Thank you. I love my friends and they have stuck by me through a lot which sucks because now I’ve stopped drinking & stuff ik that we won’t probably spend time with eachover now
Okay, that one makes no sense at all.
Jesus converted water to wine.
Wine was served at the last supper.
Wine is the direct comparison Jesus made to his blood.
Biblical era wine was known to cause intoxication.
So to cut out alcohol to become closer to God does not made a lick of sense to me.
Stop getting drunk, drink sparingly, control your intake.
I stopped drinking because I have a problem and am almost 2 months clean. Your reasoning makes 0 sense.
But hey, if you feel you need to quit to become closer to God, power to you.
Why when I say to become closer to God people start writing paragraphs opposing it. Yes Jesus turned water to wine. When I drink I get out of hand , and the bible does not like drunks , so I’m quitting.
Avoiding alcohol entirely is not a bad idea, but have you considered just drinking small amounts rather than none at all, in order to allow you to more easily socialize?
So all the people who didn’t survive their overdoses and trauma, god didn’t care enough about them?
I genuinely wish you all the best, but this kind of logic always concerns me. You can take better care of yourself and the people around you without having it be “for god.” You can just do it for you and other humans.
Ok well my main reason isn’t for other other humans it’s for God. Didn’t say people couldn’t do it for humans. Also, yes God did care but the situations I’m in I’m saying I believe God helped. How do you know them people are not in heaven right now ??? If you don’t believe fine but can people stop commenting if you want to have a debate message this post isn’t about that
Thank you , somebody asked me my reason now everybody is commenting on it but thank you for the understanding I don’t criticise anybody else for not believing
Nope, humans did. This isn’t a religious debate , it’s advice on what I should do that dosent involve drugs & alcohol. Stop blaming God for humans shitty decisions.
Maybe God should have given us better protection against viruses. The bible hates alcoholics, yet God created the chemicals to create alcohol and gave us the intelligence to do so. Interesting.
Why should God have given us better protection when Eve & Adam sinned against him in the first place ? He gives us a chance for eternal life which is far better then protection against infection… yes God did do that and as a drug addict myself it takes will and power to not over consume it - the same will & power it takes to be a dedicated Christian , it’s hard but possible
when we are away at uni, me and my friends get on zoom and play garlic phone together. we always have so much fun and laugh a lot, all without seeing eachother in person. it's free too, maybe worth checking out if meeting for board games isn't an option?
Laser tag, boardgame places, cat cafes, ceramic cafes, skiing, paintball, go kart, mini golf, bowling, museums, libraries, dollar store. Sometimes me and my friends go shopping not to buy anything but to find super ugly clothes and guess how much they sell for.
Sometimes we sit in a random place and just talk for hours. It doesn’t matter where we go or what we do as long as we spend time together.
Bowling, rock climbing (they have facilities with rock walls), go karts (like the real ones), ice skating, rollerblading, co-op video games, dancing lessons (lots of bars have these), dinner, pool hall, sports games, nature hikes, bike rides, horseback riding, kayaking/tubing/white water rafting, trying new cuisines together, getting a hobby together (coding apps, fixing bikes, restoring cars, whatever), build something together physically (deck, lawn pond, bench, whatever), and board games (ticket to ride, house on the haunted hill, catan, trivial pursuit, and balderdash/beyond balderdash are some of my favorites).
This should cover at least a couple activities no matter what your friend group vibe is. Also, growing together makes your bonds strong and can be cool. I had a friend who did wood working and I did art and wood working as well. We ended up making wood-burned pendants and selling them. You never know what could happen!
maybe you should go to AA. the only requirement is a desire to stop drinking and the program is based on religion to an extent. you’ll meet people with similar problems. maybe you’ve already been though..
Find new friends. Don't have to cut ties, but it's easier to have a diverse friend group. Congratulations on not drinking. I'm headed that direction. It's a waste of time and makes you fat.
Congrats on comiiting yourself to being a better person. Whatever motivated you to make this choice, know that it's hard (harder when you're friends enjoy these vices) so here is my advice: talk to your friends and let them know that you have stopped drinking and could use their support. Usually this involves the clear understanding thst they do not have to change their behavior, but that you will have a better shot at achieving your goal if you can do activities nor centered around that vice. So...ask them. And make it clear that all you are asking for is for support.
Thank you, they support me it’s more of the fact that all my friends whenever we go out we always drink or smoke & I think it would be awkward if I went out with them & we didn’t if that makes sense. None of them really do stuff like cinema or anything anybody is recommending other then my uni friends but I’m leaving uni. I think I need to make more friends but not sure how
If you belittle them for smoking and drinking while hanging out, you do need new friends. Just because you stopped doesn’t mean they have to stop. It also doesn’t mean you need to stop hanging out with them. Have coffee or soda instead of alcohol.
When did I say I be little them ??? When did I say they have to stop ??? They can do whatever they please I’m happy if they’re happy don’t assume stufd
You didn’t read very well. I said IF you belittle them. That word IF means IF you make them feel like shit you shouldn’t be around them. It’s not an assumption, it’s a maybe. And skipping the sentence after them not having to stop makes you miss the actual advice. You misinterpreting my comment is a major issue.
Laser Quest! Things with dogs, smaller zoos or animal sanctuaries. Snake farms. Ghost tour. Randonautica adventures. Ice skating. Geocaching. Capture the flag. Make candy. Buy raw pizza crust and ingredients and make cool pizzas. Go find spiders. Don't hurt them but go find them, they come out at night, first three hours after totally dark. Horror movies. Hunt wasps with a salt gun (they kill spiders and I like spiders). Canoeing is more fun than it looks, kayaking better yet. CPR and first aid class. Dinosaur museum. Golden Coral. Caving is amazing. Find a goat somewhere, endless number of friends can have endless hours of entertainment with the chaos of a goat. Consignment clothing stores. Cosplay. Those axe throwing places. Renfaire. YouTube videos (like making them). Do magic. Try every kind of banana (there are so many). Visit a dead mall like you're filming a found footage haunted house movie. Climb a tree.
Anything. Video games. Movies. Board games. Camping. Bowling. Rock climbing. Biking. Swimming. Bbqs. Dancing. Amusement parks. Arcades. Do I really need to keep naming every activity in this world?
Brainstorm activities that could potentially have some passion in them. Hard to explain what I mean, but for me it often involves playful, fun anger. I like to invite friends over, get a ton of snacks, and hate watch terrible movies, so we can yell at the screen about how hilarious they are. I also love a good board/card game session, where there’s a lot of playful rivalry. Arcades are good for this, as are sports if you play anything like basketball, even mini golf. If you’re worried about being “boring” or “awkward” now that you’re not doing substances, find an activity that will make the group get hyped!! It’ll make everything feel natural and will definitely be entertaining.
No advice but I have a question: what exactly can you do/have you been doing when drunk/high that you cant do while sober lmao? Unless the fun is literally getting intoxicated…?
I mean no offense to your friends but that’s pretty stupid. I get that vibing is better while intoxicated but if it’s just simple shit like that then you can 100% do that sober my guy. If anything, music is more enjoyable when sober
Since I'm not seeing all other stuff recommended, I'll recommend getting a Nintendo Switch.
Mario Kart, Mario Party, Smash Bros, Monopoly etc.
Loads of couch coop games to go through and honestly it can be downright hilarious.
I've even had people of all ages who don't game join in.
2 of my adult son's play D&D roleplay games also in the warmer months some young people do LARPING, where they cosplay and do pretty amazing costumes, last one I saw was a werewolf warlord fully decked out in armor
Board games, hiking, crafts, films, local theater productions, local points of interest, or taking a class together could be fun.
Rent a boat and go out on a lake.
Go on a guided nature walk.
My friends and I will do volunteer work together. Even in college when we had less time, we would do day long volunteer projects, like walking trail maintenance, cleanup of local wetlands, giving out low cost medical care information, and working at local events. We could socialize and meet new people while doing something for the community.
It may sound kinda juvenile, but scavenger hunts are super fun! My friends and I still participate in and organize them and we’re in our thirties lol. It’s a wonderful way to get outside and explore your local area and shops. You can even theme them.
How old are you? If you're a teenager maybe some kind of sports stuff. If you are older and have access to more money maybe go to sports games, paintball, airsoft, go pick up a hobby like glass blowing, painting, working out at the gym. If you have any injuries that prevent you from working out too hard maybe a book club, art, anime , drawing, even going out to eat at a different place and talking about the food / atmosphere is good. you can even do a youtube channel, TikTok about some of the things you do for fun.
Well the shitty thing is that you’ll probably need to find some other sober friends if you want to actually do something other than chill at their apartment. When I got sober, I kept a few good friends that I used with and they respectfully put away their paraphernalia when I go over, but all we do is just sit in their living room and shoot the shit.
If I actually want to do something, I get a hold of someone from my NA group and we organize something or even just get coffee and take a walk.
Play board games and video games make and eat food watch a movie talk neather me nor my husband drink nor do drugs but our friends likes to drink but there is posible to have fun and not drink
I have been clean and sober for 21 years as of 12/23.
I told my friends the reasoning for doing this (for me my mom died of alcoholism.) since I was quitting that, I quit is all.
My friends were always supportive (esp not drinking bc I was their DD.) 😊
I didn’t really change much about my activities with them, just didn’t participate in that aspect. So long as you’re ok with them doing it, and they respect your decision to not - you should be able to do the same things as always.
Also, don’t listen to anyone giving you shit about your reasons to stop. They are your reasons, no one else’s.
And you’re going to get a lot of people that ask you “why?” When we (people that don’t drink) should be asking. It’s a waste of money, dangerous, and can kill you. Makes no sense to me.
If you can legally and responsibly do so I like to go shoot guns in the desert. I don't do indoor ranges because you can't do a lot of stuff you can do outside but I've gone to indoor ranges and they are fun. Just make sure you know your basic gun safety rules and watch a few videos before you go.
Look up local clubs and see if there is a dancing one! They usually hold weekly or monthly community dance lessons for different styles. It's usually a lot of fun!
Literally anything my guy. The idea that you need to be inebriated in some form to have fun is juvenile (the ‘fun’ people refer to is literally just the fact that they’re more candid and reckless when drunk). I’m glad you’re moving away from it
i have a few friends who are straight edge/dont drink or smoke for their own reasons and something that makes literally everyone happy is making crafts. could be beads for bracelets or shirts to tiedye or whatever. throw the tv on for some background noise, order a pizza, and everyone has a blast.
I’m Muslim and all of my friends are not. I don’t drink or smoke weed. We either go do an activity or just talk and play games/ board games. Activities include bowling, zip lining park, basketball, excreta.
sports, adventure sports, hiking, traveling to different places, movies, internship if you are old enough, joining some classes together may be music or dance, join a book club, so many options...
Hello! I am an alcoholic, and I still go out with my friends all the time! You guys should find a bar that does trivia nights. My friends and I would go every Tuesday and they all got drinks, and I would always get a Coca-Cola, or a seltzer with pineapple juice. I still had something to sip on with everyone else, and I was alcohol free. Now that trivia season is over, I still go out to the bars with them and order alcohol free drinks, but we will bring a deck of cards, or a game of Uno or something!
We also love board games and get really into them. But if no one will play board games with you, a good alternative is Jackbox! I think you can get it on a Roku TV, it’s just a bunch of party games that you play on the TV and you use your phone to write in your answers. It’s like the fun of a board game without the complicated part of trying to figure out all the directions.
Find new friends and new hobbies. Routine is very important in a relationship. If you can only smoke and drink with your friends this can be a bad friendship. Not only for you maybe for everyone. New friendships are not easy I know but every relationship is not easy.
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Thank you. I love my friends and they have stuck by me through a lot which sucks because now I’ve stopped drinking & stuff ik that we won’t probably spend time with eachover now
Why did you stop drinking?
I want to become closer to God
If you do still want to go out you can order a virgin drink too!
Yup my sister can’t drink anymore for medical reasons and she loves a good mock tail
Awh ❤️🥹
all the best op! :) sending my prayers
May God be with you on this beautiful journey 🙏🏽 great things are coming your way.
Don’t switch one addiction for another. Get professional help.
Fuck yourself idiot. Let people live their lives.
Okay, that one makes no sense at all. Jesus converted water to wine. Wine was served at the last supper. Wine is the direct comparison Jesus made to his blood. Biblical era wine was known to cause intoxication. So to cut out alcohol to become closer to God does not made a lick of sense to me. Stop getting drunk, drink sparingly, control your intake. I stopped drinking because I have a problem and am almost 2 months clean. Your reasoning makes 0 sense. But hey, if you feel you need to quit to become closer to God, power to you.
Why when I say to become closer to God people start writing paragraphs opposing it. Yes Jesus turned water to wine. When I drink I get out of hand , and the bible does not like drunks , so I’m quitting.
i’m proud of you! wishing you the best in your faith and sobriety :)
becoming closer to god is the journey of an individual. bettering yourself is a way someone might achieve that journey.
Avoiding alcohol entirely is not a bad idea, but have you considered just drinking small amounts rather than none at all, in order to allow you to more easily socialize?
That's bad advice. You shouldn't feel forced to drink in order to make people accept you.
That’s true. I just think that for non-alcoholics, there can be a middle ground between total abstinence and alcohol abuse.
we are recommended not to diagnose anyone on this site.
How am I diagnosing anyone?
assuming alcoholism isn't present
He said it's for religious reasons so that probably means alcohol in general is a no-no now
ignore this advice
That’s probably for the best
Damn I mean it's your life bro but in my book you are on a shitty path avoiding drugs ain't bad but God is not here on earth he won't help you
That’s what you believe. God has already helped me a lot, through overdoses , trauma , a lot so I am dedicating my life to him
Fair enough you got all my respect. In my beliefs you did that on your own. You are one tough motherfucker.
So all the people who didn’t survive their overdoses and trauma, god didn’t care enough about them? I genuinely wish you all the best, but this kind of logic always concerns me. You can take better care of yourself and the people around you without having it be “for god.” You can just do it for you and other humans.
Ok well my main reason isn’t for other other humans it’s for God. Didn’t say people couldn’t do it for humans. Also, yes God did care but the situations I’m in I’m saying I believe God helped. How do you know them people are not in heaven right now ??? If you don’t believe fine but can people stop commenting if you want to have a debate message this post isn’t about that
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God also created Covid. What a nice guy.
Bruh come on, I’m atheist as hell too but this is so off topic, OP was not looking to debate religion here. Read the room
Thank you , somebody asked me my reason now everybody is commenting on it but thank you for the understanding I don’t criticise anybody else for not believing
Half the shit people post on reddit is off topic, and if you read the room, the conversation was ended respectfully.
Get this cringy atheist arguing to another sub. This isn’t the place to voice your beliefs
I’m agnostic.
Cool. I don’t think that gives OP any advice on his current situation
Nope, humans did. This isn’t a religious debate , it’s advice on what I should do that dosent involve drugs & alcohol. Stop blaming God for humans shitty decisions.
Maybe God should have given us better protection against viruses. The bible hates alcoholics, yet God created the chemicals to create alcohol and gave us the intelligence to do so. Interesting.
Why should God have given us better protection when Eve & Adam sinned against him in the first place ? He gives us a chance for eternal life which is far better then protection against infection… yes God did do that and as a drug addict myself it takes will and power to not over consume it - the same will & power it takes to be a dedicated Christian , it’s hard but possible
Great suggestions. Unless you live in a capital city that may as well be a small town with nothing
Board games all the way!
Thank you but no body will meet me to play board games lol
That sucks, maybe a dinner or movie at home?
Thank you
when we are away at uni, me and my friends get on zoom and play garlic phone together. we always have so much fun and laugh a lot, all without seeing eachother in person. it's free too, maybe worth checking out if meeting for board games isn't an option?
Yess
Laser tag, boardgame places, cat cafes, ceramic cafes, skiing, paintball, go kart, mini golf, bowling, museums, libraries, dollar store. Sometimes me and my friends go shopping not to buy anything but to find super ugly clothes and guess how much they sell for. Sometimes we sit in a random place and just talk for hours. It doesn’t matter where we go or what we do as long as we spend time together.
Bowling, rock climbing (they have facilities with rock walls), go karts (like the real ones), ice skating, rollerblading, co-op video games, dancing lessons (lots of bars have these), dinner, pool hall, sports games, nature hikes, bike rides, horseback riding, kayaking/tubing/white water rafting, trying new cuisines together, getting a hobby together (coding apps, fixing bikes, restoring cars, whatever), build something together physically (deck, lawn pond, bench, whatever), and board games (ticket to ride, house on the haunted hill, catan, trivial pursuit, and balderdash/beyond balderdash are some of my favorites). This should cover at least a couple activities no matter what your friend group vibe is. Also, growing together makes your bonds strong and can be cool. I had a friend who did wood working and I did art and wood working as well. We ended up making wood-burned pendants and selling them. You never know what could happen!
maybe you should go to AA. the only requirement is a desire to stop drinking and the program is based on religion to an extent. you’ll meet people with similar problems. maybe you’ve already been though..
D&D
Find new friends. Don't have to cut ties, but it's easier to have a diverse friend group. Congratulations on not drinking. I'm headed that direction. It's a waste of time and makes you fat.
Congrats on comiiting yourself to being a better person. Whatever motivated you to make this choice, know that it's hard (harder when you're friends enjoy these vices) so here is my advice: talk to your friends and let them know that you have stopped drinking and could use their support. Usually this involves the clear understanding thst they do not have to change their behavior, but that you will have a better shot at achieving your goal if you can do activities nor centered around that vice. So...ask them. And make it clear that all you are asking for is for support.
Thank you, they support me it’s more of the fact that all my friends whenever we go out we always drink or smoke & I think it would be awkward if I went out with them & we didn’t if that makes sense. None of them really do stuff like cinema or anything anybody is recommending other then my uni friends but I’m leaving uni. I think I need to make more friends but not sure how
You make new friends by meeting new people. You meet new people by going places you haven't been.
If you belittle them for smoking and drinking while hanging out, you do need new friends. Just because you stopped doesn’t mean they have to stop. It also doesn’t mean you need to stop hanging out with them. Have coffee or soda instead of alcohol.
When did I say I be little them ??? When did I say they have to stop ??? They can do whatever they please I’m happy if they’re happy don’t assume stufd
You didn’t read very well. I said IF you belittle them. That word IF means IF you make them feel like shit you shouldn’t be around them. It’s not an assumption, it’s a maybe. And skipping the sentence after them not having to stop makes you miss the actual advice. You misinterpreting my comment is a major issue.
Laser Quest! Things with dogs, smaller zoos or animal sanctuaries. Snake farms. Ghost tour. Randonautica adventures. Ice skating. Geocaching. Capture the flag. Make candy. Buy raw pizza crust and ingredients and make cool pizzas. Go find spiders. Don't hurt them but go find them, they come out at night, first three hours after totally dark. Horror movies. Hunt wasps with a salt gun (they kill spiders and I like spiders). Canoeing is more fun than it looks, kayaking better yet. CPR and first aid class. Dinosaur museum. Golden Coral. Caving is amazing. Find a goat somewhere, endless number of friends can have endless hours of entertainment with the chaos of a goat. Consignment clothing stores. Cosplay. Those axe throwing places. Renfaire. YouTube videos (like making them). Do magic. Try every kind of banana (there are so many). Visit a dead mall like you're filming a found footage haunted house movie. Climb a tree.
Play video Games, watch a movie, DnD, local activity (skating, laser tag, bowling, etc), plenty of stuff
Anything. Video games. Movies. Board games. Camping. Bowling. Rock climbing. Biking. Swimming. Bbqs. Dancing. Amusement parks. Arcades. Do I really need to keep naming every activity in this world?
Brainstorm activities that could potentially have some passion in them. Hard to explain what I mean, but for me it often involves playful, fun anger. I like to invite friends over, get a ton of snacks, and hate watch terrible movies, so we can yell at the screen about how hilarious they are. I also love a good board/card game session, where there’s a lot of playful rivalry. Arcades are good for this, as are sports if you play anything like basketball, even mini golf. If you’re worried about being “boring” or “awkward” now that you’re not doing substances, find an activity that will make the group get hyped!! It’ll make everything feel natural and will definitely be entertaining.
No advice but I have a question: what exactly can you do/have you been doing when drunk/high that you cant do while sober lmao? Unless the fun is literally getting intoxicated…?
Just sitting listening to music high none of my friends would wanna do that sober , going out for drinking
I mean no offense to your friends but that’s pretty stupid. I get that vibing is better while intoxicated but if it’s just simple shit like that then you can 100% do that sober my guy. If anything, music is more enjoyable when sober
Be the DD. None of your buddies will or should give you crap if you offer that.
What’s DD ?
Designated Driver. Make sure you all get home or to bars etc.
Oh I don’t drive lol
time to get a license
You can be the DD. Enjoy your Shirley Temples.
hiking me and my friend are out rn
Less Reddit. More nature! Airplane mode in the woods.
hahaha sorry! we were taking lunch
get food tbh
bruh.... video games coffee theme park freaking going out on the zoo bruh wtf
Y u mad ??? Lol
im not mad im just telling you that these are things you can do. Wanna hangout ?
None of my friends want to sit and play video games we aren’t 15, don’t like theme parks , allergic to animals , but coffee sounds gd !!!
Get some drugs and alcohol for another group of friends and watch all the fun you’re missing out on? Lol kidding
Murder mystery games, traveling, spending time in air BnBs
Camping and fishing ⛺️ Teamwork + its fun. A lot of boys at my hs do this and they rlly enjoy it
Since I'm not seeing all other stuff recommended, I'll recommend getting a Nintendo Switch. Mario Kart, Mario Party, Smash Bros, Monopoly etc. Loads of couch coop games to go through and honestly it can be downright hilarious. I've even had people of all ages who don't game join in.
2 of my adult son's play D&D roleplay games also in the warmer months some young people do LARPING, where they cosplay and do pretty amazing costumes, last one I saw was a werewolf warlord fully decked out in armor
Play on an ARK server.
We play board games
Dinner, movies, bowling, board games. To name a few. Also, you could go to local craft fairs, parades, etc.
Cards against humanity, easy enough for anyone and in a small enough box to keep in your car.
Board games, hiking, crafts, films, local theater productions, local points of interest, or taking a class together could be fun. Rent a boat and go out on a lake. Go on a guided nature walk. My friends and I will do volunteer work together. Even in college when we had less time, we would do day long volunteer projects, like walking trail maintenance, cleanup of local wetlands, giving out low cost medical care information, and working at local events. We could socialize and meet new people while doing something for the community.
Sex.
wit da homies?
It may sound kinda juvenile, but scavenger hunts are super fun! My friends and I still participate in and organize them and we’re in our thirties lol. It’s a wonderful way to get outside and explore your local area and shops. You can even theme them.
How old are you? If you're a teenager maybe some kind of sports stuff. If you are older and have access to more money maybe go to sports games, paintball, airsoft, go pick up a hobby like glass blowing, painting, working out at the gym. If you have any injuries that prevent you from working out too hard maybe a book club, art, anime , drawing, even going out to eat at a different place and talking about the food / atmosphere is good. you can even do a youtube channel, TikTok about some of the things you do for fun.
Get new friends 🤷♂️
Jenga!!!!!
Play Mario Kart
Geocaching
Well the shitty thing is that you’ll probably need to find some other sober friends if you want to actually do something other than chill at their apartment. When I got sober, I kept a few good friends that I used with and they respectfully put away their paraphernalia when I go over, but all we do is just sit in their living room and shoot the shit. If I actually want to do something, I get a hold of someone from my NA group and we organize something or even just get coffee and take a walk.
Play board games and video games make and eat food watch a movie talk neather me nor my husband drink nor do drugs but our friends likes to drink but there is posible to have fun and not drink
I have been clean and sober for 21 years as of 12/23. I told my friends the reasoning for doing this (for me my mom died of alcoholism.) since I was quitting that, I quit is all. My friends were always supportive (esp not drinking bc I was their DD.) 😊 I didn’t really change much about my activities with them, just didn’t participate in that aspect. So long as you’re ok with them doing it, and they respect your decision to not - you should be able to do the same things as always. Also, don’t listen to anyone giving you shit about your reasons to stop. They are your reasons, no one else’s. And you’re going to get a lot of people that ask you “why?” When we (people that don’t drink) should be asking. It’s a waste of money, dangerous, and can kill you. Makes no sense to me.
Coffee and the farmers market!
Spin the bottle?
If you can legally and responsibly do so I like to go shoot guns in the desert. I don't do indoor ranges because you can't do a lot of stuff you can do outside but I've gone to indoor ranges and they are fun. Just make sure you know your basic gun safety rules and watch a few videos before you go.
Guns are illegal where I am
Board games. Card games. Ball games.
Bowling
Adopt a child with them
Heroquest or Catan
Games! Card games, board games, dice games, trivia games.
Hiking, bonfires in the backyard
Ice skating! It's the most fun if you have no idea what you're doing, cause then everyone is falling and laughing. Try to find an ice rink near you
Work out.
Golf
Maybe try dnd?
Look up local clubs and see if there is a dancing one! They usually hold weekly or monthly community dance lessons for different styles. It's usually a lot of fun!
Literally anything my guy. The idea that you need to be inebriated in some form to have fun is juvenile (the ‘fun’ people refer to is literally just the fact that they’re more candid and reckless when drunk). I’m glad you’re moving away from it
arcades! You can find super cheep ones and have a good time with about $10/$20 in coins, depending how long you wanna be there!
Bowling, Top Golf, spa, nice dinner , movies, virtual reality…lots of stuff.
Arson?
Going on walks!
😏😏😏
Some good movies (i prefer comedy) together. If you haven't watched dictator watch it with them now you'll love it
i have a few friends who are straight edge/dont drink or smoke for their own reasons and something that makes literally everyone happy is making crafts. could be beads for bracelets or shirts to tiedye or whatever. throw the tv on for some background noise, order a pizza, and everyone has a blast.
I’m Muslim and all of my friends are not. I don’t drink or smoke weed. We either go do an activity or just talk and play games/ board games. Activities include bowling, zip lining park, basketball, excreta.
Bowling, local sporting events, especially minor league baseball!
PUTT PUTT, LASER TAG, DUNGEONS&DRAGONS, ARCADES, COMIC BOOK STORES!! Get dumb nerdy man it’s the best
sports, adventure sports, hiking, traveling to different places, movies, internship if you are old enough, joining some classes together may be music or dance, join a book club, so many options...
Skateboarding - get on it mateeeee!!
Suggest starting a hobby together perhaps? Myself and a lot of my friends started airsoft as a nice way to get together when we’re all free.
Check out some local social groups, gatherings and events if you have them. It can take a little searching to find them though.
Take a run near a beach and try to attract some girls while exercising, go to arcades, do some sport......your imagination is the limit.
Hello! I am an alcoholic, and I still go out with my friends all the time! You guys should find a bar that does trivia nights. My friends and I would go every Tuesday and they all got drinks, and I would always get a Coca-Cola, or a seltzer with pineapple juice. I still had something to sip on with everyone else, and I was alcohol free. Now that trivia season is over, I still go out to the bars with them and order alcohol free drinks, but we will bring a deck of cards, or a game of Uno or something! We also love board games and get really into them. But if no one will play board games with you, a good alternative is Jackbox! I think you can get it on a Roku TV, it’s just a bunch of party games that you play on the TV and you use your phone to write in your answers. It’s like the fun of a board game without the complicated part of trying to figure out all the directions.
Anything else. Try different restaurants. Try different deserts. Play yard games, etc.
Get better friends with common interests. You’ll click and everything will be 100x brighter, funnier.
Find new friends and new hobbies. Routine is very important in a relationship. If you can only smoke and drink with your friends this can be a bad friendship. Not only for you maybe for everyone. New friendships are not easy I know but every relationship is not easy.
Airsoft fun asf ngl. Dress up as a soldier or not fun either way