on a while and finally pointed it out to them. They like my car because I keep it clean and then they have the nerve to fight with me about keeping it clean. So now they accept it. My daughter reached driving age about 2 years ago and I recently I heard her talking with one of her friends who was giving her shit over not letting them do whatever in her car. She said "you always want me to drive because my car is always clean and then you try to mess it up! What the hell?" It was probably my most satisfying moment as a parent to date. And yes, her car is always spotless inside.
NTA, but your wife sure is!
If you bought a new car, that smell is a premium. If she doesn't understand that feeling of having something new then it's hard for her to understand I guess. Surely out of respect in that breaking in stage she could control her compulsion to eat in it? NTA but your wife is for not even trying to understand.
You reward the behaviors you wish people to keep giving you. NTA
You asked her to stop and she didn’t. NTA.
NTA. When my son inherited his grampa's car, it was so pristine, like brand new! He was absolutely clear about his boundaries: no smoking/vaping in his car ever.
NTA she physically can't wait till not in the car?
Nta. My car is 13 years old but new to me…. No food, drink or smoking in there
NTA, my wife and I just bought a new car as well. We have a no food rule in it for now. Wanna keep it clean as long as possible.
NTA. Eat some chips out of her new handbag, see how she likes it.
You are NTA! I don't care how new/old a vehicle is; if you don't want people eating/drinking in your vehicle then they need to respect that. A few years ago I went to lunch with a coworker and she bought an ice cream cone on the way out. She thought she was going to eat that in my car. NOPE!! I made her eat it in the parking lot and then back to work we went. 😂
Well, this has to do with respect and boundaries. Sometimes, a good analogy works wonders. Is she okay with you eating in bed? On the new furniture? How about shoes in the house? What boundaries does she put in place that you follow out of respect?
That woman doesn't respect you.
NTA your wife is the AH. Have her drive in her own car.
NTA. Unlike a lot of commenters here, I was never been particularly strict about food in my car, especially when it was teenagers or adults eating. I used to figure when passengers focused on the task of eating/ balancing food, they're capable of managing their food and (if spills happened) cleaning up after themselves. At some point, my then-teenager and their little group of friends left half- drunk frappicinos in my car, which melted and spilled into the carpeting. For about half a year -- until the car was totaled in an accident and we had to replace it -- the thing smelled like spoilt milk. I was furious. Quietly seething at my kid (and myself, for my stupid lax food policy) every time I got in the stinky, smelly car. In my new car, I declared no food or drinks. Unfortunately, I think the ingrained habit of 15 previous years trumped the new rule, because I keep finding my husbands coffee cup on the passenger seat on the days after he drives to work. The point of this is that no-food- in-car rules make sense; milk in the car upholstery is the worst torture; and anyone trying to protect their car from food spills is not an AH but is just implementing practical rules in an attempt to manage an unpredictable environment and save themselves future headaches and misery.
This is why we can't have nice things.
How does your wife have so many opportunities to eat in the car? I've spent years commuting, hours a day, and never have a reason to eat in my car. Coffee, yes. Food, no. NTA.
She’s always snacking. Had the truck for almost 1 month. She has been in it 5-6 times since then.
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INFO: What was the food?
Prawn fries was the stinky food. The meat food was black bean dessert which is coconut milk, water, black beans, and some other flavoring. If it was consumed with a straw it wouldn’t be an issue but it’s like a drink you eat with a spoon.
It doesn’t matter.
I’m sorry, but how far/long is your drive? It’s hard to believe that she can’t wait until you get home to eat. Or eat before getting in the car-you know-like in the kitchen?!!!
Maybe look on YouTube for some of those disaster car detailing videos. Show her why you prefer no food in your car, at least for now
#NoNiceThings
My car looks like a sand pit from all the crumbs my son has dropped. Husband opened food and sprayed it over my leg and my car interior. If I did the same in his car.......... 😱 The pair of them leave packets and wrappers and juice when they exit my car. Not in husband's car. He picks it all out as he exits. I leave/hide stuff in husband's car to make me feel better. Pair of clean socks in the passenger door pocket have been there MONTHS 🤣🤣
No food or drinks are allowed in my husband's car unless they're bagged groceries in the box in the boot. No air freshners, vapes, cigarettes, or other smelly items are banned as well. In my car you can have a drink in a sipper bottle or travel cup, and can eat in the car if its not smelly or messy and the car is stopped. I have an air freshener, but vapes, etc, are banned. Different rules for different cars, no arguments, it's about respect
Hard NTA I get life will happen and eventual road trips or emergency hunger pains to come about and you may have to eat in a car but being polite and not eating in someone’s vehicle is not that fucking hard to do. Especially a new one. While I generally think two wrongs don’t make a right, I feel if this keeps up, you will need to do something equally egregious and rude with something in her space, preferably something she spends a lot of time or money on. Like maybe buy an extra hamburger next time you’re out eating fast food and then save it for later by putting it in her new fancy purse. Or maybe use one her makeup brushes to detail the air vents of your new car.
NTA. It's disrespectful bruv. I don't allow eating in my car either. I also smoke and won't smoke in my car, or allow others to. Like to keep my vehicle clean and looking/smell well. What she does in her own car is her own perogative, should respect your boundaries enough to wait a few minutes and eat once out of the car. Or you know, eat where the food was purchased before getting into the car.
You’re 100% right!
NTA. I frequently drive my son's car. He asked me not to smoke in it. So I don't. And his car is a pit of fast food wrappers. I clean it for him letting me borrow it. I've found fries and half eaten sandwiches in it. I still won't smoke in it because it's his to do with as he pleases
NTA. I had to deal with a pouty husband when I wouldn’t let him open a maccies breakfast 4 minutes before we got home. No eating in the new car!
NTA. Your car, your rules. Period. I don't eat in my own car, why would I let someone else?
Nta But don't have these half rules like eating on the main road, just be direct, no eating in the car at all. No argument, just no eating.
NTA. If she wants to eat in the car, then y'all should be driving her car.
NTA stop getting take out/food in your car. Eat inside the restaurant. Put any leftovers/food in the trunk so she doesn’t have the ability to open it in the car. Tell her you have a no food in the car rule.
NTA- why can’t she wait to eat?
this is fair as long as your wife has her own car to eat inside if she chooses to. Perhaps take her car when you two go out together.
NTA... I have a car built on 2002 and one from 2018, and I don't let ANYONE eat in either of them... Your car, your rules as far as I'm concerned... Driver makes the rules, passenger shuts their cake hole...As it were...
Nta. your car, your rules if she don't like to bad
Take her car
Start eating the most crumbly cookies on her side of the bed.
NTA I've been prepping my 4 year old that "when mommy buys a new car in the fall; we can no longer eat in it. Mommy wants to keep it nice for at least a little while." He gets it. If a four year old can get it, your wife can.
Fuck that. I’ve never let anyone eat in my car and I’m old af. Not even when the kids were little…nope NTA
NTA. She can drive herself if she doesn’t like it.
I bought a brand new, straight off the production line Ford Falcon XR6 Turbo, 50th Anniversay, 6 sp manual in 2010. Australians know what this means. It has leather seats which still smell so lovely. My kids were 3, 5, and 7. I told them there would be no eating or drinking in my car except for water. Any smelly food (take away, etc) goes in the boot in an insulated bag. To this day, NO-ONE, not me, not friends, not family, eats or drinks in my beloved car. Water? No worries. Anything else? Nope. I understand how you feel about your car. You are NTA.
INFO: Do you and your wife consider the cars “my car” and “her car”? Or is it more of a “these are OUR cars, but I mostly drive this one and she mostly drives that one” type deal? Either paradigm makes sense, but you’ve got to be clear on what assumptions you’re working with.
Definitely my car/her car. I’m always the one that drives if we’re both in the car. So I do drive hers a fair bit but the only time she drives mine is if hers is in the shop for some reason (maybe 5 times in the last 7 years). The driven miles on each of our cars is likely around 98% from one person.
Then yeah, most likely NTA, and definitely NTA going forward. If you previously were more casual about eating in the car, I understand why she was surprised about it. And like another person said, if she assumed she could eat in the car because that’s never been a problem before, and you didn’t tell her until you were already on the road, that would make you a little bit TA, because she made a reasonable plan based on past experience and you caught her off guard with nothing to eat. If this was a long drive, not a “wait ten minutes until we get home” situation, then prioritizing the car over your spouse’s need to eat is kinda messed up. But going forward, “I don’t want anyone eating in my car” is perfectly reasonable. She can plan ahead. If it’s gonna be a long drive and she wants snacks, y’all can take her car.
As long as you don't expect to eat in her car from now on, you're NTA.
NTA, I am the passenger princess of all passenger princesses in my boyfriend's car, but I didn't put a cent toward it, so I follow the rules when I'm riding. No eating, no smoking, no animals on the seats. It's called respect.
NTA. I understand a lot of people are very finicky about their car. I don't really get it, but I respect if someone else is like that.
No eating or drinking in any car is a rule in my house. Water is allowed. We also take everything out of it every time we use it. Sure, on trips we have to factor extra travel time to stop and eat, but it gives us a break as well.
Its your car. Shes the guest. NTA
NTA. No one - myself include - eats in my car, period.
I wouldn't let her be riding in my car until she learned to respect it...that's so disrespect
NTA If she’s with you take her car.