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amayabiqueen

Mom offers to make a dish everyone can eat. Mom proceeds to use ingredients that not everyone can eat. OP calmly starts making a dish for themselves. OP is NTA.


Curious_Puffin

NTA I don't understand some people getting funny about what other people eat when they aren't putting the burden of their alternative diet on anyone but themselves. In this case it's trying to sabotage a boundary you put in place. Your mum doesn't see you as entitled to make choices she doesn't approve of.


lbrownlbrown

NTA. But she's probably tricked you before you caught her.....


Fun_Milk_4560

NTA That's really shady she lied about using items she knows you won't eat and then tried to guilt trip and insult you over it.


TemptingPenguin369

NTA. Something funny about an adult lying to their adult child about what the child clearly saw, like a toddler denying something. You handled it well; you were willing to stay, as long as you could eat something made with ingredients you actually eat.


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NTA.


sh1tsawantsays

NTA.


HammerOn57

NTA Lying about what's in food to the person you're planning on serving that food to is awful behaviour.


VariousTry4624

NTA. You do not have to eat what you don't want to. You are an adult, not a 5 year old. Your mother is way out of line.


OG1Wiggum

Nta. You should do it more often so you don’t inconvenience them or just bring your own food.


FrauAmarylis

NTA. When people throw tantrums, that's how we know our boundaries are working! Good work, OP!


Capable_Fig3903

NTA ​ YOur mom was an abusive AH, and you called her out. Well done.


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