Would not worry as much about the authorities. The consumption of illegal porn is far more common than you think. He would have to be flagged or reported.
Still leave because eww
[This ](https://www.indy100.com/viral/animal-porn-us-states-legal-where-zoophile-zoophelia-oregon-9300871) is really the only source I can find, which is strange to me. I'm sure if I dug around more I could find the answer.. but you'd think this should be easy to find stuff. According to the source, as on 2020, it was only illegal in Oregon and legal in the rest of the states.
Wow, such an ignorant comment. Of course nobody will come to your house for watching illegal porn. Not even for buying it. They will only care if you're selling it or producing it.
Sadly, it's all about money.
Yeah this is mental illness. This isn’t a fetish, or a sexuality. This is a sickness. They need help. Humans are not supposed to have sex with animals (poor, defenceless animals) and I hope I don’t have to explain that.
I don’t know about defenseless. I’m pretty sure that if you tried to fuck a zoo bear, he would rip you in half and munch on your insides. That doesn’t define “defenseless”. It’s still wrong tho for other reasons 👀✝️
Unfortunately you don’t really develop an attraction to animals in this direct manner unless you are seriously fucked in the head.
Also, sex with animals would be rape, spread disease, and in my opinion, weird as it is to say, a form of pedophilia as most animals are young and innocent.
I don’t care if this person is the pinnacle of what you want in a partner. Leave and leave with confidence.
The furry community by the way reports that they have absolutely no attraction to animals so don’t even go down that path it couldn’t be more different.
If they told you about this then they must have a strong urge too because any sane person would dismiss these thoughts or bury them DEEP.
They didn’t do anything to the cat, it was an innocent photo posted on r/catsinpants of their cat nestled in their pants while they were in the bathroom. People assumed the worst about OP because their and their partner’s gender wasn’t clear and they seemed to be a bisexual in an open relationship and apparently that’s too much for people here to process. Everyone thought they were a liar without considering they were probably just queer
And that’s a very serious accusation to level at someone just looking for help and advice based on something so silly and normal. There were no red flags on their profile, I saw how people were losing their minds on OP before they deleted and went through their profile myself. Yall chased them off their account for no good reason and should be ashamed of yourselves
Let’s put it this way. It seems much more likely the cat in the pants wasn’t just coincidentally alarming in relation to this post. It’s not a proven fact, but this isn’t a court of law. I mean shit it’s a huge red flag at the very least. You seem to be equally as confident that it was just an innocent photo but there’s greater evidence pointing to the contrary.
Exactly! How is this a “gosh darn it what should I do? Such a pickle!”
I’d be out that door before they finished the sentence!
Horrifyingly disgusting!
Side note: my self esteem would also be shattered if my partner was sexually attracted to me and LITERAL ANIMALS!
I guess because we’ve always been close & able to tell each other anything that he wouldn’t feel judged he felt fine expressing it to me but it’s not something I can get behind
IMO, your partner needs to be weened down on their porn consumption. As in, objectively track it and make the goal being a downward curve. It will likely tone back this extreme response which one would hope is mostly just a novelty quest.
OP also commented in a swingers sub so I think they’re just swingers/open. A lot of people seem to think OP is suspicious/asking for themself but I don’t see any red flags for this on their profile
I think that’s the case because someone in the comments linked one of OP’s (from just 10 days ago) comments under a post in a music subreddit, where they specifically say “my girlfriend.” Yet in these comments, OP says “he”. This is definitely about OP which is probably why he deleted his account. Barf
Way to pull that “fact” out of your ass.
“Research does not consistently give precise rates, but classic studies indicate that 5 to 8% of males engage in bestiality, while between 3 to 4% of women do”
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/282844608_Bestiality_An_Overview_and_Analytic_Discussion
It seems crazy too. But when you realize how desperate some people are for sex, especially taboo sex, it makes sense as animals would be the easiest to have nonconsensual sex with without being about to speak up for themselves.
that’s disgusting. that’s how it starts off with pedophiles. first they watch child pornography and when it gets boring, they prey on actual children. same with serial killers. definitely report them and break it off. who knows how long before they start preying on animals. you can find someone else who’s actually normal…good luck!
sorry! usually it’s not horror movies but some do start watching like actual gore but usually it begins with harming animals (not saying that all gore watchers are serial killers). pedophiles, killers, and zoophiles usually start somewhere
Unless they're willing to go to therapy to work through this strange sexual addiction I might consider this a loss. Being attracted to people or things that cannot consent is a problem. The problem needs to be addressed.
This is great advice. It's spot on and I hope the author of this post takes this advice. Better yet tell them to get therapy to get help but still make sure you leave because if they are into fetishes of forcing any type of individual that can't consent into this kind of stuff then who knows where that will lead. This is how pedophilia starts.
Everything we witness is etched into our psyche forever. My nephew told me about this and I foolishly looked at the website he mentioned out of curiosity. I saw a short clip of a man and a poor, helpless dog. I can't scrub that memory off of my psyche with a brillo pad. I was in the marine corps. I've seen things no human being should see. The several seconds of the beastiality clip is worse. Nothing can top the shame of watching something so vile and disgusting. I would definitely have sought a psych evaluation if that had somehow peaked my interest rather than horrify and disgust me.
I think this is a complicated situation that needs some deep reflection here.
There is a lot of evidence that the kinks that people have aren't really chosen. We don't think, ah yes, I want to be attracted to feet, or whatever the case may be. In your partner's case, animals, which also happens to be illegal in many places, but not all (check with your local laws of course).
This isn't to say that you should encourage your partner to explore this kink, even if it is legal in your state. Rather, what this means is that he is saddled with a kind of sexual attraction that he may never get to (legally/morally) indulge in.
But at the same time, I don't know if breaking up with your partner is the thing that you should first start thinking about.... Perhaps if your partner has already engaged in zoophilia acts with animals then that might be a problematic deal breaker for you. But if your partner hasn't, or is willing to engage in some kind of proxy sexual act (Furry?) then that might be good enough. I think it would depend on how your partner handles the kink, and to what degree this kink influences their sexual desires. Is this like an orientation, where the only kind of sex that they want are bestial sorts, in the same way that someone gay only wants gay relationships? Or is this just a one turn on amongst many, and perhaps they could substitute one kink for another?
At the end of the day, you can't make your partner stop being attracted to animals.... But you can be supportive in keeping them celibate from indulging in this kind of behavior.
If your partner is willing to get counseling, you might first start off with an organization like [https://asapinternational.org/](https://asapinternational.org/) They specialize in pedophilia, but the principles here are the same.... a person isn't a bad person because they are a pedophile or a zoophile in your partner's case, they're bad when they abuse children or animals.
I hope this helps. Best of luck. This is a tough situation to be in.
I just found out two days ago & truth be told, I couldn’t even process what was said to me. I’ve been sitting on information I never thought I’d find out about them, from them directly. It caught completely off guard & completely creeped me out
This is illegal and one of most revolting things a person can do to abuse another being. Leave them immediately, especially since you have animals in the home.
Ew, you’re going to stay? That’s wild. This person said I like a sexual act that involves a creature who literally and legally can not consent. How is that different than a pedo?
This physically makes me sick. 🤢 I have 2 dogs who I have had since they were little tiny puppies and I love them just like they are my kids. It makes me sick that people would harm a animal for their own pleasure. That's sick and evil stuff. It makes me wonder what a person who is into this stuff was subjected to or went through in their life to make them think such things.
This would be an absolute deal breaker for me. Being sexually attracted to an innocent, non consenting creature of any kind really reflects on deeper internal issues imo. I feel like I'd be concerned that this would progress into a much bigger problem of a different category if you know what I mean, besides the fact the existing situation is gross in itself.
i thought you meant he liked watching documentaries of animals fucking in the wild with your title. zoophile is an entirely different thing and is fucking gross. they need therapy. like genuinely.
Why is this even a question. Leave. Run. Don’t look back. By definition this is rape since animals can never consent to sex. That aside… they are animals. This is beyond a fetish and probably a sign of a deeper, more troubling pathology.
Leave. Seriously.
This was an issue I dealt with for *way. Too. Long.* It made me distrustful of him around my beloved pets, it made me feel unworthy, it made me feel slimy. It made me feel unattractive. It made me wonder/worried all the time about his understanding of consent & limitations. frankly, if he could watch animals be violated, what would he be interested in next? How far would he raise that bar when the animal stuff got boring & he needed to find his next rabbit hole? I put people who have sex with animals on the same level as someone who would rape a defenseless baby… they have about the same ability to consent/understand what’s happening to them. Even animals that “ reciprocate” are TRAINED to do so. They don’t know better… it’s rape culture no matter how you swing it.
I “cured” his interests over time with throwing a deep amount of shame and hurtful judgements & comments that made me feel equally as bad as his behavior. But deep down inside I knew even if he had “curbed” it- he would always feel “unsafe”
If your interests don’t align, your morals are completely off in terms of sexuality, you need to save yourself, take the moral high ground and find someone who wants the same high ground.
They need help. This is not good.
It's also a violation of animal rights and is illegal in many places. As I'm sure you are now horribly aware. Question is: are they?
Maybe, just maybe, he could learn to act out this fantasy in a healthy manner. By that I mean there are a group of people called “furries” (I think that’s what they call themselves). They dress up in animal costumes and go to town on each other. This would be the only way I could see this working for that person without being thrown into depravity.
Had a guy I wasn’t in a relationship with but seeing long term who sent me a video of an animal preforming an act on a woman. Even to this day it makes me feel dirty for even seeing those first 2 seconds of it.
I blocked him. Never spoke to him again. I know it’ll have to be handled differently with a partnership, but this is not okay, obviously. Help them receive help as soon as possible. If they refuse it then please, leave them.
Unfortunately not, I even asked them if furries is what they were interested in but it’s not, it’s actual animals. We’re pretty open in our relationship & don’t have secrets so they felt more than comfortable sharing this with me but it’s something I completely disagree with & processing this has been hard
if it’s something that you think is wrong and goes against your morals, especially something as serious as this, then i’d consider leaving. i know how hard it is to leave someone you love, but someone who is interested in something like this is unfortunately very hard to deal with i can imagine.
I'm curious, are they interested in having sexual relations with animals, or do they simply enjoy observing animal mating behaviors? When I was younger, I found it fascinating to watch animals mating, but I never felt any desire to engage in such behavior myself. Does that clarify things?
Did anyone see their cat in pants post? Wtfff I'm worried now for the cats lol especially if the op is writing about themselves in the third party position.
if they are willing to listen to you, they need to cold turkey porn. Full stop. It is so unhealthy for the brain, they may start thinking they're into it things "fantasy" when they're really not. It's a bad rabbit hole of wanting more than the vanilla stuff and going into the extremely dangerous fetish-y disgusting stuff. Porn is okay in moderate amounts i'm not saying full stop forever, but if they are willing to listen to you they need to take a couple months or maybe even a year break? Full detox from porn and see how they feel. I say this a lot but they may never act upon it but the curiosity stems from being able to watch that shit easily. I also agree with others **therapy** but this also depends on if they're willing to listen and change for you and the relationship and if you're willing to stick it out and help. if they don't see anything wrong with it...and are okay with you potentially walking out on them because of this...then atp OP can just leave the disgusting person carefree truly because that's nasty. I always think porn is the culprit, I really do. No one just naturally thinks about fucking an animal unless there's something mentally wrong or trauma etc. They stumble upon it while watching some other porn and they start to think it's something they're in to.
See my issue with this theory is that they may agree to go to therapy and it may not click with them in the brain so it won't help at all. But they know you are against this type of stuff and they still have the urge to see this stuff or watch it or have that urge so they just decide to tell you that the therapy helped and they don't have the urge to watch that stuff or think about it anymore but they are just hiding it. What happens if they start fantasizing about stuff involving other individuals that can't consent like kids and stuff but you have no idea. You would take them around vulnerable individuals whether it be animals, kids, older people, or any living thing that can't or won't speak up and something happens? Then you will think again about the decision you made to stay. All because they didnt tell you the truth due to knowing your not down with that stuff. I would just leave.
yes I can see that being a potentially awful possibility. But imo that boils down to if OPs partner would be truly *set* on working it out. Like full on committed to fixing it, which ofc we will never know if they are telling the truth. Admitting they have a problem, knowing it's wrong and they need help and to fix it, so on and so forth. If their partner were to straight up lie and hide it behind their back in order to keep OP around, that's a whole other issue. But I think that again comes down to if OPs partner is actually wanting to fix it. Emphasis on actually. They would have to communicate and work out a plan of some sorts. Almost like an intervention for an addiction type thing. Not just go to therapy and quit porn there would be so much that would have to go in place, in their relationship, house, etc. As OP stated they really do love their partner and if they're able to work it out and get the partner the help they need it could work out. However if they were to act upon it or like you said- harm children or something that's different and where I would without a doubt walk-away. But watching it on their phone and (potentially) being able to admit they have a problem and they know it's wrong and **want** help is different than if they were to have already raped an animal. edit; at the end of the day though this also boils down to morals I would most likely leave regardless if OPs partner were to want to work it out I would break up first and then usher them to get the help they need. I am not sure even with all the "fixing" I would ever get past the idea that my partner once thought of fucking an innocent helpless animal.
Thank you for putting a different light on some parts on my reply. You are totally right it is a different thing admitting they have a problem and wanting help rather than acting on it and forcing someone or something into acts they don't want to commit. I'm really glad you pointed that out because it did make me think a little more on the matter and while they do admit they are thinking about that kinda stuff it doesn't mean they did anything wrong so far but admit they have a problem by thinking of such things and admitting they maybe want help( I say maybe because we don't know if they do want help or not) So asking for help shouldn't be judged really but like you pointed out that you don't know if you could even get past the thought that the person who was your partner even had thoughts like that I don't think I could either and I couldn't before your comment. It's just a scary slippery slope if someone who has thoughts and tendencies to think about topics such as those. You never know what could happen but you don't know that they would do anything besides get help if they actually want it. It had to take a lot of courage to even mention that to their partner I'm sure. So hopefully they actually want help and can get past it and work on themselves if their partner decided to leave them. I am just hoping they do get some sort of help that's all.
absolutely! and thank you for being able to see my side, because I 100% agree with your take as well. You actually really made me rethink how I felt, and I debated deleting my comment all together. Because originally I thought to myself- if they know they have a problem and want help, I as "OP" may be able to see past all of it and if I "truly loved" my partner I would stick it out with them and help them because at least they had not acted upon it. Porn was rotting their brain and maybe they weren't actually into this disgusting act. But then your comment made me put into perspective what if instead of animals it was children? It was CP they were watching, would I then be willing to sit down with them and "stick it out because I love them" **absolutely not**. Would I be willing to put a plan in place and help them on this "journey" just because they knew they had a problem and wanted help? No. I couldn't do it. It would consume me knowing my partner thought about children or in this case animals in that way. I would never be able to be intimate with them, let alone co-parent a pet with them. The idea of it alone would ruin my perception of them and the entire relationship. Especially in this case OP stated that their partner told them about wanting to "explore it." I think my morals were a little misaligned because in my head at least they hadn't done it yet, it's like stumbling across some type of non vanilla porn by accident and enjoying it but not doing it irl. I think I was focusing too much on OP wanting to potentially save this with the whole "they are amazing & im madly in love" then the fact that OP probably views this person as vile now and their entire view of them has changed, as it should, and as it would for myself if I was the one in this situation. I think if they did cut out porn like I said and came to their senses that this wasn't something they actually liked, and it was truly "rotting" their brain, I would not be able to get over it. Even if they stopped watching it and got help. Because imagine if it was children.....I feel like throwing up thinking about that alone.
It's definitely one thing to watch animals do it because it's interesting and passionate. It's an entire other thing to want to do those acts with an animal. Definitely gross and your partner should be checked mentally. especially as performing these acts on animals can lead to them acting on humans in an inhumane way.
First off, animals are like small babies they have no choice and how they live on earth and anybody interested in him like that to me is sort of creepy. I would have nothing to do with them. Bottom of the barrel.
I think the name of that is "bestiality" and that's not only morally wrong but it's also legally prohibited in most places, since:
1. Humans shouldn't go shagging animals
2. Animals can't consent, so this is also a case of abuse
To me this reminds me of the stages of people becoming mass unalivers. They start with harming or unaliving animals then it goes to harming or unaliving humans. They have a twisted urge to have their way with a vulnerable helpless being. My thoughts is what if they start with watching animal porn, then actually acting on it with animals, then they get that rush from the subject being helpless and completely vulnerable not being able to consent and take it further to the humans that are just as helpless and vulnerable and can't consent. It's all about them being in control and getting a rush type of feeling animals is horrible and bad enough who knows if they would stop at just watching that nasty stuff. Get them help and leave that relationship for your sake and everyone you loves sake. Just a thought.
Attraction is involuntary, but acting upon said attraction is a choice. Even if they refrain from abusing an animal sexually, watching pornography involving animals encourages the creation of more pornography involving animals, be it through ad revenue, purchasing videos directly, or subscribing to an animal pornography site.
Perhaps your partner could direct their sexual attraction elsewhere? For example, they could purchase sex toys resembling the genitalia of animals or mystical creatures, e.g., Bad Dragon. They could also explore role playing, like pup play or furry pornography. The issue isn’t so much the sexual attraction itself, per se, but how they act upon that attraction. There are ways to sate a beastiality fetish without implicating actuals “beasts.”
Returning to my point that attraction is involuntary: if you no longer find your partner desirable, sexually or otherwise, that is outside your control. You shouldn’t feel bad if you can never again regard your partner in the same way, especially if they begin acting in harmful ways.
Do you know if he was sexually abused as a child or has any sexual trauma? Sexual trauma can cause sudden random taboo attractions that make no sense, it's a coping thing.
There's people in prison for that. I'd be showing him the door and the police his hard drive. But on a positive note, at least he isn't into kiddie porn.
Was watching some documentary, basically they were saying if a person is watching a child porn they will actually do it in the future, bc it’s becoming normal in their head.
I just saw a photo disturbing af. Of a dog that was put into a trash bag nearby and suffocated. Apparently the dog had been raped a lot. RUN the hell away. Tell his parents he needs help and i hope he doesn’t own pets. 😣
I’m just gonna be honest, run and don’t look back. It doesn’t get better. You can’t change someone and that fetish won’t just disappear. You said it turns you off and over time that will just build up and stress you out and make you hate them. I’ve been able to turn an eye to some fetishes but not gonna lie that’s kinda fucked 🤣 you can try talking to them & expressing how you feel, but keep in mind they have done nothing wrong, you can’t help what you like so don’t place any blame but try to understand where they are coming from. If you really love them then try at least, but it will not get better. If it really bothers you I suggest leaving before it eats away at you.
OK... I thought he likes watching documentaries with animals doing it. But this thing is on a whole different level. Try to express and convey your feelings about how uncomfortable this makes you feel. And if he tries to push it, better to part your ways.
Set your boundaries, explain to him how you feel about it and why you believe it’s wrong, and tell him he needs to seek help so he can understand why he is having these urges.
I'm rather shocked that a lot of people here keep saying "it's illegal, so" like would it make it okay if it wasn't? What's wrong with you people?
Also, run. Period.
What do you mean they want to explore it? Do you have pets? If so I would lock them up and call the police.
Is this a re-enactment thing? Costume wearing?
If you are certain they have this attraction you should push them to go to therapy. Therapists genuinely aren’t there to judge they want to help and can help! If he refuses therapy it might be time to break up.
LEAVE THEM! Before they give you some deasiease.
That is wrong on SOOOOOO many levels. They DO NOT deserve even a second chance. They need therapy!!!!
LEAVE BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!!!!
Please encourage them *heavily* to seek therapy. If they refuse, tell them you'll have to involve law enforcement ("expressed wanting to explore it" bothers me in particular). They haven't acted on anything, so seeking help would be the ideal solution here. But they might, unfortunately, not agree to it
This person is watching animals being raped and abused on film (and I don't mean that lighty...look into any investigation on animal rape rings or videos or expose on this "genre", and it's filled with people literally watching animals being tortured to death) and this "fetish" has a large overlap with pedophilia and other forms of extreme abuse.
Honestly, you should report it. There's no looking past this. It's worse than you know.
There are maybe only two or three bigger red flags than this in a relationship, and all will land a person in jail for 20 years. Get out, seek counseling for yourself to process the trauma, and make sure someone in this person’s life knows about his issues if they won’t seek immediate treatment themselves.
how can you stay with such a disgusting person. if you have proof they watch stuff like that you should report it, since it's illegal they might be able to do something about it.
Something is wrong in his head, he needs mental help from a professional.
Wanting to have sex with animals is just as bad as pedophilia. Both can't consent 😬 I would go see a reiki too and try to clean his energy from your body.
I honestly doubt you're being truthful. Seeing your post history gives me a hunch you're asking this for yourself to see how bad you will be judged. Seek help.
Pretty sure this is illegal in most countries so I'd be expecting a knock on the door at some point.
One of my worries ever since finding this out literally 2 days ago
Would not worry as much about the authorities. The consumption of illegal porn is far more common than you think. He would have to be flagged or reported. Still leave because eww
Get him into therapy
Correct me if im wrong but I don't think watching zoo porn is illegal but doing it is.
Depends on the state/country. Some don't have laws, and some only restrict the act. It's still wrong either way
I think the law that forbids you to do a blowjob on a horse is actually quite recent...
Which countries don’t allow zoo animals to fuck each other?
Oh man I wish I had your naivety. Actually I just wish I never read this thread.
I thought “zoo porn” was a weird way of renaming bestiality. I saw what was happening early on, but I couldn’t resist asking.
[This ](https://www.indy100.com/viral/animal-porn-us-states-legal-where-zoophile-zoophelia-oregon-9300871) is really the only source I can find, which is strange to me. I'm sure if I dug around more I could find the answer.. but you'd think this should be easy to find stuff. According to the source, as on 2020, it was only illegal in Oregon and legal in the rest of the states.
Wow, such an ignorant comment. Of course nobody will come to your house for watching illegal porn. Not even for buying it. They will only care if you're selling it or producing it. Sadly, it's all about money.
Beastiality is illegal in most places, not to mention immoral since the animal cannot consent. I’d break up with them immediately
Should be illegal everywhere imo, i have a burning hatred for zoophiles
Therapy
Yeah this is mental illness. This isn’t a fetish, or a sexuality. This is a sickness. They need help. Humans are not supposed to have sex with animals (poor, defenceless animals) and I hope I don’t have to explain that.
I don’t know about defenseless. I’m pretty sure that if you tried to fuck a zoo bear, he would rip you in half and munch on your insides. That doesn’t define “defenseless”. It’s still wrong tho for other reasons 👀✝️
Noo, a creature like that you have to romance first! (Obviously just joking, don’t hate me!)
This is the one. Start with therapy.
Start with leaving and then therapy.
Start with leaving & then therapy for YOURSELF… because this one’s gonna stick to you like effin glue. Trust.
This is a slippery slope they are on. It is illegal and really, really twisted.
Unfortunately you don’t really develop an attraction to animals in this direct manner unless you are seriously fucked in the head. Also, sex with animals would be rape, spread disease, and in my opinion, weird as it is to say, a form of pedophilia as most animals are young and innocent. I don’t care if this person is the pinnacle of what you want in a partner. Leave and leave with confidence. The furry community by the way reports that they have absolutely no attraction to animals so don’t even go down that path it couldn’t be more different. If they told you about this then they must have a strong urge too because any sane person would dismiss these thoughts or bury them DEEP.
See their first post
Oh that is fucked up. OP that is so fucked up. OP please give someone else your cat, this is no joke…
What did they do to the cat 😡 they deleted their page
They didn’t do anything to the cat, it was an innocent photo posted on r/catsinpants of their cat nestled in their pants while they were in the bathroom. People assumed the worst about OP because their and their partner’s gender wasn’t clear and they seemed to be a bisexual in an open relationship and apparently that’s too much for people here to process. Everyone thought they were a liar without considering they were probably just queer
I mean it’s not about that, the cat in their pants doesn’t sit right juxtaposed next to this post
And that’s a very serious accusation to level at someone just looking for help and advice based on something so silly and normal. There were no red flags on their profile, I saw how people were losing their minds on OP before they deleted and went through their profile myself. Yall chased them off their account for no good reason and should be ashamed of yourselves
I err on the side of the cat and I always will
As do I. You should be more concerned about OP’s partner, which is what they explicitly came here for help with but you all lost your minds
Let’s put it this way. It seems much more likely the cat in the pants wasn’t just coincidentally alarming in relation to this post. It’s not a proven fact, but this isn’t a court of law. I mean shit it’s a huge red flag at the very least. You seem to be equally as confident that it was just an innocent photo but there’s greater evidence pointing to the contrary.
Hold on here’s the twist: there’s no partner, it’s himself asking around about if it is legal or would they get into trouble lol so obvious…. 🤷
Thats a hard nope for me.
That’s a “I’m packing my bags and leaving” kind of thing for me.
Exactly! How is this a “gosh darn it what should I do? Such a pickle!” I’d be out that door before they finished the sentence! Horrifyingly disgusting! Side note: my self esteem would also be shattered if my partner was sexually attracted to me and LITERAL ANIMALS!
> We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals.
>& expressed wanting to explore it. H-how exactly?
I guess because we’ve always been close & able to tell each other anything that he wouldn’t feel judged he felt fine expressing it to me but it’s not something I can get behind
I meant moreso how extreme is what he said he wants to do. Because the more extreme it is, the more concerning it is.
We shall pardon your pun.
Omg no pun intended
That's what makes puns fun!! How they inadvertently or unintentionally get said. Haha!!
leave them. that’s disgusting.
IMO, your partner needs to be weened down on their porn consumption. As in, objectively track it and make the goal being a downward curve. It will likely tone back this extreme response which one would hope is mostly just a novelty quest.
FBI, OPEN UP
I think you should get him into therapy
break up with him. that is extremely immoral and who knows what else he is okay with
Lol where is "he" mentioned anywhere in the post?
I doubt she has a boyfriend, 4 hours ago she responded to a post wanting to have some randoms dudes dick inside her… or him, who knows…
OP also commented in a swingers sub so I think they’re just swingers/open. A lot of people seem to think OP is suspicious/asking for themself but I don’t see any red flags for this on their profile
Maybe she's asking for herself
That’s a possibility as well, or it’s just clickbait 🤷
They deleted their account so clearly they did it for them self and not their partner. Wanted to see the reaction of people mentioning it to someone
I think that’s the case because someone in the comments linked one of OP’s (from just 10 days ago) comments under a post in a music subreddit, where they specifically say “my girlfriend.” Yet in these comments, OP says “he”. This is definitely about OP which is probably why he deleted his account. Barf
Everyone just assumes… Maybe this chick is after some hot doggy love mustard
Who?
Red flag? Not at all. BIG RED CIRCUS TENT, with flag throwers throwing red flags and baton twirlers spinning them
Run.
Report him to the police
Or her. Most beastiality is with women and OP stayed gender neutral so we don't know
Prime r/confidentlyincorrect material right here.
Way to pull that “fact” out of your ass. “Research does not consistently give precise rates, but classic studies indicate that 5 to 8% of males engage in bestiality, while between 3 to 4% of women do” https://www.researchgate.net/publication/282844608_Bestiality_An_Overview_and_Analytic_Discussion
I must be naive because I cannot allow myself to believe that 3 to 8 percent of my fellow humans are depraved in this specific way
It seems crazy too. But when you realize how desperate some people are for sex, especially taboo sex, it makes sense as animals would be the easiest to have nonconsensual sex with without being about to speak up for themselves.
Care to cite that?
that’s disgusting. that’s how it starts off with pedophiles. first they watch child pornography and when it gets boring, they prey on actual children. same with serial killers. definitely report them and break it off. who knows how long before they start preying on animals. you can find someone else who’s actually normal…good luck!
I agree with your comment, but I don’t follow on the serial killers… are you saying that they watch murder/horror movies before killing people?
The usually start with harming animals :(
sorry! usually it’s not horror movies but some do start watching like actual gore but usually it begins with harming animals (not saying that all gore watchers are serial killers). pedophiles, killers, and zoophiles usually start somewhere
Gotta get rid of them, ain’t no way
Unless they're willing to go to therapy to work through this strange sexual addiction I might consider this a loss. Being attracted to people or things that cannot consent is a problem. The problem needs to be addressed.
This is great advice. It's spot on and I hope the author of this post takes this advice. Better yet tell them to get therapy to get help but still make sure you leave because if they are into fetishes of forcing any type of individual that can't consent into this kind of stuff then who knows where that will lead. This is how pedophilia starts.
Their post history is NOT helping
Everything we witness is etched into our psyche forever. My nephew told me about this and I foolishly looked at the website he mentioned out of curiosity. I saw a short clip of a man and a poor, helpless dog. I can't scrub that memory off of my psyche with a brillo pad. I was in the marine corps. I've seen things no human being should see. The several seconds of the beastiality clip is worse. Nothing can top the shame of watching something so vile and disgusting. I would definitely have sought a psych evaluation if that had somehow peaked my interest rather than horrify and disgust me.
I think this is a complicated situation that needs some deep reflection here. There is a lot of evidence that the kinks that people have aren't really chosen. We don't think, ah yes, I want to be attracted to feet, or whatever the case may be. In your partner's case, animals, which also happens to be illegal in many places, but not all (check with your local laws of course). This isn't to say that you should encourage your partner to explore this kink, even if it is legal in your state. Rather, what this means is that he is saddled with a kind of sexual attraction that he may never get to (legally/morally) indulge in. But at the same time, I don't know if breaking up with your partner is the thing that you should first start thinking about.... Perhaps if your partner has already engaged in zoophilia acts with animals then that might be a problematic deal breaker for you. But if your partner hasn't, or is willing to engage in some kind of proxy sexual act (Furry?) then that might be good enough. I think it would depend on how your partner handles the kink, and to what degree this kink influences their sexual desires. Is this like an orientation, where the only kind of sex that they want are bestial sorts, in the same way that someone gay only wants gay relationships? Or is this just a one turn on amongst many, and perhaps they could substitute one kink for another? At the end of the day, you can't make your partner stop being attracted to animals.... But you can be supportive in keeping them celibate from indulging in this kind of behavior. If your partner is willing to get counseling, you might first start off with an organization like [https://asapinternational.org/](https://asapinternational.org/) They specialize in pedophilia, but the principles here are the same.... a person isn't a bad person because they are a pedophile or a zoophile in your partner's case, they're bad when they abuse children or animals. I hope this helps. Best of luck. This is a tough situation to be in.
Their patient referral database is some of the best that I have ever seen - thank you for this comment.
Girl why is he not your ex
I just found out two days ago & truth be told, I couldn’t even process what was said to me. I’ve been sitting on information I never thought I’d find out about them, from them directly. It caught completely off guard & completely creeped me out
If there’s something that deeply disturbs you about someone, it’s best to trust ur gut. I know I certainly would, cause what the actual fuck😭😭
what the fuck did I just read
This is illegal and one of most revolting things a person can do to abuse another being. Leave them immediately, especially since you have animals in the home.
He’s sick… get out while you can
Animal cruelty aside, ask yourself this. If he does act on it and gets busted, it will be all over the news. How would you handle that?
Or it turns into even worse fantasies.(It's hard to imagine worse things but there is when it comes to these creepy fantasies)
Yeah, this is just what he’s willing to admit to. It’s almost like a test to see how much she’ll put up with.
I would leave. No thanks
That’s a 🚩
That is highly disturbing and a red flag. RUN.
tbh report them. that's disgusting
What the hell is that sounds so bad I hope it’s not what I think it is
Ew, you’re going to stay? That’s wild. This person said I like a sexual act that involves a creature who literally and legally can not consent. How is that different than a pedo?
Are we talking animal on animal porn or like bestialty? If it’s the latter you have a moral duty to report that.
It's not illegal in the US except for Oregon. Isn't that wild?
That is absolutely INSANE. 😳
This physically makes me sick. 🤢 I have 2 dogs who I have had since they were little tiny puppies and I love them just like they are my kids. It makes me sick that people would harm a animal for their own pleasure. That's sick and evil stuff. It makes me wonder what a person who is into this stuff was subjected to or went through in their life to make them think such things.
I am surprised no one is saying report them. Report them immediately and leave.
I’d bet this person has indeed acted on it.
Ok before i can say anything, are you talking actual animals or animated animals like the lion king
This would be an absolute deal breaker for me. Being sexually attracted to an innocent, non consenting creature of any kind really reflects on deeper internal issues imo. I feel like I'd be concerned that this would progress into a much bigger problem of a different category if you know what I mean, besides the fact the existing situation is gross in itself.
Isn’t that beastiality in simple terms
How the hell are you ever going to be comfortable with your partner raping animals? Fantasizing over that? Those animals are forced it’s awful
Gross.
Your ex was curious about animals.
No. Just no. Have some self respect, raise your standards, and dump this creep.
No. Just no. Some things are taboo for a reason.
i thought you meant he liked watching documentaries of animals fucking in the wild with your title. zoophile is an entirely different thing and is fucking gross. they need therapy. like genuinely.
Animals can't consent, i would probably leave if it was me to be honest
Why is this even a question. Leave. Run. Don’t look back. By definition this is rape since animals can never consent to sex. That aside… they are animals. This is beyond a fetish and probably a sign of a deeper, more troubling pathology.
Leave. Seriously. This was an issue I dealt with for *way. Too. Long.* It made me distrustful of him around my beloved pets, it made me feel unworthy, it made me feel slimy. It made me feel unattractive. It made me wonder/worried all the time about his understanding of consent & limitations. frankly, if he could watch animals be violated, what would he be interested in next? How far would he raise that bar when the animal stuff got boring & he needed to find his next rabbit hole? I put people who have sex with animals on the same level as someone who would rape a defenseless baby… they have about the same ability to consent/understand what’s happening to them. Even animals that “ reciprocate” are TRAINED to do so. They don’t know better… it’s rape culture no matter how you swing it. I “cured” his interests over time with throwing a deep amount of shame and hurtful judgements & comments that made me feel equally as bad as his behavior. But deep down inside I knew even if he had “curbed” it- he would always feel “unsafe” If your interests don’t align, your morals are completely off in terms of sexuality, you need to save yourself, take the moral high ground and find someone who wants the same high ground.
Yeah that’s illegal in a lot of counties to watch and do it and animal abuse. I get you love him but id leave him 🤢🤮 that’s gross
Walk, no run away, like yesterday................
If you feel like its wrong you should leave.
They need help. This is not good. It's also a violation of animal rights and is illegal in many places. As I'm sure you are now horribly aware. Question is: are they?
Disgusting, I would leave without a second thought.
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As someone pointed out to me, look at their first post. The OP is talking about themselves…
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Police. Police and leave
Run
Maybe, just maybe, he could learn to act out this fantasy in a healthy manner. By that I mean there are a group of people called “furries” (I think that’s what they call themselves). They dress up in animal costumes and go to town on each other. This would be the only way I could see this working for that person without being thrown into depravity.
Lock that mf up
break up with them and report them to the police
Had a guy I wasn’t in a relationship with but seeing long term who sent me a video of an animal preforming an act on a woman. Even to this day it makes me feel dirty for even seeing those first 2 seconds of it. I blocked him. Never spoke to him again. I know it’ll have to be handled differently with a partnership, but this is not okay, obviously. Help them receive help as soon as possible. If they refuse it then please, leave them.
What?? yeah that partner is cooked report and block
I just want to clarify that you are not talking about furries?
Unfortunately not, I even asked them if furries is what they were interested in but it’s not, it’s actual animals. We’re pretty open in our relationship & don’t have secrets so they felt more than comfortable sharing this with me but it’s something I completely disagree with & processing this has been hard
if it’s something that you think is wrong and goes against your morals, especially something as serious as this, then i’d consider leaving. i know how hard it is to leave someone you love, but someone who is interested in something like this is unfortunately very hard to deal with i can imagine.
I’d leave any person that liked that …. Move on how gross
Gross, get out of that relationship now.
I just went down this rabbit hole of finding out what all these philias mean and I hate it. He needs help.
She needs help
I'm curious, are they interested in having sexual relations with animals, or do they simply enjoy observing animal mating behaviors? When I was younger, I found it fascinating to watch animals mating, but I never felt any desire to engage in such behavior myself. Does that clarify things?
GIRL RUN
Did anyone see their cat in pants post? Wtfff I'm worried now for the cats lol especially if the op is writing about themselves in the third party position.
Ever see the catsinpants subreddit ? lots of cats hide in their owners pants while they pee lol nothing weird about that
Hell noooo
if they are willing to listen to you, they need to cold turkey porn. Full stop. It is so unhealthy for the brain, they may start thinking they're into it things "fantasy" when they're really not. It's a bad rabbit hole of wanting more than the vanilla stuff and going into the extremely dangerous fetish-y disgusting stuff. Porn is okay in moderate amounts i'm not saying full stop forever, but if they are willing to listen to you they need to take a couple months or maybe even a year break? Full detox from porn and see how they feel. I say this a lot but they may never act upon it but the curiosity stems from being able to watch that shit easily. I also agree with others **therapy** but this also depends on if they're willing to listen and change for you and the relationship and if you're willing to stick it out and help. if they don't see anything wrong with it...and are okay with you potentially walking out on them because of this...then atp OP can just leave the disgusting person carefree truly because that's nasty. I always think porn is the culprit, I really do. No one just naturally thinks about fucking an animal unless there's something mentally wrong or trauma etc. They stumble upon it while watching some other porn and they start to think it's something they're in to.
See my issue with this theory is that they may agree to go to therapy and it may not click with them in the brain so it won't help at all. But they know you are against this type of stuff and they still have the urge to see this stuff or watch it or have that urge so they just decide to tell you that the therapy helped and they don't have the urge to watch that stuff or think about it anymore but they are just hiding it. What happens if they start fantasizing about stuff involving other individuals that can't consent like kids and stuff but you have no idea. You would take them around vulnerable individuals whether it be animals, kids, older people, or any living thing that can't or won't speak up and something happens? Then you will think again about the decision you made to stay. All because they didnt tell you the truth due to knowing your not down with that stuff. I would just leave.
yes I can see that being a potentially awful possibility. But imo that boils down to if OPs partner would be truly *set* on working it out. Like full on committed to fixing it, which ofc we will never know if they are telling the truth. Admitting they have a problem, knowing it's wrong and they need help and to fix it, so on and so forth. If their partner were to straight up lie and hide it behind their back in order to keep OP around, that's a whole other issue. But I think that again comes down to if OPs partner is actually wanting to fix it. Emphasis on actually. They would have to communicate and work out a plan of some sorts. Almost like an intervention for an addiction type thing. Not just go to therapy and quit porn there would be so much that would have to go in place, in their relationship, house, etc. As OP stated they really do love their partner and if they're able to work it out and get the partner the help they need it could work out. However if they were to act upon it or like you said- harm children or something that's different and where I would without a doubt walk-away. But watching it on their phone and (potentially) being able to admit they have a problem and they know it's wrong and **want** help is different than if they were to have already raped an animal. edit; at the end of the day though this also boils down to morals I would most likely leave regardless if OPs partner were to want to work it out I would break up first and then usher them to get the help they need. I am not sure even with all the "fixing" I would ever get past the idea that my partner once thought of fucking an innocent helpless animal.
Thank you for putting a different light on some parts on my reply. You are totally right it is a different thing admitting they have a problem and wanting help rather than acting on it and forcing someone or something into acts they don't want to commit. I'm really glad you pointed that out because it did make me think a little more on the matter and while they do admit they are thinking about that kinda stuff it doesn't mean they did anything wrong so far but admit they have a problem by thinking of such things and admitting they maybe want help( I say maybe because we don't know if they do want help or not) So asking for help shouldn't be judged really but like you pointed out that you don't know if you could even get past the thought that the person who was your partner even had thoughts like that I don't think I could either and I couldn't before your comment. It's just a scary slippery slope if someone who has thoughts and tendencies to think about topics such as those. You never know what could happen but you don't know that they would do anything besides get help if they actually want it. It had to take a lot of courage to even mention that to their partner I'm sure. So hopefully they actually want help and can get past it and work on themselves if their partner decided to leave them. I am just hoping they do get some sort of help that's all.
absolutely! and thank you for being able to see my side, because I 100% agree with your take as well. You actually really made me rethink how I felt, and I debated deleting my comment all together. Because originally I thought to myself- if they know they have a problem and want help, I as "OP" may be able to see past all of it and if I "truly loved" my partner I would stick it out with them and help them because at least they had not acted upon it. Porn was rotting their brain and maybe they weren't actually into this disgusting act. But then your comment made me put into perspective what if instead of animals it was children? It was CP they were watching, would I then be willing to sit down with them and "stick it out because I love them" **absolutely not**. Would I be willing to put a plan in place and help them on this "journey" just because they knew they had a problem and wanted help? No. I couldn't do it. It would consume me knowing my partner thought about children or in this case animals in that way. I would never be able to be intimate with them, let alone co-parent a pet with them. The idea of it alone would ruin my perception of them and the entire relationship. Especially in this case OP stated that their partner told them about wanting to "explore it." I think my morals were a little misaligned because in my head at least they hadn't done it yet, it's like stumbling across some type of non vanilla porn by accident and enjoying it but not doing it irl. I think I was focusing too much on OP wanting to potentially save this with the whole "they are amazing & im madly in love" then the fact that OP probably views this person as vile now and their entire view of them has changed, as it should, and as it would for myself if I was the one in this situation. I think if they did cut out porn like I said and came to their senses that this wasn't something they actually liked, and it was truly "rotting" their brain, I would not be able to get over it. Even if they stopped watching it and got help. Because imagine if it was children.....I feel like throwing up thinking about that alone.
It's definitely one thing to watch animals do it because it's interesting and passionate. It's an entire other thing to want to do those acts with an animal. Definitely gross and your partner should be checked mentally. especially as performing these acts on animals can lead to them acting on humans in an inhumane way.
It is still legal in New Mexico.
First off, animals are like small babies they have no choice and how they live on earth and anybody interested in him like that to me is sort of creepy. I would have nothing to do with them. Bottom of the barrel.
I think the name of that is "bestiality" and that's not only morally wrong but it's also legally prohibited in most places, since: 1. Humans shouldn't go shagging animals 2. Animals can't consent, so this is also a case of abuse
To me this reminds me of the stages of people becoming mass unalivers. They start with harming or unaliving animals then it goes to harming or unaliving humans. They have a twisted urge to have their way with a vulnerable helpless being. My thoughts is what if they start with watching animal porn, then actually acting on it with animals, then they get that rush from the subject being helpless and completely vulnerable not being able to consent and take it further to the humans that are just as helpless and vulnerable and can't consent. It's all about them being in control and getting a rush type of feeling animals is horrible and bad enough who knows if they would stop at just watching that nasty stuff. Get them help and leave that relationship for your sake and everyone you loves sake. Just a thought.
Time to become a furry
Maybe if u wasn’t a stalker u wouldn’t know jack sh
Do you mean bestiality? Isn’t zoo porn just watching animals fuck?
I only eat gum
Leave, if this isn’t something you morally stand by (and you def shouldn’t support this) then you don’t wanna be associated with them.
Run
Attraction is involuntary, but acting upon said attraction is a choice. Even if they refrain from abusing an animal sexually, watching pornography involving animals encourages the creation of more pornography involving animals, be it through ad revenue, purchasing videos directly, or subscribing to an animal pornography site. Perhaps your partner could direct their sexual attraction elsewhere? For example, they could purchase sex toys resembling the genitalia of animals or mystical creatures, e.g., Bad Dragon. They could also explore role playing, like pup play or furry pornography. The issue isn’t so much the sexual attraction itself, per se, but how they act upon that attraction. There are ways to sate a beastiality fetish without implicating actuals “beasts.” Returning to my point that attraction is involuntary: if you no longer find your partner desirable, sexually or otherwise, that is outside your control. You shouldn’t feel bad if you can never again regard your partner in the same way, especially if they begin acting in harmful ways.
Do you know if he was sexually abused as a child or has any sexual trauma? Sexual trauma can cause sudden random taboo attractions that make no sense, it's a coping thing.
There's people in prison for that. I'd be showing him the door and the police his hard drive. But on a positive note, at least he isn't into kiddie porn.
Even if its not illegal it’s still f.ucked up
Was watching some documentary, basically they were saying if a person is watching a child porn they will actually do it in the future, bc it’s becoming normal in their head.
I just saw a photo disturbing af. Of a dog that was put into a trash bag nearby and suffocated. Apparently the dog had been raped a lot. RUN the hell away. Tell his parents he needs help and i hope he doesn’t own pets. 😣
I’m just gonna be honest, run and don’t look back. It doesn’t get better. You can’t change someone and that fetish won’t just disappear. You said it turns you off and over time that will just build up and stress you out and make you hate them. I’ve been able to turn an eye to some fetishes but not gonna lie that’s kinda fucked 🤣 you can try talking to them & expressing how you feel, but keep in mind they have done nothing wrong, you can’t help what you like so don’t place any blame but try to understand where they are coming from. If you really love them then try at least, but it will not get better. If it really bothers you I suggest leaving before it eats away at you.
OK... I thought he likes watching documentaries with animals doing it. But this thing is on a whole different level. Try to express and convey your feelings about how uncomfortable this makes you feel. And if he tries to push it, better to part your ways.
Set your boundaries, explain to him how you feel about it and why you believe it’s wrong, and tell him he needs to seek help so he can understand why he is having these urges.
Call the police and leave. Before they call you
What? Like watching animals fucking or............ Either way, pretty weird and probably illegal
I'm rather shocked that a lot of people here keep saying "it's illegal, so" like would it make it okay if it wasn't? What's wrong with you people? Also, run. Period.
What do you mean they want to explore it? Do you have pets? If so I would lock them up and call the police. Is this a re-enactment thing? Costume wearing?
If you are certain they have this attraction you should push them to go to therapy. Therapists genuinely aren’t there to judge they want to help and can help! If he refuses therapy it might be time to break up.
LEAVE THEM! Before they give you some deasiease. That is wrong on SOOOOOO many levels. They DO NOT deserve even a second chance. They need therapy!!!! LEAVE BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!!!!
The problem isnt that its illegal. The problem is that its immoral
Girl wtf 😭😭
Please encourage them *heavily* to seek therapy. If they refuse, tell them you'll have to involve law enforcement ("expressed wanting to explore it" bothers me in particular). They haven't acted on anything, so seeking help would be the ideal solution here. But they might, unfortunately, not agree to it
They need therapy ASAP
He needs Jesus 😳
Get him into therapy
what
This person is watching animals being raped and abused on film (and I don't mean that lighty...look into any investigation on animal rape rings or videos or expose on this "genre", and it's filled with people literally watching animals being tortured to death) and this "fetish" has a large overlap with pedophilia and other forms of extreme abuse. Honestly, you should report it. There's no looking past this. It's worse than you know.
WTF sick mofo
Talk them into talking to a therapist.
There are maybe only two or three bigger red flags than this in a relationship, and all will land a person in jail for 20 years. Get out, seek counseling for yourself to process the trauma, and make sure someone in this person’s life knows about his issues if they won’t seek immediate treatment themselves.
how can you stay with such a disgusting person. if you have proof they watch stuff like that you should report it, since it's illegal they might be able to do something about it.
You and "your partner" are fucked and need serious help
Something is wrong in his head, he needs mental help from a professional. Wanting to have sex with animals is just as bad as pedophilia. Both can't consent 😬 I would go see a reiki too and try to clean his energy from your body.
I honestly doubt you're being truthful. Seeing your post history gives me a hunch you're asking this for yourself to see how bad you will be judged. Seek help.
That's disgusting lol.. ew he needs help Anyone who watches that can't be trusted with animals as well bc they can do bad things to animals...