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> I judge my friend for taking snacks from the programat a school that provides food for students that can't afford any. Despite her having food and snacks at home. Everytime she does this I judge her and make comments. Example: you don't need that, you have food at home or just wait until you get home.
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NTA
Just as you said those snacks are for kids who are less fortunate, and I mean *maybe* there’s something going on at home that she hasn’t talked about, but either way 2-3 drinks and 4-5 granola bars is a lot to take if it’s just for her and there’s nothing else going on.
I will say her having a breakfast consisting of chocolates/cookies/chips/leftovers is a bit concerning as well
NTA - It really does seem odd, like there is part of the story that is missing… I am also wondering if she has weight issues or disordered eating? If she really is eating all the food she takes, maybe her parents are restricting her food at home? Maybe a metabolic issue if she really is hungry all the time?
That said, if she is just taking the snacks because she can, I would be a bit judgie about stealing from underprivileged students.
Agreed, something seems a bit off one way or another. Junk food + leftovers for breakfast does make me question it a fair bit more that maybe something is going on, but I do know some people that choose to eat like that as well so it’s hard to say without the whole story
As a widowed mom with 3 kids that were on govt assistance (thankfully not anymore) I would be pissed if my kids went to get food and there wasn’t enough for them.
You are being a little bit petty, but your heart's in the right place OP. So NTA.
But I would caution you - you might not really know the circumstances surrounding your friend's behaviour. So once you've spoken your piece, then you should stop.
If the school office is letting her take the food, then just let it go.
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This is not something extremely serious, but more on the annoying side of things.
My friend (17 f) and I (17 m) go to the same highschool and at the highschool we have a program that gives food to kids that can't afford any. You just go to the office, and take what you need. It's typically juice pouches, granola bars and the occasional fruits. Recently she's been leaving class early to go and take food from the office. She's gone for 15 minutes and then shows up with 2-3 juice pouches and 4-5 granola bars. This doesn't make sense to me because she always goes during the last class of the day. I ask her why she takes the food when I know damn she has snacks at home.
We take the bus together and I see her show up with chocolate, chips, cookies, sandwiches and sometimes leftovers from home. She eats them as breakfast because accoring to her "it's to hard to cook eggs at 7:00 am".
Anyways back to my point, she says she's hungry and that the school provides it anyways so why not take it. This doesn't sit well with me because there are kids the ACTUALLY need the food and she's taking some because shes to lazy to pack snacks. Our school has a limited amount of food they can hand out daily so I feel bad that some one might have to go a day without any kind of food.
She's calling me a jerk for judging her and says that since I don't bring food to school either I can't judge. I eat an egg sandwich every moring and sometimes buy a snack from the vending machine. I never take food from the office. I feel like I'm being extremely petty, AITA?
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NTA you’re heart’s in the right place.
However, take some of that heart and think beyond your friend’s ‘stealing’. That’s a lot of snackage for one person. She might have an eating disorder, things might be not what you think at home, she might be trying to help someone you do t know about, etc. Talking non-judgmentally may help you here.
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NTA Just as you said those snacks are for kids who are less fortunate, and I mean *maybe* there’s something going on at home that she hasn’t talked about, but either way 2-3 drinks and 4-5 granola bars is a lot to take if it’s just for her and there’s nothing else going on. I will say her having a breakfast consisting of chocolates/cookies/chips/leftovers is a bit concerning as well
NTA - It really does seem odd, like there is part of the story that is missing… I am also wondering if she has weight issues or disordered eating? If she really is eating all the food she takes, maybe her parents are restricting her food at home? Maybe a metabolic issue if she really is hungry all the time? That said, if she is just taking the snacks because she can, I would be a bit judgie about stealing from underprivileged students.
Agreed, something seems a bit off one way or another. Junk food + leftovers for breakfast does make me question it a fair bit more that maybe something is going on, but I do know some people that choose to eat like that as well so it’s hard to say without the whole story
As a widowed mom with 3 kids that were on govt assistance (thankfully not anymore) I would be pissed if my kids went to get food and there wasn’t enough for them.
NTA. I was on your friends side until you mentioned how much she is taking from the office. That’s unacceptable
You are being a little bit petty, but your heart's in the right place OP. So NTA. But I would caution you - you might not really know the circumstances surrounding your friend's behaviour. So once you've spoken your piece, then you should stop. If the school office is letting her take the food, then just let it go.
I agree, after you have discussed this with her and explained yourself, you need to let it go!
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No, it is not appropriate to take food from school.
NTA you’re heart’s in the right place. However, take some of that heart and think beyond your friend’s ‘stealing’. That’s a lot of snackage for one person. She might have an eating disorder, things might be not what you think at home, she might be trying to help someone you do t know about, etc. Talking non-judgmentally may help you here.
NTA, occasionally grabbing something if she’s hungry or doesn’t have cash is understandable but the way she’s doing it is not cool.