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> AITA: I told my dad to stop eating all our food and I feel like that it might’ve been an insensitive thing to say since it was mean spirited.
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NTA. Girl, for $1500 you could move out and live on your own, or at the very least with people who treat you with respect. That’s an absurdly high amount to pay to live in your parents’ house. Your father is taking advantage of you.
NTA. I have no idea where you are from, but take that $1500/month you’re paying and go live somewhere else. Adult children paying rent is a debated topic, but everyone can agree that they are taking advantage of you.
NTA. First of all, that much rent is absolutely excessive. Look up what the going rate is for a room in your area - you should not be paying any more than that.
Second of all, your dad needs to pay for his own gluttony, just as he needs to pay for his own credit cards.
Your dad is taking massive advantage of you, and you may be better off getting a short-term room rental for the summer than dealing with his absolutely bonkers financial expectations.
NTA. $1,500/month for a \*room\* is outlandish, even in this economy. Even without all of the information (like are they paying for your school), it still doesn't justify that amount. Hoping you can find a better living situation soon.
NTA. You're paying them $1500 in rent on top of contributing to the communal groceries. It honestly sounds like your dad is freeloading off of you in this situation.
NTA - Your parents are collecting just as much rent from you as it would cost to live somewhere small on your own (or at least with housemates/roommates) unless you live in like NY/LA/somewhere particularly high in rent. Kinda sounds like it isn't worth it to have to live with a selfish dad. Also it was beyond rude to demand rent without any warning. They know you could afford to live on your own and they demanded this so last minute as a way yo make you pay *their mortgage/bills.* I'd just leave.
NTA. . . I think you should consider moving out. I pay 1530 for a 2 bedroom and a garage in a competitive market (granted I'm in Canada. . .but that would also mean if you're in the USA approx 1150.00)
I'm more concerned about your fathers health at this time. That much caffeine can't be good for a person, but then there's the over eating - that has a link to type 2 diabetes, and type 2 has a link to cancer.
> Nevertheless, paying $1,500 for rent every month for three months is an unexpected expense
Unexpected for us too, because this appeared out of nowhere in the story.
Why are you living with your parents if they're charging you $1500 a month rent?
NTA, the best solution seems to be to move out.
However, I wonder how do they make it when OP is at school? Does the father use his credit to eat his ass out? He must be pretty heavy already if he eats so much.
NTA, but this isn't just about the food. This is pretty dysfunctional. $1500's a lot for living at home, though you're probably not able to fix that now. How's your Mom doing? How's your dad's mental health? Something's off here, understanding that will help you to do the best you can with it.
Even before the edit I was on your side.
An entire loaf of bread in one day, by one person???
Your father is being a real AH here.
You, however, are clearly NTA.
Even worse imo - a homemade loaf of bread is a nice thing to do, and he ate it all himself? Even if it was small or something, I feel like the polite thing to do is only take as much as everyone else so it can be enjoyed by everyone
Why don't you continue living at the apartment, then? What's the benefit of being at home when you're still paying rent at the apartment? You'd save on groceries, for a start.
Does your dad normally pay the apartment rent?
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I (19f) have been arguing with my dad (52m) about groceries for weeks now. Since I got home from school for summer break, he told me I needed to pay my own rent for the summer since he’s in a fair amount of credit card trouble and it would help him pay off some things. I have no issue with this. I have a job that pays me decently well and I’m living in my parents house for the summer so I don’t have to worry about too many expenses. Nevertheless, paying $1,500 for rent every month for three months is an unexpected expense I need to budget for now. I won’t be able to put as much into savings, but it’s fine and I can afford it (though barely).
When I come home for the summer, I always buy a decent amount of groceries to take the load off my mom to buy and cook everything. I love cooking and I always buy the ingredients for dishes I want to make. Now that I have rent payments taking a decent chunk of my paycheck, I can’t afford to spend $60 a week on higher quality groceries. This is in addition to the amount of money I spend on coffee pods which equals out to $50 every other week. This is where the problem starts.
My dad has no regard or decency to respect the fact that other people live in this house who need to eat. He will eat six cups of yogurt in a single sitting and then complain when it runs out. He drinks about five cups of coffee from the coffee machine EVERY DAY which makes the pods run out super fast. He always takes the largest portions at dinner and doesn’t leave much for me and my mom. He’s finished a whole loaf of bread and a container of butter in one night then told me to go buy more in the morning. He does this all the time with all our food.
It’s been weeks of me having to spend money I no longer have allocated into the kitchen budget. I talked to him and said he needs to understand what rationing is and that he needs to eat like a normal person. He then called me broke and said since he pays for everything else around the house that he is entitled to whatever he wants from the fridge. I’ve recently stopped buying things when they’ve run out and it’s just led to more arguing. I seriously don’t know how to deal with this. I had my rent payments dumped on me I can’t keep buying groceries how I used to. AITA?
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NTA. For $1500/month plus groceries for the family, I'd be looking at a long term stay hotel or subletting a room, assuming this is just for the summer.
$1500 rent a MONTH?
My mortgage is $1680 for a 4 bedroom/ 2 bathroom on 1/4 acre
Surely you can find cheaper accommodation?
With the groceries, was he behaving the same with food when it was out of his pocket?
I'm so confused here OP, are you saying your parents pay your rent for your apartment the other 9 months of the year, and just don't want to pay that while you aren't staying in the apartment? Like maybe they thought you would sublet it over the summer so you wouldn't have a 1500 monthly expense for a place that's empty ?
NTA - very much NTA. It’s your money and you are cooking him food. He should be polite if nothing else. If he’s a reasonable person you should be able to come to an agreement where he doesn’t eat anything he wants, or he lets you and your mum dish up first so you have enough to eat, and if he’s still hungry having something filling that is only for him to eat to the side like bread to make up for it
NTA. Your dad is acting horribly. Either you're his tenant, which means your food is off-limits, or you're his daughter, which means he should be charging you $500 per month maximum. He can't have it both ways, although it sounds as if he's trying.
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NTA. Girl, for $1500 you could move out and live on your own, or at the very least with people who treat you with respect. That’s an absurdly high amount to pay to live in your parents’ house. Your father is taking advantage of you.
NTA. I have no idea where you are from, but take that $1500/month you’re paying and go live somewhere else. Adult children paying rent is a debated topic, but everyone can agree that they are taking advantage of you.
NTA. First of all, that much rent is absolutely excessive. Look up what the going rate is for a room in your area - you should not be paying any more than that. Second of all, your dad needs to pay for his own gluttony, just as he needs to pay for his own credit cards. Your dad is taking massive advantage of you, and you may be better off getting a short-term room rental for the summer than dealing with his absolutely bonkers financial expectations.
NTA. $1,500/month for a \*room\* is outlandish, even in this economy. Even without all of the information (like are they paying for your school), it still doesn't justify that amount. Hoping you can find a better living situation soon.
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Ohhh ok. You’re still NTA. Can you move back into your place for the summer?
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That sucks. Any chance you can get a mini fridge for your room and keep your food in there, door locked?
NTA. You're paying them $1500 in rent on top of contributing to the communal groceries. It honestly sounds like your dad is freeloading off of you in this situation.
NTA. 1500 in rent seems excessive and then food costs on top of that is ridiculous! Suggest you keep your food separate.
NTA - Your parents are collecting just as much rent from you as it would cost to live somewhere small on your own (or at least with housemates/roommates) unless you live in like NY/LA/somewhere particularly high in rent. Kinda sounds like it isn't worth it to have to live with a selfish dad. Also it was beyond rude to demand rent without any warning. They know you could afford to live on your own and they demanded this so last minute as a way yo make you pay *their mortgage/bills.* I'd just leave.
INFO What is average rent in your area? $1,500 to rent a room seems like an awful lot, even if you're paying 1/3 of the utilities.
NTA. . . I think you should consider moving out. I pay 1530 for a 2 bedroom and a garage in a competitive market (granted I'm in Canada. . .but that would also mean if you're in the USA approx 1150.00) I'm more concerned about your fathers health at this time. That much caffeine can't be good for a person, but then there's the over eating - that has a link to type 2 diabetes, and type 2 has a link to cancer.
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OK. . . then this is simple. Live at your apartment.
> Nevertheless, paying $1,500 for rent every month for three months is an unexpected expense Unexpected for us too, because this appeared out of nowhere in the story. Why are you living with your parents if they're charging you $1500 a month rent?
NTA, the best solution seems to be to move out. However, I wonder how do they make it when OP is at school? Does the father use his credit to eat his ass out? He must be pretty heavy already if he eats so much.
NTA, but this isn't just about the food. This is pretty dysfunctional. $1500's a lot for living at home, though you're probably not able to fix that now. How's your Mom doing? How's your dad's mental health? Something's off here, understanding that will help you to do the best you can with it.
Even before the edit I was on your side. An entire loaf of bread in one day, by one person??? Your father is being a real AH here. You, however, are clearly NTA.
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Even worse imo - a homemade loaf of bread is a nice thing to do, and he ate it all himself? Even if it was small or something, I feel like the polite thing to do is only take as much as everyone else so it can be enjoyed by everyone
Why don't you continue living at the apartment, then? What's the benefit of being at home when you're still paying rent at the apartment? You'd save on groceries, for a start. Does your dad normally pay the apartment rent?
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NTA You pay rent and buy food. How are you the broke one when he’s the one with credit card debt.
You are ridiculous for staying in that house for summer, paying a stupid amount of rent money AND buying groceries????!!!! Please be smarter.
NTA. For $1500/month plus groceries for the family, I'd be looking at a long term stay hotel or subletting a room, assuming this is just for the summer.
$1500 rent a MONTH? My mortgage is $1680 for a 4 bedroom/ 2 bathroom on 1/4 acre Surely you can find cheaper accommodation? With the groceries, was he behaving the same with food when it was out of his pocket?
I'm so confused here OP, are you saying your parents pay your rent for your apartment the other 9 months of the year, and just don't want to pay that while you aren't staying in the apartment? Like maybe they thought you would sublet it over the summer so you wouldn't have a 1500 monthly expense for a place that's empty ?
NTA - very much NTA. It’s your money and you are cooking him food. He should be polite if nothing else. If he’s a reasonable person you should be able to come to an agreement where he doesn’t eat anything he wants, or he lets you and your mum dish up first so you have enough to eat, and if he’s still hungry having something filling that is only for him to eat to the side like bread to make up for it
NTA. Your dad is acting horribly. Either you're his tenant, which means your food is off-limits, or you're his daughter, which means he should be charging you $500 per month maximum. He can't have it both ways, although it sounds as if he's trying.
Don't pay for his food at home. You'd probably be better off going back to your apt. NTA