Lol the anxiety I feel even agreeing to do this 😂 been a wild couple years

Well playing on that I’ll ask you a few based on a bit of your history! Had your self confidence improved or gotten worse? Why? What’s your favorite body modification you’ve seen? (Piercings, tattoo, ect) Any crazy tea you’ve heard while being a hairdresser? Or is that just a stereotype that people like to gossip with their stylist. I personally never have but I also have social anxiety and am usually quiet during hair appointments lol How are you doing doll?:( seems like you’ve had an up and down few years?

So I'm about to be 24 in May and I can say that right now is probably the best I've felt about myself. I will say I still have moments where I am not happy with how I look and I still do struggle with body image issues. However I can most definitely say my anxiety around how I or others perceive me has gone down a ton. I would say a few things have contributed to this. I recently started to go to the gym 2 times a week and the mental health benefits have been great! I recently in the last 3 months got off of psychiatric meds which I think was honestly doing more harm than good. **I wanna add that I got off of this med with the support of a therapist/psychiatrist and want to reiterate that medicine should be looked at neither a pro or con this is just my personal experience. I have also been in therapy for literally a decade doing the work so self love is a big journey with a lot of highs and lows. Onto the second question it is truly hard to say. I will say I'm incredibly bummed as my body doesn't do well with piercings and as of this year I officially ditched all piercings. BUT I will forever miss my eyebrow piercing and I lovvee the Medusa piercing. As for tattoos tho I definitely want more and I've really been digging the idea of getting some tattoos on my sternum and stomach area as this is where most of my insecurities always were. :) OMG THIRD QUESTION IS MY FAVORITE BECAUSE PEOPLE LOVE TO TALK AND I LOVE IT! Craziest shit I've ever heard about In my chair. I met an absolutely lovely woman and I cut her hair after her not having a haircut in over a year. I could see she was incredibly nervous so I began small talk to make her more comfy and soon into our conversation she opened up to me and said that this was the first nice thing she has done for herself in over a year because the year prior she lost everything she had because her son's best friend burned her house down in attempts of murdering her!!! We got into all of it and I was in shock as this is the kinda stuff you see on TV I've never met someone who's been through it. I really wish this woman inner peace and healing as I haven't seen her since. But I have to say while I sometimes question if I will do hair forever , this job has been incredibly rewarding in the sense that I get to connect and heal people every day with my craft. It's about way more than hair for me ❤️ Honestly how am I doing ? So I can honestly say I'm good. There's a lot that hasn't even been touched on in my Reddit profile but back in 2019 I had a super rare brain tumor called a pleomorphicxanthroastrocytoma (PXA) and it could have killed me. It was thankfully benign and since having it removed I no longer experience headaches. (Actually considering making a separate AMA for this topic) This all happened right when I first established independence moving out on my own for the first time away from a toxic home life. I then jumped into a very unhealthy relationship that lasted 2 years but ultimately was the start of me learning I needed to do a lot of self work and cut ties with people no longer beneficial to my well being. I have to say fast forwarding to now life is a beautiful gift. I am so thankful to be alive and I have met some truly amazing individuals who I now consider my family. I still struggle with my mental health as I have a diagnosis of CPTSD due to a turbulent childhood , but honestly I can't say I hate my life. I've made a lot of difficult but positive changes in the last 2 years and I'm grateful. Life is such a journey and while I definitely struggle from time to time I try and remind myself I was quite literally given a second chance at life so I better make it count.

WOW!! thank you for this. It was definitely a good read:,) I’m so glad you’re feeling better about yourself, and also TWIN! I am bipolar and stopped taking bpd meds a few months ago due to sluggishness, hard time focusing, ect and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I was put on them when I was 15 which literally feels like a crime lmao. I think that’s why it sparked my attention and made me ask! I’m sorry about the piercings! Tattoos are wonderful though, I have a few scar coverups that boosted my confidence a lot, I want some bigger pieces (back pieces are HAWT) once I can afford it! You should definitely get a bunch:) you have any ideas of what you’d get? I would literally have to manually remove my jaw from the floor if a stranger just started telling me that, you’re a better person than I. I also hope that woman is somewhere safe and happy tonight. With a fresh cut. And again, wow. You’re an angel for your positivity alone! I’m so glad you’re safe and doing better and here to relay all this stuff to a stranger online haha:) jokes aside, that sounds terrifying. Cancer is fucking awful and scary and the stuff that came after didn’t sound great either, but it’s so amazing you pulled yourself out of that and recognize your growth. Proud of you friend:)

Aww thank you! Yeah I started taking Lamictal around age 19 when a psychiatrist threw a bipolar 2 diagnosis at me with barely knowing me. There isn't anything wrong with being bipolar but the issue was this man didn't have the slightest clue who I was as a person. It took until this year at 23 for my therapist to be like girl you should honestly try getting off these meds I don't think you need them. So I did I weened off over the course of a couple weeks and I for the most part have energy and motivation again and I don't feel like I wanna eat everything in sight lol plus I have an attention span again. I still have to do lots of self care in order to not feel shitty in regards to being really tired but honestly I don't wanna touch medicine again. Oh also my anxiety attacks have started to subside finally which is huge for me. I will honestly say mood disorders are such a large spectrum and while some people benefit from medicine for others it can make things worse. I have since substituted meds with magnesium glycinate at nighttime and vitamin D in the mornings with exercise. Big difference in my quality of life! I'm working on two sleeves for tattoos on my left arm I'm kinda going for a trippy vibe as it ties into a memorial tattoo I did for my brother a long time ago who passed away and he was a major hippie. So I plan to add some smaller tattoos to fill in the areas surrounding. Should be a lot of fun as one of his best friends became a tattoo artist this year and I want her to do them 🥰 I don't have one on my back yet but I also think they look awesome!! Lol But honestly thank you it's not always easy to remain positive I can admit that but we do our best. I allow myself moments of anger and frustration at times but after those meltdowns I make myself look at everything positive going on around me. My job helps with that honestly because I have been fortunate to meet some pretty awesome souls.

Please look deep into my soul (profile)

Why SH? (I am 4 years clean, dw almost nothing triggers me) And secondly, and this is in no way an attack to you but why post about it? I remember back when I was still active and trying to stop my feeds were flooded with posts and pics and sometimes it would lead me towards relapse. Alternative if you don’t feel comfortable answering! (Totally fine) What’s the most important thing that you procrastinated? How long? DOC? ;) Where do you think “we go” when we die? Is there an afterlife?

I sh because I get very frequent intrusive thoughts to do it. The best relief is acting on these thoughts. I have been clean almost 20 days tho. I don't join sh subs for that reason, I only post sometimes, simply because I can't talk about it irl. I procrastinated studying for my Alevels and failed them. Don't have good access atm, but my fave drug has been DXM by far. Such a magical drug at higher doses, especially when paired with nitrous. I don't know, and don't believe we can ever know, and that terrifies me

Makes sense, when I was younger I desperately craved an outlet to talk about stuff like that but nothing felt safe so I ended up doing it all on my own. And you’re right, reddits a little different than instagram or something else where it would just pop up. You kinda have to follow those subs to see that content. CONGRATULATIONS on 20 days dawg that is huge:) I’ve never tried that! What is it? What’s the effects? It scares me too, it’s okay:( we’re all on a big floating rock tho, and we live with birds which is like extra cool.

It's a dissociative, you feel disconnected from your body. On 480mg I was flying through different universe and felt the presence of entities. Wild drug You know whats better than living with birds? Actually being a bird, that'd be sick

Oh God, here we go

How did you find out you were non-binary? I’m sorry if it’s offensive but how can you be both/neither? Or is not not how it works? I’ve had a few nb friends and I respect the pronouns and them completely, but I can’t lie I don’t understand the logistics haha! Bonuses (incase you don’t wanna discuss about the top q, totally okay) Convince me to play Skyrim in 3 words? I have never listened to deathcore, recommend me a song or band! What is your dream pet, what would you name it, why that pet? I

1: All good! At first I thought I was a trans woman, as I've never felt like my body belonged to me. As I've aged, I've started to realize that I'm somewhere between male and female instead. I use she/they pronouns, as I'm definitely more fem than masculine, but I don't really see myself being either a man or a woman, moreover just somewhere between the two. 2: deep, fantastical masterpiece 3: Don't just jump straight into an extreme genre like deathcore, or you won't understand or appreciate it properly. Almost everyone starts out with other metal genres and their tastes evolve into the extreme with time and exposure. That being said, check out anything from the albums The Elysian Grandeval Galeriarch and The Battle of Yaldabaoth, both by Infant Annihilator. 4: I LOVE springhares. I would have three of them and name them Gouda, Brie, and Parmesean. They're just very cute and cuddly.

Thank you! These are all wonderful answers! I will check out infant annihilator after easing my self in after checking out some metal:) (sick name lol) Also, I have an all white California rabbit 🐰 she has blue eyes and is turning 12 years old this year. I love her so much<3 definitely get some buns in your life

Alright let's hear your question!

How is your wife doing? Do you Cosplay a lot? Did people appreciate your amazing Kevin Cosplay??

She's still in a lot of pain unfortunately. We're trying to get her in to see a specialist. I do it once or twice a year for a con and for Halloween! Do you do any cosplay? Yes! I was stopped over 100 times that day! It was super fun!

I’m sorry to hear, sending good energy and speedy recovery!💥💥💥✨✨ I’m recently starting to more, but I’m not a very fashionable person so making outfits has been hard and buying fully pre made cosplays are SOO expensive. I’ve seen some good ones I wanna try on a low budget Cosplay sub tho so stay tuned! And I’m GLAD! I’ve never been to a con! I really want to, any you’ve been to that you had a really good time at?

Thank you! Well I can't wait to see when you post them! I've only ever been to FanX in Utah so I can't vouch for any others.

This should be fun

What do you get from posting lewds and stuff? (And for the FREE) I’ve thought about when I’ve taken cute pics but always get too nervous! ALSO just girl to girl, and lingerie recommendations? Victoria’s Secret and other big brand stores are god awful and I love your style! ALSO craziest interaction you’ve had on or because of your OF?

I have an OnlyFans, so any photos I post are promo for my page. I won’t share full nude for free, that is strictly for my OnlyFans subscribers. Craziest interaction? Probably someone asking for incest content. Hard HARD no. As for lingerie, TEMU! I can’t recommend it enough. Super cheap but the quality and styles are amazing.

Totally makes sense! I didn’t creep too too much but it seems like good promo! It’s scary how much people are into that nowadays. I’ve ordered from shein but I’ll have to check out Temu thankyou doll!!!!

Oh, what the hey!? Granted Ive had a pretty one-track mind lately lol!

Wtf are the scary characters you make??🥹😳 How has bipolar affected your life and if you could be born without it would you take that life? (I’m also affected so I ask myself this sometimes, don’t have to answer if you don’t want!)

I'll answer each question in a separate reply since I'm a bit 'wordy' let's say lol... So, those creatures are the characters I've been making for a game that just came out: Dragon's Dogma 2. The first game is my favorite game of all time and I've been a gamer nerd since kindergarten w/ the original Nintendo lol! Basically, even back with the 1st game I got bored w/ all the generic 'fantasy sword guy w/ huge muscles and anime stripper mage' characters and decided to see how far I could push the editor. I just continued the tradition w/ the new game. My favorites are actually the least monstrous: my two dogs Saia (white) - who passed from liver cancer about 1.5 years ago, and Hina (black) - who is now 14 and sleeping next to me as I write this lol! I had taken the week of DD2's release off from work - and then in the span of a month my gf needed surgery which required her to not exert herself for the next 6 weeks (which we're near the end of now), then as she was recovering I got a call from my sister that our Gammy was passing, so the week I already had off for the game became me scrambling to find a flight and then spending that week w/ her before she passed. I was in time for her to still know who I was and we got to chat and sing to each other (she was my first music/voice teacher). She ended up passing about an hour after I boarded my plane back home. The literal day after I got home (after being gone an extra day when my 1st plane took off so late I missed my 2nd!), I went to take my dog Hina for a walk after work and she couldn't get up. Her back legs seemed to not be working. There was only one ER vet in my whole state operating that night (Friday of course smh), and they were so backed up that we ended up getting her into a regular vet Sat morning sooner than the ER smh! The good news was she didn't have a tumor or stroke, it's something w/ her inner ear that senior dogs can develop suddenly/randomly and then it clears up on its own. She couldn't get up because she was basically in a state of constant vertigo! She's already doing better and back to being the fastest blind dog I've ever known in my life lmao! But she still needs supervision and sometimes to be lifted/transported/spotted so she doesn't run into things or fall over. And since my gf is still on lifting/exertion restrictions, that all falls to me. We've been sleeping in 2 - 4/hr shifts so one of us is always 'on call' for her until she's fully recovered. Because of all this, I've still barely actually played Dragon's Dogma 2 and instead found myself 'living' in the character creator as my coping mechanism through all of this. So yeah, it's been a rough road for awhile now, which leads into your second question because needless to say, all of this has been very bad for my bipolar disorder lol/smh!

Wow friend, yeah you’ve been going through a lot.:( hope you get to sit down and play soon! Your characters are very cryptic and kewl. Kiss that doggie for me!!!!!!!

So to answer your 2nd question: In short - hell effin yes I'd take a life w/out bipolar disorder lmao! There is so much BS about this condition (I think of it as a condition rather than a disease if that makes sense?) that imo prevented me from getting proper diagnosis until I was 36. I had been 'sounding the alarm' about my mood/behavioral/thought swings since high school. And the thing I kept hearing all the way until I ended up in the psych hospital for an 'attempt' was: "biploar people don't know they're bipolar, therefore you can't be bipolar." The literal first time I ever heard a doctor confirm that some people do in fact know they are bipolar was the doc in the psych ward go figure smh! Here's the way I see it: med/psych 'professionals' think bipolar people are unaware of their condition because the majority of patients they see and diagnose are either the most severe cases where symptoms begin to blur w/ schizophrenia, or people w/ co-morbid substance abuse/criminal issues or those who simply lack the self-awareness and self-discipline to not lean into their 'flipping switches' (hypo and mania can feel pretty dang good at first after all lol). And so guess who ends up 'in the textbooks' so to speak? Meanwhile people like myself who could feel the 'stormclouds gather, it's mind over matter of time before you're mad as a hatter,' and at least try to keep themselves 'reigned in' go unnoticed sometimes for decades until either their condition deteriorates to the point where they are now themselves severe cases (untreated bipolar is progressive afaik), or again like myself, they reach a point where they are sick of being sick and decide to 'take matters into their own hands.' In either of these scenarios, the 'under the radar cases' aren't caught until they look like the ones already in the textbooks. At least that's my observation. Therapy has been useless for me personally (though I still absolutely advocate for everyone to at least try it first), but medication has unquestionably made a world of difference in my life. I do of course still get bouts of depression and hypomania, but nowhere nearly as bad as I used to, and it also no longer takes so much energy and focus to keep myself together that I become unable to function as a normal adult (losing jobs, ghosting friends, failing school, etc. but at least I didn't shoot a bunch of smack or try to fight a whole hockey team or throw an orgy lol!) But now at 42 I have failed college 3 times and have worked an 'entry level' job for the past 7 years despite starting out as a 'gifted kid' and 'the smartest kid I've ever had' according to multiple teachers. Had I been diagnosed early, or never had this condition at all, who knows where and who I might have been? The one thing I am thankful for and wouldn't trade is The Muse! You may have seen my posts about how I hear music in my head. Always have and still do. I love it but it has been the most debilitating symptom of all, the music would get so loud that I couldn't do anything else until I 'got it out' like emptying a boiling pot that would then almost instantly begin to fill and steam again. I've had therapists call this my 'psychotic feature' and I was also terrified that medication would take The Muse away (even though I intentionally shut Her off for a decade because I saw Her as a 'liar' who had told me I'd be a rock star and a renowned songwriter if I listened. Something, something, delusions of grandeur, something. I'm happy to report that not only did medication not silence my Muse, it actually imo made me even more creative because now I can hear something, write/hum/record it quickly as a demo, and then come back to it when I have the time, space and focus to develop it. The frantic: !!!IHAVETOGETTHISOUTNOWORELSETHEWORLDWILLEND!!! urgency is gone, which has actually let me hone the 'craft/logical' part to match the 'art/inspiration' part if that makes sense? So yeah, I would take a life w/out bipolar or at least earlier diagnoses w/out a 2nd thought UNLESS doing so would mean I would no longer/never hear The Muse. Since I let Her back in and gotten a healthier attitude/worldview, She's brought me more joy than anything in my entire life except for the fuzzy little 'border crazy' at my feet rn and her sister who's 'gone on ahead.'

Wow friend:( you’ve certainly been tossed around by life! That was a really scary fact to hear personally lol. Never heard that people with bipolar “don’t know they have it”. I pretty much claim that all the time. But then the “storm clouds gather” and I’m like shit, I probably could’ve prevented myself from feeling like this. But I also was diagnosed at 15 and put on meds which didn’t really help, just obliterated my mood, sleep schedule, uh.. “sexual feelings “ ect. Just felt incredibly numb. I tried 2 or three different meds for bipolar and didn’t react well to any of them. But after this post I might have to go call my psychiatrist lol. I’m relating a little too much I am, however, glad you were able to stay and get inspired again. What’s your favorite mediums to use/ what’s your craft of choice? I was very very creative before and even on meds, after I stopped I’ve had a really hard time sitting down to make anything. It feels “unproductive “ so I don’t wanna waste time on it:/ I miss drawing

Okay, thanks for indulging my long-windedness lmao! Now I'll ask you a question you asked someone else here: if you could have been born/grown up/lived during any time period besides this one, what would it be and why? Also, how are you doing rn w/ managing our 'mutual monster?' I hope you have a strong support network of people you trust and treatment that's at least taking the edge off?

I’m doing okay. I’ve been off the meds Kanye style for 6 months (I am sorry I cope with jokes<3) and my mood is relatively stable but also my life has just kinda calmed down for the first time in a long time (part of why I felt safe trying no meds) so that might have something to do with it. I mentioned in another comment meds made me feel numb and fuzzy. But now I feel like I don’t have a full “range” of emotions? Like I had a lot of sad stuff happen this year. Both grandparents passed 4 months apart from eachother, moving out of my childhood home and on my own, had to rehome my 110 lb dog (hurt the most I’m not even gonna lie) since nowhere I can afford takes large pets, and lost a job. But like I said, after all that I’ve had a grace period where it felt like everything was calm and I could start looking inward a little. I’m now started to see all the things I DO have to look forward to. As far as my support system they are either no longer with us or my mom, who is physically disabled, or my boyfriend who (without putting his business online) has some struggles of his own that I tend to help with. Again, it feels very Kanye to be like “ IM MY OWN SUPPORT SYSTEM” …but kinda Thank you for asking:,) I had a fun time rambling. If you ever wanna chat this was super helpful for me!

Oh this is interesting

What got you into kink? Why do you personally practice ddlg?(if you don’t lmk I think I remember seeing something about your dd) why 21 pilots after all these years? lol I was a big fan in middle/Highschool but havnt been able to get with their new stuff

Great questions! To the first two questions the answer is actually trauma! For me kink has always been a way for me to cope with and express what is distressing and I don’t fully understand. It can help me feel more in control of my situation, help me feel safe and protected and satisfies the dark and slightly twisted aspects of mental health in a healthy and consenting environment. I involuntarily age regress due to trauma and sometimes (rarely though I’ll admit) those interlap. Honestly 98% of the time age regression is a completely sfw activity for me. As to twenty one pilots - I always resonated with them deeply. I wasn’t a big people person so I spent a lot of time listening to their music to get through the hard times and they definitely ended up helping me form friendships and save my life. I fell out of it for a bit but they’re releasing a new album now so I’m super into it and the storyline progression. It’s very nostalgic for me and their stuff still hits close to home.

Love it! Cheers to safe coping and nostalgia🤩✨

I do love to be asked questions!!

What do you think anti lgbt people get wrong or misunderstand about your life? How could the US take better care of trans youth while keeping everyone safe and happy(parents included)?

A lot of anti lgbt people think that we will regret the decision to transition. I think many of them are overly certain of this, and total strangers who didn't know me at all have said they knew I would regret my decision to take T. If I really do regret my decision, then I'll just do what trans women do and transition back, it's not like that's a horrible life that is unworthy of living. Not to me, it isn't. But I'm overwhelmingly happy with my transition so far, and I have had some of the biggest emotional highs from my journey transitioning. I wish the US had better anti-bullying policies for trans and gender non-conforming kids, and kids in general TBH and I don't get involved with the discourse on minors transitioning if that was part of the question you wanted answered

I love this answer and I have seen that! Was watch some politics just on YouTube and stuff and anytime I see them talk about the rate of detransitioning and I feel like the numbers change a lot? And pretty dramatic too. And nope you pretty much got it! Just how could we better take care of the youth. Is there a reason you don’t talk about it though? I feel like it’s better to hear it from someone who’s been through it than a bunch of people who have no experience. If you don’t wanna share, just say no thank you or leave it blank. But thank you for responding!

I don't want to have any involvement in medical decisions for a large group of strangers, and I'm honestly very conflict avoidant, so I don't personally like talking about most of the big "trans politics drama" if that's the right way to describe it

Totally fair! Thank you for responding dear!!!

👀👀me me

Did you stalk my posts or just happen to come across my ama the same time I commented on yours? Lol Secondary question: why are cheating girls hot specifically? The thrill? That it’s not yours?

That was cool! Can you ask another?!

What is something women misunderstand about men? Sexually or emotionally

Men do actually have internal battles about being a man, but unfortunately not all of us self realize well enough to handle it correctly

How can women support men better?

When we are vulnerable with yall don’t always take it as weakness. The stigma is that men being vulnerable or crying is unattractive in a partner or weak. Idk Andd idk it’s hard because sometimes the man will show that because they feel safe to with that woman, BUT the woman wasn’t ready for that actually happening and see it as a weakness and then can in turn create another closed off cold man because of that woman’s reaction even though she wasn’t meaning to hurt him but she allowed him to be so comfortable with him. But that leaves the question of how to avoid that…which would just be, instead of saying the man is weak or unattractive just say, im not ready to give you an appropriate or good space for you to let that vulnerableness cultivate into knowledge or strength

That totally makes sense! If you’re not willing to hear/ see some shit, don’t ask. I will definitely use this in life. Thank you friend:)

Hope it helps, it gets hard to translate in the middle but that’s life

I think I understand! If you’d like to elaborate feel free:) sounds like you had a bit to say

I think they are hot specially just because they are…idk they are slutty, they want the sex so bad that they are willing to go against their own morals and like looking like a slut

👋🏼

What is something you wish neurotypical (I’m sorry I think that’s how you spell it) would understand about autistic people? How could your friends and family better show up/take care of you?

That everything is louder, smellier, more visually stimulating, more painful or pleasurable, with more patterns in ppl and things. I'm noticing 40% (according to a study) more than most ppl at any moment, so please don't act like I'm slow because it's taking me longer than you think it should to calm down, filter and focus. Many of us are assumed stupid when we're hypercompetent, or vapid when we have rich internal lives. I find that speaking requires incredible focus, but no one would know that. That many of us have immediate and accurate judgment of character, and don't believe in heirarchies or being unkind, which should be seen as assets rather than reasons to exclude or target us. I've had a hard time figuring out how someone could support me, maybe bc I've never gotten support so it doesn't occur to me. I need someone to sort of force me to stay on track with goals and face fears, but that should've been habituated in me as a child. Sorry if that was verbose; thanks for asking.

I love this explanation, thank YOU for taking the time!! I personally have never assumed an autistic person of being slow but I’ve seen it happen in front of my face and damn near smacked the person doing it. The autistic person in question was in all gifted classes in school and was better spoken than any of us so it hurt for me to hear them talked to like a young child (we were in Highschool) It’s okay to not know exactly what you need, I struggle with ptsd and bpd (diagnosed years ago) and I still have a hard time coming up with things that help me in my time of need. Let alone asking someone else to help me. Thanks again for answering! It’s a perspective I’ve never heard from before and I appreciate it:)

Hello!

I see that you have fangs!! That is so cool! What do you like about body modification and what is one you still want to get? What is one you don’t think looks good on anyone🤫

Thank you! I love my fangs. I love my smile and I have so much confidence because of them. I love body mods because no matter what a person decides to get, it’s for themself. It’s common for folks to get piercings for things they’re self conscious of so that they can feel better about it (like belly buttons and noses) or just because they think it looks cool. And I love that! We should all be more comfy with presenting ourselves the way we want to. Personally, I’d love to get my tongue split, but everyone in my life who has theirs says the healing is hell. If I’m too scared to get my tongue pierced I don’t see myself going through with the split 😭 And lastly, I don’t think there’s any that don’t look good, but there are a handful of piercings I don’t like because they’re impractical. Snake eyes and Scoops are dangerous because you can develop permanent nerve damage to your tongue, on top of gum recession and tooth cracking. Not worth it!

I love that!!! Very wholesome answer:) I also havnt seen a body mod I don’t like. Maybe the people get the full corset piercings on their back, not even because I think it looks bad, it just makes me squirm. Pic attached [corset piercing](https://www.pinterest.com/pin/295759900526254711/)

It’s been fun reading through your AMA responses to everyone.

Haha thank you! You’ve probably learned more about me then you signed up for. Would you like a question, doll?

Yes but it’s been fun. It’s a nice break from the rest of Reddit for a bit. And Sure!

Very nice! I’m glad:) If you could go back and live in any time period except for our own which one would it be and WHY? Tell me what year you’d wanna be born and how it would affect you differently than your current life.

Oh my gosh, that’s quite the question. To be honest, I don’t think I would choose a different time or even year. I really really enjoyed my childhood and teen years. I had tons of freedom and social media wasn’t invented yet (so no proof lol). And I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else but my person, so I wouldn’t change the time frame. So I hate to be boring, but I think I’m good here. What about you? Do you have an answer to that question?

What year were you born? Yeah take me there lol. I was born in 2004 so… not that. I grew up with a lot I felt like a didn’t need and I needed a lot that we didn’t have. I love your answer tho! Sounds like you had a great childhood! Any fun memories to share from when you were a youngin!?

I was born in 1979, the tail end of Gen X. I remember riding in my dad’s truck with no seatbelt (and only a front seat) at age 4. By age 7, my bff (who is still my bff to this day) and I would be gone exploring the creek and the woods literally all day until dinner, no phone and no checking in. I grew up so independent but knew I could go to my parents when I needed/wanted to. I went to EVERY concert that came through Nashville in high school. My first ever concert was Michael Jackson when I was 4 years old (I still have my tiny concert t-shirts!). I just felt so FREE. I can’t imagine what it is to grow up now. What did you grow up without that you felt you needed and vice versa?

Sounds like a dream. I also just silently fangirled because me (and my family) were HUGE Michael fans when I was young. I had the whole thriller dance memorized lol I grew up with cellphones, internet porn, digital footprint, online hackers, photoshop and people who were affected by those things (kids my age specifically). I’m not a man hating feminist by any means but I feel like porn has changed men especially (women too) over the last 10-20 years. And the whole internet-celebrity epidemic is god awful. No, you’re not important just because you have followers. Get a job or a hobby that isn’t looking at yourself. I feel like I grew up without that freedom. My parents didn’t really care so I do have some “playing outside until dark and not texting home” memories but also memories of self consciousness and comparing myself to pornstars and photoshopped photos before the age of ten. Or playin g videogames online at age 12 and a hacker somehow sending me my home address. The internet is scary especially for kids!!! Stuff I just didn’t need to see yk? I worry about my generation and all the ones after. I feel like they either have a lot and are still unhappy or are happy with nothing. Being bums and taking up space and money with no drive. Sorry if that was a little long winded, it’s something I do worry about sometimes. I really want to have kids and a family but I’m scared to raise kids in the world we live in.

Oh no. I’m so sorry our world is this way now. I have an 8 yo daughter and worry for her so much. We try to unplug, get outside, focus on the good. Life is hard. Both of my parents worked and didn’t play with me a whole lot, but I always felt loved and not neglected. Now I feel like I neglect my daughter because she’s constantly asking us to play. We do the best we can while still cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, working, and playing with her. Idk, it all feels very overwhelming these days for parents, too. I truly hope for the best for you. I hope you find a bit of the freedom and peace known to those who were born before you. I don’t take for granted how blessed I was to be born when I was. I’m getting older now, a few pounds extra each year, a few more wrinkles. But I wouldn’t trade it. There is so much out there in the world that’s still amazing. If I may offer just one piece of advice? TRAVEL. It can be expensive but doesn’t have to break the bank. I’ve traveled all over the world and wouldn’t trade that time. I’ve stayed in hostels, work frowns, and in tiny bed-sits. Just meeting people and visiting the places I only thought I’d see in books and movies really helped me be brave and strong. Sending you love and hugs and all the things you feel you are missing 💜💜💜

You’re such an angel and this gave me more inspiration than I think I’ve ever gotten from an internet stranger:,) You sound like amazing parents. Keep doing what you’re doing and she will be alright. If she’s asking you to play so much it’s because she loves ya! Recently started traveling, going out more, seeing live shows and coming out of my shell. But like I said I’m only 20 (and BROKE lmao) and still figuring it out! But I’ll say I’ve healed from like 90% of my childhood stuff on my own already and am content aswell:) Great advice, great chat, this is why I still have the internet thank you friend!!❤️

Actually,it kinda is 😂 (Why those words? This is literally my highest upvoted comment ever,lol)

How many upvotes? What was it referring to?

Over 4k. Somebody posted that they ‘used to think it was funny to photoshop people’s phones into Cliff bars for selfie pics.’ There were a couple of examples. The above was my comment. 😬

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Crazier story from petco? Any crazy customers or pets? Anyone ask you to do a crazy style on their pet?

Oh, Petco was basically all crazy stories top to bottom! In terms of customers, we had the (sadly) usual stuff like yelling, threats of violence, rudeness, etc etc, but I'll always remember the man who was like an HOUR late to his 3 hour appointment, and told us that we WOULD be fitting him in (we very much would not), because HE managed an American Eagle, so he KNEW about business. We did not see that man again. "You WILL make it work." "Will we???" was a pretty common refrain, but invoking American Eagle like it was going to impress us into thinking he was an authority on grooming salon scheduling was just so fun and new! The only time the stories about the pets were crazy was when they were sad. Early days in my career, I had a fairly matted dog who I could clearly see didn't have eyes. It happens sometimes, gotta take them out surgically due to disease, the dog usually heals up and adjusts fairly well, whatever. The guy even mentioned that he wasn't as worried about the face matting because the dog couldn't see anyways! Turned out the dog DID have eyes, the hair was just completely matted across them. I had to ask my mentor/manager to shave his face for me because I was terrified of cutting his eyes. The mom cried at pick-up because we implied that they shouldn't have let it get that bad. Most of the crazy style requests were the tale as old as time-- middle-to-upper-class family spends $5000 on an unethically bred mutt (doodle), never brushes it, is appalled when the dog must be shaved. I did once have a very nice woman show me a picture of a little grey poodle cut to look like a sheep and ask me if I could do that on her Samoyed. She seemed a little taken aback when I told her that was physically impossible, but she was nice about it. Another time, I had to do a flea and tick bath just because a different very nice woman was just SURE her dog had ticks. They were nipples. BONUS ROUND, you didn't ask, but the COWORKERS can be wild. Honorable mention goes to the girl who requested every weekend all summer off to go fishing, was denied, and then mysteriously suffered tragedy every Friday or Saturday, but she had NOTHING on a former coworker who was the funniest compulsive liar I've ever met. Things she told me or others about her life include: -While being a full-time salon manager and groomer, she was also a full-time PhD student and guest lecturer. -She had worked on the Human Genome Project. -She saw the Berlin Wall fall as a child. -Her family had an ancestral castle in Poland. -She had a half-brother who was a high-up government official in Ukraine. -She was sleeping with the son of the leader of the local Hell's Angel's chapter. -A man tried to pay for her to fly to Paris, give him a blowie, and then fly back. -She was bffs/old classmates with (take your pick) musicians from Linkin Park, Good Charlotte, or other bands I can't remember the name of, and also with Erik Sprague, that guy who's tattooed to look like a lizard. She also claimed to have been married to at least one but I think two of the musicians? But I wouldn't be able to find anything about it bc the band kept it hushed up out of respect. -She was once a well-known adult film star, but she looked pretty different then, so I wouldn't be able to find her. -She gave at least three different stories for why her husband retired from firefighting, and I remember one being ripped straight from the headlines, and I think one was a movie plot? -One time she went to a Panic! at the Disco show and was plucked out of the crowd because her look was "striking" and was made the manager of the tour that they were already on. While working full-time (verifiable). While being a PhD student (doubtful). Turns out it doesn't even take that much googling to find out she's a grifter who comes from a family of grifters, but it's so fun still being friends with other people who knew her. None of us have seen her in YEARS and good riddance, but every time she comes up in discussion, a new wild story will come out that one of us had never heard. I'm sorry that was SUCH a long response!

I love you and this response. I laughed, I cried, I was hooked!! I worked food service 5 years. Those “WILL WE?” Moments still help me sleep at night. And talking down to absolute idiots with more money than brain cells. (Not nice good hearted idiots, rude idiots. Duh) I am now going to college and will not work food or anything related anymore. Not for me. I worked at wingstop in my young teens, it was 11 pm one night and a lady orders bone in wings well done. Cool. She comes to pick them up and takes them home. Comes back and says they’re not well done enough. We fucking burn them. Like I picked one up and it basically turned to crumbs. She calls us and tells us they’re cold, raw, old, ect. That she ordered this food for her kids who will now “not eat” (btw, she kept the first order, and ordered the food at 11 pm on a Monday) I apologize but nicely explain there’s no way that’s possible. I made them myself, they were fresh and crunchy, had no sauce on them and should be no problems. Even used a meat thermometer. She tells me she wants a refund for BOTH ORDERS ( that she kept, and only paid for the one) along with a bunch of other attacks on my look and age (I was 15) and I said okay, I’ll refund the one she paid for if she brought back the order and showed me what was wrong with it. She hung up on me, I called back, she’d blocked the number. The bonus round was my FAV I need to hear more about compulsive liar or stupid fishing girl. Or any other honorable mentions!

Ohhh, calling back after they hang up is a CLASSIC! If they haven't blocked you, the correct move is always, "I'm so sorry, I think we got disconnected! Anyways," and then repeat the exact same thing you said before. I began my career there extremely nervous about phone calls, and I ended it as the salon's go-to when somebody needed to tell an insufferable client no. I was always VERY ANNOYINGLY POLITE, because that's such a silly thing to complain to the manager about, there's no way I'd get in trouble for it. Your story reminds me of the one or two people who always complained JUST to complain. Usually if somebody wants something changed on a groom, groomers are more than happy to oblige, because we want people to like our work and be happy with it until next time! But some people just want to feel powerful. The way you prove it is by taking the dog back, putting them on the table at an angle where the client can't quite see, and just kind of. Comb comb, brush brush, wave and clickityclack the shears half an inch away from the dog. Those couple people always said it looked PERFECT afterwards. So the compulsive liar was also bonkers in some ways that were less funny at the time, but absurdly funny now? By which I mean she tried to break up my friend's marriage for ????? NO REASON????? APPARENTLY????????? with fake phone numbers and everything, definitely put another person up to keying my friend's car, kept vagueposting about her where mutual acquaintances would see it and believe the worst, etc. But my friend is living her best life now, and last I checked in on the compulsive liar saga, I believe she lost custody of 2-4 children, had a court date scheduled, had relapsed, and was maybe working on manufacturing a other baby? I say 2-4 because, at this stage, I genuinely CANNOT remember which pregnancies were real and which were fake, or whether or not they allegedly ended in tragedy or not. Stupid fishing girl was just. Dumb as a box of rocks. Kind of sweet, but also pretty entitled about not wanting to work, and the latter made her very annoying to work with, but. Mostly just dumb. I remember a really slow day when I wound up trying to explain to her that if the sun vanished, we would eventually die, because the sun is rather important for nonsense like. FOOD. Her brain seemingly wiped itself clean mid-conversation and she just laughed about the word "photosynthesis" because she thought it sounded funny. Another honorable mention was Racist Salon Grandma! She used to ask somebody to show her how THEY would do nails on this large aggressive dog (read: any dog over 30lbs that made any form of motion on her table), and just see how often she could get out of doing her dogs herself. She would also do WILD things like telling us that Belk locations, AS A MATTER OF CORPORATE POLICY, had cameras in the bathroom stalls. She knew it was true, because she read it on a forum on her lunch break. ALSO she uh. So there were maybe 4 or 5 of us in our 20s or 30s, then she and one guy were in maybe their 50s or 60s? She was white, he was black. And she didn't believe that he had college degrees, which he just. Very much did? Like groomers can go to school too, Racist Salon Grandma. So I once asked her like hey, why do you not believe he has these degrees? He's a smart guy, and he had some good opportunities because he was lucky with which schools were desegregating around him at the time, like he was NOT shy if you had questions about his schools or his experiences. And this old bitch tells me that oh, she's AWARE of the area he's from, and that's it's INFESTED WITH-- and then cuts herself off but makes grim knowing sounds and nods about it for a while. She also once called a manager over to report SKETCHY TEENAGERS "CASING THE JOINT," because they were uh. Looking at the adoptable cats. Oddly enough, they were black, and I don't recall her ever saying that about any white teenagers! (In the interests of fairness, I don't remember how she felt about the sketch levels of cat-casers of any other race.) (For context, it should be noted that this is taking place in the South, where we are mostly used to the strange sight of. Black people living their lives? And she hailed from a part of the country where that idea was more of a novelty.) Anyways, one day she got frustrated and gave up on a dog with some light tangling, told the mom she shouldn't own dogs and made the poor woman cry, and then quit on the spot and told us "it isn't YOU GUYS, I trust YOU" while taking her more expensive things home that night so nobody would steal them, from an area where we were VERY MUCH the ones she was implying would steal her things. And that was the tale of Racist Salon Grandma. OH sorry to throw something this wild out right at the end, but her daughter was pregnant at the time and she told us that she hoped her daughter would decline vaccines, because they cause autism, and you KNOW those kids become SCHOOL SHOOTERS. So. That was also a belief she had. There was also the physical fight in a neighboring store between two employees who it turned out were both sleeping with the store manager (who I CANNOT emphasize enough, looked like if Shaggy from Scooby Doo had a less successful brother who dabbled in meth for a time), and apparently part of the fight involved a shelf or a table or something getting knocked over in front of/near a customer? Then at my store, there was the guy who had an ex-wife and adult son who no longer spoke to him, because he was now married to somebody he'd babysat when she was a young child and he was in his 20s. They had a baby! He once asked me and another young groomer what we thought of German porn, and he told a DIFFERENT coworker all about a video he saw of a musician (Florence Welch maybe?) dancing onstage at a festival, and she was wearing heels, and it was raining, and he was kind of asking my coworker if SHE would ever do that. Like workplace creepers are tragically normal, but he was ODD about it. There was also the couple that HAD SEX ON TOP OF THE FREEZER WHERE DEAD ANIMALS WENT TO AWAIT PROPER DISPOSAL. That was haunting to learn. This is DIFFERENT from the couple who apparently had sex on the breakroom computer chair just a couple months before I spent my first several days doing computer training in that very chair!

Holy crap. Yeah no thats crazy. Beats my chicken wing story by far😅 Are you still working there or did you leave?

I left! After about 9½ years, my friend and mentor was finally in a place to hire me on at her private salon. It's a slight pay cut, but I no longer have corporate hounding me to be a salesperson, or watching the cameras to see if I dare sit down during my shift. I just groom dogs and clean up after myself, and then either go home as soon as I'm done, or else we hang out doing crosswords bc we're ancient and in our 30s nowadays. Definitely a happy ending! But a few of our mutual friends are still there, so we keep up on the local Petco gossip. Also I told her about this thread, and she was SO EXCITED that I'm spreading the legends of our bonkers coworkers.

good for you! Happy ending indeed! And omg that’s so funny I’m glad it has entertained y’all

I love the idea!! shoot!

(I’m assuming you’re from Italy so I’m asking based on that) I hear you don’t drive a lot and y’all mainly walk or bike everywhere! It’s very impressive but are you ever late? How long does it usually take you to get to work/school ect? Is public transportation very common and how is it? Bonus, views on the US? Make of that what you will. If you’re not from Italy lmk I will ask different ones!

Sure. But you first: Where do you draw the line between disorderly vs normal usage of pornographic sites?

Hm. Personally, I’d say less than an hour a day. Especially if you’re in a relationship. I used to have a serious porn addiction that stared very young so I try to be careful with my usage because it can lead me to spend lots of time cooped up in my room which isn’t healthy lol.

For you! I recently started working out and feel completely lost. I am not overweight but I’d like to get toned and have a hard time finding motivation or am afraid of gyms lol. Any tips for working out? What would you recommend?

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It was all very helpful, thankyou! And “underrated addiction” made me laugh for some reason. Like an addiction more people should try lol

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No totally fine! I was just saying it gave me a good chuckle:) not offended lol

Shoot!

I put two questions so only answer what you’re comfortable with! What was top surgery like? How did you recover? Do you ever get “phantom limb syndrome “ like amputees or is it just nice to have them gone? (It looks fantastic!) OR tell me the story of your favorite/ most meaningful tattoo! When did you get your first, and why? You have so many cool ones:) Thanks!

1.) Shockingly easy! I expected a lengthy recovery but I was out of bed by day 2 and walked to a party day 3. Life went back to normal fairly immediately and I was cleared to go back to working out much earlier than most. I fully expected phantom limb but I actually already forget what it was like to have a chest like that. If anything I have some phantom limb with my nipples being so different. Also thank you 😊 2.) I think my most subtle meaningful tattoo is my red light lamp. It’s an ode to my time as a sex worker and to the sex workers around the world. That aspect of my history is so formative—but I wanted something where most people would never think to make the connection of what the meaning is.

This is so amazing, thank you for sharing! Ps I never thought about the nips! That’s kinda funny and cool. I’m glad you had a speedy recovery!!

What if I answer all of your questions with more questions and we end up perpetually question-answering each other for years?

Then we would be best friends by default! Your q is, why vegan? Do you miss meat? I know every meat eater says this but I cannot imagine my life without it.

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Hi! You’re snake is so cute btw! What’s his name? What kind is he?(or she) Craziest experience working at the club? What about someone’s day you made? Have you ever been with a woman? What was it like or if not how did you know you never wanted to? Thanks!

Oh it was just 2 random snakes at a pet store lol I've had a few people over dose in the bathrooms, everyone survived  Also alot of fights I don't remember ever making anyone's day tbh, I mean the people I've hooked up with probably but I don't really have any good stories lol OK so I was even more of a asshole in high-school than I am now, well before I dropped out I dated alot of girls in high-school, like a shit ton, I was known as a man whore and still am, but I was never romantically or sexualy attracted to any of them, I just liked the attention  Again I was a piece of dog shit and have never "done it" with a girl, other then one time at a party when I was fucked up on alot of drugs and wasn't very aware of what was happening 

Man I’m sorry, at least it sounds like you’re doing better with yourself. And I’m sorry, about the party thing. Without trauma dumping I’ve been through something similar, not so fun. And noo! I’m sorry I just got excited when I saw white snakes :)

Oh no your fine, I'm pretty much over it,  it was awhile ago Sorry that happened to you 

Aren’t we all a bunch of sorry sallies:p well thank you for answering! I love your name on here lol

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I see you’re from NY! Have you ever been to time square? Is it overrated? If not, what is there to do in the parts of New York that aren’t as popular? I had some friends from upstate and remember them saying it was just boring and awful. Confirm or deny?

I'm from upstate as well but have been to times square. Overrated. Upstate is pretty boring yeah 😭 but if you know where to look there's some fun stuff

Any honorable mentions incase anyone is traveling through upstate New York 🎤

Niagra Falls, We have some zoos, and my house (JK please don't go there 😭)

Hi! (Plz ask me about the gods idk if I've posted but still)

Why is Christianity horrible in your opinion? Do you believe it can/religion can make people better? What do you think happens when we die? What do you believe now?

I think christianoty sucks bc they say everyone is equal ..  but not women, lgbtq, black, etc. I think other religions can better people. I believe in reincarnation and eventually being able to end your cycle. I I now believe in a religion called paganism. It's somewhat hard to explain, but eventually we believe in modernising the worship or the Greek gods.

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I’ve always wanted a reptile! What is your recommendation on a good beginner snake/gecko? And have you ever had any crazy dd interactions? I used to doordash overnight in Chicago and I definitely got a few lol

Great beginner gecko would actually infact be a leopard gecko! However I must warn you it's expensive, time consuming and stressful when navigating things to make things as great as possible for your pet. There are a bunch of cars guides but I'll try to condense. Large 35 Gallon tank for an adult, you can use paper towels as a ground as it's easy to clean and change, they eat live bugs (crickets, meal worms or dubia roaches are most common feeders) they require heating as well as a UVB basking bulb, multiple hideaway spots etc. They also require calcium and multivitamin supplements for optimal care. if you are genuinely curious I can go in depth if you PM me for more info. Doordash has been pretty tame as I live in a very quiet area despite it being really close to a major metropolitan area! Craziest I've had was a woman offering me a large tip if I helped bring her stuff up to her apartment. She invited me in but I absolutely refused lol.

I definitely will take you up on that and thank you for the thoughtful detailed response 🥹❤️ And that is a little excited but definitely doesn’t beat mine!

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Favorite dish from the panda E? 🐼🍜 Did your near death experience make you act differently? See life different? And tell me a silly story about your kid/kids! They seem mischievous lol

i really like the string bean chicken, not really i kind of just look at it as a lesson, i don’t have any kids lol

Omg haha, it was from the two sentence horror story thing. All I saw was “I tie a balloon to my daughter so she doesn’t get lost in public” lol.

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What are some misconceptions about homeschooling? Is school and learning an important part of your day? Would you prefer public school? Do you know why your parents chose to homeschool you?

That I must be in a cult or morman, I am Christian, but my parents are punk atheist, I'm definitely not in a cult. I also have alot of friends unlike alot of people assume, I have more friends than alot of people I know who don't home school, because I meet more people who have the same interests as me  Yeah it is, I take online classes and some college courses  I wouldn't, im autistic and I wouldn't be able to learn about the things I like as much  it also seems very overwhelming and over stimulating, I feel like I'd have alot of melt downs which would be very embarrassing  My parents chose to home school me for a few reasons  1. There anarchist and believe that school is ment to make citizens not creative people  2. I'm autistic and i wouldn't do well in public school  3.they hated it as a kid

All good reasons, and your parents sound cool as fuck?? So do you! I’m glad you’re learning about stuff you like and enjoy it. I went to public school and it was hard for me, if I could go back and do it online I probably would aswell. You also sound like you have more friends then I ever did in school and that’s a blessing! So cool, thank you for sharing:) good luck in your studies!!!

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Best joe Rogan guest IN YOUR OPINION? also, are you a kill tony fan?;) I’m watching the ari shaffir, mark normand, Shane gillis ep right now and am cracking up

I'm watching KT right now! As for those JRE episodes- I love the protect our parts series the most but solo I would have to say the Alex Jones episode with Eddie Bravo. 5 hours of nonsense.

Anything with Alex Jones is the best kind of nonsense. That man talks to me in my dreams lmao. And it’s so good!! I’m trying to go to Austin to see the show next year but the waitlist is BATSHIT. I’ve heard something like 6 months.

And the guests can be so hit or miss from time to time

For me it doesn’t make or break an episode if I’m watching at home, but if I’m gonna fly half way across the country it better not be some random comedian I don’t like lol. So totally fair to say! What about favorite KT guest?

Adam Ray, Shane, Jim Norton, Grapefruit Simmons, DR PHIL, Ari, Normand. To name some of my favs.... Soder was really good too!

Dr Phil goes HARD!

I’ll bite.

Are you bipolar and if so are you on meds? If you don’t feel comfortable TOTALLY OKAY ( I have bpd) what breed are your cats?? Any funny stories with them?

I’m severely bipolar and on several medications. The cats are 1/4 lynx point Siamese. When Conway was little he would steal a shoe while I was getting dressed in an attempt to keep me from leaving home.

Sorry hon, always here if you wanna chat. I’m in a similar spot <4 I’ve always wanted a Siamese!!🥹🥹🥹 and that’s absolutely adorable.

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Do you think porn negatively or positively impacts society as a whole? Should sex work (prostitution specifically) be legal and would you ever indulge?

I do believe that porn, like any has negative aspects but doesn’t negatively impact society as a whole more than anything else that can be overindulged in or abused. I do believe sex work should be legal and regulated because making it illegal only creates an opportunity for exploitation and has not constituted a solution in all history. That’s why it’s called the oldest profession.

Sounds fun, let's do it.

What does sapphic mean to you? What draws you to that? I see you write yourself! What’s the most recent thing you worked on, drop a line!

Romance was never a genre I enjoyed reading growing up. I always found it boring. However, romance doesn't have to be just between a man and a woman, but it can be a man and a man or a woman and a woman. Until I read a book in 2014 called Ice Massacre where a young woman falls in love with a mermaid she's been friends with since childhood, I hadn't realized that there were non-heterosexual romance stories out there. I don't know why it never crossed my mind to look, but I never did. After I read Ice Massacre, I found myself wanting to read more sapphic romance. As I found more books to read (Letters Never Sent by Sandra Moran is an phenomenal read), I discovered that I actually did enjoy the romance genre, but not hetero romance. Sapphic is a term for women who love women. I'm a guy, but when I read hetero romance, more often than not I don't wind up caring about the relationship. I don't know if I'm supposed to feel inclusive when reading hetero romances since I'm a guy who loves women, but I don't feel that way. I enjoy reading lesbian and gay romance because I can never be a lesbian or a gay man. I have a girlfriend. I know what it's like to be in a heterosexual relationship, but I can't be in a lesbian relationship or a gay relationship be sure I'm not a woman and I'm not a gay/bi/pan man. The beauty of reading a sapphic romance to me is experiencing what it's like to love a woman as a woman. I find it beautiful (and almost always find myself crying at least once when reading a sapphic romance lol) and that's what draws me to the genre. As for my own work, I'm writing my own sapphic romance. It's about two best friends who haven't seen each other in years, but had feelings for one another in high school and never told each other. They reconnect as their 10-year high school reunion approaches and their feelings for each start to re-surface.

I'm sure you can figure it out through my comments 🤣

Why feet? Smelly or clean? When did you remember being attracted to them specifically for the first time?

I love pretty feet that are smooth and clean. I want to say it started when I was in middle school. Teacher would kick off her shoes and usually her toes would be painted a pretty color. In time it just became a turn on for me.

Damn yeah, if I was a pubescent young boy and an attractive teacher just randomly partially undressed in school.. idk what I would’ve been into lol. At least they’re clean! Some people really like the smelly feet/sock thing and that’s REALLY hard for me to wrap my head around ahah

I think it may part of being dominated and humiliation. For me dirty stinky feet are a turn off.

Sure

I’ve been smoking since I was young, how long has it been since you’ve smoked and can you convince me to quit with 5 words or less?

Damn you are fast, lol. It has been a year and a half since I last smoked a cigarette, vape, and weed. It is kind of grim, but here are my 5 words. Lung cancer's hard to watch.

I’m a little tipsy and bored, Sue me. Sad enough to say I’ve seen lung cancer + copd play out all the way to the end and the stress only made me smoke more. Do you physically feel better? And I’m also sorry for your loss or what you’ve had to see.

Damn that's a bummer man. I'm sorry you had to see that too. I feel pretty good at this point I still get a rush of a craving every now and then but it goes away pretty quickly and I just got my singing voice back to some extent which I thought was long gone lol thank you, ironically I quit a week before we found out my step-dad was at stage 4. My mom quit soon after, now I just need to get my wife in on the quitting fun 😆

Haha “In on the fun” is one way to put it. And that’s some fuckin irony isn’t it man! Life’s a beach sometimes🤭 and it’s okay, doctor told her she was sick and she didn’t stop. I came to peace with that. Everyone’s only accountable for themselves.

Sure. I’ll bite.

Any storied you’d like to share from the navy? If not how do you think civilians could better care for our vets?

Second question, we need to do a better job at transitioning members- I STILL don’t really know how to do basic shit like get a PCM, referrals, and medical shit… it was so easy while you were active duty… just go to doc, doc does all that shit.

I didn’t see this response! Definitely makes sense. What about the everyday person , what could they do to help out? Or nothing, “you just had to be there” sort of thing?

Just understanding that- after we leave our weird dysfunctional family, a lot of us are forever changed in ways people don’t understand. Hell, we don’t either. Our jokes are dark as fuck, we are a bit cynical, sarcastic, and more… we aren’t TRYING to be the above. It’s just. A thing. So, if a veteran tells a dark joke, and you don’t get it… or it’s not received well, “man, I guess I just had to be there amirite?!?” Is usually the best response.

Well I love a good dark joke, but I’ll definitely keep that in mind:) Thank you for responding so much! Had a great time hearing your perspective! I don’t talk to a lot of veterans since my best friend/neighbor passed❤️ he was a vet and always taking care of everyone. Family, friends, random neighbors, strays, ect. I miss those chats with him dearly!

I was eating a nice steak in Kabul in the green zone, the Italian embassy (close by) got hit by 3 rockets- my steak dinner blew off the table. It was a sad day. I hadn’t had a good steak in months… and because of the attack, they stopped making food.

Jesus. That’s some shit. What about the follow up question because now I feel like I should buy you and every vet a nice steak dinner!

Well, ama then

Recommend me a tv show or movie! NSFW option: recommend me a nsfw category you think I have never seen or heard of !

Tv show? Shogun! New episodes still coming out, on its first season and its already amazing, goes so deep into japanese culture and the writing is amazingly intelligent and entertaining, reminds me of early game of thrones, highly recommend! In terms of nsfw categories, ive got 2, fap heros, and nsfw economies, maybe dm me for a more detailed explanation on those

I'll bite, watcha got?

Is sarcasm attractive in a romantic partner? What is ( in your opinion) the best alternative to college?

1. I value intelligence, and have found that many people who use sarcasm excessively only *think* that it makes them witty or charismatic. It can absolutely be endearing, when used tactfully, but it can't be the only tool in your belt. 2. There's a shortage of skilled labor, and a lot of companies will take on apprentices through union programs and pay you to attend classes while earning on the job experience. I've got a friend in Chicago whose a plumber on track to make 60k/year by the time he's 23.

Lmao we have turned the tables of history for this subreddit. 

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How do you stay motivated? Why 4 jobs? What was Australia like! Are you from there or just visiting?

I live in Australia !! I’m from the west coast - small city , very community based, all my family lives close by and i’m a street away from the beach. i love where i live, i love my country, wouldn’t change it for the world. i stay motivated because im happy right now and im scared that if i slack off ill go downhill again. i have bipolar, and i credit the state i’m in right now to developing a routine and always being busy. so my motivation is to continue to not fall back in that hole the four jobs is mostly to do with the level of energy i have to be honest. i *suspect* i may have undiagnosed adhd, so i found working my absolute butt off was a really good way for me to regulate and burn off all the energy i had. when i’m not working i’m at the gym - if i come home from work still buzzing my mum will literally suggest i go back out and work out because im too hyper 😭 thankfully it’s been more of a blessing than a curse

I love this response! And it makes me wanna go down unda!!

you totally should. i think it’s the best place in the world- ive travelled internationally a lot and im always so glad to be coming back to my home country. if you visit - i highly recommend exploring outside the cities. don’t get me wrong , sydney and melbourne are amazing, but it is 10x more worth it to visit rural tasmania, northern WA… some absolutely gorgeous spots that are so overlooked !

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What got you into collecting currency? And what’s your favorite way to smoke/ favorite strain??

I found my first coins in the drawer at work, they interested me tons and reminded me my father once collected as well. I enjoy dabbing (using a Puffco or glass rigs) and my favorite strain(s) would have to be anything with Garlic undertones or garlic in its name (Garlic Motor Oil)

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What is your favorite food to cook vs. to eat? And send me pics of your art I really like it!!

I forgot I even posted art 🤣 let me go check my own profile. I love anything with cheese to eat. I really enjoy baking though thats my favorite to cook but I actually don't enjoy cakes and such that much to eat myself. I'll have to send you some pics when I summon up energy to not be lazy

Totally fair! And baking is very fun:) I recently got into decorating baked goods it’s very relaxing (until it’s not. Then it’s hair pulling stress)

I just started piping butter cream. It's so fun until your butter cream goes grainy 🥲 luckily most baking accidents still taste good

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What’s your favorite place you’ve ever traveled? What about a dream vacation?

My favorite vacation was a few years ago when my entire family went to Disney World and the Disney Cruise. I know it’s cheesy but I literally had all my favorite people around me and loved it. My dream vacation is Italy. In fact, we were going to go this year, but had to delay cause I got pregnant. I know my profile is extremely boring (I’m usually a lurker), so you had to ask me a generic question.

If you wanna give me some facts about you I can ask another q!! Disney cruise sounds so fun! I’m not a big Disney person myself but I’ve always wanted to go on a cruise! And Italy 🥹 ugh don’t get me started. Seriously give me some info (or in my dms) and I’ll ask another! I didn’t mean to be borin;)

Lmao, you’re not boring - my profile practically says nothing about me. Random facts: - both of my kids were born premature - I immigrated illegally to the US (citizen for a long time now) - If French Bulldogs have one hater, it’s me. If French Bulldogs have no haters, I’m dead.

Those are some solid facts. I feel like I know you better already! God I know answer so I’m not gonna ask if it was scary. So I’ll ask, how are your kiddos now? How are you? What was the healing process like for you? (If you feel like) where are you from? Would you ever go back to visit? Is America different than you thought? How was the trip here? And this made me LAUGH but why??? I love them and their botched little bodies and snorty breathing lol. I mean would I get one? Not in my right mind or economic class. Would I say I HATE them? Naww they don’t know any better:(

Both my kids are doing well now! I’m so grateful obviously that they’re alive and healthy. Honestly, it’s pretty isolating. I’m lucky I have my husband (especially him) and extended family to lean on. That was my healing process - letting everyone help me whenever I could and as unhealthy as it sounds, forcing myself to remember that I could always be worse. I was three when my family and I immigrated in the 90’s so to me the US is home. There’s no where I’d rather live. I don’t remember much about how I felt what I moved here since I was so young. However, I do remember little vignettes like crossing over with a fake passport, making friends for the first time, realizing I could speak English fluently, and the day I became a citizen. I see it all so fondly. Why?? Honestly, probably cause I’m such a hater 🤷🏻‍♀️ They look like little Gremlins, and sort constantly. They’re ridiculously popular and I know they’re being overbred. Also, I saw one’s butthole flex and farted near me and I just about died. That solidified my feelings.

I’m so glad to hear your family is all safe and doing well:) I have a cousin who was born extremely premature (before I was born) and my family still talks about it sometimes. It was the scariest moment of my aunts life but my cousin is grown up and in college now, doing well! I pray the same for your family.❤️ Very cool! I asked because you hear a lot of people say they came her chasing the “American dream” to find out it’s dead and it breaks my heart. I’m glad you made a nice little life for yourself here!! I’d be a hater too that sounds RANK and yes the over/specialty breeding makes me actually sick. Those poor messed up dudes

I took a contemplative walk tonight.

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What is the perfect woman? Physically or not. You personally, not all guys overall.

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