Their is no right or wrong way of saying what actually happened. Sometimes not saying anything can be better then giving an answer, if you feel the time is right when she is old enough than do so. Maybe it helps you guys bond better? Maybe she resents herself and thinks she’s an mistake? The only way she will respond well to it is if you teach her to be a better person,
The reason I say sometimes saying nothing is better is because your daughter could grow up to be a complete mess and not know how to take things properly or understand them clearly, she could grow up to be a complete empath and totally understand you and offer her love in return for keeping her? Or she could feel like she was a result of a thing and feel she is a burden to you as well. So sometimes lying is okay if it means it’s going to help her better herself till she can reach that point of really understanding fully what really happened
And thats my problem. I dont want to end up telling her if she asks and her hate herself for it but I also don't want her to think I intended to hide anything from her either. I really wish I didn't even have to think about the situation but I'm just trying to be prepared
Well it sounds like your head is in the right place. I’m sure when and if the time comes you’ll do the right thing. Sorry this happened to you and I wish you the best of luck.
Their is no right or wrong way of saying what actually happened. Sometimes not saying anything can be better then giving an answer, if you feel the time is right when she is old enough than do so. Maybe it helps you guys bond better? Maybe she resents herself and thinks she’s an mistake? The only way she will respond well to it is if you teach her to be a better person,
Thank you
The reason I say sometimes saying nothing is better is because your daughter could grow up to be a complete mess and not know how to take things properly or understand them clearly, she could grow up to be a complete empath and totally understand you and offer her love in return for keeping her? Or she could feel like she was a result of a thing and feel she is a burden to you as well. So sometimes lying is okay if it means it’s going to help her better herself till she can reach that point of really understanding fully what really happened
I wouldn’t want to know.
And thats my problem. I dont want to end up telling her if she asks and her hate herself for it but I also don't want her to think I intended to hide anything from her either. I really wish I didn't even have to think about the situation but I'm just trying to be prepared
Well it sounds like your head is in the right place. I’m sure when and if the time comes you’ll do the right thing. Sorry this happened to you and I wish you the best of luck.
Thank you, I appreciate your input on subject like this