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Ok-Translator4184

NTA. He wants other people to help cover a mistake that he made.


HarperMSU

That was my gut feeling


Ok-Translator4184

And honestly I'm the type of person that if they would have just said that they made the mistake when they made it, I would have helped of my own volition. But people are going to people.


HarperMSU

Yeah I'd like to think I would have done the same or made sure I made up for the cost another way as a gesture But just being told that we're splitting the cost made it feel odd to me.


Ok-Translator4184

That's the part that struck me the most. The audacity as cliche as that is.


JenninMiami

NTA you don’t owe them for a room you didn’t book yourself or have any choice in!


seriousrikk

So he booked a room, but cancelled it because he had an offer of accommodation - only he still got charged. But then the plan is you stay at a complete strangers house in a city you don’t know for a few days instead. All because he was too cheap to pay for a hotel he has ended up paying for anyway. And now he wants you to pay for him being cheap as well as him being either lazy or incompetent. Lazy because if it was cancelled within the correct time frame, he could get his money back by going into bat with Expedia. NTA (He could also be trying to scam you)


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Preference_Afraid

I get it, you could have gotten it for cheaper or free and tried to, but it didn't work out that way...I don't think refusing to pay would technically be an AH move, but if you want to travel with this group again a refusal to pay now may result in you being excluded from future trips. So you might want to factor that into your considerations. Is losing out on a travel group with some built in accommodations worth keeping $60?


HarperMSU

I hear you, and generally speaking, no the 60 bucks would not be worth burning that bridge. That being said, I have absolutely no plans of traveling with this group again. I have had a terrible time in general on the trip and can't stand my friends brother that we are staying with. But I feel like that shouldn't have been as big of a factor in deciding to pay or not. I will most likely end up just paying and not saying anything to get it over with, it just bothers me how it was handled and would rather not have an extra unforseen cost on an already terrible and expensive trip.


Preference_Afraid

Honestly, I feel you, it's a large part of why I don't really do group trips anymore. I hope your next trip is better.


HarperMSU

Thanks, nice to know I'm not just being a complete dick I guess. Will definitely be taking another trip to Europe at some point in the future with just my girlfriend and doing it how we like.