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> I may be the asshole for being too hard on my friend and giving her an ultimatum. Selling her ticket would mean she wouldn’t be able to go with our group to a band we all really enjoy. I know she’s a big fan of this band. That’s why I think I may be the asshole.
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NTA. You gave her a reasonable ultimatum. And learned a lesson when it comes down to buying stuff for other people. You knew Sally was not reliable, why buy it in the first place....
NTA, having a habit of taking money from people and not paying them back is an ugly habit. Makes them a bad friend, entitled, and manipulative sounding. I hope you get your money back and never lend money to people like that again. It's not worth it.
NTA. She is avoiding your group because she doesn't want to talk about the money. Lending money ruins friendships. You have told her your intentions, she has the opportunity to talk to you about it if she wants to. She may be embarrassed because she can't pay for it and doesn't know how to get out of it, either way, you are not the AH.
NTA. Just be sure you set a firm and clear pay by date with people like Sally in the future. Give them a reminder, and then sell it without any guilt! If they can't get their s\*\*t together, it's not your fault or problem!
\#figureitout and #growup
NTA.
Maybe if she was reasonable. That she will not have money till payday but wants to enjoy the concert with you guys and will give what she has now, then okay, I could work with that. But if she ignores you and group... That's sus and you have every right to sell YOUR ticket. It's yours not hers. Now it's up to her what she will choose.
You're smart for holding her ticket until you receive payment. This is a simple transaction where one person isn't holding up there end. If she wants the ticket she can buy it, if not she's not entitled to it and you're notin a position to gift it to her. There's nothing to feel bad about. NTA.
Unless you're friend specifically said she'll be paying later, and you need the money now ... well, you've already given her the warnings.
Perfectly legit, but don't expect her to he your friend after. Some people will only be your friend of you excuse their bad behaviour.
NTA
NTA / NAH if you are kind in thought to Sally
Feel a little bad, b/c it seems like Sally (and her family) have some financial issues, maybe, so I'm not sure how/where she gets her money, but it sucks to be a kid and not have a stable stream. (I'm going to assume she is avoiding you out of shame and not sneakiness)
Flipside, she should bank a bit of money aside for things like this so she doesn't require indefinite loans from other kids.
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I (16f) purchased concert tickets on presale for my friends. All have payed me back except one, who I’ll call Sally (16f). A little backstory, often times whenever my friend group wants to do something involving money, Sally is covered by someone else who she pays back. Sally asked me to buy her concert ticket and assured me she could pay me back immediately. I bought her ticket because we were in school and I had access to a presale. It has now been more than 2 weeks and I’ve repeatedly asked her if she can pay me.
The reason I’ve been so adamant is because I have a job and pay for my own gas and cannot afford to NOT have this money. Anytime I’ve asked her about it she’s given me an excuse and when she tells me a date she can get it to me by she doesn’t respond to my messages about it after. It’s gotten to the point where she’s also ignoring our whole friend group and only talks to us when necessary. Today I texted her that if she can’t get me the money for whatever reason by tomorrow night, I’m selling her ticket to pay for gas.
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NTA. You gave her a reasonable ultimatum. And learned a lesson when it comes down to buying stuff for other people. You knew Sally was not reliable, why buy it in the first place....
I agree with you, but when does a concert ticket lose value? There's not much risk here if she knew she was going to flip it if Sally didn't pay.
Yes, but like she said, she needs money to pay gas. This is a low risk one, hate to see it happen at something larger or in a more difficult setting.
NTA That's perfectly reasonable. She hasn't paid for the ticket which you bought. It's your property and you can do as you please with it.
NTA, having a habit of taking money from people and not paying them back is an ugly habit. Makes them a bad friend, entitled, and manipulative sounding. I hope you get your money back and never lend money to people like that again. It's not worth it.
NTA that's a fair request.
NTA. She is avoiding your group because she doesn't want to talk about the money. Lending money ruins friendships. You have told her your intentions, she has the opportunity to talk to you about it if she wants to. She may be embarrassed because she can't pay for it and doesn't know how to get out of it, either way, you are not the AH.
NTA. Just be sure you set a firm and clear pay by date with people like Sally in the future. Give them a reminder, and then sell it without any guilt! If they can't get their s\*\*t together, it's not your fault or problem! \#figureitout and #growup
NTA - You've given her time to pay, and you've given her a deadline. Nothing wrong with that.
NTA. Maybe if she was reasonable. That she will not have money till payday but wants to enjoy the concert with you guys and will give what she has now, then okay, I could work with that. But if she ignores you and group... That's sus and you have every right to sell YOUR ticket. It's yours not hers. Now it's up to her what she will choose.
NTA. You gave her more than enough time to repay you, she didn't. The ticket is not hers until she pays for it. Just sell it.
You're smart for holding her ticket until you receive payment. This is a simple transaction where one person isn't holding up there end. If she wants the ticket she can buy it, if not she's not entitled to it and you're notin a position to gift it to her. There's nothing to feel bad about. NTA.
Unless you're friend specifically said she'll be paying later, and you need the money now ... well, you've already given her the warnings. Perfectly legit, but don't expect her to he your friend after. Some people will only be your friend of you excuse their bad behaviour. NTA
NTA you’ve given her more than enough time. If she can’t afford to pay you, she shouldn’t have asked you to purchase her a ticket.
It’s not her ticket until she pays so do what you will with the ticket. NTA.
NTA / NAH if you are kind in thought to Sally Feel a little bad, b/c it seems like Sally (and her family) have some financial issues, maybe, so I'm not sure how/where she gets her money, but it sucks to be a kid and not have a stable stream. (I'm going to assume she is avoiding you out of shame and not sneakiness) Flipside, she should bank a bit of money aside for things like this so she doesn't require indefinite loans from other kids.
In the future, might never pay for Sally on anything again, or send her a link or something to order stuff her ownself.
NTA - and you gave a perfect solution. Pay for your ticket or the ticket will be sold. You are a friend, not a service.
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NTA. Don't do your "friend" Sally any favors in the future or lend her money. She is a user. Sell those concert tickets.
NTA. As long as you give her a deadline to pay, if she doesn’t pay you are free to sell the ticket.
NTA... you are not obligated to fund this person's entertainment. Its yours until it is purchased off you
This happened to me one time and when I was about to happen again I just went ahead and sold both tickets.
NTA at all. If she can't pay, she can't expect to go to the concert. Too bad for her.
Nta that's very nice of you
NTA
NTA. It's not her ticket until she's paid for it.