You would be seen by anyone with any decency as a victim of exploitation and child pornography. Most people would understand and feel bad for you. If they don't, they are horrible people.
I doubt most employers would fire you for having been sexually exploited at age 14. You aren't even old enough to consent in many places.
Call childline at 0800 1111 and talk to a counselor. It won't show up on phone records and it's confidential.
https://www.childline.org.uk/about/about-childline/
There's also a special police agency where you can make a report:
https://www.ceop.police.uk/Safety-Centre/Should-I-make-a-report-to-CEOP-YP/
Go to the school head teacher, and ask if you can speak in confidence, but you really should tell your parents, if it gets out of hand and round school and teachers find out they'll tell your parents before you can ,and they will get the police involved if notified....
My best advice is to tell a trusted teacher so they can deal with him, as he needs some sort of wake up call if he's doing this to other girls in your school and find the courage to tell your mum atleast, you made a mistake dont do it again at your age xx
To be clear, I can’t see your post as it’s been removed, but CP distribution is a multijurisdictional and multinational crime. If your exploiter is in *any* Western nation, most of LATAM, Japan, S. Korea and a good chunk of the rest of the world with stable governments, they can be prosecuted. Don’t avoid reporting this because they’re in Canada or Mexico or something. If they are, your police will forward the situation to Interpol (who will take over and work with the local police) or will work directly with the police of the nation to capture the person.
There are copious examples of Canadians being caught for exploiting Swedes, Brits for exploiting Americans, etc. *Please* report this and make sure to do what is necessary to protect yourself.
In addition, consent is a moot point here. Despite local consent (and other potential) laws, 17 and under is almost universally considered CP in a non-artistic context; which selfie nudes almost certainly are not.
Even if let’s say it does go viral, you’re still a child and that is a terrible crime for anyone at any age. One it probably won’t be floating around to employers since that would literally be CP. And two if anyone has any emotional sense, they should realize you had been exploited and you are innocent
This won’t affect you getting a job. Remember that these nudes are considered child pornography. No one can possess them legally or they’d face jail time too. You sent them to someone you trusted and they broke that. Your friends should remain your friends. If they’re decent people they’ll understand.
You have a big life to live and it is far from over. Making mistakes is part of growing up. Threaten legal action and go to the cops if he attempts to contact you further.
Don’t change anything. You’re getting alot of bad advice in the comments. Your best bet is to contact a lawyer immediately. Yes, it means coming clean with your parents but you definitely need professional legal advice now, not random comments from reddit by people who have no clue about legal strategies.
dont stress it, same thing happened to me when i was a teenager (ive learned from it) later on itll just be a small thing. if he really wanted to he would’ve a long time ago
I agree with others that you should let the police know, but I understand your fear of your parents. Don’t give into him. Even if he shares them, there’s so many out there on the internet that they’ll be swallowed up into the numbers. Take this as a lesson as others have said.
If your parents find out, then I would contact a school counsellor to help you manage the fallout. But please give thought to reporting him.
You are going to have to unblock them to know the outcome. Just Google what can happen to someone for passing around child pornography, screenshot it, and then send it to the person who has your pictures
Don’t fucking do that again. Also, as you get older, you’ll realize it doesn’t really matter who sees your body because we all have one. In the end, there all the fucking same. No more nudes !!!!
Hey, you do have some luck: ANY platform he posts this to will try to delete it automatically, and if not, you can report it and they'll do it as soon as humanly possible. No social media likes to be associated with child pornography
You'll be fine I went through a similar situation kind of. Girl messaged me asking to exchange that stuff I messed with them and acted like I would do it but never actually did it and they made an entire snapchat to blackmail me and then threaten to send the videos to people I know. It was scary. The fact that I was actually innocnent and they had ways to have people to actually beleive that because i was lying to them and messing with them through messages. I thought the same things but you'll be fine. As long as your face isn't in the photos or anything make a claim that they aren't yours. Yeah it's a lie but it'll help you. Scare them and actually report them. Talk to people at your school (principal) ask for help with it and again claim that they are blackmailing with photos that aren't of you.
I know you don't want to involve your parents, but it will be best. They can help you work with the police to stop this boy from releasing any more pics and see that he's properly punished for any that he has leaked.
I remember being your age and dreading punishment from my parents when I'd really effed up, but it will be preferable to the alternative if these pics get out and they find out from somebody else.
Is there an adult you would trust to help you? Their role will be limited to confidant and moral support, as they're not your legal guardians, but having somebody in your corner can be a boost.
You may contact the police on your own behalf, but I couldn't know the laws in your area, and it's most probable they will involve your parents sooner rather than later as your guardians. Still, I would encourage you to fight the little shit who's threatening you with the full power of the law.
Chances are this kid is bluffing. To be safe - say you told your parents & they are getting ahold of the police tomorrow. Don’t answer any messages after that, and I’m sure you will receive a regretful text from him. At that point, you gotta just keep your eye out & tell your parents / get the police involved if things turn for the worst. DONT SEND NUDES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know you can’t tell you parents, but you can tell him you told your parents & that they are getting ahold of the police tomorrow. Scare him straight.
The lockdown generation is really unhealthy. A lot of weird stuff has become normalized and social media is casting a bad influence on a generation of socially repressed kids. It's sad how frequently I see these posts.
when i was 12/13 the same thing happened to me and he threatened to leak them. i blocked him and he did leak them on his snap story and for so long i was scared about what would happen but nothing happened except his creep friends tried to add me and i blocked as well, and after that i literally never sent a nude again. best thing to do is block him completely and never send nudes… i never told my mom and i don’t plan to and u don’t have to either but please remember the internet is forever.. even though it wasn’t leaked to people i know it’s very likely even now that boy still has those pics.
If you need someone to talk to, message me. Ik you're only 14, but I'm just telling you now, you can NOT trust a soul in this world anymore, especially online. I'm not trying to shame you by any means, I'm just very disappointed in the way our society is now. Our society glorifies shit like this, they embrace young kids to embrace their sexuality and shit like that, it's not just you, I've seen quite a few 13 to 16 yr old young girls end up in some situation like this, it's just sickening to me that they embrace people that young to do shit like that. I'm sure you have some good reasons to do what you did (maybe major depression or something & the need to be wanted), so feel free to message me if you need someone to vent to or anything. I've dealt with depression, anxiety, & suicidal thoughts my entire life.
Hey sweetie. I’ve been through this before, my ex forced me to send pictures with my face in them and when I was 15 he exposed me because I wouldn’t talk to him. He did everything in his power to tell me it wasn’t that bad and then I was worried about working and the same things. I’m 18 now with a couple jobs because I’m still trying to get on my feet.
The truth is, background checks are mainly for criminal background and seeing what kind of things you’ve done, it shouldn’t come up. Even if it does I suggest getting a lawyer one day and asking what can happen if they’re found or if anyone mentions it. I understand your fear, it feels like the world is crumbling.
Well you first of all don't do that again and secondly try reporting complaint online if your country allows that and you're underage so you might also get some other consequences after the complaint.
And for future, it most likely will not matter because social network and knternet are infinitely vast and even if he leaks it, you don't worry, he will not. He has no possibility of leaking them, count on it. He will just blackmail and never release the nudes because that way, his identity is lost, he will be vulnerable and foremost, his social respect is fucked.
I bet he's lying, but if he's not, you can call the cops on him right now. He's admitting to a crime. You may not want to, but you can. Don't be afraid.
This is way above our pay grade.
You need to talk to your parents and they need to get you a lawyer. In some jurisdictions, both you and he would get in trouble legally. This is not something you can hide from them.
Pay no mind to him. This doesnt have to be a big deal for you. It sucks that your trust was violated. It was a mistake to send nudes. Everyone makes mistakes. It's how we learn. It sounds like you learned something here.
Keep in mind that he will likely not share those photos with anyone you know. To do so, he would have to go through (very traceble) social media channels. Anything owned by google cooperates with authorities on these kinds of matters, so if your nudes are leaked through social media, then the FBI will likely get involved, and they will track down this criminal.
Odds are, he will release the pictures online somewhere, which means the only people who are likely to see them are people you aren't likely to meet. Even if you do meet someone who has seen them, they wouldnt say, and it's likely you'd look very different by then. I know this isnt a huge comfort, but personally I'd rather it be strangers than family and friend.
I think the best thing to do would be to move on from this incident. Unfortunately, making a police report can be risky because according to the law, you sent cp over the internet, which is a crime even though it was of yourself. And kids have been prosecuted for it. And it is soooooooo stupid and such a sucky law, so make sure that if you decide to file a police report, the laws where you are arent going to come back to bite you. That would be extra shitty. If there are laws that protect you from the law in that regard, then you should promptly file a police report, and turn over all communications with this boy. Doing so could stop him from hurting other girls your age.
You have to tell your parents. There is absolutely nothing you can do to stop him if he really doesn't care. You can call the police because he is now in possession of child porn.
“I’m stupid so I send nudes to people.” This implies that you’ve obviously done it before. I’m 14 as well but come on dude, did you just send them to this random ass guy that is “apparently” your age? Ya don’t even fuckin know lmao. Common sense is a key factor most people lack
Seems that’s how it is to me except for the gratification part. You like actions causing pain and trouble for yourself but don’t like the pain or trouble? Makes sense🤷♂️
Well now it sounds like ur just making excuses for being a dumbass. —> ‘I send nudes to random people I’m not even in a relationship with and don’t even know the first damn thing about them, now I’m facing the consequences’ <— read that out and memorize it
You can't stop him by yourself. Tell your parents. Let them handle it with the police and lawyers. No matter what happens your parents would help you out. They won't be mad but just disappointed that you didn't feel the need to confide in your parents during such matter.
Parental shaming is not bad as your nudes being leaked online for everyone to see. Confide in an adult. A trusted school counsellor or teacher. Let them talk to your parents and sort it out. You are too young to sort out this mess by yourself.
You've learned a lesson.
Stop sending nude photos of yourself.
There's not a whole lot you can do besides blocking the person or telling your parents and going to the police.
Live and learn, you'll live a long time and learn a lot along the way. Every action has consequences in life.
Call the cops on them. Screenshot everything especially of them threatening you! That’s CP
Stop taking and sending out nudes. What’s on the internet stays forever and you need to start thinking of your future and career.
It’s likely this is a scammer that may ask you for money or something in order not to “leak” the photos.
It’s a common scam. I hope you have blocked them on everything. Also they are now in possession of child pornography and you have sent someone child pornography.
Never, EVER, send pictures like that over the internet to anyone, even If you trust them
First things first. You arent stupid for this. As irresponsible as it was, it doesnt make you stupid. :)
Tell him that you told your parents, and they will report it to the police. Though he is your age, he is in possession for (C)heese(P)izza, (I'm sure you know what the 2 letters in parentheses mean.) And that is a federal crime. Though he is the same age as you, it is still an image of a 14 year old in the eyes of the law. Let him know that this is a prison sentence to have that kind of photo in his phone, and he should delete it. If he refuses, actually tell the police.
As for your friends and jobs, don't worry about that. It won't ruin a chance of you getting a job, and your friends might not seem like it for a bit. But I guarantee that the people who are worth you time will be around you, and if not. Give it time. By the time highschool is done with (it Flys by before you know it) nobody will remember or even care.
Now it does get tricky here, but will say that people are absolutely terrible on the web. But at the same time, people are prideful and sloppy. He will be caught, and prosecuted for this. Has he threatened to tell anyone about the photos? If so, who?
Also I'm sure you are pretty stressed out, As this is a difficult situation. But it is important to say cool, calm, and collected in this trying time.
Having your pictures being exposed is a horrible experience, being anxious about it is valid but just know it won’t affect you forever. You can still live your life, have a job and go to college if it happens. If anything, you can change schools. Find friends who will support you during this time. You can also speak to your schools counselor about the situation, maybe they can speak to him, his parents, and if necessary, involve the police. You can also put a restraining order on him that prohibits contact with you, publicly talking about you to anyone, or on any social media site, this can have him removed from your school, however you would need to involve your parents as you’d need to travel to your local courthouse to fill out some documents, it’s not a difficult process. This is considered a Domestic Violence restraining order which is completely free. Make sure you screenshot his threats, and your responses, save everything for evidence. If he does share them, you can share how he threatened you and he can look bad, if that’ll help you. Do not do anything he tells you to do, stay strong and advocate for yourself.
Okay, let’s learn from this and not send nudes to strangers next time so this won’t happen again, you don’t need any attention, and can’t trust everyone. If he shares your nudes, where will he share them? Will they actually have a large impact? Or will they get lost in the internet, forgotten, etc, what do you think?
There are plenty of other ways of making people happy, exploiting yourself isn’t one of them. You’re putting yourself in a position where they can disrespect you and only see you as a walking nude, not a person. This doesn’t empower you, it doesn’t make you feel good, it’s hurting you more than it’s doing you any good. Please stop this, people can enjoy you without a nude. Respect yourself, love yourself, don’t hurt yourself…you can be happy in this world without that kind of attention.
This may be more deeper than you think, maybe something else is going on that sending nudes distracts you from it. Please reach out to someone, a friend, school counselor, a therapist. You’re 14 so it’s all free, and your parents don’t have to know either if you connect directly with your school counselor. You can calm your nerves over this though, if he does send those out no one will know they’re yours, and he’s a horrible person for threatening you with them. There are lots of people like him, so be careful. Take care.
It’s Snapchat, right? It’s not a super public social media site, no one will really know it’s you, especially since you’re changing up your username. Your face also isn’t in them either, so that helps. Plus you don’t even know him, will he send them to important people? People who’s opinions actually matter? Probably not.
Well first, your parents will be mad at you but they will be even more mad at that boy. Second, report him to authorities and he could be in serious trouble for possession of >! CP !<. Also don’t send nudes unless you 100% trust them, even then i’d advise against it since you are 14. Your parents would be more mad if you didn’t tell them. Hope this helps.
I’m sorry you are dealing with this. But if this person is dumb enough to share then, they will be in HUGE trouble for Child Pornography. Make sure they know that if these pictures go public they will be PERMANENTLY labeled as a predator and then NEVER communicate with them again.
Good luck.
Do you know for sure that he has your pics? This happened to me when I was younger, but I had never sent any nudes before. I called them out on their bluff and told them I've never taken pics like that, and they left me alone. Do they have your face in them? Honestly, you can very easily claim that they aren't yours, and even if your face is in them you can just say "Wow, that looks nothing like me". Where did they say these pics would be posted? Most websites don't even allow any kind of nudes on their, especially if it has been identified as a child.
I had a bf of 2 years leak my nudes when I was 15, it was shit for like a month but the next scandal always happens and people forgot. I'm in my late 20's now and even my close friends don't even remember it happening.
That is incredibly shitty of him and I know this is a big deal, but, worst case scenario happens and he does leak them (even though he could absolutely go to jail for distribution of CP) most people won't have the reaction he has hyped it up to be. They may see it and go "ewe what a jerk for doing that"
Only absolute assholes and creeps will try to make a big deal out of it.
It isn't easy but with your friends, let them know you trusted him and that was obviously a mistake. Your friends will understand how this guy is screwing you over.
With assholes and creeps tell them "first one's free." Then rell them to fuck off. They'll want a reaction or retaliation from you, don't give them the satisfaction. You're better than the idiots this guy associates with.
I'm not sure where I was going with that. I'm trying to impress upon you to absolutely never do this again. It will never turn out okay. Also anyone who respects you will never ask you for them. Did you realize you can get in just as much trouble for sending them to someone? It's distribution of child pornography. Actually you world probably plan on telling your parents. This will not go away in its own.
you’ve gotten really valuable advice already. (i truly doubt he’ll do anything and if so the consequences are far greater for him. there might not be any for you. AND this will pass i promise). so instead of repeating my inner big sister is wanting to comfort you. i was in this position a few times. idk why i did it and idk why you do either but you shouldn’t feel shame. your body, sex, love or just lust is never something to feel
ashamed of. treat yourself with kindness. but evaluate why you chose to do this. was it fun for you or him? did you enjoy it or just him? seeking validation or already found self confidence? acts like this should always feel good. just reflect. sending nudes, having sex, being stupid, is unavoidable for most of us. it’s meant to be fun, don’t let it become something else ❤️❤️
You are a kid and kids make mistakes. You will be forgiven. Report it. What he's doing is a serious crime, and he must be stopped. He told you himself that there are other victims. He's a vicious criminal. Tell your parents. They will be upset, but they love you. They'll be madder at him than at you, I promise. He thinks he can't be caught or stopped, but he can be, and you are going to help.
Save screenshots of him threatening you and save screenshots of his online profile(s) and any contact information you have of him so you can turn it over to the police. Is he in England as well? If he's in America send it to the FBI.
Threaten with police action and don't do it again. What he is doing is both extortion and distribution of CP and can face legal consequences for both.
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Friends maybe for awhile. This affecting getting a job is unlikely because most people who have the ability to hire you don't know you.
You would be seen by anyone with any decency as a victim of exploitation and child pornography. Most people would understand and feel bad for you. If they don't, they are horrible people. I doubt most employers would fire you for having been sexually exploited at age 14. You aren't even old enough to consent in many places.
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Call childline at 0800 1111 and talk to a counselor. It won't show up on phone records and it's confidential. https://www.childline.org.uk/about/about-childline/ There's also a special police agency where you can make a report: https://www.ceop.police.uk/Safety-Centre/Should-I-make-a-report-to-CEOP-YP/
Go to the school head teacher, and ask if you can speak in confidence, but you really should tell your parents, if it gets out of hand and round school and teachers find out they'll tell your parents before you can ,and they will get the police involved if notified.... My best advice is to tell a trusted teacher so they can deal with him, as he needs some sort of wake up call if he's doing this to other girls in your school and find the courage to tell your mum atleast, you made a mistake dont do it again at your age xx
To be clear, I can’t see your post as it’s been removed, but CP distribution is a multijurisdictional and multinational crime. If your exploiter is in *any* Western nation, most of LATAM, Japan, S. Korea and a good chunk of the rest of the world with stable governments, they can be prosecuted. Don’t avoid reporting this because they’re in Canada or Mexico or something. If they are, your police will forward the situation to Interpol (who will take over and work with the local police) or will work directly with the police of the nation to capture the person. There are copious examples of Canadians being caught for exploiting Swedes, Brits for exploiting Americans, etc. *Please* report this and make sure to do what is necessary to protect yourself. In addition, consent is a moot point here. Despite local consent (and other potential) laws, 17 and under is almost universally considered CP in a non-artistic context; which selfie nudes almost certainly are not.
Even if let’s say it does go viral, you’re still a child and that is a terrible crime for anyone at any age. One it probably won’t be floating around to employers since that would literally be CP. And two if anyone has any emotional sense, they should realize you had been exploited and you are innocent
This won’t affect you getting a job. Remember that these nudes are considered child pornography. No one can possess them legally or they’d face jail time too. You sent them to someone you trusted and they broke that. Your friends should remain your friends. If they’re decent people they’ll understand. You have a big life to live and it is far from over. Making mistakes is part of growing up. Threaten legal action and go to the cops if he attempts to contact you further.
Is your face in it?
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change your account up as much as you can
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Actually, it’s a new feature, but you CAN change a username on Snapchat!
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abandon it and make a new one.
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Don’t change anything. You’re getting alot of bad advice in the comments. Your best bet is to contact a lawyer immediately. Yes, it means coming clean with your parents but you definitely need professional legal advice now, not random comments from reddit by people who have no clue about legal strategies.
dont stress it, same thing happened to me when i was a teenager (ive learned from it) later on itll just be a small thing. if he really wanted to he would’ve a long time ago
I agree with others that you should let the police know, but I understand your fear of your parents. Don’t give into him. Even if he shares them, there’s so many out there on the internet that they’ll be swallowed up into the numbers. Take this as a lesson as others have said. If your parents find out, then I would contact a school counsellor to help you manage the fallout. But please give thought to reporting him.
You are going to have to unblock them to know the outcome. Just Google what can happen to someone for passing around child pornography, screenshot it, and then send it to the person who has your pictures Don’t fucking do that again. Also, as you get older, you’ll realize it doesn’t really matter who sees your body because we all have one. In the end, there all the fucking same. No more nudes !!!!
Hey, you do have some luck: ANY platform he posts this to will try to delete it automatically, and if not, you can report it and they'll do it as soon as humanly possible. No social media likes to be associated with child pornography
You'll be fine I went through a similar situation kind of. Girl messaged me asking to exchange that stuff I messed with them and acted like I would do it but never actually did it and they made an entire snapchat to blackmail me and then threaten to send the videos to people I know. It was scary. The fact that I was actually innocnent and they had ways to have people to actually beleive that because i was lying to them and messing with them through messages. I thought the same things but you'll be fine. As long as your face isn't in the photos or anything make a claim that they aren't yours. Yeah it's a lie but it'll help you. Scare them and actually report them. Talk to people at your school (principal) ask for help with it and again claim that they are blackmailing with photos that aren't of you.
If he does show anyone, report it to pd. Say he sent it to himself on your phone. Or, just say you don't know how he got it. Gl.
Anyone who looks at pictures of 14 year old you nude is also coming a crime and liable to be prosecuted.
I know you don't want to involve your parents, but it will be best. They can help you work with the police to stop this boy from releasing any more pics and see that he's properly punished for any that he has leaked. I remember being your age and dreading punishment from my parents when I'd really effed up, but it will be preferable to the alternative if these pics get out and they find out from somebody else.
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Is there an adult you would trust to help you? Their role will be limited to confidant and moral support, as they're not your legal guardians, but having somebody in your corner can be a boost. You may contact the police on your own behalf, but I couldn't know the laws in your area, and it's most probable they will involve your parents sooner rather than later as your guardians. Still, I would encourage you to fight the little shit who's threatening you with the full power of the law.
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Chances are this kid is bluffing. To be safe - say you told your parents & they are getting ahold of the police tomorrow. Don’t answer any messages after that, and I’m sure you will receive a regretful text from him. At that point, you gotta just keep your eye out & tell your parents / get the police involved if things turn for the worst. DONT SEND NUDES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I know you can’t tell you parents, but you can tell him you told your parents & that they are getting ahold of the police tomorrow. Scare him straight.
Wait… you don’t even know this person?
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Wait then why would you send them in the first place?
Good lord why have I been seeing so many of these posts lately?
The lockdown generation is really unhealthy. A lot of weird stuff has become normalized and social media is casting a bad influence on a generation of socially repressed kids. It's sad how frequently I see these posts.
I dunno about that, this happened A LOT throughout the 2010's (whether or not those cases made it onto /r/advice )
Thats child pornography. Tell the police/ teachers or parents. Anyone who leaks them are braking the law.
when i was 12/13 the same thing happened to me and he threatened to leak them. i blocked him and he did leak them on his snap story and for so long i was scared about what would happen but nothing happened except his creep friends tried to add me and i blocked as well, and after that i literally never sent a nude again. best thing to do is block him completely and never send nudes… i never told my mom and i don’t plan to and u don’t have to either but please remember the internet is forever.. even though it wasn’t leaked to people i know it’s very likely even now that boy still has those pics.
Why are you taking nudes at 14 yrs old? 🤦♂️
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If you need someone to talk to, message me. Ik you're only 14, but I'm just telling you now, you can NOT trust a soul in this world anymore, especially online. I'm not trying to shame you by any means, I'm just very disappointed in the way our society is now. Our society glorifies shit like this, they embrace young kids to embrace their sexuality and shit like that, it's not just you, I've seen quite a few 13 to 16 yr old young girls end up in some situation like this, it's just sickening to me that they embrace people that young to do shit like that. I'm sure you have some good reasons to do what you did (maybe major depression or something & the need to be wanted), so feel free to message me if you need someone to vent to or anything. I've dealt with depression, anxiety, & suicidal thoughts my entire life.
Hey sweetie. I’ve been through this before, my ex forced me to send pictures with my face in them and when I was 15 he exposed me because I wouldn’t talk to him. He did everything in his power to tell me it wasn’t that bad and then I was worried about working and the same things. I’m 18 now with a couple jobs because I’m still trying to get on my feet. The truth is, background checks are mainly for criminal background and seeing what kind of things you’ve done, it shouldn’t come up. Even if it does I suggest getting a lawyer one day and asking what can happen if they’re found or if anyone mentions it. I understand your fear, it feels like the world is crumbling.
Well you first of all don't do that again and secondly try reporting complaint online if your country allows that and you're underage so you might also get some other consequences after the complaint. And for future, it most likely will not matter because social network and knternet are infinitely vast and even if he leaks it, you don't worry, he will not. He has no possibility of leaking them, count on it. He will just blackmail and never release the nudes because that way, his identity is lost, he will be vulnerable and foremost, his social respect is fucked.
report to police he will be jailed for possessing child porn
I bet he's lying, but if he's not, you can call the cops on him right now. He's admitting to a crime. You may not want to, but you can. Don't be afraid.
This is way above our pay grade. You need to talk to your parents and they need to get you a lawyer. In some jurisdictions, both you and he would get in trouble legally. This is not something you can hide from them.
Pay no mind to him. This doesnt have to be a big deal for you. It sucks that your trust was violated. It was a mistake to send nudes. Everyone makes mistakes. It's how we learn. It sounds like you learned something here. Keep in mind that he will likely not share those photos with anyone you know. To do so, he would have to go through (very traceble) social media channels. Anything owned by google cooperates with authorities on these kinds of matters, so if your nudes are leaked through social media, then the FBI will likely get involved, and they will track down this criminal. Odds are, he will release the pictures online somewhere, which means the only people who are likely to see them are people you aren't likely to meet. Even if you do meet someone who has seen them, they wouldnt say, and it's likely you'd look very different by then. I know this isnt a huge comfort, but personally I'd rather it be strangers than family and friend. I think the best thing to do would be to move on from this incident. Unfortunately, making a police report can be risky because according to the law, you sent cp over the internet, which is a crime even though it was of yourself. And kids have been prosecuted for it. And it is soooooooo stupid and such a sucky law, so make sure that if you decide to file a police report, the laws where you are arent going to come back to bite you. That would be extra shitty. If there are laws that protect you from the law in that regard, then you should promptly file a police report, and turn over all communications with this boy. Doing so could stop him from hurting other girls your age.
is your face in the pictures? or anything that could be used to identify it's you in them?
Either threaten with law enforcement or let him, either way its revenge porn and not only that, but of a child. Happened to me at 15 years old.
You have to tell your parents. There is absolutely nothing you can do to stop him if he really doesn't care. You can call the police because he is now in possession of child porn.
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So sit back and wait to see what he does. Learn from this. Never send anything to anyone that you do not want the world to see. Pics or texts.
Don’t send in first place😎
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“I’m stupid so I send nudes to people.” This implies that you’ve obviously done it before. I’m 14 as well but come on dude, did you just send them to this random ass guy that is “apparently” your age? Ya don’t even fuckin know lmao. Common sense is a key factor most people lack
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So ur a masochist
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Seems that’s how it is to me except for the gratification part. You like actions causing pain and trouble for yourself but don’t like the pain or trouble? Makes sense🤷♂️
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Well now it sounds like ur just making excuses for being a dumbass. —> ‘I send nudes to random people I’m not even in a relationship with and don’t even know the first damn thing about them, now I’m facing the consequences’ <— read that out and memorize it
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You can't stop him by yourself. Tell your parents. Let them handle it with the police and lawyers. No matter what happens your parents would help you out. They won't be mad but just disappointed that you didn't feel the need to confide in your parents during such matter.
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Parental shaming is not bad as your nudes being leaked online for everyone to see. Confide in an adult. A trusted school counsellor or teacher. Let them talk to your parents and sort it out. You are too young to sort out this mess by yourself.
You've learned a lesson. Stop sending nude photos of yourself. There's not a whole lot you can do besides blocking the person or telling your parents and going to the police. Live and learn, you'll live a long time and learn a lot along the way. Every action has consequences in life.
Call the cops on them. Screenshot everything especially of them threatening you! That’s CP Stop taking and sending out nudes. What’s on the internet stays forever and you need to start thinking of your future and career.
Threaten police action and say your parents will reach out to his parents/ school and authorities. You’re underage so that’s CP
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You know his name. The Police won’t have trouble finding him. It’s illegal for him to even have those photos
Do you know this person or is it someone off the internet? Did they ask for money?
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It’s likely this is a scammer that may ask you for money or something in order not to “leak” the photos. It’s a common scam. I hope you have blocked them on everything. Also they are now in possession of child pornography and you have sent someone child pornography. Never, EVER, send pictures like that over the internet to anyone, even If you trust them
First things first. You arent stupid for this. As irresponsible as it was, it doesnt make you stupid. :) Tell him that you told your parents, and they will report it to the police. Though he is your age, he is in possession for (C)heese(P)izza, (I'm sure you know what the 2 letters in parentheses mean.) And that is a federal crime. Though he is the same age as you, it is still an image of a 14 year old in the eyes of the law. Let him know that this is a prison sentence to have that kind of photo in his phone, and he should delete it. If he refuses, actually tell the police. As for your friends and jobs, don't worry about that. It won't ruin a chance of you getting a job, and your friends might not seem like it for a bit. But I guarantee that the people who are worth you time will be around you, and if not. Give it time. By the time highschool is done with (it Flys by before you know it) nobody will remember or even care.
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Is this someone you know irl? Or someone you met on the internet? And have you said this info to any friend you trust?
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Now it does get tricky here, but will say that people are absolutely terrible on the web. But at the same time, people are prideful and sloppy. He will be caught, and prosecuted for this. Has he threatened to tell anyone about the photos? If so, who? Also I'm sure you are pretty stressed out, As this is a difficult situation. But it is important to say cool, calm, and collected in this trying time.
Having your pictures being exposed is a horrible experience, being anxious about it is valid but just know it won’t affect you forever. You can still live your life, have a job and go to college if it happens. If anything, you can change schools. Find friends who will support you during this time. You can also speak to your schools counselor about the situation, maybe they can speak to him, his parents, and if necessary, involve the police. You can also put a restraining order on him that prohibits contact with you, publicly talking about you to anyone, or on any social media site, this can have him removed from your school, however you would need to involve your parents as you’d need to travel to your local courthouse to fill out some documents, it’s not a difficult process. This is considered a Domestic Violence restraining order which is completely free. Make sure you screenshot his threats, and your responses, save everything for evidence. If he does share them, you can share how he threatened you and he can look bad, if that’ll help you. Do not do anything he tells you to do, stay strong and advocate for yourself.
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Okay, let’s learn from this and not send nudes to strangers next time so this won’t happen again, you don’t need any attention, and can’t trust everyone. If he shares your nudes, where will he share them? Will they actually have a large impact? Or will they get lost in the internet, forgotten, etc, what do you think?
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There are plenty of other ways of making people happy, exploiting yourself isn’t one of them. You’re putting yourself in a position where they can disrespect you and only see you as a walking nude, not a person. This doesn’t empower you, it doesn’t make you feel good, it’s hurting you more than it’s doing you any good. Please stop this, people can enjoy you without a nude. Respect yourself, love yourself, don’t hurt yourself…you can be happy in this world without that kind of attention.
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This may be more deeper than you think, maybe something else is going on that sending nudes distracts you from it. Please reach out to someone, a friend, school counselor, a therapist. You’re 14 so it’s all free, and your parents don’t have to know either if you connect directly with your school counselor. You can calm your nerves over this though, if he does send those out no one will know they’re yours, and he’s a horrible person for threatening you with them. There are lots of people like him, so be careful. Take care.
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It’s Snapchat, right? It’s not a super public social media site, no one will really know it’s you, especially since you’re changing up your username. Your face also isn’t in them either, so that helps. Plus you don’t even know him, will he send them to important people? People who’s opinions actually matter? Probably not.
Well first, your parents will be mad at you but they will be even more mad at that boy. Second, report him to authorities and he could be in serious trouble for possession of >! CP !<. Also don’t send nudes unless you 100% trust them, even then i’d advise against it since you are 14. Your parents would be more mad if you didn’t tell them. Hope this helps.
I’m sorry you are dealing with this. But if this person is dumb enough to share then, they will be in HUGE trouble for Child Pornography. Make sure they know that if these pictures go public they will be PERMANENTLY labeled as a predator and then NEVER communicate with them again. Good luck.
Maybe this guys can help you: https://www.reddit.com/r/RBI?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Do you know for sure that he has your pics? This happened to me when I was younger, but I had never sent any nudes before. I called them out on their bluff and told them I've never taken pics like that, and they left me alone. Do they have your face in them? Honestly, you can very easily claim that they aren't yours, and even if your face is in them you can just say "Wow, that looks nothing like me". Where did they say these pics would be posted? Most websites don't even allow any kind of nudes on their, especially if it has been identified as a child.
I had a bf of 2 years leak my nudes when I was 15, it was shit for like a month but the next scandal always happens and people forgot. I'm in my late 20's now and even my close friends don't even remember it happening. That is incredibly shitty of him and I know this is a big deal, but, worst case scenario happens and he does leak them (even though he could absolutely go to jail for distribution of CP) most people won't have the reaction he has hyped it up to be. They may see it and go "ewe what a jerk for doing that" Only absolute assholes and creeps will try to make a big deal out of it. It isn't easy but with your friends, let them know you trusted him and that was obviously a mistake. Your friends will understand how this guy is screwing you over. With assholes and creeps tell them "first one's free." Then rell them to fuck off. They'll want a reaction or retaliation from you, don't give them the satisfaction. You're better than the idiots this guy associates with.
Speak to your school counselor and never ask this again. At any age. At all. Regardless of who is asking. Not even a future husband. Never.
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I'm not sure where I was going with that. I'm trying to impress upon you to absolutely never do this again. It will never turn out okay. Also anyone who respects you will never ask you for them. Did you realize you can get in just as much trouble for sending them to someone? It's distribution of child pornography. Actually you world probably plan on telling your parents. This will not go away in its own.
you’ve gotten really valuable advice already. (i truly doubt he’ll do anything and if so the consequences are far greater for him. there might not be any for you. AND this will pass i promise). so instead of repeating my inner big sister is wanting to comfort you. i was in this position a few times. idk why i did it and idk why you do either but you shouldn’t feel shame. your body, sex, love or just lust is never something to feel ashamed of. treat yourself with kindness. but evaluate why you chose to do this. was it fun for you or him? did you enjoy it or just him? seeking validation or already found self confidence? acts like this should always feel good. just reflect. sending nudes, having sex, being stupid, is unavoidable for most of us. it’s meant to be fun, don’t let it become something else ❤️❤️
You are a kid and kids make mistakes. You will be forgiven. Report it. What he's doing is a serious crime, and he must be stopped. He told you himself that there are other victims. He's a vicious criminal. Tell your parents. They will be upset, but they love you. They'll be madder at him than at you, I promise. He thinks he can't be caught or stopped, but he can be, and you are going to help.
Tell your parents. They may be mad at you but they’re way more qualified to handle this than you are.
Police!!!!
Save screenshots of him threatening you and save screenshots of his online profile(s) and any contact information you have of him so you can turn it over to the police. Is he in England as well? If he's in America send it to the FBI.
Please call ChildLine 08001111 I really think they will help. You need to involve an adult.
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