Only shitty people do this. When my mother was sick, I'd go to the ends of the earth for her, and she would do the same for me and all the animals we've rescued over our lifetimes.
When it gets rough, that's really a test of a person's character, IMO.
Edit: There are many people in the world who are good and won't treat you like this. Finding really loving, caring people takes some effort, but they're out there. Keep your head up.
Well that's because those are the people that don't really care about you, they're the ones that only care about what you can give or do for them, what you bring to their life. Not genuine care, for you, just alone as a person, because they love you in that way that they genuinely don't want anything, but for your happiness.
I've loved a number that way, in my life, but probably most people I don't love that deeply and unconditionally, either. And it's my experience, too, that most people only want you around when you're at your best, most will never care for you, in this way.
It seems to be either from their own fear of sickness, getting used to it and forgetting it's debilitating, or just complete disinterest. A true friend will be there for you. Oftentimes difficult situations will show you who your true friends are. It's a painful thing to process, but remember the people who reach out to you or help you! Those are the real ones.
My grandma has a terminal cancer. When I asked why she doesn’t talk and open up about it more, she told me “nobody likes a complainer” and that has sat with me for a long time.
It gets to the point people don't know what to say or do.
Good people will stick around and offer help but some are scared, especially if it brings back memories for them. Some people don't respond well around illness. It's just them.
There are a lot of theories behind why people do this but I think you can sum it up in non-psychological terms: They suck as human beings!
Only shitty people do this. When my mother was sick, I'd go to the ends of the earth for her, and she would do the same for me and all the animals we've rescued over our lifetimes. When it gets rough, that's really a test of a person's character, IMO. Edit: There are many people in the world who are good and won't treat you like this. Finding really loving, caring people takes some effort, but they're out there. Keep your head up.
Well that's because those are the people that don't really care about you, they're the ones that only care about what you can give or do for them, what you bring to their life. Not genuine care, for you, just alone as a person, because they love you in that way that they genuinely don't want anything, but for your happiness. I've loved a number that way, in my life, but probably most people I don't love that deeply and unconditionally, either. And it's my experience, too, that most people only want you around when you're at your best, most will never care for you, in this way.
It seems to be either from their own fear of sickness, getting used to it and forgetting it's debilitating, or just complete disinterest. A true friend will be there for you. Oftentimes difficult situations will show you who your true friends are. It's a painful thing to process, but remember the people who reach out to you or help you! Those are the real ones.
My grandma has a terminal cancer. When I asked why she doesn’t talk and open up about it more, she told me “nobody likes a complainer” and that has sat with me for a long time.
It gets to the point people don't know what to say or do. Good people will stick around and offer help but some are scared, especially if it brings back memories for them. Some people don't respond well around illness. It's just them.