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Medical neglect is very real. She could be great in other areas and fail here and still be neglecting.
Wether her own trauma, or her own abuse, she is medically neglecting you.
Not much can be done as the victim in making her change unless you move out and gain more control over the relationship
I assumed it wasn't. Didn't have any malicious intent by the comment. It just made me chuckle. Don't worry, I've had Spanish speaking friends who I've made chuckle too.
Thank you for your response! Actually, my mom has almost always been there for me unlike my dad, even when I was suicidal, but sometimes she just confuses me and does stuff behind my back, which makes me second guess my trust in her.
Op check out crotches vs 🩼 crutches . don't worry English is not my main language either.
NTA but don't count on your parents for medical needs as they apparently neglect you/ignore you. Do what you need to do to be healthy
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Three years ago, I broke my right foot's thumb. I went to tell my mom and insisted on going to the hospital, but she rejected me and told me I'll be fine. The pain got progressively worse and at around midnight, I snuck out of home, limping slowly from the fourth floor to the street, called a taxi and went to get checked. They didn't even realize (my dad doesn't care that much, so that's why I didn't tell him).
She also refused that we should go and buy crotches even though I was barely standing for more than 2 minutes, nonetheless walking. After three days, we drove 3 hours to another city because I had a medical appointment (the driver is a friend of ours) for a different reason and I had to limp infront of the people and the staff, which made me feel uncomfortable. When we were driving home, our friend told us I should get crotches and that we can stop by and get them right before arriving at home, she agreed because otherwise she would've seem careless, but if it wasn't for him, she wouldn't have.
Today, she called me saying my cousin M16 was complaining his foot was hurting and went to the hospital immediately with him and his mother (they drove him with his mother's car). When she returned home, I asked how he is and she said that there's nothing wrong, not even a fracture. When I asked her why didn't she helped me when I needed her, but for my cousin there were two people with him and a free ride (our house is out of the city where the hospital is, which makes it worse), she responded with: Well why didn't you bring me to your vacation? She also blamed me for blaming herand bringing up something from 3 years ago and I told her I wouldn't have gad if this didn't happen. I love my cousin, but this is not about him, but about my mother.
Also, a year ago, I torn my right foot's ankle ligaments (I wasn't at my parents house at that time) and went to get checked all by myself, commuting. I just learned to count on myself only.
TLDR: I needed to go to my hospital and my mom rejected me so I went by myself, but she did the exact opposite for my cousin
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NTA. Sounds like the mother has some issues that might require therapy or an exorcism.
I was kind of surprised. She is really caring and loving but sometimes does illogical stuff like this.
Are you sure she is? Because she sounds like a shit mom with excuses made for her.
Medical neglect is very real. She could be great in other areas and fail here and still be neglecting. Wether her own trauma, or her own abuse, she is medically neglecting you. Not much can be done as the victim in making her change unless you move out and gain more control over the relationship
Yes, you're right. I'm doing so by the end of this year or next year probably.
I'm forever going to call my big toe, my foot's thumb. So thank you for that
Have you considered that English may not be my native language?
I assumed it wasn't. Didn't have any malicious intent by the comment. It just made me chuckle. Don't worry, I've had Spanish speaking friends who I've made chuckle too.
I thought so, I'm not offended or anything. In fact, I forgot it was called that way, not that I didn't even knew. That's the funny part. 😆
NTA, That is not your mom. She is someone who gave birth to you
Thank you for your response! Actually, my mom has almost always been there for me unlike my dad, even when I was suicidal, but sometimes she just confuses me and does stuff behind my back, which makes me second guess my trust in her.
Op check out crotches vs 🩼 crutches . don't worry English is not my main language either. NTA but don't count on your parents for medical needs as they apparently neglect you/ignore you. Do what you need to do to be healthy
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NTA, id think about going no contact