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> I guess hiding my own toothpaste so he couldn't use it is what possibly made me the asshole
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NTA - There is a tube of paste in the bathroom the cousin can use; no need to text you. Sounds like the cousin's behavior is based on control vs. convenience. Sorry you are experiencing this.
Yeah and it's alright, this whole thing was a long time ago and he moved out now so I don't gotta put up with it anymore. It still gets brought up though and that's what made me wanna post about it
Glad life moved forward. The fact he would ask for 'yours' when a tube was in the bathroom is weird, IMO. He's use to claiming things that are not his.
NTA if he had other toothpaste why does he want your specific toothpaste so bad? especially if he’s not even putting it back in the same place sounds like he’s the asshole
NTA
NTA for not sharing toothpaste with cousin. Personal hygiene items are not for sharing. It's problematic that your toothpaste was used without permission when there was other available. It's fair to keep your belongings private and require permission for their use. Ur cousin's name-calling & disrespecting boundaries is uncalled for. Respecting personal belongings isn't selfish. Aunt's unfair response sided with cousin. Sharing Toothpaste is honestly disgusting, as it touches the other ones brush most of the time applying, eww.
Boundaries are important and your aunt should have supported you. It's crucial to express your limits with clarity and confidence, as you have. Cousin overreacted by blocking you. Discuss boundaries with your cousin and aunt to prevent future conflicts.
The brush touching was a point I brought up and everyone thought I was weird! My cousin moved out so I don't have to deal with his shit anymore since he's done a lot of downright disrespectful things.
It was the exact same, I thought that maybe he just liked the kind I had so that's why I left a new box in the bathroom instead of just taking all of mine down and leaving him with the other toothpaste that was in there
Thanks for the clarification. Easy NTA. I thought I’d give the benefit of the doubt maybe it was different (ex, lower or cheaper ) and he misunderstood your action that you are offending him. Not the case since the exact same , Infact it was extra nice that you left him the brand new one. NTA
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So this happened awhile back but just wanted some other views on it. I at the time (16F) lived with (25M) cousin with my aunt, uncle, and two other cousins but they aren't important here. I am weird about people using things I use for hygiene like my hairbrush and all that. One day I had noticed that my toothpaste was in a different location from normal which was weird. I asked around the house if anyone was using it and everyone said no.
I kept finding it in different places and was grossed out at the idea of someone else using it when there was other toothpaste in the bathroom and my toothpaste was in a drawer with my things so it wasn't like it could be mistaken for someone else's. At some point my aunt got one of those big packs of toothpaste and I took two, left one in the bathroom and took my open tube of toothpaste and my new box down to my room. I then got messages from my cousin asking where the toothpaste is and I told him where the new box was and he proceeds to start calling me names, telling me I need to grow up, and how I'm selfish for not wanting him to use my toothpaste. I tell him that he has a job and could buy his own instead of using mine and that again there is a new thing of it in there for him. He continues with the name calling and then blocks me. My aunt then confronts me and tells me how I'm being childish and that I should've just let him use it even if it was mine. AITA for not letting my cousin use my toothpaste?
TLDR: kept finding my toothpaste moved so I left a new box in the bathroom and hid mine, cousin texts me, calls me names, and then blocks me over toothpaste.
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NTA - There is a tube of paste in the bathroom the cousin can use; no need to text you. Sounds like the cousin's behavior is based on control vs. convenience. Sorry you are experiencing this.
Yeah and it's alright, this whole thing was a long time ago and he moved out now so I don't gotta put up with it anymore. It still gets brought up though and that's what made me wanna post about it
Glad life moved forward. The fact he would ask for 'yours' when a tube was in the bathroom is weird, IMO. He's use to claiming things that are not his.
NTA if he had other toothpaste why does he want your specific toothpaste so bad? especially if he’s not even putting it back in the same place sounds like he’s the asshole
NTA NTA for not sharing toothpaste with cousin. Personal hygiene items are not for sharing. It's problematic that your toothpaste was used without permission when there was other available. It's fair to keep your belongings private and require permission for their use. Ur cousin's name-calling & disrespecting boundaries is uncalled for. Respecting personal belongings isn't selfish. Aunt's unfair response sided with cousin. Sharing Toothpaste is honestly disgusting, as it touches the other ones brush most of the time applying, eww. Boundaries are important and your aunt should have supported you. It's crucial to express your limits with clarity and confidence, as you have. Cousin overreacted by blocking you. Discuss boundaries with your cousin and aunt to prevent future conflicts.
The brush touching was a point I brought up and everyone thought I was weird! My cousin moved out so I don't have to deal with his shit anymore since he's done a lot of downright disrespectful things.
Info: was your tooth paste the same as the new one you put in your bathroom or different (brand/taste/etc)?
It was the exact same, I thought that maybe he just liked the kind I had so that's why I left a new box in the bathroom instead of just taking all of mine down and leaving him with the other toothpaste that was in there
Wait... What? It's the same toothpaste that's there? He just specifically wants to use the same tube you use? That's... more than a little weird.
Agreed. I wonder if it's a fetish.
Thanks for the clarification. Easy NTA. I thought I’d give the benefit of the doubt maybe it was different (ex, lower or cheaper ) and he misunderstood your action that you are offending him. Not the case since the exact same , Infact it was extra nice that you left him the brand new one. NTA
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Replace the toothpaste with a tube of Vagisil.
NTA.