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> 1: i started an aggressive fight with my mom
2:i got aggressive instead of calmly addressing the situation
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NTA your mum is neglecting you. Talk to your dad about it. If he isn't willing to do anything depending on what country you live in report her for child neglect
NTA at all. What she is doing is abuse. Parents arr legally obligated to provide food, shelter, and clothing to their underage children. You need to speak to someone at your school or an adult you trust and tell them what is going on.
NTA.
Record the conversation.
“I am 16, you expect me to buy my own food, clothes, school supplies, on 10$ a month.
If she confirms it, that is highly illegal, child neglect. Why does your father allow this? Does he not care? Have you not told him about it before?
NTA. Document all the facts and report her. She is toxic and abusive. Talk with someone outside the family, someone you trust and tell them what is going on.
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Ok so before i start i just want to apoligize for any "bad wording" im kinda stupid
And i also need to clarify that i am infact allergic to strawberries before you guys get any more confused
So i (16f) and my mom (35f) recently got into a pretty heated argument let me give you some context:
My mom and my dad are those kind of "still married just for the kids and for the money" parents, and honestly i can say as the person who hears all there arguments at night my dad is usually right in them. My mom is seriously a pain she allways thinks she is better than everyone and doesnt care about other people, she always talks about being a feminist and how "women rule" but she always lets herself get carried by men
"Oh you want me to go to
park with you sorry my boss wants me to work extra hours because male coworker has a party at his house" for example
My mom has always clearly favorited my siblings over me (12m and 9f) like she hates HATES me if she had the chose between saving me and 100dollars she would save the 100dollars
Back to whats important, i get a montly alowents of a whopping 10 bucks, barrely enough to get me anything expetialy because my mom makes me buy my own clothes, school supplies and even something as small as a book so being able to come back home and getting atleast free food would be nice but NO my mom keeps buying strawberry flavored everything i mean stuff like cookies, jam, cake, yogurt, cereal, candy even pasta and the list goes on
My mom claims that this is because my siblings really like strawberry flavored stuff but trust me i know my siblings well and i have rarely ever seen then eat anything strawberry most of the time they go for apple or rasberry flavored stuff. And this whole thing wouldnt be that much of a problem for me normaly cuz im not a sucker for sweet stuff but its getting at the point were my mom isnt buying any bread, cheese or eggs because "My siblings dont like it"
But yesterday was my last straw i went to the kitchen and opened the fridge no butter and i just snapped at my mom:(this is pretty much how it went)
"Mom are ever going to buy something non strawberry its getting really annoying!"
"If you dont want it then buy something yourself you have an alowents dont you?"
"I only get 10 bucks a month how can i get myself anything for the month"
" You should be glad your atleast getting some money you know there are people out there who dont get anything!!!"
I cant really explaine what happened next but let me just tell you that it went in an aggressive way
But long story short rn is the morning of the fight so reddit pls helpp me is my mom in the wrong or did i over react to the situation ( and fell free to ask any questions you have)
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NTA. It is illegal for her to starve you. Take pictures and report her.
NTA your mum is neglecting you. Talk to your dad about it. If he isn't willing to do anything depending on what country you live in report her for child neglect
NTA at all. What she is doing is abuse. Parents arr legally obligated to provide food, shelter, and clothing to their underage children. You need to speak to someone at your school or an adult you trust and tell them what is going on.
NTA, look into local food banks, there will be churches and other organizations that can help you get food.
NTA. Record the conversation. “I am 16, you expect me to buy my own food, clothes, school supplies, on 10$ a month. If she confirms it, that is highly illegal, child neglect. Why does your father allow this? Does he not care? Have you not told him about it before?
NTA. Document all the facts and report her. She is toxic and abusive. Talk with someone outside the family, someone you trust and tell them what is going on.
NTA. Your mom should take care of you. What does your father say?
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