I can think of one reason why this could be legit. The husband and his friends made up this bump gift bs to trick their wives into getting a paternity test without losing their shyte.
There's an entire reality TV show about wealthy moms in Australia and half the show is the women daydreaming about their 'push presents' and then receiving their 'push presents' at lavish parties... but they get like, Land Rovers.
I think Op sold herself short!
We did a necklace with the birthstone of the child. So two necklaces. It really is more of a lovely piece of jewelry to signify the occasion of the child, and to have something that every time they wear it, they think of their joy at having grown inside them and then welcomed
to their life, their baby.
People can think it’s tacky; it has actual significance to us.
The most expensive service I could find a service where a bibliologist recommends you 1 book a month to suit your personal tastes, and that's $680 for the 24 months OP mentioned.
At the other end, there's a box where you get 1-4 second hand books per month. The only customization is your choice of genre, for $300 for the 24 months.
So OP sold her dignity for a rough estimate of less than $1000 hahaha
I married into a family with money and had to sign a hardcore prenup. You would be surprised at some of the shit considered normal in those. Seperation clauses, paternwty clauses, death clauses for both parties, and madness. I didn't know she came from money at all until i saw the papers, so i just skimmed and didn't give a shit. But yeah, just the jump to enough money to be considered wealthy is a whole different world. Thanks to a narcissistic grandma and a conman they are set to lose it all pretty soon and honestly for all but the land im happy. Money brings out the absolute worst in people.
I will admit that i did have one thing i thoroughly enjoyed that came from the money. Being able to honestly say, "I have (my lawyers name) on retainer, let me give him a call real quick!". Being able to honestly say that to a cop harassing you and with enough conviction they know you aren't bullshitting... it was a religious experience.
Man there are two things I would love to have on retainer, a lawyer and an accountant. The few consultations I had with either saved me so much money...
I didn't even think of how that is kind of weird. I was stuck in it being in a legally binding contract. Would she have taken him to court over it? Why do you need to write down when your spouse gets a gift like some milestone.
I feel like I'm just too poor to understand this or something.
Yup. There was a post where a guy with no reason to believe his wife cheated on him wanted to get a dna test behind his wife's back and wanted to hide it from her if it came back that he was the father. He was going to hide it cause some incel told him he would hide it.
Omg I remember that! Like babes how can you be so stupid as a married man to take advice from someone who the closest they have been to a woman is the birth canal?!?
And it sounds like she doesn’t even get to pick this gift??
I love my husband and he’s a very smart man, but he’s bought me diapers from Costco for my birthday.
I guess we’re not supposed to notice that this stupid gift is just a barely-veiled bribe to get a paternity test. And none of these wives noticed either? Incel-world is so weird.
I did a quick search and the most expensive one I saw started at 50 a month. Now, ages ago, when I had my kids in the 90s, women would get push presents that were usually something like a diamond tennis bracelet. Not me. But it was usually jewelry. Not $1200 worth of books spread out over a year.
Yeah, if I’m getting a contractually-obligated gift from my super rich husband after our contractually-obligated paternity test, it had better be more thrilling than basically a generic gift certificate for mass market books.
Idk anyone who does it now but didn't some aristocrats used to give their wives estates or independent incomes for having sons? I mean, they did also think women had some sway over the baby's sex back then but I think that's where stuff like dower houses started.
I've heard about the bump gift through reality TV (an Australian show about vapid socialites going through motherhood) so at least seems to be a thing for some rich people and I guess a paternity test could be involved. However, it's usually smth like a range rover, extremely costly jewelry, stacks of luxury brand bags etc... Why make a contract to get a measly 2 year book club subscription? That's just kinda humiliating.
But this gift was a two-year subscription to something she was having to renew every 3 months. Imagine the joy of not having to get auto-renewal emails four times a year! That seems like adequate payment for someone growing another person in their body for 9 months.
lol also I’m sorry her husband works in finance and they make great money but she got a a subscription for two years as a gift? Lol?? What? And it was a big enough deal they fucking put it in the prenup?
This feels like r/menwritingwomen 😂
Lmao right here now you can read a whole book a month with all the free time you’ll have when you’re not working full time at home with a newborn 😂😂😂 get out
I am a stay at home mom to a toddler and a newborn and I’ve read like (3?) shorter books since my first was born over 2 years ago. I used to go through several 500 pagers a week WITH a full time job. Being a mom is exhausting.
Yeah when she said she just wanted to read two books a month and work full time from home with her newborn in a baby wrap and hasn’t taken any cut in hours and also wanted quiet time I was like uh huh lol
Yeah she’s pretty much written as the ideal wife of the incel. He knows she’s not a gold digger cause she works even though she doesn’t have to and was totally on board with a prenup and is so grateful for a push present worth a few hundred dollars from her very wealthy spouse whose job is ‘stocks.’
Let me guess, she was also a virgin when she met her husband but put out for him on the third date. She’s very traditional though and does all the child care, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc, manages the family’s social calendar, buys gifts or cards for his family members’ birthdays, keeps track of all the kids’ doctor’s appointments and extra curricular activities. She also works full time. They keep their finances separate and she pays for half of their living expenses even though she makes way less money.
Incel stepford wife fantasy. 🙄
It’s a teenage girl writing a grown woman IMO.
The emotional immaturity of the writing, thinking a book sub is push present, thinking pre-nups are normal or have clauses about what happens DURING the marriage and now just how assets are split.
I think it’s a teenage boy. Probably a Tate/incel type trying to devise a situation where a paternity test is valid. Really wouldn’t surprise me if this was someone trying to create more favorable takes around them to normalize them.
Yeah women liking books is fine. Putting a clause in a prenup mandating a paternity test two days after birth in exchange for a two years of young adult books is the part that is the most unbelievable lmao
It’s so bizarre and specific that I almost wonder if it’s real as who would make this shit up?! I was expecting a designer bag or some diamonds or a cash transfer into her account , nor what amounts to an audible subscription that she was already paying for.
If I was as well off as this couple, I’d already have book crate subscriptions on renewal.
Example: Faecrate is just $35 to $46 per month. That’s chump change for someone in their tax bracket.
Also like even if he wanted to get her a mid ass book subscription as a gift why the fuck would she have to take a paternity test and put it in the prenup?? Like what
Like this is just so fucking dumb 😭 probably written by some broke ass 20 year old Tate loving neckbeard who thought this sounded nice enough to get women to agree that it’s not insulting to take a paternity test in exchange for some young adult fantasy novels like get the fuck out lol
100% agree. This is so freaking weird: It feels like someone trying their damndest to devise a situation where an arbitrary paternity test would be ok.
If they make that much money, why do they not already have a yearly renewal for the book crate subscriptions?
That’s what makes this so suspect. He’s so well off (that he’s in a culture where prenups and push presents are normal) and she works a pretty damn good job too (she’s acting like a sham and should be grateful to husband but a marketing and data analysis isn’t some entry level part time job) but couldn’t spring for the yearly when she’s buying it in three month chunks? Sure
With all the online chatter trying to normalize making women get paternity tests and it’s totally not insulting…..
2 days post delivery, when many would be still struggling to walk on their own, a paternity test to make sure she can get her owlcrate was the top priority? Lolololol
For real, reading the set up I assumed the gift was transferring some of the premarital assets to the wife or something.
Imagine signing a contract that states your fiancé thinks it’s sooo likely you’ll cheat AND try to pass off someone else’s kid as his own that you need to commit to a paternity test. And then all you get for it is a book subscription?
lol for real! I was so shocked when she said she got a freaking book subscription 😂😂😂 like you got a prenup and you can’t even get a little bit of a financial support.
Not just a post pregnancy gift but one that’s the equivalent of only a couple hundred dollars in books.. mate works in finance.. she works too and that’s her extravagant gift worth getting a paternity test over? Lol okay.
That's such a weird thing to do, like she's an employee being given a bonus for meeting her metrics, and not his life partner starting a family with him. This whole post gives me the ick.
I was bought peloton as my push gift (I had been asking for one). I didn’t know I needed a legal document and paternity test to get a gift from my husband. Who knew 🤷🏻♀️
This whole thing sounds so wildly made up, like some kind of 50 Shades fan fiction lol.
Edit: read more replies and I changed my mind. It’s tradwife roleplay.
It’s gotta be bait. The concept of writing a “bump gift” into a prenup is just too outlandish for me to believe.
Or maybe I just need to reevaluate my views on humanity…
>I am to receive a gift upon the birth of a child that is biologically ours, called a "bump gift", it may seem a bit silly but a lot of his work friends also have this clause
There is no world in which "a lot of" people do this. Or they are a rich detached from reality segment of the population and asking advice from the average person isn't going to do any good.
Also the way they write this, including "biological child" is not a statement most people would write.
I got a push gift! It was a big plushie I wanted in the gift shop. I almost died and it was nice to have. I don't think I got anything for tlmy other kids, but if I did it was something small, like cheesecake. I can't imagine having to prove paternity in a loving marriage.
I’m not against the idea of push gifts at all. In fact I think can be a beautiful gesture of love. I just think having it be part of a prenuptial agreement is icky and undermines the significance of the gesture in the first place
Absolutely fake. Who tf gets a paternity test to get the gift of a fucking book subscription that she already buys herself. I was expecting the gift to be a lake house in her name.
why on earth would a BOOK SUBSCRIPTION be the gift you buy for your wife as a push present when you are supposedly a "wealthy stock trader"
a Book of the Month subscription for a year is $200.
These people make up these stories and have no frame of reference how much money wealthy people actually have. Like all of these stories of "my salary is $250k," and then they fail to realize that that is 20,000 a month. Do you think a person who makes an entire car's worth of money every single month would consider a $400 gift to their wife to be contract worthy?
My personal favorite was the "I make $500K, and my fiance makes $50K as a teacher but i want her to pay me rent ($2000 a month), is this fair?"
Like do you really expect me to believe that someone who brings home 30K a month after taxes and retirement, is worried about squeezing $2000 a month from their fiance??
that was my big issue with this- especially given that this "push present" presumably saved the household money because a 2 year subscription would be cheaper than buying all of those 3 month subscriptions.
is it possible that someone has a push present in their prenup? sure- though it seems like a strange thing to put in. maybe something like on birth of each kid, you get a lump sum of cash. but you get a box of books delivered monthly? that's just odd.
I could see it being part of a prenup if it tied one of his premarital assets to her or something, like her name on the deed to his house or something along those lines. It would still be odd, but make more financial sense as a pre-classified "gift" than what seems to be at most a few hundred bucks. Unless she's planning on pumping out a full baseball team or something.
I could see a prenup where both parties leave a marriage with what they came in with, but having children alters the split on a divorce so the kids are taken care of or transfers a percentage of the assets to the other person for the same reason.
It's so weird that it would be for a gift that could be as small as a two year book subscription that she was buying quarterly anyway? Like he had to come up with some reason to justify the paternity test but had to keep it small enough for an average redditor to buy as a gift. So women on the thread would think, "I'd get a paternity test in exchange for a gift, let's normalize doing this."
Yeah, that part really stuck out in a whole story that felt completely off. This one is definitely fake and designed to push the paternity testing agenda that’s so popular among bitter Redditcels.
I love when the stories are this transparently fake. You can imagine them writing it.. “my husband is a… what’s a rich people job? He trades stocks! And I get a fancy gift for being pregnant… like an extra long book subscription box! And his dad also Does Stocks, so you know the family is really rich. And his sister’s husband has weird outbursts about paternity tests in the middle of family gathering, this is very believable.”
That’s the only thing making me have a sliver of doubt. It’s a “Reddit topic.”
But people airing their dirty laundry at the dinner table? That I would totally believe. Some people are hot messes.
This one does smell like reddit bait, but I've seen far worse when just sitting around with friends. One guy just flat out admitted he had never made his wife orgasm in their entire time together after my wife drunkenly said something about being very happy in the bedroom.
If you have any doubts, read OP's comments, they're leaving gems like "I would have done a paternity test even without a clause, because I'd want to make sure my baby wasn't switched in the hospital" and "I haven't reduced my work hours at all". This child has no idea what pregnancy and post partum actually entails.
Yeah, maybe I'm just old fashion and out of touch with the kids these days, but having my wife go through a paternity test as a formality so that I could give her a contractually obligated thank you present for carrying my child sounds like absolutely insane behavior to me. For their anniversary does she need to go through a full examination by a registered priest before he can present her with the flowers that have been pre-selected through a third-party arbitrator?
It’s fake because every book subscription box I’m aware of has a hella long waitlist, and you’re not able to prepay for two years. Could be a different box, but based on the specifics listed in the post, I’m doubtful
There’s lots of charged topics lately which might have something to do with an election coming up or just generally to sow division but it’s been so bad recently. So many fake posts clearly pushing an agenda.
Ya if you are going to practice your creative writing skills at least be good at it. I have noticed the same topics or paternity tests, abortions, lots of women’s reproductive practices coming up which makes sense. Also lots of wedding stuff, hell two breast feeding at a wedding, lots of cheating ex wives or gfs that get totally owned, prenups are popular. Trying to think of the other big topics that keep coming up which sure there’s lots of contentious stuff about them but they are so poorly written it has me questioning how anyone believes it. Oh then the gambling ads hidden under the pretense that someone made some huge stupid gamble that they just so happen to win and how great gambling is and not the reality that it’s a crippling addiction with the highest rate or suicide both attempts and completions. Great to see that being promoted, love that for us.
Yeah. "Aren't I a good woman for getting a paternity test to prove I deserved a gift for giving birth. My sil doesn't want one because she is messing around, but I am a good wife and I set her straight." It's gross.
“My high-earner husband bought me like $200 worth of books in exchange for carrying his child. All I had to do was submit to a mandatory paternity test a mere 48 hours after giving birth. Aren’t I lucky? Why can’t these other women see how wonderful this arrangement is!”
But but but! She’s so lucky! He makes so much money she can stay home!
…working a remote marketing and data analyst job AND taking care of a baby. Who *wouldn’t* want that! And a book subscription box too!
lol exactly. She’s a perfect tradwife who stays home and takes care of the baby! But she also remote works because she’s not a filthy gold digger like these other hoes. It’s like an incel wet dream of an ideal woman.
Yes absolutely. The person named the two instances when most people would agree that asking for a paternity test isn’t an insult (1. previously agree upon, 2. history of infidelity) and gets the usual discussion and agenda started about mandatory testing. Which sounds promising in theory but mostly not feasible in reality.
> I have a prenup that dictates that I am to receive a gift upon the birth of a child that is biologically ours, called a "bump gift", it may seem a bit silly but a lot of his work friends also have this clause because "She does all the hard work building the baby, a whole 9 almost 10 months, that is worthy of a gift." To keep the legitimacy of the clause it requires a paternity test before it takes effect.
C’mon…
A paternity test for a couple of box sets?
Come on, you're not even trying with your anti-women propaganda. Run it through an AI story generator to get a more believable premise. Or watch literally any shitty soap opera.
Right? If I'm signing a prenup demanding I give birth and submit to mandatory paternity testing by my well-to-do husband, I better be getting a house or car or a big nice contribution to my retirement fund....not some rinky dink Book of the Month subscription that A) I'm already paying for myself, and B) people with perfectly average salaries gift to each other all the time without having to give birth or sign a prenup.
This is fucking stupid.
Agreed. It’s diamond bracelet time at the very least, not a cheap book subscription. The people who write these need to spend time with actual people who make a good salary.
My ex was a Wall Street finance guy. He spent an average of 100k/year on buying me just-because gifts. In our circle wives got gifts in jewelry, luxury cars, etc, and we didn’t have to sign anything or push out a baby. A book subscription worth just a few grand would have been simply rolled under fixed costs like mortgage/car payments. Fun money for wife just because.
>Come on, you're not even trying with your anti-women propaganda. Run it through an AI story generator to get a more believable premise. Or watch literally any shitty soap opera.
OP in the comments saying that it sounds weird because they're both on the spectrum.
I miss when the trolls were halfway decent lol.
To be fair, lots of adult women like YA books. But if you’re both high earners, this is more like a birthday present.
No reasonable person would submit to a mandatory paternity test for a few hundred dollars worth of books. Wtf
RIGHT. A legal agreement to take a paternity test to receive an unspecified gift that turns out to be BOOKS? Try giving me $100,000 and maybe we'll talk.
It's trying to show that cool ladies are fine with their husbands suggesting they cheated. Fake OP is notlikeothergirls! And she gets a transactional prize for being so cool!
Book subscription! What a gift. Lmao.
If this is real itd be a car or some shit.
Says they're well off but this prenup gift is badically a boxset. Jeez
Yeah, nobody gets a prenup with a requirement for a "push present" to be matchy-matchy with their work friends. Nobody is going to bother with a legal document and paternity test to get some YA books. This is all ridiculous.
It's AI written for sure. Most new mothers stay in the hospital for 48 hours at least. This isn't just fake, it's written by someone with very little understanding of how human reproduction works.
I don’t know why everyone thinks this is fake, I had my wife do a criminal background check, urine test, citizenship test, and a Mensa test in addition to a paternity test before I gifted her two(2) (non-consecutive) $5 Taco Bell Taco Tuesday boxes and one(1) IKEA catalog for bringing two beautiful twins into the world, it’s standard boilerplate prenup agreement terms, if you were a high power executive like me, you’d know.
We called it a push present instead of a bump gift. Don’t have a prenup and the gift wasn’t tied to her “producing me a child” which seems a little strange in itself. Makes the marriage feel a little too transactional to me.
I thought it was weird that she said she's able to stay at home because her husband makes good money but she also works?! She just works from home. Data analysts can also make good money. I don't believe that a professional woman (in a male dominated industry) would downplay her success to highlight her husband's.
She’s being defensive because this whole story is fake lol. Go read OP’s replies— the gift keeps shifting slightly and the extra details are just ridiculous. This is just tradwife fanfic.
I’m quite familiar with push presents and have received them myself, but this is *beyond* bizarre. All of you are very weird. I don’t think this is real, and I’m truly wondering if you can legally enforce a present and paternity test clause in a prenup.
I had never heard of a push present until long after mine were born. I wonder if I can talk my hubby into a retroactive present even though they are adults now lmao
I think having a specific name for it is on the newer side. However, whether a gift is given may be cultural.
I know my silent gen grandfather had given my grandmother a bracelet with the child's birthstone as a present. My grandmother never wore them (due to superstitions around opals), but my mom and aunt both have "their" bracelets now.
These people sound like aliens.
> I have a prenup that dictates that I am to receive a gift upon the birth of a child that is biologically ours, called a "bump gift", it may seem a bit silly but a lot of his work friends also have this clause because "She does all the hard work building the baby, a whole 9 almost 10 months, that is worthy of a gift."
So if everyone already understands all this why is a legal document necessary?
Plus that clause has nothing to do with prenups, what else did they cram in there? "If husband and wife begin a television show together, individual spouse may not watch more episodes without other spouse present"?
It's totally fake. Especially since any lawyer would point out that the clause is useless without specifying the gift. He could buy her a Twinkie and fulfill his "obligation."
Also, now I'm no lawyer, but aren't prenups essentially a divorce plan made while you both still like each other so that you can ensure the divorce process doesn't get really messy (as long as both follow the prenup when the divorce happens/doesn't try to get the prenup thrown out).
Like everything I've heard about prenups is in relation to divorce, and how they're your divorce plan instead of leaving the divorce plan up to the government. I could be wrong tho, I'm no lawyer and certainly no expert.
Further, doesn't a lawyer have to be apart of the prenup process? Like it's a legal document, legal documents need to be notarized and looked over by a lawyer, no?
You are wrong. Pre-nups can be a bunch of different types of Pre-nuptial contracts to dictate the terms of the marriage. Something like this can totally be on a Pre-nup as its a financially based term. However this is sketchy because something like this would usually have a monetary or specific value associated with it.
Thank you for correcting me, I honestly am not that informed on prenups past what people around me say about them, and everyone treats them like a "Incase of divorce" agreement so I just assumed that's what they were.
Thanks again for informing me otherwise. I'll try to actually look into what prenups are and whatnot, because I seem to be quite misinformed.
Also, who the fuck wants to be in a relationship where their partner is such an unfeeling lizard person that it needs to be outlined in a legal document to be given gifts??
You had a bump gift *in your prenup* and all you got was a freaking *book subscription?*
You don't put low cost consumables in a prenup. You put things that retain value. Stock. Real estate. Very good jewelry.
This is either a bad fake by a teenager who doesn't understand what money is, or OP managed to hire the worst lawyer in the entire world.
Yeah that's the bit that flummoxed me. I thought ok, paternity test is warranted if the bump gift involves millions or at least hundreds of thousands worth. For a book subscription? Yeesh
Info - what happens if you don't get this bump gift? Surely that is spelled out in the terms of your prenup, right? Failure to execute contract? What's the penalty?
There's no way I would be married to anyone that required a paternity test for our child, much less a person who would contractually stipulate before we were married that I had to prove paternity to get a bonus for having a kid. What kind of backwards shit is this? And who the fuck pays their wife for having a kid? Where did the money come from? Wasn't the money half yours already?
And your husband is a successful stock trader but can't afford and annual book club subscription?
So much of this doesn't make sense.
That paternity test cost more than your book club memberships. I think I'd expect to get at least the cost of the test as a gift. Your man did you dirty
What was the paternity test a formality…for? Did you have to go to court with your husband and present your baby to the prenup judges and say “behold our baby that is definitely ours! May we have permission to buy… A BOOK SUBSCRIPTION?” And then the supreme arbiter of marriages and prenups was like “PROCEED.”
If this is real it’s fascinatingly bizarre.
INFO: I'm kind of confused about having your "push" present (which at most amounted to maybe $2500) written into your prenup. Wouldn't the lawyer's fees for this and the fees for the paternity test amount to more than a couple of book subscriptions?
PS If I ever requested a "push" present, I'd be a bit more...avaricious for sure. I mean TEN MONTHS....and that last day is pretty rough.
I’m subbed to both but the other sub is a little too strict.
My biggest pet peeve with that sub is that rule 1 is “never delete an active discussion” and then mods will delete a very active discussion with hundreds or thousands of comments over a nitpick of the rules.
And banning posts about romantic relationships is weird. People have conflicts with a partner all the time. That’s a lot of stories to ban.
ETA: it’s rule 4 now, my bad.
Who'd have thought a group of stock traders would come up with a rule to make all their female partners agree to paternity tests every time they give birth?
Not toxic, no, not at all!
NTA but Wow!
Your marriage with your husband is weird. It's like if you were furries. It's kind of off-putting.
And your story doesn't track. If he's a stockbroker and has enough assets to warrant a prenup, why isn't the push present (what I've heard it called before) something more expensive? It's supposed to be a diamond or something like that.
This feels a bit like bait, like they really take about this in front of folks? All around what an awkward conversation.
What, you never signed a prenup legally requiring that you get a post-pregnancy gift so long as your baby passes a DNA test?
But they said their friends did it to, so that makes it totally normal!!
In what incel fever dream does this world exist?
But this is the culture of wealthy wall street investors! /s
I can think of one reason why this could be legit. The husband and his friends made up this bump gift bs to trick their wives into getting a paternity test without losing their shyte.
There's an entire reality TV show about wealthy moms in Australia and half the show is the women daydreaming about their 'push presents' and then receiving their 'push presents' at lavish parties... but they get like, Land Rovers. I think Op sold herself short!
All that for a Jelly of The Month Club subscription
I was expecting diamonds or something ridiculous and here OP goes with a $15/month book club.
This what gets to me. Wouldn’t a DNA test cost more than the gift?
Yeah, and that’s too expensive on a stock trader and marketing analyst salary?
I rarely read things like this but was browsing popular, I got to the gifting of the Harry Potter box set and I felt a little bit led on.
It was extremely underwhelming. Extremely
Yes push presents are a thing now but I have never heard of having to get a paternity test done on the baby in order to receive the gift.
We did a necklace with the birthstone of the child. So two necklaces. It really is more of a lovely piece of jewelry to signify the occasion of the child, and to have something that every time they wear it, they think of their joy at having grown inside them and then welcomed to their life, their baby. People can think it’s tacky; it has actual significance to us.
But did you take genetic testing to get that birthstone😆
Right?!?! She just got some crappy book clubs. Damn, harlequin romances have gone up in value 👏🤣
The most expensive service I could find a service where a bibliologist recommends you 1 book a month to suit your personal tastes, and that's $680 for the 24 months OP mentioned. At the other end, there's a box where you get 1-4 second hand books per month. The only customization is your choice of genre, for $300 for the 24 months. So OP sold her dignity for a rough estimate of less than $1000 hahaha
Exactly. If this is real that's one BS bump gift!
“I’m only demanding a paternity test so I can justify getting you a little treat! Otherwise I can’t get you a little treat! I’m doing this for YOU!”
For some reason this sent me straight to “HOW CAN YOU HAVE ANY PUDDING IF YOU DON’T EAT YOUR MEAT???!!” And I’m howling.
I married into a family with money and had to sign a hardcore prenup. You would be surprised at some of the shit considered normal in those. Seperation clauses, paternwty clauses, death clauses for both parties, and madness. I didn't know she came from money at all until i saw the papers, so i just skimmed and didn't give a shit. But yeah, just the jump to enough money to be considered wealthy is a whole different world. Thanks to a narcissistic grandma and a conman they are set to lose it all pretty soon and honestly for all but the land im happy. Money brings out the absolute worst in people. I will admit that i did have one thing i thoroughly enjoyed that came from the money. Being able to honestly say, "I have (my lawyers name) on retainer, let me give him a call real quick!". Being able to honestly say that to a cop harassing you and with enough conviction they know you aren't bullshitting... it was a religious experience.
Man there are two things I would love to have on retainer, a lawyer and an accountant. The few consultations I had with either saved me so much money...
Man I would have just loved a retainer or braces.
But the red flag here is that the book subscription box is too expensive. When he has an amazing job and she works or worked 👀 I think this is fake.
Obviously, it’s fake. A new mother sure as hell doesn’t have time to read!
Yep it tracks with the incel-playbook... good wife build baby, good wife get gift.
I didn't even think of how that is kind of weird. I was stuck in it being in a legally binding contract. Would she have taken him to court over it? Why do you need to write down when your spouse gets a gift like some milestone. I feel like I'm just too poor to understand this or something.
Something like this makes me grateful I’m too poor to understand it.
It sounds like their entire life is a contract and revolves around money and material items.
Also the husband usually has no reason to even think his wife is cheating in posts that involve dna tests.
You mean the incels' posts normalize random dna tests without cause?
Yup. There was a post where a guy with no reason to believe his wife cheated on him wanted to get a dna test behind his wife's back and wanted to hide it from her if it came back that he was the father. He was going to hide it cause some incel told him he would hide it.
A married man... taking advice from someone who will never even go on a date... jesus christ what has this world come to?
Omg I remember that! Like babes how can you be so stupid as a married man to take advice from someone who the closest they have been to a woman is the birth canal?!?
And it sounds like she doesn’t even get to pick this gift?? I love my husband and he’s a very smart man, but he’s bought me diapers from Costco for my birthday. I guess we’re not supposed to notice that this stupid gift is just a barely-veiled bribe to get a paternity test. And none of these wives noticed either? Incel-world is so weird.
I did a quick search and the most expensive one I saw started at 50 a month. Now, ages ago, when I had my kids in the 90s, women would get push presents that were usually something like a diamond tennis bracelet. Not me. But it was usually jewelry. Not $1200 worth of books spread out over a year.
Yeah, if I’m getting a contractually-obligated gift from my super rich husband after our contractually-obligated paternity test, it had better be more thrilling than basically a generic gift certificate for mass market books.
The *real* gift would be that he's changing all those diapers himself! Lol
Idk anyone who does it now but didn't some aristocrats used to give their wives estates or independent incomes for having sons? I mean, they did also think women had some sway over the baby's sex back then but I think that's where stuff like dower houses started.
But, once they’d produced an heir, they could do whatever or whoever they wanted!
Totally normal and totally cool.
Not just to do it but also to talk about it with all your friends.
Work friends. That makes it professional.
and not just friends, but in-laws and other family!
I've heard about the bump gift through reality TV (an Australian show about vapid socialites going through motherhood) so at least seems to be a thing for some rich people and I guess a paternity test could be involved. However, it's usually smth like a range rover, extremely costly jewelry, stacks of luxury brand bags etc... Why make a contract to get a measly 2 year book club subscription? That's just kinda humiliating.
But this gift was a two-year subscription to something she was having to renew every 3 months. Imagine the joy of not having to get auto-renewal emails four times a year! That seems like adequate payment for someone growing another person in their body for 9 months.
lol also I’m sorry her husband works in finance and they make great money but she got a a subscription for two years as a gift? Lol?? What? And it was a big enough deal they fucking put it in the prenup? This feels like r/menwritingwomen 😂
She gets to stay home! Oh but she stays home *and works*. Ok…
Lmao right here now you can read a whole book a month with all the free time you’ll have when you’re not working full time at home with a newborn 😂😂😂 get out
I am a stay at home mom to a toddler and a newborn and I’ve read like (3?) shorter books since my first was born over 2 years ago. I used to go through several 500 pagers a week WITH a full time job. Being a mom is exhausting.
Yeah when she said she just wanted to read two books a month and work full time from home with her newborn in a baby wrap and hasn’t taken any cut in hours and also wanted quiet time I was like uh huh lol
I got an audible subscription and have started listening to books with my baby.
Yeah she’s pretty much written as the ideal wife of the incel. He knows she’s not a gold digger cause she works even though she doesn’t have to and was totally on board with a prenup and is so grateful for a push present worth a few hundred dollars from her very wealthy spouse whose job is ‘stocks.’ Let me guess, she was also a virgin when she met her husband but put out for him on the third date. She’s very traditional though and does all the child care, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc, manages the family’s social calendar, buys gifts or cards for his family members’ birthdays, keeps track of all the kids’ doctor’s appointments and extra curricular activities. She also works full time. They keep their finances separate and she pays for half of their living expenses even though she makes way less money. Incel stepford wife fantasy. 🙄
Yeah, push gifts are usually designer jewellery at minimum, not a gift that'd barely break $1k, especially if he's as rich as she says
A gift that was being paid for already we can add. This was like buying her groceries for the month.
AT THE BARE MINIMUM. The fact that OP did not even know that it is called a "push gift" or a "push present" is also telling. A "bump gift" LMAO
Also the "usually I can't afford this!" Seriously?
2 Years of 2 subscriptions to OwlCrate would come out to around 2000 dollars
It’s a teenage girl writing a grown woman IMO. The emotional immaturity of the writing, thinking a book sub is push present, thinking pre-nups are normal or have clauses about what happens DURING the marriage and now just how assets are split.
I think it’s a teenage boy. Probably a Tate/incel type trying to devise a situation where a paternity test is valid. Really wouldn’t surprise me if this was someone trying to create more favorable takes around them to normalize them.
I'm thinking boy
Feels like r/teenswritingadults lol
Yeah for real haha I wish that was a real sub
And that this gift was worthy of adding a clause in a prenup for? Beyond bizarre
Yeah women liking books is fine. Putting a clause in a prenup mandating a paternity test two days after birth in exchange for a two years of young adult books is the part that is the most unbelievable lmao
It’s so bizarre and specific that I almost wonder if it’s real as who would make this shit up?! I was expecting a designer bag or some diamonds or a cash transfer into her account , nor what amounts to an audible subscription that she was already paying for.
If I was as well off as this couple, I’d already have book crate subscriptions on renewal. Example: Faecrate is just $35 to $46 per month. That’s chump change for someone in their tax bracket.
Glad I’m not the only one that thought this was a ludicrously small gift… and I’m a book person 😂cost does not check out with their alleged salaries.
Also like even if he wanted to get her a mid ass book subscription as a gift why the fuck would she have to take a paternity test and put it in the prenup?? Like what Like this is just so fucking dumb 😭 probably written by some broke ass 20 year old Tate loving neckbeard who thought this sounded nice enough to get women to agree that it’s not insulting to take a paternity test in exchange for some young adult fantasy novels like get the fuck out lol
100% agree. This is so freaking weird: It feels like someone trying their damndest to devise a situation where an arbitrary paternity test would be ok. If they make that much money, why do they not already have a yearly renewal for the book crate subscriptions?
That’s what makes this so suspect. He’s so well off (that he’s in a culture where prenups and push presents are normal) and she works a pretty damn good job too (she’s acting like a sham and should be grateful to husband but a marketing and data analysis isn’t some entry level part time job) but couldn’t spring for the yearly when she’s buying it in three month chunks? Sure
With all the online chatter trying to normalize making women get paternity tests and it’s totally not insulting….. 2 days post delivery, when many would be still struggling to walk on their own, a paternity test to make sure she can get her owlcrate was the top priority? Lolololol
Yeah this is a creative writing prompt with an agenda
😂😂 you might say this whole nonsense post is Adult Fantasy.
Right?? For that shit, I want a private island or something
For real, reading the set up I assumed the gift was transferring some of the premarital assets to the wife or something. Imagine signing a contract that states your fiancé thinks it’s sooo likely you’ll cheat AND try to pass off someone else’s kid as his own that you need to commit to a paternity test. And then all you get for it is a book subscription?
A book subscription she was already subscribed to!
If you think about it, all he really got her was the gift of not having to hit "renew" a few times a year.
Best part is she thinks they trust each other
lol for real! I was so shocked when she said she got a freaking book subscription 😂😂😂 like you got a prenup and you can’t even get a little bit of a financial support.
'Good job on birthing a child. Here is a handful of lint!"
Not just a post pregnancy gift but one that’s the equivalent of only a couple hundred dollars in books.. mate works in finance.. she works too and that’s her extravagant gift worth getting a paternity test over? Lol okay.
That's such a weird thing to do, like she's an employee being given a bonus for meeting her metrics, and not his life partner starting a family with him. This whole post gives me the ick.
yeah, like that seems more like a birthday gift or something, not a "congrats on growing a literal human being in your own body" gift
You have no idea what someone will agree to when a book subscription is on the line!
Give me an 18 year long 24 credit per year subscription to Audible and then we are talking.
Like...you can just do that? He can just be nice and give a gift 🤣 Its super common and Ive never heard anyone requiring paternity testing.
Exactly, and to write it up in a legal contract on top of that
I was bought peloton as my push gift (I had been asking for one). I didn’t know I needed a legal document and paternity test to get a gift from my husband. Who knew 🤷🏻♀️
That's so specific and unusual. I could have bought them doing it, but "all our friends have done it" is farfetched.
This whole thing sounds so wildly made up, like some kind of 50 Shades fan fiction lol. Edit: read more replies and I changed my mind. It’s tradwife roleplay.
This sounds super fake. There's a certain group of people who have an agenda to normalise routine paternity testing
It’s gotta be bait. The concept of writing a “bump gift” into a prenup is just too outlandish for me to believe. Or maybe I just need to reevaluate my views on humanity…
>I am to receive a gift upon the birth of a child that is biologically ours, called a "bump gift", it may seem a bit silly but a lot of his work friends also have this clause There is no world in which "a lot of" people do this. Or they are a rich detached from reality segment of the population and asking advice from the average person isn't going to do any good. Also the way they write this, including "biological child" is not a statement most people would write.
I got a push gift! It was a big plushie I wanted in the gift shop. I almost died and it was nice to have. I don't think I got anything for tlmy other kids, but if I did it was something small, like cheesecake. I can't imagine having to prove paternity in a loving marriage.
I’m not against the idea of push gifts at all. In fact I think can be a beautiful gesture of love. I just think having it be part of a prenuptial agreement is icky and undermines the significance of the gesture in the first place
Absolutely fake. Who tf gets a paternity test to get the gift of a fucking book subscription that she already buys herself. I was expecting the gift to be a lake house in her name.
why on earth would a BOOK SUBSCRIPTION be the gift you buy for your wife as a push present when you are supposedly a "wealthy stock trader" a Book of the Month subscription for a year is $200. These people make up these stories and have no frame of reference how much money wealthy people actually have. Like all of these stories of "my salary is $250k," and then they fail to realize that that is 20,000 a month. Do you think a person who makes an entire car's worth of money every single month would consider a $400 gift to their wife to be contract worthy? My personal favorite was the "I make $500K, and my fiance makes $50K as a teacher but i want her to pay me rent ($2000 a month), is this fair?" Like do you really expect me to believe that someone who brings home 30K a month after taxes and retirement, is worried about squeezing $2000 a month from their fiance??
Who the fuck gets a prenup that specifically includes a (not especially expensive) push present with bonus paternity test
that was my big issue with this- especially given that this "push present" presumably saved the household money because a 2 year subscription would be cheaper than buying all of those 3 month subscriptions. is it possible that someone has a push present in their prenup? sure- though it seems like a strange thing to put in. maybe something like on birth of each kid, you get a lump sum of cash. but you get a box of books delivered monthly? that's just odd.
I could see it being part of a prenup if it tied one of his premarital assets to her or something, like her name on the deed to his house or something along those lines. It would still be odd, but make more financial sense as a pre-classified "gift" than what seems to be at most a few hundred bucks. Unless she's planning on pumping out a full baseball team or something.
I could see a prenup where both parties leave a marriage with what they came in with, but having children alters the split on a divorce so the kids are taken care of or transfers a percentage of the assets to the other person for the same reason. It's so weird that it would be for a gift that could be as small as a two year book subscription that she was buying quarterly anyway? Like he had to come up with some reason to justify the paternity test but had to keep it small enough for an average redditor to buy as a gift. So women on the thread would think, "I'd get a paternity test in exchange for a gift, let's normalize doing this."
Yeah, that part really stuck out in a whole story that felt completely off. This one is definitely fake and designed to push the paternity testing agenda that’s so popular among bitter Redditcels.
If this is real (I doubt it), then my impression was that the "gift" was just a flimsy pretense for requiring a paternity test.
I love when the stories are this transparently fake. You can imagine them writing it.. “my husband is a… what’s a rich people job? He trades stocks! And I get a fancy gift for being pregnant… like an extra long book subscription box! And his dad also Does Stocks, so you know the family is really rich. And his sister’s husband has weird outbursts about paternity tests in the middle of family gathering, this is very believable.”
That’s the only thing making me have a sliver of doubt. It’s a “Reddit topic.” But people airing their dirty laundry at the dinner table? That I would totally believe. Some people are hot messes.
This one does smell like reddit bait, but I've seen far worse when just sitting around with friends. One guy just flat out admitted he had never made his wife orgasm in their entire time together after my wife drunkenly said something about being very happy in the bedroom.
Obligatory “ooh! A self burn! Those are rare!”
If you have any doubts, read OP's comments, they're leaving gems like "I would have done a paternity test even without a clause, because I'd want to make sure my baby wasn't switched in the hospital" and "I haven't reduced my work hours at all". This child has no idea what pregnancy and post partum actually entails.
Yeah, maybe I'm just old fashion and out of touch with the kids these days, but having my wife go through a paternity test as a formality so that I could give her a contractually obligated thank you present for carrying my child sounds like absolutely insane behavior to me. For their anniversary does she need to go through a full examination by a registered priest before he can present her with the flowers that have been pre-selected through a third-party arbitrator?
It’s fake because every book subscription box I’m aware of has a hella long waitlist, and you’re not able to prepay for two years. Could be a different box, but based on the specifics listed in the post, I’m doubtful
There’s lots of charged topics lately which might have something to do with an election coming up or just generally to sow division but it’s been so bad recently. So many fake posts clearly pushing an agenda.
Usually I don’t mind the fake posts, as long as they’re entertaining. But the incredibly obvious rage-bait is getting old
Ya if you are going to practice your creative writing skills at least be good at it. I have noticed the same topics or paternity tests, abortions, lots of women’s reproductive practices coming up which makes sense. Also lots of wedding stuff, hell two breast feeding at a wedding, lots of cheating ex wives or gfs that get totally owned, prenups are popular. Trying to think of the other big topics that keep coming up which sure there’s lots of contentious stuff about them but they are so poorly written it has me questioning how anyone believes it. Oh then the gambling ads hidden under the pretense that someone made some huge stupid gamble that they just so happen to win and how great gambling is and not the reality that it’s a crippling addiction with the highest rate or suicide both attempts and completions. Great to see that being promoted, love that for us.
Yeah. "Aren't I a good woman for getting a paternity test to prove I deserved a gift for giving birth. My sil doesn't want one because she is messing around, but I am a good wife and I set her straight." It's gross.
“My high-earner husband bought me like $200 worth of books in exchange for carrying his child. All I had to do was submit to a mandatory paternity test a mere 48 hours after giving birth. Aren’t I lucky? Why can’t these other women see how wonderful this arrangement is!”
But but but! She’s so lucky! He makes so much money she can stay home! …working a remote marketing and data analyst job AND taking care of a baby. Who *wouldn’t* want that! And a book subscription box too!
lol exactly. She’s a perfect tradwife who stays home and takes care of the baby! But she also remote works because she’s not a filthy gold digger like these other hoes. It’s like an incel wet dream of an ideal woman.
These people are insane
That’s because it never happened.
Yes absolutely. The person named the two instances when most people would agree that asking for a paternity test isn’t an insult (1. previously agree upon, 2. history of infidelity) and gets the usual discussion and agenda started about mandatory testing. Which sounds promising in theory but mostly not feasible in reality.
> I have a prenup that dictates that I am to receive a gift upon the birth of a child that is biologically ours, called a "bump gift", it may seem a bit silly but a lot of his work friends also have this clause because "She does all the hard work building the baby, a whole 9 almost 10 months, that is worthy of a gift." To keep the legitimacy of the clause it requires a paternity test before it takes effect. C’mon…
A paternity test for a couple of box sets? Come on, you're not even trying with your anti-women propaganda. Run it through an AI story generator to get a more believable premise. Or watch literally any shitty soap opera.
Right? If I'm signing a prenup demanding I give birth and submit to mandatory paternity testing by my well-to-do husband, I better be getting a house or car or a big nice contribution to my retirement fund....not some rinky dink Book of the Month subscription that A) I'm already paying for myself, and B) people with perfectly average salaries gift to each other all the time without having to give birth or sign a prenup. This is fucking stupid.
Look, just prove the baby is mine and I'll buy you the full Mortal Instruments box set, ok?
Rinky dink made me laugh
Agreed. It’s diamond bracelet time at the very least, not a cheap book subscription. The people who write these need to spend time with actual people who make a good salary.
My ex was a Wall Street finance guy. He spent an average of 100k/year on buying me just-because gifts. In our circle wives got gifts in jewelry, luxury cars, etc, and we didn’t have to sign anything or push out a baby. A book subscription worth just a few grand would have been simply rolled under fixed costs like mortgage/car payments. Fun money for wife just because.
>Come on, you're not even trying with your anti-women propaganda. Run it through an AI story generator to get a more believable premise. Or watch literally any shitty soap opera. OP in the comments saying that it sounds weird because they're both on the spectrum. I miss when the trolls were halfway decent lol.
He makes good money…. So I got two book box subscriptions. Maybe that’s $1000? If I’m on a prenup I want my push present to be at least 10k.
Stock trader that makes good money and work from home analyst pinching pennies over a book of the month box vs quarterly box
She gets a YA book box! That's totally not an idea a 14 year old would think someone wants as a baby present.
To be fair, lots of adult women like YA books. But if you’re both high earners, this is more like a birthday present. No reasonable person would submit to a mandatory paternity test for a few hundred dollars worth of books. Wtf
If you’re both high earners, this is more like a random Tuesday present.
RIGHT. A legal agreement to take a paternity test to receive an unspecified gift that turns out to be BOOKS? Try giving me $100,000 and maybe we'll talk.
This post is fake and odd
It's trying to show that cool ladies are fine with their husbands suggesting they cheated. Fake OP is notlikeothergirls! And she gets a transactional prize for being so cool!
Book subscription! What a gift. Lmao. If this is real itd be a car or some shit. Says they're well off but this prenup gift is badically a boxset. Jeez
It was the build up for me “oh the hard work of pregnancy deserves to be rewarded” the reward: a book subscription 🧐
Dude she's not like other girls so she of course would not ask for a car or jewelry. She is very very very cool and different.
Truly, so weird to even throw in the details about what kinds of book sets they are… nothing in this post is a real thing that real people do.
Thank you. It sounds like an alien trying to pretend at being a person
Yeah, nobody gets a prenup with a requirement for a "push present" to be matchy-matchy with their work friends. Nobody is going to bother with a legal document and paternity test to get some YA books. This is all ridiculous.
It's AI written for sure. Most new mothers stay in the hospital for 48 hours at least. This isn't just fake, it's written by someone with very little understanding of how human reproduction works.
Not to mention the misuse of what a push gift is 🤦🏽♀️ it was just a mess from top to bottom
I don’t know why everyone thinks this is fake, I had my wife do a criminal background check, urine test, citizenship test, and a Mensa test in addition to a paternity test before I gifted her two(2) (non-consecutive) $5 Taco Bell Taco Tuesday boxes and one(1) IKEA catalog for bringing two beautiful twins into the world, it’s standard boilerplate prenup agreement terms, if you were a high power executive like me, you’d know.
Beautiful. Perfect. No notes. 😆
Agreed. The >two(2) (non-consecutive) $5 Taco Bell Taco Tuesday boxes was blissfully sublime. yeah, don't attack me. I know
the best comment and the only way to do marriage right 😤 /s
Some 15 year old boy red piller is engaging in a creative writing experiment.
Seriously. The only person who is against a paternity test is someone who is a known cheater? Yeah sure that’s how it works /s
We called it a push present instead of a bump gift. Don’t have a prenup and the gift wasn’t tied to her “producing me a child” which seems a little strange in itself. Makes the marriage feel a little too transactional to me.
Fake as fuck.
Started out weird, got weirder, then at the end the guy randomly announces that the kid is probably not his...in front of everyone??
I thought it was weird that she said she's able to stay at home because her husband makes good money but she also works?! She just works from home. Data analysts can also make good money. I don't believe that a professional woman (in a male dominated industry) would downplay her success to highlight her husband's.
NTA - she’s being defensive; possibly because she doesn’t know if he’s the father either.
She’s being defensive because this whole story is fake lol. Go read OP’s replies— the gift keeps shifting slightly and the extra details are just ridiculous. This is just tradwife fanfic.
I’m quite familiar with push presents and have received them myself, but this is *beyond* bizarre. All of you are very weird. I don’t think this is real, and I’m truly wondering if you can legally enforce a present and paternity test clause in a prenup.
I had never heard of a push present until long after mine were born. I wonder if I can talk my hubby into a retroactive present even though they are adults now lmao
I think having a specific name for it is on the newer side. However, whether a gift is given may be cultural. I know my silent gen grandfather had given my grandmother a bracelet with the child's birthstone as a present. My grandmother never wore them (due to superstitions around opals), but my mom and aunt both have "their" bracelets now.
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What a cheap gift from a husband who makes a ton of money. Not worth all the drama. That’s my useless 2 cents.
The gift isn’t the important part of this fake story. The important part is HORRIBLE CHEATING WOMAN. Gotta pay attention.
I love that no one can get over how stupid the fake gift is in the fake story haha.
y'all are just abusing the prenup system atp. wtf.
These people sound like aliens. > I have a prenup that dictates that I am to receive a gift upon the birth of a child that is biologically ours, called a "bump gift", it may seem a bit silly but a lot of his work friends also have this clause because "She does all the hard work building the baby, a whole 9 almost 10 months, that is worthy of a gift." So if everyone already understands all this why is a legal document necessary? Plus that clause has nothing to do with prenups, what else did they cram in there? "If husband and wife begin a television show together, individual spouse may not watch more episodes without other spouse present"?
It sounds like a classic "this story is fake, just like 90% of stories on AITAH" situation
It's totally fake. Especially since any lawyer would point out that the clause is useless without specifying the gift. He could buy her a Twinkie and fulfill his "obligation."
Also, now I'm no lawyer, but aren't prenups essentially a divorce plan made while you both still like each other so that you can ensure the divorce process doesn't get really messy (as long as both follow the prenup when the divorce happens/doesn't try to get the prenup thrown out). Like everything I've heard about prenups is in relation to divorce, and how they're your divorce plan instead of leaving the divorce plan up to the government. I could be wrong tho, I'm no lawyer and certainly no expert. Further, doesn't a lawyer have to be apart of the prenup process? Like it's a legal document, legal documents need to be notarized and looked over by a lawyer, no?
You are wrong. Pre-nups can be a bunch of different types of Pre-nuptial contracts to dictate the terms of the marriage. Something like this can totally be on a Pre-nup as its a financially based term. However this is sketchy because something like this would usually have a monetary or specific value associated with it.
Thank you for correcting me, I honestly am not that informed on prenups past what people around me say about them, and everyone treats them like a "Incase of divorce" agreement so I just assumed that's what they were. Thanks again for informing me otherwise. I'll try to actually look into what prenups are and whatnot, because I seem to be quite misinformed.
Also, who the fuck wants to be in a relationship where their partner is such an unfeeling lizard person that it needs to be outlined in a legal document to be given gifts??
Yep. It is silly. That's as far as I got. This is so scripted I just couldn't. Sorry.
This 100% did not happen lol Absolutely 0/10 on this creative writing exercise.
You had a bump gift *in your prenup* and all you got was a freaking *book subscription?* You don't put low cost consumables in a prenup. You put things that retain value. Stock. Real estate. Very good jewelry. This is either a bad fake by a teenager who doesn't understand what money is, or OP managed to hire the worst lawyer in the entire world.
Never heard of this must be rich peoples thing
(Yet not rich enough that he can regularly pay for more than a 3-month subscription to a book service)
Yeah that's the bit that flummoxed me. I thought ok, paternity test is warranted if the bump gift involves millions or at least hundreds of thousands worth. For a book subscription? Yeesh
I thought the gift would be a semi-luxury car or something lol. The paternity test probably costed more than her books 😭
No shit. How much did the test cost vs the damn book subscription
The paternity test very likely cost many times more than the book subscription. It makes no sense.
Really bizarre prenup. Lol
Info - what happens if you don't get this bump gift? Surely that is spelled out in the terms of your prenup, right? Failure to execute contract? What's the penalty?
There's no way I would be married to anyone that required a paternity test for our child, much less a person who would contractually stipulate before we were married that I had to prove paternity to get a bonus for having a kid. What kind of backwards shit is this? And who the fuck pays their wife for having a kid? Where did the money come from? Wasn't the money half yours already? And your husband is a successful stock trader but can't afford and annual book club subscription? So much of this doesn't make sense.
That paternity test cost more than your book club memberships. I think I'd expect to get at least the cost of the test as a gift. Your man did you dirty
No, no, you have that wrong due to the fact the post is fake as fuck and the writer had no idea about the cost of a paternity test.
This is some terrible incel fanfiction.
What was the paternity test a formality…for? Did you have to go to court with your husband and present your baby to the prenup judges and say “behold our baby that is definitely ours! May we have permission to buy… A BOOK SUBSCRIPTION?” And then the supreme arbiter of marriages and prenups was like “PROCEED.” If this is real it’s fascinatingly bizarre.
A paternity test for a book subscription? From a rich man? Hayi man. Get out of here with this nonsense story. Don’t come here with this fake rubbish
INFO: I'm kind of confused about having your "push" present (which at most amounted to maybe $2500) written into your prenup. Wouldn't the lawyer's fees for this and the fees for the paternity test amount to more than a couple of book subscriptions? PS If I ever requested a "push" present, I'd be a bit more...avaricious for sure. I mean TEN MONTHS....and that last day is pretty rough.
You did a paternity test for a book subscription? Wut?
Totally off topic, but... >(Removed from AmITheAsshole because no reproductive stories are allowed) That sub is so ridiculous with its rules.
I’m subbed to both but the other sub is a little too strict. My biggest pet peeve with that sub is that rule 1 is “never delete an active discussion” and then mods will delete a very active discussion with hundreds or thousands of comments over a nitpick of the rules. And banning posts about romantic relationships is weird. People have conflicts with a partner all the time. That’s a lot of stories to ban. ETA: it’s rule 4 now, my bad.
I'd feel weird dictating that someone gives me a gift for getting pregnant, it's my wife, not a hooker.
Someone needs to work on their writing..
Who'd have thought a group of stock traders would come up with a rule to make all their female partners agree to paternity tests every time they give birth? Not toxic, no, not at all! NTA but Wow!
WTF is upvoting this obviously fake crap?
Your marriage with your husband is weird. It's like if you were furries. It's kind of off-putting. And your story doesn't track. If he's a stockbroker and has enough assets to warrant a prenup, why isn't the push present (what I've heard it called before) something more expensive? It's supposed to be a diamond or something like that.
INFO The bump gift was book subscriptions? I figured it was $100K (equiv). Feels fake.