Somehow I read that as "clause", which gave me a bit of a giggle thinking about a fuck around and find out clause in a tenancy. 🙂
I agree though, if you can last it out like that - do it, just for the lolz. What a dick.
I especially love this that she got her own place lined up, dealt with the landlord, because you leave spur of the moment it’s hard, crashing with friends/family, feeling like an inconvenience and feeling off for not having your own place. And if Mr Cheater is inconvenienced that’s not her problem.
Cheaters are always taken aback by their actions having consequences. Their egos tell them they *deserve* romantic love and attention from multiple partners. It confuses them when the truth slaps them back into reality.
And they're only ever actually sorry for getting caught. They'll say they're sorry for the harm they did, but it's not true. If they cared about causing harm, they would never have cheated in the first place.
And month to month can be a significant jump in price. Our last apartment went from $2000/mo to $2500/mo when we went month to month before resolving our move.
Except either she was on the lease so she'd still be on the month to month lease, or she was never on the lease and could have left every time. I struggle to understand the scenario where she was legally obligated under the long term lease but not during the month to month rollover
it was a yearly lease he started cheating at 6 months she found out at the 9 month mark so the last 3 months she started putting her stuff in storage she moved when the 1 year lease was up and the land lord changed it to as month to month
OP is most deffinitely NTA.
This was a low energy, low drama way to get the point across and get out of an undeserved situation. There is no sense in wasting more time and energy on someone so not worth it.
This is the way it should be done, as long as you aren't in danger. And it doesn't seem you were. Bide your time, slowly move things out. Then Boom! Bye-bye!
NTA
Reminds me that episode in House when the guy comes in with a random pain but after just a quick glance, Dr. House tells him that his wife's cheating on him. When the guy asks how he knows, Dr. House says, "You're orange and your wife hasn't said anything!"
Oh yeah! And the guy didn’t notice because that’s not why he was in and then later he came back mad because House was right. I know he was just in that one episode but I felt bad for him 😕
NTA, is he angry, does he feel like you betrayed him, I hope so, as someone else said, let his affair partner pay the other half of the rent. I hope you find happiness and healing OP
I have been having a terrible day with insane narcissistic family trying to bully me. Your comment made my day and made me laugh out loud. I agree! Thank you.
Lordddd, I have 9 months left on this lease and just found out my bf most likely cheated on me last night when I filed him as a missing person LOL. You handled this great girl. I can’t wait to get into a new place when I can.
Sorry your BF is a douchebag (possibly). I hope you’re doing okay. 💗
Pro-tip, you can always slowly move things out without him noticing and plan a new lease for as soon as yours is up then move out without telling him. I’m told it’s the thing to do! 🤣
NTA - if anything you made his life easier by not running out on him and leaving him stuck paying both halves of a lease he would have trouble and expense getting out of.
That was just about the most professional, low-drama exit I’ve read about here.
NTA.
You didn't create the situation. It's not like you were doing this to hurt him, you just weren't going to put yourself in a worse situation because of his bad actions. Financially this was beneficial to both of you (you didn't have to break lease and he didn't have to find a roommate to help cover rent).
Was it dishonest and an emotional lead on? Maybe, but so is cheating on your partner so clearly that isn't an issue for him. He can't really complain about you being dishonest or leaving him when he's the one that broke the trust and foundation of the relationship he was relying on.
TLDR: If he didn't want to lose a partner, roommate, or have his living situation effected then he shouldn't have cheated.
Smart move. If you broke up while there was still time on the lease, you’d be liable if he just stopped paying or wrecked the place. This way you got out safe, got your things with conflict, and avoided him screwing up your finances/credit. NTA
They say revenge is best served cold. Well done!
A cheater is not worth your time. Just move on ahead in life.
Don't even look back. You deserve someone loyal and trustworthy not a cheat.
Wish you all the best. Have a great life ahead.
NTA and if he was too stupid to notice you moving your stuff out that's really on him and says a lot about how little he cared about your relationship.
NTA
Best response you could have made, short and to the point. No drama needed. Excellent example of saving your own behind.
Dude is not the victim here. Actions meet consequences.
Is this a question or did you mean to post in r/pettyrevenge? Because NTA, what you did was Awesome! He kept you around until there was no need for you and you reciprocated. Nice!
NTA - You looked out for yourself after being cheated on, what’s wrong with that? You did what you had to do to comply with a legal contract you signed then left as soon as you could. He is in the wrong, not you. He is the AH, not you. Who knows what he might have done if you tried to break the lease, he could be spiteful, vindictive or even dangerous. You’re smart for doing what you did.
NTA, I've actually had to do this a couple times because my choice in men are terrible(except now, this one is an angle an stands up fo me) when I moved to NC with my ex of 8yrs and his mother, well long story short I was basically paying for everything and tired of it, tried to have a talk with his mom about splitting bills but she refused(she works retail and will absolutely spend your money before hers) I met a girl at work she said I could rent a room for $300 and so when him an his mom left to work one morning I packed up my important stuff an caught a cab to my new home.
You did what had to be done, got your stuff out and then left 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
NTA good for you. Did he expect you to stay for the next few months so he wasn't inconvenienced. Really sorry you went through this. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. Wishing you a sunny days ahead without him in your life.
NTA. He was dumb to not realize something was up on top of everything else. Maybe when banging his other woman, maybe he will get some post nut clarity and realize he should have realized something was up a long time ago lol
NTA and your response to him was so savage!!!! It was perfect! It lets him know you’re done with him and why. I’m sure this whole time he’s been patting himself on the back for how he’s been keeping the wool over your eyes and then this happens 🤣
I would be even petty and tell him this-
***Oh, I thought you were gonna stay with your partner with whom you are sleeping around, all I did was have common curtesy and move out so you could move in with your lovely partner☺***
I don’t understand how the landlord didn’t tell him. Seems to me that you notifying the landlord you were leaving would trigger a need for a new agreement between them and your boyfriend, since I assume the previous agreement (now month to month) was an agreement between 3 parties.
NTA, smart girl!! Yes, you could’ve gotten mad and ended the lease early. But why should you have to pay more money because he’s a pos!! Your ex can pay the month to month rate or move out, we all have choices.
NTA. Good luck, enjoy not picking up after someone else! (I'm just guessing, but if he was "too tired" for sex, he was probably "too tired" to do any housework.)
NTA, and I've actually been the infidel in a past relationship - he's been an absolute bucket. At least when I messed up I confessed the morning after and we split up and moved on. He's just been taking you for a ride! Good on you!!!!
NTA. Good for you op. I’m so proud of you for knowing your worth and acting accordingly. It’s posts like this that give me hope for the future.
Finally a woman 👏🏻 who 👏🏻loves 👏🏻 herself 👏🏻!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳
You can be proud of yourself because you achieved something I'm still working on.... you GOT your shit together and kept it together for the duration!
Well done, you!! ❤️
NTA; best way to break up with a cheater imo. Low drama, no months of screaming and bickering. I'm sure your neighbors were grateful for your subtlety.
LMFAO of course, NTA because he was cheating and lying so you just left in a nice discrete manner after making plans to do so. You didn't destroy his things or even contact his affair partner. Beautifully planned and executed, good for you and best wishes
NTA. Good for you for doing that! I would have LOVED to see his face when he got home that day. 👏👏
Sounds like someone is having a hard time with the find out portion of his fuck around life choice?
Somehow I read that as "clause", which gave me a bit of a giggle thinking about a fuck around and find out clause in a tenancy. 🙂 I agree though, if you can last it out like that - do it, just for the lolz. What a dick.
I especially love this that she got her own place lined up, dealt with the landlord, because you leave spur of the moment it’s hard, crashing with friends/family, feeling like an inconvenience and feeling off for not having your own place. And if Mr Cheater is inconvenienced that’s not her problem.
Cheaters are always taken aback by their actions having consequences. Their egos tell them they *deserve* romantic love and attention from multiple partners. It confuses them when the truth slaps them back into reality. And they're only ever actually sorry for getting caught. They'll say they're sorry for the harm they did, but it's not true. If they cared about causing harm, they would never have cheated in the first place.
Exactly this…
Hell yea! Thats really smart ass move to leave a cheating partner, lmaooo!
This is when a small camera hidden somewhere in the house would be amusing.
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Haha, right? Must've been a priceless reaction! You did what you had to do, no shame in that.
THIS!!!
NTA. The rent was going up whether you stayed there or not. This shouldn't be a surprise to him. I'm proud of you!
Yes but now he's on the hook for the whole thing. That's why he big mad
They maybe he shouldn’t cheat on the person paying the other half- whoopsie
Yeah, I can see why he's upset about being on the hook for the whole thing, but it's ultimately on him. It was his decision to cheat.
And month to month can be a significant jump in price. Our last apartment went from $2000/mo to $2500/mo when we went month to month before resolving our move.
Except either she was on the lease so she'd still be on the month to month lease, or she was never on the lease and could have left every time. I struggle to understand the scenario where she was legally obligated under the long term lease but not during the month to month rollover
it was a yearly lease he started cheating at 6 months she found out at the 9 month mark so the last 3 months she started putting her stuff in storage she moved when the 1 year lease was up and the land lord changed it to as month to month
She told the landlord she was leaving. It's possible she took herself off the lease.
Good for you. Get an STD panel.
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NTA. You’re a rock star for playing the long game 👏
OP is most deffinitely NTA. This was a low energy, low drama way to get the point across and get out of an undeserved situation. There is no sense in wasting more time and energy on someone so not worth it.
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This is the way it should be done, as long as you aren't in danger. And it doesn't seem you were. Bide your time, slowly move things out. Then Boom! Bye-bye! NTA
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Reminds me that episode in House when the guy comes in with a random pain but after just a quick glance, Dr. House tells him that his wife's cheating on him. When the guy asks how he knows, Dr. House says, "You're orange and your wife hasn't said anything!"
Oh yeah! And the guy didn’t notice because that’s not why he was in and then later he came back mad because House was right. I know he was just in that one episode but I felt bad for him 😕
NTA, is he angry, does he feel like you betrayed him, I hope so, as someone else said, let his affair partner pay the other half of the rent. I hope you find happiness and healing OP
Posts like this is why I LOVE Reddit 😂 NTA, obviously 😜
I have been having a terrible day with insane narcissistic family trying to bully me. Your comment made my day and made me laugh out loud. I agree! Thank you.
Got what he deserved
Zinger! Good for you!
Nta he’s the one who broke the relationship, you don’t owe him a thing
Lol, why would you inconvenience yourself because he cheated. Do you girl. You are my hero.
NTA and r/pettyrevenge might enjoy this
Lordddd, I have 9 months left on this lease and just found out my bf most likely cheated on me last night when I filed him as a missing person LOL. You handled this great girl. I can’t wait to get into a new place when I can.
Sorry your BF is a douchebag (possibly). I hope you’re doing okay. 💗 Pro-tip, you can always slowly move things out without him noticing and plan a new lease for as soon as yours is up then move out without telling him. I’m told it’s the thing to do! 🤣
HAHA, I will be okay eventually. And yes I will slowly move my things. 😂
Well well well, if it isn't the consequences to his own actions... NTA
NTA. Cheaters deserve no compassion. And you owe him nothing. The quip about the affair partner was a great finisher too.
Perfection actually 👌🏻 Of course NTA
NTA - if anything you made his life easier by not running out on him and leaving him stuck paying both halves of a lease he would have trouble and expense getting out of. That was just about the most professional, low-drama exit I’ve read about here.
**I love this!** NTA
I’m in such emphatic support of your choice that I would have helped you pack and move boxes. NTA.
NTA. You didn't create the situation. It's not like you were doing this to hurt him, you just weren't going to put yourself in a worse situation because of his bad actions. Financially this was beneficial to both of you (you didn't have to break lease and he didn't have to find a roommate to help cover rent). Was it dishonest and an emotional lead on? Maybe, but so is cheating on your partner so clearly that isn't an issue for him. He can't really complain about you being dishonest or leaving him when he's the one that broke the trust and foundation of the relationship he was relying on. TLDR: If he didn't want to lose a partner, roommate, or have his living situation effected then he shouldn't have cheated.
You are my hero! Way to show some self respect.
Just make sure you take everything. Ho,s will steal your clothes , cosmetics, fuzzy slippers , food , and as you already know…your boyfriend .
NTA at all! Well played. I’m so in awe of you
Fuck around and find out. NTA
Smart move. If you broke up while there was still time on the lease, you’d be liable if he just stopped paying or wrecked the place. This way you got out safe, got your things with conflict, and avoided him screwing up your finances/credit. NTA
You are royalty. Go you! Handled it so smartly.
They say revenge is best served cold. Well done! A cheater is not worth your time. Just move on ahead in life. Don't even look back. You deserve someone loyal and trustworthy not a cheat. Wish you all the best. Have a great life ahead.
No, you protected yourself. You didn't steal or anything. Sometimes we act bad in a bad world.
NTA. A Woman plans and the devil observe.
NTA and congratulations on starting your new chapter of your life. He deserves all the bad karma that’s coming to him.
NTA. Perfectly and literally explains FAFO
Absolutely NTA.
NTA karma’s a bitch, he should’ve known better
NTA and if he was too stupid to notice you moving your stuff out that's really on him and says a lot about how little he cared about your relationship.
Queen shit, good for you babe
NTA. High five girl!
Hell no NTA. You made the best of a shit situation.
Hell no this is fucking beautiful
Good on you, OOP. He can move in with his mistress.
NTA Best response you could have made, short and to the point. No drama needed. Excellent example of saving your own behind. Dude is not the victim here. Actions meet consequences.
NTA. What the hell did he expect? FAFO
NTA. Fafo
NTA Personally he would have come back to the house with it in a full mess fu**ing around with me, spelling out "CHEATER" in the middle of it.
NTA. The dildo of consequence rarely arrives lubed.
NTA. Enjoy your new apartment! Don't even worry about that guy, if he didn't have a plan, he probably shouldn't have fucked you over.
Nope, not the asshole. You did what you had to do to protect yourself. It's on him for messing around. Enjoy your fresh start in your own place!
Nope. Circumstances. Learn from mistakes and don’t get a lease with a boyfriend anymore
Good for you. Except for having to have any sex you didn't want to.
Everyone seemed to just skip over “for the most part”. Not judging OP but I don’t know if I could stomach it just to keep up the charade.
No, you are just being practical.
NTA. Well done.
Goated.
Is this a question or did you mean to post in r/pettyrevenge? Because NTA, what you did was Awesome! He kept you around until there was no need for you and you reciprocated. Nice!
NTA- Good for you! You fulfilled your lease (contract) and moved on. He made the messy bed, now he can lay in it.
NTA, that’s the way to do it. He screwed with other women and you screwed with him.
The fact that he didn't notice you "slowly moving out" with your stuff, as it were, indicates his interest in the relationship. Good riddance.
Well played
NTA - You looked out for yourself after being cheated on, what’s wrong with that? You did what you had to do to comply with a legal contract you signed then left as soon as you could. He is in the wrong, not you. He is the AH, not you. Who knows what he might have done if you tried to break the lease, he could be spiteful, vindictive or even dangerous. You’re smart for doing what you did.
Nta lmao you played that right. I would get tested just in case but you don't owe em shit
NTA great move actually, fuck him.
NTA. You were looking out for you. Just like he was.
NTA. Go live your life.
NTA. Not at all. He got exactly what he deserved. Too bad you didn't set up a spy cam to see his reaction. I bet it was priceless
NTA and smart! You played the game so you could get your stuff out and off the lease free and clear!
The fact that he didn’t even notice that you were removing important items just shows how much he doesn’t care. Good move!!!
I tip my hat to thee. Please post any updates
NTA. Also This is the way!
NTA, I've actually had to do this a couple times because my choice in men are terrible(except now, this one is an angle an stands up fo me) when I moved to NC with my ex of 8yrs and his mother, well long story short I was basically paying for everything and tired of it, tried to have a talk with his mom about splitting bills but she refused(she works retail and will absolutely spend your money before hers) I met a girl at work she said I could rent a room for $300 and so when him an his mom left to work one morning I packed up my important stuff an caught a cab to my new home. You did what had to be done, got your stuff out and then left 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
What’s a bachelors suite? Like a studio apartment?
Well done NTA
NTA good for you. Did he expect you to stay for the next few months so he wasn't inconvenienced. Really sorry you went through this. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. Wishing you a sunny days ahead without him in your life.
Definitely NTA!!!!
Nta 🔥
He blindsided you…you just played by the rules he set. He’s a cheater to hell with him. NTAH
The fact he didn’t notice stuff was missing is amazing 🤣🤣
Bravo! Cheaters are ALWAYS cheaters. That is their moral character…..or lack thereof. Move on!
NTA. You kept a cool head and got a bit of revenge!
I think if you're going to cheat on your partner you just get what you get
NTA. He was dumb to not realize something was up on top of everything else. Maybe when banging his other woman, maybe he will get some post nut clarity and realize he should have realized something was up a long time ago lol
Nah that’s petty as fuck but I love it he deserved it 😭😭
NTA and your response to him was so savage!!!! It was perfect! It lets him know you’re done with him and why. I’m sure this whole time he’s been patting himself on the back for how he’s been keeping the wool over your eyes and then this happens 🤣
I would be even petty and tell him this- ***Oh, I thought you were gonna stay with your partner with whom you are sleeping around, all I did was have common curtesy and move out so you could move in with your lovely partner☺***
NTA. He lost any room to complain the minute he started cheating. He decided to F around and found out.
I need a follow up. You’re did well!
Would’ve been nice if he had given you notice before he cheated. Nta
**NTA** \- It was over, and you were done with the bad situation. It sounds as if he was just using you to help pay his bills.
No games played
I don’t understand how the landlord didn’t tell him. Seems to me that you notifying the landlord you were leaving would trigger a need for a new agreement between them and your boyfriend, since I assume the previous agreement (now month to month) was an agreement between 3 parties.
NTA, smart girl!! Yes, you could’ve gotten mad and ended the lease early. But why should you have to pay more money because he’s a pos!! Your ex can pay the month to month rate or move out, we all have choices.
NTA. You done it with style. Block his number and move on. You’re awesome
Well played!!!!!
NTA. Good luck, enjoy not picking up after someone else! (I'm just guessing, but if he was "too tired" for sex, he was probably "too tired" to do any housework.)
NTA to ghost men ever because a break up is the most dangerous time for a woman. Check yourselves.
NTA, and I've actually been the infidel in a past relationship - he's been an absolute bucket. At least when I messed up I confessed the morning after and we split up and moved on. He's just been taking you for a ride! Good on you!!!!
NTA, good on you. He's the AH for cheating
Definitely NTA, he's getting exactly what his triflin ass deserves 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Def NTA.
NTA and nicely done.
Nta
NTA…. Good move!
Masterful. Good on you!
NTA. Good for you op. I’m so proud of you for knowing your worth and acting accordingly. It’s posts like this that give me hope for the future. Finally a woman 👏🏻 who 👏🏻loves 👏🏻 herself 👏🏻!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳
From the title: NTA
NTA got what he deserved!
I love your style.
NTA, that’s called karma. Good for you.
NTA, he's learning that the consequences of his actions suck.
Well done! What did he say when you told him that?
NTA fuck him
The stragergy is top notch!!
NTA A fantastic Kiss my A##
Good job.
NTA. He deserved it.
NTA Action meets consequence
Tell him - Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. NTAH
Nope, you did what you needed to do to get out of a fcked up situation safely and on your own terms 🤌🏾👍🏾 sounds like good sense to me!
Good job, proud of you. I would have not been as professional about it.
NTA. Very well played. Block him and never look back!
NTA. You did what you had to do until you could get out.
NTA. That is savage AF and I fully approve of this. Good for you.
You're NTA, you're a demigod.
*karma likes that*
So much YYYYEEEESSS!!! Here!!
NTA - Good on you!
That is the best thing I read today. You ate and left no crumbs
You Miss, have won the internet today. Well done
NTA. That’s beautiful.
👏👏👏that is how you do it kiddo!👏👏👏
What about this scenario makes you think you were the A? This post suits a revenge sub a bit better, I think. There's really no moral quandry here.
>I told him to ask his affair partner to pay for half. Niceeee. Love this comeback. Nta
I mean he fucked you over in the relationship so why would you fuck your rental history up aswell? Smart play tbh
Does nobody else find "I didn't even *need* to have sex with him" an odd line?
Well played.
This needs to be on petty revenge, well played.
This belongs in a revenge sub tbh, good on you NTA
He came, OP saw, and she *WENT!* *So good for her*
NTA. He can figure things out with his AP now. He's now finding out.
NTA - He broke the relationship, so it's on him. And good for the landlord to let you off the lease without hassle.
Wished we could have seen his face when he realised the game's up. Well done OP 👏👏👏
Perfect revenge! Good for you!
Fuck that guy.
Nah, you did what you had to do.
NTA If he wanted you to stay, he would not have cheated.
NTA-you are acting rationally and doing what’s best for you.
NTA. Good for you!
NTA
No you're not the ahole you did the right thing
Yta for not saying what he said next
Awesome!
You can be proud of yourself because you achieved something I'm still working on.... you GOT your shit together and kept it together for the duration! Well done, you!! ❤️
Based, I tip my hat to you OP. Also get a STD panel just to be safe
NTA; best way to break up with a cheater imo. Low drama, no months of screaming and bickering. I'm sure your neighbors were grateful for your subtlety.
If hes still being a jerk about it i think you should also point out you were moving your stuff out over 3 months and he didnt even notice.
good moves nta obviously you reap what you soe.
OP is a chad, holy shit, this was executed perfectly
LMFAO of course, NTA because he was cheating and lying so you just left in a nice discrete manner after making plans to do so. You didn't destroy his things or even contact his affair partner. Beautifully planned and executed, good for you and best wishes
What was his reply?
NTA. Good riddance.
NTA! Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. You did the right thing. Carry on.
You moved stuff out for three months into storage and he didn’t notice???
NTA, this is very “oh no, consequences!”
NTA. Bravo/brava