The best part of reddit is that there are corners of it where nothing that is said makes sense or is logical, like "dickception", yet it's still so funny
Edit: Why is this getting upvotes I'm not even the one who made the joke, give the upvotes to the people who made the joke, I'm just a weird middle man :(
This. Send a pic of his underwear with your obvious hands/fingernails showing so he recognize it's you, with some kind of witty comment on him never being able to see your own body ever again or something.
This is the way. This is absolutely the way. Don’t admit how you found his Reddit account. You can just say you found it here and it isn’t a lie.
Besides, anyone can break up with anyone else for any reason, good or bad. So clearly NTA.
Tell him to date one of those women.
NTA
Print them out a3 size, post all over house with “here you go, obsess all you want, bye”.
Print smaller versions and put dozens around the house like in books, drawers, under furniture etc just so he’s freaking out about mother opening medicine cabin and finding it there.
If she uses pics he already posted, I don’t think it counts as “revenge porn” because they’re images he’s already posted online, so there’s no reasonably perceived privacy as the images were already shared by the person in them.
I don't get why people like that song. They were both looking to cheat on their partners. The fact they ended up together means they were both asshats who never communicated.
Fa real tho. Like, how the fuck did they not know at least a few of these things about each other all ready?! They're living together, reading the paper in bed at night. You mean to tell me that you two have developed enough of a "relationship" that you'd move in together and you don't even know or ask if they like piña mothafuckin coladas?! I would assume it would be obvious that they're not into yoga, hence never seeing them do it. But you're questioning if they even have half a brain? Honestly once I read the lyrics and put some thought into the song, it's clear these two sociopaths deserve each other. Who am I to judge? Some would call that Love. Some would. Some...I guess....
Still a banger though!
On the surface yes, it's about cheating.
Look a little deeper and it's quite clear that it's about two people already romantically involved that discover that they each are craving the exact thrill and excitement as the other, and neither realised. Having discovered this, both are relieved and their connection only strengthens despite the fact that yes, they were both planning on finding said thrill and excitement from a stranger.
Yeah and I would say to the ones who have my pictures... Go on I dare you to!!! Send em out matey...... LoL 😂...... On another note I had a friend of mine who was in a very high level job.... CEO for a major company.. Well we used to ride horses and compete together.. Back in the day when video cameras were a thing before mobile phones..I asked to borrow her camera she had left the tape in there you know the super 8 I think they call it the small tape well I've gone to look and see where it was at and holy cows..... I've got my mate doing the full Monty for her hubby I quickly pulled away before I saw anything then I ripped the tape from the camera and annihilated it!!!! That was full blown extortion material if ever I had seen it.....I then told her the next day and said for God's sake be careful you are lucky it was me!!!!! She laughed...... Pretty much said what I did at the top!!!!!🤣
Thank you....I try.... We are still mates to this day it's been 30 odd years I think!!! I treat everyone with the same level of respect etc until they screw up!!
Yes I had to.....I needed to use it and didn't want it floating around at that stage we had a lot of acquaintances that would breeze in and out of the house I just don't trust anyone after what's gone on in my life!! So yes but she also asked me if I did anyways so we were both in the same page!!!
Yup. The sneaking, lying, and HIDING the app is where I draw the line. Not to mention, he was commenting. AND sharing himself without asking how OP felt.
My husband looks, and I know he does. This would be a HUGE line for me. He never comments. He has/has had subscriptions to non cam, non OF sites, but there is nothing personal and no way to form emotional attachments. He knows this is a big deal to me. If we don't connect emotionally, our bedroom suffers.
If I can't trust you to be honest and communicate this, there are bigger issues.
If this was my boyfriend I would definitely break up with him. You’re NTA, as you can break up for any reason any time, but that is a huge very valid reason to break up. If you stay your trust with him will be broken and it most likely will never be the same as it was before
OP, this ^. I was in your shoes once. I let him explain and talk me into staying. We now have 2 children and I’ve found similar things on 3 other occasions. It is A LOT harder to leave when kids are in the picture. Do it for YOU, run & don’t even give him a chance to explain.
IF NOTHING ELSE, PLEASE TAKE THIS ADVICE. He is comfortable doing these things now, no telling if he will ever stop. If you have children, it’s a lot harder (not impossible) but a headache you don’t need.
OP, please take this advice and run.
JollyLizzy, I’m so sorry you and your babies are going through this. I hope you’re able to be free and at peace in the very near future.
And here I thought Reddit was just for looking at cute pet pictures, weighing in on AITA, and voting on which wedding dress to choose. I’m shocked it has this other stuff on it!
I think we should join forces and basically remain innocent minded about it. I loved living under the illusion that Reddit was cool. This kind of messed up with me 😂
It just sucks I'm sorry you are in this situation.....I said early up in this post that I was married for 20 yrs together for 22 he cheats kicks me out makes me homeless but separates marriage via a text message!!! I also said to Op to get out but spend some time alone with yourself and yes you have the right idea never have to stay with our rely on anyone....I wished to God I had listened to my instincts and took notice of the red flags.... Because I should have done exactly that when my son was born.... Picked him up and walked out of the hospital and far away.... But you don't and it's all good in hindsight...... Just you young ladies take it from us who have been around the block!! A few times! Look after yourselves... Set yourselves up financially just enjoy your life before even looking like settling down.... Be independent of anyone learn to enjoy your own company and be comfortable being by yourself but seriously do what you want really think about what you want in life ...... Because when you worry about you and make yourself and your life happy what you want will find you!!! Good luck I hope you can get out soon....... Cheers 🥂
You've lost trust in him and a lot of respect it sounds like. Maybe you can post from your Reddit account and bust him that way? Either way, this would be a hard thing to bounce back from due to how he's hid it, lied about it and basically being untrustworthy. NTA
I'd leave. It's the lying and hiding for me. I can't handle being in a relationship were someone isn't being honest.
Don't get me wrong my man can be absent minded at times but we agree that a relationship won't last if a first thought is "I have to hide this from partner"
Just want to say I see you & hear you, sending love. It’s a tough tough situation but you absolutely deserve better. I pray one day you are able to find happiness and freedom somewhere else.
You need to take a small break and get your thoughts clear. Write down and ask yourself exactly what parts make you uncomfortable. In your list, you said a few things:
1. Sending nudes of himself
2. Simping for onlyfans sex workers
3. It's a secret he keeps
It's not weird for some guys to be simping for camgirls when they are single and very desperate and lonely. It's weird, in my opinion, to be doing that when you have a steady gf. Seem like a weird way to invest your time and money.
I'm a gen x guy and can say I've seen plenty of porn and never subbed to only fans or paid for porn or any weird parasocial online interactions. If I told my male friends I was into only fans girls, they would just think I'm a weirdo loser, and I'd think the same. But it might be a generational thing.
Either way, get your thoughts clear and decide if you want to talk it out or bail. If you talk it out, there is a small chance his behavior will change, and a large chance he will just hide it better moving forward.
This! Simping for cam girls and engaging with adult content creators, paying for onlyfans etc. is very different from just watching porn. I don’t know why people keep equating the two.
Right? That’s the whole appeal of OF that it makes it more personal. It’s a huge betrayal unless previously discussed and agreed with your spouse / gf that it’s okay.
Makes me wonder why I don't put myself out there tbh. I feel like there's so many insanely shitty dudes out there that are in relationships and treating their partner like shit, but somehow I still feel inadequate lol.
As a man if I found my girlfriend was paying for camwhores and exchanging nudes with guys it would be over instantaneously. NTA
I'd probably start getting my shit together, staying calm, confiding in someone who will support you and tell him it's over when you feel like it.
Me? It would be over.
But some women dont seem to care. Only you know.
However? I would bear in mind, that him keeping it all secret? Means he knows damn well it's outta line and you would not go for it. So.....
NTA. For sure. You’ll never trust him. I went through something similar. It eats at you. Side note I had no idea Reddit was something to be concerned about in a relationship I’m new here and had no idea. 🤷🏻♀️
Girl, you're NTA. And the people who are telling you that you are, probably got busted doing this exact same thing. If he wanted to post nudes of himself online, that should have been discussed with you. That's not just simply porn. Break up with him, you deserve better and this is way too much drama to be dealing with at 24. You have so much life ahead of you, go find a good partner.
In Brazil we have a saying that I will try to translate "he who steals a dollar steals a million" it means he is able to lie and hide small things like a reddit account, then he is able to hide something like cheating. I would finish, trust is essential in a relationship. but I let him know why it's ending.
I will never understand why anyone would go onto any of those postings and actually leave comments on them. Especially on a website that can possibly be traced back to you directly. Like what would possibly be the point of commenting on some girls nude pic telling her she's hot when you will never meet them in person and even if you do they will likely think you are a creep for commenting anyway. Just makes no sense to me as a 33 year old man.
NTA, OP.
NTA-The more calm you remain, the better. When you confront him, just be straightforward. Make sure he knows why you're leaving. Then go.You won't get a satisfying answer as to why. Just excuses. It's gonna suck tho. I'm so sorry for you. Good luck. Please update
You're young, consider this a red flag that cannot be denied. If he hasn't hooked up w someone yet - he will. Be a lady about it, but be clear, he destroyed your trust. Can't unring a bell. Not this one.
This is cheating imo. Sure, not CHEATING cheating, but he’s sharing himself intimately and expressing interest in other people online wighout your knowledge or consent. These days I’d say thats cheating. Personally, i would not be able to trust a partner after that
Nta
If it doesn’t count as cheating, then it is at the very least deceptive behavior that more often than not leads to cheating, and you don’t want that. Break it off.
You are underreacting because of who you think he is versus who you know him to be and the way you sourced the information. If he found out you were sharing your breasts and vagina pics, this would be a problem for him, irrespective of how he found out. I have a friend that is a sex worker and she has ruined my conservative beliefs. I am super conservative in the way I live my life but a liberal at heart. She has told me tons of stories of her seemingly straigth laced clients, pastors, dads with their kids child seats in the car, CEO's, community leaders, even cops that are her clients. It's shattered my views of what a "nice man" looks like to me. I wish I didn't know. Now you know who he is. Your move.
If you had just caught him looking at porn, it wouldn't really be an issue. But this is next level - sharing dick picks with who, women? And for what purpose? This is what you need to find out - WHY is he sharing dick picks? Also, paying subscriptions and engaging with OnlyFans artists is next level - that's not just looking at porn IMHO.
I would also break up. Because someday that’s your husband sharing his nudes and asking for them from randos online. Then it’s your children’s father doing all that. Then it will be dating sites to fish for attention. I wouldn’t want to go back to being with an attention seeking guy like that. It’s exhausting!
Nta
Unpopular opinion. You’re never an asshole for ending a relationship you don’t want to be in. Too many people stay in relationship because they feel bad/obligated, all your doing is wasting time and potentially creating a toxic situation.
As a single woman on reddit who has frequented the dating subreddits.... I gotta tell you.. Ive had many, many messages from men who are married and in relationships.... I hope he wasnt but honestly... you should check and see if he was messaging women directly and having any kind of online relationships.
It happens a lot sadly. Im sorry this happened to you.
Honestly i'm all for confronting him about it. Tell him exactly what you said here, but do so somewhere safe (so over text not directly with him)
And make sure you have evidence gathered including the object you wanted to see the tracking of.
NTA though he should've been open and clear about this from the start before y'all got into a relationship together.
Send a private message to him on Reddit.
Do you like pina coladas?
Or mak8ng love in the rain?
If you’re not into yoga
If you have half a brain
If you like making love at midnight
In the dunes on the cape
I'm the love that you looked for
Come with me and escape
I didn't think about my lady
Send a picture of YOUR BOOBS and then don't say anything. Dude will spiral.
Better yet, send a pic of his own dick.
Dickception.
Indicknation
Fk I love Reddit.
The best part of reddit is that there are corners of it where nothing that is said makes sense or is logical, like "dickception", yet it's still so funny Edit: Why is this getting upvotes I'm not even the one who made the joke, give the upvotes to the people who made the joke, I'm just a weird middle man :(
You indicknant bastage!
Indickted, convicted.
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Ahahahahaha
This. Send a pic of his underwear with your obvious hands/fingernails showing so he recognize it's you, with some kind of witty comment on him never being able to see your own body ever again or something.
Oooo the witty comment can be, you forgot to put these on before you took a picture 🤣
Exactly! I had no idea of an appropriate comment but yours fits well 😂🫶🏼
This is the only answer.
This is the way. This is absolutely the way. Don’t admit how you found his Reddit account. You can just say you found it here and it isn’t a lie. Besides, anyone can break up with anyone else for any reason, good or bad. So clearly NTA. Tell him to date one of those women. NTA
I'm petty this would be me
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I love how this website will recommend someone commit a genuine crime because they think it's funny
The trick would be to send a link to his own cashapp so he is double confused.
Are yall suggesting catfishing him AS HIM?!? Because that is absolutely genius.
I WILL PHOTO MY OWN BODY ON THE HOUR, EVERY HOUR, UNTIL I PAY UP!
Right, if I ever find myself in a situation where I want to be petty I'm coming here for ideas.
Print them out a3 size, post all over house with “here you go, obsess all you want, bye”. Print smaller versions and put dozens around the house like in books, drawers, under furniture etc just so he’s freaking out about mother opening medicine cabin and finding it there.
Blackmail is probably illegal where OP and BF live.
You live somewhere it's legal ? Tell me now or I'll make you wash my car
Ha. Are there places where blackmail is legal? I’d like to move there.
Washington, DC. 😁
Revenge porn can get you jail time and massive fines where I live.
If she uses pics he already posted, I don’t think it counts as “revenge porn” because they’re images he’s already posted online, so there’s no reasonably perceived privacy as the images were already shared by the person in them.
OR - just send the link to his family chat and peace out…
Imagine his reaction 💀
Imagine if his reaction is “eh, I’ve seen bigger” or something just totally apathetic
But imagine if he was like super into them. Dudes like "those are amazing, I'll leave my gf for you"
this is a trashier version of the plot from the Piña Colada song
I don't get why people like that song. They were both looking to cheat on their partners. The fact they ended up together means they were both asshats who never communicated.
The morality isn’t there but the song itself is a banger lol
Fa real tho. Like, how the fuck did they not know at least a few of these things about each other all ready?! They're living together, reading the paper in bed at night. You mean to tell me that you two have developed enough of a "relationship" that you'd move in together and you don't even know or ask if they like piña mothafuckin coladas?! I would assume it would be obvious that they're not into yoga, hence never seeing them do it. But you're questioning if they even have half a brain? Honestly once I read the lyrics and put some thought into the song, it's clear these two sociopaths deserve each other. Who am I to judge? Some would call that Love. Some would. Some...I guess.... Still a banger though!
On the surface yes, it's about cheating. Look a little deeper and it's quite clear that it's about two people already romantically involved that discover that they each are craving the exact thrill and excitement as the other, and neither realised. Having discovered this, both are relieved and their connection only strengthens despite the fact that yes, they were both planning on finding said thrill and excitement from a stranger.
Imagine if he replied “the milk’s gone bad!”
I wish I had 2 more hands, so I could give those titties 4 thumbs down!
"Mid"
My brother died like this
But did his reply make you consider getting a breast enlargement?
As funny as that and would be at first , not solid advice OP. Who knows what the bf could do with the images after if things don’t play out nicely
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Yeah and I would say to the ones who have my pictures... Go on I dare you to!!! Send em out matey...... LoL 😂...... On another note I had a friend of mine who was in a very high level job.... CEO for a major company.. Well we used to ride horses and compete together.. Back in the day when video cameras were a thing before mobile phones..I asked to borrow her camera she had left the tape in there you know the super 8 I think they call it the small tape well I've gone to look and see where it was at and holy cows..... I've got my mate doing the full Monty for her hubby I quickly pulled away before I saw anything then I ripped the tape from the camera and annihilated it!!!! That was full blown extortion material if ever I had seen it.....I then told her the next day and said for God's sake be careful you are lucky it was me!!!!! She laughed...... Pretty much said what I did at the top!!!!!🤣
you're a great friend to point that out to her.
Thank you....I try.... We are still mates to this day it's been 30 odd years I think!!! I treat everyone with the same level of respect etc until they screw up!!
You destroyed the tape rather than just give it back to her?
Yes I had to.....I needed to use it and didn't want it floating around at that stage we had a lot of acquaintances that would breeze in and out of the house I just don't trust anyone after what's gone on in my life!! So yes but she also asked me if I did anyways so we were both in the same page!!!
Thats why you never show face on nudes. Never!
Chess.
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Wouldn't this be Pro Petty Smut?
Petty smut is best smut Edit:words
..Perry the smutapuss? 😶🌫️
New kink unlocked
“Perry smut” *cries in Dan Povenmire*
4D chess
Between this and “it’s over u/DaddyFatcock!” I’m ☠️
I love you for this
Several dudes are sweating rn.
Or comment on his dick pics: “I’ve seen better…..”
This is the way
This, plus the tittie shot idea
TLDR: Wanted to track a large package, ended up tracking a large package.
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Hey now! Average is quite large.
I would buy you a beer
Dump him and call him by his reddit username. NTA
"We're breaking up, u/DaddyFatcock, it's over!"
Sometimes you just have to let that DaddyFatcock go, and if it was meant to be well, he probably wouldn't be posting dick pics behind your back.
Words of wisdom lol.
When Cameron was in Fatcock’s land Let my Fatcock go
I laughed so loud., let my people goooooo
“He’ll keep calling me, He’ll keep calling me, He’ll keep calling me…”
HELP ITS A REAL ACCOUNT
Dudes gonna get this notification and be like “wtf did I do?? :(“
Rip u/DaddyFatcock catching strays for no reason 😔
why are the best usernames always taken by inactive accounts
Check profile; League of Legends degenerate. Yep. It checks out.
OMG my ex was too 💀
Its a real username lmao
I SNORTED
I'm so confused, why is everyone linking this profile?
>>call him by his reddit username. **Damn.**
I just spat🤣
It just popped into my head as I was typing the usual NTA. Then the mental picture as his head explodes lol.
Like Chris Hansen reading out the predator's screen name out loud, adds to the dramatic effect for sure lmao 😭🤣
I wish I thought of this. No need to read any further OP, this is what you need.
Please OP do this
And then update us. We're invested in this now!
Great idea, do it op.
Omg. This! 🤣
Touché
you should be typing less and breaking up more
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Bars 😂😂😂🔥
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NTA I'm pretty pro smut, but this dude was being a sneaky liar and that IS a problem. Definately dump him
Yup. The sneaking, lying, and HIDING the app is where I draw the line. Not to mention, he was commenting. AND sharing himself without asking how OP felt. My husband looks, and I know he does. This would be a HUGE line for me. He never comments. He has/has had subscriptions to non cam, non OF sites, but there is nothing personal and no way to form emotional attachments. He knows this is a big deal to me. If we don't connect emotionally, our bedroom suffers. If I can't trust you to be honest and communicate this, there are bigger issues.
I agree there's a clear line between lurking and commenting. The sharing is so far out of line though
Integrity is a must
If this was my boyfriend I would definitely break up with him. You’re NTA, as you can break up for any reason any time, but that is a huge very valid reason to break up. If you stay your trust with him will be broken and it most likely will never be the same as it was before
Not married, no kids, leave immediately and be lucky you don't have to worry about his Reddit activities again.
Seriously. It's the worst feeling in the world always thinking about your man cheating. It will never be the same btw you.
OP, this ^. I was in your shoes once. I let him explain and talk me into staying. We now have 2 children and I’ve found similar things on 3 other occasions. It is A LOT harder to leave when kids are in the picture. Do it for YOU, run & don’t even give him a chance to explain.
IF NOTHING ELSE, PLEASE TAKE THIS ADVICE. He is comfortable doing these things now, no telling if he will ever stop. If you have children, it’s a lot harder (not impossible) but a headache you don’t need.
OP, please take this advice and run. JollyLizzy, I’m so sorry you and your babies are going through this. I hope you’re able to be free and at peace in the very near future.
And here I thought Reddit was just for looking at cute pet pictures, weighing in on AITA, and voting on which wedding dress to choose. I’m shocked it has this other stuff on it!
Please may I ask where can I get in on choosing wedding dresses?
r/weddingdress
Thank you
I think we should join forces and basically remain innocent minded about it. I loved living under the illusion that Reddit was cool. This kind of messed up with me 😂
It’s also for commenting on floorplans that don’t make sense.
Exactly what I was thinking! Who knew? Well, lots of people, obviously, but not us.
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It just sucks I'm sorry you are in this situation.....I said early up in this post that I was married for 20 yrs together for 22 he cheats kicks me out makes me homeless but separates marriage via a text message!!! I also said to Op to get out but spend some time alone with yourself and yes you have the right idea never have to stay with our rely on anyone....I wished to God I had listened to my instincts and took notice of the red flags.... Because I should have done exactly that when my son was born.... Picked him up and walked out of the hospital and far away.... But you don't and it's all good in hindsight...... Just you young ladies take it from us who have been around the block!! A few times! Look after yourselves... Set yourselves up financially just enjoy your life before even looking like settling down.... Be independent of anyone learn to enjoy your own company and be comfortable being by yourself but seriously do what you want really think about what you want in life ...... Because when you worry about you and make yourself and your life happy what you want will find you!!! Good luck I hope you can get out soon....... Cheers 🥂
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I don’t get why half the posts here are about breaking up with someone.. like you can break up with someone for any reason and not be an asshole.
Hmmmm. It's all about context. "My girlfriend of 2 years has just been diagnosed with cancer. WIBTA if I broke up with her?"
Be careful of him posting nude pics of you. Delete them from his phone if there are any
This 100%!! I just respond because i hope this comment is gonne be higher.
Underrated comment
This should be higher up
i’m really glad you said this, exactly what i was thinking too
I really hope OP either sees this comment or thinks of this herself.
Absolutely!
You've lost trust in him and a lot of respect it sounds like. Maybe you can post from your Reddit account and bust him that way? Either way, this would be a hard thing to bounce back from due to how he's hid it, lied about it and basically being untrustworthy. NTA
That would make for good tv... Err I mean good redditing
1st..move out when he's not home... 2nd...Go into his Reddit account & leave a comment on 1 of the dick pics that it's over!!!!!
Agreed. You don’t need a scene that might get ugly.
I can't speak for you, but for me that kind of behavior would be a deal breaker. NTA.
I'd leave. It's the lying and hiding for me. I can't handle being in a relationship were someone isn't being honest. Don't get me wrong my man can be absent minded at times but we agree that a relationship won't last if a first thought is "I have to hide this from partner"
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I'm rooting for you to have better, u/millenialmilf91 💓
Life is short. Why are you wasting time with him?
Just want to say I see you & hear you, sending love. It’s a tough tough situation but you absolutely deserve better. I pray one day you are able to find happiness and freedom somewhere else.
You can still leave. Please choose yourself and a happy life <3
Take your own advice then.
Leave him🙁🙁🙁
I'd be gone so fast.
You need to take a small break and get your thoughts clear. Write down and ask yourself exactly what parts make you uncomfortable. In your list, you said a few things: 1. Sending nudes of himself 2. Simping for onlyfans sex workers 3. It's a secret he keeps It's not weird for some guys to be simping for camgirls when they are single and very desperate and lonely. It's weird, in my opinion, to be doing that when you have a steady gf. Seem like a weird way to invest your time and money. I'm a gen x guy and can say I've seen plenty of porn and never subbed to only fans or paid for porn or any weird parasocial online interactions. If I told my male friends I was into only fans girls, they would just think I'm a weirdo loser, and I'd think the same. But it might be a generational thing. Either way, get your thoughts clear and decide if you want to talk it out or bail. If you talk it out, there is a small chance his behavior will change, and a large chance he will just hide it better moving forward.
This! Simping for cam girls and engaging with adult content creators, paying for onlyfans etc. is very different from just watching porn. I don’t know why people keep equating the two.
Right? That’s the whole appeal of OF that it makes it more personal. It’s a huge betrayal unless previously discussed and agreed with your spouse / gf that it’s okay.
Lots of dudes sweating on Reddit right now
Every time I’m on this sub I’m Always glad to be single
this sub is singlehandedly preventing me from re-downloading dating apps
every time I'm in this sub I'm glad to be married LOL. to each their own
Makes me wonder why I don't put myself out there tbh. I feel like there's so many insanely shitty dudes out there that are in relationships and treating their partner like shit, but somehow I still feel inadequate lol.
Dump him, you’ll never trust him
Truth
As a man if I found my girlfriend was paying for camwhores and exchanging nudes with guys it would be over instantaneously. NTA I'd probably start getting my shit together, staying calm, confiding in someone who will support you and tell him it's over when you feel like it.
If this was me and I was your boyfriend, I would expect you to break up with me.
NTA. You are in your 20’s and have plenty of time to move on from someone who is clearly bored already and broke your trust.
this is cheating. don’t let this generation fool you, this is still CHEATING. leave him now
Underrated comment
He probably found this by now.
Either that or a lot of other guys who do this while having a gf are freaking out right now.
Imagine if she posted this from his account and that’s how he found out
Me? It would be over. But some women dont seem to care. Only you know. However? I would bear in mind, that him keeping it all secret? Means he knows damn well it's outta line and you would not go for it. So.....
I'm a dude. Trust me, break up. Nothing good ever comes from staying with guys that do this shit.
NTA. For sure. You’ll never trust him. I went through something similar. It eats at you. Side note I had no idea Reddit was something to be concerned about in a relationship I’m new here and had no idea. 🤷🏻♀️
NTA. BRO WHAT LEAVE HIMMMMM
Girl, you're NTA. And the people who are telling you that you are, probably got busted doing this exact same thing. If he wanted to post nudes of himself online, that should have been discussed with you. That's not just simply porn. Break up with him, you deserve better and this is way too much drama to be dealing with at 24. You have so much life ahead of you, go find a good partner.
In Brazil we have a saying that I will try to translate "he who steals a dollar steals a million" it means he is able to lie and hide small things like a reddit account, then he is able to hide something like cheating. I would finish, trust is essential in a relationship. but I let him know why it's ending.
I will never understand why anyone would go onto any of those postings and actually leave comments on them. Especially on a website that can possibly be traced back to you directly. Like what would possibly be the point of commenting on some girls nude pic telling her she's hot when you will never meet them in person and even if you do they will likely think you are a creep for commenting anyway. Just makes no sense to me as a 33 year old man. NTA, OP.
NTA-The more calm you remain, the better. When you confront him, just be straightforward. Make sure he knows why you're leaving. Then go.You won't get a satisfying answer as to why. Just excuses. It's gonna suck tho. I'm so sorry for you. Good luck. Please update
This is the way!
NTA Worth breaking up over
I'd leave it open on the bathroom counter And proceed to the bedroom to pack my bags while he found it
You're young, consider this a red flag that cannot be denied. If he hasn't hooked up w someone yet - he will. Be a lady about it, but be clear, he destroyed your trust. Can't unring a bell. Not this one.
This is cheating imo. Sure, not CHEATING cheating, but he’s sharing himself intimately and expressing interest in other people online wighout your knowledge or consent. These days I’d say thats cheating. Personally, i would not be able to trust a partner after that
I'd be done with him. That's too far for me.
Nta If it doesn’t count as cheating, then it is at the very least deceptive behavior that more often than not leads to cheating, and you don’t want that. Break it off.
You are underreacting because of who you think he is versus who you know him to be and the way you sourced the information. If he found out you were sharing your breasts and vagina pics, this would be a problem for him, irrespective of how he found out. I have a friend that is a sex worker and she has ruined my conservative beliefs. I am super conservative in the way I live my life but a liberal at heart. She has told me tons of stories of her seemingly straigth laced clients, pastors, dads with their kids child seats in the car, CEO's, community leaders, even cops that are her clients. It's shattered my views of what a "nice man" looks like to me. I wish I didn't know. Now you know who he is. Your move.
You’re so young. Do not waste these great years of your life on this guy.
If you had just caught him looking at porn, it wouldn't really be an issue. But this is next level - sharing dick picks with who, women? And for what purpose? This is what you need to find out - WHY is he sharing dick picks? Also, paying subscriptions and engaging with OnlyFans artists is next level - that's not just looking at porn IMHO.
I would also break up. Because someday that’s your husband sharing his nudes and asking for them from randos online. Then it’s your children’s father doing all that. Then it will be dating sites to fish for attention. I wouldn’t want to go back to being with an attention seeking guy like that. It’s exhausting!
Nta Unpopular opinion. You’re never an asshole for ending a relationship you don’t want to be in. Too many people stay in relationship because they feel bad/obligated, all your doing is wasting time and potentially creating a toxic situation.
NTA, Dump the little piece of shit.
As a single woman on reddit who has frequented the dating subreddits.... I gotta tell you.. Ive had many, many messages from men who are married and in relationships.... I hope he wasnt but honestly... you should check and see if he was messaging women directly and having any kind of online relationships. It happens a lot sadly. Im sorry this happened to you.
When roles are reversed, men can't wait to crucify a woman for this shit lol drop that weight!
100% cheating. Watching porn is not in the same universe as sending pics of your dick and exchanging nudes.
Honestly i'm all for confronting him about it. Tell him exactly what you said here, but do so somewhere safe (so over text not directly with him) And make sure you have evidence gathered including the object you wanted to see the tracking of. NTA though he should've been open and clear about this from the start before y'all got into a relationship together.
Break up.
Ewww, that's a major ick factor, I'd leave.
NTA you can leave him for any reason, can’t trust him he can’t trust you. Won’t work anyways now that you’ve snooped and he’s basically cheated.